Sounds like he was attempting a stretch and sweep
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The last dr that did that didnt do too wellā¦report itā¦its digital rape
Nope happened to me and my doctor was female. She asked me if I wanted to be induced I said yeah, she went in and popped my water manually 
Ask the nurse in the room. Sounds like a very aggressive membrane sweep. More aggressive ones tends to work better. He should have asked consent prior
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I had this done with my last, if the Dr notices dilation is slowing down & needs some help they will push a few timeās.
It does hurt a little but doesnāt hurt you or the baby & is meant to catch you up.
I definitely donāt think he meant to hurt you, just went human & didnāt think to inform you.
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Iām sorry but this is completely unprofessional and I would feel extremely violated they are supposed to get your consent to do a membrane sweep and at least a heads up and explain it a little. I would absolutely report this sounds like the doctor was running on auto pilot which could be understandable but needs to be addressed immediately so it doesnāt continue to happen. Iām so sorry you went through this thatās really crappy of him , how are you feeling now are you okay? Youāre in my prayers 
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Thatās normal. I donāt like the word āviolatedā tossed around. You told him that your progress slowed down, and he literally did his job. You canāt have it both ways grow up
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Itās called a stretch and sweep. I had it done multiple times and it hurts like a bitch, but itās a completely normal procedure
Stripping membranes. Completely normal.
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You should bring it to his attention for sure
Anything they do NEEDS to have your consent! Id make a complaint
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Generally male doctors have a female aide or nurse with them for these exact reasonsā¦ as to not get caught up in something. I mean Iāve had it done several times. It feels uncomfortable and itās rough. He was definitely helping you to go into labor or speed things up. As everyone else said itās called stripping the membranes.
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Stripped your membranesā¦ my gynecologist did the same to me when I was pregnant with my daughterā¦ itās to induce labor
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It sounds like he was stripping your membranes. I had it done with my 4th only and it helped induce labor. I was asked first and my doctors usually explained what they were doing. Sounds like a possible lack of communication is all
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It sounds like he maybe gave you what they call a stretch and sweep. Perfectly normal procedure but not at all normal not to explain it to you or ask if you wanted one, those are completely by choice to try help prepare for/bring on labour but he absolutely should have discussed it with you first
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He could have been doing a membrane sweep but i get your nervousness and feeling uncomfortable. In my opinion men shouldnt be obs. I know theyre not all like this,but the handful ive dealt with are super creepy. Hell today i had my first ob appointment and he legit just kept staring at my boobs,and after checking the babies heartrate,not wearing gloves,put his hand down the front of my pants to pull them back over my stomach. The whole 15 minute appointment he made eye contact twice. My fiance and one year old daughter were sitting right there. My fiance was fuming,and im switching obs.
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Everyone is talking about a membrane sweepā¦ I have 4 children and have had my membranes stripped with each pregnancyā¦ they insert fingers and put them into the cervix and kinda separate things and remove the membraneā¦ itās great for helping jump start labor, but thinking back on when I had it done, it doesnāt make sense to me why he would need to āthrustā his fingers in and out multiple timesā¦ the cervix is far in thereā¦ if anything, I felt like they were trying to shove his entire fist up there(my pelvic area is very small, along with my bone structure)ā¦ he would need to kind of ātwirlā his fingers around in a circular motion, not go in and outā¦ Iām NOT saying he did anything sexual to you, Iām ONLY saying that it sounds like weird behavior for a membrane stripā¦ BUT, all doctors do things differently 
you need to be your own advocate and speak up for yourself when something doesnāt feel right. Any normal doctor wouldnāt mind at all if you asked them what they were doing to you. They are typically very happy to explain what theyāre doing and why. You can even call his office back and ask them about it as well.
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It happened to me last monthā¦i felt pain,i felt soo uncomfortable after the experienceā¦i was 39 weeks and they couldnt feel my water which after i was done the scan,it showed that my baby was in a transverse position.i was went for an emergenvy cs thou
I feel like regardless of what the reason was for, he should have hold you what he was doing and why. Just because heās a doctor and a nurse was watching doesnāt mean he had good intentions. My area has very limited obgyn resources especially one of the male doctors had so many complaints that he had to leave the area (not sure if they made him give up his license). Itās sad because my friend used him and felt uncomfortable but didnāt say anything. So how many people is he violating and everyone is scared to speak out? 
Definitely sounds like a members e sweep. But he definitely should have told you he was doing so. Iāve had good experience with male and female drs. So I wouldnāt put it all on th fact he was a male like previously mentioned.
Sounds like a membrane sweep, my dr has always informed me of every move she was making. It definitely should have been brought up and discussed.
Thatās not right, Iāve had loads of sweeps and midwife has ever only put her hand in and used circular movements not in and out movement 
Iād definitely make a Complaint ASAP, you know what went on and itās not right at all, as for everyone else saying itās just a sweep, how many times have you lot been fingered? How many of u lot have had a sweep? There is a massive difference you know!! The poster needs to complain ASAP so it donāt happen to anyone else xx
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Id have no issue being like what the hell you doing down there!!? And a membrane swep should be done with your consent before anything, I mean its also sometimes painful! My dr did this to me without telling me she was gonna do it and it pissed me off, like give a damn warning beforehand.
File a complaint asap and change Drs.
Discusting doing that when legally are supposed to ask you first.
Did he mention scraping your membranes? Sounds like thatās what he could have been doing. Iāve never had my doc not explain the procedure to me so I understand your frustration
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Sounds like he did the sweepā¦Iāve seen that people are saying you should have been asked firstā¦I wasnāt asked if I wanted it doing either, the midwife just did it to me too, I was 3cm dilated too and then she did it and went āIāve just done the sweep so that should speed things up a bit for youā
I also felt very uncomfortable and a bit violated, more because I know other people have been asked if they want the sweep before having it done, whereas I didnāt have a choice eitherā:see_no_evil:
He would have been doing a āstretch and sweepā but definitely should have asked if you wanted it first.
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Didnāt happen to me, but I googled it because I havenāt heard of a stretch and sweep. Sounds like a good excuse for what he was doing if thatās his reasoningā¦
Itās a stretch and sweep, something you should of been asked 100%! My second pregnancy I had to sign something to say I accepted it
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Itās called stripping in medical termsā¦ Helps in inducing labourā¦ If thatās was he was doing
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Has anyone every had this happen during a pelvic exam?
That sounds like a sweep. Maybe he was just trying to help your Labour come on. He should have told you what he was doing at the time. Maybe look in your pregnancy notes and see if a sweep is mentioned Xx
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Sounds like a sweep to me but usually they inform you theyāre gonna do it not just do it without you knowing. Report it. If youāre feeling violated thatās not okay.
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Some of the comments on here are so ignorant. Even if this was something she consented to initially, to have anything suddenly thrusted forcefully into your body without proper explanation or a reminder could be incredibly triggering for some. Having your legs spread to a āstrangerā(some people are closer with their doctorās than others) is already uncomfortable. Why are we berating a woman for simply asking a question and feeling uncomfortable with something done to HER BODY?!?
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My guess is you consent to this when you consent to be treated for your pregnancy. Iām guessing itās all covered in the paperwork you signed ā¦. Consented to as part of routine care.
I imagine since he was already checking dilation that it didnāt make sense to complete that process, stop, have a conversation about stripping the membranes at this stage, and then gloving up to do it, when he was already in thereā¦ā¦ also knowing that you have agreed to be treated for your pregnancy which covers a multitude of options they may choose to use.
if you read your paperwork I bet it explains this process and then you sign it saying you agree to it.
Ppl always trying to get someone in trouble. Sheesh.
And if you are 39 weeks and didnāt know that they do this ā¦. You didnāt do enough to educate yourself about pregnancy and care prior to birth.
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Most normal people will be focused on the birth and the child by now. You are focused on consent and the pain? You mean your baby exiting your cervics was so painless that you remember the doctor and the pain he given you much more vividly? I am incredulous at this.
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If I was in your shoes, Iād be laying a complaint, feeling pressure and aggressively thrusting his fingers is not how to jump start labour. Iāve have 5 pregnancies and 2 sweep and stretch to jump start my labour, none was as aggressive as how you explained it, I felt pressure but wasnāt rough or aggressive. Please make that complaint before another person becomes a victim. Big hugs to you.
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Definitely sounds like he swept your membranes, still not okay for him to do that without your knowledge or consent, I would file a complaint.
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That sounds really violating, it doesnt sound like your consent was sought and the procedure definitely wasnāt explained to you 
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There is alot of hypothesizing and theorizing happening here! This confusion on your part needed to be communicated at the point of occurrence not afterwards. If it didnt āfeelā right in the moment then need to address with your Dr. Speaking from experience I have had some painful procedures that were lessened intensity because I was relaxed and not tense with expectation. When I asked the Surgeon why he didnt prepare/warn meā¦he explained the relaxed state as the contributing factor. I appreciated that.
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It was done to me as well to push me into laborā¦ it worked. Hopefully you will be giving birth to you baby soon. Itās called stripper the membrane. Hope this put you at ease. 
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It is so hard to say. If you are 39 weeks and 3cm and feel things are slowing down then it is likely that the doctor was giving you a stretch and sweep which is very normal. I would ask if thatās what he did? Was there a nurse in the room with you?
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When I had a stretch and sweep it was kind of a similar thing, it was a painful experience and I imagine it would be worse if you werenāt prepared for it. This does sound a bit more aggressive than thatā¦ plus I was told exactly what would happen and when so wasnāt taken off guard at all. I would express your concerns to the doctors office especially if it made you uncomfortable!
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Reading the comments all I can say is What The Fuck!!!
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Iād put a formal complaint in
He shouldnāt have tried to jump start labour without your consent, and if it was sexual then thatās obviously disgusting
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Iāve had 4 kids never had this happen. Non consent is sexual abuse
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Uhmm he should have told you before hand what and why he was going to do that
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Iāve had several sweeps over 3 pregnancies, that doesnāt sound like a sweep to me unless they are done differently in the states to the UK. Iād definitely report.
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Before you go making a complaint, just ask someone else another doc to check u notes and mention it. If its not on record then complain. Sounds like a sweep but at the very least he should of told you first.
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A sweep is a strong, circular motion with the hand. No in and out thrusting at all.
Iād personally report it!
Iād deliver with someone else too!
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Even if itās normal practice, it still was not fully informed which is a terrible bedside manner. I do believe it should be reported as such.
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Iām not a expert but that seems very wrong and i would report him and possibly report it to the police
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The dr who delivered my son went on to sexual abuse me a few months later. I wish I had had the courage to speak up. I was only 19 and my sonās father had taken off just a few weeks prior to his birth so I was just so overwhelmed that I kept it to myself. That dr continued to practice in the same small town for his entire career until he retired just a few years ago. I wonder how many girls and women he victimised in those 40+ years.
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Iāve had 3 sweeps. When a male did it was rough, I bled and didnāt work !
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As docs of any kind they should tell you what theyāre going to do every step of the way, especially if itās not done all the time or it will be painful!! But I guess some donāt feel the need because no woman(or man) is going to do something like that to them so they donāt have a clue how you would feel! I wonder if a woman doc would be as insensitive! As a nurse of 25 years, most female docs in general I rounded with were so different than a lot (but not all ) of men docs I rounded with ,but I never worked with Ob/Gyns except briefly as a student! I saw some tough things happen there and if a nurse is present, I donāt see any reason she canāt chime in to offer comfort if she knows what heās going to do when he starts doing it!! A doc never had to ask me - hand holding, words of comfort and explanation were part of my job while assisting any doc I happened to be with at the moment! I even held hands of other docs while the doc I was with performed a procedure on them because they needed to squeeze a hand when the pain was bad!
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Consent always. He should of asked.
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My cervix was swiped . It was not pleasant and I wasnāt warned or told before it happens . But it literally was a quick circular motion down there down with firm force.
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Itās never ok for them to make you feel that way. Communication is important to say the least. Also if it was a sweep then he needs your permission first! Thatās not his choice to make! You needed to be informed before the procedure takes place. Consent is important and if none is given its abuse/illegal.
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It sounds like you had a sweep done but you should have been asked if you wanted it. I was never examined internally at a scan apart from agreeing to a sweep at 39week on my 2nd and 3rd pregnancy. Its a really uncomfortable experience. But thats just my opinion from my experience. I hope your ok.
He didnāt seem to have a good bedside manner. My dr explained and asked if I want it. I said no, Iām not comfortable with that. He didnāt. I was induced differently at the hospital and no sweep needed.
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You just solved my question from my Dr. doing this and I didnāt know it was called anything just thought he was to rough ! 28 years later I still think about how uncomfortable that was! Like being scraped!
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Report it in complaint he should have explained everything he was going to do before hand and given u a chance to ask questions of needed
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The dr should have said Iām going to strip your members. It sounds exactly like that but they usually advise you they are going to do this before they do it. It hurts so bad. Iām sorry this happened to you. I hope your feeling better
When I was in the hospital for my youngest, I was induced. The one doctor came to check progress and he shoved his hand so far up I screamed and immediately started to cry. He hurt me worse than the current contractions were hurting me. He didnāt say he was doing anything to progress it he just said I might feel pressure and then felt like he was trying to grab the baby and just yank him out by hand.
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Yes it has.I started bleeding . When he saw that he seemed to be pissed. He admitted me to the hospital. there were two other drs in the group. When the other dr was doing rounds he told me it was caused by a rough internal. I was about 36 weeks. I had my daughter at 37-1/2 weeks. She was fine. She weighed 6lbs 3 oz. where my son before her was 8lbs 4-1/2 oz. I know he brought on labor. Thank goodness she was ok, but she probably wouldāve been around the same size as her brother had she gone full term. I stayed with the group because he retired soon after. He was the oldest in the group and was practicing longer than. The others, so he shouldāve known better. The farther on you go the cervix gets engorged with blood. If he had stayed I wouldāve made my appts with the others. This was many years ago.
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I would have definitely asked what he was doing. Maybe call back and have a conversation with someone about what you had done. I would then decide what you will do next.
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I would be asking what he was doing, it sounds like.a.sweep but Iām wondering were you asked did you get permission, you have every right to feel violated
Yes. They swept your cervix just loosened the membrane. My ob said the same thing but didnāt tell me what it was and then I went to work that night and she freaked out and said I needed to go home. I finished my shift in labor
You need to take it up with the hospital hun just to get answers. Hope all goes well. X
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If you were 3cm he was probably trying to help you along to begin labour. But normally not till ur 40weeks. The way midwives check you something very similar should he had . Maybe seek better advice .
Yes they do that to keep you from not progressing at a good rate . So you want have it dragged on an on.
Yuck!!! I know the feelingā¦ He preformed a sweep on you 
I know the feelingā¦ My doctor did this to me with my first one because I was six days over due dateā¦ It was so bad she broke my waters, traumatizes me till this day 
Non consent fair enough but if he did a sweep im sure its for speeding up labour and for well being of babyā¦there was a midwife thereā¦doubt its sexual
They did this to me at the hospital when I went in for high blood pressure, it was done to try and start a natural labor before them having to induce me. It hurt soooo much as I was not expecting that. Luckily it was a woman doctor and my husband was there as well next to me when they did it. I believe itās called stripping the membranes and the doctor who did it at the hospital asked me if my OBGYN had done it on me yet and so she did it there.
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Sounds like a stretch and sweep, not comfortable and also not cool to do without asking for your consent.
Sounds like he was swiping your cervix they did that with me to progress the process faster. Itās normal
Its not normal,you need to call him out on it
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Sweeping the membranes. Four kids later and I can contest, isnāt pleasant. A little spotting and cramping is normal.
That happened to me by my doctor in 77 ,but he said it was to get the baby moving which worked went into labour that night but my baby didnāt come till the next night.
Sounds like a stretch and sweep. He should have explained it to u before doing it
Sounds like a did a sweep on you. Itās done often to help progress your labour. It can be uncomfortable and sometimes hurt
Iām old have had 3 babies , never had this done so please explain this procedure to me and why itās done and does it help with your labor?
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Call Patient Affairs Office. But also remember this same dr will soon be delivering your baby.
I would also call a medical malpractice attorney for short consult.
Jmho
I donāt even know what a āsweepā is!! Lol
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Sounds like he was doing a stretch and sweep , but he should of told you what he was doing before doing it , and let you know there could be spotting and cramping afterwards ect.
This happened to me when I wasnāt dilating enough, he did this while inserting prostongel to help thin my cervix. I ended up having ceaser
Sounds like a membrane sweep, where about are u maybe if your in the states or something different may not be a common thing to do there
This is why I donāt have a male doctor do anything to me down there ā¦gives me āhand that rocks the cradleā vibesā¦and doesnāt sound like any sweep Iāve ever had and Iāve had 6 kids 6 sweeps and the thrusting of a finger doesnāt sound right at all!!
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Sounds like he scraped your membranes totally normal for 39 weeks my doctor did that with every single pregnancy of mine
Itās called stripping the membranes.
Very uncomfortable but sometimes part of the process.
Some ppl on here and there ideas ā¦speak with knowledge not destruction of a personās lifeā¦
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Regardless of what it could of been, you obviously weāre not explained the procedure and did not consent.
This happened to me! 6 months agoā¦ I was 3 cm and she did a sweep. She told me she was going to and I dreaded even walking into the office. I had a horrible pregnancyā¦ the pressure was so bad that after she did it I just cried the whole way home. But I took a nap and woke up and thought my water broke but it was only a very small amountā¦ I called and they told me āoh no itās just urineā¦ being a first time mom I had no idea how to feel but I knew this hadnāt happened all pregnancyā¦ It wasnāt urine. Called againā¦ they told me to stay home itās urine etcā¦ anyways next morning I went to her office when they opened. She ran the tests and checked and they agreed I was in labor since I left her office the previous day!! I had a slow leak from the placenta and then it turned into getting the baby out before I got an infection bc I had been in labor so many hoursā¦ nuts. But I think itās totally normal! He could of warned you though. I felt violated but knew it was just my hormones and the fact I didnāt really want to be touched at all but knew it was necessary to start the process!
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Sounds like a sweep. My female doctors done it to me with both pregnancies. Itās supposed to help start it along. He could of warn you though.
Stripped your membranes
Usually they tell you but not all the time.
Sounds like membrane sweep, they didnāt warn me either - probably so you donāt tense up.