My husband and I have a blended family. I have 2 daughters from a previous relationship, he has 1 son from a previous relationship and we have 1 daughter together. All kids live with us full time. If my husband treated the older girls differently I’d get a divorce. The kids have no choice who is brought into their lives and do not deserve to be treated unfairly because they will notice and feel worthless. I lived it as a child myself.
It sounds like he only cares about himself and his kids I mean come on you’re his 3rd wife and it shouldn’t matter whose kids are whose he new when he met you that kids are in both of your lives and he should love them as if they are his own he knew the situation when he met you I’m going to tell you a quick short story I met my wife 33 almost 34 years ago and she had 2 daughters 5 and 3 and I knew if I loved her I had to love her children as well I never introduced them as my stepdaughters it was always our daughters or my daughters and I treated them as if they were my own and then together we had 2 more girls and nothing changed and then 1 day they asked if they could call me Dad and of course I said yes and I never treated any of our daughters any different no favorites just our 4 daughters and about 3 years ago my wife had a massive heart attack and passed away and I talk with all 4 of my Daughters everyday they call to make sure I’m ok and even though we’re aren’t blood related my door will always be open 4 them if they ever need anything I’m always here for them and believe me they are my kids, my life, my world till the day I die so what I’m saying is he should love all the kids as if they are his not as just yours and his!!! and my money always was the families money and if 1 got something they got something I’m sorry for such a long post but think about it this way if you would pass away tomorrow (GOD FORBID) will he step up and be a father for all your children or will he leave your son and live with other family of yours if you think he won’t step up then I feel you should step away and worry about all your children LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL no matter what like I said I’m so sorry for the long post but if it only makes you think a little about the future of your children then I guess it might be worth it GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN
I see a lot of women posting leave his ass. That kind of think is exactly that is ruining marriages today. Look, coming from a man with a step son. It’s hard to love another man’s child. Ladies, most of us simply arent built that way. But i remind you, that he took that challenge on out of love for you amd your kids. Should you be mad. No. Try to be understanding and talk to him about it. He’s probably doing the best he can. It took me years to get to feeling the same level of affection for my son compared to his brothers and sister. He shouldnt be lying. But talk to him and find out the reason he thought he should. If you listen to these ladies that say dump him, then your selling yourself, your kids, and your husband short. If you dont see an improvement or a visible effort on his part, then is the time to weigh those options.
You have every right. It is his responsibility. That’s what he signed up for when you guys got married! If he can’t accept that then it’s time to kick it to the curb.
Family Counselling for sure…he shouldn’t be doing that it will have major impacts on your son for life and you being the mom should be helping and not allowing this to go on . He should’ve known to accept you and your children as a package deal not pick and choose how he sees fit. That is no way to treat a child and just because he isn’t his he doesn’t have to be hurtful about it. If he truly loves you he will try to help this family and be willing to hear you out on this matter. He doesn’t have to be his best friend but he should accept him and doing things behind your back is just wrong on his part. He might not be the worst guy but he is acting like an ass and needs a tune up in my mind and if he continues then maybe this relationship just isn’t working. My kids come first in my eyes and if someone were to treat my son less than and not make an effort then he doesn’t belong in our family.
Housekeeper 35.00 an hour, childcare, 400 per child a month pt. time. . Driver,laundry. You get the picture.
Yea I’d pass on that relationship. I don’t know how someone could do that to their partner and child.
You married the wrong man, get a divorce, yes it is that serious.
Wow seems like your in a relationship alone
Hes not your boyfriend he is your husband! He knew you were a package when he married you! Thats like you not cooking or feeding his kids while they are there because they are not yours!
Ypur better then me because I wood flip my shit. If you don’t say anything and let it continue he will keep treating your kids that way! I dont deal with crap like that! Get a job so you don’t have to depend on him. Get your place for you and your boys
Your husband is an a-hole. He doesn’t see kids as important-he walked away from TWO marriages where he made multiple kids and walked out on their moms? Keeps you at home for a maid/babysitter and refuses to take care of your kids and LIES to you? I’d already be walking. You know what to do for those kids of yours. You don’t have to settle for this abuse.
Sweetheart you have seen his true character. Go job hunting. May God bless and strengthen your
He is wrong for that
Divorce his ass !!! It will never work out
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I was in something similar, and my ex actually told me at least my real kid is white not like yours who mixed. So I realized this man can never accept my kid and the best thing I ever did after 7 years was leave. So my advice because I went through something similar is Pack your shit and your sons shit and GET THE HELL OUT! Yes it’s that easy. This man never accepted your kid. When you date/marry and there are other children involved it’s equal for all the kids.
He is an asshole. Start charging him for taking care of his kids. Write everything down and give him a bill to pay so you can buy your son stuff. What a douche bag. Plus he is a liar. Hell naw
I would be hurt but I would also be leaving. Fuck that bullshit! If he can’t open his heart to your son then you got no need of him. F that!! I have never had a man around my kids that wasn’t open n kind to them. If they were any other way they weren’t welcome around my kids. Period.
Yeah no id be outta there before he could finish saying “just because we are married” what a piece of shit
He has agreed that you will stay home he is responsible for all the kids as married people need to love all kids in the family as their own. He is dead wrong and if he doesn’t appologise and correct it he is a piece of shit and if you stay welcome to your forever. So sad shame on him
No fuck that all kids are to be treated the same.he is so rong
Can we say divorce!!!
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He is a thought not a husband
I wouldn’t be with someone who still takes care of they’re ex period! If he’s feels he’s not obligated to take care of y’all son (he became the dad once married) you shouldn’t be with him. But then again who am I to say. You know it’s wrong and he should feel like shit for not wanting to do for him like he does the others.
omg send him packing!!
This is horrible No more
He is a selfish idiot…
I would be pissed. He took on your child when he married you. If he doesn’t like it then don’t do shit for his kids or him. Tell him if I am the sitter then pay me for watching them. If he wants to be petty then you be petty. But in all honesty I would tell him how you feel and if you don’t like what he has to say then leave. That’s a hard No for me if you care about me and married me you are the father figure in my child’s life. He should be helping and not being a dick about it
That’s bullshit. Kick his ass to the curb
Divorce his ass!! Period
Yes. Absolutely be freaking mad because that situation makes him a piece of shit …But. He still provided for your son. 300$ worth of school clothes for a kid is a lot. Especially if you hit Old Navy or something. So your kid isn’t going without. Turn the tables on him. When his kids come just leave him with his kids let him deal with it all. Dick.
Um yes what an asshole when he married you that kid became part of his family
Oh yeah he’s wrong for that
Bullshit your kids are just as important straighten him out now or u just got the x’s problems she most like get more from him now that there divorced.
u have every right to b upset over this
I would dump his ass fast sue him for back babysitting fees for his kids and child support for the other ones what a asshole
Bull shit!!! He married you knowing you had a child, you came as a package deal. If you take care of his kids for him to run errands…or whatever…he can get your son clothes.
I’d shit can the husband. He’s not a good person.
Steve Kelsey wow! I’m so thankful for you my love. You care for A&K as if they were yours.
Sorry but fuck no if my child ain’t gonna be treated like the others hell no !!! Ain’t no one making my boys aside or treating them differently !!! He knew you had package and you knew he had his and u have acknowledge to look after his why wouldn’t he wanna help !!! Then let him figure his ass out and hire a nanny to watch over “his blood”!!! Leave you’re children deserve respect
Ummm first of all you need to divorce him he’s a liar and obviously having sex with his ex and shame on you to be honest for asking a question like this and continuously letting him treat you’re son like this even though you know??? I couldn’t imagine his ass would have been left the first time he pulled something like this. Put you’re son first and divorce that boy this shouldn’t even be a question if you have to ask this then where is the respect for you’re son from you?
Bail and don’t look back. I can tolerate a lot if the unfairness falls on me. But if my kid is getting the shit end of the deal its over.
Get rid of asshole before he mentally abused your child
Leave his sorry ass ohh hell the fuck no would I let a man tell me that about my child. When he married you y’all married eachothers kids too and he obviously doesn’t appreciate what you do for his kids and not to mention as a wife nope I’d be packing bags…
I’d definitely be very upset even pissed tf off I’d straight tell him you can take care of your own kids to than I’d pack my shit and leave and get me a job to support my own kids that shit ain’t right
divorce the fuck , that’s nit a man that some pussy bitch shit he’s pulling
Yeah I’d be pissed. More than likely I’d talk with him and then if it didn’t work I’d bounce with my kids. He knew you had children when yall got together and when he married you he was taking on those responsibilities. You treat his kids as your own then he needs to do the same. If not then leave especially after him lying and hiding, what more has he lied about or hid from you? I feel ya though my oldest is by a deadbeat and my husband has raised him since he was 3 months and you can’t tell either one of them that they aren’t “related”. My son will call you a liar and my husband will flip shit. Honey save yourself the toxic shit and do whats best for your babies
Goodbye asshole, is what I would say to him. Your son deserves to be treated the same no matter who his father is or isn’t.
I’d be pissed, that’s bull shit!
id be pissed an to lie to you …oh yah you have every right to be angry
What an asshole screw him your babies don’t need a man like that on their life u either love all the kids equally or don’t love none at all not right at all smh
Leave him immediately.
Well guess what I sure as hell will not be watching his kids since they are not my responsibility. Smh men are so corny You and your kids were a package together when y’all got married. I would of so punched that man in his face if that was me. Ooof this got me mad. Men are predictable. Sorry but you have to sit and talk about that. Step up or step out. Because hunny that’s not how it goes.
Awe this is heartbreaking to read. Yeah that’s messed up.
Fuck. That. You have every right to be pissed. He knew what he was taking on when y’all got together. I’m pissed for you!
I would tell his sorry ass buy for one he has been lying to you and sec treating your son like that nope that shit would be done and over bye mf . he married u knowing you had kids and he wants u to take care of his well same goes for him and he sounds like he dont want to and lying is a big hell no too
Shit would hit the fan
He an abusive douche…
Dump his sorry ass !!!
Wrong so wrong. Absolute confront him.
Wrong on every count
You should be pissed. He sounds like an asshole.
Um absolutely you should be upset. Your kids should automatically become his. And if anyone treated my daughter differently I would lose my shit.
Your husband is in the wrong. Sounds like this marriage is not going to last. He’s laying to you, is indifferent towards your children, and placing money in another household. Do you not have a joint account? If not, just go back to work and tell him that he can pay for daycare while you are working for the 2 kids he has with you and you will take care of it for the 2 that are not his obligation.
I say go get a job make sure you have a sitter or daycare for your kids and say to him that your going to work and he’ll need to find someone for his. Relationship are about working together and making it work in a fair manner. But if he’s not remotely treating all kids the same then it’s time to put it out there and get yourself self prepared for exist. I hope things work out for the both of you and you both find the same page. But do what you need to do so you can survive on your own with your children🥰
After 4 years, something is not right here, rethink your relationship with him, I have been there and I got out before any damage was done to my son,you can do it too.It is scary but possible please put your children first.praying for you and your children.good luck.
Wow! What an incredible husband you have there. Imagine, he expect you to take care of his children but with yours his answer was it’s not his responsibility? Don’t get me wrong, my marriage is the happiest relationship I have ever been, and we have a 9 month old boy. But in case just in case and this is hypothetical, my marriage failed, my child will be my priority, and if I fell in love again, that man should treat my child as his own. If not, then he can kiss my ass goodbye.
I would be livid! My kids are an extension of me! You married me which means they come with as a package deal. If my husband cant look at my kids the way he would our kids we would not be husband and wife!
Girl you need to pack up and go.
Leave and leave fast. It will only get worse and your son will end up having issues because of it. Mine did and ended up killing himself as my ex made him feel so horrible like he wasn’t worth anything.
If you’re married ALL kids are each others. You are not wrong.
Get a divorce . your spouse os supposed to love and treat your kids as theirs … If he was a stay at home dad wouldnt he expect you to help him ?
My step dad is like this with my Mom. They have been married for 20 something years and it is still a nearly daily fight between them. Its his kids and her kids, we have never been a real whole family because of it and trust me there is major resentment in our family because of it as well. Leave him, for your kids sake. They may not notice it now, but I promise you they will eventually.
You married that POS?? You’re kids deserve better.
Can I divorce someone on someone else’s behalf?
Bad husband! Bad! Seriously he’s wrong there. My man tried that shit. I made it clear that it wont fly and if he wants to keep acting like it will he can kick rocks, pound sand and shit glass for all I care.
Lovely, tell him that behavior changes or he goes
I’d be done. Your son is going to see that difference in the way he’s treated and not only is it gonna hurt his feelings majorly but it’ll cause trust and abandonment issues down the line. No way in hell would I let someone treat my child that way. Foot down time, mama.
I’d leave over it honestly, ain’t no man worth the loss of my child, at the end of the day. That baby’s yours and you’re the only one who can stand up for him in that house, tell him and his baby mom to go fuck himself. Tell him HE needs to leave and that you’re keeping the house. If he can pay his baby mom all that extra cash then he has enough to get himself a little apartment or he can move back in with her🤷🏻♀️
Piss him off, that’s shit go. He should be treating all as equals!
I would go get a job and leave him
Ummm you need to leave him
I don’t know what your financial situation is but get out of there if you can. Run don’t walk !!!
How is your son not his responsibility? He knew you had a son when you got married correct? I mean I couldn’t possibly fathom not treating my stepson differently and not paying for things for him that he needs or wants. Like is this a real post?
Red flag. Kids should be equal.
- id chuck deuces thats just petty and wrong. 2) let him pay for daycare while you go to work to care for your own kids and quit doing shit for his 4! If he asked why they have no clean clothes or plates made for dinner simply state, “oh, i thought we were taking care of our own offspring now” . HORRIBLE ASS MAN. My boyfriend takes care of my 6yo son like hes his OWN. If i needed clothes for him best believe hell be the first one saying lets buy it.
What a horrid man you’ve married. Id say pick up after your kids, cook, wash etc for your kids as not my responsibility and then show him the door, your son will grow up with issues which you could prevent if you act now.
My boyfriend has 3 from previous and I have 1 from previous and we are expecting 1 in march. I stay home and take care of all the kids and he works. He gave each kid a limit on how much they could spend on new school clothes and that limit was the same for every child even mine and we aren’t married yet. If your husband acts like that towards his stepson you need to let him go. You and your kids deserve better.
Wow when he married you he took the children on too I got one daughter from my frist husband my second husband treats het the same in fact when my second daughter told my frist he’d not your dad my husband said I choice her had to keep you nothing ever said again I know how lucky I Am
I would leave. Thats bullshit.
No… don’t date/marry someone with kids unless you’re ready to accept their kids as your own.
This will sound so bad…
Either he treats them all the same or you have to leave.
Your sons will pick up on it and trust me when I tell you, they’ll resent the behavior…and eventually you for staying and allowing it.
Get a job and go.
Let him take care of his own kids.
My hubs knew, I was a package deal & when his mom treated my son like shit, I went off.
I’ve never treated his child different from my blood. We don’t use “step” either.
He went off on his mom and made it clear, “He’s my son. I’m his dad. Accept him or you don’t have any grandkids”
If your hubs won’t step out, put your kids emotional health first and go.
He is always going to see your children as exactly that. Your children… you can either just accept that or put your foot down and have some serious words with him.
If he plays that card I’d be doing the same back, he will have to cook clean and do everything for his children while they are in custody
Riddle me this, was your husband always an asshole or is this new behavior? First of all if you 2 are married, don’t you have access to bank accounts, credit cards, etc? You shouldn’t have to ask for anything, you should have equal access to the finances. I think it’s time for you to get a job so you can support YOUR child. He shouldn’t have to go without because mommy married a miserable bastard. He would also be responsible for HIS kids when they come over. See some like that would make me leave his sorry ass.
Get rid of him now and don’t do nothing for his kids they have a lazy mom give him back to her I hate step parents their all alike
Leave… when he married you, that boy became his son! He shouldn’t be treated any different! Leave b4 your son gets old enough to realize how shitty his step dad is treating him compared to his other siblings. . Then he will wonder what he did wrong to not deserve everything they got. Do you really want that heart ache on your son. I wouldn’t. I’d wait till he was at work and pack me and the kids up and leave.
$6,000 a month! $72,000 a yr! Dang. If he cant accept your kids then dont accept his. Monkey see, monkey do.
I would leave that’s ridiculous for him to say that.
Oh no when he wanted you as an at home mom taking care of your kids was part of the deal. Tell him to get child care for his kids cause they aren’t your responsibility. But the lying that is a deal breaker to me and after he told you he would give your kids the same as his its a deal breaker
Uhm that’s bull crap. It’s not going to change I’d you don’t say something and if he doesn’t care then you need to decide what you want to do. As a family he should be able to tell you truthfully what was being paid out and making sure everyone’s needs are being met.Don’t doubt your feelings. You are supposed to have your own feelings and that’s crappy treatment. Good luck.
Tell him he can pay you what he would pay in daycare for his kiddos then since they aren’t your responsibility? See how his tune changes