neither of my kids are allowed on tik tok. we only have one cell phone in our house anyway and it’s mine, but I don’t even allow them to watch tik tok videos on youtube (where there’s plenty of compilations).
I have a tiktok and absolutely not. Too much vulgar language. Just cause her friends have one doesn’t mean she has to. I’m the mom not her friend.
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Tbh all you can do here is teach and guide her on these things and give her space to make choices. If you grasp too tightly she will revel for sure. If you allow her to be social- like you said she’ll come across it either way and all you can hope for that your daughter will make the right choices. Do you remember being young? How much did you know and do without your parents knowing fully … It’s part of growth. Im glad I had parents to guide me right from wrong and that they allowed me enough space to figure it out… I try hard to do that with my kids.
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There have been others ,younger doing suicide Challenges. TikTok tries to remove widely shared suicide clip
My daughter is 8 very resposible we just got her a phone with service so she can talk to my other daughters when there not hm shes a straight a student just a good kid rarley gets in trouble and has a tik tok the more she watches it her page will start to only play videos she watches and she skips the inappropriate videos so all her tik tok is of her games she plays or diy videos i think its everyones choice of if there kid is mature enough for it or responsible enough for it every parents own opinion good luck eveyone
Put parental control on her phone.
Or explain to her why it’s wrong
My oldest ones are 12 16 they watch Tik tok
They also know what they’re allowed to repeat and what they aren’t. …they can watch same stuff on You tube… Any video online is on You tube…
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My son is not allowed to play fortnite or have anything that goes with it he also is not allowed Tic Tok
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My 11 year old doesn’t have any of that
My daughter is also 8 and I do not allow her to have tik tok either. I know and have seen inappropriate things on there that an 8 year old should not see. So you are not alone in your choice.
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My daughter is 15 and she still doesn’t have a Facebook account…and she didn’t have a cell phone till she was 10. tiktok isn’t so bad they just watch videos. It’s not wrong to want to keep your kids free of the bs and keep them safe.
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She’s 8 I’d recommend monitoring at least
Different children need Different rules. Every single child needs these rules tailored to them and the parent/parents
So my two cents is this, my 8 year old isn’t allowed on social media, but can watch some stuff on YouTube, she sneaks our phones sometimes and watches TikTok… she just so happened to be one of the unfortunate people who witnessed a suicide in a live… so now we lock the phones with new passwords… but being to overbearing as I have learned with my now 16 year old is that they will rebel. She does everything to make me mad or upset now… I’m the worst parent of life most days. My 13 year old has a lot of freedoms when it comes to internet access and his a whiz kid at computers… and my 6 year old boy hasn’t gotten to the point where he wants anything to do with anything other than his switch right now… so this being said… it’s touch and go with each kid… just be vigilant with keeping an eye on what they are doing on their devices. As for TikTok and kids I would say that’s a no until they are older I guess.
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8 years old is to young
My 8 year old just asked me about this the other day. He watches Tik tok dance completion videos on YouTube but absolutely not allowed a Tik Tok account. I used to have an account and when the videos started getting violent, threatening and political I deleted it. It’s so much crap on there now it’s absolutely alarming, disgusting and concerning.
I felt the same and made an account and once I saw what she was looking at I forbid her from the site. My daughter is 9 and if you watch what’s on there’s it’s completely repulsive and inappropriate.
My children won’t get any technology that allows them on internet based social media until they can buy it themselves once they’ve passed 12.
We only plan to give our kids a phone that does basic call and text, and will allow them to have FaceTime as we have a blended house hold.
I wouldn’t let my kids have TikTok or YouTube that young, and it’s not a bad thing if you want to protect her from it!
Parental control. Block tic tok?
My son and i will find a tik tok page about dogs or cats. The pumpkin one around Halloween is one of our faves. We sit there and scroll through the one age appropriate page together. He is 6. I also set my phone up so he can stream his game play live on there.
Kids don’t need tic toc. My daughter is 9. Has a phone…but no tic toc.
First of all my kids don’t get a phone until they are 12. My youngest has an iPad with strict parental controls and absolutely no Tik Tok or social media other then I let her do FB messenger which I can monitor. There is too much crazy on the internet
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This is a hard world to raise teens in! They are going to be secretive in some aspects.Being open and discussing why you dont allow it. Tell her that if she is going to show her self on the internet keep her body covered. I am not saying to allow her to do it, but maybe loosen up about her friends houses she will find a way to see them and lyong to you could be worse.
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My boys are 11 and 13 an they are not allowed to have that stupid ass app. My kids definitely did not have a cell phone at that age either not even to play games.
My 7 yr old had it with supervision until her and my 13 yr old re-enacted an inappropriate video. That was the end of it for them.
Totally agree. TikTok is not 8 year old appropriate unless there is some serious parental monitoring. Keeping her from being able to go to her friends house over it seems a little much to me. I mean unless the child is homeschooled/virtual…it is very likely they will find a way to watch it (@School). I know I did everything I wasn’t “allowed” to do throughout my childhood because I was so sheltered.
I have a tiktok account, my kids are only allowed to watch if I am right there and I monitor everything they watch. My kids don’t have an account. I have gone on there reporting pedophiles that I have come across as well as young kids putting themselves at risk. There have been minors (I’m talking 9yro type) talking to older men, doing acts that should not be done, as well as kids posting child porn on accounts. Parents really need to be more aware and on their kids tbh about internet safety and appropriate behaviors.
We only watch together and only things I’ve saved that are appropriate to watch. Theres way too much stuff that’s completely innappropriate.
Watch this tic tok her daughter is 11
I think you should teach her how to use the internet safely and monitor what you can. You can sign in to her account and see who see talks to or who she’s watches.
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I don’t let my 11 year old watch tiktok
Kids have disappear and tick tock is involved
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Stop worrying about what her friends are allowed to do and have and stick to what is okay with you. My parents didn’t allow me to do and have or spend the night with friends. The “being strict makes kids rebel and act out” is ridiculous. If you teach them respect that goes along with your rules, you don’t have to worry about that. We make mistakes as parents when we worry about what others do and not what works for us. Prayers.
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8 is too young to decipher what is appropriate or inappropriate. Alot of the music on there is trash and there is no way to censor it. Sometimes I cringe when I see what my 16 year old sees on there.
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I think it depends on the child, if you can sit there and explain internet safety and monitor their activity online , then I don’t see anything wrong with it! We live in a world with technology and as long as it’s not controlling their life and they don’t become obsessed, because I have 12 year old daughter who has tik tok with a private account and she does have other social media but again it’s private and I monitor what she does on it and she’s had a phone since she was 8 because she goes back and forth from my place to her dads every other week and she usually has lots of after school activities like sports so she needs a phone if there’s a emergency, before I decided to give her a phone or allow her to use social media I laid out the rules and explained the safety rules of being online… it’s a big responsibility and she understands it’s a privilege that I can take away if she breaks any of the rules! So again it’s all about the maturity of the child! Because it’s nonsense to make your child lose friends because they are allowed to use social media!
My kids are 14, 11 and 9 and they are not allowed on Tik Tok…and I really dont allow You Tube…my kids do not lie or hide things. They know it is a privilege to have devices and just because someone else is allowed to do things doesn’t mean its ok. They do occassionally watch stuff with friends but I monitor them. They dont need access to such nonsense thats out in the world at the touch of a button these days.
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Just had this conversation with my 18yr old daughter today. She has a friend who wasn’t allowed to do anything. My daughter was considered the bad influence. They drifted apart and now that girl learned to sneak around. Very disrespectful to her parents is moving in in her bf soon. My daughter is very open and honest with me. We have a much closer relationship because I allowed her to make her own decisions. Not allowing your child room to be a child and learn and express themselves, later on down the road you are asking for trouble. I completely agree with no tictok… I am sayin taking her away from her friends and not allowing some things other kids do or have is building resentment on you.
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My daughter is 10, she has an account. She posts fun dances with her friends and is fully aware what is right and wrong. I monitor her phone closely. I have a very open and honest with my children about things and explain the dangers of predators ect.
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My children don’t watch or participate in Tik Tok, they also don’t have Instagram, or Snap chat. They don’t need it. Also, I don’t care if they fit in. They need to focus their attention on their education and being a well rounded human being. Not being influenced by social media or any agendas. They aren’t bothered by it and they are better for it.
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We let our son watch tik tok videos but we know what he’s watching. He’s 7 so he’s into the funny innocent stuff still. Thankfully. I’m more worried about the stuff he will see or hear on TV. But ya know what, as long as you’re feeling ok about your parenting choices, you do whatever works for you and your family. As time changes, you may feel you need to change a little too but don’t let anyone ever convince you to go against your morals. Don’t forget to pick your battles too. If this is something you are strongly against, this can be the battle you pick. Or if you can look it at differently and think maybe I can be a little flexible as she gets older, go for it. Maybe let her have friends over. Encourage them to PLAY. Omg kids don’t play enough anymore. Our son rarely goes elsewhere and if he does we make sure the parents and kids are those who can trust. But all kids. Even the best of the best kids will mess up. That’s how they learn. Parenting is hard.
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My daughter is 9 and has been asking for a year. Nope! Standing firm!
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My kids aren’t allowed to have tick tock accounts and I monitor what they watch from YouTube videos of them. They are 11 & 8
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I wouldn’t not let her go to her friends house over tic tok. Especially if it’s the only friend she sees/talks too.
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My 11 yr old was on tic tok back when it was more cosplay before anything else. I downloaded tic tok just to keep tabs on everything and as soon as it turned into ass and titties and more of an adult app I made her delete it. Her friends have it and I know shell be exposed to it but I kind of think of it as a controlling demeanor. You cant control everything mama. What goes on in your house is your rules. Others are different. Her friends are good kids and almost live at my house but at some point you cant put them in a bubble. 
My 11 year old doesn’t have a phone and doesn’t need a phone even though she wants a phone because all her friends do. So no, she doesn’t have tik tok but I know she sees it because literally almost every other kid her age has a phone and basically free reign. 
These kids are going to be exposed to things that you don’t like. That’s life. You can’t keep your child from having friends though. You’re going to create an angry and resentful child that will quickly learn how to be sneaky and hide things from you. And if they know they have to hide things from you then the chances of them getting into some deep shit as they get into their teen years increases exponentially. You have to learn how to keep things open and honest about WHY you are making the decisions that you’re making for them. Even if they don’t like it. But don’t intentionally isolate them. That’s bordering on abusive.
Be strong, SM is a bad influence…
Mine don’t have cells (5&8)or any type of social media account and won’t till 13. However mine will watch with me.
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Wtf she’s 8 literally still a kid she doesn’t need no tik tok there’s so many other things she can keep herself occupied with as a kid
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I’m always back and forth about this… My daughter is 12 and is extremely influenced by tiktok… I love that she can express herself on it, but some of the things she sees worries me.
Invite her friends over instead! Then make it to where they can have game night in the living room so you can be near her. 8 is YOUNG and even seeing my own nieces at 9 making videos scares me
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Nearly every second video on tik tok is sexural and iv also seen afew videos of people pretending to hang themselves. I wouldn’t let kids on it.
My daughters arent allowed to have their own tiktok accounts, but i allow them to use mine & watch videos when im monitoring. I will also allow them to post one that i approve of on my account. They dont & will not have cell phones til theyre older, but i allow kids messenger on their tablets. Its a safe app that i can 100% monitor & add family/friends for them. It is definately important to monitor & not allow too much screen time & bad influences, but its also not healthy to try to keep her from all of these things. This generation is not at all the same as ours was, and she will get older & be interested in these things regardless. A balance is whats most important. Keeping her from friends because of it, I do not reccomend. Also, I had a friend in highschool & her parents were alot stricter than the rest of ours… & when i tell you she still did the things we all did, its true. The only difference was she found better ways to lie to her parents about things, and had to sneak around much more. Definately protect her, but also keeping her in a bubble will cause resentment & not help either. I dont blame you for any of these feelings, I am also terrified of my daughters getting older in this generation. 
My baby n I watch tik toks together before nap time .
My parents were strict and kinda didn’t let me do or have anything . Few problems there . One I was sneaky and they didn’t always know where I was . Looking back that is sooo dangerous . I’d rather discuss potential issues with my kid and let her lead her own life while walking behind her . If she needs me I’m here .
Idk how to explain it but strict parents pose a huge threat to their children without even knowing it .
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I cringe that my teens watch TikTok. My 8yo isn’t getting near that shithole of a social media site, or an accessible device for that matter!
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I personally hate tik tok so my kids (9 &12) dont have tik tok. However I would never deny my kids from going to their friends’ house because that friend watches tik tok 
I feel like 8 is too young for a cell phone. If her friends are using tik tok I don’t see a problem with her participating as long as the other child’s parent closely monitors the activity.
My daughter is 8 we always to try to be straight forward with her about anything she wants to know and why shes not allowed to do anything. Grandma gave her a phone ( not active) but I set it up so I can control her phone from.mine. all she has on there is kids messenger kids YouTube and a few games. She can’t download anything without my permission and the phone locks itself if her 3 hour screen time is up and has a bedtime setting too. Now she does have tiktok on her phone. But I put her real age in the account and it limits what kind of videos she watches, she can’t make a video, no one can message or follow her and vise versa. Its usually the same videos over and over but we’ve told her why and she understands shes happy she gets to watch some videos atleast and I’m happy i can monitor it all
My son is 7 and I don’t allow him to have a tik tok or to have the app on his iPod, nor is it on my phone. That’s all the control I can have on my end, I can’t control what his friends at school and daycare are allowed to do.
No tik tok for my 8 year old !!!
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No. My daughter used to when it was just normal making music videos under my supervision but there’s too much that’s inappropriate on it now and more for adults, she hasn’t been allowed to use it now for a good while.
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It’s not a bad thing when monitored…kids can see things in this new age and make them creative. Y not put the app on your phone and yall go through it together? Bonding time, let her see what u don’t like about it and what u see as appropriate…bcuz eventually she is gonna see someone else’s tiktok…but she will know/think, “my mom says that not cool, let me tell or move around”
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I wonder if some of the parents that allow an 8 year old to use tik tok, has paid attention to what these children are actually seeing on that app. You sound like a well informed Mom. ( I would not let my 8 year old use tik tok either) not talking bad that some parents do, all should use their own judgement. Just remember that our young ones depend on use .
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I have 6 kids 4 boys 13 9 7 and 5 and 2 girls 4 and 2 and none of them are allowed to even watch the videos from tiktok I don’t like the app and it scares me to even let my kids watvh the videos
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You’ll have to play the cop mom for a while. My child wasn’t allowed to have any social media til she was 14. It gets very ugly and children can’t handle that. Also, there are many creeps and again children aren’t mature enough to ignore or report those creeps.
If and when you decide to let her have any social media you will have to be like a hawk and track her every move. Better safe than sorry.
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My daughter isnt allowed on it either. I do however allow her to watch the tik toks from youtube. That way she gets her fix of the dances but at the same time she wont be bothered by creeps. I’m more worried of the pervs than her wanting to dance so I think this is a good middle ground.
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My daughter is 9 and has her own phone and she is not allowed to have tik tok and she isn’t allowed to watch it anywhere even if she is at her friends houses.
Thank God my daughter was never interested in Tiktok. She didn’t get a phone till she started middle school only reason was due to her joining band. The band travels to competitions ,auditions,and band camp. She is 18 now. She still has rules for her phone. We pay the Bill,if she doesn’t like the phone rules then by all means get a job and pay the bill. Yes she has bucked on us a few times since she turned 18. After a few hours of her thinking about what we said. She will come to us and apologize and thank us for keeping her safe. She has her phone set that if she is driving it goes into drive mode. Eventually your daughter will realize what your doing is for her own good and safety.
My soon to be 11 year old has been asking for a phone. I told him his sister and brother both got phones in middle school, but with the way the schools are now, he can wait. He bugged for a bit. I firmly told him, if he asks about getting a phone one more time, he won’t get one until his senior year in high school. He hasn’t asked since. And no he is not allowed to watch tok tok. My 16 year old daughter NOW watches it. With me! My 14 year old son has no interest in it (thank God).
I have it on my phone and my kids love it. I skip stuff that has cussing, and put cute songs on their videos. They love it for some reason. I think their attention spans are short could be why.
My oldest is 7 he watches it with his aunt. I refuse to let him have phone or any social media accounts of any sort. Stand your ground momma 
the way i feel about it is Let Kids Be Kids
I am in the exact same situation , my daughter just turned 7. She got an iPad for Christmas and I will not let her get Tik Tok or any social media . She is too young, I don’t want strangers having access to her (even if it’s private) and honestly it can be addicting (I’m ashamed of how much I use it out of boredom). Her dad and I have split custody and he lets her use a private account . She literally ask everyday for me to approve the app and I just won’t . I’m sticking to my guns, maybe ina few years or so I’ll reevaluate it . I tell her her dad and I have different rules and if he wants to let her use his phone/iPad with social media thats on him, but I don’t allow it.
My 8yr old daughter isn’t allowed to have Tik Tok either… I know many of her friends do but we won’t be allowing that for awhile.
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Why do 8 year olds have cell phones?
My son is not allowed. They have no editing in it. He is 8
My daughter had a tiktok til I saw all the challenges going around… I know how peer pressure is and I like my kid better in one piece. So tiktok is a no no for us
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My 9 year old isn’t allowed on Tik Tok. There are too many perverts.
My child is 10 and is not allowed either . Don’t let peer pressure get to you
I’ve had this talk with my 7 year old daughter and she understands why I won’t allow her to be on tik Tok and she’s ok with it.
My kids 11 yr old boy and 9 yr old girl are not even allowed devices right now. And I monitor what they see at home. I am reminded to have a talk with them about whats ok to view and not ok.
Allow her to invite her friends to your house and keep them active instead of spending time in her room and on their phones.
Nope keep her off kids especially girls are seeing way to adult content
You aren’t holding her back, it’s way too much going on on these sites and especially for an 8 yr old
My daughter is 13 and will never be allowed til she’s out of the house
8 is to young for all that anyway
Mine is 11 definitely not and no roblox
My daughter is 10 and I have been the “bad mom” of the neighborhood since my daughter was 6 for the same reasons. IMO we are doing the right thing. They are only little once. They need to be kids and play outdoors, do crafts and use their imagination. Sometimes be bored. My daughter does crafts, Taekwondo, has tried gymnastics and cheer, took swim lessons, plays outside on her bike and trampoline. We cook together. The internet and those apps are a whole new world and can be dangerous. Too many predators. She will get there soon enough and I will be policing it like a dog. Plus once it is on the internet it can’t be taken back and will affect her future. My daughter has been bullied in school twice the first time was first grade- we moved after that. She was physically hurt everyday in gym at a private school and they did nothing. I don’t need mean kids bullying her on social media bc I choose a childhood for her instead of rushing her to her teenage years.
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I strictly monitor my children’s viewing of tik tok
My son is 11 and knows about Tiktok but is not alowed to have an account. Some of his classmates have one, but are watched by their parents. I told my son that some of the videos are rude, vile, or inappropriate content for his age. So he has never asked again. You are protecting your child, do what you feel is best for your child.
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My daughter is 7 and loves tik tok. I made myself an account and she watches on my account and posts on my account so that way I can monitor what she watches and what she post. She loves doing all those different dance trends. Her birthday party next weekend is even tik tok themed.
As long as you monitor what she does and makes sure she knows what’s right and wrong, I don’t think there should be an issue !
I feel like, the more you “shelter” your kids. As they grow up they will only do what you won’t let them behind your back 
so I pick and choose what I think would be okay, and let her try it out. If she messes up one time with it, there is consequences.
I don’t think you should completely shut out things that she could be into! Tik tok is not all bad !
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Sheltering your child is not always the best way either. It is a delicate balance these days. I worked in an elementary school you don’t want them learning bads things from friends and thinking it’s normal because it was never discussed at home. 8 year olds now a days know way more than we did back in the day. Very difficult balance for sure. Good luck.
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youYou are her mother! It is your job to protect her! Sometimes that is hard to do but stay the course and keep her from those influences! She may resent you but that will change later in life.
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My daughter is 13 nearly 14. No way I would allow her on tik tok. She has a phone, but no social media. My niece who is 18 months younger than my daughter has Instagram, snap chat and Tik Toc. I’m horrified of her stories of what she’s exposed to and some of the things she posts. So no I don’t feel pressure or guilt for holding my daughter back because others are allowed to have it. I feel confident I’m doing the right thing to sensor and protect her while so impressionable.
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I had my first phone at age 10. It was a simple flip phone. No internet whatsoever. She is too young to be on the internet like that. You have to be her parent, not her friend.
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Absolutely not, most parents let them have anything to keep them from bothering them…If you care about your child and you seem to. Do what you have to. to protect them. No one should care what other parents think.
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My daughter is 9. I allow tik Tok. She’s not allowed to post anything unless I see it first. I haven’t had any issues. It’s mostly dances she’s doing. Everyone is different regarding social media but for me she loves it and it makes her happy. Her grades are good and she deserves a little fun
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I used to let my 11 year old but don’t anymore. Too much content that isn’t suitable for 11 year olds. At least not my 11 year old. But I don’t judge other parents that allow it bc it’s none of my business and I used to allow it.
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I think social media is a delicate balancing act. When my daughter was younger I worried so much. Mostly about what she would come across and see before she is ready. You want but stop it completely but you definitely can reduce their access.
It is your job to protect your daughter, but it is bad for her mental health to isolate her that way. You are keeping her away from all her friends because she might watch TikTok? It’s hard enough for kids who don’t have access to friends at school and now she can’t see anyone outside of school either. If you don’t want her on TikTok, tell her friends’ parents that their playdate should be tech-free, but you can’t keep her shut away from the world forever.
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Wow! You should find a way to monitor her usage of Tiktok. Keeping her away from her friends because of this is extreme & cruel. You definitely are over protecting your child to the extreme & it’s just plain wrong! You are isolating your child & she will suffer for it. You can’t protect your child from the world & when she gets older she’ll be defiant just to try feel some form of freedom. I don’t agree with her looking at Tictok but taking things to this extreme is just wrong. By NOT allowing her to have friends like this you are taking away her rights to have a social circle & that’s just plain wrong!
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Not many are willing to be a parent today. I admire you and would encourage you to continue trying ti instill in your child the moral standard you are. This is not as someone said in an earlier comment “sheltering” your child. It is simply teaching them right and wrong, moral and immoral. Your daughter may not appreciate it now but one day she will. God bless you as you attempt to bring your daughter up to understand and respect what is good and decent.
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