I would put her back into therapy. Or at least talk to her doctor. Let them know she has currently started wetting the bed and said it’s because of how sad she is. That’s a lot of a 5 year old to handle, especially when they might not be able to grasp the whole situation yet. Therapy is a good thing for everyone, and if she’s having troubles that you & your husband aren’t sure how to handle… let them. They know what questions to ask her to get her talking and how to help her move forward
She needs the therapy please so this doesn’t manifest into something bigger as she gets older
It’s definitely not a phase she’s traumatised
Talk to her. Don’t try and dumb it down be open honest with her. Tell her your feelings. I mean if u think she needs to go then take her. Otherwise just have open conversations
Personally I think therapy, not meds. Just someone to help her process her emotions right now. Poor thing validate her emotions let her know it’s ok to feel sadness and to miss our loved ones. (Hugs)
I would say the therapy was helping her.
There’s nothing wrong with her seeing a therapist. She might need someone that she can talk to that isn’t close to her. Maybe she’ll be able to open up and talk about what has happened and how it’s making her feel. If after a couple months you see it’s not making a difference then don’t make her go if she doesn’t want. If it helps though it doesn’t matter what anyone says. It’s for her mental and emotional well being. You make the call mama. No one knows your baby better than you do.
If you as her parent thinks she needs thearpy i would start he back up YOU know whats best for her… I also know the feeling because i have people tell me all the time MY child don’t need therapy but i refuse to take him out no matter how much people are in my ear telling me to because I as a parent knows whats best
Most schools have a grief group or contact a caring place
Nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. 3 yr Olds can benefit from a therapy
Having her in therapy young is NOT a bad thing. It will teach her healthy coping mechanisms for the future. I hate when people make it a bad thing. If you see a difference in her since she’s been out, take her back. Children deserve all the resources to help them be healthy thriving adults. 
My daughter went to counseling for anxiety when she was in kindergarten . She graduated from counseling and had no more accidents at school. She’s now in 2nd grade and doing awesome. Counseling helps .
You do what you think is best for your child dont let anyone tell you different . If you feel it helped her then do what you need to .
her health and well being as well a your peace of mind are worth more then their opinion
Explaining death at that age is hard. Try watching movies like Bambi and talk about your feelings. Inside out is a good movie about emotions.
Being in therapy yourself can help you figure out how to cope and you can lead by example. I am an advocate for therapy but 5 is a hard age. I was in therapy at that age. I really feel like 3rd grade is when my therapy began being beneficial. Before that I was just going to play with toys. Everyone is different and you know what is best for your children.
Put back in therapy and stop letting others tell you what she needs. Your her mom take charge.
Therapy! It definitely helps at ANY age. I wish more people, especially parents realized this. It is easier to help a child talk through things than change an adult because they didn’t receive the help or proper resources as a little person.
A therapist someone who wasn’t close to family /pet or to wither to help her my cousin who passed on in dec 2016. It was easier for my youngest to talk to someone who wasn’t close to her
If she’s in school, talk to school counselor.and for her bed wetting take her to an urologist, she might have bladder problems.
Mom is projecting and coaching on this one. I think mom needs the counseling to help with everything she’s been through. Death impacts adults a lot harder than kids, kids don’t fully understand it. My daughter at 5 asked if she was supposed to get her dead pet to heaven by throwing it into the sky.
She told you she was tired when she wet the bed and it probably was just that but you couldn’t accept that answer so you coached her with “are you sad?”, if she says no it frustrates you because you think she should be but if she says “yes” and gives the answers you’re seeking she validates your feelings of grief and children are inherently parent pleasers at that age so she’s gonna do whatever she thinks will make you happy or say whatever you want to hear. Kids pick up on a parents energy too, mom’s grief could be causing more stress than the loss of a grandparent and a pet.
Therapy definitely wouldn’t hurt. Don’t listen to what other people say. If you think it’s gonna help your baby then hands down I say do it. Don’t let other peoples opinions stop you from doing what’s best for her <3
I took my oldest son to therapy at the age of 3 do to some issues, it’s never to early if it is helping. I would also discuss the bed wetting with her pediatrician, maybe there is a medical issue going on. Also, maybe be careful with leading questions. While she may very well be wetting the bed for those reasons, it could be a number of other things. Kids are smart. She may not have a good answer for why she wet the bed and when you ask her if it’s because she is sad and she knows you have been very upset(understandably) about losing family, it’s an easy answer for her. It’s also an answer she knows she will not get in trouble for, that you will hug her and tell her you understand and feel the same way. She also is getting extra, positive attention when it happens. That alone could be why it has happened more than once.
You know what’s best for YOUR child. Don’t let others influence your decision. Therapy does help.
Was your little angel doing ok when she was at therapy if she was then that’s your answer? There is nothing wrong or shameful about going to therapy if she had an ear problem you would take her to a doctor same kind of difference. Sorry get carried away when it’s children Take care and be safe 
Therapy and stand your ground with family
5 is not to young. Listen to your instincts. Don’t listen to the ones who aren’t in it for her best interest.
Put that baby back in therapy. These kids have been thru the most since Covid. They are all kinds of messed up. Find her someone to give her skills to deal with all this trauma.
Don’t listen to others. It’s not their life. You’re doing what’s best for your child. It helps to express yourself and go through those feelings you’re having. Doing this will help your daughter have excellent communication as she grows as well. It’s a great idea to put her in grief counseling or therapy. It will help her learn how to process death and how to properly grieve.
I’d say if the therapy seemed to be working I would put her back in and pay no mind to what anyone says. You need to do what’s best for the kiddo.
Keep talking about it and don’t be ashamed of your own emotions. “Mommy’s sad because this - thing- reminded me of -person-. Also, the book The Invisible String is awesome. There’s also a workbook that goes with it, but I haven’t seen it in person. I think therapy can only help!
Trauma knows no age therefore therapy doesn’t either. If it’s helping her then take her.
Therapy is best and therapy play groups. don’t let anybody tell you what’s good for your child. Your instinct was right. You’re supposed to do for your child’s needs not what peoples opinions are. Ask therapist how to go about it with her.
Don’t worry about what others say. If therapy was helping her then put her back in, and tell them to shut it because if it helps, it helps regardless of the age. It’s hard coping with passing even for adults, but harder for children because regardless of how you explain it it’s hard for them to grasp.
Therapy is for any age. If you thought it was helping her take her back.
i would put her back in therapy doesnt matter on the age death is a very hard thing to take at any age.dont listento anyone else ,
I developed a fear of death at around that age. I used to have nightmares etc my experiences that led to it were a lot less traumatic I never experienced a significant loss until I was 10. Personally i’d have kept her in therapy and help tackle it young, my fear of death has followed me into adulthood and plays a huge part in my anxiety disorder I still get the sick feeling I used to when I was little.
Yes keep her there school starts soon maybe the school has a play therapist, shes young and pics up on stress around her, ur dwelling on your loss of the dog, and passing it to her animals have shorter life span and we always need to say good bye to them, people are harder for little kids to get over becaise they get used to goung places to see a person… Take her places her nan would of or her dad she will open up, always make her feel happy she had her nan dog and dad, she will tell u her sadness, you be her happy
Im so very sorry for your losses!!! I have a 10 year old daughter and have been going threw the same thing ever since my mom passed away a few years ago …her papa passed also …my opinion is you do what you feel is right for your babygirl 
fuck what anyone says honestly!!!
I would have left her in therapy. Most adults dont know how to manage their emotions properly especially with grief situations, i will never understand why some people expect children to do it.
Do what YOU feel right screw everyone else
I feel like you took the best step that you could putting her in therapy and that was probably a great outlet for her and with that taken away it might be causing her more stress because think of if she got attached to the therapist and then you just took her away from something else that brought her happiness! At 5:00 they’re already very emotionally mature even though they are young and she may need help processing death I think you made a wonderful decision for her therapy and personally I would tell them to keep their opinions to their self and I would take them back it would have helped me so much if my mom would have got me therapy as a child
You do what’s best for your kid put her back in therapy sometimes it’s not easy for a 5 year old to express their feelings. Maybe considering getting another dog maybe that will help her it’s not easy losing an animal
I’d say put her back in. Mother’s always know best.
Leave her in therapy. Fuck everyone else when it comes to your child and their mental health care.
I think therapy is a good idea.
Be assertive about the decision.
There is lots of different books designed to teach children about many challeneges they may face and there is some nice books about death and stuff… the storey may lead to her opening up and discussing more, and you can help her peocess it ?
I have no kids. But i was a kid that experienced greif.
You follow your mothers intuition its never wrong !
Wow. That’s a lot for her. Maybe she thinks it could happen to her and she wouldn’t survive . The dog was like a person to her. Put her back to talking to someone. You are her mother. You do as you feel is right.
Amazon has some great books to help this age cope with loosing a pet. We had to put our 12 yr old dog down in January. My daughter was 5 at the time. Her behavior changed and just was not coping well. So I got a few books off Amazon about the rainbow bridge for her age, I got her a bracelet with a paw print, printed and framed a picture of them and bought her a stuffed animal that looks like our old dog. All of these helped her sooo much. Those are all big emotions for a 5 yr old to navigate and feel. Sending prayers this might help
You know your child better than anyone go with your gut feeling.You will get all sorts of opinions and advise of people trying to help.But they are screwing with your head.Best of luck and so sorry for your loss’s.
If you feel like she need therapy then she probably does. It’s not going to hurt her to see a therapist. I’d be more worried why they seem so set against it!
Mother’s always know best. Put her back in therapy. Sounds like it was helping her. Don’t listen to the others. My daughter was 4, a couple months shy of 5 when we lost my grandpa. She loved her great grandpa a lot. She was very close to him. I was close to him as well I had to get past my initial hurt and collect myself so I could tell her and be strong for her. When it came time to planning his funeral she said she wanted to be a palm bearer. I said sweetheart it takes strong men for that. She said I don’t care my papaw would want me to be a palm bearer so I want to be a palm bearer. The funeral director was awesome and told her she could be one. She also put a small handful of rocks in his hand because as she said he had to take some with him. Rocks were their thing ever since she started to walk. For a while after he passed she would want to go see grandpa and have a talk with him. We would go to his grave site. She would say mom you go stand over there me and grandpa are going to have a talk. So I would stand where she told me to so they could talk. Then she would let me know when they were done. I still don’t know what they talked about. She did this for awhile then she stopped because it got to be too much. She just recently started again and she’s 12. My grandpa passed thanksgiving day 2013. My aunt September 2014. There was some deaths from church in there as well my daughter was close to. My dad September 2017 my grandma April 2018. My daughter has been through some therapy. But she said there hasn’t been a therapist that she likes or connects to. Plus she asked me, mom why do I need to talk to a therapist when I can talk to you about anything. You don’t get mad, you ask questions only so you can help me. Why do I need a therapist when I have a mom that I can share anything with? That’s one question I didn’t have an answer for. I’m glad she has remembered what I have always told her, that she can always come to me, that as long as she is honest with me we can work through anything. Preteens aren’t easy but at least I know she will come to me.
Yours is still young and going through a lot. I would put her back in therapy. I wouldn’t listen to what others say or think. You do what is best for your child. She will remember that later on.
I would do therapy. It couldn’t hurt.
Put her back in therapy also what helped my children my son was 2 when he said good bye to his great grandma in 2013 I told him she was up in the stars and if he ever missed her before bed he could look at the stars and talk with her and when he sees a shooting star it was his grandma blowing him a kiss. And then in 2019 when my stepdad took his life in less then 45 mins after my kids last saw him I told my all of my kids plus nieces and nephews that same thing again and it has helped them majorly
Grief is hard for young kids. Mine lost their Dad this year. Both are doing well in therapy. I’ve learned, that you have to be direct about it. Littles dont always understand that phrases like “passed away” and “gone to heaven” mean they won’t be coming back. If therapy seemed to be helping, I’d try goingnback. Explain to your family that therapy is helping and you could use their support in the matter. If they cant, that is their choice. Your child is your priority, not the opinions of family. I know this is a hard time, good luck
“Mommy, What is Dead?” Is a book a friend reccomended. It really helped my girls to understand and process the concept of dead.
Also, play therapy is good for even nonverbal kids, because of the sand table and such. Your daughter is not too little to be in therapy. I would put her back in.
Get her back in therapy and you need to get her up at night to go potty.
Therapy is good for any person any age and with any or NO reason!!! My daughter had a traumatic experience around 4 years old and began having accidents. It is a sign of trauma. Through stability and building her back up she stopped the accidents. In the meantime don’t make her feel bad for the accidents, just be positive and encourage her to do better. Let your family speak, you don’t have to listen. As a mother, always go with your gut. The Lord puts things in your heart for a reason.
My daughter lost her dad right after she turned 4 and I put her in therapy. No one is too young for therapy! I used to fill out a questionnaire every time we went about her behavior and symptoms and it did ask if she was wetting the bed as it can be a sign of distress. The sessions really did help.
Personally i wouls put her back into therapy. Its doing no harm for her to be there. If it was then i could understand their concerns, but i do not think she is too young. Shes able to talk and understand and express her feelings. Youre her mother, do what you think is best for her and f*** what everyone else says. You got this, mommađź’™
Put her back in therapy, to hell what anyone else thinks. There’s nothing wrong with having someone to talk to.
I have no idea why people act like therapy is a bad thing…. The world would be a MUCH better place if we all went! How can she be too young to learn how to cope with trauma?
Bed wetting is very common in children who have experienced trauma. It’s part of the trauma response our body has to what we have endured. And she likely doesn’t recognize that because she’s so little. Therapy for kids can be tough because of course they interpret things and understand things differently than adults, but that doesn’t mean it won’t be helpful for her. Of course it’s going to be tough sometimes because in those sessions she’s talking about really tough stuff. But that is all part of the processing that happens in therapy. A good therapist understands that working with children is much different than working with adults, so the things they do in therapy will look much different and that’s okay. Don’t give up just yet and I certainly wouldn’t remove her from it just because you have family that doesn’t think she needs it. Also keep in mind that the grieving process is different for everybody, especially children who don’t understand the concept of death. Therapy itself has its own process and some people have to go quite a few times before they even notice any changes. But again, that’s expected and sometimes necessary. I’m sorry for the loss your family as endured. It’s tough for us as adults and it can be even harder for little ones because there’s just so much confusion. Hang in there and do what’s best for her. - A Child Therapist
No such thing as too young for therapy, especially when there is grief involved.
Do what you feel is best for her i remember my sons dog died 2 years ago he was 3 so he asked a lot of questions I told him that she went to heaven when he asked me what that was i took him outside and pointed at the sky I said do you see all the stars some of them are little windows for our family and friends who have passed to be able to watch over us i guess it really stuck with him because hes 5 now and he always says how the angles are watching from their windows he also loves looking at the stars now
Put her back if it was helping her…and everyone doesn’t have to know, it’s your business and nobody else’s, she is YOUR daughter…not theirs
As long as you tell her the truth she will be fine. The library has children’s books on death in a family ,in words that children can understand.
I’m trying to figure out how she lost her husband and her husband is giving her trouble about her daughter going to therapy. Anyway, I don’t care who gives you trouble about helping your child…your child comes before everyone and you do what is best for her.
She sounds like she has depression. Being too tired to get up…exhaustion is a symptom of depression. The bed wetting may also be a sign of anxiety. She would have been better of staying in therapy. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone who is not involved in her home life. I have been through all this with my kids. Don’t worry about what everyone else says follow your gut instinct as a mum and do what you think is best you’ll thank yourself in the end.
Follow your gut feeling.
If you feel like the therapy is going to help then DO IT. trust your gut. Nmw others say. It’s in her best interest.
With that being said, I lost many many family members since a young age, my dad passed when I was 12 and he fought cancer for almost 5 years before that. Unfortunately no life lives forever and that’s something important to teach her but do it in a way she can understand. I don’t think she grasps the concept yet but mostly gets that they’re not physically here anymore. I’m now 26 and I believe all the dramatic experiences I e had with death made me a little stronger and made me realize how important life is.
Like I said trust your gut always and good luck 
Get the kids version of Heaven is for real and read it. When my daughter passed away at age 2. I read my 10 month old and my 5 year old that book. I also read it to my other kids ro help them understand they never got got meet their sister but they know she’s in heaven watching over them.
The easiest way I explained it until they were older I still have a 5 and 6 year old who do the whys is that God needed them more than we did and God is taking care of them until we get there. Life isn’t fair and that’s how it’ll always be. GOD had bigger and better plans for them he knew thwy werw suffering before they did and the family did so he took thwm to heal them
As a mother, always trust your gut. You know what she needs.
Kids don’t really care they dont understand unless you make a big deal of if.
First, I don’t think it is wise that you allow others thoughts to dictate what is good for your child. If therapy was helping her than as her parent that is your decision to keep her in treatment. Hell that’s what’s wrong with a lot of us we needed therapy but our parents were too busy listening to everyone and not observing their own children.
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You are her mother only you and your hubby should decide on therapy or not its not for others to decide its wrong to pull out because of them if you thought it was working go back your daughters health and mental state is way more important tell them to butt out shes your child not there good luck hope whatever you decide hope your daughter soon getting back in track x
Hi send her back to therapy don’t worry what others think its what is best for your child and that’s all that matters, I understand totally as we have lost alot for past 13 years of losing loved ones… I would also like to suggest for you all and it did help us is making a memory box even for your daisy as there just animals they are family… see if your little one would like to draw pictures of daisy and grandma, also you could do a rainbow jar to do this have some salt and chalk of different colours to represent those you lost e.g yellow to represent the warmth they showed when you were with them and fill the jar with different colours…
Pour some salt and rub the chalk on the salt until its coloured. It will get messy but it also is therapeutic too. We made a jar for my son and it sits by his picture with all the colours that represented him…
Don’t be to hard on yourself your doing great 
Both of you go to therapy. You need to cope too.
You’re right to have her in therapy. Most adult issues are results of unresolved childhood trauma. If you can nip this in the butt as it’s happening, it could help her a lot in the long run.
Our church has a grief camp for kids. Maybe there’s something like that in your town. Somewhere where kids can relate to other kids and learn to cope.
F@#$ what other people say and you do what you think is best for her.
you might want to go to the libary or check on the internet w.for a book .i think its called when pets go to heaven,explain to my kids.or ask the teacher if she goes to school,if they have something that could help to explain.
She is not too young for therapy. A trained professional would be good for her to help her sort out her feelings
I think you should of left her in therapy (just my opinion people might say different) if it helped her, your family should be happy she’s getting the help she’s need and Its good for her x
Therapy works for them- put her back in if she needs it <3 good luck
If she’s old enough to have a bad reaction to the events, she’s old enough to go to therapy for it. I recommend going in with her though.
Do what you feel is right. If you believe your child needs to see a therapist let her see one. When my daughter was your daughters age we lost our dog who she loved to bits. My sister created a memory box for her to put pictures in or little momentos that reminded her of our dog, Sadie. It helped quite a bit for her to come to terms with her death. Keeping the lines of communication open for her to talk about her grandma and her dog will help too.
I do think therapy is a good starting point to help her get through the pain. I was put into counseling in first grade because of misbehaving at school while my parents were going through divorce and custody, and it really really helped me at that age. I don’t recall my counselor ever specifically bringing up the bad memories but it was more of doing activities and talking about my day at school and stuff. You’re a mom and I have no doubt that you know what’s best for your child. Do what your heart tells you is needed to help your daughter.
First off it’s not just a dog they’re family. It hurts just as much losing them as it does a person. There’s some groups she can go to where they talk about the rainbow bridge. Hugs from my family to yours.
First sorry for your losses. I agree that therapy may help her, also contact a local funeral home and ask them for books on death. When my mom died they offered them to us for the kids some were coloring books and others were to read. They sometimes have them for pets or check with your vet. Good luck
I’d have a deep talk with her (like a therapist would) and really explain how there in a better place and not hurting anymore. If his mom died of old age or a disease explain that more. Explain the medical stuff about the dog too. Maybe have a photo book for them too so she can look at postures whenever she wants. So she can remember them in a good way when they were alive and not how she last remembers them. I’m terrible at funerals cause that’s not how I like to see someone last.
Put her back in therapy.
Child therapist are specially trained to help young kids deal with their emotions that they just dont understand. Please just trust your gut when it comes to your kids and get her back into therapy.
Growing up my parents always told me that when a cardinal ( chose whichever bird you see most where you live ) lands near you it is a angel visiting!
We lost my FIL last July and my son was turning 4 a few days after …I told him this and when I tell you it was a game changer even at his younger age it truly made a difference. It still does every time we see one we all say “ there’s your paw paw rod watching over his nolen wayne” he gets the biggest grin. We still have tough days but this has helped us tremendously! Good luck momma!
We also use it for other people / pets that have passed since.
Check into a grief councilor who specializes with children. My uncle was killed in a car accident and his boys and wife were offered a grief councilor. It really helped the boys
She’s not too young for therapy! As a mother of a daughter who has adjustment disorder, therapy saved us and was honestly the best decision I ever made for her. She was 4 when she started therapy. They have play therapy for young children and it does help! Get your baby back into it and screw what everyone else says! She needs extra care and love and that’s okay.