File for a guardianship that’s a good way also
Call CPS first you have to start a report and then they will go speak to the child’s parents pay a visit and see for them selfs what’s wrong if they remove the child they will reach out family members who may be able to care and have adequate space for her the parents will have to go to court May be ordered to go through parenting classes and might face jail time for the neglect caused in a few months the parents will be in court again to see if they complied with the courts order if they did not then the child can be be adopted by who ever took her during the separation it’s not as easy as you may think also be aware that CPS has the right to check the well being of every child and adult in the home and if there are more children in the home even if they are not hers they can open a case as well get a lawyer ask a professional
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Why not clean her hair for her and help her out, this must be your husband’s family but maybe helping with educating them on how to get rid of the bugs. And if that does not work then maybe offering the family to take her in until they get their act together. But show her more compassion because she is really just a baby and some 3 year olds are still in diapers so she is still learning
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Put tea tree oil into your reg shampoo bottle each time you buy it and you willbe a lot lesslilely toget them
My daughter had lice off and one for like a year or two I mean I sat for HOURS combing her hair getting everything out washing sheets and pillows blankets and drying them multiple times to over heat them but they kept coming back. Lice are VERY HARD TO GET RID OF, I’ve tried the shampoos the sprays the natural home remedies you name it I did it. And guess what they kept coming back I was also at my wit’s end. Just know sometimes it’s not laziness it’s just that the “bugs” are hard to get rid of and can mutate to be resistant to the things that kill them.
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Child protection obviously. You can’t just ‘get custody’, she’s not a homeless dog.
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That does not sound like just cause to get custody of her, unless parents give her up
I had 3 girls with pretty curls and would get it as soon as we got it gone the next day they came home with more cause someone in class got them. Spent years fighting them Pre-K - 5th grade our school system sucks.
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But if they don’t care about her hair I don’t think they care about her. Call and make a report to DCF
First of all don’t call cps cause I’m telling you a kid going in the system that little isn’t it! File for emergency custody get a lawyer try to help her poor thing if y’all are wanting to take her document everything dates times strat righting down every incident take pictures proof they are unfit parents and than file for custody. So sad prayers for that baby girl!
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There’s a pill she can take to get rid of it.
If you have enough proof of neglect you can take them to court for custody. In some states they call it third-party custody and others it’s guardianship. You can look up the rules for your state online and go to the county courthouse to the county clerk to get the paperwork.
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Clean her hair if parents won’t do it … I know it’s gross but I’d get the bugs out myself… yea tree oil n mayo what my aunt use put in our hair I got it as a kid
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As others have mentioned you can also go through DCF but they will do a home study for you and determine who the child should go to or if they need to do in-home services. Do you think there’s any chance the parents would sign guardianship over to you? You can do that through the probate court in your county
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If the parents are will to sign her over- you just take them to the lawyers office with you to sigh paperwork then it will just wait on a judge’s signature. Really simple If they are not willing to sign her over then get cps involved- sounds like drugs are involved. Prayers.
Wait…is this about you wanting custody of her or her hair lice…nothing makes sense to this post.
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You don’t. You report the neglect and put in the report you’d be willing to take in the child. You don’t just try and go for custody. That’s not how it works
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CALL DCS! Having a bad lice infestation CAN KILL THAT LITTLE GIRL! There was a case in scottsburg Indiana about a little 4 year old girl whos mom let her lice infestation get so bad that her daughter was hospitalized due to the lice… She almost died! They had to give her some blood. The mother told dcs she didn’t “notice” the kids itching their heads! And dcs took that little girl away from her mother (I pray her p.o.s. mom never gets her back…she was so strung out she was just to lazy to take care of the lice problem).
Do what you can to help her. Treat her hair pick all them nasty bugs out. Can you IMAGINE what the little girl is going thru and what she must think. That poor baby ! I pray it goes in your all favor. That little girl needs someone who cares and shows it.
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I’ll be honest, lice isn’t considered neglect though. I worked at a school with kids who didn’t get treated ever. And the child services told us it’s not considered neglect.
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Definitely apply for custody.
Lice like clean hair
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Turn them in to cps…
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It sounds like you can easily prove neglect… actually getting a TPR and being able to obtain custody is a whole other matter.
Talk to a lawyer, not a Facebook group.
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You have to be married in many places. But, calling the C/AN hotline would be helpful.
Why not just get rid of the lice. Keep her for a week or so so she doesn’t reinfect herself when she goes home…this is the common sense answer.
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Make the call to cps and if they all of you’ll take her in and they approve then there you go in the process but the parents will be given the chance to straighten up and get her back
You have to call for welfare check and be willing to take child in. But NOTHING you named in this post constitutes Child endangerment according to MOST state laws. So they aren’t going to do anything and definitely not going to give you custody over lice and shoes! But you can try. Hope for the kids sake, something happens for her.
FYI~ GO AFTER THE LAWS! Change the DEFINITION of what constitutes “Child Endangerment” and then you can further help her and so many more!!
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I don’t understand dome of this, like how often is this child by you? Is she living permanently by you? If she’s back and forth, and her parents dont care, there will always be a reinfestation
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You can contact a local lawyer and ask about temporary guardianship. I had to do that before. The parents both have signa legal documentation stating that they are giving you temporary guardianship and that you have the say so in her care. Only downside to that is that the parents still have the right come get the child anytime they wanted. But I would still contact an attorney to ask about temporary guardianship and go from there.
Get guardianship through the courts
Document… everything… 
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Call child services. Her parents are neglecting her.
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Call social services
Just go file for custody
Have the school call child services they with check it out then your name want be brought up …or just go file papers at the court house you can do it any time …good luck
After 2 weeks I would’ve already called cps and after a month I would’ve went and filed for custody
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That super lice is really hard to get rid of. I might think of taking her to a specialist that has the right treatment for her problem. Otherwise your gonna have a good long fight with those buggers . That kind can imbed eggs in the skin and if you scratch them to the surface of the hair line boom more nits. They can live under the skin for a year. There’s a science behind the treatment. If you truly love this kid. Go for it . But keeping her distant from the other children. Nessary but it’s not fun …
Call social services.
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I had the same situation with my step daughter. Her infestation was so bad, you could see them crawling in her hair without even having to search. The Mother and step father useless… Wouldn’t even comb her hair (mind you the child was good at screaming and the Mother would give up) it fell to me to comb all the knots out then use the zapper lice comb on her. I hated doing it! I felt like I was the wicked witch of the west. When her and her sister came for a week long holiday I would get it to just about gone. Next time she came for visitation, it was as bad as ever. My kids got them and I did once too. After about a year of this I was frustrated, in despair and had had enough. We chopped her hair off, like a pixie cut (suited her face shape too) put the zapper comb through and never had a problem afterwards. There is a suspicion in my mind though that the child (and her Mother) finally realised that this situation was no laughing matter.
Get a lawyer you should have long been documenting everything take pictures of her hair up close take pictures of the clothes she wears the shoes and if you can take her to a doctor for a physical you need to document everything if you want custody of this child
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File for emergency custody.
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FYI before you want to take that child away from her parents.
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First eat tree oil spray that in her hair and everyone else’s it will keep the bugs away 
second sounds like they are using her for a meal ticket and not caring for her I would talk to social services about gaining custody
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Call Family and Childers to check on her and tell them if they remove her from unfit living conditions you want to be appointed Guardian
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These are not suffient reasons for a parent to loose custody.
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Haave you asked the parents about taking over guardianship.? They may be for it…espically if they dont seem to care.
Oh and be aware if you do call CPS you could be waiting for a while. Macomb county cps atleast doesnt go out to the home and even CHECK on the child untill 3 people have called in .
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You have child protective services step in. It’s sounding like neglect to me.
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You should be calling CPS for neglect. Then you might get a kinship placement. But the fact this has been ongoing and no one has bothered to do anything means to make a real difference in her life is pretty gross.
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There are daily defense products that help keep you from picking lice up. (I work in health care and used it for years when working with direct patient contact).
It sounds like her parents may be poor but it’s been interpreted as lazy. Lice will infect a house so that even if you treat her, as soon as she lays her head against a couch, chair or pillow she will get them again. Fog treatments are expensive. If you have the means have you thought about offering to help them with foggers or an exterminator? Mayonnaise is a decent treatment and so is Vamoose (which is indicated for super lice) but be careful with young children because over use can burn her scalp. Before you assume they’re being lazy please reach out and see if they’re actually doing the best they can with what they have.
“If you could see where your enemies weep, they’d no longer be your enemies.”
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Take that poor girl in and show her how childhood should really be for her…
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File with CPS and then try for custody, let the lazy parents go to jail 
please don’t let this continue any longer 
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Look up All About lice here on fb they’re pretty helpful!
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You contact family services. You document everything that you see. You stay on family services till they check on that baby!!! That has to be horrible for her and not knowing what to do or what it is, your the adult you need to please be that babies safe place be in her corner fighting with all you got!! That is child neglect!
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Time for court intervention. Report her negligence… bordering on abuse. Sue for custody. Involve social service, if you must. At least she will be better off with you !!
I’m sorry but just treat her hair. She’s a child, she’s 3. My kids got it regularly for years from age 2, until end of primary school. I used proper treatment or regular conditioner which stuns the lice for 20 mins so you can comb through. I would do this for a week. I also used coconut oil and apple cider vinegar. Hair was up for school, school sent notes home to parents every season to check for nits. The lice like clean hair so for me I washed my hair less. A 3 year old may struggle to wipe themselves and some still in nappies. Mine weren’t but I know other kids who were and weren’t abused. Every kids go through stages at different rates. Educate the parents. My SS had a mate who had a Single F looking after him. Once we worked out where my SS was catching lice from my SO educated my SS friends Father. We had been doing everything right but my SS was still catching lice.
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Why don’t you do it for the poor Little darling , it must be driving her crazy , she won’t be able to sleep properly due to the itching all night
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Hair spray helps ro keep bugs at bay too
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Decide if you love the child or not and go from there
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That poor baby… please get custody of her and help her bc she’s just being neglected at this point.
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Sounds to me like you’re more concerned about your kids hair than the welfare of this child 
please don’t get custody but If u actually do care, make a call to cps, if they deem worthy they will remover her… Smh
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Call cps. Start an investigation. Tell them you wanna take her in. Document everything
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Or tell her mom you will call cps if you don’t just get her.
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Consult a family lawyer . She is being neglected
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lice doesnt ruin hair… shaving doesnt cure lice, effort does. so not sure why your concerned about their nice hair??? id be concerned about the stress of constant itching and if its that bad worry about scratching till raw because infection will follow. reach out to parents, help if you can. some people need more help then others. if its child neglect, report and take her in.
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get an attorney and prepare to battle.
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You literally just have to go to the court house and show them the child and all your proof and file for emergency custody
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File for custody! That poor girl needs love and care
Obviously she’s not getting it from her parents
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I’d be more concerned for her well-being in general then the head lice.
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Everyone saying she’s only concerned for her kids hair and not the child in question are reaching. You can be concerned about a child and STILL not want your children around it. She cares so much she would rather take care of the child properly herself than put all the kids at risk. Adding another child to your 3 is not easy! Call CPS and make sure they know you want custody.
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What does her dad want to do ,why has he allowed this to continue for so long
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My grand kids often come home from school with them
We were going through so many expensive shampoos/treatments every few weeks
As well as constantly washing all bedding
As we all ended up with them
We got to the stage we all had to clip our heads
As for the other issues You have with this child such as clothes and shoes
I’m sure your local op shop would have those items
She may need some personal hygiene education
From you considering she is only very young
But Tbh
If you feel you don’t want her around your kids
That’s pretty sad for the child
And selfish on your part
If you feel she is a danger to your kids from bugs
You may need to invest in a cotton wool plant
Cause no matter how careful you are kids will most likely get bugs of any kind form any source
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Go to family court and apply for emergency custody right away poor baby doesn’t deserve to live like that I can’t even imagine what her poor little head feels like
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When I was younger my mum always had problems getting lice out my hair and it wasn’t because I was neglected. Plus my 6 year old has just started to wipe properly she definitely wouldn’t have been able to do it at 3. Maybe have a word with her parents and go from there or educate her in wiping ect and actually sit and comb through her hair if you are concerned.
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Is Licw not treatable?Do you need custody for that?
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Omg she’s only3 !! And has lice already wtf usually not til they get in school that’s awful poor child wow 
See a solicitor/lawyer. Get in touch with social services/child protection and the police, basically anyone who will listen to you.
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When me and my sister would get lice as kids we would wear mousse, hairspray, and gel constantly for a week straight and it got rid of them every time.
As for getting custody, as much as I HATE to say this but calling CPS and getting them involved may be the best way to go in this situation and also go to courthouse and file emergency custody.
Good luck to you and yours.
First off, hair getting thinned or cut actually helps rid of lice. If you have to cut it, then you just have to. It’s just hair, it grows back. And I don’t know if you can just take a child away from their parent? I mean it’s not as simple as you think and it would probably be very hard. No doubt she’d probably have a way better life with you but social services only does so much. If she’s not abused, neglected, or malnourished, then you might have a hard time getting custody. And it sounds like they’ve attempted to handle the lice issue as you mention they thinned her hair? You say they’re lazy but you sure that’s all it is? Infestations can be costly and it can really take a toll on someone’s mental health
He can apply for a special guardianship order or a child arrangement order each will give him shared responsibility with her parents and will determine where the child lives
People especially children can get illnesses and infection from lice infestations and I’m pretty sure that would be considered child endangerment if the parent’s aren’t willing to do what needs to be done to prevent that especially if there is simple solutions. Tea tree oil works really good for lice I used to have lice lots as a kid and they love clean hair so my mom wouldn’t let us wash our hair but we would still shower Witt a cap and tea tree oil soaking in our hair. I don’t have any information about custody but i do know a bit about lice and how to prevent and/or get rid of it!
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Go to court and apply for emergency custody unfortunately dyphs will probably be involved because it’s a case of neglect but it will be in her best interest it’s not right that she have to live like that poor baby bless y’all for loving her the way y’all do please go and get her permanently!
Go to court and apply for emergency custody unfortunately dyphs will probably be involved because it’s a case of neglect but it will be in her best interest it’s not right that she have to live like that poor baby bless y’all for loving her the way y’all do please go and get her permanently!
Apply for emergency custody. That’s probably the only way you can get custody of her quickly if her parents aren’t just ready to sign her over to you and your boyfriend. Then take that baby to a Lice Clinic of America in your area. I had to take my daughter there after all the over the counter options didn’t work, because there’s a thing called Super Lice that won’t die from OTC lice shampoos and treatments. They’ll also check for lice for the all members of your household if you bring them in at the same time, including other children and adults, for free. (If they’re found to have lice too and you get them treated you’ll have to pay for it, but just getting checked is free.) As for the rest, she’s 3. She’ll get used to clothes and shoes that fit once she has them available to her for long enough, and at 3 years old she’s barely learned how to wipe herself, so teaching her and checking to make sure she does it right afterwards is a thing you’ll just have to do until she gets used to it and does it right by herself.
it all is gonna depend on what state you live in… I have a situation VERY similar to yours & I live in Michigan…here the state does not consider head lice a “health hazard” it is only labeled as a “nuisance”…in fact, even the the schools do not send the children home unless they find a crawling bug… they can find all egg/nits or even bugs, but as long as they are not moving they won’t even send child home. it’s ALL ass backwards here… its very hard here to take custody from a birth mother… michigan is most definitely a “mother state”
the only proven method of getting rid of had lice is to be able to comb they the every. single. day. with the little metal comb (not the red handle one that usually comes in the rid kits) you want the little silver comb that looks it has something wrapped around each tooth of the comb. these are for pulling the eggs/nits that’s are stuck to hair shafts up towards the roots… you have to consistently comb they her hair every day to be able to get rid of them… my stepdaughter use to have them alot.
Csll child welfare its embarrassing you let this go on, you’re a mother and you know this is neglect on all levels, 1st step call child services now
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A lot of people use the shampoo but don’t sit and pick the lice out by hand, which is needed.
I’m thinking u have a problem with this little princess,just luv her
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Child protective services. If it’s as bad as you say it is, you can get immediate protective custody. But you can’t just take full custody of a child unless the child is in physical danger. With neglect, like what this sounds like, you can be granted temporary guardianship until the parents finish classes, etc and prove that they can take care of her again. But literally taking complete custody is extremely hard to do without proof of physical abuse.
You can get this spray called lice free. It’s amazing stuff. It kills Lice an eggs on contact. You just spray and leave it in. Then just comb it out. My daughters hair is very thick an way passed her butt. So when she came in contact with a girl who had it I freaked out. 
my god your not ok with the nits you think it’s disgusting hahahaha who do you think you are love
So do her hair, I mean if you really felt bad you would clean them out…seems like the only right thing to do. I’ve had many family members come to my house with lice and I did their hair, it’ll take you a couple hours, but clean the babies hair out if you really care 
you’re just as bad as the parents, she’s 3 and still suffering at both places
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why does no one seem to get that the lice is wherever this kid lives, likely. So the aunt can clear her but she’s going home to get reinfested…
I agree that CPS should be notified.
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If the parents are as lazy as they seem… have your tried to talk to them And see I’d they just want to sign her over
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Document all that your saying. Each state is different. As for her hair. You can put tea tree oil in your shampoo it will help with head lice. And take pictures of all the things you see and file for her. They will give the parents time to get her back. But if they don’t you will be able to keep her. Check CPS
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Firstly I think you’d have to do reports of concern?
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Depending what state you live in most state won’t grant custody of a child unless the child’s life is in danger. (Malnutrition, physical bodily harm, sexula misconduct, things of this nature) a dirty home and child will most likely not be grounds for taking that child away. Also that child prolly loves his mother and father but don’t know any better with hygiene. Talk with the parents if nothing happens get social services involved. It would be a lengthy process of any. If you were lucky enough to have them go to their home and see the living situation they would then have an inspection one time clean their house once and just do it again. I’ve personally seen this happen and nothing ever got done!! It’s a sad world we live in. Wash you damn children!!
Maybe you could step in and treat it properly when she’s with you instead of going to the park- since you care sooo much and it’s been over a year.
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About the only hope you have of getting her (unless there is WAY more to the story) is if parents sign her over, as sad and ridiculous as it may be, no way DHS is taking a kid over a bit of neglect, hell they rarely pull them permanently for any kind of abuse! The system is SO overcrowded and under-funded! I hate to say, but unless kid is chained in basement and only fed 3 days a week or some other such horror, she is not likely to be permanently removed from home, AND trying to get her, even on emergency order will likely lead to her parents being pissed off and taking it out on kid plus never let y’all see or do anything for the kid! My advice is do everything and anything you can for her, help her learn what she needs to know, support her thru her life, be there for her and she will probably turn out ok! Hell, if y’all run her off for lice she may never have anyone else that gives a damn enough to help her at all!!
Go to the court house in your area file for emergency custody! All you can do is try! Also you could try to call CSP. CPS may give her to you if her living conditions at home are bad.
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