My oldest is 18, has graduated from high school, will be 19 in October. Fights all the time with her siblings, it’s time for her to move out. Unfortunately, her job isn’t great. I an unsure whether she is being mature enough to live on her own,bit living here is too hard on the rest of us How can I get her to move out?
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Evict her easy enough
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Send her to college you will also be helping her future
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Give her a deadline to save up money or find a better job and to move out
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Have her start off paying you ‘rent’… put that money towards a security deposit for an apartment or a room. Help the transition from your house to her own if things are getting toxic there
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Start charging “rent” Until she finds a place. When she does, either give her as a house warming gift or keep it in a special fund to send her in small amounts when she needs help with rent, water etc. Ill be doing this to mine when she turns 18 and has graduated. Depending on her responsibility when she moves out depends on if she gets it as one lump sum or not
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Tell her to find a roommate and a 2nd job and get out
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Charge her rent and electric and make her buy her own food and she has to do her own laundry.
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Military will fix that ass.
Disgusting! Wtf is wrong with you
There are a lot of other things you can do to help your child than to just toss her out !
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Wow. Mother of the year here. 
I hope she does move out and never speaks to you again. I wouldn’t if my mother thought about me like this. It’s disgusting that you’re putting everybody else first. Unless she poses a physical threat to the other members of the household, she shouldn’t if she can’t afford it. Siblings fight, that’s what they do. Maybe try, oh I don’t know, being a parent and talking to not just her to find out what the problems are, but also to the other kids and find out why they constantly engage with her? Find out if they’re starting shit because they’re equally part of the problem. It takes two to fight 
So knowing your daughter has a job that won’t support her you want to force her into a bad situation because you didn’t teach how to treat her family with respect?
Help her apply to college, talk to her, help her learn to save up, all better options. Be a parent.
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Why kick out a child? I never understood that, how about work with her and find out what’s really going on. Kicking children out because they’re “18” is the fastest way to send them into a hard life of trouble. Be supportive and find a solution that actually helps the problem not just sends it away.
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Help her. Find her an apartment that she can easily afford… then pay for first months rent plus the deposit… and help her get stuff for it, get her a calendar and date book right down all her bills in it, if she gets paid weekly or bi weekly show her how to pay for the bills, and help her pick out days for shopping and laundry.
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I was kicked out 
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Wow… That’s all I can say. We brought these kids in the world if their not ready and not mature enough then it’s our fault. It’s our job to form and make them into good human beings. I will say I will never kick my daughter out no matter how hard life is for everyone else God knows she didn’t ask to be created! Our job isn’t over just because they are 18!
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Or you could just be a parent.
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I agree with everyone, start charging her, at some point you have to cut her off…
So child acts out and you want to kick her out. So there is no hope for the child you raised? Says a lot about you as a parent not her as a child.
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That’s crazy 
you just said she couldn’t afford it & she’s still a damn kid. Smh I don’t get some of you parents.
I’m shook at these comments. 
I would talk to your daughter first, get her to understand she is an adult now and can’t be fighting with her little siblings. She has to be an example. I agree on having her help with bills in the house so she can start being responsible 
she is your daughter, you are her safe place. If you don’t help her no one will!!
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I couldn’t kick my child out unless they had an addiction issue etc . She needs to enroll in a junior college or college so she CAN support herself and then move out . As long as she’s in school , I’d let her live at home and she must work , also . She needs to pay for all of her food , drink , car , car insurance and if any left over some rent . Anything would be of help ! And if she’s doing all of this , she will become a productive member of the family and society . Plus , in her spare time she will be too exhausted to cause any problems ! My boys lived at home and went to college but they did all of the above . It went very smoothly . Good luck to you !
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I got along with my siblings but moved out by choice at 17 cause my mom was horrible. I was still in HS and my ex bf supported me. Be glad she feels safe enough to stay home with you and have a real conversation with her.
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Wtf?
Being a parent doesn’t end at 18 years of age
Sounds like you have growing up to do along w this kid. 🤷
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Maybe this is why she acts like she does. She feels unwanted it sounds like she is from here.
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I feel bad for all of your children…just toss them away when it gets a little hard huh? ESPECIALLY when they don’t have a job that pays well AND you admit she’s not mature enough to live on her own. You’re disgusting…
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At that age she definitely needs to go
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Well id start with telling her shes an adult and needs to find a job that she can support herself with and tell her she needs to respect everyone in the house and stop acting childish.when she finds better pay id then give her a timeline to get her own place.or tell her she has to help pay for stuff around your house
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Wow. You sound like a bitch for a mother. How can you kick your child out!! She probably knows she is unwanted!!! How can you throw her to the wolves knowing her job isnt great probably cause she only 18!!! You are disgusting as a pareng.
What kind of parents kicks their kid out at 18? She’s still a KID. Parenthood doesn’t end at 18. Fresh out of high school you expect her to be ready? I think she needs new parents. Jesus.
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Wow, I feel bad for your daughter.
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Damnnnnnn…poor kid lol. Just tossing her to he streets!? She needs a firm foundation before you do that. Please ensure she’s well grounded first. Is she the one causing the issues or are all the kids to blame? I’d be one thing if she made your home hell by herself, but it’s another if they’re literally being siblings. That shit doesn’t stop just bc one turns 18 
“Let me kick my daughter out because my parenting responsibilities stop at 18”
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My friend is in her 70ies she can’t even get her unemployed 54 years old son to move out.
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She’s just a baby still. Please do not try to send her out into this world too early, it will chew her up and spit her out Ma’am.
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Set rules and responsibilities. Give her one year charge her a bit of money but put it in a savings so when it’s time for her to move out u can give her it back. My mom did the same I wasn’t 18 but I was scared to move out alone I got a roommate so I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable living alone. Having the money made me feel safe
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Repeat after me…“you have x amount of days to find a new place to live”.
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Time to set strict ground rules and treat her like a roommate. Start charging her rent, utilities, and have her do her own grocery shopping/cooking, etc. Once you’ve collected enough rent to put a deposit down on an apartment, give her notice to move out and when she find a place give her the “rent” she was paying you for her deposit. If she’s disrupting the household and fighting with her younger siblings then it sounds like it’s time for her to get on her own feet. It will teach her to appreciate how easy she has it living at home.
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Good parents put their kids first, this is sickening. She’s not 30 living in your basement.
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You’re gunna miss these days…
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I’ve been on my own since 15yrs old. I would never kick my kids out like that but they also know they have to go to college and I will fully support them. If she’s acting out like that its obvious she has some behavioral issues. Maybe counseling
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Look for income based.
Wow 
my daughter will be 18 nxt week she is the oldest of 4 kids and i could nvr imagine kicking her out. Just bc your considered " legal" at 18 doesn’t mean your ready to live on your own. Try sitting down and talking to her maybe set some rules
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Wow that’s sad it really is. Why dont you be a parent and parent her.
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If u want her to move out that bad start paying her rent and bills you already said that with her job she wouldn’t be able to support herself so your just setting her up to fail
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Sounds like I’m not alone in completely understanding why she behaves the way she does. She has you as a parent. Great job being a failure as a mother! You’ve let her down by not nurturing her & helping her grow into a happy, well adjusted, strong, confident young lady. THAT was your job. Your ONLY job. To parent your child, to love her, support her and give her ALL the tools she needs to survive in this horrendous big bad world.
You, mama, are the problem, not her.
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YIKES 
If you’re unsure of her capabilities as an 18 year old then that’s a failure on your part. And you’re still failing her by trying to discard her because life is hard. She’s trying to find herself and her independence and tossing her out in the street without the proper tools to fend for herself is something you will regret later in life.
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Around 18 or 19, my father told me it was time for me to start looking for my own place. He wasn’t kicking me out. He was teaching me adulthood. He helped me research places to live, figure out what I could afford, helped me understand all that I’d have to pay for. Maybe approach it that way. Walk her through each adult decision and help her. If she finds she needs a better job or 2nd job, help her find that too. Don’t rush it, but keep the momentum going.
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Teach her how? Like save money enough to furnish and get supplies and food… if she has friends she could get a room mate? Split it half way ? Lead her so she doesn’t fail do you have her pay anything right now? That may be a good start ( if you don’t need the money you could save it for her?)
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Y’all forget she’s an adult at 18 and her parents aren’t REQUIRED to literally provide for her hand and foot.
I’d sit and talk with her, explain she needs to either grow up and change her behavior towards her siblings or she has to move out.
So many of you are terrible parents it seems like. Raising spoiler rotten entitled assholes who believe everything should cater to them. Absolutely not. Real world, real consequences. Thankfully this parent isn’t just kicking her out, she’s telling her she needs to move out.
I hope she never talks to you again and honestly if I knew who you were I would show her this 
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U dont have to kick her out just make her understand if shes not going to college she has to help pay rent etc help out wash clothes etc all part of going up parenting dont stop at 18 but making them more responsible does or they will be lazy and u will have them forever and be there maid.
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Treat her like a room mate pay the rent pay for her room cable internet. Tell her its on a month to month bases only. You are to come here be in your area thats all…but be prepared for what can follow
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First off, I think you are looking at it wrong. She’s your child. You talk about her like she’s a burden. If she is acting a certain way, address that behavior. It’s not time for her to move out, it’s time for you (her mother) to teach her responsibility so she can move out one day. Also, picking on siblings is normal… i am 30, the youngest, and all of my brothers & sisters still pick on me… family get togethers are fun because of it. If she’s crossing a line, then discuss it with her. Set some basic rules and expectations for her and have a conversation with her.
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Wow. Maybe support her with her problems so she feels happier. Maybe she won’t hold resentment for the rest of the household then.
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Is she financially responsible? Its hard right now, maybe she can pay you.
Total money makeover has some help to give her some confidence in money.
If she’s acting out, maybe there’s something going on in her life. Or maybe she feels left out because you favor the others. Be a parent, sit down and have a chat with her rather then throw her onto the streets.
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I would tell her that she needs to get a better job or a second job and start saving for a place of her own. Give her a timeline/move out date. She’s almost 19 and needs to start doing these things anyways if she’s going to live in the real world. She’s not a baby or kid anymore like others are trying to say.
I personally wouldn’t kick my kids out at that age but I don’t know your situation. It could be a toxic one for all we know. But I would definitely have my kids start being responsible and start saving for their own place.
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Your her mother my mother kicked me out at 18 because of my sister…never forgave her I’m now 33 and still to this day don’t talk to her make it work .
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Help her save money. Create a contract that shows how much money it takes to live on your own and start charging that. The money is put away in an envelope and after a year given back to her and she will have plenty of money to move out. Also expect her to follow rules. It is completely acceptable for her to have follow the house rules you set. She is an adult and any time she doesn’t want to live by those rules she is welcome to pack her belongings and live life on her own. Just as you are an adult and continue to feed and care for her she can be expected to act like an adult and respect the house that cares for her.
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You’re probably making her feel unwanted. How about you treat all of your children equally. You’re not going to like when you grow old and she doesn’t want to help you because you kicked her out.
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Well my mom told me that she would charge me rent if I worked, or if I went to college I could stay rent free.
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Lol wow. Thank god you aren’t my mom! I would be so lost without mine. Just like above are saying just because they make it to 18, doesn’t mean they’re ready to leave the nest. She probably is acting out because she has realized that you are no longer offering her guidance. I just turned 21 yesterday and still live at home and will be for the next year+ with my newborn because I will need her help to show me how it’s done lol.
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If you are going to “put” her out, set her up for success. My oldest was acting out and flat out said her business wasn’t ours. So, we helped her get her own business. We paid a full months rent, even though she moved in mid month. We also paid the initial fees. I also bought items she needed for a home, as well as gave her furniture. She also grocery shops either in our home or I take her and purchase the food and does her laundry at home. So, putting a child out doesn’t mean you completely give up on them, as so many here assume. And it certainly doesn’t make you a bad parent.
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If she’s anything like mine was, HELP THEM find a place, mine went into housing and may not be ok for others but it was extremely hard for my whole house for them to be here! He’s still jobless and does nothing with his life…: soo just tell her it’s time to go and look into alternative places… good luck it’s hard
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For my children…they will always have a home…NEVER would I make my children move if I know for a fact they wouldn’t make it on their own…regardless of the situation 
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Maybe she is bored. She is done highschool and working a job that does not pay great. Why not encourage her to go to college? Explore her interests? Maybe save some cash and travel with friends. Just because she is 18 does not make her an adult. She needs love and support and some guidance to help find herself.
Have you tried talking to her like she is an adult? It is amazing the results you can achieve when you just talk to a person like they are on your level.
You can also discuss paying some kind of rent. My mom charged me $100 a week to live there all inclusive. I got paid biweekly so I gave her $200 a pay. The deal was if I’m working and living at home I needed to pay rent. If I was going to school, I could live there for free. I moved out for college but it still taught me the value of a dollar.
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She doesn’t have to move out just sit and have a talk with her let her know that she still has to help out around the house and help with some of the bills and food
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I’m sure with a mother like you, she’s already planning it. Wtf
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Damn i may be a strict mom but your nuts. There may be an underlying cause for the behavior. Tell your other children to leave her alone. And i agree with everyone about the rent thing. You are not being responsible. In this time of pandemic how could you even think of throwing her out.
Make her pay rent and give her more responsibilities she’ll leave
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Sounds like a lack of support, guidance and parenting. You don’t just throw your kid away.
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Wow, my son is 20 and I’m no where ready to kick him out. No wonder some people ignore their parents later in life.
You need to sit down and have a talk with her, and find out why she’s not getting along with her siblings. Maybe some ground rules. But kicking her out when she obviously isn’t ready is setting her up for failure. Your job as her mom isn’t done when she turned 18.
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Wow glad your not my mom
My kids will forever have a home.
As long as I’m living they will have a home to come back to
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Wow some of these comments are nasty!! I mean really? As a parent you want to do anything and everything for your children it’s not your fault they don’t appreciate the love and support you give them !! We live in different times when it’s not easy to set yourself up especially these days x don’t be to hard on yourself she’s an adult try the basic sit down and talk openly and with love you never know 
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teach home economics an finance that helps bunches
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So many entitled women here 
your daughter needs to grow up. You and your family members are not required to stay miserable because she can’t get her act together.
It is also not your job to do everything for her. She needs to find a better job, she needs to find somewhere to live.
If she wants to stay she needs to get it together.
She will never go anywhere in life with mommy doing everything for her like everyone here is suggesting.
Y’all want her to go to the interviews too?
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If she wants to play by her own rules she has to act like an adult then. Settle on some rules and a rent agreement… as long as she’s respectful to everyone in the house and pays her bills on time she can live her life as she pleases… give her some independence while teaching her some literacy with her finances and help prepare her for being on her own. Maybe she’s scared and feeling like she’s in the deep end without a life jacket… toss her one, bet it helps with your relationship too
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Let me just say this. As parents it is your responsibility to prepare your children for life. Teach them respect, responsibility, and what is and is not tolerated in your home. Teach them how to do their laundry, and other house duties. That goes for boys and girls. They need these and other skills to exist in the world. Sending or kicking your child out of their home without preparation speaks to your parenting, not the child.
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Don’t quit on her. Sit with her and try talking. Not yelling. Don’t get defensive and let her words be safe with you.
You don’t need to kick her out- that will only make her relationship with all of you WORSE. Set boundaries and discuss ramifications if they are crossed. She may be 18, but she is still under your roof.
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Talk to her? Find a solution
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My parents gave us a choice at 15 to work or play sports. My sister and I chose work. By 18 we were out the house (not kicked out)and 10 years later still on our own.
She (your daughter) already has a job make her pay a bill, put some responsibility on her and tell her there will be consequences if not done or taking seriously! Stick to the plan BUT PLEASE don’t send her out into the real world unprepared
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I was kicked out at a young age its not gonna sort your problems at all if anything will only make them worse for me getting kicked outhm i was young by my mum made me depressed suicidal etc… just because its hard isnt a reason to kick her out espesicly when you said she won’t be able to afford it an struggle. i got kicked out at 15 with no way to support myself pretty much to live on st. Please dont kick your daughter out be a fucking parent that you agreed to be when you had her be there. Most probably there is underlying cause for her behaviour. Way to make her feel wanted
Sad really sad 
I could never kick my child out I would try and teach her how to be grown up but to kick my child out he’ll no I don’t know how anyone can do that
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And mom of the year does not go to you
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She is still a child, your child… why would you push her out of the house at 18-19, my self and my brother lived at home till we were 22 and 24. I would never push my kids out into the world until I knew they where set up to do so.
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I dont know your full situation, no one on here that doesnt know you personally does. But to say your oldest living with you is too much of a problem for you because she argues with her siblings is shocking. Siblings fight. Families fight. You just said she doesnt have that great of a job. Instead of making her struggle and possibly beg to come back home, have her pay rent and remind her that even though she is 18, it is still your house so your rules and if she doesnt like it then she can choose to leave. If she chooses to move out then that’s on her but at least she still knows home is with you if she ever really needs it.
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Some of these comments are vicious 
no one has any idea what the situation is like. Maybe she has done everything everyone is suggesting and her last resort is to have her move? Maybe the daughter is too toxic for the rest of the family. There are good parents and bad children. You can want a person to get counseling or help but the person needs to want to do it. You can’t force them. Maybe she does treat all her children equally and she still acts out towards everyone. It doesn’t sound like she’s a bad mom. She doesn’t sound like anything cuz we have no other information to go on. Everyone needs to get off their high horse 
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Damn I feel bad for your kids. I moved out at 17 and wish I hadn’t. The world is a hard place and sounds like you’re setting your kids up for failure
My daughter left and came back with her my granddaughter and son in law
Never to old to be home.
As for fighting with siblings mine do too.
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She’s an adult. Start making her pay rent for a room. She will feel so offended that she’ll move out. You’re welcome
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Wow, mom of the year award.
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Tell her it’s time to pack up and get the fuck out nobody wants her there
She isnt asking for a bashing. Shes looking for a little help. I have a 24 yr old son who moved out at 18 n bought a home at 20 yrs old. I also have a 20 yr old daughter who I want to kick out every other day… so I understand where this mom is coming from. My daughter only has me to argue with though so I couldn’t imagine if she had younger siblings. Just because she wants her to move out doesn’t mean she doesnt love her because I know I love my kids with all my heart but honestly my daughter n I are too much alike n we argue alot so I understand. Just don’t have any answer for you
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People stop judging her, youre not the one living with a problematic person.
If she isn’t able to afford moving out set boundaries and rules. Start by making her pay small bills.
Also maybe she’s not problematic maybe there’s a mental health issue at play.
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Recommend roomates. It is 100% crucial part of learning experience into adulthood.
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My kids will always have a home, no matter how old they are! Yes they will have responsibilities when they are 18 but never could I kick them out. I would rather them be with me til they are 50 if that means they have a roof over their head, food in their belly and clothes on their back.
You had kids, its your responsibility to make sure they are safe the rest of your life, no matter their age.
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Give her a date have her fiend a friend or 2 to share a place. She is an adult and if she is making things not great at home she needs her own place
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What the hell is wrong with you…
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Geez that’s what siblings do no matter the age she is your child you need to help her become a woman and prepare her for the real world a lil late but get started
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