Might not want to be this person but call CPS tell them their child is being neglected she has lice all the time you just had to buy her shoes because Nothing fits her and tell her you want to tell them you want custody and see what they say from there
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I don’t know about the custody part but do not put kerosene or gasoline on that kids head like stated above! Just treat her hair blow dry and straighten it then dilute tea tree Oil in a spray bottle and spray her hair and your girls hair daily if possible, the treatments and heat will kill the bugs and eggs and the tea tree will help prevent them.
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Well my girls were well into 4 yrs when they would Yell ( Mom come wipe my butt:crazy_face:!!!) and I gladly would because they are still young to do it right. But that’s me:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
but the Lice situation Yes differently gotta get rid of Especially if you have to shave her head. Poor girl 
It means washing All her clothes, bed 
sheets etc…
Ask the parents to give you guardian ship of her.
How about a talk with her parents? Maybe they are struggling, and ask how you can help. Maybe it is taking her in, but have a talk. We need more villages for our children and less judgemental people who are quick to burn someone at the stake, because they are struggling or different.
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If the child has had a lice infestation for at least the past 12 months she either hasn’t seen her pediatrician, or her pediatrician is terrible. Having lice that long is considered a severe infestation and can be (likely is) effecting her overall health. Does she have food? Why don’t her parents care for her, are they addicts? Alcoholics? Just bad people? There are so many agencies that help with clothing, and shoes, bills in general, food, literally everything. There’s no excuse for this one child to have nothing while bugs bite her head and suck her blood all day and night for a year. How has nobody reported them to CPS?! You call CPS, and make it clear to them you are willing to adopt, or foster this child and ask what you need to do to make that happen (it’s a process) so you can get it done quickly.
I’m poor af and my daughter had lice in elementary school, it was so bad. I used massive tubs of mayo and wrapped her hair up in a plastic bag, used a hair dryer to get her head hot and let it sit for HOURSSS. washed it, then went through each strand of hair with a fine tooth comb, under a magnifying glass, grabbing everything I saw, bagged up everything in the shelter we were in, threw away anything else, and I would repeat the cycle of mayo/head wrap/wash/comb… For several days and it was done. Poor or not it can be taken care of. There’s literally no need for it to go on that long.
Get CPS involved cuz that’s a form of neglect and then you want to start with probate court for guardianship which gives you custody of the child
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Sounds to me like you don’t care about this child most of that rant was you complaining like Cruella DeVille. You don’t NEED custody you need to learn humility and compassion.
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As a former child services worker, CALL DCFS. If it’s as bad as you say they will either get a safety plan in place or place her in foster care. Granted there is always a chance you won’t get her but at least she’s not being neglected anymore which is the main concern!
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Call CPS. Tell them everything you know. Also let them be aware you are willing to take the child in. We went thru this with our grandson.
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I don’t know what the laws are in your state. I would definitely call CPS or DPS, but if you are not successful with that you run the risk of the parents not letting you see the little girl at all because you called on them. The problem is, if she’s not being cared for, they can see to it that she is. Whether they need welfare assistance or some sort of food pantry service where they also have soap and shampoo, Medicaid to cover prescription lice treatments. Whatever is called for. I don’t know what their circumstances are. If they’re poor or just don’t care. If it’s the latter, then CPS may take the little girl out of the home, but in a lot of cases it’s temporary to give the parents time to straighten their act up. There’s also the possibility they could place her in foster care. Your fiancé could call, talk to CPS, and tell them what you know and that you would be happy to take her. But don’t get your hopes up.
Sorry about the unicorn. It was an accident.
Tell Child Protective Services . That is just awful! Poor child 
You have to get a lawyer and start there
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File for emergency guardianship, and then fill out all the papers to get permanent guardianship of her. CPS might be able to help. Just call them and explain the situation.
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It can happen To Anyone!
Schools /daycares can have breakouts that are difficult to get under control. The older kids can bring lice home …
Tea tree oil shampoo and conditioner can help…
A prescription medication can be prescribed by a Physician
If you can get custody by all means do so! If approached the right way ( non judgmentally) the parents may be glad to give her up.
Getting custody will take too long call Dcf so they can get the child help now.
Why don’t you just ask the parents you want Custody of this little girl and why would you stop helping her she’s just 3 if you walk away from her, you aren’t as good as you think…
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Why would you want to turn her life upside down, whatever the situation the child is use to the environment they have grown up in, if you get her removed it can have very negative results like she may develop mental illness. Try to find a way to help without CPS
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Poor little baby:heart:
Unfortunately this child is not in a safe and good environment. My heart hurts for her. You need to get CPS involved- but it’s best for this child. Sounds like maybe parents have problems - be it drugs, alcohol, gambling, - it’s something. If/when they remove child from their care - you apply to be a “emergency foster parent” and volunteer to take her. Continue with the foster care program - eventually through legal process you can have a chance to adopt her if her parents don’t change. But if they do change they can work to get her back.
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Call cps now and they can help you assume custody of her even if just temp while parents get their shit together !!
You do sound quite rude. Why don’t you take an active role in her life as her aunt and comb the babies hair, teach her to wipe, share some shoes….stop calling her disgusting and comparing what’s happening to her, to your ability to care about your child’s hair. Tell her parents you would like to take guardianship and see if it creates a shift in thier parenting…you don’t sound like you really want the kid so be honest with your dude before taking that leap.
For lice spray your girls hair with hair spray.
I definitely think she needs removing from her parents care but your main focus seems to be your kids hair. Yes head lice are a pain but you literally seem more concerned with that than this child’s welfare. If you don’t get custody you’ll just walk away and leave her with people who aren’t caring for her?
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Call cps and when you talk to them tell them your willing to take care of her so she doesn’t go in to foster care and when you get her you can file for emergency custody and then the rest will fall in place
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That’s neglect and it should be reported.
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As a social worker you have to go through certain steps. Document everything that you were seeing, report what you were seeing, and they will investigate. They can remove the child but it’s hard to give you custody if parents are willing to make change, so if protective services gets involved the first thing we will do is provide resources to the parents to do better, help them care for the child, and if they’re able to do that then they are able to have their child back. If the pants are unwilling then that’s where you can fight with custody but parents are giving a shot to the kids if the level of neglect can be helped.
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Time to call child’s aid and report abuse
That’s neglect and it should be reported.
So when you do get her treat her hair yourself and show the mother how to do it. Tellher how to take care of it. Talk to them and ask them what the issue is. Churches give out free clothes and DHS has a list of resources that they hand out. Help them find those resources for help. If he doesn’t change call cps then. If she’s in school maybe see if the school will talk to them also.
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Simply ask them THAT.
You don’t have to cut hair to deal with lice. We had foster kids no one ever got it from them
I think if you can offer a stable home for her that’s great you can clear up the lice without custody.
And likely won’t get custody
But offering some stability at this time may be good step
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If you care about the kid then take care of her while she’s around you! Vinegar water will be your best friend and sorry to say but keeping hair up doesn’t keep lice away. Honestly she didn’t ask to be brought into this world. But she’s here. If your not willing to love and care for her while she’s with you what on earth makes you think it’s going to be any different if you get custody?
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If her parents are being neglectful you can call cps or dcfs (whatever is in your area). They can best determine what’s going. If the child needs to be removed you can be put on as the person who takes her. Doesn’t mean you’ll get permanent custody. Could just be temporary custody or guardianship. Her parents still have rights over her. They’d to have either get their parental rights stripped in court (which would be like EXTREME neglect and abuse) or voluntarily give up rights to you guys. I went through this with my nephew. He’s currently living with my sisters ex boyfriend bc we don’t have the money to fight it in court. Good luck.
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Why haven’t yous called social services?? If the child is been neglected that way she is only 3, help her while she’s young and she be grateful in the end, like yous say they don’t care, that’s neglect! That’s why so many kids are in the positions they are in because people don’t act when they see it going on especially for a length of time, they social may as others have said they may help them get into better shape and help look after the little girl, I’ve seen this with so many families and alot can be quiet thankful in the long run as it was the kick start they needed
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Document everything. Contact CPS and let them know you are willing to take her in. Good luck
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I’d find out what the proper steps are for the state. Likely making a call to CPS or something is the first step.
Best of luck to all of you!
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That’s neglect. Call Department of Children Services in your area, let them know what is going on. Go to court and file a Petition for Custody.
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Sounds like there is alot of abuse on this poor little angels life please report it . We must be the voice of innocence.
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Emergency guardianship faster than custody and harder to change once granted.
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Go for legal guardianship
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report it! thats neglect. that poor baby,
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How about calling cps why has no one done that. They will put her w family. Mayo will kill lice too. Praying for that poor child
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Sounds like a lot of y’all need some compassion!!
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She is your niece, not just your fiancé’s, you’re marrying into his family. Treat her hair to get rid of the lice, speak to her parents and see what they say, could they be suffering from depression and its just coming across as being lazy? If you 100% belive that the child is being neglected because the parents don’t care then speak to a lawyer or child services and and get the ball rolling, it’s so sad a 3 year is suffering so much, you can see she needs help so help her 
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I had hair to my butt both times I had lice. After I had lice, I still had hair down to my butt. You sound very ignorant about this topic. However, it does sound like they’re neglecting her so report it. Why don’t you try to get the lice infestation at bay? Sounds like you’re around her enough to be able to do something.
Just know cys will ask what have you done like treatments etc, because they’ll put her in foster care if they find out you never attempted to do a treatment and whatnot they’ll basically see it as you knew it was there for so long and if didn’t attempt then why would you know with custody.
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Did you realize that head lice only likes CLEAN HAIR??? THEY DO NOT LIKE DIRTY HAIR. When it lays eggs it will not sick to oily dirty hair to the hair by scalp. So obviously they wash it often. I’d like to hear the parents side of this story
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Call child protective services and tell them that if she’s removed after they investigate, she is your husbands niece and he wants temporary emergency custody! She is being neglected you are also not wrong for feeling how you feel! This makes me sick, those people raising her need a major jerk in the ass
Call DCS and get custody of her
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Lol this is a disaster . You only want custody so your kids aren’t at risk for lice? You’ve had a whole year to call cps to report the neglect . And a whole year of watching and now you’ve had enough of your kids hair being at risk you want to do something ….wrong reasons and you should’ve spoken up for her a long time ago
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Talk to a lawyer or ring child services. Explain what you have here and that you guys are more than willing to have her with you permanently - so sick and tired of seeing our babies put through this shit!
Please get this child HELP!! She is too young to get it on her own. This is TERRIBLE! That poor little girl. You need to FIND A WAY to help this child NOW!!
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All these people saying “treat the lice while you have her” aren’t understanding that there is NO POINT when she’s going to be sent back into a lice infested home afterwards…
And whether or not the parents keep their child’s hair clean, they’re very clearly not keeping their home clean if this lice situation is this serious… there’s a reason it’s not going away…a disgusting home is just as unhealthy for a child.
You need to report this as neglect though, if you don’t report it and try to use it as a reason to obtain guardianship theyre absolutely going to question why it wasn’t reported if you knew it was happening
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Only tip I have is maybe he should get rid of you if you’re willing to let a child in need be abandoned due to lice. Now you know this child is in need but come to fb to rant and rave instead of calling cps or helping?
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Please do whatever you can to get custody of this little girl. She needs you. It sounds like it’s just a matter of time before if she gets taken anyway and who knows who she’ll end up with, at least you guys are family
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Call Child Protection and get the process started. Sounds like this little girl needs a loving home. Btw don’t let her get into the foster care system…not all those people are loving most just want the money.
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Omg! Where is CPS???
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first if she is being neglected this bad call child services ,second i can tell you first hand if you aint got at least a 100k to fight for her …dont bother
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Sounds like you love your daughters hair…Anyway she is your niece & if it’s an issue like you say & you love her like you say then help her. Do the treatment yourself! Tell the parents she needed the help!!
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I’m in a similar situation as well… I feel for you… in my situation my niece’s dad got picked up by the cops today…
First, approach the parents. Maybe they would be relieved to have you guys care for her. If not and there are other signs of neglect, call CPS. IDK but I would hope CPS would prefer to place the child with relatives than a foster.
Cos will take her away if bad enough by law… then you can get temporary placement… lice like clean hair… but there is other stuff you can do. Lice is hard to get tired of in the home for sure… so the thing that gets her taken away is misfiring clothes etc
Call protective service you don’t need to say your name
I wouldn’t want any care from you at all if you complain that you’re the only one providing her needs by giving her hand me downs. You’re more worried about your family catching lice than to be taking care of the girls lice like you guys are more luxurious and important than her. Once she’s under your roof would you still treat her the way you do today or worse? You sound like Cinderella’s step mother.
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The first thing you’re going to want to do is discuss this with the parents. If they agree, there are guardianship papers they can willingly sign. That’ll make your job a whole lot easier.
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I have lice shampoo if your local you can have
Call social services now
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If they truly don’t care, maybe ask the parents for guardianship of her and make it sound like it’ll just be less responsibility for them. She is only 3. The way she is being treated is neglect and abuse. If you aren’t going to stick up for her and use your voice, who will?
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Continue to call CPS, take foster certification through your county or a private agency, be registered through the court as a stand by guardian-sadly the system is all about working with bio-parents and not 100% about the child
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Sounds like you spend a lot of time with her and you haven’t just gone ahead and treated the head lice ? Seems your not shy to tell the parents what for but haven’t asked to treat the girls hair But rather hang out in the park whist the fleas just multiply for a year ? You are also letting this child suffer shame on you !
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You care about your kids hair, THAT YOU CAN TREAT, more than a 3yr old little girls well being? Dam I hope your husband gets custody of her and divorces your vile a*se!
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I do know in my state ohio . Thwy will not remove a child due to bugs of any kind . It’s wrong hut that’s how it is . My friends daughter would go every other Saturday just for a few hrs and would get ate up by bed bugs and they told her didn’t matter . They won’t do anything for just bugs she’s still have to send her when it was his time . She sent me the pics its horrible. Plus the extra stuff my friend has ro do when she comes home to prevent there house to get them is insane
You’ve had a fucking year to call cps and help that poor baby, and now your only reasoning for wanting to help her is to protect your daughters hair.
I hope your fiance gets custody and cares for this little girl. And I also think you need to do a little soil searching to find where your priorities actually lie.
So the love of hair means nothing, yes it’s a pain to have to comb long hair or even thick hair with lice with the treatment. But it’s doable. I will say this, depending on what you are comfortable with. Go get a glossing from a local beauty retail place, it’s a clear chemical. Apply it to her roots then go down to her ends in 1/2inch sections. And let it process for the time it says. The chemical will kill the lice. Always do a lice treatment anyway on her and maybe buy tea tree and when she is in your care use that on her to keep other lice from clinging on. I’d start with child services and find out who can help you and her.
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No offense but you sound like a crappy aunt!!! My ex was still technically married when we were together and his wife’s children came to our house infested with lice. Do you think I didn’t do anything??? I called the drs office and got prescription shampoo under my kids names to treat them all!!! Because as a parent THATS WHAT WERE SUPPOSED TO DO!!! I would never abandon a child who needed help smh 
I dont care of it pisses the parents off or not! You and your husband have allowed this little girl to run around for a year infested with lice and never once even thought about helping her so what makes you ok to take her in now??? As her aunt you havent even helped her learn to wipe! I have 5 nieces and best believe I helped them learn to go to the bathroom and wipe as well. Your fussing but yet you have done NOTHING to help thos child except buy her a pair of shoes!
Staying at the park won’t help. If she sits on the sofa,in a chair takes a nap the lice can spread. It’s much harder on her. Buy some lice shampoo and a narrow toothed comb. Put the time in,help the child. Even if your girls get it it’s not the end of everything
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There’s a couple of helpful custody groups with some lawyers in them Child Custody, Visitation & Support Group
Parents in Custody Battles Support Group
Child Custody . Support Group
Child Custody Battles Support Group (NEW)
Treatment for the lice immediately, then call cps on the parents
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I’d treat the lice myself. Poor baby. I don’t care if the parents are near and see me do it.
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Can you do the lice treatment for her when she is with you guys?? Document EVERYTHING you see and if you have to call CPS do it!!! If she’s being neglected like this at age 3 it’s only gonna get worse…good luck and please be an advocate for that baby girl!!!
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Call CPS or the police and have her removed from their care and placed with you.
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So when she comes over why don’t you do her hair for you since you’re so concerned instead of bitching about it on social media if you’re so concerned with your own children’s hair do the girl a favor if her own parents aren’t doing it.
Will the parents Willingly give y’all custody? I’d hate to say go straight to cps because that could lead to more harm to the child than actually good (being placed in foster).  I’d say it depends how her parents feel first then take other actions if necessary
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Flat hair iron gone slowly over damp hair kills the eggs .They pop and burn and brush out easy with just a swipe of the comb .Lice shampoo for the bugs .Tell the parents that . Hopefully treat themselves and her .
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You can get lice shampoo to prevent them from getting it! An for the next week every 5-7 days I did every night for 3 days straight then to 5 then 7 an bought a bottle of just shampoo. I know the struggle an to be honest your doing the right thing!
But putting her back in the home where she was shes just gonna get it back especially if they aren’t diligent on washing bedding hair ties clothing she wore!
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Start with a report to cps. Have pictures at her worst and best. And pray. It’s about the child and how much evidence you can provide. Preschool
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Why don’t you just do the little girls hair everytime you see her, and ask to spend more time with her, if they aren’t looking after her they will happy let u spend heaps of time with her. Look after your kids the same you do her. It’s family. All family is the same. Treat her as your daughter
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Act with love and understanding. She’s a child. If you really want custody of her, do it for the right reasons.
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Taking custody is very serious and based on what you have written here the parents need support and education, not to have their lives and the life of their child ripped apart
We’re only getting half the story here and I just don’t believe that it’s purely laziness and negligence, there’s always more to the story
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Take pictures of the lice
Get your family set up a foster parents, legally. Do the classes and apply, background checks, home visits, all of it. Then report them and we she goes to foster care, go fight for her.
Talk to a lawyer first. Then do what they suggest.
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Why can’t YOU treat her hair and comb it with a lice comb? You may have to do it a few times to get them all, just do it every time she comes over. You can also spray your daughter’s hair with lice prevention spray or even water mixed with tea tree oil in a spray bottle (I use it on my daughter before school because she’s in kindergarten and I know how kids that age can spread lice). I would also suggest cleaning any type of pillow, blanket, furniture, etc., that she uses at your house, or brings with her, and tumble dry them then bag them up tightly for a few days to make sure no lice spread in your home. If your girls get lice, you can treat it. If this girl stops having a safe place to come because you care more about your girls hair (that can be treated), you’ll be making her poor little life that much more difficult. You can definitely work towards a cps case or attempting to get custody, but if that doesn’t work out and you stop letting her come over, that’s super shitty and selfish of you.
Lice loves clean hair and a infestation of lice is in the home just like fleas you have to have your house free of the lice for it not to continue laying eggs the home has to put everything in bags closed tightly to suffocate the lice or bombing the house as far as clothes and shoes maybe her parents are having a hard time offer help not once did you say she was starving under weight or full of bruises talk to the parents be an adult
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Go get a can of vamouse and clean her hair but after you go to CP’s with the issue . get a child advocate evolved . to much lice issue can actually kill the. Child or make her really sick . this is child abuse awareness month and neglect is abuse that is exactly what your dealing with . petition the court for custody . its your responsibility to save this child what are you waiting on
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Wash everyone’s hair with tea tree shampoo and it will get rid of any lice and also repel and prevent it from spreading.
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