FYI just realized Playboy and other porn magazines like from when I was a kid are a thing of the past. I have a 14, 13, and 10 year old son who were all introduced to porn hub by a friend. Luckily I caught it like 2 days later. Gotta have those real heart to hearts with the kiddos. Exposure isn’t the same as when we were kids.
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do what your motherly instincts tell you to do. It is your daughter and no one else is more qualified than you to make that decision. Follow your heart and not what everyone else is doing. It sounds like you are making right decisions.
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My daughter is 9. Does not have a phone. Does not have social media, no tik tok. Yes half her friends have all this. I don’t give a damn that she doesn’t. And I’m helping her not holding her back. She’s a child once. Soon enough she will be obsessed with a phone. No need to rush this garbage.
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Ypu can allow her, but of you do BE PRESENT. I don’t have tiktok, but I see the videos all the time om Facebook, or my friends at work show me.
Some of them are very inappropriate for children.
So if you do allow it, just be present while she uses it!
Be her mom now and friends when she is grown. When you feel that she can handle it fine but still keep a close watch on her So many people just give in. Do what your gut is telling you not your heart
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I don’t allow tik tok either but I just discuss stuff with them because I know their friends have it too. They are 7. 8. And 9. Unfortunately they are always going to learn bad things when they are away from it so I just try to help them with making the right decisions when with others.
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My son is 18 and my daughter is 15. I always balanced it out. They were allowed to pretty much do what they wanted as long as they weren’t doing anything bad or stupid. As for social media they knew not to talk to people they dont know in person. My kids pretty much knew what I would allow and what I wouldn’t. My son for some reason still asks my permission to leave with his friends even though hes 18 and works fulltime. I’m trying to get him to understand he dont have to ask lol he graduated high school and has 2 trades. I guess I got lucky lol. I would just watch her
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Just monitor what she watching and who she follows. Idk if you can set certain restrictions on it or not (as some apps will let you) but I wouldn’t be to strict and start keeping her from her friends as she will rebel and start doing things behind your back
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My daughter had a friend growing up that was not allowed to watch a lot on tv. They were things I didn’t mind like the rugrats but the girls loved each other so when she came over we didn’t turn on the tv. My daughter was fine with it. Maybe just ask? I wasn’t offended just different parenting styles.
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No. Just no. My daughter is 12. The main trend during the summer when she wanted an acct was the WAP dance. If you don’t know what WAP stands for look it up. How are we suppose to instill self worth, modesty and positive body image with them being inundated with influences such as these? I limit and protect where I can. We discuss and she knows why.
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I had an account a few years ago. I allowed my 11yr old daughter to watch videos that was ok w. And if she wanted to make a video she had to use a filter to distort her face. She’s not allowed to have any social media account until she’s 18. There’s way to much bullying and the like on line. I thinks it’s best she just it be associated w it.
I have 2 eight year olds and Tiktok is not allowed in our house at all. They have friends that have it but they are too trusting just yet.
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My parents were like you, I left before I turned 18.
My friends and their parents pitied me.
I also had a lot of responsibilities.
I’m not saying your rules arnt needed,a lot of that crap is stupid and does damage.
But you have to find a balance where the kids don’t resent you suppressing their ONLY CHANCE to feel freedom, fun, make memories they will never forget, because before they know it it’s all over
Either they have jobs move out pay bills, have an illness, get sick or their friends will and those slim chances those few years will be gone. And they will hate you for taking that from them
Teach them to be wise, alert and responsible
And to trust in you so when things go wrong and they need help which they will and they should so they can learn and grow as people they can rely on you to be there judgement free in a crisis .
I’m 30, I have 2 daughters and I can think of 3 years from 18-21 where I was able to have freedom and fun before it was all taken away again
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No, and we have let our daughters (she’s 9) friends parents know she is not allowed as well.
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That’s a hard no for me. My 11 year old son tries to watch it. He has a cell phone which is only connected to our internet. This is for him to use kids messenger to talk to his father. Hes not allowed to have any social media account which includes instagram, facebook, Twitter, and tik Tok. I caught him downloading it because his phone is attached to my google account and it let’s me know what’s being downloaded and when. Let’s just say, his phone was taken away for awhile and he no longer has tik tok. It’s not appropriate for children of any age to be using.
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Try not allowing your kid to have tiktok and then they go to their dads and they get to. It’s annoying. I can’t even say anything bc it’ll be a fight.
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I have a dear friend with 3 beautiful children. Not only beautiful, but kind, respectful, well mannered…I could go on…but they do not own a TV or let the kids play on computers. All 3 go to Christian school…they all have worked at the family business…and not one time, have I ever heard them complain…they enjoy each other as a family, they have family night with board games…so don’t think you are doing your daughter a disservice by saying NO…other parents should respect your wishes as well when she visits…there is so much more to life than tic toc!
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No, but it’s also a personal decision. I for one don’t, and my oldest is 10. And their one friend for overnight stays had tiktok removed after the Mom and I discussed it. I feel kike tiktok is an exhibition platform, and my kids also know why I won’t allow it beyond that. The best I can do is explain why I say no. If they’re old enough to ask, they’re old enough to know why I disagree.
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My daughter is 12 and has TikTok. I am on her friends list and closely monitor who she is friends with and what she posts, who can see her posts. I also explain why I do these things and go through them with her. If she doesn’t like it I will remove the app. This is true for all apps though not just TikTok.
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Id say you’re making the right choice right now. Limiting her interaction with the internet is smart! If she comes in contact with it at a friends just make sure she knows she can talk to you about anything! In case she hears or sees something inappropriate im pretty sure theres an age requirement as wel
Good for you I pray
Everyday to the Blessed Mother for the parents to teach the children respect and right and wrong it will to live for today
My daughter is 10 she has two older brothers. Ten years ahead of her. We did allow her with close supervision. I don’t regret it one bit. As a parent you have to make that decision nobody else. Praying for you to make the right decision for your family.
Omg 8 kids r growing up way to fast my son is 8 doesn’t even know what tik tok is I dnt even know lol all I know it’s not the best thing out there. He has an iPad that’s it…
My niece has tik tok she is 10 and she post all kind of nasty talking and songs and trying to get followers by bragging about being in my dads death announcement my sister doesnt care. She said not to tell her how to raise her kid my teen has it but she is 16
It’s a balancing act.
My parents kept me from seeing any of my friends, because they were worried that I would get into stuff over there, and I struggled to hold down a good job as an adult because I’m not good with social skills now.
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Shouldn’t be allowed on Tiktok until at least 13 and have parents monitoring watch they’re watching. I have the App myself, their is alot of distressing content for a child on the app.
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My children are grown, but I wouldn’t let them watch certain TV shows. Cell phones were something I didn’t think they needed until high school. I was trying to protect them. They would watch the shows at friends houses and there were times I didn’t know where they were. When they started driving, I bought them cell phones for my own sanity. They still learned respect and to this day show us respect. I agree with other commentators, it’s a matter of balance. You’ll know when it’s right for your child. Don’t limit her friends or she’ll just go behind your back. This will cause her to feel guilty and you’ll lose that close trusting relationship.
It’s a fine line walking that over protected parent to being the parent who isnt a parent at all it feels like there is no in between any more
Om one hand studies show protecting your children to a certain extent is good for them but then again when you keep them hidden from the world and all of its over sexualized glory it can usually be more harmful then good
8 is that golden age where they arent quite a big kid but they arent a baby
You know your kid better then anyone how mature your child is or how immature
You have to feel that line out working with your child and asking yourself do you trust your child obviously you want to say yes but honestly look at it like that
As well as the child’s friends you cant keep them away from all the bad influences
So the best you can do is know your child and have the talks with the child about what to do if presented with bad influences and how to handle it
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I struggle with this as well. I think that the best way is to introduce these things with you as a teacher. Try to take them through the ins and outs of a system with your help and relate to them why you feel so strongly against these things. They are going to live in a powerfully corrupt world even more so than it is now. They need to be properly armed with knowledge and family to fight the good fight and protect their hearts.
protecting your children is not holding them back. stay strong! I do not allow electronics, even for teens (I have foster children)…it is hard but it is best for them.
I agree 8 is too young for social media, however now a days people don’t have house phones and you never know if they have an emergency, they should know how to use a cell phone. Limited contacts. Mother father auntie and gram. Very important to teach them that.
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My 14 yr old has a phone his dad pays for so he has tik tok and if my husband and I had it our way, he would not but he is pretty responsible with it around our 3 other children. So we are ok with it fir now.
My husband has a tiktok and to be honest I don’t blame you for saying no. My son is 12 and asked for it but I know his maturity level is not ready for it so I told him no but I also gave him an explanation as to why I didn’t want him to have it. You can’t filter everything on there and some of that stuff is ridiculous! Maybe you could have her friends come over to your house but ask them to leave their phones at home? That way your kiddo can still hang with her friends. Good luck, parenting is hard!
I’ve let my daughter have it when she was 9/10 but I regret it in some ways. There’s no filter on there and while there is lots of fun tik toks and dances there’s also an equal amount that I’ve found that aren’t apporiate for her age. Also if she still believes in santa etc she won’t for long on here. So it’s a hard one really but you have to go with your instincts because only you know your child. Why not let her watch tik toks on youtube? I’ve found they are more censored. I wouldn’t stop her going to her friends house though for a few hours as I think this would have a worse effect then watching a few tik toks
Whether or not you like or allow it is beside the point. Your her parent first not her friend.
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Mine are older now but I was the same way when Facebook was the big thing and none of them got a cell phone until they were 13
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I’m just speaking from experience on this my 15 and 8 yr old arent allowed to have tik tok because when I did allow the 15 yr old to there were so many perves that were messaging her rather horrible things. not kids grow ass men. talking about the sexual things they wanted to do to her. her account was deleted and they were reported not just to tic tok but also the police. neither allowed on there for any reason. as a parent please keep your kids safe there is also another one kind of like tic tok that is horrible. there phone and tablet are linked into my phone so everything comes to me dont feel bad for being there parent hun. and before anyone has anything to say yes I put a stop to it as soon as I seen it it wasn’t bad parent or out of control teen she wasn’t commenting or messaging back.
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I’m 60 and my friend sends me things from tic toc, some are funny but some just has all that cussing in it. I don’t like listening to that and I sure wouldn’t want my 8 yr old either.
I have an 11 year old. She is not allowed social media. Period!
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My daughter is 13 and she’s not allowed anything but fb messenger kids that way I can monitor who she is talking to
I do not have children , but I have seen what gets posted on tic-toc , and it gets nasty and vile. Parents think it’s cute seeing young girls do hip-hop dancing moves , and the kids most likely do not see it as “dirty dancing” , but it is. These kids become “prey” to those wishing to do them harm. Please people , keep your kids away from this lifestyle , it could save your daughter or son from being raped , molested , or murdered ! It’s NOT cute to see a young child doing a dance move that implies sex. Should they be taught , yes , but there is a time and place ( and age to learn the complete truth about sex and love , not just how babies are made ) for it. Teach them some electric slide , clean disco , etc dance moves.
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It your child, raise her your way but I can say if you don’t teach them and keep them shelter, they will learn the wrong way from the wrong people
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I stumbled on a video of a guy that blew his head off live right here on facebook… Do you want to see that? Do you want your child to see that? I didn’t even want to see it!! 8 year old is way too young to be exposed to all that craziness. I am glad I didn’t have to deal with all that when my child was growing up. The choices were tv or outside.
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Stand strong she will thank you when she is older my children did.
It’s ok. I’m the type of mother that I would rather no association than bad association. You’re teaching her to be selective, she doesn’t get it now but she will later on. Also, no 8 year old should be on tik tok. Don’t feel bad about your decisions or how you want to raise your kids. Even here with this question. If you don’t feel it’s right then you don’t need anyone else’s opinion or input because this insecurity on your decision she will see too and she will use it to disobey you at any opportunity she gets and try to rationalize it. Tik tok is full of things an 8 year old doesn’t have the maturity to process. That being said, substitute her desire for tik tok for something else like maybe YouTube kids. There are millions of channels on YouTube she might enjoy and actually learn from. I wish you the best
It will happen anyways. You almost cant stop it. You can however regulate it strickly. I have 5 kids all under 11. Ive never had an issue. If your on top of your kids phone usage it shouldnt be an issue.
I too feel 8 is too young, it’s not appropriate. I keep my 12 yr old off. I try with my 14 yr old, gone so far as to take all electronic devices from her.
I decided early on that most of my kids’ friends’ parents were probably clueless, well-meaning idiots. I know that sounds harsh, but I didn’t feel like those parents had values that complemented and supported our family’s values. When mine were young, it was six and seven year olds singing “Genie In A Bottle,” “Oops, I Did It Again” and “(Hit Me) Baby, One More Time” and dressing g like miniature 23 year olds. I declined to participate.
You are doing the right thing.Teach her not to follow the crowd…she will be a better person for it.
My kids didn’t get cell phones u til JR high school when they started to stay after school for sports and then it was just a phone for texting and calls. When they got to high school I let them
Get a smart iPhones. They could get FB account when 13 and that was just on home computer and snap chat when they was 14:) kids these days get smart phone at such a young age:(
My step son is 9 and we don’t allow him to watch tiktocs anymore, but he also has difficulty differentiating between what’s real and whats a skit or a joke, so it was a decision we based solely on his maturity level. Every kid is different on what they are able to handle.
My daughter is 11. She knows about it and watches the kid friendly YouTubers “react” to tik toks…BUT I’ve also shown her some of the more f**ked up (to an extent) things from tik tok and told her about other things I won’t show her. She knows exactly WHY she can’t be on it. Don’t give your kids rules without reasoning🤷🏻♀️
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8 is too you g even for a cellphone my kids were 14 when they got a cellphone and 15 when I allowed them any kind of social media I also randomly check what they are doing on the phones and messages
My kids don’t get phones until they go places without me. I never bought video games. If the wanted a PS 4, they had to buy it. They also do not go to friend’s houses without me. People are crazy nowadays and we need to protect our children.
U are the parent my 10 yr old want phone and be on top top. I don’t allow just because other kids are doesn’t mean ur needs to. I explain her and she know not allowed. That all u need to do if broken than u give consequences. The other parent should let ur kid do stuff there not allowed to do. I would talk parent
One wants to protect their children but you can’t be with them every minute. They will come into contact with social media even if you ban it. In fact, banning it will likely drive them to seek it out that much more. You have made it taboo and they will be curious on that basis alone. I say let her use it supervised by you under an acct in your name. Not all content on it is bad. Let it be an experience you can share with her. Make it bonding time by watching things together.
Get your kids doing something that stimulates their imagination and also things that get them off their backsides and moving about. Childhood obesity is rampant in this country and kids cannot think for themselves.
As a retired Pediatric RN and having seen 9-11 year old kids have to have gastric bypass surgery as they and their parents failed at any other form of getting the weight off. 4’8” girls should not weigh 320 pounds. But the mom failed her again after the surgery and bought her HAppy Meals as she cried wanting one. Busted her pouch open requiring emergency surgery. Parent your children and quit being their friend
Tic to has some pretty graphic stuff on it. Not appropriate for 7 year olds. Not appropriate for this old lady.
My daughter use to have tiktok until that one video of a man comitting suicide went around. Im glad i am active on social media so I knew about it before she saw it. Since then tiktok has been banned for her. So the only thing she has now is kids messenger and all her contacts have to be added by me. So she can only talk to my mom, my grandparents and my husbands mom, dad and grandparents. And she can only do that because all of them are out of state
If you want your kid to have an onlyfans and mental issues by the time they’re 18 then go ahead and let them use it.
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My 13 year old has a new phone. She got it for Christmas and will be 14 in a few weeks. I have the password and can and will ask for her phone at random.
I as a grandmother have a granddaughter same age and wonder too about this site
No way, I see what my granddaughter posts, lol, but she’s 28!
The internet is the new normal, for the rest of our kids lives. Teach internet responsibility young and you are good.
Are you doing that with a goal of protecting your child? Yes? Well then no ones opinions matter
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At 8 she is too young and become a victim!
Watch the movie social dilemma on net flix. Eye opening. All these companies are mind control. The algorithm are tracked and they they are subliminally seducing our children. CEO that have left these platforms are interviewed and it is jaw dropping.
As much as you want your daughter be apart of things Tik tok is really corrupt and can be hacked easily. Maybe let her get a different kind of social media and explain the dangers of tik tok.
My daughter just turned 12. No phone. No tic tok. No social media. She has devices but there are things she’s just not allowed to do
Pedos are now on all these platforms and can be hard to trace. I have friends whose kids were victims…mine will not even have a cell til much later.
My daughter is 9 and has an account. But it’s also on my phone so i can see everything she does.
—Part of being a parent. Just because others can, doesn’t make it right. You go Mom!!!—
And people wonder why their kids turn out the way they do by allowing them to interact like this on a phone at that young age…
3 of my 4 kids have tik tok but mine are also all teenagers. At age 8 my kids only had unactivated cellphones for wifi use only but I don’t think tik tok was a thing then.
Nope. None of my kids do any kind of social media. They are 16,13 and 8.
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Well I say she’s going to run away from home, because she feels it’s not fair to her and now she has NO friends because of you. Aren’t there parental controls over things like tik tok? where you can block it and have a password? Just saying.
Yep my 9 year old has a one my 5 and 4 also does i find it harmless just check daily what there posting
My daughter was 15 before I allowed her to get social media. Don’t regret it.
My granddaughter doesn’t have an account either
I didn’t aow unsupervised internet or cell phone until my daughter was grown in the late 1990s. I’m appalled at was is allowed today for minds not mature enough for the exposures. Stand your ground. You are the parent and your child’s lifeline.
Your child is to young to have a cell phone or any social media access.
My 11 year old son is not allowed to have it either!
Im 19 live on my own and im not allowed to have tiktok (because I think its stupid and full of 16 year old who think they’re “sexy” )
Mine are 8 and 10 and not allowed. We have to protect our kids
My daughter deals with the same. I have no advice.
Ya, not happening. None of the kids are allowed. And won’t be until they are teens and even then it will be HEAVILY monitored
Well you are the parent so if you say no then no it is…
No tik tok. YouTube is only chances that I have chosen and approved, same with any apps it needs a password to download anything or watch.
You set the rules and boundaries for your child.
Stand your ground mom. You are doing fine. 8 years old is too young for any type of social media.
No! my kids are 13 and absolutely not!
First of all why should a 8 year old have a cell phone.>
Many parents today are too liberal and let that could do with they want its said
I was so excited when they were banning the app. I hate it. But it didnt happen so I just delete the app off the phones and tablets. Not in my house. I cant control their friends or daddys house but no go in my home
My kids have tiktok they are 12 -16 they love it it’s never been any problem for us or the kids…they got facebook Instagram it’s all good
My son is 6 and watches with me
The person in this chain of emails that thinks children shouldn’t be sheltered is a teacher.
Be careful! Have you sat with her and explained your reasons? You need to do that!!
My daughter is nearly 10 and doesn’t have any social media.
Age restriction on the app is like 13-16, but apparently somehow it’s tiktok’s fault for underage users being on there.