Come on now get some toys smh
Watch porno together. Try fantasies and role playing.
I couldn’t imagine leaving my spouse for the mere fact they may have a medical issue that causes malfunction. Sex is only a part of a marriage. You can be intimate in other ways. If you’re willing to leave him over something he can’t control then maybe there’s deeper issues in your marriage
Does he have diabetes ? If so that’s the problem and it won’t get better . It usually starts on men in there early 40’s. Happening to my son noe
Sounds like your the issue.Ever thought maby it’s you lol
Certain medicines can cause ED, mentally too.
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You should take every advantage of it working… Happily. He obviously wants to please you. Make him feel like a man again and maybe it will help.
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Sounds like he just isn’t interested … any man will figure out how to please their women if she’s worth taking care of!! Doesn’t sound like in his eyes your worth pleasing
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Yes you would be wrong for leaving. For better or worse in sickness and in health. There are other things or ways.
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Girl… if it’s up, then jump. Why even complain about it then? 
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If intercourse is all that is important to you in a relationship, then by all means leave. There is much more to a relationship and intimacy than intercourse. He needs to see a doctor, request a medication for ED if he wants to please you and plan accordingly.
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Look into the ultrasonic mens clinics where they use sound waves to help open up the blood flow so things get back to like they used to be. No pain at all easy peasy.
Over 40yr … needs testosterone level checked … (just be mindful what u wish for once the testosterone shots start)
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Is he on meds that cause erectile disfunction. If so get off of. Take viagra or cilais but have huge side effects. Try a pump. Consult a urologist. Have doctor to do hormone tests. Last resort is an implant.
Manyly menopause is a thing. Go to a Dr.
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Is this for real? If this were a man asking about leaving his wife because she won’t put out, everybody would be jumping down his throat
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Marriage ruin sex life for us. Non existence too
Have him checked. Physical and mental health. Find out why.
You’d be wrong for sure
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I’m just gonna say it-
In a few years (or sooner) you will be experiencing peri-menopause which will slow down your libido considerably. You don’t want him to think about ditching you when it happens, do you? For now, get him in for a check-up. There can be several causes for erectile dysfunction. And if you can’t get him to participate you can always masterbate to take the edge off.
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Check to see if he is a diabetic. There could be many reasons. See a Doctor . Don’t throw a marriage away . There are other options to make you happy. Communication is a big part of the solution.
Have his serotonin levels checked. Research that. Itsa simple trip to the urologist
Why is leaving the first choice??? Damn.
Age actually can be an issue. 45 is no spring chicken for men. Could he also have a porn habit?
sex ain’t everything
I mean maybe you should jump on when it’s working lol he’s trying and you’re just putting him down. He’s trying to give opportunities when it’s available and you turn it down. Think about how horrible that must make him feel. Not only can he not perform like he used to and then when he’s able to you won’t. If I was him I’d leave you because it seems to me that you’re the problem here not him.
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Tell him to go get Viagra and not to be ashamed to do it. It’s a win win for the both of you!!! Good luck 
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Have him get his testosterone levels checked! It made all the difference for us.
I will just say one to you .you made vows at your marriage IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH. How very selfish you are. Discard him ’ a good man’ your own words. If this is your attitude perhaps you are part of the problem.where is the love .you are very heartless if what you have written is true.
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Your feelings are validated. What is important to you in your marriage may not be what is important for someone else. Sounds like sex is important to you and that is ok. Sorry these comments are so negative. But to answer your question, it sounds like you have a great man, so before throwing it away there a couple things you can do. First, maybe therapy so you both can talk and express the emotions behind it all, after you both talk and on the same page, go and get check at a doctor, hear what they have to say and check all levels, and follow the recommendations of the doctor. If he doesn’t want therapy try to approach him when you’re not frustrated and can be level headed because he may shut down if you are on attack mode. A lot of marriages goes through this situation, don’t let these comments makes you feel like are alone. Good luck
My husband could break his junk and I would still never leave him. You need express to him that he needs to do something for the both of you, but get a toy or something lbvs I would hate to see you leave a good man due to lack of sex then find someone that cheats or disrespect you. I say pick your battles and and schedule him a doctor’s appt.
If you truly loved him…why would you want to leave him…sex is NOT the most important aspect of a relationship…I am sure the situation is quite embarrassing for him…and makes him feels less manly etc…put yourself in his shoes…it’s probably a medical condition…it’s not abnormal…so if he had cancer and wasn’t up to sex…would you want to leave him then also? I think maybe some compassion for the situation at hand…may be a good place to start…what happens if the next man your with ends up with the same problem? Again this is a common problem in any many men
Talk to him. Go and see a family doc.
I guarantee he’s feeling every bit of ur disappointment & the pressure he’s feeling to perform is NOT going to help this issue AT ALL. He needs to feel supported & know he has a partner that will stand by him through things like this. While yes, sex is an important part of a relationship…it’s far from the only part & I can’t even fathom walking out on the man I love because of something like this. My husband is so much more than what he can contribute sexually. That said, I would ask him to get checked out by a dr…but please keep in mind what a sensitive subject this can be for a man & how it could take a minute for him to get the nerve up to go see a dr about it. SUPPORT is what will help here!
Viagra.go get it for him.if your that starving for sex.
Sounds like he has erectial disfunfunction it’s a medical condition…he needs to see a doctor about