That’s right “his wife”
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Why cant he get another room and I werent you invited to begin with?
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Just here for the comments 
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Yall out here hanging this girl out as if he’s a Saint 
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Technically, you’re the 3rd here. They are married. Separate or not. You put yourself in they middle of a married man’s life.
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If there is no trust, then there is no relationship. 
also, divorces aren’t as expensive, my exhus paid $250 for ours, after harassing me for years to pay for it. Which I refused to do for 3 petty reasons, the first is I worked an paid for everything for the 10 years we were “together”, secondly, I had no one harking at me to get one like he did(his gf has a really high whiny voice lol)and thirdly, I was highly pissed off when I got sent divorce papers that I signed in front of a notary an sent back to him in 2017 yet supposedly he couldn’t file them at the prison he was at 
but he could send them to me? Smh. So yeah from 2017-2021 I was absolutely petty an not gonna pay for it. I had no reason to an when he messaged me last year an asked if he paid for it would I meet him at the courthouse an sign it, I was there with bells an whistles on me 
but yeah, I get it can be expensive, but honestly if you wanted divorced enough, I’m sure it could be done.
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if the kids are sharing a room with their friends and the ex wife and husbans shareing a room thats a red flag girl ,…
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Is their daughter staying in the same room? Has he given reason to not trust him around his wife? He needs to go to support his kid, the fact that he is willing to not go so you will not be upset it what bothers me the most.
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All I can say, is if it took you making a huge deal of everything to get any response, that should tell you where his head is. He was happy he got a chance to sleep with his wife, or he’s really that thick headed and oblivious. Which I doubt based on your words. Don’t waste years on promises.
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Like it’s her problem he’s still married why is it always the non wife who get shit on. Baring in mind he probably persued her because that’s what most separated men do. She’s asking for advice, can guarantee if she broke up with him he’d beg for her back and throw ‘divorce’ to keep her around.
If hes still married…there ya go…All the answers you need…move on and get a SINGLE man
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Why aren’t they legally divorced ?
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She needs her own room and he needs his ownnBOUNDRIES
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Sucks that he’s married…
I am not one to judge. Sounds like there is a lot of back story here. But going only off what you’ve said, I’d be upset that he didn’t invite you until you brought it up. My HUSBAND was legally separated for a shirt while when I met him and he would never think to share a room with his “wife”. Then or now. That would be my red flag. Thats what I’d be upset about.
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If separated that long why no divorce… non contested are super cheap if they are already in agreement about property
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Wait! I don’t understand why all you guys are dogging her about being with a man who is legally separated!! People split and start dating other people ALL THE TIME!! In fact, I would be willing to bet the majority of separated people start dating someone else, women included! You have NO IDEA why the divorce hasn’t been finished. And just for an example, I’ll gladly use myself and my husband. I can’t get a divorce because 1. It’s expensive, 2. I have no idea where he is
My wonderful, upstanding member of society is on the run from law enforcement for child support so he moves frequently. Last I heard he was In FL. We have been separated for 5 years and he’s dated 6898544 women and I’ve dated one. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating someone who is legally separated. Legally means they both agreed to it!
It NOTHING like her being with him and being a secret, side piece while he is still in a relationship with his wife!
Op you are NOT wrong for dating someone legally separated!! Please do not let these people make you think you are doing something wrong or disrespectful If in fact they are legally separated. HOWEVERRRRR, to your question!! Even if the two of them are still friends and/or Co parent well, he should not be in the same room with her for a multitude of reasons!! 1. This absolutely confuses the child and gives them hope 2. It is EXTREMELY disrespectful to you! 3. If they are legally separated, most people are probably aware in your town and this is definitely going to be local gossip! 4. The fact he even WANTS to stay in the same room is a HUGE red flag!!
I would be pissed and I would more than likely be rethinking my relationship with him!
I’m sorry 
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He has a wife 
Don’t know why he’s still married, but you deserve your own man, not a married man sharing a room with his wife
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go with him
that way when u guys get there and theres only one bed (if there is) u can call him out on his bs
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Sounds like my ex telling people he was “helping me with the kids and getting back on my feet” when he was actually mooching off me and in a whole ass relationship with new babies and everything.
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Sorry they still married he anit ya boyfriend he her husband after 4 years I’m sorry there’s a reason they anit divorced
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Bro, I had to live in my ex boyfriends wife’s house with the ex boyfriend. Don’t trust it. Never trust it. Run.
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If he wants to be with her, there is nothing you can do to get him to stay. If he doesn’t want to be with her, nothing she does will make him leave you.
are they really separated or did he just tell you that? Have you met the wife? Does he introduce you as his girlfriend around his friends/family? Because way I’m seeing it, he should have been divorced by now if he really wanted to leave his wife.
As to sharing a hotel room… she’s his wife. Separated or not she is still his wife. How do you know he isnt sharing the same bed as her at their home?
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Why aren’t they divorced? They’ve been separated for 4 yrs. What’s stopping them from getting the divorce? That’s what I’d be upset about.
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one of you needs to back off; if there is no actual divorce I would be very careful for me
This is a joke, right??
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They’ve been separated for 4 years and no divorce? That doesn’t make sense, and if they’re going to a competition wouldn’t they all be sharing a room together? Including their shared daughter?
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I’m HOPING all these are “JOKES”
People can’t be this STUPID.
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Girl, pack them bags and go. Show his kid that you are a good person and very willingly to hangout with her mom and dad together just to see her competition. OR get your own hotel room together. Don’t let nothing stop you. If you are welcome to go, just go.
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if they’re sharing a bed, that’s weird… if they’re sharing a room, its not.
Ok sounds soo fishy, but first off WHY wouldn’t u want to go and cheer on his daughter?? Thats great bonding I mean if you are into her dad… and could one day be her step mom lol Second of all yes the room sharing a big no no… and just totally werid. Go with stop whining and see what the situation is and than u make the call to stay or move on from the relationship. Also why isn’t he not divorced… why just legally separated
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RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG
If you weren’t invited from the start somethings definatly wrong.
Separated for 4yrs or have you been the side piece for 2yrs
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In SC you have to first be legally separated for one year. My Non contested divorce in 2008 cost me $3000 because kids were involved. We didn’t have one single thing to argue about. People today struggle as it is. He’s obviously contributing to the child in some manner. If someone knows a cheaper way to get that paperwork started tell her how.
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Are you serious
Stand up for yourself
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This is so fake lol someone just wants to mess around lol
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Cut his thing off and post it to her
Everyone has different circumstances and boundaries. Just make sure y’all always have respect, honesty and appreciation for each other. Boundaries should be clear, and compromise until you both reach that happy medium
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I’m very confused by the first sentence. You called her his wife. If they have been legally separated and planning a divorce then why is she still referred to as wife and not ex wife. I’ve been legally separated from my ex husband for 5 years (divorce getting finalized today) and he has always been referred to as ex husband the minute he was kicked out. Seems weird to call her wife still.
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Either get over it or move on. You shouldn’t have started dating someone with a kid.
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My son’s dad and I could totally do this with no issue and it wouldn’t mean anything. If you trust him, then don’t worry about it. If you don’t trust him, that isn’t a relationship you should be in anyway.
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No way. I would not be okay with that. I would feel very uncomfortable. And you wrote that the kids are staying in rooms with their friends, so it will only be him & her alone together in the room. I don’t understand how he would even think that you would be okay with that! It doesn’t sound like you have any problem with him going in general and being there for his daughter, your problem is them sharing a room together alone which is absolutely understandable. He should have gotten a separate room. If the issue is that he can’t afford a separate room, he should have come to you to discuss that dilemma so that you guys could work together on a solution that would make you feel comfortable & still allowed him to go see his child. All of a sudden he is asking you to go, prob only because he knows he’s in deep s*** with you because that was a dumb, and possibly very suspicious decision for him to make, to go and stay in the room with her. If he really intended for you to go, he would have asked you from the beginning, so I honestly think he’s only asking you now to do damage control. I can’t say whether or not you should be concerned or suspicious because I don’t know them and you and everyone’s dynamics together. But just out of respect, he absolutely should not have planned to stay in the room with her until discussing it with you and making sure you were comfortable with that.
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He’s wrong to even ask. That’s just weird!
Lol legally separated for 4 years yet not divorced. Girl you’re the side piece to a failing marriage. RUN
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I would be upset that I wasn’t ask to go. For a relationship to work there must be trust though!
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I feel like this should have stopped when you said boyfriend’s wife 
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Be the bigger person and go with. You suck it up and do it for the kid. Shows how big you are as a person. And that little girl will look up to you. You need a healthy relationship with the ex and she needs one with you. If you can’t do that, then move on. Your not mature enough
Yall are trifling. Some people don’t have money for a divorce. A lot of times a court will recommend being separated for at least a year before they will even consider your divorce.
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Y’all seem to forget that Covid happened two years ago. I know in my state (MD) everything in court that wasn’t an emergency was delayed. Also, stop jumping on her for dating a married man. He probably told her they were separated and getting a divorce. Who knows if that’s the truth or not?
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^^ I agree it’s all about trust! If you can’t trust him why be with him 
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Its wierd they are sharing a room I’d say go but get ur own room
Ya’ll are so dramatic if you can’t trust your significant other , it’s prob bc your insecure and has nothing to do with them ! Not everyone wants to sleep together whether they are still married or not ! Some of you give awful advice and it shows how jealous and insecure you are ! Yikes
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And why cant he get his own room?
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I may be the unpopular one now but I was legally married to my now ex husband for over 12 years of separation. It caused me a lot of problems in relationships along the way! I’ve recently read this is “in” with the younger folks now too… hell I was just staying married at first bc I was a broke struggling single mom whose husband walked out on her, but eventually it turned into “hey, being married still is actually doing me a FAVOR bc I could have married some other idiot by now! However, EVERY guy I dated looked at it as a “license to still f*ck” or like we really wanted to get back together 
THAT WAS NOT THE CASE!! And I will also add, my kids dad has NEVER been very involved, but UNTIL we actually FINALLY got divorced, he missed out on even MORE things with them bc it caused such a jealous rage in my “partner” that I would find myself not even inviting their dad anymore bc of fear of my partners behavior. That’s SO MESSED UP.
Something is up. Should have walked away as soon as you found out he was married dealing with “possible” divorce.
But do got a question, she said it was weird for a husband and wife to share a room. If their are normal couples of parents, kids already use to them sharing a room at home so what the problem.
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The fact that they are still married says something, or says it all!!!
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Why can’t he get his own room?
My ex husband and I have shared many hotel rooms when taking the kids to competitions…I don’t see the problem honestly. We just get two beds and one kid sleeps with me, another kid sleeps with him…unless he’s got a cheating background, but even though, I’m sure SHE doesn’t want him back, if so she wouldn’t be divorcing him lol. Just my opinion. If you ever step between him and the kids over something like this, he’ll never really forgive you. I wouldn’t.
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He is married! God won’t ever send you someone else’s husband.
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Stepping past the fact that your dating a married man 
. - nope I can’t seems like this is the first issue that you should address. Them sharing a hotel room is not the norm but it appears that your relationship isn’t the norm either. You should attend if you don’t want him to miss it and a shared room is the plan
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I would say just relax and let him do it, he can stay in a room with his wife, if something happens that night you will probably find out and there will be ur signs to just leave a relationship that probably had no future. You definitely don’t want to be the reason he doesn’t go and spend time with his child, and if he didn’t even asked u to go that is crazy specially where you guys have been together two years have you even met his daughter? If no then idk what you are doing around him
Tell him he can go and don’t bother coming back. Because that’s just disrespectful and he’s just looking for a way to get back with her. There is no reason they need to share a room whatsoever. He can get a whole other room or shit stay at another hotel period. And yeah he should’ve invited you right off the bat. You said it yourself he only invited you when you started pitching a fit. I bet if you told him you were going away and was going to share a hotel room with one of your ex boyfriends he wouldn’t like it one bit. Then if you told him nothing will happen he will hit you with “bullshit I know how men are! He’s not going to be laying next to you and nothing is going to happen!” Which brings it back to his situation and if you say the same thing he’s going to swear he’s different. Trust me they all do that. Idc if y’all been together 2 years 2 weeks or 2 decades if you’re in a relationship with someone you don’t go sleeping with anyone else. Are you sure there’s a function and he’s not just using that as an excuse to go see her?
It’s still her husband! You never should’ve dated him while he’s still married. Everyone knows this!
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My husband and I have been separated 4 years while I have been in another relationship while we’ve been separated and it turned nasty and he allowed me back in his home to help me get away from the fool I was with. I have a mattress in the floor and share the home with him and our 2 sons and we’ve not offered to do anything like that. Sometimes ppl are just better off as friends. It’ll be okay 
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Is he sharing a room with his ex-wife or wife?
If it’s the wife and you know they are together fu tell her about his cheating ass.
If it’s ex wife then, no he should get another room. He can still go and be there but, don’t share a room.
it could be a money factor, or could be there was a limited rooms available & they could only get one room, If this bothers you & he did invite you, go
I think you need to have some respect and not make it all about you. If you don’t trust him… then leave. No need to ruin the kids day. The kid should always come first.
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Another woman’s husband ain’t your man. Leave him
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He’s still married!
That should make you feel weird and send you big red flags!
God will not send you someone else’s husband!!!
You are odd man out!
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Some guys who are separated but still married think it their right to still f*ck the ex even though they’re in a relationship with someone else. Found that out the hard way.
He can get his own room or just not go. He wouldn’t be ok if it was you staying in a room with an ex.
You can go with him doesn’t matter “WHY” you were asked to go just go. If you don’t go now that you’ve had an invite regardless of how it was given they may not extend one in the future. Support your step daughter. If your not comfortable with going and him sharing a room with her and the kids ask him to get a separate hotel room. They are no longer a “family unit” due to the separation so they don’t get to act like it. It shouldn’t be “oh I can’t stay in the same room so I just won’t go”
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That’s what you get for dating someone’s husband 
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I’m confused as to why you wasn’t invited unless it’s a covid thing. If you are close to the kids and have a good functioning house hold and go to their events here why wouldn’t you go?
Just go with?
I used to work away from home and I’d split double rooms with coworkers to save LOA and etc. it would make me feel like a bucket if my significant other was upset about that… just talk it out.
That’s a no from me. I’d be upset.
Why isn’t he getting his own room? Extremely weird.
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Ignore these judgmental people who, apparently, have never been thru a lengthy divorce or had to deal with full hotels/ expensive hotels for their kids traveling sports. I’ve literally been down this road…
I know a person who’s divorce to 6 years. SIX YEARS. Just because they’re legally married doesn’t mean they’re still together. FFS.
I know for a fact if something drastic happened to me and I needed shelter, my ex would help me out. Why? We don’t hate each other AND we’re mature adults. It’s entirely possible for people to remain friends, and honestly it’s better for the kids if they can coparent like that. Our daughter had a big tournament hours away, and I got into a bad car accident on the way down. Her dad (my ex) was my ride or die the whole weekend and drove me all the way home. We ate meals together, shopped, hung out, etc. Zero thought of getting back together, or trying to hook up, or anything…
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Uhhh, no. Why can’t he/you guys get his own room?
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If that’s all it take for him to sleep with her then let him. He could share a room at any point with her if he wanted. SHE is his WIFE.
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4 years and no divorce? Them sharing a room is the least of your worries
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I say this often… the best thing a father can give to his children is respect to their mother… married or not. He’s probably staying in the room so “their” child feels loved and encouraged during a huge competition.
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Why, after 4 years of mutual separation and communication, has he not divorced her? Seems like he’s not ready to let go completely. I understand that there’s sometimes extenuating circumstances (ie: I left my abusive ex husband but he moved out of state, didn’t have a steady address. I was a single Mom for several years and it took him being put in jail for an extended period to finally serve him, 8 years later). But if they’re on good speaking/coparenting terms, there seems like an underlying cause for him not filing for divorce. I’d be asking questions.
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As an ex wife on the opposite side of this, I’ve shared a room/tent/hiker hut with my ex on more than one occasion, sometimes with the kids, sometimes without.
It’s a bed, somewhere to sleep, nothing more. In fact, it irritates the heck out of me, I forget how much he snores and can’t wait to be back in my own bed again.
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They’re still married until divorce papers are signed.
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Y can’t he get his own room?
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Your first question should be why are they not divorced yet AFTER 4 years???
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Why is he sharing a room? He should get his own room, which I’m sure there aren’t any left. Wow!
Id ask first why are you in a serious relationship with him when he is still married, then id ask, how serious is the relationship if you werent asked to go with?
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You lost me at wife. Sorry.
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No it is not weird at all. They are co parenting in a healthy way. My ex husband is staying with me rn until he finds his own apartment. My boyfriend is totally fine with it.
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Yeah wait ignore room sharing. Why aren’t they divorced?
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You could pay me to share a room with my ex. Not now and not when I was single. It’s weird and a major red flag. There’s no reason that man can’t get his own room.
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Uhm yeah that’s shady.
Why are you still with him???
Tell him your going!
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Have some pride in yourself…get out
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Keep your drama to your self
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Look at god trying to put a family back together. I have no advice. He’s been with you for 2 years and still marries? He about to try and get his wife back. Gone ahead and work on yourself. Unless he taking the divorce papers with him.
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