Call a lawyer, you can clean her hair clean her up
Maybe the parents might get it, how old is this little girl and what are her sizes
Call child services & they’ll determine whether she needs to be removed from her parents custody. If her parents are neglecting her as you say, they’ll likely contact you & see if you can get custody of her.
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I hope u see this comment!!! Coconut oil in her hair will get read of the lice completely I’ll pray for this baby that’s heartbreaking
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Ask the parents straight out of you can raise her
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The first thing you need to do is call CPS. Make sure it’s anonymous so you can still contact her. You also need to get as much evidence of abuse as possible, and then take the parents to court. An attorney would be the first obvious place to start.
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Not shaming but you taking them to the park or anywhere for that matter , lice spreads quick . Also call cps for custody info . If she’s around anyone those little bugs will jump . Hoping you do get custody . This poor little girl deserves a loving clean environment
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I remember when my kids got lice omg it took me forever it seemed to get rid off them and was exspensive!! Like soo exspensive you should help and talk it takes a village sometimes as far as clothes and shoes thats a whole other story. My advice treat her hair and just have her in your home, whem parents ask for her back (if they do ) say oh yea sure go visit and say so we were gonna take her to ao n so tomorrow w the girls and bring her back home. Be there for her you going after parents they might cut you off. However they may need help financially you never knw wht they might be going thru either
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If she has lice and is at your house be sure you don’t get them
While getting lice is not considered negligence, having them for a year is insane, that poor baby, do you have contact with the grandparents I would report it to CPS, the childs house must be infested and who knows with what else, they will make a determination if her living situation is unsafe, and should they determine it to be unsafe, they ask relatives if they can take child
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Leaving the house you can still get them they jump go in rugs sstuff animals etc I work in a school I know lice fitters in tomsriver suppose to be good but until they treat house they just get worst poor girl living like this is horrible
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Se if she will sign over custody, otherwise call cps
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Obviously the parents don’t care for her just straight up ask can she come live with me for a while…after she is settled and thriving have the conversation of getting custody. Call child services on them ppl.
easy to treat her before she moves in; call cps
You have a nasty attitude and seem to care more about her having lice than the actual child. Ask yourself why if you’ve seen her with lice for a YEAR and you are so concerned why you haven’t bought any lice treatments? Why you haven’t contacted CPS and you’ve seen problems for a year? You watch a 3 year old suffer that long and all you gotten say is you hope your kids don’t catch her lice. Smh. It use to take a village but now idiots run rampant. If you see a baby struggling you help. I don’t care whose baby it is. I don’t care if you are auntie or whatever but especially if yall are family. This is beyond sad.
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I would address the parents directly before just calling cps
If you really feel it’s neglect and it’s been ongoing this long you should’ve called already and don’t take it to a fb group 
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1, get married so you are related
2, file for emergency custody
3, get cos involved
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And why for heaven sake have you let this go on for a year, God help this poor baby 
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Since you and your partner have tried to talk to the parents, you need to get child services involved from the standpoint of the nieces health, see an attorney and go from there!!
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First of all she’s THREE! So nothing is her fault and she shouldn’t be shunned for any of it.
Next time she’s over YOU clean her hair completely, take her in somewhere if you won’t do it. Most three year olds have trouble wiping, again next time shes at your house YOU teach her.
Your daughters will survive and be absolutely okay, even if they get head lice. My daughter has hair past her knees we have had to deal with head lice, it’s takes time lots of it but she survived and we didn’t cut one inch off her hair.
As far as taking custody? Besides you thinking she does not having the right size shoes and clothes, is she at risk? Being physically or mentally abused?
Or are you just mainly worried about the head lice and having to buy her shoes?
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Call family services
Hair grows back btw 
that was painful to read
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Soeak with a lawyer. I mean really speak with a lawyer. Then, based on that, go to social services. You need pictures and video. See what they can do. They may not take action for lice. They might.
I will say this, if you plan to take her, you better make her feel welcomed and cared for. I vet your irritation as kids at my youngests school have live so bad you see it crawling all over them, falling out of their hair… It’s unsanitary and gross. But if you can’t make her one of the family, truly, let her go. You won’t be any food for her.
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I don’t even think your heart is in the right place. You sound like you want custody because you don’t want your children getting lice and not because it’s in the best interest of the child and that’s pretty selfish. Removing a child from parents can be a very emotional thing, I hope you want to do if for the child’s interests and not your selfish interests.
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Take pics of the live in thier hair, thier I’ll fitting clothes & shoes, anything that proves neglect. Screenshot convos between you and the parents that show they don’t care. Then call an attorney and file a custody petition in family court. CPS will do NOTHING so it’s pointless to involve them.
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Honey, I doubt her parents will even put up a fight. Sounds like she’s a burden to them. Just use the right channels and make sure to involve a lawyer in the process.
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Wow. She’s only 3. Your the problem.
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Do what is necessary to protect her. This is a very sad story about abuse.
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I am not sure where you live but where I am kids do not even get sent home from school for lice because it is a “lifestyle choice”.
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So, you won’t help unless you have custody…Do you really care?
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It took me 3 days to get rid of the lice/eggs I found on my kids when my oldest brought it home from school. Twice. From the school it’s self, and my kids pediatrician- they don’t have to report it to other classmates parents anymore unless there is “risk for disease”.
Buy the treatment and use it on her. Comb out her hair and give her a shower.
She’s 3. Most kids are just getting potty trained around then, Ofcoarse she doesn’t know she’s gotta wipe right away.
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If the child comes to your house, buy some lice shampoo. And do her hair for her. It will get worse if you don’t and the child will get sores on their head. If your around this child enough then I would just do it for her. Obviously that 3 year old probably doesn’t understand and feels like everyone is mean and don’t want them around! It makes me sick to even see you post this. I have 5 children and every one of them have caught life when they were young. You treat it! You don’t shave it. Poor kid. I hope someone helps this baby instead of being so mean. You shouldn’t get custody either if you feel like you don’t want her around your kids. Shame on you!
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If shes being neglected report it to child services or the police
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I would go down to the court to see what ur options are. Custody in different states are tricky. But That little one needs help asap
You need to call cps or dcf on the parents and let them step in she’s being neglected and if they try to put her in foster care then you can request to get her
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She’s being neglected 
poor baby. Report to children services and file an emergency custody with the courts.
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Since you are not the child’s parent, you have no legal rights to her. You can however make complaints to the department of children and family services thru your state. Make a report every time you have the child if you have to. They will investigate but even then you may not get custody of the child if she is removed from her home. They can place her in foster care. I know where I live, they will search for grandparents before aunts uncles etc. good luck
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Document with photo proof of clothes too small, lice in hair, whatever else, then call child protective services. If she is being neglected they will take action.
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ask the parents to sign her over to you its pretty easy if they agree to giving her to you
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Does the family have enough money to keep a clean house, food on the table, and the little girl in clothes that fit? Because my first thought is that they don’t.
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Call the child abuse hotline for your state
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File for emergency custody
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Get a Family Law Lawyer
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Use hair gel for your other daughters, and put their hair up in a bun. As for the other little one that has lice, start taking pics of her not having clothes, has lice, and everything the mother does as far as the child has. Explain things in detail. Most likely they will take the little one away from her mother. Since your fiancée is a family member, they will give her to both of u. Remember—— DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!
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Go for an emergency hearing give them proof and ask for a protection order or get a lawyer or call DCF
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I hope
You have made many reports for the entire year… being her voice ???
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Depending on where you’re at state wise, CPS will hardly even look at this if the only hard proof you have is a lice infestation. You need waaaaay more proof of neglect for CPS to approve the case and investigate and even then they might not do anything depending on what they find. And try not to be so hung up on just the lice. Spill every detail that would be deemed neglectful. The lack of hygiene, the lack of clothing and shoes, does she attend daycare or school? And if so, is there anyone there who can verify what you’re saying? Is she up to date on doctor’s appointments? Is she fed properly? Is there a possibility of physical abuse? If this something that you are sincerely trying to do, you gotta do your research on all of it and even reach out to CPS where you are and ask them what they deem as abuse/neglect.
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Get the ball rolling for sure contact CPS and then buckle up cause you will have to fight but if it can be proofed that she is neglected you will win in the long run…it is a process. Good Luck God Bless 
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Yeah you gotta get the parents to sign over custody call CPS first the lady above me is absolutely right. and I completely agree with you. And bless your heart for taking care of this little angel. Some parents just don’t know the blessings they have.
- I am not going to assume that you are telling the right side of the story . Like they say. There are 3 sides to every story. Your story. Their story and the right story. So
That being said - If they are truly neglecting her then call cys . You shouldn’t put her out from something that she can’t control
However if you call cys and these parents are just low income that are in the hardship roach infestation rooming situations , then you would be very wrong to call cys . Maybe their too embarrassed to ask for help. Maybe they don’t have money for lice treatment for the hair and house. Maybe they are trying but it’s just not to your expectations. Why not ask them to tell you what their struggles are and maybe you can offer to take partial or temporary custody while they get back on their feet
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Maybe even discuss it with the parents. They may even agree to turn over custody to you if they can still see her. Probably the easiest way. But its definitely neglect so if they don’t agree grab a lawyer or talk with social services.
It’s not your decision. The parents could simply need education support and help. The mother could have untreated ppd or something… First i would ask is there anything you can do to help her do a better job? Offer to take the mom to the doctor for a mental health check etc form a plan. She could be overwhelmed. If it’s a case that she doesn’t want to get better then the doctor will likely make a report of neglect to social services. Or you can. But I would try offering help support education etc first 
Just do the right thing for the child n help her. Good luck 
At some point in all of our life’s we have all had head lice, unfortunately it’s a part of life, all we can do is just use head lice shampoo or conditier or vinegar ect… poor baby, bless her, sorry if I sound rude it’s not meant to be but you sound selfish. She’s 3 years old.
Your can not get custody unless the parents consent. Or…You can call CPS and make a complaint, and even if the child is removed, she can not be put in your care if the parent says no to your home.
I am a foster parent, and an adoptive parent.
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You can make a complaint, but also how about treating her yourself. If you know she has been neglected and know that she is infested and Noone is doing anything, then maybe…just maybe help her yourself AND make a report! They will do a welfare check and if it’s bad then they will place her with family. It takes a village and obviously that baby has no one in hers.
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I’m an Early Childhood Development Specialist I work with at risk kids and Early intervention. I’m a Certified Mandated Reporter-
This is child abuse…they are clearly neglecting her. You need to look up your state Child Abuse/Child Protection Services hotline and report this. Just Google it. They will do an investigation into homelife and her parents etc. If she has lice that bad it’s definitely infested in her bed and the house. She should be able to go to next of kin …. Then you’ll need to start the process for custody.
Is she in school??
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Each state is different hun. My best advice is to start documenting everything you can and talk to a lawyer. You may have to call child protection services to get an investigation started.
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Call Social Services it’s child neglect the poor baby if she is infested with lice that can make her feel quite unwell her needs emotional and physically are not being met sadly where she is refer yourselves to Social Services as family that wants to take care of your Niece on the grounds of neglect Good luck and best wishes this little girl needs you.xxxx
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Have you tried talking to and offering support directly to her parents?
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That kind won’t care.
First report it! And let them know you’re willing to take her! That will start the process. They will come to your home do their checks and place her with you! Idk in your state but mine once a case plan has been set for the parents they will have 1 year to complete it, if they don’t the courts will TPR the parents.
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Treat that babies hair first and foremost!!! Then make a complaint to CPS.
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Sounds like straight neglect.
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What’s the back story with her parents and home life? Being 3 and not knowing how to wipe isn’t that unusual. My oldest child was 5 before he was even fully potty trained. As far as the lice and I’ll fitting clothes… have you offered financial or other resources to the parents to find proper clothing and lice treatment? There are reasons aside from blatant abuse I can think of why this child has lice and poor fitting clothes. A lack of available funds is number 1 and a lack of knowledge or information is number 2. Before jumping right to taking the child from her home, I would offer to help the parents. Buy the lice treatments and go help Mom treat the child and home. Offer to help find resources to aide them in clothing the child. Is she loved? Fed? Living in an otherwise safe home?
I’m betting we’re only getting 1 side of the story, which doesn’t have enough details in it to give adequate advice. There are 3 sides to every story… yours, theirs and the truth falls somewhere in the middle.
I wouldn’t get CPS and family court involved at this point. I’d contact the parents and offer help and support first.
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Fight for that little girl. Forget the hair. Fight for her. No one else is😔
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It’s not your decision! You can get temporary guardianship while the MOTHER gets help! Then give the child back. But during that time you will work with the MOTHER. You can’t just go around taken peoples children because they are lazy or poor.
So you have to have custody of this 3 year old to help her? You can’t help her because she is a baby and had no voice for herself? She is your fiancés niece. Take care of her, help her, get rid of the lice, call cps if it’s truly that bad and get her away from the people that she calls mom and dad. She needs better.
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That poor child’s needs much more important than somebody’s pride or feeling embarrassed. I do not understand why somebody hasn’t done something to help this poor little child. Where are the grandparents why isn’t somebody providing shoes and clothing for this poor little thing? Even a neighbor for god sake‘s what is wrong with people? And if I were you I would have gone to the drugstore and bought the ink things to take care of her hair. Children get this from time to time but ongoing for a year that is total neglect on everybody’s part who has known of it. I am so angry and sad for this little girl. And her dad is just as bad as the mom and if the grandparents know about this and nothing is being done shame on them too. I have over 20 grandchildren and great grandchildren combined and there’s no way in hell I would ever allow this to happen to any child in my family or that I know. Somebody needs to get the lice medicine it takes two or three treatments to get rid of it shaving her head will not do it. And you going to the park when she’s there will not stop your children or you from getting them either.
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They can jump 20 feet
This is classed as emotional abuse and neglect in the UK and as I work in healthcare I know through all my training that child protection is “everybody’s” responsibility and you have a duty to report it… Not only that but “moraly” please help this child it’s not her fault she’s just a baby!
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Report her parents to CPS for neglect. Tell them everything you’ve told us. Accepting gifts isn’t neglect but if you’re buying for her because her parents won’t it is neglect. There’s a thin line. If CPS takes her the 2 of you can become family fosters. You won’t have custody. But she’ll be in your home long term.
There should be a form called something along the lines of “petition to establish custody by nonparent” thats what the form is called here.
It’s an issue for authorities once they are involved they guide you on the next steps that pertain to your area
You can’t just take a child that’s not yours?
You’d have to call CPS and hope they do an investigation. You can get a lawyer and ask for their advice or even talk to her parents and see if they will give you guardian but… you can’t just take her.
Sometimes its hard seeing neglect but if you are willing to make her “yours” than you may have to be at peace with doing the dirty work of treating and combing her hair, cleaning her home, buying her clothing and shoes, and just providing love from a separate home.
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I really don’t see the neglect or abuse here. What if they have been trying to get the lice under control and are just having a hard time of it? I remember being that kid that had to get their hair washed a million times and still kept catching it. And my aunt who I lived with painstakingly washed my hair with that special shampoo and combed it out and did all the laundry and furniture each time. Also, the aunt put the child in what she called the right size of shoes and the child complained they are too small. When your kid tells you their shoes are too small, you get them bigger shoes, do you not? Maybe she’s on the spectrum and has sensory issues and doesn’t like the feeling of the clothing against her skin so they dress her in what she finds comfortable. And isn’t it in style to have hairdos with shaved parts? Where is the actual neglect? She hasn’t complained about her niece being dirty or hungry or bruised. She just sounds uptight and judgemental. Maybe try having a conversation with the parents and find out what they’ve been trying for her lice and why the child wears clothes the aunt doesn’t think fits correctly, not that it’s any of her business. And maybe the child wanted that haircut and the aunt assumes it’s laziness. She didn’t say the child’s hair was constantly in tangles.
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Call child protective services? This is serious neglect. Sometimes when children are removed from the parents they allow them to foster with a relative. Perhaps that can be you. Good luck. This poor child needs someone to stand up for her.
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Lice is very difficult to get rid of so not sure why you are blaming the parents. You sound awful. My parents were poor and we had ill fitting shoes and clothes but they loved us and eventually created a great life for us through better opportunities and sacrifice. I would have been devastated if I were taken away. That’s a last resort. Help them. Be a good aunt. Pay for a lice removal service. It’s 250 dollars for a professional to remove them. Buy her inexpensive shoes from Walmart. Unless she is being completely neglected and you’re sure, bud out.
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Turn her in to dcf or srs . Those are bad.
You will have to get an attorney and take the parent to court and prove neglect
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I have to agree with the comment that your not in this for the safety and well being of the child, your being selfish and only concerned about your children when in fact yours are fine and will live through head lice. If you actually care for this child and want better for her, your first step would be getting married, even if you elope now and have a ceremony later, that way both you and your husband are related to the child, then you file for an emergency custody order with attached PROOF this child has been dealing with lice for a year, non fitting clothes, and copy’s of conversations you’ve had with the parents as well as evidence that they haven’t done anything to change it. Once you have custody of the judge deems you fit enough to take her and care for her, the judge and you and your husband will need to report to cps so they can do their own investigation, there is a chance that the judge will deny you custody until a proper investigation done by cps is complete and they’ve decided weather the child needs to be taken or not. Until all of those things are done, treat that baby like you would treat your own children, feed her, buy her clothes or go to the nearest church with a clothing closet and grab her some clothes and shoes. Maybe try giving her parents a boost in moral by helping get her some of the things she needs and the things to help get rid of the lice (ie, pay for the trip to the laundry mat to wash and dry everything in the house and get them all treatments to do on themselves and the spray for things that can’t be washed like couches and car seats) maybe just learn how to be a decent person. If their on state insurance it should caver meds from the dr for lice shampoo and they don’t even have to go in to be seen the dr will prescribe it over the phone and send everyone in the house a box to the pharmacy. Maybe ask the parents what’s stopping them from being able to afford to treat the lice and buy clothes and shoes that fit and see if there’s any resources in their area to help them get what they need at a low or free cost. It takes zero dollars to be kind.
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The only advice I have is for lice removal.
Buy listerine. Put in a spray bottle. Spray her entire head. Wrap head with a bag for an hour or two. You will see the bugs in the bag.
Rinse with vinegar to remove eggs.
Good luck!
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Do not clog up the system with your lice problem. Lice does not constitute bad parents. Well, not bad enough parents. But if you want to waste your money, go ahead. You will lose. I’m just looking out for you honestly. You’re just going to have to keep her away from your kids. Which sucks, but that’s your only option.
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Getting custody without being a parent, or even almost a parent, is extremely difficult. She is your fiancees niece, correct? That would be hard to do. Are you unable to just help her out without feeling like you have to have custody to do so? You can treat lice, and take measures to prevent it again. I suggest doing that before you start talking custody. Because in your position, you don’t really have any rights to the child.
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Wash her hair with kerosene. I promise they will die. It’s an old remedy and really works!!
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Although I agree that maybe the parents are struggling because right now it’s HARD to afford life let alone clothes constantly, I buy big so they have room to grow for this reason, but if it’s truly just because they do not care then involve cps, let them know you want to gain custody of said child and they will help you.
You do what you gotta do for the poor thing!
I took my sisters little girl from her because of the exact same thing
It is unexceptable
You can’t just take custody of a child…now if her parents are good with you keeping her then they can. Sign over guardianship…but the courts are not just going to hand her over to you
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Call DCS CPS whatever you call it in your state, but if she is badly infested with lice like you’re explaining it is considered abuse, and no adequate clothes, is considered neglect… And if she is basically already living with you y’all can also file for abandonment… And to kill the lice, it’ll burn BAD but put gasoline in her hair but do it under the sink/ tub so as soon as you’re done you can put the cold water on her head and shockingly shampoo cools it way better than conditioner will, then to get the extra bugs and eggs out get a shower cap, and put mayonnaise in her hair and make her sleep in it…
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Idk about the custody thing but i know walmart has a spray that helps repel lice. Its in the lice care area… I use it on my girls so they don’t catch it art school
Treat her hair and straighten it. CPS can get involved if it’s that bad
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Lice does not ruin your hair. Calm down. Of your kids did get it they would survive and so would their hair. Sounds like you need to suck it up and do some treatment on the poor baby instead of letting her go around suffering
These are obvious signs of neglect. But your fiancé will probably have to involve CPS to get legal custody.
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Fight for custody or get. Social services involved and if lice is an issue, help her get them taken care of
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You are this child’s uncles girlfriend! I don’t see the connection strong enough to warrant taking this child away from her parents. Get marriage onboard with a couple years down the road and see what happens!
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Poor little baby. Lice for a year? Wow! I agree that lice are difficult to get rid of, but, seriously, a year? Not only do you have to treat the child, but, also anything (and anyone) that they come in contact with. That means washing everything in hot water or getting rid of it.
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Don’t think this is England, and I don’t think this person suitable eithet.
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Shower cap with the thickest conditioner you can find, or coconut oil, all night, repeat five days later
Nitty gritty comb Amazon £3 ish cheaper version n use childrens detangle sprays they help or leave in conditioner
Call CPS. That’s child neglect.
I know of professional companies that offer services to go to your home and treat the lice. They’ll comb it all out and disinfect your home. I know it does cost some money though. It’s usually what people do as a last resort. That’s just an option. Best of luck momma. You’re doing your best!
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Tea tree oil straight on that poor girl’s hair. We had a lice issue and it seemed to keep coming back no matter what we did. Put some tea tree oil in your shampoo to repel bugs of your girls hair. Then I just straight up put some on my daughter’s hair and they were gone in 2 days. Like literally gone all of them. Best of luck. For custody definitely get cps involved have many things documented that is your concern so they have more to look into.
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