I was 30 and My ex husband was 43 when we met… his kids were already tweens and I didn’t have any yet… we did fine and we had a baby… are divorce has nothing to do with his age… however I have noticed now how much older he seems to be as now I am 49 and he is 62… but age is just a number as well… as long as you both want the same things it shouldn’t matter
My husband is almost 15 years older than me, and we will be together 20 years next month!! Oh and when we met, I had 3 year old twins and he had an 11 year old and 2 year old!!! Years later we had 2 together!! Love always finds a way if it’s meant to be!!!
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My husband of nearly 20yrs, is 14yrs older than me. We have 2 kids, it’s a rollercoaster, but totally worth it. Age is not an issue, it never is. The most important things are compatibility and communication.
I have dated a guy 10 years older than me I don’t think it matters how old they are it all depends how the person treats you and the kids well
I’m 8 years younger than my husband. Age was never a problem.
Oh pls, first go on a date or 10…then think about all that. Learn to enjoy dating…
Any man will go cold if all your focus is the end result… Let people take you out, let them see you, learn to really talk… Then age doesn’t matter and you will not worry as much, you will be happy with what is… It’s gonna be hard life, if you don’t…
Go for it. Personally having preferred older men most of my life, under 10 years is nothing. Please don’t put people in boxes, go with an open mind.
I’m dating a man who is 20 years my age and he treats me with respect and cares for me more than any youngun would. Fuck the haters if you like them go for it life is too short to be worrying about what ifs xx
That’s not old.He is still in perfect working order…
BUT…you are not going to the marriage altar.It is merely a date.Do not get too serious with this man or he will run in a cloud of dust.You are feeling your way through the dating world.Take your time.Other mothers also have nice sons.All the best!
If you are not happy dating then let it be
You are as free as a bird and not caged.Enjoy your freedom.Your children will always be your first priority.Needless to say not all men accept another mans children.
Age doesn’t matter. My husband and I have a 20 year age gap. My step sons are all adults. We have a 10 year old together.
My husband is 12 years older than I am. I was in my 30s when I met him. Id say it may be q bit different if you were 18 or 19 but you’re not. You’re in a different place that likely more aligns with what he wants too
My wife and I have been married for 37 years. We’re 10 yrs apart. Im 70 she’s 60 I had 2 kids and then we had 2 . I wouldn’t change a thing. Good luck and God Bless
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I say go for it!! You’ll never know until you try! He could turn out to be the best guy you’ve met!
I recently started dating someone who is 43. I am 24. That’s a 19 year gap. (Along with also having two younger kiddos) And let me tell you, he is the SWEETEST and most caring man I’ve ever met. We all have our faults and we all have a past. But good things take time. Go for it!
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My husband is 11 years older than me and I came into the relationship with all the baggage. The kid, the ex husband, not finished with school… have an open mind and if nothing else just have fun with it. I went into my first date with my husband thinking that was all it would ever be. I thought no way would he choose me and everything that came with it. Have fun. You only live once
We have a 12 year age difference. He came with 4 older children at the time and bad divorces twice. We are 8 years in and going strong
I want to say that my husband is 30 years older than me and he has grown kids and we have kids together that is not grown. Which is not me having kids and then getting together with somebody else. But I say go for it because you just don’t ever know what the Lord has behind that door. And every day is a new day for something good to happen and for something to behind that door the Lord may have for you. Age is just a number and he may be a great guy for you and your kids you may never know.
I was 21 and my husband was 30 when we first got together… 9 age difference. But we love each other. As long as y’all love each other and treat each other with respect and are both mature I’d go for it
I say go for it. I’m 26, my husband is 39 & he has an 18 year old & now a 2 year old with me. We’re happy & age is just a number.
Go for what makes you happy, don’t worry about others opinions!
My partner is 21 years older than I. We met in 2018 and I had a 2 and 4 year old. It was rocky at first trying to figure out what her role looked like as a parent when we moved in together after a year. I had a very hard time letting her help me and assume some of my responsibilities as I had not had the help before.
I was 33 (almost 34) when I met my husband, he was 52. 5 years later we are still together, with a 3.5 year old & 2 year old. I was uncertain when we first met too because of the age difference but he is absolutely the most amazing man & my only regret is that I couldn’t have met him sooner and been together even longer!
Take the chance, you never know where you’ll find your happily ever after!
Never know until you give it a shot! Could be the love of a lifetime!
My partner is 10 years older than me (I’m 30, he’ll be 41) and it’s by far the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. We share a little girl and coparent a child we’ve taken into our care as well as have his older child on the weekends. Most of the time I completely forget the age difference unless we’re talking about pop culture or our childhoods 
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We are 10 years apart. I’m 32, he is 41
My mom and step-dad are 18 yrs apart, he’s older. I have a few step-siblings, 1 is my age. Age is just a number.
I have three kids, 9,7,and 4 from previous relationships. I’m 26 and he’s 45 with five of his own kids, one my age lol. it’s been the best relationship Ive been in.
My parents were 20years apart. He had two grown daughters, 2 younger son’s, my parents got along well had my sister and I . They had a good relationship and would still be married if my dad hadn’t past unexpectedly. Go for it you never know could be the best thing in your life.
Go for it! My husband is almost 8 years younger COUGAR LOL Still married over 12 years later 
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I’m 33 and my husband is 46 (we’ve been together for 8 years). His oldest is 20 and we have a 3 year old together. It’s perfect and we both bring out the best in each other.
My husband is 56 and I’m 32 
I had a 1 year old when we got together. He later adopted him and we went on to have 2 more kids. He also has 3 older, adult children from a previous marriage.
I understand your concerns because I had them too, but to him it was not a big deal.
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Well if the guy is worth a damn…he’ll acceptyou regardless of the kids…ya cant take the cow and leave the calf…
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Give it a shot. Life is to short to second guess yourself. Best wishes to you both.
It wont hurt you to try, you never know what a day may bring, and hes most likely more settled down, just watch for exsessive drinking
Go for it and see what happens. The guy I’m with is now a dad to 1 beautiful little girl and a step daddy to my other 2 girls and trust me he loves them both like his own
Go get your feet wet, you won’t know if it’s a waste of time if you don’t go
My husband is 14 years older …we have a 2.5 and we couldn’t be happier . Also wanting to try for another 
he had 3 kids prior to our relationship and one of them is around my age lmao but we’ve been together for almost 5 years his kids call me step mom and all
Im 22 and my Fiancé is 34. We couldn’t possibly be any happier. Age doesnt matter as long as both are 18+
My parents are 12 years apart.
my husband is 37 i’m 26
Im 33 he’s 39 … we just started dating . All I can say is take it slow and communicate is the key just talk and get everything out and open make sure he knows about your kids and you know about his kids and make sure everyone’s comfortable and just have fun and relax 
He’s only 9 years older than you, and he’s had kids; so he knows the ins and outs, so trust him when he says it’s fine!
I say go for it! It may be your true love girl. You’re both adults and he’s got children so he knows what he’s getting into already.
My husband is 13 years older than me.
I think as long as you’re a adult age is just a number.
Go for it see how it goes n have fun you never no what could happen xxx
I had a one year old and met a man online with no kids. We are now married going on 8 years with a 7 year old daughter together. Take a chance, you never know!
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Has anyone dated someone older than them?
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Everybody is right, age is just a number but in my case the guy would be way too old. I am a 69 year old widow with 6 kids. You read it right!
. They are 47,46,42,18,7 and 4. The last 3 are adopted and their aren’t many guys out there my age and older that are interested in this family! Lol. Not many younger ones looking for us either.
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It’s not the age, it’s more so comfortability, conforming and compromise. Often times, older people have already established a pattern, how they want and expect certain things to be done etc…find a common and middle ground to meet each other’s traditions and it could most definitely work!
Go out, be yourself and dont look for reasons why not. If it’s right he will be lucky to have you and your children in his life. My 27yo son is also “retired” from the military in that he served his time he’d signed up for and left. This man should have fine qualities and like us all, life experience too. I hope you have a lovely date, and don’t overthink it…you might 'click or not. Enjoy xx
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I’m 41 and my husband is 30. And we’re a match made in heaven. The age doesn’t bother us at all. And my son was 10 when we got together. And he’s a wonderful spouse and step-father.
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My ex husband was 11 years older than me. We obviously aren’t together anymore but it was good when it was good. Age had nothing to do with it!
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When I was 23 I met my husband who was 37. He was divorced with four almost grown children. I had never been married and had no children. We got married at 25 and have been married 21 years now. We have a 17-year-old daughter and a 13-year-old daughter. We are very happy. It just depends on your mental maturity. I was very mature for my age and he was mature but acted young as far as socially he was willing to go out and do fun things. We have a great life together
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Go on the date. Dress up, have fun. It doesn’t matter what age he is, take the whole thing as an experience and enjoy yourself. You never know what might happen…xx
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Why has he retired so early? Has he been discharged early from the military due to something like PTSD? I know I shouldn’t be looking at the negatives but you have very small children .
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My husband and I are 9 years apart, he’s the elder LoL and it has been going strong 24 years
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You go out and enjoy yourself … it is just a number and if they cant appreciate your children 
im 54 my hubby is 38 hes the best thing that ever happened to me and he loves my 26 and 22yr old like their his own … the boys call him more than they call me … girl go get your groove back !!!
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Maybe he’s looking for what he doesn’t have in his life already. 42 and retired…If you don’t take him, I will. ooh now you need to update us all on the how the date went!!!
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2 of my sisters married men 8 and 12 yrs older than they are and they’ve both been married for more than 25 yrs
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My boyfriend is 10 years older than me, I’m 27 and he’s 37. Age doesn’t matter.
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Go on the date and see how it goes! You never know, maybe he always wanted more kids, a bigger family, etc. It’s not fair to judge him or make decisions for him when you haven’t even given him a chance! You might end up pleasantly surprised. Two people at different stages of life doesn’t automatically mean you’re not compatible. I’m a romantic, I hope I’m not coming offa harsh, I’m just saying give it a chance to at least meet up and have a date!
That’s actually a very good age difference. Relax enjoy the date itself and try not to look at each date as “the one”. Take your time and you’ll find exactly the right person that fits. Regardless of age etc.
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My hubby is 42 this year. I am 26. He had a previous relationship where he raised 2 young girls (not his). We obviously have our differences and ways of thinking as we are a generation apart. We have two beautiful girls together and we make it work. I wouldn’t want it any other way
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I’m 43, my husband is 53. I was 22 when we met. There’s some differences being he’s been there and done that… I loved dancing and still wanting to hit the club and he was way past that stage so he never joined me. But there’s alot you will find in common, and if he’s down for adventure that’s a good thing! Don’t turn down a date! Give it a shot!
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My bfs 7 years older then me and I’m completely happy 
we have a little 5 month old and he has a previous children who are older . So I would say it’s ok as long as you’re happy
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My husband is a year older, we make it work despite the age gap. As long as there isn’t a minor involved nothing matters but love!
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I’m 44 and my husband is 37. I had an 8 year old when we met 12 years ago and he had no kids. From day one it worked. We have 2 boys together now but he tells people he has 3 kids. He loves my daughter as his oldest child no difference between them his family is the same with her. It’s the person and their values your looking at not the age. Don’t put too much pressure on it have fun xx
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I’m getting married to my Army vet in less than a month. He’s 23 years older than me and has a daughter 6 months older than me. We are happy af. I’m so excited to have his last name and be able to say I’m his wife. I plan on spending the rest of my life with him.
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24 years between my boyfriend and I and he’s got 4 young kids (6-12). As long as there’s chemistry the age really isn’t that big of a deal.
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I’m 29 and my partner of 4 years is 38. Age doesn’t matter. He’s my best friend
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I’m 29 and my partner is 40 and we met online. It can happen if you allow it. We are soulmates and I’m so lucky to have met him. Life works in mysterious ways. If it’s meant to be it will happen. If not then it wasn’t meant to be. Good luck with everything
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Age is nothing but a number. Since you haven’t even had a first date yet, this really should be the least of your worries. Go out with this man, get to know him, he might surprise you and prove the age difference is nothing. Give it a go!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 years. I was 21 and he was 30 when we met. He had a 3 year old daughter, now she’s 14 and we have a 9, 3 and expecting our 3rd together… You’ll have your ups and downs like any relationship. You kinda just have to go for it and find out for yourself. If it doesn’t work then it doesn’t work… but it could and you might regret not finding out for yourself 
good luck with whatever you decide!
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When I was 33 I dated a guy who was 42. We dated for a few months or so. If you want to meet him, go for it. Just be safe and pls meet in a public place.
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You never know unless you try! I’m guessing that he knows you have two young children and it’s been spoken about because you know he has more grown up kids? If you go and it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. But go out, be wined and dined and enjoy yourself x
I joined the dating world again when I was just 27 
. I had a 4 year old at the time. I tried to date in my age group but the men I met were not ready for the “parent” life. I had much better success dating older men. I had a solid 2 year relationship with a guy that was divorced as well with 2 kids of his own he was 10 years older than me. I have now been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years and he is 15 years older. He is divorced and has older kids that are out of the house but he is an amazing “step father” to my son. I definitely agree with dating older men. Not only are they way more attractive, they seem to be more prepared to handle real life stuff. GOOD LUCK!! I’m pullin’ for ya!
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Go!! Its just a date for now. You have to get to know him 1st. You may not even like him but you will never know if you dont go.
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My parents were 29 yrs apart. Age is just a #. I have dated much younger & older. I have half brother was 2 yrs older than my mother, a half sister the same age as her, niece’s & nephews not much younger than myself. My mother’s side I have an uncle only 5 yrs older than myself.
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My husband is 19 years older and we are perfect together
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My ex was 9yrs younger, age wasn’t the issue, I had more energy than her. I get on better with younger people.
My husband and I have an 8 year gap. He’s older, and personally the only difference is his entire personality from anyone else I’ve dated. The age was never even a question or an issue for us. It all depends on who the person is.
He may enjoy spending time with young children again , if your relationship should progress. Your better off with an older man. You’ll be on even keel maturity wise
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There’s a 9 year gap between my boyfriend and I and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever been in.
Got together when I was 24 and he was 33. He had 2 kids and I had one, last summer we had a baby together and life is good! Don’t read into it so much, it’s your first date, just have fun. You deserve it!
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Be honest with eachother & make informed decisions. You both have “baggage”, but you always will. You won’t know how to handle or adapt if you don’t try.
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Single mum kids come first before your lust. Young kids are in danger with older steps. So don’t say I didn’t warn you. Take care of those precious kids.
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If he loves kids don’t worry so much. I have a 23 year old & my hubby has twin 12 year olds and a 14 year old and we have a 7 year old together. His, mine and ours. And it’s great. He might want more kids or he night just be great with yours. You’ll be able to tell. Just enjoy yourself and don’t worry too much. My ex husband was 10 years older than me and we didn’t notice the age difference at all
My husband is older than me. We make it work. Always go by personality, character. Things that matter not age. Good luck on your date.
I don’t see a problem!! Except you worrying. It puts a stress where none should be! Try to relax and go with the flow.
If he knows about your children and agreed to the meet…you should not nix it, by worrying about him accepting your children…its a first date…enjoy yourself…he may be just as anxious as you are…
Yes I am. He is 70 and I am 46. Age is just a number. He has taken my grandchildren. And my kids as his. Love is love
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It’s just one date. Not the rest of your life. No commitment. Just test the waters
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My husband and I are 14 years apart, him being older. We’ve been together 10 years, married for 3 of them now. Age really is just a number once everyone is legally an adult.
I met my husband when I was 25 he was 39 we married, and been married almost 40 years he has 4 kids I have 3. His children are older than mine. Mine were 4, 6 and 7.
Maybe meet him and see how it goes. Good luck and have fun
I’m 28 and my partner is 41. We’ve been together almost 8 years; he has a 10yo and we have our own 5yo too. It works well 
Nothing is ever a waste of time. There’s always a lesson to be learned. Take the risk, enjoy your life and stop questioning the “what if’s”
Female 34 male 42 makes for the same mental age
Age is just a number and only matters if you let it.
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Judge by character versus age. But keep in mind the older person will need caretaking as they age.
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Go on the date and have fun. But be cautious due to him being a military man. You better have a strong back bone and watch your children close military men are very strick. But you make your own decision. Be safe
The age difference isnt bad. It will all depend on the man and his family. You wont know till you meet them. Ask people you trust for their opinion, as well.
My Husband was 14 years older than me. Age I don’t think has anything to do with it if you love someone.