"Does anybody do 50/50 co-parenting where the child stays at one parent’s house for a week, then goes to the other parent’s house for a week?
The baby is five months old. 2.5 hours in between the two houses, which are in different states."
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“That’s too long for the baby to be away from you! Maybe if the child was older but even then it’s too hard. I would never put my kids through that.”
“I think that’s too rough for a 5-month-old. They need their mom. That’s why other countries have maternity leave for up to a year. Babies need their mom. Maybe every other weekend she can go to her dad’s for 3 days? And he can come visit her at any time. I know that may be hard on him but this is what’s best for the baby since she’s so young. When she’s older then it can be reevaluated.”
“We did it… the kids hated it!!! They said they felt like they were living out of backpacks…”
“That seems young for alternating weeks.”
“This is what we do but it wasn’t established until the kids were toddlers. Our papers have different guidelines and times and days for visitation for babies up to 18 months. I don’t think a judge will let a child that small do week here a week there.”
“I have done this for the past 10 years, my son absolutely loves it, the only difference is my son’s father lives in a different town. As your child gets older though, I’m assuming it would change due to schooling.”
“We do a 2-2-3 schedule. I nixed the one week on one week off right away. Dad gets every other weekend and 2 days during the week for our 3-and-a-half-year-old. That just started when he turned 3. But we also live maybe a mile away from each other so if he has to work it’s easy to drop off to me.”
“Sooner baby is used to it, the better. However! What happens when they are in school? Not a reasonable arrangement…”
“The child is very young for that. I personally wouldn’t do it unless the child asked to do it. Then any sign of not working I’d stop it. It’s about the child. They aren’t like toys to be shared around. Good luck.”
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