There are things you can do to relieve sexual frustration other than having sex! Toys, oral sex, etc. I don’t think leaving for something that’s out of his control is a fair decision but if he’s unwilling to help meet your needs in other ways that might be a different story.
Yes. You absolutely shoukd leave him.
Hopefully his next wife is more concerned with him and his health issues.
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Imagine the shoe was on the other foot, you had issues becoming aroused and the feeling of shame and guilt that comes with that when you are aware you are not satisfying your partner and feeling helpless. And then imagine your partner sitting there thinking about leaving you over it.
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No mam , sex isn’t everything… sometimes when we focus on one thing we miss every other opportunity … watch a good movie together and snuggle , go for a nice ride and hold hands , love is more then sex suga , maybe he needs to see the dr and you need to chill , if you love him then it will all work out , I’m sure him knowing his parts aren’t working rite makes it worse , he knows your disappointed to … if all these things don’t seem like an option then you will have your answer, good luck
Definitely see a dr get the problem figured out! Obviously if he doesn’t want to fix the issue then there’s more there but I’d def start there!
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I agree with everyone on here telling her she’s horrible because she took vows. In addition if he is hard and wants you to jump on then I suggest you should if your goal is sex and to fix the problem, because last time I checked, having sex takes two people, so you have to do things to make a good sex life happen too.
There are so many choices out there to cure impotence, especially for someone his age.
Honey, I don’t know if anyone told you but sex is not only about intercourse. Buy some great toys and invite your husband to the “party.”
Have fun and be happy in your marriage.
Sounds like he has low testosterone. He needs a doctors help.
He should be seeing a Dr. for that
So when women have the “dry spell “ and go thru menopause its ok for the man to leave ? I’ve heard some at menopausal age and while going thru it wont have sex for weeks , months even 5 plus years .
Do you leave him over sex?!?! NO, but leave him because HE deserves better than that! 
Uhm if you’re pressed about it enough to be sexually frustrated , wouldn’t you want to jump on it when it’s working? Maybe there’s other issues of attraction? Or maybe age? I mean it sounds like you’re unhappy with the marriage all together if your needs aren’t being met and you’re ready to leave. Has he seen a dr about it at all or flat out refusing?
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he needs to talk to his doctor about it
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Probably an excellent idea if you left. It would give him a chance to find somebody that could give him a reason to stay hard. It’s really hard to get sexually turned on by a harpy.
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Apparently men don’t like going to the doctor about that I guess lol, I’m in the same boat, pretty much no sex life and would really like that back again
Sex can ruin things… it’s up to you if you let it. Without sexually explicit advice try seeing a doctor first…counseling next…
I don’t think I want you for a wife did you marry him just for sex or did you marry him cuz you cared about him at least give it a chance
Been in this situations for years. It wears on your self esteem. Eventually you become uninterested in the sex. Feel unsexy 
why he can’t be attractive to u. If he doesn’t get help or want to help it ain’t gonna work
Umm age is definitely an issue. It’s very common for men his age to be suffering from Ed. So, he can go to the dr and get some pills.
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Go to dr…diabetes can Also be a issue
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Would you want him to leave you for something like this? You need sex so bad that you’ll leave your husband for it? Let him know it’s important to you and make sure he is finding ways to satisfy you, but I think that’s a shitty reason to leave someone.
He has a medical issue that needs addressing. High blood pressure, low testosterone or diabetes. Besides wait 7 years when you hit menopause you won’t want sex at all…
He may have ED, if ur that quick to leave him then ur not committed or in love with him in the 1st place.
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Oh good gracious, ladies. Y’all need to knock it tf off. Sex is literally human nature. Being frustrated with sex is totally normal. The body wants what it wants.
To the OP-
Think about what you really want out of your marriage. Is it really just the sex or is it something deeper? Have a serious conversation with yourself and then have a serious conversation with your husband. Have an open Convo about sex. About what you like and expect and what he likes and expects in the bedroom and just as a couple/team. With sex comes passion and affection. It is totally important in any relationship. And talk to him about getting a check up. A soft c o c k can be a hard problem and health concern. Better to get it checked and taken care of than it lead to a more serious issue. I hope this helps and good luck, lovely!
They make toys ya know 
he needs to ser a doctor. Maybe have a sit down convo with him and ask him to see a doctor for this problem. It’s nothing to be ashamed about. But the fact you want to leave him just because of that 
so much for in sickness and in health.
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No you love him you bare the good with the bad does he have heart trouble is it his medication. Sex IS NOT EVERYTHING get a vibrator just think how he feels not being able to get an erection to please ur selfish self
I was a urology RN. ALL men can have erection issues- trouble getting & or staying erect. There are treatments that can help. This is not about YOU but is embarrassing 
for men. Encourage him to schedule an appointment with a Urologist!!!
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Who gives a damn about someone else’s sex life???
What about him don’t you think it bothers him also their a lot more going on here mood swings not feeling well stress
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They make dildos or you have hands so you can perfectly well take care of your sexual frustration. If it’s working then why not take advantage and jump on it instead of bitching that it don’t work. There is alot of things that can be causing his penis not to get hard or staying hard. You should leave because a relationship isn’t always about sex and if you want to leave him over not being able to keep or get hard that’s kinda messed up. Did you marry him for his penis or did you love him?
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He needs to treat the cause of the problem,he might be stressed,addicted to mastubation or cheating,get him profetional help and stop threating to leave what if it was you with the problem
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He should go to the doctor
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I mean-when he is ready-take advantage. I’m always ready though & realize every woman isn’t me.
Would you be wrong for leave? Yes, you need to talk to him and explain your feelings and offer to help him find help-he is more than likely embarrassed.
Several things affect men that way including but not limited to: hormonal imbalances, heart disease, diabetes, medications, depression, stress, anxiety, high or low blood pressure.
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Marriage isn’t only about sex but just because he’s impotent doesn’t mean there should be no intimacy.
He needs to be seeing his Dr . Could be something easily sorted and there are meds/injections that can help.
In the meantime…be patient, buy yourself some toys and take advantage when he’s able…not a reason to leave imo
At that age men start having trouble getting it up.
But if you really love him you wouldn’t leave cuz if sex
40’s is when our bodies start shutting down. Gets harder & harder for men to get aroused. For women this starts just after meno begins. Though your sexual arousal is hightened for about a decade prior. Then one day you wake up and find, yours is dead too! 
Another commenter mentioned that this was the “for better or worse” part of your marriage vows. She’s not wrong <3
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Nice support there! NOT! He has a medical problem many men his age have. It’s a slam to being a man. Most men are embarrassed to talk to a doctor about it. It sucks! If you leave him over this you are the biggest bi***h in the world!
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Talk to him and send him to the doctor. Ending the relationship is extreme to me… but you need to speak up!
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Age doesn’t mean anything. He could have a medical condition that’s causing this like low testosterone low sex drive, or ED. I suggest talking to him about making an appointment to get checked out.
Looooord. It’s opposite in my marriage. I’m the one who has no drive. And thankfully my husband isn’t a a*s and thinks about leaving over s3x
Age can most definitely be an issue my bf is only 47 and we haven’t had sex In almost 2 years… his Testosterone levels are rock bottom, the cream hasn’t worked,waiting on an appointment with an endocrinologist in November, viagra won’t work if there isn’t any Testosterone to fuel it
Tell him to go get his Dr appointment and they will give him some meds to help you.
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So, for better or worse goes right out the window because he can’t get it up 
Sounds like you might be part of the problem 
Perhaps have a little compassion, because it’s obviously bothering him too & it’s not easy going & telling a doctor your most intimate issues…
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Wow. He is married to someone about to take off due to sex. Sounds like he hit the jackpot. 
He needs to have a frank conversation with his doctor.
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45 is definitely a problem age… I wouldn’t leave my husband because of sex.
Well…yea age is an issue dudes dicks start not working later in life so when it’s ready hop on…get some dick pills or something
Go to a swing club. He’ll get it up.
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Booze, drugs, or a medical condition. Get to the bottom of the problem before u leave. There may be something you can do to help him.
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You wanna walk out…oh, wait your turn, maybe you’ll see how that “walk out” feels when your’e dry as the Sahara dessert and not feeling so amazing anymore!
what happened to until death…wow…just wow. Very empathetic and understanding.
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If he has the type of partner that will leave him simply because he can’t get an erection like he use to… that could be PART of the reason why he can’t get an erection. Just a thought. Also, he should see a physician.
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I feel for him if that’s the only reason you would be leaving him
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Yes, you would be wrong for leaving your marriage over a boner. There are ways to fix it. So take those steps first.
You should probably leave him so he can find someone worthy of compassion. Maybe he is mentally unfit currently and you needing sex is taxing his health. Leave him so he can find someone worthy of his love.
I was in that position. He was having a affair…sorry just saying
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Has he went to the Doctor to get a physical
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There’s many medical issues that can cause issue for both women n men. For better or worse, what if he left just because you had that issue? Menopause WILL cause issues
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There are other ways. He could also have medical issues and certain meds can stop it. Go to the dr with him and ask.
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Is he on meds? I know some meds will make sex drive go way down in men and women.
Have him see a urologist…May be a simple problem to fix. Talk to husband and make appointment.
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Could be porn addiction or cheating. If it’s porn then it wouldn’t change unless he stops watching it
Try spicing it up! Have him go see Dr.
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Could be medical… could be lack of confidence. As a man gets older his package tends to shrink… confidence crushing for a man. Zinc helps with testosterone levels. Sex is important in a relationship… but not the most important thing. If you truly love him… my advice would be to get some toys for times where he isn’t performing up to par… and when he is able to perform… try to build his confidence. In the meantime, have him see a doctor. Have him be as honest as possible with the doctor. May be something as simple as a vitamin deficiency. Good luck my dear. And if you love him be patient with him. I’m sure it’s harder on him than it is on you
Sounds more like a medical problem. Men don’t want to admit there is a problem. Let him know how much you love him and that this is a problem for both of you. He needs your honesty and your support.
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Yes. You would be wrong for leaving him over this if this is the only thing wrong!
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Lady you need to get a grip. You must have forgotten about the in sickness and in health part. It’s a medical condition and there is all kinds of help and treatment .
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It can be age alone with health issues you or him are not aware of… please talk to him and your doctor… if you truly love each other, there help from your doctor.
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You’re going to leave him, only because he can’t get a boner? Sounds like you don’t love him. You’re only in it for the sex. That’s just wrong! 
You sound like an entitled brat!!
He may need testosterone shots. Have him see a urologist. Also viagra helps.
In sickness or health… go get a lady toy and please yourself. Good grief, pull your head outta your ass while your at it. Probably why you can’t be pleased. 
Leave him over that? No not fair. When he is ready he will agree to treatment but in the meantime get a vibrater girl! He is probably so embarrassed. Support him don’t leave him. 
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You know those vows you said out loud on your wedding day? For better or worse. He hasn’t cheated or hurt you, his penis just isn’t working like it did in his 20s 
go to a doctor with him. Would you like it if he left you if you weren’t in the mood? Bizzar.
If it’s that big of a problem, have him see your family Dr. There might be a physical problem that’s not his fault. Look at it from his perspective … how would you like to be the one who’s body isn’t cooperating?
If it’s not physical, then counseling might be the answer.
There are also sexual aid “toys” that can be used to help with your frustration.
Work on the problem together! Good luck
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What happened to in good times and in bad in sickness in health. I think you are being hasty giving up. Try helping him through this. Get him to see a urologist to find out treatment. This is very common in men his age.
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If he can get an erection and ejaculate alone- He needs to stop watching porn. Then he needs to make sure he isn’t edging when with you or when masturbating. Lastly when he masturbates, he should use a lighter grip and not ejaculate a few times then see if he can ejaculate.with a lighter touch (more close to being inside the vaginally chamber) so he can learn to maintain and election and ejaculate with you.
He may have a prostate issue that needs addressed. Instead of getting mad, please encourage him to get referred to a urologist to see if there’s an underlying cause.
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He needs to talk to his doctor. Let them run some test on him. And he definitely needs to have he testosterone checked. It’s more common then you realize men his age having low testosterone. Meds could fix him right up and have you all back to having sex like teenagers again.
You should stick with him for better for worse. Get him reffered to a urologist to see if there’s an underlying cause.
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No sis leave … if you’re not happy don’t stay
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Maybe women don’t do it for him anymore
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So he has something medical happening and you’re already ready to jump ship?!? You have no idea if it’s something easily dealt with yet. Maybe you should leave him so he can find someone better.
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That’s a bit sad…
What if it was the other way around and it was you that had possibly a medical issue preventing you from having sex?
Would you be happy for him to just leave?
I would talk to him about seeing a DR and finding out why he is having this problem.
Or maybe his libido is becoming lower with age and it is a very common thing.
Why do people think you need sex to be happy? Or think sex is important and needed?
Yeah sex is cool. But my boyfriend and I never have sex. There are other ways of intimacy.
Leaving him because of an issue like this is messed up and disrespectful.
God. You literally blasted HIS issues online to strangers. That’s HIS business and you have no right to do that.
He needs to leave you, because he deserves someone who respects his privacy.
Only you can figure it up
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I think you should leave him so he can find a woman who will honor her vows to him.
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I can see how this would play if the roles were reversed.
Go see a therapist….or don’t. If he’s not comfortable addressing it yet then giving him an ultimatum probably isn’t going to help.
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He needs to seek medical attention in case it’s something serious, but like most men this is a very hard step. He’s embarrassed. Talk talk and talk until he agrees to seek help
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Help him…sounds like he’s struggling and it probably isn’t very good on his self esteem either. Be empathetic and maybe suggest he go see a doctor about the issue. Leaving him just because of this…I mean come on it’s not right. I would love my husband and stay with him even if we could never have sex again.
Support him don’t leave him
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I mean, it could be an issue he has no control over. Imagine someone ditching you for something you can’t control… ouch.
Maybe it’s best you do find someone else, give him the chance to find someone who understands that penises stop working so well over time, and who will love him regardless.
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I think the way your thinking about this is actually making it worse… and definitely stopping you from getting past this… because that’s all this is, another thing you deal with amd get past in your marriage.
Firstly, understand that for most men this is a deeply sensitive matter and even talking about going to the doctor is enough to send them into a mental spiral so you would be best served to approach this very gently and supportively…think kid gloves.
2nd. I would perhaps bring this up very calmly and from a place of love and just tell him your struggling too! Don’t get mad though as that will get him offside and potentially make it worse so just gently tell him you love him and you miss making love with him! Ask him if it IS actually an issue for him and if it is, offer to tackle it together!
Be there for your husband! He’s very likely highly embarrassed by this and feels like less of a man and knows he’s letting down the marriage.
Lead with love and don’t forget he still needs to be nurtured at times.
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Don’t replace him!
Teach him how to be that man you want. You can never find a perfect man, you can build your perfect man.
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Men sometimes get so stressed they can have issues with impotence. Nagging
Doesn’t help. Buy a vibratory and be patient. Help him look at options.
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