Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Help....not sure what to do
He’s definitely doing something. Gonna have to talk to him about it. The way he reacts will say it all.
I wont put up with this you deserve much better. Dont let this drama waste anymore time move on
If he locked his work phone and deletes everything I think you already know he’s cheating. Leave
U already know girl. Question is what are you going to do about it?
Maybe he’s having sex with a co-worker. I would pop up at his job but I’m crazy like that lmao
Cut up all his boxers lol
Red flags. I think you know the answer
Itching powder in his undies! And leave him!
Oh!!! It’s time to show him out & let door hit em hard!!!
Definitely sounds like a cheater
Locked phone…cheating!!! Definitely!!!
He’s lying and hiding stuff because he’s cheating.
Red flag leave him!
He leaks?! He needs to see a doctor stat! That’s highly improbable .
Yikes. Get outta there
You shouldnt even need opinions on this one…c’mon now.
You just listed characteristics of a cheater.
Get out of that relationship…he has already left it.
Ref flags all over
It happened with my ex, I grabbed his workphone and asked him for the pass code NOW or were done. He gave it to me. I found about a thousand pictures of different girls naked/ posing. Found many dating apps on which he talked to a bunch of different girls and call girls screen spotted off naughty websites. I packed my stuff and walked out. If he doesn’t let you into his phone before touching it first, I’d call it quits.
Just saying if you even THINK he is cheating. That is how you know
Re-read what you typed and the answer should come easily. Buh-bye, adios amigos!
Be smart, let him do what he does. Your obviously seeing something is going on. Be still, be silent. It will all come to a head. In the meantime prepare yourself. Best advice I have to give. Good luck, I’ll pray for you
Time for some itch powder or better yet some icy hot
FIRST YOU NEED TO BE CHECKED! these bitches nasty! Kick him tf out! Is he crazy… You know damn well… Id fk his ass up. And he thinks your a dummy… Girl…
Girl you already know .
Very suspicious. Even if he’s ‘taking care of himself’, it’s a big problem if he has to do that at work.
Dude he’s cheating! Wtf is with these females?
Hes cheating or has an STD. That’s it, that’s all.
Go with your gut! If you post pone this it will only hurt longer.
GPS tracker on his vehicle
Huge RED FLAG mama. He’s definitely cheating.
I’m pretty sure you already know the answer. He’s literally coming home with cum in his underwear… you don’t just leak cum. He also locked his work phone and isn’t having any sexual relations with you… girl run. You already have the confirmation you need. He will obviously never admit to it and you may not ever get the proof you want. For your sanity, run.
Pay attention to at least a few out of the dozen red flags
I think you know the answer…
My husband said that the I just time he leaks is if he is really turned in and has a boner “pre cum” or after sex. But it’s not something that should happen everyday for no reason. He said he’s definitely cheating or taking care of himself at work with porn.
Does his employer pay for said phone?
If so, call them and tell them that he misusing the phone
If you’re asking, you know. I’m sorry Go with your gut.
He’s cheating. Decide if you are going to ignore it and stay or if you will leave. No need to live in stress.
Pre-ejaculation is a red flag now!
in my experience trust your gut feelings x
How many red flags do you need
He’s hiding SOMETHING. It could be straight up outright infidelity or something more in the gray area but either way y’all have to sit down and get some real answers. If he can’t be bothered to tell you the TRUTH, I’d honestly look at leaving. Life is too short to be unhappy. I genuinely wish you the best!!
Out the door i would say cheating
Oh he’s doing something with someone. The hard part is believing & not being in denial, then leaving! After that, you will be so glad you did. Please do not sell yourself short! No one deserves to put up with that sh!t!!
I think you can do better than that.
I think you know the answer…
It sounds like he is cheating. My ex used to hide his phone changed his password his hygiene upped massively x
The signs are all there… he’s definitely cheating. He’s hiding things from you by locking his phone and not allowing you to see what’s on it. He’s come home multiple times with his underwear having c*m in them. He isn’t giving you any attention or intimacy in the bedroom. What you should think about is sitting down and outright ask him if he is cheating, if he denies it but your gut says he is, then take the necessary steps to either leave him or see if you can find it within yourself to forgive and move on. Just keep in mind that if your gut says it’s so, then go with your gut because that feeling is pretty accurate! Good luck!
Kerry M. Ortiz she basically just answered all her questions herself
he reliefs himself while at work? that’s odd
So… if it is bad enough you feel like you need to go through his phone…it is a red flag…I would walk away before checking the phone. But if it is to the point you are checking his underwear… why are you wasting time asking the internet instead of throwing his chit in the front yard?
It seems to me like you’re answering your own questions. I’m sorry.
You know the answer. You don’t need further validation from strangers online babe. Leave him!
Rather there is cheating or not, if you have discussed openly with him this bothers you girl this is highly disrespectful
You know what to do- you don’t need the validation from others.
You either put up with this or you leave.
If you leave you will be happy.
U should know the answer to this…
The answer is staring you in the face
“Leaking” is a thing. All us who are commenting don’t have penises, so we can’t speak on experiences about that department, but ask any man about it, it happens; doesn’t mean he’s cheating. Men, jacking off at work? Hell yeah, you touch their shoulders and they’ll Pre-cum in their gitch. Not EVERYTHING we don’t understand means he’s cheating
Is you seriously in here asking us this question? Like a lot of y’all women just be putting y’all self through anything
You look in your husbands underwear
The minute you started checking his underwear is the minute you’ve scooped so damn low that it’s time to leave
That man is cheating.
How many red flags do you need?If you have a bad feeling trust it hun I’ve been there and done it.Trust your gut.
Girl, if he sounds like a cheater… Chances are he’s a cheater…
Honest faithful people don’t add codes to their phone and hide stuff and etc ya know… The question is, do you know your worth or are you going to settle for his bullshit?
WTH kind of work does he do?? That’s just creepy!
Red flags all over this !!
Whatever’s happening is to much and you have to make a decision to accept it or reject it.
Respect yourself and leave
I think the fact that he’s hiding things and you don’t trust him means it’s time to head on out of this relationship. Good luck and gets tested!
Only thing I can recommend is a divorce.
I’m kinda disturbed that you are examining his underwear.
I’m not sure if you’re asking about this just for reassurance or if you’re asking because you genuinely don’t know.
You can drive yourself insane with the “what ifs”, but I think you already know what’s going on.
Were you examining his undies ever so closely to find said c**?
Red flags all over This post
cheating or not there is no trust there. Why are u looking though Hes underwear sorry but that
This is all … weird. Like crazy behavior. I don’t examine my man’s underwear… I’m not sure which of you sound more toxic, honestly.
So first of all the code on work phone could be a new requirement by his employer. We are strictly enforcing that with our employees because their kids would get ahold of their phones and rack up data charges. Also depending on his line of work there could be estimates, secure pricing etc that is to be private. Nobody has the right to go through an employer granted phone period.
He is a cheating POS. Respect yourself and divorce him
He is cheating. There is no other reason for that behavior
Hmmmm. Sounds lil swishy washy to me…
Umm u know what that means !! RUNNNNN
You’re gonna drive yourself crazy and find out some stuff you Dont wanna know but just secretly follow him if you really wanna know.
Sounds to me like he’s cheating
Why you checking his underpants for
could be a UTI it can cause discharge. His work phone is none of your business that pays the bills. Pleasing himself and not coming to you can mean he’s cheating or he knows he has something and won’t get checked and doesn’t want to give it to you.
babe it sounds like you already know.
Maybe it’s jizz, maybe it’s gonorrhea leakage. You really want to stick around and find out?
Don’t go through his clothes, don’t go through his phone, just pick up what little pride you have left and Start fresh.
If you’re at the point of needing to snoop through allllll of his stuff, the relationship is already done.
Sounds like you know the answer😪
Ur stupid! Leave his dumbass
Why r you putting this in Facebook???grow some Balls in handle ot yourself!!!
Super cheating just leave
What kind of weirdo checks their husband’s underwear?
Clone his phone my daughter can do that so I imagine it’s out there in the web somewhere. But I would say leave you can do better or make him move out.
A lot of my problems stopped when I stopped looking just saying…
There could be many reasons to their behavior- It’s not unbelievable. However, I recommend a moment of self-reflection to both people in the relationship. Is something lacking? Communicating, deep conversation or concern could open up topics you’ve never explored. Otherwise, explore what’s making him ‘go’ tell him what you want, stand up for yourself. it’s not fair he’s ‘going’ everyday in his pants and then he gets to rub it in your face when you’re doing his laundry More red flags and gaslighting are what I’d look for if you’re concerned.
Love how everyone jumps to the conclusion he’s cheating , could be a number of reasons as to why he has sperm in his undies! Good God
Sorry u going throw this