I was 35 when I met and shortly married my 42 year old husband. His youngest and my oldest were the same age, and we’ve done great! Married 32 years and it was the best thing we both could have done. However, even to get to any stage, you need to go out with him. I found out his likes and dislikes and I made sure he knew mine. Once we knew each other’s ground rules, it was easy to move forward. And he’s always had my back since the day we decided to marry.
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I have almost 4 and almost 9 year old, my partner has 3 older kids 15-20 so huge age differences and
My partner is 38 and I am almost 27 so theirs a few years between us.
I’m happiest ive ever been, he’s amazing with my kids and I love his kids. We’re a very happy family.
Always do what you think will be good for you girl and make you happy!
Go on the date. It can’t hurt. The worst case is that you don’t click in person. And I understand the feeling of feeling like your kids are baggage. If any man makes you feel like your kids are baggage, dump him! Kids aren’t baggage. They are a package. My son and I are a package deal. And luckily my amazing boyfriend sees it the same way. And he enjoys having my son around too. This man knows you have younger children, and he still wants to go on that date. Just go and have fun!
Honestly the age difference is not that great at your age. The only issue I see is he’s a retired military man and might have stronger idea about discipline than you do and you have a young child and a baby. You would need to be very very sure your in the same page as he is with discipline raising children. Pay close attention to his relationship with his kids. Get to know his kids. What kind of a father do they say was. Take things slow and go on a few dates but also include outing with the kids now and then if things work out. Maybe he’s just a fun boyfriend for now?
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I am 12 and a half years older than my husband and we have been married almost 29 years
When I married him in 1992 I had three children
My oldest was 19 the next one down was 16 and the little one was just 6, I felt the same as you that I had all this baggage I had two failed marriages behind me too
And my husband now had no children and had never been married
The comments I had were terrible and from people who supposedly cared
Telling me it wouldn’t last
But here we are all these years later and age means nothing he’s been a brilliant dad and granddad and father in law but most of all he’s loved me and protected me
Over the years my health has deteriorated and I have to use a wheelchair but he helps me with everything
So don’t worry about numbers take things one step at a time
Do not let anyone discipline your children or make rules in your home you do what you’ve always done
The time for others to discipline your children is when they have known them well enough to love them and then they discipline with kindness
And you children will then respect them and care about them
This was a rule I put in place when I got married and it’s really worked for us
I really hope you’ve met your mr right
Best wishes for a wonderful future xx
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Sounds like you’re more worried about him accepting your kids than the small age gap you have. If you don’t trust his word already, don’t bother going.
Don’t jump the gun ,meet him first give the guy a chance, see if the spark is there before you worry about something that may never happen ,just enjoy the moment ,a meet up is never a waste of time your learn so thing every time ,good ,bad, or the holy grail if you get lucky ,enjoy and good luck ,by the way kids are never baggage to the right guy no matter how much of a pain in ass they may be Lol I know this from a past experience
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Your life is what it is. Be up front from the beginning (before the first date). If he doesn’t want to be with someone with kids don’t start as you won’t change his mind. Kids aren’t baggage.
My sister is happily married to man 18 years her senior and has two kids with him. Its about comfort and comparability more then age.
I’m 33, my husband is 45, he has 3 kids from a previous marriage, I have 1 and we have 1 together. Family of 7. It’s been tough at times but I wouldn’t change a thing. I love our blended family!
My husband is 15 years older than me. He had 2 children from a previous marriage and we had 2 further. We now have been married for 31 years and have 7 grandchildren!!
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My parents met on a blind date married 2.5 months later. He was 15 yrs older.
My bf is 6 years older than I am moved in together after 3 years
I am a single mum to a 10yr old and have been with my amazing other half for a year. I am 34 and he is 42. We don’t notice the age gap at all. On the other hand my sons dad is 15yrs older then me and we were together for 11yrs but we did notice the age gap between us and it became too much for us (amongst other things) so we separated.
Husband and I are 8 years apart and been married 45 years. You’ll keep him young
Im 29 and my husband is 38. 9 year difference and we just celebrated our 9 year anniversary. Age is just a number. How they treat you and your children is how I’d base it.
You really won’t know how you feel about it until you actually go on the date. There are plenty of couples out there with an age difference. Go with an open mind and just enjoy yourself.
If he says he doesn’t mind then don’t worry. Even if it doesn’t work out just count it as a bit of dating experience and enjoy x
I dated a 43 yr old when I was 24 and it ended badly more so because he was a narcissist than any big age issues
I am 43, my boyfriend is 32. I’ve been married twice, he’s never been married. I have an 18 year old & we have a 17 month old. Go on the date, you have to let him decide if your “baggage” is “baggage” to him. Take a chance, I’m glad I did!
My husband is 10 years older then me. We just celebrated out 15th wedding anniversary. However, we’ve been together for more than 20 years.
I did years ago,… worked fine at the time. It did break down, but nothing at all to do with age difference.
You will never know if dont go and dont give it a shot. If your really not interested let him know so dont waste his time.
Me and my hubby are well im 32 and he is 42 and we have been together almost 8 years now
One step at a time one day at a time, he may very enjoy having young children around now, being in the military he may not have had the privilege of enjoying his children, age is just a number wouldnt worry about it, he may surprise you
My husband and I have the same ahe difference. I am 42 and he is just 34. I had 4 kids (2 older) and we had one together. It works! It’s a personality thing more than anything else…
My husband is 10 years younger than with a 15 year old son. We have been together 10 years are strong. Been through so much and key is communication!!! Without it your relationship is nothing. My opinion.
I was 44yrs 3 kids ages , 6,10,12 my now husband was 31 when we met . Met through Facebook on a local Sydney site he wouldn’t give up 
anyway long story short I gave in . I was skeptical as I had kids and he only had one but due to his ex hadn’t had much contact. He hadn’t held down a full time job or stayed put very long and no real long lasting relationship . So I told him for the first few weeks when kids nagged him to move in that I wasn’t convinced and will see how it goes. It’s been great we travel , camp and do so much together as a family . We both love exploring and trying new things with our children . Kids even went through court as wanted their name changed. Been together 5yrs.
I would say go with the flow see where it goes . Age don’t stress about it and kids I’m sure if he was over kids he wouldn’t of offered to meet you.
I married a man 20 yrs older he was very controlling it was a LONG 20 yrs.
My husband is 8yrs older than me. We met when I was 22 and he was 30. We will be celebrating 21yrs of marriage this coming October.
My husband was 15 years older then my self. We were married for 21 years before he passed. It was a wonderful marriage.
I had never dated anyone in my life in a sense of relationship …
You will never know if you both don’t gel if you don’t try. Use the date to get to know each other and see If the kids will be too much for him. Even if it doesn’t work out on the date it builds your confidence, self esteem and awareness of what you want in a partner.
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I was 27 four children my husband was 43 we have been married 39 years
Go for it but just know if & when he meets your kids if they don’t like him it won’t work trust your kids instinct
You check him out and if there is like there then have your kids check him out…if your babies don’t like him kick him to the road…and if they do like him and he is a good guy then go for it…
I quit dating, too many strange men out there. No matter how careful you are
My baby daddy is 10 years older then me ex is 13 years old ex before him 12 ect ect youngest older guy I’ve dated was 5 years older than me lol
Everyone has dated someone older then them. Unless of course they were born on the same day. Lol
Don’t worry, let it happen if it’s supposed to.
I think you better be concerned about your children and pay to have a criminal background done
Yes, when I was in my early 20’s, I dated a girl 15 years older than me and we never had any problems.
Been with my husband 36 years now.We raised my daughters from previous marriage and have a son.We have 3 grandkids and one due in September. Can’t imagine my life without him. Trust your heart,
Be careful, trust yourself not your heart, there are plenty of scammers out there. I’ve met my share, having said that, I met my husband on a match site and 1st visit, I had someone with me just to be safe, that was 12 years ago, we are still married
So cool to see ALL the positive encouraging comments… only noticed 1 neg…
Yes! We were 7 years apart!
There is an older person in literally every single relationship unless you two share the exact same birth date
Don’t waste your time! Spend quality time with your kids.
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My husband is twenty years older than me; we’ve been together 30 years.
The only time age matters is when the guy ages , when the guy’s older and he loses his ability to you perform sexually then the woman’s there or with no sex life…I hear stories from a few people with older husbands… viagra doesn’t always work…
Each story is different. Embrace the finding out before worrying
Why do you feel you dont deserve live and happiness?
My bf is nearly 46 and I’m 34 I have younger children but he is fab x
I’m married 10 years to my second husband and I’m going to be 43 in august and he turns 60 in January
Age is a number if chemistry is right…
17 years between my wife and I been married 13 years August but aren’t you getting ahead of yourself?
You don’t have excess baggage, you have the ice cream on the
cake. Kids are kool…
He sounds great honestly. Go on the date please.
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Well if you don’t go you’ll always wonder, so go
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Me! My fiancé is 8 years older than me! And couldnt be happier:heart:
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Im just shy of eight years older than my wife, 
All of my partner have been 15-18 years older than me
At least meet him. Let him decide if you have to much baggage or not
If you feel ok with it, why worry about others…its your date, your life, your decision…amen
Go on the date!
My boyfriend and I are 16 years apart. He was 42 when we met, I was 26.
Husband 11 years my senior. 32 very happy years
You should definitely try it!!
My husband was 20yrs my senior!
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My husband was 9 years younger than me and I had a son, he had no children. Age has nothing to do with it! Waste some time, give it a chance! Just don’t involved your children just starting out…give it a few dates…see how it goes…
My partner is 11 years older than me. When I met him I had two young children and he had four children who were 9 and up. I told him straight I want more kids so if you don’t wanna do this from scratch I’m not the girl.
I adored him and would have been hard to walk away but 5 years later we have one ours and would like another.
Talk to him!! Xx
You’ll never know unless you give it a go! 
You wont know unless you go x
If he seems ok with it, don’t worry
I’ve only dated older men. And now I’m married to one. My first relationship was when I was 19 and my ex was 37 when we met. Now I’m almost 35 and my husband is 50. 
My dad never had kids but he took on my brother and I (5 and 3) as his once he met my mom. He was military and retired a few years later. I’d say if you like him give him a chance to prove his worth 
If you click you click! “Baggage” is an insecurity. “Baggage” wouldn’t be an issue if the 2 parties involved really enjoy each other’s company & want to be together. If they want to make it work. Age is just a number.
Gee , I don’t care about age or looks, a good man comes in different packages. If he’s a nice guy, treats you with respect and your children, go for it.
NINE YEARS?!
clutches pearls
Rule #1, never ask for advice from random strangers on the internet
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I’m 24 and my boyfriend is 51. 2 years so far and everything is good! Age doesn’t matter as long as you’re both consenting adults. He knew what he’s signed up for dating you but we have no kids in the mix so I can’t say much about that aspect
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My husband is 17 years older. Met at 30 on a blind date set up by mutual friends. His family was…concerned…until they all got to spend a day with us together. Mine knows #idowhatiwant 
If you don’t fret and stress, eventually anyone objecting should as well…or they can piss right off.
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Don’t potentially ruin a good thing because of overthinking it… Let it be a small date, just go out for ice cream that way if it doesn’t pan out the dates short but if it does pan out you can be glad that you went
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I’m 74 this month and my husband 92 this October. Married for 19 years this month. I have three grown kids 2 grown granddaughters and 4 great-grandkids. He loves them all just as much as I do. We get along wonderfully. We never had a fight in all 19 years.
My husband is 6 1/2 years older than me. His kids were grown when we got together. I still had 3 that were teenagers. My kids love him. His kids don’t like me, actually nobody in his family does. But our relationship is GREAT !! We got married 2 years ago !! And have been together almost 12 years now. Our love for each other is very strong. He’s the best thing besides my kids that has ever happened to me. Give it a chance !!
I’m 32, fiance is 40.
I have a nearly 8 year old, he has a 20 year old. It’s been working great for 6 years.
Wow you class your kids as baggage 
u are not ready to date with that attitude
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I met a guy when I was 21 and he was 30. I was more mature than him. It didn’t last. 
My great aunt and uncle were 20 years apart… never would have known had I not been told after he had passed away. They matched each other’s energy perfectly.
My husband is 14 years older then me, and we’ve been married 14 years years in January. We have a great relationship!
If it’s a problem FIND ANOTHER
This guy don’'t kiss and tell…
Go for it…
Either way, you win.
oh jesus christ really seriously ther person is worried about a 9 soem year age difference . i worry when a old 80 year old man is dating a 19 year old girl just out of high schools like damn son it tootak 60 soem years to finally foujnd teh oen and she was was a unborn fetus os a unborn fetus in a womahb ya age . that screams pedo to me but anyways
And married him too:wink:
fluff find the off fgggjmp
Just go for it you never know xx
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I would NEVER think of my kids as baggage. It’s possible he likes the idea of having young kids around. Maybe he wasn’t able to raise his as much because he WAS in the military.
I’m 28 and my partner is 37. Age isn’t a barrier, and kids aren’t baggage.
I don’t have children, personally never wanted one of my own (have always wanted to foster when I’m older, and settled, and if life was good to me, I could make life good for another).
My partner has a 14yr old. That will never be considered baggage to me, he is a beautiful, bright and caring person and I feel lucky to be a part of the entire family dynamic.
But communication is literally the key, you need to talk about all the ugly stuff and all the good stuff and build a relationship on common ground, and the kids need to be at the forefront of that. Not because they are the most important thing, but you are ALL important things. Everyone needs to thrive. Everyone should be included in that. Everyone should have common ground.
We have our days, and our moments, but we always get through them because we know that we all WANT to get through them.
None of the small details ever matter, it’s the choices you each make that really matter.
Go have fun and see where life takes you. You’d be surprised with what you find on the other side of self doubt and what ifs.
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All you can do is show up relax and feel it. You will know …enjoy , you dont have to go out again. That’s why it’s called DATING . RIGHT LOL
I’m in a relationship with someone 20 years older than me. (I met him through my job) We’ve been together almost 4 years, are engaged and we’re very happy! Age is just a number. I’m nearly 30 and have no children and he has 2, 19 and 24 and he was also in the army and retired from it and now just has a regular job. He’s previously been married. I’ve been with other guys before but I love his maturity, and his personality. Give it a shot, you never know the outcome unless you try!