Charge her a certain amount for rent.shes an adult she can Contribute. Plus that teaches her independence so one day she can get her own place.
I would never tell my child you have to move out. She only 18 years old glad you are not my mother
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Setting rules and boundaries are key. Help her learn those now and that will help with the maturity and being self sufficient. Paying for some groceries , cell phone, etc… good luck!!
Well at the age of 18 you are no longer responsible for her. So what you can do is sit down with her and help her plan out a safe way to help her find another place to live. If she is on your lease you’ll have to take her to court to have her taken off your lease legally. In this case contact a layer or courts to find out what your state laws are regarding eviction of an adult child! I’d try supporting the child and planning a safe method of them moving out to avoid any hardship on your relationship with her! Also remember that there’s a pandemic going on so not many landlords are renting out!
I agree that 18 is very young and not mature enough.
Try setting some ground rules and re train her !
Well I would make her pay you a portion of what she does make, I would give her chores that an adult in the house would have and, I would continue a curfew. Follow the rules of the house or move elsewhere.
For all the people claiming “I’d never kick my child out!”, you have obviously never been put in a situation where you had to! When bad behavior, being a bad influence to younger siblings and drugs become too much to handle, you do what’s best for all! Enabling it all by letting it continue in the home is more destructive than kicking them out!
If you have t figured it out yet, been there done it! It’s not easy AT ALL! But when they become an adult they have to make decisions on there own. And if they choose to make bad decisions you can only do so much to help. But you can’t let it destroy you and the rest of your family letting it happen in your own home!
Praying that there is a solution without having to kick her out. Wish it didn’t come to that with me.
I always tell mine, when you are 18, graduated high school, you either go to college, join the military or get a full time job to live in my home and they will be responsible for one bill.
They learn quickly once they are on their own , however, its not so safe out there! How big is your house or do you hAve an outer bldg???
You should be glad she home for a little longer. Less to worried about. This way you know where she is and what she’s doing.
I can’t just throw her out she’s your child. I have a 30-year-old and a 26-year-old still living with me my 28-year-old is out on her own and it kills me because she struggles every day to make ends meet. Enjoy your while she’s still there because one day she might go and never come back. She’s your baby just like her siblings are your babies they fight now they’re going to fight whenever there’s children to have her move out is just cold she should mean as much to you as your other children fights or not.
Never kick your kids out before 20 no matter if you’re having problems unless it’s for safety reasons. Set rules and maybe set a cost of living
18 is too young. Have a sit down with her and make her pay a bill. Help her save do she can get her own soon. Try enrolling in some online classes!
I’m not saying they should live at home forever but my God ,18 and your already wanting her out. Wow the time will come when your alone with no children and believe me you’ll miss them .
Please allow your daughter to live at home . All things could ruin her life out there keep her safe.
Give her an ultimatum. Straighten your butt up, treat your family nice or move out. No two ways about it. After a few days on her own, she’ll come home with a new attitude.
Sad question…I would give anything for my daughter to still be here that she could live with me … when your child is gone permanently…it will be too late😢
My parents didn’t allow my siblings and I to fight. That’s what a little keen switch around the ankles controlled.
My son is 28 and he just moved out. Not because we made him, because he got a job in another city. With the quarantine and jobs hard to find and money tight, keep them home if you can. And if you don’t think she can make it on her own, why would you want to kick her out. Make her pay rent.
Help her save and plan. Put a time limit on move out date or pick a target date. Or have her join the service which could help her mature a bit and decide what to do. 18 isn’t necessarily (depending on child) old enough to be on her own. You can cripple her emotionally if you don’t help them launch.
Drop her off at the Navy Recruiter’s office, the best thing she can do, support, education, travel, life-long friends and a work ethic that every employer desires!
She is still very young, immature, and naive. Keep her home and start preparing her for moving out.
18, job isn’t great & she’s not mature but you want her to move out? Wow Nice parent 
You might try to have a family meeting and make some house rules for everyone to live by. If it is your house, then you are the boss there, not the children no matter how old they are, period. Hopefully, you’ve been the benevolent boss all along, not allowing the kids to run the household. You need to say that there will be no more sibling fights by any of them. If they can’t get along and be considerate and civil to each other, the offender has to go outside for an hour to cool down and come back in ready to apologize. If the weather is bad they can find a tool shed or car to cool down in. Enforce this rule and don’t tip toe around your 18 year old who is obviously acting like a spoiled 2 year old and very probably doin something bad behind your back. Her conscience is making her so irritable. Been there, seen that.
She is awfully young to be able to afford to live on her own. Have you tried counseling?
Instead of trying to get her to move out; try to get her to alter her attitude
First of all you need to find out what’s going on or what’s not going on in her life, then organize
I hear u mine is 43 moved out twice with lazy fiancée, once his apt. Then they got evicted, couldn’t pay rent in with us both of them rent was never paid on time and amount was never the amount we agreed on, then again after 6 years moved to El Paso she lasted 3 weeks he stayed with momma (his mom) for a year begging to come back with all these promises well dumbass me said ok. Daughter was working doing good buying own stuff ect. He comes back took over guest room as at time he was going to work early, lost that job found another part time again rent never was the $650 this was all he was asked to pay, 2 bedrooms bath and loft in Texas where you get that anywhere, as time went on she quit her job took temporary jobs and then no job again!!! Both are lazy took 3 weeks too get all rooms back in shape. Yes I fill guilty but I was fighting all the time with her disrespectful attitude so a hard lesson needs to be learned ps 43 years old and 56 these are not baby’s
Set up rules and discuss issues. Teach her to adult! She needs a better job or education to get a better job.
Keep her home. Encourage her to go to college. Otherwise, what she has now it is.
52% of young adults live with their parents.
18 is still a child. You don’t kick her out. Maybe she has some problems you should find out about.
Make her start paying you rent. You would be surprised how quickly she will straighten up or move out!!!
Buy her a she shed and put it in the back yard have her live their
Don’t u have to be 21 to sign a lease. Tell her like it is…it is to hard to live with her and the fighting with siblings has to stop or she has to go.
Wow let’s abandon our child as soon as possible. Not ok
Have you prepared her for life on her own? If you have not, you’re setting her up for failure.
Omg, reading this post let me know that I am NOT ALONE. I began charging my now 22yo daughter rent since July 2018. She’s been completely inconsistent and I’ve even changed the amount several times in attempt to be fair. My attempts to be fair have been unsuccessful as her behavior has been DISRESPECTFUL. She’s not helpful around the house in ANY capacity. And she uses her 2 younger brothers to HER advantage (sadly they fall for it each time). Just after her 22nd birthday about 3 weeks ago I informed her what her rent is. That she needs to find her own cell phone plan because come 2/20/21 she will be off my plan. And as of June 1st, 2021 she will need to be in her own place.
Having been on my own since 17 since my parents moved out of state before my Sr. year of high school ended I told myself I wouldn’t ever put my children in a situation like that. Whilst I meant/mean it wholeheartedly I am over the cliff with HER continual disrespect especially since I have two sons watching her behavior.
Do I think that she’s ready? NO. However she won’t ever be ready until she’s on her own. She needs to know/experience what it’s like be solely responsible. As long as I keep pacifying or making accommodations to suit her she will continue her behavior. I’m not saying that she can’t ever return but June 1st she DEFINITELY has to go.
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Your house, your rules. She pays rent. She stops being a pain in the ass. she contributes at least 1 meal a week. She helps with household chores…or…out she goes.
You’re a terrible parent. You have any idea how expensive the outside world is? Let me guess…you’re comfortable and don’t know wtf a struggle is.
I have an 18 year old son who recently graduated and, believe me, I feel your pain!! 18 year olds have it all figured out and ‘have got this’… until they don’t! 
I KNOW it’s very hard to deal with the attitude and emotions that ‘being invincible’ brings- but even with all of the nonsense and ridiculousness that accompanies that 18 year old mind, I thank the Lord every night that my child is safe (and forever loved) under my wing - and His:point_up_2:
. Hang in there, mom… one day your daughter will be ready to spread her wings and fly, and I will pray that you’ll both know when that time is!
Keep her home, and give her more adult responsibilities and freedom to make her own choices.
A little tough love goes a long way. Tell it s time give her few months to get some money saved up, give her date stick to ur gun’s
My daughter moved out at 18, broke my heart. Worst:disappointed_relieved:
day of my life
Help her finance an apt or move a 5th wheel for her
Any child who lives at home regardless of age needs rules. Explain to her she needs to act a certain way or find her own place, but don’t just kick her out. Start charging rent so she realizes how hard it will be in the real world maybe she’ll realize it’s harder than she thinks and start acting right. If she doesn’t then give her a time frame of when you want her out.
Um do your job as a parent and properly prepare her for the world
She’s not ready to move out yet…just because our children turn 18 doesn’t mean we gotta move them out. As parents it’s our duty to make sure they are ready.
that’s too young to expect her to move out !!!
That’s VERY young! Enforce rules.
Ask yourself where would she go if she moves out? Never send your children out in the real world to live on their own if they don’t make enough money. Your daughter will struggle.
I told my kids they never have to move out so idk 
This is how snowflakes are born!
Get her a live in nanny job
She’s to young to move out
Sounds like its time for a long talk.
Children are not disposable
Shape up or ship out, simple
Pack her stuff up and put it outside.
They have low income housing
I think the first thing you might want to do is think about how make sure you were at 18 years old probably not very much mature. I remember when I was 18 and I wanted to get out of the house and I did but I did have bumps in the road and I came through them but to throw her out I couldn’t do that. my daughter is 18 years old and she was going off to college I drove her to the college and as soon as she got out of the car and started walking through the dormitories I wanted to grab her and bring her right back to the car and go back home. There are ways to help her be more responsible she can always walk away if she’s fighting with your siblings she’s the oldest you can just walk out the door and not deal with that come back when she’s cool down. She needs more instruction on responsibility just because she’s 18 chronologically she is not ready for the outside world not this world anyway. Good luck I’m sure things will work out for you all
Wow. Y’all white ppl are so different. Us colored people never charge our kids rent or actually want them to move out. Horrible.
Time to sit her down and explain the situation since she does not seem to be understanding. Some 18 yr olds do not have direction or a future plan. Sometimes adulthood just comes too fast. Still…it is YOUR household and you should be able to live in it without disturbance. Hopefully if you work together, you can set some goals…car, college, better job, getting an apartment. Set the goals in order of importance and with valid timelines. Sometimes young adults need “gentle” guidance and direction. They also need little victories. Just because they are chronologically “adults” doesnt mean they are ready to tackle the world yet. Little steps in the right direction. Good luck.
What if this young immature girl goes out on her own and gets kidnapped by sex traffickers?What if she gets killed?Would it make a life a little easier for you?She is still your child.18 isnt exactly an adult just cause the law saids so.Have a little more love for your child.Teach your other children to respect their older sister that might help.Im sorry but my kids can be in their 50s or more and as long as Im alive if they need me I will always have their backs.
I would give anything to have my child living at home with me. He moved out when he was 19 with an 8 month lease. He said that he wanted to move back home when his lease was up, but never got the chance. He was killed instantly in a car accident. Be careful what you wish for!
Ok. Been there. New rules if you want to continue living here. #1 No conflict with siblings #2 she pays a reasonable rent. Put it in a savings account she doesnt know about to use help her move out later. (Deposits etc) #3 choose chores that are her responsibility #4 establish a curfew. Its your house she should not be able to disrupt family sleeping who have school an work next day #5 if she is driving a vehicle you own that is leverage to ensure compliance #6 encourage her to look at further education to increase income. Online classes, community college, trade schools. There are many that take just 1-2 years to complete. My dtr went to medical assistance school (we paid some she paid some, rest grants an student loans). She went from making 7.50 an hour at CVS to 13.00 an hour. Now makes 16.00. Many trades take a year but double your income. #7 no friends over without permission an only at your convrnience
Hopefully she will go to school so her income will be such that she wont have to move back. Hopefully the rules will make living with parents not so much fun. She will want her own place to get rid of your rules. Good luck.
Charging rent will do it. I charged two of my kids $100.00 a mth each and they also had to buy groceries for the house. They didnt care for that much and it didnt take them long - maybe a few months to move out. You have to give them a little push every now and then. They made the decision - with my help of course. 
. They are all doing great. One left on her own. The other two needed that nudge. Two more to go but not just yet.
Charge a higher rent. If she moves out she has to pay rent so have her pay you.
Wow you are disgusting and horrible for even asking a question like this. Just wow!
Rules dear Lady. Tough love helped me. God guide, bless and protect your home.
Never to old for that.
Good god! Her attitude and behavior is a reflection on your parenting dear. Can’t let them get away with bullshit behavior when they’re little and expect them to change a learned behavior over night. If it were up to my mom she’d have us home till we died! Let me tell you I have 1 sister and 2 brothers and we fought constantly BOY DID WE EVER! I’m talking hair pulling blood spilling teeth knock out fights! Still my mother god bless her she’s have us all at home! She’s never kicked us out cause we were giving her a hard time!!
My eldest just finished high school and leaves for the marines in December I would love it if he stayed with me for ever! But the world is to big and is waiting for him to discover her! God bless my children
Suggest the military