Oh god - that sounds awful - are you ok? I understand how you feel and I hope you are ok x
You should have asked âWhat was that?â I donât understand why nobody speaks up for themselves.
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Instead of going to the internet. You could have just asked him wtf that was after he was done or even during or made a phone call after.
Now these days 80 I would ask for another dr kick that one out but when I was younger I probably wouldnât have.
I donât think it was sexual since there was a nurse presentâŚ
Trying to strip your membranes to jump start labor
Itâs membrane sweeping and perfectly normal especially after expressing progress has slowed
Itâs called a membrane sweep ,or stripping âŚmanually seperates the amniotic sac from the uterine lining âŚto induce labour
It definitely sounds like he was trying to strip your membranes
Iâve had this done, but they did pre warn me
I had a women Dr when pregnant that I trusted. Why not ask during procedure? " Yikes what are you doing?"
If it made you feel weird speak up and say something you should always feel comfortable with your doctor
ask around I never Heard anything like thatâŚ
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Did this drs name start with a âBâ? If so message me
Thats not medical, report him asap
sounds like a stretch and sweep to get labour going
It definitely sounds like a sweepâŚ
I have and she was a woman and it is a jump start!
Why is it always me who has to get up and turn the telly over 
I think you should have confronted him immediately by questioning that procedure
Um no drs fingers should be thrusting into you.
Usually they ask if you want a membrane sweepâŚ
You got to report this to police, hospital, and lawyer. This creap has probably assaulted hundreds of women and girls.
Itâs common. I had a female Gy n she did it too
When I have female issues I always have a female doctor
Yes. Its called ârimming the cervix.â It can initiate a slow labor or lazy uterus. I had my 1st child after 2 hours 37 minutes. I felt very lucky.
Yes very normal procedure at 3 cm. If not much activity.
How did the nurse react?
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Why werenât there a female doctor?
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Find a new doctor this one is a sadist
Iâm guessing the jump starting didnât do anything then, hahahaha
Ever had a sweep before?
Beanie Rose Bronstien literally the definition of a sweep lol
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Honestly it sounds like a sweep ( my doctor with my second one was aggressive about itâ:face_with_symbols_over_mouth:
) I made sure not to go back to him again and thankfully had a different doctor deliver
Trying to unplug mucus., it is a procedure but they usually ask if you want it done
Sounds like he stripped your membranes away from your cervix it hurts and is lots of uncomfortable pressure. He should have told u he would do it first tho âŚmine always prepared me.
Thatâs how the female nurses and female doctor checked to see how dilated I was! They checked with their fingers 
and that shit hurt lol but it got the labor going a lot quicker.
Thatâs disgusting!!! Please complain thats not how you do a sweep and you need consent before any medical procedures
Had it done with all 3 of my pregnancies
I woulda kicked him đ¤ˇđźââ
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Probably just trying to get things going BUT he should have told you beforehand. That potentially could be quite distressing especially for victims of sexual abuse. I donât know if Iâd necessarily complain but Iâd definitely provide feedback about how it made you feel.
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Lara Preen I agree. The doctor should explain what they are going to do before they do it. There are so many of us that have been violated in our past that certain medical procedures can be triggers even if explained ahead of time. To have absolutely no warning and have someone do this, I probably wouldâve kicked him
I had a gynocologist play with my boobs and tickle them!!! While he laughed! Just ridiculous and yes another lady was in there!
Nah id absolutely report that doctor. Thats NOT normal
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Kinda sound like a sweep but they normally tell you before doing that and its painful.
I dont remember this ever being talked about in the 60s and 70s
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Yeh sounds like a stretch and sweep
Sounds like a stretch and sweepâŚi read the baby booksâŚyoull be fineâŚnothing to post aboutâŚgoogle stetch and sweep youll understand
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I feel bad for the doctor. And the nurse in that room. They spend thousands to graduate from medical training. They may still be paying back what student loans, grappling with sleep disruption, fatique, and whatever life they are adjusting. Not to mention the currect pandemic precautions and extras they have to deal with. And we are here talking about consent and malpractise on an obvious smooth delivery, because the Author was uneasy. Instead of reassuring her that her uneasiness was unwarranted. We have so called ''experienced" and âprofessionalsâ telling off anyone who dare to expressed their opinions and expressing them outright. We are here to mollycoddled the mother, or be frank and factful?
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Whilst in labour with my second baby I had a midwife checking how dilated I was and whilst she was down there she didnât even ask to do a sweep, she just said âIâm just going to do something to hurry things alongâ with no explanation of what she was doing⌠I said no thanks and she seemed frustrated and tried again, so I jumped back and said âI donât want it to go any quicker!â I think sometimes they forget that although this stuff is very common and routine for them (probably do it several times a day), doesnât mean it is normal or understood by all their patients.
They did this with my second, i was at a 5 and my sack was bulging, they did it to see how close my water was to breaking before sending me home. BUT I was informed before she did it.
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Some Drs do this without warning. There are many women that resist it and it may be medically necessary to try before further steps that may be deemed major. There are women that have anxiety over things they are unfamiliar with and it can be quite problematic. Itâs feels more appropriate to be warned, but I can say with my second, my emotions woulda hindered me had I been warned.
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Itâs membrane sweeping 
A painful unpleasant thing they do to start labour early. It might give infection to the baby and baby might die⌠Usually a law is that doctor have to tell you and ask if you are okay with it, but if you are in US then they can do what they likeâŚI will add the article about risk for baby to dieâŚ
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You do really need to get a life
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That isnt normal. Iâm pretty sure if he had been doing a membrane sweep they have to get permission first from the patient and canât just shove their fingers in their and do what they want. They also have to have reason medically to do a sweep. Just bc you do one does not mean the body is ready for labor and it can cause complications. You can also dilate backwards aka I went from a 3 at one point to a 1. There was no reason for this
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Regardless of if he was doing a sweep on you, you must consent to that first, otherwise no, not normal. Unless heâs discussed this with you first
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I would report it. Usually you get told if they are going to do something like that. Report asap. Terrible. The fact you feel violated says it all
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He was probably trying to strip the membrane around the cervix. It can cause the process of labor to begin. Ive had it done twice and it is painful. It can cause your mucous plug to be expelled. He was only able to do it because you are dilated and clearly ready for baby to be born
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Iâd express your concers with someone at your Dr office
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It happened to me before there wasnât a nurse present and the doctor told me that this would help me to relax. I felt so violated. It was so long ago and not like now
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The Dr stripped your membranes.
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It bothers me the amount of women that are saying âyou canât feel violatedâ in more or less words.
She still is allowed to feel violated. Especially since dr took no time to explain what he was going to do and to her, it basically seemed like he was trying be a perv because of that.
Technically, he never got her consent for doing the membrane sweep regardless. So he could still get into some trouble.
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Sorry for the long explination 
Althought everyone assumes you had your membrane swept I actually think the doctor was checking to see if they could feel the babyâs head. They have to reach threw the cervix to determine if the babyâs head is engaged and how far engaged. At my 39 week appointment last week my doctor told me I was 2cm dialted and my cervix was stretchy and she had to re-adjust and really reach up to tell me babyâs head was 3 out of 5 engagement it felt wrong like what you were explaining. I did have my membrane swept after the fact and that was her doing it again but holding the position for about 15secs and sweeping her fingers all over the top babyâs head and it was super uncomfortable verge of painful. Althought consint is needed for the sweep it is not for engagement of babyâs head and they have to reach farther then you think and doctors will forget bedside manner and explain themselves. But both require doctor readjusting a couple times to finally be able to push threw and reach for babyâs head but a sweep requires holding the position once there.
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Sounds like he stripped your membranes to get things moving along quicker. My dr did mine with both my pregnancies, and I went into labor the next morning with both. Good luck!
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Membrane sweep. They should have asked you first.
You needed to be informed 1st
We call it sweep. I have had it done for all of my pregnancies
He shouldâve told you what he was doing before he did it. Shame on him.
Why dont he tell you to go home and have sex instead?
I donât think it sounds like he was stripping the membrane but thatâs the only thing I can think of. HOWEVER. Anything like that needs your consent. That was disgusting. If you feel up to it, reporting him is an option. Iâm sorry honey.
It sounds like he was trying it remove your mucus plug to start your labor
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Membrane sweep. Normally they ask you if you want it done between 37 to 39 weeks. It helps put you into labor
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I would say something and take someone with you next time. If he has been your doctor throughout the pregnancy and hasnât done anything to make you feel uncomfortable then I wouldnât worry too much about it and most likely I would say he was sweeping your membranes. It will progress labor
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I feel your doctor was trying to stretch you out a little bit to help things advance a little bit, my doctor did this many times. Also would feel for the head that late in pregnancy.
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He was helping you dilate more. Stretching the cervix
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3 kids and never been checked for dialation until it was baby time and in the hospital.
he just stripped your membrane
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Probably stretching your cervix
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They should of explained what they were doing. He swept your membrane. It makes you progress faster in some cases. It does not feel great
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Stripping membranes had mine done and my water broke two days later
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Sounds like a stretch and sweep but he should have informed you before just doing it.
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Yeah no that wasnât a membrane sweep they have better ways to do it
Yes it has happened before!
This, I feel, is a problem with alot of cases where woman feel violated then made not to say anything because others say it is normal. No! We can not ignore the fact that she feels violated. I would have definitely asked what that was for. If he was just stripping your cervix then he should have told you what he was going to do first. Sorry you feel this way
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Whether it was part of the exam or not you shouldâve been given warning/choice. I really wish you spoke up the moment it happened. I have 3 kids, one in which I was induced & literally minutes from them calling emergency c-section & Iâve never had that done to me.
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With my last baby I refused pelvic exams. It doesnât really do anything for you and itâs super uncomfortable. I plan to do the same this time as well.
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My Dr was a female and did this same thing. In between gasps of pain I told her she could have at least bought me dinner first.
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They do this . Mine did it to me and she was a women. They r trying to help things along for u. Iâm also a nurse this is normal. Now if u were like early in ur pregnancy itâs not but ur right at the end so thatâs what he was doing. If u were saying ur ready for it to come out, complaints of being uncomfortable , or just expressing a need to get baby out they will do this.
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Maybe a membranes strip
Geez this comment section is trash. 
Doing a stretch and sweep to help move the process along
Sounds like he did a stretch and sweep girl. To help ripen your cervix. I just went through this on Thursday
SPEAK UP TO THE DOCTOR NOT FACEBOOK! Listen yâall, if you feel violated or something makes you uncomfortable, speak the hell up. Vocalize how you felt right then and there.
In this scenario, it sounds like he was stripping your membranes. This is something that should have been explained prior to doing it but extremely common to have done.
I am sorry you feel the way you do. You need to speak to your Doctor directly and clear the air now. Especially if you are scheduled to go back to him again soon.
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Sounds like he was scraping your membranes. My doctor did this, it helps start labor. However my doctor asked if Iâd like him to do it.
When I had my membranes stripped my dr did a hook-circular motion not a thrust. I had my child 6 hours later. Unless this has changed that did not sound like a membrane strip and mine also explained the procedure.
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He was probably doing a stretch and sweep of your membranes, but he should have explicitly asked your permission before doing so
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He should have asked your permission if he was stripping membranes!