Being only one they’re in a mimicking stage, they’ll copy everything they see. If your concerned you need to bring this up to your bf since 1 year old isn’t old enough to ask what is happening. It’s better safe than finding something crazy out later on once damage has been done.
I’m not saying anything is happening but I’d rather you remove the situation before something does
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Go with your gut…get her away from your family.
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She needs to go period. Go with your gut.
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You need to get rid of that girl and take that baby to a dr to be checked over! You got one shot at doing the right thing by him and the others!!
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She needs to GO!! Trust your instincts as a mother. The fact that you two have argued about the rules you have for your son is a problem.
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Boot her ass out. You don’t know this woman and men aren’t the most reliable when it comes to judging who should be around their children. But if you’re not wanting to be hasty. Keep a close on her. Get a nanny cam. But you shouldn’t be feeling uncomfortable in your own home and this woman should not be getting into it with the pregnant woman who’s house she resides in.
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If she makes you uncomfortable and you dont like her, get her out. You are the Mama and if you ain’t happy, nobody will be. Just trust your instincts and get her gone. May not be anything at all going on, but her being there is apparently causing you mental distress, and you are a mommy, you dont need that, especially in your own home. Hope it all works out!
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It could be her but my kid goes thru phases.
He saw my husband and I kiss on the mouth. Then wanted to do the same.
I won’t bc I get cold sores and I can tell my husband to kiss me on the cheek. My kid won’t understand and automatically go for my mouth EVERY TIME.
Everyone has their reasons. As far as I know my parents don’t mouth kiss him but monkey see monkey want.
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Calm down. Babies/toddlers go through a very oral stage, like puppies. They chew, taste, bite…whatever, it’s normal. This is a normal stage of life. Don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions.
And don’t judge parents for kissing on their children and we won’t judge you for not having your 3 older kids live with you.
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There’s not a single period……. 
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Sounds like normal 1 year old behaviour to me 
…All these comments are strange…
The weirdest thing about this is not that it just so happens to tie in with this random moving in but that you just moved a random in, full stop? Clearly know nothing about her? Not cool that you argue over difference of opinion over YOUR child but your kids behavior isn’t bc she’s being inappropriate, it’s bc it’s normal baby/toddler behavior. Tell her where to shove it with her opinion on whats right and wrong for your child, of course but his behavior caused by her? Doubtful…
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All the behavior you describe can be very normal. I have 4 kids too, my daughter tried to bite and suck my toes! 
Sounds like you need to have a talk with your boyfriend. If you don’t get along with this woman, she should probably find another place to live?
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You need to move her out! If you never had this problem before, your child is learning things from someone. If your gut tells you something is off, it is. Trust a mothers intuition
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Why is this lady in your home if you do not like her? No bish would be in my house especially if I didn’t like them. 
Anyway kids do mimic but who am I to know what goes on in the home. I would first, set up cameras and if after watching the footage and nothing happens then talk with your child about what he is doing is wrong. If something is being done then take action.
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Honestly this just sounds like teething to me, licking, biting, and sucking on everything in sight is how they try to relieve their pain.
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Wtf did I just read? It sounds to me like you’re the one making it weird! Any mother that thinks it’s not appropriate to kiss their one year old baby on the mouth is coming from a place that I cannot relate to. Why do u let some strange woman u don’t know live in your house? That’s the real question. Girl bye.
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If she’s arguing with you with how you raised your son and you’ve welcomed her into your home. It’s time for her to go
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Yeah babies don’t have foot fetishes or any kind of fetish. Tf… kids put all sorts into their mouths.
Also absolutely nothing wrong with parents kissing their kids on their mouth if you read into that in an inappropriate way then it says more about you than anything especially when your sexualising everything your toddler is doing
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Get some spy cams before you jump to conclusions
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Your choice of wording is very… strange. Who says their 1 year old has a foot fetish???..
Anyways… I would take a step back and evaluate your situation. Have a conversation with your boyfriend and the other lady, and go from there.
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I just typed up a huge commment but i deleted it to simply say GO WITH YOUR GUT! if your boyfriend has issues with you wanting her gone… there is obviously some underlying reason!
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Definitely trust ur gut especially with ur child… even if its nothing happening always better safe than sorry from experience kids do weird things … they experiment just like we do but it doesn’t mean it wasn’t shown either hope u figure it out mama
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It sounds as if she’s molesting the kids. I would love her out ASAP
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Your kid sounds like my son it’s definitely not the lady but I’m sorry your child is going to do alot more weird shit I know mine has certainly shocked me so many times with the weird shit he does
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That fact that you’re uncomfortable in your own home because of a guest is enough reason to tell her that her time is up. I’d also have a talk with my significant other and inform him of your decision. He decided to let her in, you’re deciding to tell her to leave 
. You don’t owe anyone an apology or explanation when it comes to your home and who’s allowed in it or why they aren’t.
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So kids are weird…but they also learn what they see…regardless of proof or not, it’s your piece of mind, you don’t need to explain…just give notice in writing of your request for her to move out, politely say, You guys have chosen to move forward with a roommate. Trust your gut.
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Sounds like she needs to leave. But if you want actual evidence get a nanny cam and watch what happens when your not around 
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Mother figure to who??? Your boyfriend or your kid! If it’s for your child aren’t you the mother figure? If it’s for him that’s just plain weird!! Why only one out of our four live with you and now you are pregnant with number 5!?? So many questions lol
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Listen to your gut. There are times in my past I wish my parents would’ve listened to theirs. Get that lady away from your baby and your family. Her arguing with your parental boundaries is a giant red flag
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Don’t ever leave her alone with your child. And just to be safe either she has to move out, or you do 
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You not liking her is reason enough to get her out! Add to that the chance that she is influencing your baby in a bad way is beyond what you should have to endure! Get her out!!!
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As for the tongue in mouth. My kid did the same thing. Tried to slober me and he does it to show affection. The toes… yes he’s done that several times at that age and Eventually stopped. But I’m really not understanding how your able to tolerate someone you don’t like in your home . We need to start there considering your having one on the way and your uncomfortable.
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Ummmm no. She needs to get out or you get out.
I worked for a law firm where one of the cases was where the young toddler daughter started showing signs like this (kissing with tongue). Come to find out dad was molesting their daughter on his time.
Sexual behavior like that typically means sexual abuse. I was molested by a cousin as a child. Get out and get him a child therapist where they can do play therapy and get to the bottom of this.
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Is this real!?!???!!! I would never agree with a woman moving into my house. Not out of jealousy or anything like that. I have had live ins before even family. The stress is unbearable and people will purposely teach and or allow your child to things you would never allow them to do and also do it out of hate. Sounds like you need to get rid of both of them and you and your child will be fine.
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Just get a nanny cam and catch her while your not around if you think something is going on. All kids are different
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It sounds like your over thinking what your son is doing. My daughter is almost 2 and she did the same thing since she was maybe 1. She doesnt do it as often cause she understands now when i tell her not to put her tongue out when she kisses lol but as far as feet i thinks thats all kids. My daughter plays with everybody’s feet. She has bit mine a few times when i was laying on the couch. I really think all kids go through that and they grow out of it. As far as the lady i can only say follow your gut. Get cameras for inside your house. Indoor cameras are cheap and some of them you dont have to pay monthly plans. U get like 7 days of playback clips without a plan. Or just tell her she cant live there anymore.
She needs to go!! Something is up! Most of those behaviors are learned from someone else… just saying. Coming from a mother who’s two daughters were abused under my nose many years ago. Hugs
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I love how people are laugh reacting but there’s predators EVERYWHERE. You can’t trust anyone not even family. She may not be doing anything but there’s nothing wrong with her noticing these things and being concerned
First things first! She has NO BUSINESS getting into any argument with you over YOUR CHILD! Secondly as a mother learn to listen to your instincts! I’m not saying she is doing anything or you should even accuse her of anything. But if you are uncomfortable then she needs to go.
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If you don’t like her then why is she living in your house?? Make her leave simple
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Put a camera that may help and than you’ll really know… my youngest was completely over in love with I have woken up to his hand down my shirt my boobs my boobs mom I would look at him NO Marquez that’s mom private area he would grab my face squeeze my face I love you mom MOM I LOVE YOU I would say Marquez mama loves you too but be nice… my twin boys where never like that ever… thankfully my youngest is almost 12 and don’t do any of that any more but it went on for years and me trying to sit down with him… being 1 years old a little harder for sure I would just put a camera and hope that it’s nothing
You need to put it all out there for your boyfriend and this woman. Draw a line that is not to be crossed. Do not let it be crossed. I know it’s weird but I know someone who was forced to suck her grandma’s toes and fingers when she was young. From a toddler up. It’s just weird! Make sure this isn’t going on. Keep that baby safe.
WOW, first trust your instincts, you have them for that purpose. Children pick up and act on everything they see and hear. Children are very curious and will get into everything, but certain things are a learned behavior …monkey see, monkey do…trust those instincts.
You getting these signs can be your chance to protect your child in the few ways a parent can. The fact that these are all sudden at the same time is SIGNIFICANT. She needs to leave immediately and you need to see a pediatrician and tell them what you are worried about. The fact that you are pursuing this issue shows that right now in this moment, you are being the best advocate for your child. I can’t believe how many people have the innability to focus here on the question at hand!
You absolutely should trust your gut! I also find it weird when kids kiss their parents on the lips especially as older children…also…germs! But not all people are like that so they may have learned it somewhere, maybe even the store or daycare. I would maybe call your local dept of child’s and family and see if they can look up to see if she’s on the abuse registry or sustanciated for abuse previously. You can also talk to your Pedi about it as well,
Are you leaving the child alone with her
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RIGHT!! I have three and a baby that is 1 and he comes at ya like a shark with the bites but NEVER ever had him tried to suck of my toes. 
but I guess toes aside, if you think something is going on don’t just let other people tell you to brush it off!! All these things together aren’t normal behavior
Hard to say really. Trust your gut. I have an 18 month old and he started laying on his belly with his hands under him and “humping” I guess you could say. He also has licked me face and tried to lick my tongue if I stick my tongue out at him playing around.
My 2yr old girl touches her butthole at LEAST 5 times a day She also reaches into my shirt and twists my nipples (She was breastfed)… The more I try to discourage the behavior, the more she does it. No advice. Kids are weird.
I don’t know about the tongue issue but little son had a foot fetish for awhile. He would go back and forth in of a stranger like he was shark. If your toes were painted even better. And a toe ring drove him nuts! He wanted to put their foot on his belly and didn’t ask. I was freaked out but he grew our of it. I wanted to share my experience with you. Bless you
Kissing a child on the lips isnt weird or sexual until somebody makes it sexual. Kissing is a form of affection. Not all affection is sexual. We give Eskimo kisses and butterfly kisses. Judge me if u will but I kiss my kids on the lips. Ive also licked them both. On several occasions ive licked the whole side of their faces cuz thats how the cow kisses. Its funny. Its not weird unless someone makes it weird. And when babies r first learning to kiss u back its usually a lot of slobber and sometimes tongue.
Uhm babies give open mouth kisses for a while lol I’ve been licked and slobbered on at the very last moment many times. They learn as they age that they need to close their mouth but they’re babies… let them be innocent for a while
It’s hard to say. My three year old gives smooches but usually it’s just a peck when her dad leaves for work at night or if it’s bedtime and she gives kisses and hugs. She sees me and her dad kiss so it’s just a thing but sometimes she’ll grab my face and try to kiss kiss me and I’m like no that’s gross that’s not how we kiss. If she is saying bye to her cousins she’ll kiss them on the cheeks or just hug because we’ve taught her you don’t just kiss anyone any type of way. I’d definitely keep an eye out I know why my daughter does it every once in a blue moon but if you don’t know why they’re doing it and that they just started doing it around the time she moved in I’d pay extra attention. You can also use this as an opportunity to teach your child that you can’t do that and it’s not appropriate even if they’re real young. Teach what is inappropriate to be doing to others and what is inappropriate for someone to do to them. I was abused my whole life so my daughter knows that people aren’t allowed to touch her anywhere private and she isn’t allowed to touch anyone else in their private places. And if your child is really young they won’t know what’s even going on if something is happening.
I’ve been around a lot of infants and toddlers. These things seem pretty normal for a 1 year old. Not all kids go through these stages, as it’s most likely sensory differences. Both of my kids practically tried eating my face at 10 months. Oldest went through a “humping” phase at around 1 1/2. My younger one will try sucking or biting toes, fingers, or anything else he can get to.
If you don’t want her there, then talk to your boyfriend and ask her to leave. It seems strange to automatically assume she’s the reason your kid is doing these things, especially since I’m assuming you don’t leave your kids alone around her since you don’t trust her.
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I’ve not read the comments here but I’d do a hidden camera. I really would. We have a clock one that goes to our phones. Looks just like a digital clock. If you didn’t know it had a camera you wouldn’t know. Sound too. Trust your gut. And tell her it’s time to go. Better to be safe than sorry mama.
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I wouldn’t really say that was normal behaviour for a kid but they do copy things they see and hear for sure. I wouldn’t be too happy with what your kid is doing to be honest. Something has happened somewhere for your kid to be repeating that stuff. I would have my eyes and ears well and truly open.
My almost 2 year old does this all the time. We don’t normally kiss or whatever in front of our kids but he just has this thing about licking things 
Each kid is different so it may be a sensory thing with him.
I wouldn’t presume the worst about someone just because she exists in the same space as your family.
However, if you have a gut feeling that something is amiss regarding this roommate, definitely address it and see what’s up.
My 2year old bites everyones toes. He kisses me on the mouth. He’s very affectionate. Relax. He’s being a toddler.
1, I would never have anyone I don’t personally know in my house even to visit let alone move in, 2, take your son to the doctor and explain your fears to the doctor so your son can be checked over, 3, if the doctor finds anything even vaguely suspicious you have your answer about whether this woman who may or may not be old enough to be a grandmother is being inappropriate with your son
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I think the real question is why are leaving your child alone with someone you don’t actually know and trust? She’s a stranger she could do anything to him. The biting, sucking, mouth stuff is probably teething but still, the rest does not sound right. Stop letting her be alone with him or buy cameras that record like ring.
My one year old does all those things. I think its pretty normal behavior. If the lady is making you uncomfortable, tell her to kick rocks!
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Ok I have two questions here. First off if you’re uncomfortable with this woman you should never be leaving your son alone with him so I’m wondering is he ever alone with her? Also what kind of sleeping situation are you in with a one year old that you’re waking up with him by your feet?? And let me be clear I’m 100% ok with co sleeping (and I know kids move around typically they get they’re feet In Your face) but I’m not sure it’s safe to co sleep at one if they’re head is somehow ending up by your feet? But outside of all that to answer your question you should never let someone you’re not comfortable with live in a house with you and your kids, doesn’t matter if you’re overreacting your boyfriend needs to be behind you on that. Period. Always better safe than sorry when it comes to your children
Open mouth kisses are a very common thing for all babies especially around that age all four of my children have tried to stick their tongue in my mouth they don’t get it they’re learning
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My toddlers try to bite/lick my toes all the time. I don’t kiss my kids on the lips either but they still occasionally try. Kids do wierd things. Especially young ones
For these circumstances especially, id say trust your instincts! Its better to be safe than sorry! I see other people are saying dont assume, but you could still avoid accusations & just tell her she needs to leave. You dont need to give her any explanation.
Usually, it’s something kids have seen briefly on tv or a movie. I mean, there’s even a kiss scene in Frozen!
Just correct the child and let them know we don’t do that (if you guys don’t).
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No need to worry Mama’s. Babies will do things that we think are not normal. They explore and do things that feel good. It is completely normal. Now if he was to start doing full blown out sexual things like you already know. I am not going into detail. That’s when you need to start worrying.
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The behavior and things you’ve mentioned sound normal. Although if you do not feel comfortable with this lady I’d tell her she needs to find a new place
Mothers intuition! Always listen to the warnings in your head when it comes to your babies. Mine are 24 and 19 and I still have that connection… even they are ten hours away and grown and married
Kids do this. It’s normal. Now if she is doing this to your kid. Then it’s weird and she gotta go.
Comments are right. You havr the right to make her leaves and if you’re biyfriend doesn’t agree with you then make him leave too. Lol.
Babies loves to suck EVRYTHING & ANYTHING. My daughter’s playing with my nipples like a man everytime she doodoo. Hahaha and please don’t judge us parents who kiss their child. Mine is a good kisser I guess. She also loves to slip her tongue on mine or sometines bie my lower lip. 
and its funny
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I honestly think people need to stop saying “it’s just a phase” … “they go through that stuff during that age” …
“You’re just making excuses” ect…
I was told they same damn thing. Took my ONE YEAR OLD DAUGHTER to the hospital to get looked at because she came back from a family members house doing stuff that she’s NEVER done before.
Come to find out my baby was touched.
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS go with your gut feeling.
My son had a weird thing with feet where he’d try to suck on my toes or bite my feet. I’ve also dealt with him trying to lick my face and mouth. I guess it’s “normal” for some children to go through that. As he’s gotten older I’ve realized he’s a very hands on learner. He has to experience things in allot of ways to fully understand them so looking back allot of his odd little quirks make sense. I haven’t dealt with humping though the only time I’ve seen children do that is being exposed to it in some type of way. Sadly one of my little brothers watched his uncle assault his wife at a young age and that was one of habits that came after. One of my other brothers had a fascination with dogs and his aunt had a male and a female Chihuahua when they started mating my littlest brother started humping people’s legs.
I would insist this woman does not spend time alone with your child as you’re already uncomfortable with her. I wouldn’t allow her much access to my baby as she can’t follow your preferences he is your child and not hers so you have all the say.
I would also take your child to the doctor just to make sure something happened before going and accusing her as it really could just be his way of learning.
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You should have your boyfriend ask her to move out I would be nervous worried bout this, it’s not like this kinda stuff don’t happen cause it does all the time, sex offenders, pedifiles
Bring any odd behavior up to your pediatrician. However my daughter at that age tried to bite and suck on toes cause of teething. It’s not a foot fetish. I also had one year olds I’ve babysat and had in the daycare I worked at that would rotate or “hump” as they went to sleep was nothing going on. My daughter plays with her hair and ears. My daughter also has tried open mouth kissing cause she’s seen me and daddy do that. She will also open her mouth as wide as she can and shove our mouth inside hers cause she finds it hilarious
My 3 year old sone does the hump thing when he is sleeping too. Just keep an eye on it momma. It may just be a phase.
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Always go with your gut…it may not be sexual or anything but it could just be like a bad feeling about the person or situation…hope this makes sense 
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A mom’s opinion: get that woman out of the house now. And take your son to the pediatrician to check for signs of abuse. If your boyfriend doesn’t agrees, he can go too & tell him why.
Go with your gut, it’s a scary world with some very messed up people. Even if there is a small chance something is happening you should get her out of there
I would jump to your bf cheating on you and kissing her in front of your kid before I would jump to her molesting your child. Also, if you don’t like her why in the hell would you ever leave your child alone with her to begin with?
Also, as far as I know those are pretty normal oral fixations for a child their age. And my child “humps” things all the time because I laughed ONE TIME so now she thinks it’s hilarious. You have a boy…he probably does it because it feels good. That’s normal. He’s too young to understand it’s more then that.
If your gut is telling you something listen to it. Especially with the odd behaviour. I would talk with your bf and make it clear she needs to go. And talk with your childs dr to make sure
My daughter is 2 and still tries to attack my toes and often tries to lick my entire face
But if your gut is telling you something is up, it’s worth at least looking into. Better to overreact and find out it’s just normal kid behavior than to brush it off and miss something serious.
Kid gets molested. Public: she should have known because her kid was doing weird stuff.
Mom is worried that kid is doing weird stuff. Public: you’re wrong for being concerned about kid doing weird stuff.
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It sounds very normal to me but ultimately if you have a bad feeling and want her gone then give her the boot
Trust your gut get her out immediately and don’t look back. Maybe something is going on maybe nothing is going on but she needs to go.
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Listen to your gut mama your mamas intuition is usually right and never leave your kids alone with anyone unless you trust them with their life and your own period
Always trust your gut! If you feel somethings wrong, then that child out of there.
Trust your gut. Maybe she isn’t doing anything wrong to your children, but she is disrespectful to you in your own home. You are the mother, and you and the father are the ones who get to make decisions regarding your child, not her. I’d tell her to kick rocks 
My son opened mouth kissed me from the time he was like 8 months up! But the other stuff Idk
Kids and babies do that all the time. If you’re uncomfortable id just ask her to leave.
Um no! There is something going on in front of ur son!! He is mimiking what he’s seeing done! Get that woman out! Ur bf and her most likely have something going when ur not around!
So I didn’t wanna kiss my daughter on the lips I am actually a germaphobe so I tried hard to get her to kiss on the cheek she does better now but she will still try to kiss me on the lips and stick her tongue out sups gross and I actually think she does it to fuck with me cause she laughs her ass off everytime she gets me she has also started constantly trying to touch herself which I am ready to start spraying her with a water bottle I won’t but I hate that she does it especially because some people are creeps so I don’t want her to do that infront of people toddlers do explore themselves so its not that weird neither is kissing the face the humping seems off but my kiddos and my nephew all try to suck or sniff my toes which 
so gross so thats pretty normal the humping seems odd tho if you are truly concerned put those nannie cams around that look like somem else you can even get ones that look like smoke alarms
Women are always put down for what a boyfriend or father has done to the children, but you letting a perfect stranger live around your children is no better. You need to wake up to the fact that its weird your man wants another woman in your home. Omg.
I would ask her to make other living arrangements. Why would your boyfriend allow someone else to live in your home without consulting you, that’s not right!
If your gut is telling you something is off, listen to your gut. Especially if you notice any inappropriate behavior around your son. Then she’s be on the street immediately.
you should learn to not mom shame if you don’t wanna get shamed back tho. i wouldn’t be surprised if you don’t have any friends with that shitty judgmental attitude
Your judging parents for kissing their kids on the lips but I’m judging you for not having 3 of your 4 kids.
Trust your gut…don’t ever leave her alone with the child and she doesn’t even a say in how your child is raised. If your boyfriend has an issue with you setting these boundaries then too bad. This being said your child is 1 and they do weird things.
If you’re suspicious, set up cameras everywhere without telling anyone. If you’re really that uncomfortable with her being g around. Ask her to leave.
I would get rid of the boyfriend and the woman for obvious reasons you don’t have your other kids so do the right thing to save this child from being taken away ! Hell no never ever trust anyone with your kids people especially let a stranger move in no boyfriend is worth loosing your kid over because your the parent and if anything is happening your going to be at fault to💯!
so ur 12 month old is sucking ur toe and it makes him have a foot fetish? NONE of this post sits right at all with what in all God’s name in goin on at that house