When my son started kindergarten, he only liked two of his shirts and wanted to wear only them. What did I care? I taught him how to do his laundry so one of them would always be clean. He did get over it pretty quickly. I don’t think this is about her clothes. Let go, Mom. tell her to ppick out her clothes for school the night before, and do NOT go make sure they match, or anything. Let her wear stripes and plaids, or whatever she picked out. Just let go.
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Maybe try to match clothes or colors with her every day?
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Take everything out of her closet. Everything. Hand her the outfit that you have chosen for her to wear. And it’s final. Wear it or go to school naked. Period. If you allow this behavior now you’ll not be able to handle her as she becomes older.
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If she’s breaking down over it, maybe there is something more going on? Has she been bullied at school maybe? I would start there.
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Tell her, you have two choices! you can pick out your clothes or I can picked them out for you and you will wear them.
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It could be a sensory thing, my younger sister had the same problem around that age.
The way my mother handle it was she got her leggings and shirts that weren’t overwhelming
glitter bright colors lots of patterns
Later on we all agreed that my sister was mainly stressed from school and that the outfits mom had for her were overwhelming on top of the stress.
I suggest maybe trying bland clothing and talking to her about school or just in general how she feels.
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Is she maybe having trouble with a bully at school? Kids can be mean at all ages.
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Limit the choices. Could be sensory.
My daughter refuses jeans or tights! However if the leggings are too long or short or tight, no on those 
also no quarter length sleeves or socks with threads on the inside 
shirts, the inside has to be the right texture. I really can’t be mad though, I’m super picky about material as well 
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How about something like this! She can pick out the outfits she wants on Sunday & be ready for the whole week!!
Ask if someone/ another child at school has said something negative about her clothes, that maybe why. Children especially girls can be mean to one another. I know it started I’m 1st grade with my daughter. Good luck.
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I had this problem with my fashionista 5 year old I had to put my foot down and she wore what I told her to put on sometimes you have to remember you are the parent they are the child
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This sounds like anxiety from a deeper issue. Is there anything going on at school maybe someone picking on her or something else.
Be her parent not her friend
Actually try parenting your child ,you are the adult that teaches and allows your child these choices ,
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What about picking for the wk and than she can just pick out for the day
How about compromise with her . Let her pick out an outfit one day then you the next. She is at the age where he own personally and how she see"s herself is developing. She is becoming her own person. When I was in 1st grade I would go to the bathroom at school and put my slip on the outside of my dress. I just thought it was so pretty. My mom who was the BEST parent you could ask for never scolded me. She would just keep telling me it goes under your dress not over. After awhile when the kids started teasing me I quit. She would always mention how I wore my slip whenever I thought someone’s clothing or appearance looked different. It allowed me to be who I wanted but, also taught me to accept people for who they are and not what they look like. If it’s all gurly clothes maybe she doesn’t like them when I got older and started picking out my own cloths I didn’t wear a dress until I was almost out of high school. Take the clothes with the tags on them back and see if she’s looking for something particular not in the girl’s section.
We had this a little bit with my son at that age. We found that a choice of two in the morning helped. So at night I would put two outfits out and he’d pick one. It was less stress and he didn’t get overloaded with too many choices/ stress. Maybe work with her the night before on the two pics. It sort of empowers them but not too much. Good luck and hang in there.
OMG! I am 62 years old and I did the same thing. My Mom said I drove her crazy every day. I don’t mean to laugh but I was just like that. Hang in there Mom.
Usually when a girl starts hating her wardrobe somethings going on, whether its emotions, bullying, etc! I would try sitting her down after school and trying to talk with her! Find out whats going on!!!
My daughter was like that as well. So the night before I put her in mix matched pjs and since she refused to wear clothes that she picked out the night before she went to school in those mix matched pjs! I tell ya… she never did that again. She was more than happy to put on the outfits 
Sounds to me it’s a child who feels entitled and has more then she needs Spoilt is a word I’d use Years gone children had less and valued what they had 
Everyone is always so quick to say a disorder of sorts or maybe they’re on the spectrum. Sometimes kids are brats just because they’re allowed to be! Obviously kids have to wear clothes to school……there is no choice you wear the clothes I’ve bought and that’s it. I don’t understand why parents can’t just be parents!
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I think kids are given too many choices. You are the parent, she should wear what you put out no questions asked. No options. We never were given a choice, we wore what we were given and ate what was put on our plate. Times were much simpler then and children obeyed their parents.
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Buy her a basic school uniform from Good Will and tell her that on days she argues, complains, or takes more than 10 minutes to decide, this will be her outfit of the day. I bet it won’t happen more than once if you follow through!
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Give her 5 minutes to make up her mind and walk out. Tell her if she isn’t ready in five she’s going in her pjs. . No drama. It’s her choice! Don’t put so much emphasis on clothes! Stick to the plan . Just once is all it will take!
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This is simple and may or may not help… give her a favorite snack right when she wakes up and give her a little time to eat it before getting dressed. It may help with her attitude and make her a touch more agreeable.
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I would suggest stop giving her so many choices as she is only 6 years old and you are the parent and you are the boss and what you say,goes! You’re giving her the option to be in control of what she wants and doesn’t want so that’s why she keeps getting away with it and having all these meltdowns. Put your foot down with her be Stern be consistent and tell her she is going to wear these clothes, you we’re nice enough to let her pick them out. O
You are not giving her a choice, so don’t let her decide anything, and if she’s going to continue to give you attitude, I would start using disciplinary options. What I do with my five-year-old daughter when she acts like how your daughter is acting about clothes, I put her straight to bed after dinner with nothing to do but go to sleep, or I take things away from her or I have her stand in the corner for 5 minutes or she doesn’t get to do any fun events with the family. You have to start with small things because they are still young but kids shouldn’t be able to act the way she’s acting and completely get away with it and get what she wants. Good luck mamas
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I’ve got 4 grown daughters 
. You need to get a grip on this before she’s older. If she’s got two outfits and can’t pick one then I’d be making a choice for her. Those clothes with tags on? Umm just know that it’s spoiling her. Some kids have nothing but goodwill clothes. She’s calling the shots at 6! Trust me… you have the power and life will be easier. I also recommend buying 5-7stackable containers and put the days of the week on them and let her pick out the clothes and fill it up. Then make her stick with that outfit. Makes it more fun and less stress maybe 
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Stop buying her clothes… or make her pick out some ones with tags and donate them. Let her see where some kids shop. She has no clue. She’s 6 and will get how blessed she is!
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Could there be another underlying cause? My brain goes to immediately a bully or someone making fun of her… I know she’s only 6 but at 6 I was bullied and even pushed to the ground on the school bus… I didn’t know how to tell my parents but was injured in being pushed and once the nurse noticed I needed my knees washed and bandaged, she alerted the principal. So be sure the clothes aren’t an excuse!!
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PARENTS are in charge till age 18!!! Give her two choices one outfit you picked out and one she picked out…get her on a routine bedtime and next time this happens YOU take charge dress her as you did as a baby till she decides to get herself ready …than out to school bus and wait till she’s picked up. Oh conversation with another child asking them how nice they look and of they pick out their own clothing. She definitely will be embarrassed to hear how many say they dress themselves and picked out their own clothes .just don’t single her out because it tends to create bullying. Than after. School talk to her as well as add a chore to be done as well as homework
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First you need to rule out other issues-such as sensory process issue. You might do some research and learn more about it. If there is no other issues then it may be that she has learned what is called ‘the dance of interaction’ she behaves one way n then you behave that way. You may tell her to pick one or two outfits the night before and then tell her that you will be leaving the house at whatever time you normally leave, regardless of the what she is wearing. Then you just need to do this. Refuse to be drawn into a fight/discussion of what she is going to wear. Have a conversation about something else. Try to make the mornings as pleasant as possible and then happily go off to school-regardless.
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Put several complete outfits together ahead of time and with her. She may feel like wearing one the night before but may feel different in the morning. Ask her how she liked her outfit at the end of the day. Maybe even take a picture of her wearing her outfit on good days, print it out with a caption saying how it made her feel so she remembers next time.
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I have a small bin with a few different outfits, then he picks his own outfit from the bin but has different options. (Shirts on left, pants, undies on right)
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My son has sensory processing disorder was diagnosed at an early age… he had meltdowns every day about clothes and shoes I was at my wits end… but I picked my battles and took him shopping had him try on different materials different sizes … his socks hadn’t to be thin not thick … no seams… underwear were a no go!! Shorts had to be longer … it took a while to adjust but now with lots of patience and understanding he dresses himself with his favorite clothes and off to school… no more meltdowns!!! Target has a line of children’s clothing made for children with processing disorders… hope this helps!!!
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My daughter is also 6 and since she was 4 she’s been exactly like this, we’ve fought daily, I’ve just started to understand her more recently it’s mainly to do with her underwear and her trousers she finds uncomfortable but it is such a pain I buy 2 sizes one that is her age and one that’s bigger, I let her try on both and what ever she feels she likes more I take the other on back it’s a long slow painful process but we are almost out of this stage just be patient and loving towards her we were all little once and they’ve also had a while off school with the holidays and covid so my daughter was used to comfortable clothes at home
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Too many choices maybe? Simplify her wardrobe. Also it could be that she notices what other children are wearing at school and wants similar clothing or someone is picking on her? Or simply she isn’t a morning person and if you have enough time you should try having her change right before you leave the house (trial run on a weekend just in case) and or try letting her get dressed completely unassisted in the mornings. Either way hang in there bc it’s probably just a phase
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My kids just wore their clothes for school to sleep in until they decided they wanted to change in the morning. Worked great. Most of the clothes they wore were comfortable to sleep in any ways. No fussing in the mornings.
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My 7 year ready for school, society may not like it at all, but this is her choice for the day…i just let her enjoy her own…I don’t demand her to please society eyes!! Have a blessed day
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YOU are the parent and YOU need to decide, not her, what she wears, eats, where she goes, who she associates with. You are not her little friend, you are the guidance she needs, the love she receives, and the person responsible for her ability to grow up as a productive human being. YOU need to grow up and SOON.
You are allowing her too much authority you need to take control and be the parent.
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Target’s Cat & Jack brand gears towards sensory disorders! I feel like many children go through this. I have a huge sensory issue (I am not on the spectrum) and I am an adult. So when my daughter says something does not feel right, I do not force her to wear it because I know how uncomfortable it is. I can say it comes in stages for my daughter but it’s a new stage all the time.
My 11 year old is like this and no it isn’t because I give her too much power. She is in the 6th grade and because she is a heavier girl only thing she feels comfortable in is leggins but becasue she is in the 6th grade they aren’t allowed to wear leggins it has to be jeans or sweats but rhe sweats have to be a little bit loose and she doesn’t like loose clothing so it’s hard to find anything she wants to wear. Jeans hurts her stomach even the kind that stretch. The school said that leggins after the 4th grade is too distracting. Which I think is crazy because the jeans they have now and tight fitting.
Plain and simple you are the parent not her…to be honest if one of my girls acted like this id put them in one of their brothers old halloween costumes and send them on their way…granted one of the girls would prolly love it the other would hate it and I bet straighten out her attitude…they are 3 year old twins(and yes have already tried exerting their authority on me and figured out real quick I’m in charge
I think it is something they go through I went through this about a year with my 7 year old…She has multiple styles, I just chose to let ware what she wants if it don’t match in the public eyes oh well it’s her personality and her style…and I am so proud she is not influenced by the popular…She is ok and I don’t say anything as long as it’s appropriate for her age…Just step back and let her put together a outfit by herself tell her to surprise you, tell her to model some outfits for you to kinda get a idea of “her personal style” and when buying clothes keep her personality in mind…Sometimes what my 7 year old picks I truly don’t see the cuteness in it but it is who she is and helps her confidents…Hope you don’t think every thing should match or look a certain way because that’s basically pleasing society…have a good day😎
My son did this with everything forever and still is all the time.
But sometimes this works.
Two choices. Both of which you know they like. It’s less to choose from and they decide still. It’s worth a try. And works when I need it to sometimes.
Make sure getting enough sleep! Get up 15 min earlier to feed her. Sometimes they need time in am to wake up!! Picking out clothes night before is good idea. Wishing you the Best!
It sounds like ocd obsessive compulsive disorder. There is medicine for it and more people have it than you know. Don’t fight with her. She is in a fight with her mind She can’t help it. I may be completely wrong. I
Is she doing this only when it comes to school or other times she needs to get dressed as well? It could be that she’s having trouble at school and this is her way of trying to delay or not go. Sit her down calmly and ask her what’s going on. Talk to her.
Have you asked her why she doesn’t like her clothes? Is she being teased at school? Kids can be cruel because they’re taught it at home. Sit her down and ask her questions as to why she doesn’t want to wear her clothes. Let her know that she has to go to school so that means her clothes has to be worn
There is probably a secondary reason. My daughter is 5 and we have the same issue she won’t wear some type of jeans but will wear legging it all just depends. But some days I put my foot down if she’s over reaction and I pick out 2 outfits and told her she has these 2 to choose from so it prevents from a break down sometimes
You haven’t created any boundaries. “either you choose your outfit or mommy and daddy does”. Having too many options for children creates chaos in their mind. I understand trying to give them autonomy but only if they are mature enough to handle it.
Maybe try waking her up earlier so she can eat a little something and then pick out her clothes for the day…when I was little I use to pick out 2 outfits for the next day just incase I didn’t like one anymore…I also ate then made my decision.
My granddaughter has sensory issues and clothing is a problem for her. Just like all the other parents commenting, it really does sound like she has a sensory issue. Talk to your pediatrician about this. Pay attention to what type of clothes she will wear.
I remember when my youngest was six. It’s a difficult age. Be patient and spend a few minutes of cuddle time in the morning. Good luck 
You pick out two outfits and she gets to choose one or the other ONLY out of those two! Put ur foot down or she will continue to run your house.
Wake her up earlier than usual. Rub her back and tell her breakfast will be ready in about 10 minutes & that you’ll wake her again in a bit. Sometimes a hurried, frantic morning makes for stressful time before going to school. If she has time to wake up she’ll be more in a mood to pick out clothes. She could simply be tired. It will make your morning a lot better today. Hopefully you have time to sit with her and eat breakfast also or have all the kids in the family do the same thing.
my daughter is just like this and has been for a while! shes 6. we wear nike shorts and a tshirt everyday bc thats what shes comfortable in! i just always make her try everything on before i buy and then she will wear it for a week and then hate them by the next week. i use to have to just reward her at the end of the week if she could go all week without whining every morning and picking her clothes out without a fight!
Pick out 2 outfits and tell her she is wearing 1 of them and if she doesn’t choose then you will decide which one she wears. Stop letting her run the show. Put your foot down.
Is she wearing a mask at school ? Covid is worrying many little ones and since they don’t know how to talk about it it comes out in behaviour. Get her talking by asking a couple of questions while in the middle of a game… game therapy for this age
My daughter was going to this we found it the hard way she was getting bullied at school one girl was whispering in her ear while staring at her you know how that goes
Give her an option of 2 outfits. Sometimes some kids get overwhelmed with too much to choose from and they will act out in response. Hope this helps.
I was that kid. I wasn’t being a brat but for some reason had a reaction to the clothes that my grandparents chose for me. It was 2nd/3rd grade when it happened. I remember being ok with what was chosen to wear the night before but the next day not wanting to wear it and changing my mind. I have the same feeling now as an adult and can’t predict what I will wear the next day. Is that maybe some sort of disorder?
Glad I don’t have girls! Brats! But who’s the parent here. Sounds like she’s running the show around there…because she can. So sad
Find out what the real problem is. It could be sensory issues or simply the fact that she doesn’t like herself. Find out why.
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Give her a choice and If she doesn’t pick in like 5-10 minutes u pick . it might cause a fight and a tantrum but she will soon figure out her outfit Choice!
I like the sensoring comment, most of us don’t know that artificial fabrics like rayon, polyester, modal, spandex, lycra etc… wear us down, in other words , we are slightly allergic to this, get natural fibers like cotton or linen, don’t wear linen and wool together, there is a scientific reason for that, look it up and notice the subtle changes
Or maybe what you got her wearing she dont like take her shopping let her pick out what she wants when their at that age their learning their own style.
Get her a five drawer clear plastic storage chest from Walmart and ask her to put five outfits in the drawers for the week.
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Put your damn foot down. You gave her options she didn’t like them so now she don’t have a choice. Put some clothes on her bed and tell her that’s what she’s wearing. If she fuss and cry oh damn well she gone be fussing and crying while putting them damn clothes on shittttt. She’s fucking 6 be the damn parent Jesus
It’s not about the clothes. It sounds like she has some anxiety going on. My grandaughter has it. No fun.
I have a 9yr old and 7yr old both girls and a 10yr old boy this is what we do… Hopefully it’ll help. The night b4 we look at the weather app on my phone for the next day, talk about it and let her pick her an outfit out or even 2outfits and let her make her final decision in the morning. There are some days that my kids is closed don’t match because I just don’t feel like arguing with them. It’s one of those decisions where you pick your battles the fighting on you with them. For example the other day my son wore basketball shorts(blue) with a white t underneath a button-up .(teal)Hawaiian shirt that have palm trees on it to school. And the reason he wore that outfit is because he said teal and blue matched,
Be a parent and not her friend
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The two pictures I just posted are on your childs development stages. May help some.
Offering only 2 options that you select before hand based on the weather(negative reinforcement).
Providing small treat like a comment mentioned above and giving a child praise about her outfit selection, for choosing one of the two options without argument or for choosing with good timing help her to keep doing it(positive reinforcements)
We have to reign in our kids emotions or nothing ever gets settled. Be clear and concise. Give her few choice, not all.
She’s 5, your the parent! Why are you letting her get away with this behavior.
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Perhaps give her a time to be dressed by. Allow her to be in her room alone. Threaten if she’s not dressed you’ll choose for her.
Maybe she’s being bullied at school for her clothes. It sucks kids are cruel.
Tell your daughter she wears what you buy. Let her know you are the parent not her
Mabe there is a root 'cause to her behavior? Good for you for trying to help her through whatever she is dealing with. Prayers & blessings. (School issues are difficult this year, with lack of staffing in so many areas & the fall out from those problems may be spilling out onto your daughter.) Have you considered talking to a counselor about this?
Who is the adult here. Can’t deal with a 6 yr old, your in trouble for the next 12 yrs,
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Maybe if you asked her why she hates her clothes, she might tell you. Maybe shes getting made fun of.
Pick out the week’s outfits on Sunday. She gets to choose from those choices alone daily.
Maybe she is having a hard time at school?
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Butt spank !! it should of been done a long time ago … you are the parent not she telling you what to do smh
Pick out two outfits for her and tell her to choose one don’t give her to many options
Old mountain preacher said “We can take a combat hardened Marine into a room and break him, but we can’t make a 10 year old take out the trash!”
Quit giving her so many options and catering to her. Its only guna get worse later with more meltdowns and acting out. Pick out a set of clothes…and dont budge after that.
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Spank that little hiney and put an outfit on her. Anyone knows the difference between a swat and a beating. Or you could remove something she enjoys and Don’t give in
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Rubie Joy is my grandbaby’s beautiful name
As long as there’s not other issues, and it sounds like it’s not-limit options. Choice paralysis is a thing. If you find something she does like-buy it in every color, or buy 5 of the same and let her wear a “uniform” to school. Lots of very smart, productive people wear “uniforms”. The same clothes everyday eliminates the need to spend energy on getting ready! It can be slightly different tops in the same color/different shades and her favorite bottoms-jeans or shorts/skirts whatever. All the same socks and underwear will eliminate that too. If there are not any choices to make then there is no fight to have. Set a timer and when it goes off-she needs to be dressed.
Take control Mom 
she’s only 6 
Nip it in the bud 
⚘:mask:
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My daughter was like this well two of them. It does get better. One of my daughters had her own style and even though she picked out her own clothes when she put them on she didn’t like the feel of them like some was itchy to her or to tight and to short. After she decided they were this or that she wouldn’t wear them. Finally she wore dresses with leggings everyday for a year with socks that didn’t match. That was her style and she wore it good. We got her crazy looking socks that didn’t match and she looked forward to wearing all of it. The kids in her class also started doing this it was an added bonus. Maybe you can see what she wants as her own style and make it fun. One time I asked my daughter if she was ok wearing things the others didn’t wear. I was curious to see what she said she told me that she was her own person who would not wear things just because someone else wore it so I was proud and ok with what she wore as long as it was age appropriate
Sounds like school maybe the problem
When I was a kid, a long time ago, before there was a definition for it, I hated the way clothing felt on me. Hard, stiff, tags, you name it, my senses rejected it. My mom let me run around for a long time in just my underwear , then a soft “child” bra and panties in the house if we were alone. I’d talk to the doctor to see if there is a deeper issue going on. I didn’t know how to explain it, and maybe she doesn’t either. 
She’s 6 ! Start acting like a parent or you’re in for a long hard road !
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Wow! Glad my Grandkids wore uniforms…
Brung the new clothes back to the store if you won’t wear them quit playing her game
She’s a brat! Plain & simple. Don’t bargain with her, don’t ask her what she wants to wear. Put the clothes on her - forcefully if necessary - & send her out the door to school! If I’d ever pulled anything like that, my mother would have paddled my rear severely!
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Letting a 6 year old “run you”; when she’s 10 she might be smacking you around.
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Could be sensory. My autistic son will only wear certain items Of clothing. He’s a nightmare to Shop for. Maybe discuss it with your GP. All the best