Tell him to get a different room
He can easily buy a night for his own room right?
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His wife, Why wouldn’t he share a room with his wife? Why are you with a married man?
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Wife? Um, why are you with a married man?
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MOVE ON !! Your Better then all that DRAMA!!! BE YOUR OWN PERSON !!! PRAYING FOR YOU! 
Uhm. His wife? Girl. Smfh. I know you’re not with a whole married man 
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You should walk away from that hot mess. Leave that trainwreck at the station. Work on you, love you, be who you wanna be. The right one will come along for you.
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Ummmlegally separated for 2 years and still not divorced…why??? That’s more alarming to me than anything. I know some states have requirements on being separated for a certain time but why is this not final
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So wat there separated usually there is 2 beds in pa motel room he being honest never hid the fact tht he’s sharing a room wth her unless u have ever been given a reason to not trust him then let it go nd trust them wth out trust there is nothing
Oh honey, he may have told you they’re legally separated but if they still aren’t divorced 4 years later then she thinks they’re working on things.
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Yeah it would be a hell no from me. He needs to stop being cheap and get his own room.
Tell him to get his own room - problem solved. Or tell him you’re going with
He can still go and get his own room? Why would he offer to just not go instead of that? That seems really weird
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Why doesn’t he just get his own room? Seems like the respectful thing to do?!?
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If he can’t afford his own room he can’t afford to go to a cheer competition 
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Take em to the train station.
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I would not like that either. also not everyone can afford a divorce
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How about don’t date a married man with a child 
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This should’ve stopped at “boyfriends wife” because 1. He’s still legally married. 2. That means he committing abigamy. 3. He’s STILL married to HER. Sorry but the fact he’s still married would’ve caused me to walk away. Ain’t no way I would be with a married man.
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I feel for you. Unfortunately. Divorce can take forever. I was legally separated for three yrs. Then couldn’t find the jack a** to divorce him. And that took another two yrs. DO NOT LET THE HATERS HATE ON YOU. FOR DOING What MAKES YOU HAPPY. I was technically “married,” when I met my now fiance. I was just upfront with everything. In Oregon u have to find them to serve them and he purposely eluded being served.
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I’d more concerned with that fact that he still has a wife….after 4 years legally separated??? Walk away now…
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… eh…
IF there were any "plans"that involved sharing a room, and you think him getting his own room is going to stop them, that’s wishful thinking.
Why weren’t you invited in the first place? That would concern me.
Putting up a fuss and being satisfied with just NOW being asked only because you made a fuss is concerning.
How would he behave if you were to share a room with YOUR ex?
Legally separated isn’t divorced, and even tho it’s good enough for some people, is there at least divorce proceedings underway? If not…. It took me 2 years to start my divorce and 5 MORE years to get it finalized. So, I understand not being divorced yet. A Boyfriend of 4 years is a significant relationship… have you EVER had an inkling of bad feelings about THEIR current status or interactions? If so… your gut it talking and you’re not listening. I personally WOULD(yes, I would) be ok with my husband sharing a room with his ex because the way things have gone down between them…I know there would NEVER be a chance of anything like that happening with her. 
Yup, a big no for me.
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Why are you even with a married man who has a child. They should have been divorced by along time ago .hes obviously still with the wife and has you on the side. Stay away from married man
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You and him could get a separate room together. Then you can watch her too 
if you’re not involved in his daughters life after two years that’s a huge red flag though.
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Umm. That’s inappropriate for so many reasons.
That’s a hard no for me. Period. Any further defensive discussions from him about it to me means breaking up
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Why is he not divorced yet maybe you need to worry about that
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Absolutely not this wouldn’t fly with me if he don’t want to miss her competition he better go get himself his own room or they better scootch over bc I’m coming too
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First off your boyfriend is married with no divorce or plan of one it seems… second should you really even be asking if you have the right to when he’s legally no even your man at all.
Third your really gonna get butt hurt over a situation like this when it involves their child they have together .
Fourth even if something was going on, I positive he wouldn’t be cheating on you because if something is in fact going on that’s his wife and your the girlfriend…
Before you accuse your BOYFRIEND of CHEATING you need to check you position because he’s actually cheating on his wife with you.
Why weren’t you invited? Why doesn’t he have his own room?
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Can’t he get his own room?! That would be a no go for me too. And I’m not insecure or jealous in the least…
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Mega weird. Just get another room. The fact that he didn’t offer that …insanely weird.
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He can rent a hotel room separately or you could go with him and share a room together. That is highly inappropriate and honestly a red flag.
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He’s still married to her… why would you be with a still married man….
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The fact he’s saying he just won’t go rather than he will get his own room is strange.
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They’ve been separated for 4 years and they have not divorced yet. There’s still ties. No one just STAYS married and separated that long.
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So he’s been separated for 4 years? Why isn’t he divorced? Red flag…He is technically still married.
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Well it is his WIFE so what’s odd about it. You’re not number one and your thought and feelings don’t count cause that’s his WIFE
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Wth get your own man.
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Girl leave that family alone 
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Pay for his own room then
Are you sure they are seperated and hes just not just telling his wife he is working late. They are probably still together.
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Even if he got his own room it doesn’t mean he won’t stay in hers. I think I’d skip out of that situation.
So they’ve been separated for 4 years and not divorced?! And you’ve accepted it 
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Ew. Is all I can say lol leave! 
“Do I have a right to be upset that my boyfriend is sharing a room with his wife” whattttt!
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I agree, not to be rude, BUT you are involved with a married man technically. You make your bed, you sleep in it. 
Me and my ex husband took our children to Disney and we share rooms. He slept in the sofa bed and the rest slept in the king side bed. Sooooo 
nothing happen during our vacation. MIND YOU, we did it to please the children because they wanted a “family vacation” even after our divorce, so we made it happen. Now, that’s his wife and his children comes first. You have a choice to deal with it or not. If is cheaper to share the same room, what’s the problem? Or you think they gonna have sex in front of the kids? 
There’s a reason why the divorce hasn’t been finalized yet………
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Perfect for a three some…everybody’s happy…only need one room
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Are you getting along with his children that they want you there to? Some Children don’t want to see all that drama. Is about them, not the adults. So to avoid drama, why you even want to go?
Yeah that’s not ok lol…. And he should know that
If he has a wife then he’s not your boyfriend. U shouldn’t b messing with married men.leave him alone. Go find someone single. Good luck to u.
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All I got to say about this
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You’re a home wrecker no sympathy from me
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Wow the comments about his wife??? She stated they’ve been legally separated , I mean how hard too comprehend is that …so many judging here , wouldn’t be too quick too judge all that, you may be in that position too one day, not everyone has the money , time , energy too fight battles , not in a place in life financially too keep a house or whatever it may be…none of your business is what that is…she asked if you’d be upset and that was it 
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Wow, some of you are very judgmental.
Dh was still married to his ex wife for the first 5 years we were together because he couldn’t afford to file for divorce and she was on drugs and hid to avoid being served for 3 years. We’ve been together 17 years now.
Now, that being said, he would have NEVER stayed in a hotel room with her. That is definitely a red flag and incredibly weird.
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Yeah that’s not ok, sharing the same room? Not inviting you?
Something tells me he’s still seeing his wife and having you on the side probably
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No and when he go he would be packing all his stuff he can’t afford his own room if he can’t he don’t need to go make it make since SMH
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When my husband and I were separated, we did not share rooms even though we went to the same events for our kids. He would stay in the same hotel sometimes though.
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Well one thing is for certain. If my bf pulled this on me, that would be the end of it. He could invite you and you could go with him to watch the kids event. There’s absolutely no reason why this man needs to share a room with her. The devil is dirty. Things are bound to happen.
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Whew all of these people lacking reading comprehension skills. 
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Ok first off,I don’t think it’s right for him to miss the event. Driving a wedge like that will be irreparable and even if he doesn’t resent you now for it,he prob will later on. Secondly, do you trust your guy? How long have yall been together. You can be upset. But yes it is easier for them to connect in such close quarters. Not sure why they are sharing a room unless it is a block of rooms reserved by the team and only one room per contestant family. Otherwise I would spring for an extra room or even join him at the event. If you can’t trust him, then there is your answer all along. You don’t want or need someone you have to control to be with.
Nope. At that point he can go back to her then. I wouldn’t stand for it.
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He is still married, whatever that’s your choice. He’s has been separated 4 years. Many different reasons why he hasn’t divorced yet. We don’t know the reason & it is not business anyway. If he decided to go to the competition later there may not be any rooms available. When my daughter was doing competitions if you didn’t get your room put much immediately then you didn’t get a room. Most of the time all the hotels are full during a competition. So if he just decided to go there might be a big chance there is no rooms available.
I would be upset that I wasn’t invited until have a fuss over it.
Girl… if you are not secure in your relationship after 2 years then you need to let it go. You have no right to be up and arms about him spending time with his children… and apart of spending time with the kids means being around the other parent. If you were the cause of him not wanting to go support his kid then you shouldn’t date single parents… grow up
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Have him pay his own room?
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Your best bet is to end this relationship. Men tell women all the time they are separated, but in all reality, they aren’t.
You’re just breaking your own heart for no reason by staying with him. He will choose her every single time. You’ll never win, and if you do, the prize ain’t worth winning.
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I would be looking for other signs. These events are expensive for the parents, there are room shortages, and getting one is super expensive. Please don’t stand in the way of him going to this even by insisting you go.
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And you also have been with dad for 2 years… let him have his time with his kids with out you… let that jealous energy go or leave because that’s the last thing the kid needs on her big day.
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Why wouldn’t he get his own room?
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It’s weird to me but that’s cuz my ex husband wouldn’t even want to be in the same hotel as me much less the same room (has some lingering resentment ya think?) That being said- highly important to support dad being there 
… appropriate thing would be to have separate rooms from the wife…. If there’s absolutely no other option, might have to suck that one up, as uncomfortable as it might be as long as you talk openly and honestly about your concerns and be sure you’ve established healthy (not controlling) boundaries (ie please don’t sleep naked in front of her). Also… if they’re sharing a bed vs 2 queens… might be a different story as well. If he really cares he’ll be respectful and appreciate your support and reassure you. It’s about the kids event, not you- don’t change that.
Why can’t he just get his own room? I would find it inappropriate, but if the only option for him to attend then I’d just have to deal I guess
Lol he’s sharing a room, you’re sharing your boyfriend lol. They’re obviously comfortable with sleeping in the same room, comfortable with not inviting you and comfortable enough to think you wouldn’t mind.
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Can he not afford his own room?? Why can’t he go and get his own hotel room?
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First of all asshole is married Respect that and respect yourself and walk away
Idk how it is in other states. But I’m SC if you’re separated and stay the night with your spouse then your separation starts over.
I would not be okay with him staying with her at all.
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Be the reason! It’s time we get back to common sense !
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Can he not get another room at another hotel? Lol I mean just bc you don’t want him sharing a room doesn’t mean there aren’t other hotels…
Until you see his divorce paper, he’s still a married man
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Tbh can’t even trust him going and getting another room or another hotel because he can still go to hers or she come to his why wouldn’t he get a room and ask you to join and then they can go to the competition even but at least your there knowing he isn’t in a room with her…trust me men are slick and will lie and you will never know at all
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He’s still married to her after 2 years with you and separated from her for 4? Ya I’d be leaving, that’s so weird and not normal. Let him go and tell him so stay with her after too
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You need a better boyfriend.
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They’ve been separated for 4 years but still aren’t divorced? Lol honey you’re the side piece
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I wouldn’t be ok w this . I’ve been in your shoes
Maybe it’s cheaper for a twin room I’ve shared a room with my ex before, nothing went on and nothing would
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Girl…. You found out he was sharing a room with her? He didn’t let you know? That’s red flag #1. He never invited you. That’s #2. Honestly I think maybe something has been going on for a hot minute and you might be the side chick… That’s what I get from this. Could be wrong. You shouldn’t have to go and stay with him just to make sure he doesn’t do anything. If you feel like you need to do that, it’s already over. If he doesn’t think that this is an issue, you need to go.
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You’re being played…lol
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He wants his wife back. And while he works on it you are side chick.
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Your boyfriend is sharing a room with his wife? I’d find a new boyfriend or atleast ask him to get a divorce.
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If he thought that was appropriate then … Damn! 
Oh, honey. He’s using you as his side chick while he tries to get his wife back. Good luck.
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wtf get a different room 
No you don’t. You’re dating a married men. Wtf. Please leave them both alone
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Girl if you don’t go sit down somewhere and leave that married man alone…. Whew Chile I swear these posts be made up or something. HE IS STILL MARRIED THEY CAN SLEEP TOGETHER.
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that’s disrespectful towards you in so many ways!!
My ex husband and i just did this for our daughter’s cheer competition. Nothing more than two parents their to support their child.
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Weird and inappropriate. He could easily get his own room, which would make more sense.
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Why are they not divorced? Are you the side? I believe in co parenting but not co rooming.
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Did you fine out after the fact or did they tell you the room was booked for both them. If it’s there daughters comp then he needs to be there not fair if your insecurities stop him. I’m not sure I’d have a massive issue with this they share a kid if they wanted to be together I’m sure they would be. A little strang but nothing to stop him going over (unless theres an other reason you have worries )
What’s the hold up on a divorce? That’s also a good question but yeah he needs to pay for a different room to stay in
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