My daughter is 8 years old & it’s like all of her friends have cellphones & have Tik Tok accounts, but my daughter is absolutely not allowed to be associated with it & I know when she goes to a friend’s house, she will be because her friends are allowed too. We barely let her go anyplace except for one friend’s house, but that ended today. I feel like I am holding her back, but I am also not allowing things because her friends are allowed.
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Some tik toks are very inappropriate and I’m not sure there’s a way to filter them out.
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I dont allow my boys to have social media. Their 12 and 9. I told them when their a little older and more mature we will talk about it. I do allow YouTube on restricted mode.
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What does she does to fun now that she enjoys
Just understand the more you shelter and restrict a kid the more they will do it anyway they can. The best you can do is be honest with them about what is and is not appropriate to watch or repeat. And make sure they know they can come to you if they come across something they find inappropriate or have questions on.
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They have a kids version tik tok, it isn’t bad.
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Nope tik tok is stupid
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My daughter is the same way. She is not allowed to have a phone or social media and most all of her friends do. I tell her we will consider it when she’s 10.
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Nope, my oldest is 11 and there’s too much I find inappropriate for his age
My daughter is 10 and has no phone and not allowed tic tok on her tablet!
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I witnessed my 8 year old niece twerking, stripping and doing inappropriate dances.
Keep your daughter’s innocence and childhood, please. Keep your foot down!
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My daughter is the same age, her friends have phones and play out but she isn’t allowed. I feel that children are permitted to see too much for their age and brought into the world of adults younger and younger. What’s wrong with protecting your child’s innocence and their ability to use imagination for as long as possible? The world can be a harsh place to live in, let them be carefree whilst they can be x
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My daughter are 7 and 10 and have cell phones. They are not allowed to have any type of social media. Their cousins do and they see my family on it. They ask all the time but I stick to my word and refuse to let it happen but sometimes they may hop in someone else’s tik tok and I’m okay with that as long as it’s appropriate.
When I set my kids up with their tiktok it filters out inappropriate things and such and they’re not allowed to friend or follow people. So I feel pretty alright with it. My daughters are 9 and 10
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As a kid who was sheltered, sometimes** it makes the kids more sneaky and better at lying. Not every time but it happened with me. Keep that in mind when you keep her from her friends.
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No tik tok, it’s horrible
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I don’t allow mine because there is a lot on tik tok that is not appropriate. My 13 year has a cell but only due to his health. I felt the same way you do but we have to do what we believe should be done. My oldest doesn’t have social media and has a thing on his phone so I can see what’s getting downloaded, what’s being watched etc. You can set up parental controls. It is pretty neat.
I don’t let my daughter on stuff like that.
My daughter is 7, she has a phone, that I have programmed woth family phone numbers. Any games or anything that she wants to download is locked and I have to put my password in for it to work. She has no social media at all and will not until she is much older
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It’s one thing to restrict TikTok from your child. But to not allow them to not have friends because of it, is stupid in my opinion.
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My 13 yr old is banned from it. 14 yr old isn’t interested and my other 2 older ones are 18 and 21 so up to them… My oldest he is 23 and doesn’t care for it at all…
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I feel you, My daughter is 10 but she’s very mature for her age. I recently got her a iPhone 11. Upgrade from her iPhone 6. She only has tik Tok, roblox and among us… and I have the same app on my phone with her login, so it is severely monitored every day. Those are the rules. She’s not allowed fb or anything else till she’s 16 or older. It works for us, but I feel like if you don’t allow her to do some things, she will do it behind your back. Best of luck 
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Idk, my kids are 6 and 5 and watch tiktok and I feel because I don’t shelter them and instead they very clearly know rights from wrongs and they tell me when they know they shouldn’t see something. And that makes me glad that they know they can come to me about things they know is inappropriate. They’re a lot more well behaved then kids we see in public that are older then them. Idk, just personal opinion I feel it helps them open up and understand the world more. They’re going to find out eventually anyways.
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If I open a specific kids appropriate page and make certain they stay on it sure but my kids are 5 and under and do not have phone access. WITH US. Just learned her bio mom lets her watch tiktok 
I can only hope she does something similar to ensure she’s watching something kidsafe
My son wants a tiktok so bad. Hes almost 8. He said he just wants to follow the youtubers he watches but im worried he will get to the wrong side. I told him I dont want him on it right now but maybe when hes older
My daughter is 5 and I use to let her when she would play on my phone but after watching it myself a lot of stuff is inappropriate for young children. There’s an investigation going on right now because of how many minors have accounts on there without parental permission. I would advise yes if you are near to kinda peak and see what she’s watching but the for you page is a wide variety of different videos
I’m a strong believer that a child shouldn’t have a phone until they become a teenager. At that point, it should only happen if there’s a trustworthy bond between parent and child.
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If you make her account with her real age and turn on parent controls in app settings there is less she will be able to see
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My 12 year old goes on it, haven’t found “inappropriate” stuff. If he has he skips over it. I am more laidback than most moms I guess. My mom was VERY strict with me, and let’s just say I lost my virginity at 16 I believe it was bc I couldn’t do much of anything. My son is 12, he finds kissing to be gross, he knows he can talk to me about anything or my bf being another guy. He started having to shave, he was shy to tell me. But I know just know him.
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TikTok makes you agree that you are 16 and older. Everyone else is breaking the rules. Just like Facebook is 13 and older and breaks the rules. But if other parents let their kids do it that’s on them. Just me though, I make my kids follow the rules and they don’t even know what tiktok is
Tiktok is not kid appropriate in my opinion. Mine can’t even download it on his phone.
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What’s wrong with tiktok? That’s my favorite app and I’m 48!
You can’t shadow her forever. Why are you even so against it
My daughters are 11 and 10. They both have phone but our one rule was no TikTok. Their friends have them so we know they use it or see them. I’ve talked to my daughters about the dangers of social media. I did let them have an Instagram since I can monitor more what they see and do.
You are holding her back. You can tell her she can’t have those things but that doesn’t she can’t see her friends. Teach her responsible internet use instead.
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Didn’t someone post a video of them killing themselves on tik tok? Would you want your 8 year old exposed to that? And the benadryl challenge went around on tik tok and probably still is.
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We have this same dilemma. My daughter is 8 and all the girls in her girl scouts have a cell phone. And not cheap ones! We don’t allow her in tik tok but we did put kids messenger on her iPad and thats how she calls and talks to her friends
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I wouldn’t keep her so sheltered… she’s gonna do what she wants and retaliate against you…you can’t control what other parents let their kids do… however that’s NO reason for her to lose friends over…
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Your daughter is 8. Do you think she can tell when a bad person is on the other end of the internet? Most adults can’t tell. My son is 12 and just got a phone. No kids need to be on kik tok. Your her mother not her best friend
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It’s not kid appropriate but to each their own.
I will say, I recently just came across child porn and kept reporting it but tik tok wouldn’t take it down. IT WAS GRAPHIC.
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You are teaching your child to be deceitful by making her life a prison so of course she is going to misbehave the first chance she gets.
Rather engage with her and explain to her and show her why you don’t want her on there.
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She’s 8 she’s is wayyyy to young to be on tiktok you’re doing the right thing
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No you are not. Do not feel bad or guilty for protecting your child. I have a 15 and 14 yr old and they do not use social media at all. Nope no way. Not worth it.
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My sons are 11 and 8 and they have phones that only connect to wifi. Which i do not have internet ay my house so the games the play on it have to games they can play with out access and when they go somewhere with internet they are not allowed on a bunch of stuff like tik tok or snap chat or fb. They arent even allowed to talk on onlone games
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I do not allow my 8 year old daughter to watch tik tok
I noticed you said that her going to her friends house ended today
I don’t know the story, but if that ended because of tik tok I would re-think that
Stopping a relationship like that will harm her more than tik-tok IMO
Good luck mama
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My daughters are 8,9, and 12 and we do not allow it here. It is not appropriate and there are a lot of pedophiles on that app
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You people are so worried about tiktok you better start being worried about what your kids are watching o my youtube I had to make my daughter go out of one the other day because of what it was and I kept tans on it all the time
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Fuuuuuuck no! The stuff I see on TikTok is closer to the R rated end of PG13.
Stuff about sex and kinks that an 8 year old DOES NOT need to be educated about until shes much older.
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My children aren’t even allowed on youtube unless I see what they’re doing. There’s too much online that can teach kids the wrong things from sex, drugs, self harm, harming others etc. Yes even on the kids versions. As for the friends maybe talking to the friends parents will help. Some parents are ok with following friends rules when they’re over others will straight out teach your child to defy you.
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My 7 year old has one but her phone has parental controls and she can’t post anything.
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Tiktok is really not geared to kids despite being a 13+ app.
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Nothing wrong with being the kind of mom you want to be. You know what’s best for your babies, keep doing just that 
the internet is a scary thing, so it’s ok that you are holding that rule down.
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Yeah, mine is 8. Andddddd no!!!
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You valued ask the parent in charge to not let her on tik tok but to rip away her one social place Bc of it is pretty extreme. We’re they looking at something inappropriate on it or just the basic videos? Personally DH is military and while they have banned it on govt devices they just prefer military members didn’t have it on their devices as well. Similar thing with Pokemon Go. Being wary of an app is a good thing means your paying attention. But let her have her friends, it’s been a shitty time and everyone is feeling socially smothered by the virus.
I won’t allow it and my daughter is almost 10. The internet in general is a dangerous place. Especially for a young child. Lots of inappropriate stuff.
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My oldest is 16. No cellphone or tablet. He has a chromebook and smart TV. No Instagram or FB.
Younger siblings have a tablet but no web access. They have kid Amazon fire for kids tablets.
Just don’t need them on these apps.
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My 12 year old has a cell phone with Facebook but she is not allowed to have tik tok. It isn’t being sheltered. It’s called being a responsible parent. I don’t want my daughter exposed to some of the nastiness that is on it. I also monitor her YouTube usage as well. I pay her phone bill so I say how she uses it. She has some freedom but she knows what isn’t allowed.
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8 is wayyy too young. I just allowed mine to have it at 14
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Yea that’s a big negative! No Tik Tok, No YouTube! 
there is absolutely no reason for a child to be on any social media/video app honestly they are all trash!
She can’t go to her friends because they have tiktok?
That’s a bit of overkill
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Her friends have cellphones and tiktok and they are only 8yrs ol? My daughter will get one of those wrist watch phones until shes about 16yrs old. Until then she can use my phone while im sitting right next to her.
I made my 12 yr old a tiktok account recently but made it private so only I approve who can see her videos which are only family and her school friends. I also check to see who and what she is “following”.
I set up the kid friendly version app “zigazoo” on my 4 yr olds iPad and told her it was tiktok 
only bc she wants
to do everything her older sister does.
But I also have parental control on all my kids electronics.
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My ten year doesn’t have tiktok but sometimes we sit down together watch some on my phone. Her cousins have it on their phone and I just make sure she tells me all about it. I do my best to keep my mind open in case she needs me. With this quarantine having friend for them is like an out of the home. I don’t think is healthy for them not to have friends.
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8 is still too young…maybe put tick tock in ur phone & then u can see everything!
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Why are you so against it
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You’re not holding her back you’re protecting her. She is a child and should stay one as long as possible I didn’t allow my eldest to have a phone til high school and I won’t allow my youngest either. X
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My son is 9. He’s had an iPhone and an Apple Watch. he’s not allowed to have Tik tok and i check his phone nightly. He has games on it and has FB Messenger for kids but that’s monitored too…downfall of my job is I work in law enforcement so I’m pretty strict
My 14 year old does… but if it had been around when he was 8-10 i dont think i would have allowed him on it… like there was a video of a guy committing suicide on there… like nope that shits crazy…
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At somepoint you need to trust you have taught her to make good decisions. Unless she has done something to break your trust you need to let her have age appropriate freedom.
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Nope nope nope my kids no tick tick especially seeing all these underaged girls dancing half naked YouTube just got banned at our house. No social media they are toooooo young however keeping her from a friends house because they are allowed im half and half with that. Are you able to talk with the parents to come to an agreement?
If you feel it is right to not allow you baby to be on Social media at 8. Then you are doing the right thing for her, you are a good mom don’t give in to the guilt because she feels like she is missing out, you are keeping her safe. #yougomamma100%
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We don’t allow our kiddos to have tiktok.
my 11 yrold and 9yr old do not have phones nor tik tok fb Instagram way to young. ur not holding back ive seen some videos off a friend’s fb and I was shocked on what they do
For me I did it anyways
Could you talk to her friend’s parents and ask that they not use tik tok while she’s there? Then she could still see her friend. If my kids’ friends aren’t allowed something I have no problem respecting their parent’s wishes.
My daughter is 8 and has tik tok. We have it on our phone and control the use etc. Also when her friends come over we just dont let her on it apart from a certain couple of girls that are ok with it. She mainly just does the dances and not upload them all. Maybe just speak to the parents and tell them your concerns so they can keep them off it while your child is there
Tik tok is is not for 8yr olds u can’t control what videos that come up and 80% of them r for adults
We mum and dad only touch our phones ( internet) why our son is asleep otherwise msgs and phone calls only, we don’t want him to see us on the phone all day because that creates the behaviour, I don’t like the idea of phones taking the parents away or kids having their childhood taken away by technology, they have plenty of time to be adults!
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You’re doing the right thing mama and don’t you dare feel guilty. Too many creeps out there and 8 is still way too young for social media of any kind. I babysat a FOUR year old who had a phone and tik tok account and I couldn’t stand it. Remember, if your kids don’t think you’re a mean mom at least once in their lives, something’s wrong.
I think trust is incredibly important with your children. Explain why you don’t really approve of tik tok, what your fears are, and also ask her what her opinion is. Value that she will one day have to make these decisions herself.
Not letting her go to her friends because they/their parents don’t align with your values is harsh I think. You cannot choose her friends or it will backfire on you!
(That being said, your rules are your rules and that’s perfectly reasonable to not want her on social media.)
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I get not letting them on the app, because like all social media apps, there are adult themes. (Though personally, I would allow it under adult supervision.) However it does seem unfair that she can’t spend the night at all simply because the other parents have different rules than you. I think a better solution would be to have a nice, calm chat with the other child’s parents to see if they could make sure she doesn’t get on the app with her friend when she’s over, then decide for sure.
My kids make tiktok videos on my husband’s account on his phone
My bonus kids are 8,9 & 10 and unfortunately all have tiktoks against mine and their dads wishes. I see plenty of inappropriate content on their pages when I watch with them. What you interact with is what you’ll see most though, so that shows me that they’re like the inappropriate videos to continue to see them. There is a setting to block mature content but they don’t have it turned on, and when I do turn it on, their mother turns it off.
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Nope. I have an 8 year old daughter as well and I’ve constantly had to tell her the cell phone wasnt happening. I didnt get my first phone til I was 16 and I was perfectly fine…I dont watch TikTok and have no urge to, so my 8 year old definitely isnt haha
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My daughter is 7. Yesterday she asked to download Tik Tok on her phone (no service on the phone, it’s her dads old one that she plays games on when on WiFi). Our older 3 children all have it. I asked them about it because I don’t even have it. They all said the same thing. If you put her actual birthday in, they will allow her to create an account, but all she can do is watch the videos. She can’t like, she can’t subscribe, she can’t search anything. She can only watch the videos.
As a follower of TikTok. Is is not kid friendly and I don’t care who wants to tell me otherwise.
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Supervise what she watches
Not all content is bad depends on what you are watching
My mom “banned” me from Facebook, but I still had it 
I always said when I have kids, I still don’t btw, I wouldnt let them have cellphones and they should play outside and blah blah but I think that today’s generation would be stunted intellectually and with regards to technology esp in countries where this is the norm, if they are not introduced to technology. Our lives revolve around technology and it’s all good and well to tell your kids to go outside and play with a stick like we did when we were younger but then their friends are on laptops, smartphones and ipads are gaining certain advantages even if they were playing little games are sitting on tiktok… I don’t know
Tiktok is 100% the last social media platform I would allow my kids to have. While there is some content that is appropriate for kids, you never know when they will scroll on something that isn’t.
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You are protecting her, My 7yo is not allowed on tiktok… Tiktok is worse than Facebook because all interactions can be open ended & she’s not allowed FB either lol.
My stepdaughter is 2yrs older and was allowed on tiktok by her mother, But not by her father/my partner… Until recently that is, When the WAP Wet Ass Pussy song became a trend & all the kids were twerking to it recording themselves Now stepdaughter is banned too.
Definately not for kids. A guy shot himself in the head on tiktok as well so one day a couple months ago every kid woke up to seeing that video. If your kids have tiktok, chances are they have already seen somebody shoot themselves in the face at point blank range because it was reposted & had duets made instantly & flooded tiktok with the video for over 24hrs.
Speak with your child & the other child’s parents when going for sleepovers. They are 8 not 14, Way too young for such things. Offer a sleepover at your place, Put a lock on the internet modem to disallow tiktok other social media platforms. A long time ago for a totally unrelated reason I also bought a signal blocker for mobile phones & plugged it in in the room next to my little brothers room, He couldn’t use the data on his phone all night & had to come upstairs & use the house phone 
My twins are 12 and have flip phones . Tik Tok can’t be unseen . Some guy blew his brains out on tik tok a couple months ago
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Hell no. I caught my SD watching nasty stuff.
The best thing you can do is sit down with her and scroll. Talk to her about what’s okay and what’s not. Tell her that you know she’s going to be seeing it sometimes, and you can’t stop her but it’s important she follows rules about what’s okay to do/watch and what isn’t. My 8yo scrolls tik tok with her brother and sister who are teenagers. They are careful about what they let her watch and we haven’t had any issues. When you go so far to ban something, it gives a kid more motivation to have access to it.
And I’ll add she absolutely will be watching it at some point unless you homeschool and never allow her to be anywhere without you.
My daughter is 12 yes she has a phone and she has snap chat. That’s it!! I banned tic tok and yes I’m know she watches things with her friends and Just like I know she hears and sees things at school and bus and so on!
sorry for that caps buuuut NONE OF MY KIDS ARE ALLOWED ON SOCIAL MEDIA. Not tiktok, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook. Nothing and they’ve tried to sneak and do it to just get into bigger trouble. They’re not even allowed to watch YouTube without an adult present because too many things are put into “kids” videos so it’s a hard no. They hate it but we have gone so far as to get a judge to tell one of our kids parents no social media and defiantly no Facebook and no creating no profiles for them either… My kid was 3 at the time.
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Anyone remember the live suicide vid that was posted on tiktok? My 15 yr and 10yr aren’t allowed tiktok. Stand your ground.
My son watches some when he’s with family members (since they have the app & watch videos) but he’s not allowed a phone or to have a tiktok account or participate in any video making. I’ve explained to him why & he understands plus the ones he does see are being shown to him by family so they know what is & isn’t allowed
Although I respect your rules (any parent that is) , I do think that not allowing her to go to any friends house is really going to make her think that you guys don’t trust her. You should ask her not to get on and have the other children’s parents monitor. If you can’t trust the other child’s parents to do that then you should’ve never considered letting her go there in the first place. I do think that cutting her off from any friends house is harsh and will make her lash out eventually if you keep her from friends when she is older also. She will feel like she has to lie to you, like you don’t trust her no matter what she does, and those are the kinds of things that make kids resent their parents and potentially lead to bigger problems. Give her a chance.
I should’ve added this to my previous comment, but I would also discuss internet safety with her and help her understand the potential dangers there are. Nothing you do on the internet is private and predators lurk behind fake accounts. She might not like not fitting in with her friends but she would also understand that your decision is not a punishment. And I understand that you’re uncomfortable with her staying overnight with friends, but I’d also make sure that she and her friends know that they are welcome over as long as they respect your house and your rules. It will make it so much easier for her to be able to talk to you and not go behind your back.
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