Don’t be that mother, guide her, talk to her to put the efforts in to find a better job, then help her look for housing. Don’t just put your child out into the world cluelessly. My mother kicked me out with no job and let me tell you, it was emotionally heart renching and then with the pressures of trying to navigate the real world was terrifying. The worst of it all, my brother was on drugs and getting in trouble with the police, yet she never once kicked him out. I wish I had the opportunity that mostly all my friends had, being able to stay home and finish college. I had to worry about working to have a place to live, which delayed my career. Don’t f* have children just for the fun years! It is a life commitment. Don’t just throw them to the damn wolves. Mothers like that are disgusting to me. Yet we want to only talk about dead beat dads. This isn’t towards the mother that posted this, this is a general thought based on my experiences.
I couldn’t imagine feeling this way. My youngest is 20, moved out a month after graduating with his gf (who also lived with us) . It broke my heart even though he lives 5 minutes away.
Here is the reality. He and his gf make decent money, especially for as young as they are. They bring in close to 3k. They live paycheck to paycheck. Thats with 2 full time incomes.
My daughter who is a single mom still lives with us. She works full-time and there is no way she could afford her place on her own. This world is not set up for a young single person to make it it.
My daughter who is 22 pays rent and helps with groceries, pays her own auto insurance and cell phone plus her own personal bills.
I have 4 young adult children my home is always their home, no questions asked. Let me tell you how hard it is hardly seeing them now because they are grown with their own lives, its heartbreaking. Cherish it while you can!!
And fyi my kids use to battle like they were in the wwe and drive each other insane. Id take those days back anytime over what i have today.
The fact that you’d push her out when she is only just shy of 19 is really upsetting to me. Siblings fight, deal with it. You’re her mother, set some boundaries & have her pay some rent/bills etc…but do not force her to the streets when she doesn’t even have a home to move to or a good enough job. You’re setting her up for failure when you should stand by her side, guide her, & teach her responsibility. From a mom to another mom, grow up & take on the role that you chose, HER MOTHER.
So glad you aren’t my mom.
You judgemental assholes have ZERO idea of what living with this girl is like. Get your heads outta of your asses
She doesn’t. At 18 they aren’t ready to move out. 
Siblings fight 
Shouldn’t have had kids if you thought the “move out” cut off age was 18 and not teach them responsibility.
I don’t feel bad for you at all.
Give her some bills
Give her real consequences
Pay for her to live somewhere else
Life is hard. Kids are hard. Deal with it.
You all are assuming this person is just going to throw thier child out. She asked for our help in how to move towards this, not out judgement. Your all assuming she hasn’t tried alternative solutions like talking. Give her a break this can’t be an easy thing. I agree with the charging rent and utilities that you save for her. Teach her what it will be like on the outside. Set roommate rules and grounds for eviction(consequences). Help her look for a better job and explain that as an adult if she can’t meet her obligations she will have to find a second job. Try and point out how her behavior affects the entire house and that you don’t want the younger children to learn these behaviors from her. Also remind her that this is your home and although you love her and will help her you also have rules that need to be followed for the sake of every one in the house. You will not have the younger children in an unhealthy environment due to her behavior!
So have you talked to her about fighting. Siblings do that.
Wow, I can’t imagine thinking this was ok to post 
She’s 18 not 30 and you even admit isn’t mature enough to be on her own but she’s an inconvenience for you so you want her to move out I hope she finds a place to go you’re toxic
Shoot, we’ve had 3 adult children move back home. One of them with children. One of them several different times.
Our kids all have a key to our home. They come and go at will. We are never done parenting. I hope you will be able to fix this not only for her, but you as well.
WOW. My daughter is 17 and fights with her siblings all the time. That’s what they do. I couldn’t imagine kicking her out. I wouldn’t charge her rent either what is that gonna do? She will still argue w her siblings. 
You gotta what gotta do best for everyone’s…me and my mom were exmtely toxic each another so I moved out on when I was 15 old I made my own choice she didnt want me move out but she understands so…just have sit down an talk to her!..and those comments people are ridiculous probably wont understand how toxic is bad for people each another out there
I hope you know its not easy for kids to move out housing tush don’t help with housing and private rent is so much money . then its bills and food . not nice things to do . my mum did that too me . I will only stay with her couple of day I will not move back in and she’s wants me back and says I make a mistake . xo think first .
Wow… you don’t kick out your own kid… you can talk to her and help prepare her for life… but expecting her to move out if her job probably can’t even support her? Do you want her to live on the street.?
Wow … my daughter can stay with me till she is how ever old . My daughter is nearly 18 and no way would I throw her out even though her and her brother fight like mad thats what siblings do . Your daughter can come stay with us lol
Utterly disgraceful i could never ever feel like this towards my child ever
So the siblings are completely innocent when it comes to the fighting? Its your oldest who starts everything? Stop picking favorites, grow up, & take on the role of a mom which you chose. Setting your own child up for failure is sick.
I mean i lived at home till 24… im sorry. We fought all the time 3 girls. My dad hes a saint. He would call each one and settle the dispute while working.
Ps. We still all fight and we all live differently. Guess who disputes all of our issues our dad.
At 18 where is she going to go? Especially if her job isn’t great? and you aren’t sure if she’s able to live on her own. I can tell you what that’s going to do- it’s going to lead her into 1) the arms of a man 2) being homeless or 3) resenting you for the rest of her life. Or all of the above. I moved out at 18 on my own. I am now 21 and if I ever need anywhere to go my parents door is wide open.
Set boundaries and rules in your house. Communicate with your daughter. 18 is too small to do grow up things like move out.
Omg!!!
Are you her mom?
I can’t begin to imagine how would it be if my mom would have kicked me out right after high school!
Hopefully you have other kids to take care of you when you are old and helpless.
Find Out why she is so upset and fighting with her siblings. There is always a reason. Moms do not stop being a Mom just because they turn 18, you signed up for that for life. Do what a Mom should and get to root of the problem. Help set your child up for success not failure and kicking her out would be exactly that, failure!! WTF?!?!
Honestly I think she should move out help her of course find a place etc but she’s 18 now she’ll be fine and if it really does not work out let her come home
Just remeber. There will be a day that she desperately needs you and you are dead. How about while your still around you help, teach, And guide.
You sound like best mom in the world
Tell her she has to find a place of her own .if she is out of school and can’t behave then why should you live with it .touch is great to many people just wAnt to baby there kids
Well this is absolutely disgusting.
My parents started charging me rent. Made me move out real fast when I found out apartments were cheaper then what they were charging me.
My son told me some of his friend’s parents were like this but I didn’t believe him. Who would toss their teenager out because of a date on a calendar? I guess I owe him an apology.
Does she have a grandma or other relatives she could stay with. Let her know if she can’t stop causing drama that the only other option is moving out.
Being a parent is a LIFETIME JOB. Get with the program. Hope when you’re old & helpless someone is there for you, karmas a b****.
Right now it would be extremely difficult with covid. Is it normal fighting or is she being abusive towards them? The minor children should be able to finish growing up in an abusive free home. If it’s regular sibling squabbles then you need to sit everyone down and have a chat and a reminder of the family rules. I think you should separately have a talk with her about her future. If your paying her bills I think you guys should be on the same page if the book at a min.
My mom (single parent) never made me move out but my brother and I also didn’t fight constantly. But once I turned 16 I had my own car. My mom gave me $20 a week towards gas to take myself and my brother to and from school. I was responsible for extra gas if I wanted to go places, and my cell phone bill. I had a job and I paid for my own clothes, food if I wanted to eat out etc. She wasn’t being mean she was teaching me responsibilities for when I did decide to move out. If I didn’t have the money for something she would loan me the money but when payday came around I would have to pay her back first before anything else.
Start preparing her properly for when she leaves home, don’t kick her out, but give her an ultimatum, that she can stay if she keeps the peace if she doesnt give her a 3 strike rule, just because it’s your home doesnt mean it’s not hers too…
Have her pay rent an set rules as if she’s a tenant 
my mom out her hand out for rent the month after I turned 18 (even when I was going to school) need to start preparing her for the real world.
Wow 
I want my kids to live with me forever. I don’t even want to think of the day they say “ I’m moving out “ How about some guidance and help for your daughter and while you’re at it , you clearly need some help too.
My kids fight all the time…thought that was part of having multiple kids
My 18 yr old moved out from small town TX to Austin Tx. I’m scared for her everyday! My 23 yr old & her 2 kids (my gbabies) live with me. Its chaotic but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I was looking at being a single empty nester instead I got my 2 grandbabies 12 months apart. I would give anything to have my youngest back home.
What wrong with 18 old girl .I live with my brother in law who is 32years old.not even planning to move out mind you he is working an earns good money.
I think she needs to move out and never talk to you again. Honestly.
What kind of mom are you?
“I know her job isn’t great but she doesn’t get along with her siblings?!”
Who gets along with their siblings?
Get over yourself 
“Help my adult child is annoying and I want her out even though her job is terrible and she won’t be able to support herself but because she’s a hindrance to my other kids and myself I still want her out”
Have her start paying rent and buying household items. This will teach her responsibility. Help her look for a better job and most of all believe in her and respect her.
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You talk to her… being friendly, n you shoulx find out the source of the problem dnt run away from it you are the mother here… maybe she is stubborn n not listening for some reason n u cnt figure out… being a mother u are also human not God… so keep calm talk to her… ask her questions…
Covid has made things hard on families and you want your 18yr daughter to move out bc she is 18 and fights like normal with her siblings?! Dfaq. Its not toxic if its normal sibling fights but you sure as hell seem toxic. Parenting doesn’t stop when they are 18 
Yes some parents charge rent or utilities to SAVE FOR THEIR CHILD, but I have seen so many say that and blow the money leaving their child with nothing. Be a parent, take parenting classes. I’m sure she doesn’t start every fight.
Wow ace parenting why don’t you move out i think you’re the problem not you’re kids
Good Conversation is a good thing…
Start setting her up with the tools so she can move out. Start a savings account and explain budgeting & how to run her house, help her line up a good job and an apartment that’s good. If you really want her out you need to give her tips. I would start with telling her pieces of her check are coming out to help with bills, google in your area what bills look like for a single person in a 1 bedroom and what she’s paying you towards “rent” put it into a secret savings account so that when she is ready you can give it to her.
Seriously though, as is at 18 I’m sure she is capable of living on her own it’s just time to give her the skills
She’s probably acting out towards her younger siblings because she knows you would rather protect them, not her. HELP HER!!! She feels less-than.
No school, no free board. That was the rules in our house and will be in mine too.
If she is immature and not prepared to live in her own, that’s your fault. It’s your job to prepare them for that. It’s also your house and your still the freaking parent although it sounds like you dont wanna be, so set some rules and end the the fighting. Jeez, everything about this post irritated me. You dont just kick your kid out and stop being a parent cause they are 18 now. You should have already started preparing your kid to live own their own. And fighting between siblings is normal but also something that you should have been dealing with and punishing for awhile. Just be her parent for fox sake.
Yikes. Just a reminder there is a pandemic and renting is kinda hard at the moment.
Have a conversation with her about boundaries and her behavior. She is 18. Unless she is getting violent or using drugs, it sounds like she needs to grow up a bit before you make her move out. Maybe start charging her rent to prepare her for living on her own.
I guess for one is why is she always fighting with her siblings? Maybe if you can in the house give her her own space, since I assume she is not going to college or a trade school(that is ok) have her pay rent to you. Divide utilities in the number of people living in the household have her pay that portion. So for utilities water, gas, electric, cable internet etc for a family of 5 she pays 20%. This way she will learn to be responsible for paying living expenses. Help her figure out what she wants to do and guide her there. Come up with a list of rules that are not restrictive such as what time do you plan to be home? Other rules that one would consider out courtesy. Start letting her have control over her life, let her come and go as needed but in a safe way that allows her to spread those wings.
Their needs to be more classes at school and parents need to prepare kids to be on their own, get jobs, pay rent, help with dinner and cleaning.
Wow your something else, i would love for my kids 18 or older to stay with me, thats a blessing man! Guess you dont know your blessings!!
Maybe create like a loving environment for her to be around , mayb have a chat with her about her behaviour and the way she treats everyone under your roof . That’s still ur baby no matter how u look at it . There’s some other things u can do to make living arrangements easier but throwing her out at a time like this is not the answer . Children feel when they are not wanted . U create that atmosphere. Please continue to be her mother. No1 wants that out there in society.
That’s fucked up. She’s literally just out of highschool.
If you want her to mature she must experience some independance , you can start by handing it to her in increments rather than all at once.
Put a shed in your back yard and fix it up to a little apartment for her
While she is at work go into her room haphazardly toss all her shit into garbage bags, set them outside and then change the locks…boom just like that child evicted and you dont have to worry about it being too hard for you having YOUR CHILD live in your home. I feel so sorry for your children…just wait one day you will need them and they will toss you into an old people home and never look back.
Make her pay you rent and part of the Bill’s and buy her own food. She might get mad and move out anyways. Then come back with more respect for you and her family. And when she does come back she can help pay for herself. My mom did that to me and I mo ed out out of spite came back and helped out. Got a better job and manned up
Then teach her how to be an adult, thats your damn job!!! This post is sickening.
I understand were you are coming from start with trying to find her a better job
What do you want the answer to be?? Kick her out on the streets so you can relax? Maybe find the issue of them all fighting? How can she be lovable to them if your actions are to kick her out?
I would never make my children move out especially in today’s world I would love mine as long as God let me under my roof and as far as siblings, they react to conversations they hear. I would have a heart to heart discussion with all my children together and hope they listen and make more effort to get along. never could understand a parent making a child move out at a certain time love and support have no time limit 
Set boundaries. Let her know what you expect (such as respect for sibs and parents) and ask what she expects in return. Then discuss her plans for the future. What are her timelines? Many kids these days have no idea what its like to get an apartment, pay utilities, parking etc. This can be an opportunity for her to start seeing what its like to be an adult. A life coach may be a good idea.
Set boundries. She is still under your roof therfore should follow your household rules. If she doesn’t then there are consequences. She should not to fighting with her siblings. She should be helping with household chores. Make her pay rent to you (keep it in a separate account and give it to her when she does move out so she’ll have money for household items)
With the way this world is I would never ask them to move out
Help ur daughter don’t condem her to the streets that’s not what u want for her be a parent
I’m SO thankful my parents were nothing like you. Should probably text them and thank them again right now.
So her job isn’t great and you don’t think shes mature enough to live on her own but yet you want her out 
what kind of parent wants to make their 18 year old move out? What kind of fights is she having with her siblings? Is she physically hurting them? How old are the siblings? You gave such a vague back story that you must have known what kind of response you were going to get.
I was told at 18 I either had to work full time and help pay bills or go to school full time. I had to do something and have a plan. Sit her down, have a conversation about her being an adult. Help her get out there on her own. If she doesnt want to move out then, a job and helping with bills or “renting her room” from you is an option.
I totally understand and feel you on this! Mine is 17, almost 18, and we are in the middle of possibly sending her 3 hours away for her senior year (to her dads) because the drama is just too much. I have a younger teen and a toddler to deal with as well and her behavior affects everyone in this house.
My suggestion for your situation would be to treat her like an adult. Sit her down and give her a lease. If you don’t want money from her, make her payment into rules she has to adhere to instead. Make it clear that she’s an adult. It’s choice to follow your rules or to go out on her own and not have your rules but have to financially support herself. Have a list ready that shows average rent/utilities in your area and a run down showing what she makes to go with it.
First of all ignore all of the negative comments, they aren’t living your life. Some people are just a certain way and it doesn’t work out. When my older brother was 18 he HAD to go. We were really little and he was HORRIBLE. Sometimes your sanity is more important because you have to be able to provide for the other children in the house.
Have her start paying “rent” and set it aside for her own place. Make her pay her own phone bill, she doesn’t pay it she doesn’t have a phone. Set up rules that need to be followed. She’s still your child, but you also have to protect your other children as well. Once enough is set up for at least 4-6 months rent/utilities, help her find a place. Help her set up a monthly budget, help her learn to stick to that budget. Then help move her into that place.
Yes she’s an adult, but some kids need to learn the hard way. You can still help her, and teach her to be functional.
Is she in college? She can move into a dorm on campus. Or tell her to get some of her friends together and rent a place. The summer after high-school graduation is my cut off. The sooner they start taking baby steps into the real world, the better. I suggest helping her along the way tho (maybe provide a deposit, help pay for college expenses, set a budget up with her). Don’t do it all but she has to learn while still feeling like she has a safety net.
It is very hard for Any 18 year old to love on their own. Do you want her to live on the streets.
Kids fight it happens why kick her out because of it wtf
how about you be a mother and take care of your child. you wanna kick her out even though you feel shes not mature enough…you’re a sad excuse for a mother then…shes prob better off without you
18 is not some magic age where kids are prepared to move out and be on their own. Some need more time assistance and guidance. Let her stay.
I am 25 married with 2 toddlers and still live with my parents because we cant make it on our own. My husband works i stay home with the kids because if i get a job most of my check will go towards daycare. We help them pay rent and the utilities, pay for our own food, pay our own car payment our own car insurance our phone bill and whatever else we need. We even help them out with their bills when the need it thats what a family is, there for support of each other. Sit down have a talk with her its time for her to be an adult but if she isnt financially ready to be on her own then have her show responsibility and pay half rent and utilities.
You need to give her the tools to be an adult. Ideally, you should have already been doing that. It’s your job as a parent to teach your children the skills they need to live on their own.
Start by charging her rent to live in your house. Set down house rules/expectations of living with other people (your younger kids need to know this too). Teach her how to handle her finances, budget, and start saving. Help her look for a better job (I realize we are in the middle of a pandemic and this may not happen right away).
You sound like my mother.
And now I or my children have no contact with her at all, and will never again.
Man when I read the first sentence I was thinking she was going to be 26 or 27 and refusing to leave but 18. How about start with charging her rent? Teaching what it’s like to be an adult. I’m all for people standing on their own two feet but to kick her out just for fighting with her siblings…in the middle of a pandemic when the likelihood of her even being about to rent something is low.
My youngest is 18 and he is still at home, he works every day, he helps me, and is a wonderful kid. I’d never “kick him out” he’s free to leave when he’s ready to leave, and I’ll always be here for him if he needs me, this goes for my oldest too who’s been on his own for a few years now. I’ll always be their Mama no matter how old they get and they’ll always be my babies!
Get her a little shed house on you’re property and “charge” her rent.
I feel bad for your kids.
Military is a great option!!
Honestly she’s not grown yet! All my kids are successfully. And independent but at 18/19, had no clue where they would land! Hang in Mom! Your not done yet! 
Dude she just graduated highschool is she going to college? You’re not nearly done yet, mom
Shes 18… Read that again 8TEEN… Of course shes not mature enough nor stable enough to move out. Do you know her annual income? Do you know her credit score? ALL THIS MATTERS IN THE REAL FUCKING WORLD ITS NOT LIKE OPENING A CAN OF PEACHES.
What the hell??? You are her mother! Take control e teach her the way to coexist with her family. I dont understand why you think that kicking your 18 year old out of the house is 
Start charging her rent, save the money that you have charged and then put it on a one bedroom apartment that you know she can afford. Move all of her stuff while she is at work/ school and then when she gets back, hand her the key and the address to the new place and say come visit us anytime.
Do you realy want her out or do you just want her to straighten up. That’s the question. If she straighten up can she stay. If that’s the case, set some rules, let her no who runs things. Remind she is a adult now. So act like it. And she dont like it she can leave. And give her some responsibility and bills. help her get a better job.im not being mean but you as the parent ,your supose to teach her this, prepare her to live on her own. So she knows that nothing is going to be handed to her. She’s gotta work hard for what she wants and it’s time to be an adult. And if she wants to make her own rules she needs to get her own place.
Wow. I feel sorry for your kids.
I wouldn’t ask her to move out I’d try keep her at home, maybe ask her to go further with her education or get a trainee ship… Do you have a back garden if you do maybe get something done for her out there so she has her own space but still lives in the family home… She could contribute to this via her wages if further education isnt an option for her… there could be a million reasons why it isnt working I wouldnt go kicking her to the curb until you’ve tried alternatives x
So you want to kick her out for fighting with her siblings. That’s normal hell I’m 33 still fight with mine smh.
I can’t imagine my parents wanting me out I was still a baby even though I had my own daughter very young I’m so grateful they always welcomed us! And I know if I needed to go back home for whatever reason they would take myself and my 5 babies in a heartbeat!
Many ignorant comments on here! Give her an ultimatum, learn to get along with everyone or she can find a place. But before she decides, make sure she understands what it costs to move out.