Has it crossed your mind that she might have a problem and is keeping it lo cked inside and doesn’t know how confide in you ??
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This question just makes me sad
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Sad to hear this glad my mom and i had a good relationship
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Start charging rent.
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Recommend she get an apartment with her friends
Your daughter is still a kid trying to figure out her life maybe u should give her some time since u r her mom to help her find her self worth then only will she not need u
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I’m so glad I have a great relationship with my mom. Just because your kid turns 18 doesn’t mean the parenting ends. Maybe communicate with her instead? Like jesus, try telling her where your head is on this.
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Yes she’s definitely old enough to move out, but, you seem concerned about her finances… talk to her and ask her how she’s handling her money, try to help guide her with saving and dividing between bills and possible emergency expenses. Then help her understand it’d be less stressful for everyone if she started looking for her own place make looking fun go with her give opinions. 
hope all goes well! Idk the whole situation so not sure what timeline you’re looking at resolving because my suggestion may take longer than you’re looking for but hope all works out and y’all still have a good relationship
Well i see why theres fights. Seems like you hate her. How about you lovingly make sure shes ready for the world. Did you raise her to be mature, did you raise her to be responsible financially? Or u raised to to kick her out at 18?
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Wow don’t kick her out. Make her pay bills there and have rules in place. COMMUNICATE WITH HER.
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Bunch of assholes and idiots on here. This Mother asked HOW she can get her EIGHTEEN year old to move out. She did not say she was just throwing her out on the street! My mom made me get a job at 16 and pay 50dollars a week for rent, by the time I turned 18 I had my first apartment. I worked at BRAUMS! I don’t think you are wrong in any way for wanting her to move, your concern for her safety is clear to those that have common sense and don’t believe coddling ur adult child is the way to go. Maybe you can talk to her about starting to save money for her own place. If she really does it she can have the money she needs in a couple months. If shes not making enough money for a small apartment or whatever then maybe you can talk to her about getting a better job so she can be more self sufficient. Shes 18 its definitely time to start talking about it, or you’re going to end up like some of these other women that still have almost 30 year old kids living off them.
Know the feeling. But remember they all your kids.
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Truth is being the mom to an adult is much harder.
Sounds like she has the I’m 18 I’ll do what I want attitude.
Remind her she is still in your house and its still your rules. I would help her find a better paying job and start apartment hunting. Maybe if she sees places she will be more willing to move out.
Her picking on the younger ones tells her maturity level. She still has growing up to do.
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Does she pay rent. I still live with my parents. Because rent is too high. I pay my mom for watching my baby, so I can go to work. Even my sister lives with my parents and pay rent. We sometimes still fight and we are both adults.
It sounds like you think she’s the only one that’s causing problems in your house hold… as if your other children arguing back with her lmao aren’t just as much to blame for ur headaches! Being a mom is a life time commitment not just until they’re 18. And that’s really hurtful of u to single her out…
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If you charge her rent you can either use it towards things for the house like food, electric, etc or you could set it aside and when she does decide to move out give her all the rent money back so that she might not struggle for a few months on her own ( but don’t tell her that’s what you are doing or she might count on that money as move out money or plan on having that money when she does move out. Surprise her with it.)
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She is still your child I would never choose one over the other smfh
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My 20yr old still lives @ home with me & his 4 siblings , no longer working atm due to the drop in work , he does go out independentantly to do the odd jobs (maintenance) & that keeps him afloat. I do charge him board , (I do the grocery) shop with I included food in his board as I’m a busy mom & definitely will not tolerate serving 5 different meals at 1 sitting, I cook our meals for US all to sit n enjoy & of course at the end of the month he pays extra for power & internet!!! 3yrs it’s been this way & just last week him & I viewed & applied for a little unit , it’s perfect for him cost isn’t too high & he can’t complain az power is included. Every parent to their own xx
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Make her some house rules. Your house your rules. If she can’t follow them then idk what you can do at 18? You could also help her with a deposit and rent and get her started in her own little studio apartment? You can’t just throw her out though because she legally lives there.
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Could something be bothering her to make her so unpleasant? Maybe some visits to a counselor for her or a family counselor for all of you would be in order.
Otherwise sit down with her, give her a time frame to be out and together create a list of steps toward independence to achieve the goal of moving out.
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Which parent in there right mind would kick one of their own out of their home, how about communicating discussions and compromising hear each others side. No mum dont kick her out be there for each other.
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If i was questioning the maturity level of my 18 yr old i would not be considering making her move out. I would be setting strict ground rules an getting along with her siblings would be one of them. Make her pay you " rent" something reasonable everyweek from her check an put it in a savings account for her for when it is time to move out TEACH HER LIFE SKILLS BEFORE YOU KICK OUT YOUR TEENAGE DAUGHTER. about credit, budgeting, balancing all of life. She is still a Teen OF COURSE SHES GOING TO ARGUE WITH HER MOTHER AN SIBLINGS
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Some of you people are #1 mom shamers and it’s absolutely sick. Quit bashing mothers for asking a question in confidence just because you disagree with the situation. If it has nothing to do with you and you have nothing nice to say then scroll past.
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If you kick them out to early, it’s not going to end well. Everyone moves at their own pace. I didnt move out till I was 21. But I also had separation anxiety.
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I would never kick my daughter out. She has been married then divorced due to an abusive husband her and her 2 children now live with us it’s been over 3 years now and I would never throw her out never
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My 2 boys are still home, 22 and almost 20, I want them to stay until they are ready to move out in all aspects. It can be HARD don’t get me wrong, once they get around 18 they THINK they are grown so sometimes they TRY to get that I’m my own boss but you have to help her realize she ISNT, let her know you DON’T have to deal with the everyday stresses she brings(because I know they do) but it’s tough, you have to show tough love (could be the only thing that helps her get to the point of wanting to support herself and be independent) I feel your pain tho, but I promise waiting and helping her(even if it’s just emotional support during her transition to adult hood) will help her become a strong independent person who will flourish on her own. But don’t let her attitude till then stop you from your and her goals of her leaving the nest set up for success. Tough love works but you have to balance that with love and support
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I would start to teach her fiancés. Make her start to pay you rent but just keep it and give it back to her as saving when she moves. Don’t tell her that’s your plan. It will be a good lesson and your way of saying I love you and helping her. Set some rules for a 6 month time line for her to start to make these changes.
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Did she fight with her siblings before she turned 18? How was it handled then? Honestly becoming an “adult” doesn’t mean you won’t still have disagreements with your siblings. (If there is physical violence involved, that is another thing)
I would set up a “lease” and charge her a set amount per week of rent. My 18yo is going to be coming back from a summer away here soon, and as soon as he findsa job, he will pay 1/4 of his check a week towards bills and what not. The bills didn’t change much while he was gone, so what he pays will go into an account that he can use for getting his own place when he is ready.
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It’s easy tell her to act her age and quit fighting with her siblings and pay some bills or get out
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You can print a 60-day notice and serve her at a family meeting. It might open her eyes. Good luck.
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Wow. Are you really her mother or are you just a terrible parent?
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How about laying down some house rules and making her sign a lease to pay rent or serving her eviction paperwork.
Maybe talk finances with her first before kicking her out making sure she actually has some structure because if she doesn’t have a clue it won’t end well. She needs to be able to pay her bills while feeding herself too. Maybe create a savings fund for her so you take abit of her wages off her each time and put it there and when she’s finally fit enough for a deposit etc actually help her to set up and learn her the ropes.
Set up rules don’t just set her up for failure if she can’t support herself. My son was ready and had a good job and has been on his own for 6 years, til he turned 18. He was my only child and I didnt want him to go but he has never came back other than for dinner and im proud but woukd never kick them out …life is so hard.
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Maybe a middle ground? Did you try talking to her? Siblings fight all the time. Are you being neutral with the fights?
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What siblings don’t fight. All me n my brothers n sisters fight. As well as my own boys. Rules would be the best place to start until she wants to leave n do it on her own n teach her life skills shes going to need them.
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There are a lot of what-ifs in this scenario… it is not ok for one person to terrorize the rest of the family. And it is also not ok to throw your child out without a leg to stand on…
A VERY complicated situation that should be well thought out and handled without wavering
I say pray about it and ask for advice (like you obviously are) and make sure to have a plan of action dont act on your feelings♡
Good luck momma💪
Paying bills in a def first step before considering to kick her out.
Everyone is going to interpret your question differently .
But I look at things in the psychological way.
Either remove the problem or remove yourself (and/or others) from the problem.
Uh she has ONLY graduated “high school” of course her job isn’t great, how do you expect her to pay bills, she should start pay you rent so she can get the idea of responsibility or take one bill off of you and be responsible for it, now if she completed college and university and had a diploma or degree and you wanted to kick her out that’s different she would be an adult and can have a career that she can support herself, sounds more of you trying to get rid of one child, but heck we don’t know her side of the story so who am I to judge
My oldest is 17 and him and his 14 year old sister fight all the time but they know when i tell them to “settle” it ceases. I always try to let them work it out and he knows there’s MAJOR consequences if he puts his hands on her… so it’s usually a yelling match. So, you’re the mama and it’s your house, PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!!!
Omg I don’t know why Americans are so eager for their children to move out of their house and cut of their finances when they are 18. A child is always your child even at 50 and as a mother you are suppose to control them. We stay with our family till when we like to leave or get married and our parents willingly pay all our finances and very few parents allow their children to share the finances they advice you to invest. In Northern Nigeria a Lady doesn’t live her house except she is married and all her expenses are been taken of by them, groceries,skull fees, phone and electricity bills etc. I think that why we respect and love them the more because they care for us and never see us as liability. A real African child will never raise his voice at their parents and will choose them over anyone and that why when they are of age we take care of them too. You invest with your money and buy gifts for them till you leave the house.
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She’s still a child … don’t rush this
Because siblings aren’t getting along you think it’s necessary to kick her out of her home …
This is soooo sad
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She’s an adult for the state but still a child… Set boundaries but please don’t kick her out. She can’t even take care of herself… I hate how some people just wait for their children to turn of age to kick them out. When all i want is for mines to stay with me until they are responsible and stable to make life choices… I couldn’t sleep knowing one of my kids was sleeping in the streets going through God knows what. But that’s just me.
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Technically an adult, but still your child. Please don’t give up on her. Maybe make some time just for you two and talk. Maybe something is bothering her and that’s her way of dealing with the stress. ( Maybe stressing about college, job, what’s next in adult life.)
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I would look into tech schools, junior college housing, financial aid, get her on a path that gives her confidence and direction. What are her passions? What does she like doing?
It’s the parents job to ensure that these kids are ready for the “real world.” That’s being a successful parent. I question whether or not my own daughter will be ready when the time comes because kids all learn at different paces, right? I could never kick her out if I knew she wasn’t prepared. Maybe set some stricter rules at home until she’s ready to be on her own. It doesn’t mean that we’ve failed as parents. It may just take a little longer to teach the life skills that are necessary. Talk to her like an adult and try to solve the problems at home. Good luck
As someone who gave my dad a headache…and still do…
Talk to her. See whats up. Be understanding…but also let her butt know you aren’t playing games. Charge her maybe $75 a month to help cover some of the costs of stuff she uses and gets her butt in gear with helping in the house. If she doesn’t want to do that…then she can spend time trying to get her own spot
I left my kids father after my 2 oldest moved out. He told them once they left he was knocking down walls so they wouldn’t have a room to come home to. So I left with my 2 youngest. I’ve always told my kids they can come home. And I live with my oldest (35) & youngest (24) The other 2 have come home and got back on their feet and are out on their own again
She is your daughter. You allowed her to do these things and get away with it. From the looks of it she was never prepared to be an adult. You need to sit her down and finally parent her like you should have done all these years. She is your baby. She isnt some random stranger. If you know she isnt mature enough to be out on her own then dont do that to her. Help her find a better job. Help her look for an apartment. Teach her how to take care of herself and pay her own Bills. If she isnt paying bills right now, you need to start making her to prepare her for what is about to come. Have her buy her own food, and pay for some Bills. Teach her how to save money so she doesn’t spend it all at one time and end up homeless.
I am teaching my kids that as they grow and they are still young. My 14 year old appears more mature than your daughter but that is cause you failed at parenting her. Set boundaries, have rules and make her abide by them. She apparently has no respect for you or your household but again that is your fault. Be the mom you should have been long before now. Kicking her out is not the answer. You do not want a bad relationship with your child and you do not want her to completely cut you off and disown you.
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You establish adult ground rules. Sitting down and talking as a family about issues, fighting isn’t acceptable, etc.
You could set up a small rent plan, perhaps have her cover one of the utilities or just come up with a monitored savings plan for when she is mature and financially stable enough to move out on her own.
She still has that kid mindset, many do until their early twenties.
Technically she’s adult, yes, she sounds like she may be floundering about a bit, not uncommon.
If she hasn’t been planning for adulthood in the last 2-3 years, getting guidance about what the basic responsibility of adulthood entails, this may be just an extension of ‘I’m still a kid’. It’ll take some time to work through, and that’s okay.
Look into trade schools, mentoring programs, college courses.
Honey, I’m thinking you should’ve tried to figure this out without posting. There are some judgmental ignorant people in these comments. And their excuse would be, you put it out there to be judged. Which is false, but ignorance is bliss for some people. Dont let ANY of the irrelevant people put you down about your parenting. They don’t know you from a hole in a wall. I get it. It’s NOT always the parent’s fault. Some children just stray and take the wrong path on their own. Outside influences, school, bullies…who knows. You talk to your daughter sternly and make a decision that’s best for you, your daughter and the rest of the household. These comment have me LIVID!
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There’s not date when your child has to leave. Have patience and set guide lines, for her,
I know how you feel but the best way to start the process is to sit down with her with an agreement that specifically lists everything to you expect from her, consequences, and make her sign it. I’d also start charging rent and save it in a savings account to help her with deposits when she does move out. (We didn’t tell my son but that’s where his “rent” is going)
We still have to get on him about fighting and doing his chores but he know if he pushes too far he’s out.
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Talk to her. Set down some rules (it’s your house). Explain the rules and the consequences. Listen to her. Do not get loud even if she does.
Give her a choice, she either gets a long with someone else paying her bills or she moves out and deals with her own bills.
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I would never throw my kids out no mother should throw there kids out how would you feel if something happens to her
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this is going to be lost in the negative comments. my best suggestion is this give her until the end of the year. to find a place. until then. break the “rent” down you will pay x amount on the 1st. let’s say 200. take 100 and put in an account for deposits the other half in an account for stuff she’ll need. as for the fighting. it’s what siblings do best. but lay down the rules of your contract. the long and short is this you kick her out she’ll be back you give her time and teach her how to be an adult it will be alot easier and hope she doesn’t return. I hope this helps
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Can she enroll in state /community college? Maybe she can dorm there?
Maybe try to figure out what’s going on with her instead of giving her the boot. You sound like you might be part of the problem if you are mistreating her.
Not a very good parent. From the sounds of it u failed to teach her to be an adult. If u dont want her there then take her to look at apartments that way u at least aren’t making her homeless because if u just tell her to get out that’s what u will be doing and that’s pathetic.
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let her stay, but charge her rent, have her help pay bills, and help with groceries.
Change the locks throw out her shit simple
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She has a job but you’re not sure if it is stable enough yet you want her to move out? Clearly there are issues but apparently being the parent isn’t in your plans. Having kids is not easy & raising them is hard but each 1 is different. Try talking to all of them to find what is going on before you throw someone out to live on the streets or for trafficking to become a way of life. Step up!! Do your job!! Don’t ask for advice until you’ve done everything possible to help your child become successful!! Yes!! This makes me angry!! What is wrong with you!!! How could you even think of kicking your own kid to the curb?? 18 is not mature enough to be on their own. Been there & done that!! Give her options–college & work to better herself. You boot her, it will bite you in the ass & you will regret it!! Support & offer help or counseling!! Obviously there has to more to the story…Do you plan to do this with the others as well??? I feel sorry for them!!
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Seriously. She is also your child.
You don’t ask your daughter to move out. Maybe if she’s 30, not working and sleeping on your couch. You talk, you set boundaries. I don’t care what the law says or what people say… no one is mature at 18 years of age. Especially to be tossed out into the world to fend for herself.
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Kick there ass as long as they live under your roof they should respect you and everybody ealse that’s what’s wrong with kids today you can’t touch them i got my ass wipet with a switch or what ever she could find in arms reach
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Your going to have to set some rules make her accountable for her actions in the home let her know it’s not acceptable and your not going to tolerate it it’s still your house and she will abide by your rules the same as always and also tell her that other people live in this house also and shouldn’t be subject to her outrageous behavior and disrespect. Tell her if she wants to continue acting like a child you’ll treat her like one, and make her pay some of her hard earned money she makes so she learns the value of money and nothing is for free. Good luck
When mine wouldn’t abide by my rules I told her to get out. She did and
She learned real quick, life isn’t so easy. She has a new profound appreciation for me and she did move back in temporarily but she was a different person. She lives on her own again but our relationship is very strong and I would never regret setting up boundaries and enforcing them.
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The part of the brain that controls reasoning does not fully develop till 25. This is why some parents find the ages between 18-25 so difficult. Some young adults do OK, others need to mature. I think you would benefit from family counseling. She needs direction and structure. I agree she needs to stop being abusive and contribute but kicking her out is not a solution. Getting a counselor to be the mediator and give everyone tools to cope should be the first step
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Today I’m having a family meeting to figure out our problems before I make choices with my children. I need to guide them first set steps of goals before God takes me but not going to wait. Need them to feel safe and loved. Putting God in the center to guide my words. I love my children but I need to teach them the adult life. Figure out why she’s so angry about. Help her get the counseling she need. Prayers to you and your family. Blessing
Start talking to her about her behavior. Tell her she’s welcome to stay as long as everybody can get along. Also, because she is almost 19, she might be afraid of the move. Some kids take a bit longer to adjust to being able to move on. Be patient, help her all you can. Someday she will move on and you may not hear from her for months or years. Cherish this time with her. My daughter is in her 50’s and lives 50 miles away. I wish she lived closer so we could spend more time together.
Dont throw her on the streets she could be lost for ever think about it be a.good parent ask her what is brothering her.she does not like her life at this time 
she has.growing pains and you make her.feel no loved or wanted shame
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Send her to grandmother. I loved when my grands moved in with me as they transitioned to jobs and real life. They have wonderful jobs. One moved to Iowa , one moved to Washington DC, and the other to New York. I miss them❤️
18 is really young to be on your own with little to no support. She probably would have no idea what she is doing. Good luck
Yikes. Hope she has good credit & likes Ramen noodles. Maybe try talking with her about her behavior in your house? At 19 she should have a full time job or part-time & furthering her education. Pushing her out at 19 may hurt her much more than help her.
Sounds like she has a job but she needs to further her education. Kicking her out is not the solution. If she is going to school and working she will not have much time for anything else. It is your job as a parent to continue to guide her, parent her. You need to try and connect with her and talk with her about the issue. Is it possible it is not all her. Just because she is 18 doesnt mean she is grown up and responsible enough to be own their own. Pray for her and with her. If she moves out of now she most likely will not finish her college education and this will affect the rest of her life.
Wow. This just got real judgy. There is a difference between enabling your young adult to continue acting like a child and making everyone miserable vs. Making your suddenly homeless. There is middle road. As parents our job is grow healthy independent adults. If she isn’t ready to launch…head to family and individual counseling. Get a workable arrangement that ends with independence. She is setting the bar for the younger kids and soon it will not just be one child that acts like this.
She needs to learn respect. Happy to help as long as she acts like an adult. She not mature enough to move out yet.
Just some advice to all parents in general. You can’t wait until your child is an adult to start teaching them how to be one. If you want your child to grow up to be a strong, responsible adult, you best start teaching them how to be one when they are very young. If you do your part, they will do theirs.
Id start charging her to live there and putting it back for a place to go. Id put her on notice she has certain amount of time there if she dont grow up and quit fighting with the others. As parents were supposed to raise them and send them off. Im still trying to get the older ones out. Its what were doing. Its been told by 25 at least they gotta be out on own. If they create a child or get married by then. They will for sure be living in own place. Its tough love. I had to do it and so they are they. Parents dont live forever.
Pack her things and tell her she has to go. My granddaughter is the same age, we has been taking care of her for 5 yrs. She hot to the point where she was so disrespectful and there was no peace in my home so I told her she had to go. She is now living with her Father’s family.
Perhaps this is something that should have been started several years ago. But yes. 18 is legally an adult. The world will expect her to be an adult and so should you. DO NOT make major changes in your household to adapt to her, the world will not. Sit her down, let her know that she is there because you ALLOW it. Create a base of expectations, chores, behavior, and yes even financial contributions. If she can’t contribute, and participate in a positive way, she needs to find somewhere else to live. Not treating our young adult children as such, harms them in the long run!
I’m not a parent, so take this for what it’s worth. But unless she is injuring her younger siblings, asking her to move out so young might not be the right thing for anyone. I suggest doing what others have said, charge her rent and save it for her. Or at least make her pay for some of her own bills that you may have been covering: cell phone, car insurance. The details would depend on your financial situations. Tell her that behavior must stop. And that since she is legally considered an adult, it is time for her to take on more responsibility for herself. Her own laundry, contributing to the groceries or at least cooking a few times a week. Doing dishes, cleaning certain rooms, etc. And tell her that it is in preparation for her moving in to her own place in the future.
Honestly though, I wonder if she isn’t feeling angry and frustrated about COVID stealing the last of her senior year…
If she can’t contribute in a positive way to the household it’s time for her to find someplace else to live. Hope it’s not a free ride for her either. Needs to be contributing $ & sharing chores.
Oldest of 4 kids here, and we were all treated the same. Never given a free ride. We all had part time jobs at 16 to help pay for our cellphones, money to put gas in the car if we used it, money for shopping/splurging etc.
Once graduated from Highschool we were always welcome too live at home as long as we either A) went to school and worked part time
Or B) worked full time.
If we lived at home we followed their rules. Respect that there are younger kids in the house (quiet at night, don’t be dragging in and out all hours), help keep the house clean, pay for your own cellphone, help pay for your own vehicle or help with gas/insurance on family vehicle used.
In school I felt like my parents were hard asses but the reality is that they prepared all of us for adulthood and when we were old enough, not only were we eager to spread our wings and move out but we were also adequately prepared by our parents for that transition.
We all started out living with roommates to make ends meet and get used to being on our own and then went from there.
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You raise a child up to be 18 than want to push them
Out of the nest they have just graduated high school than. You need to wait until they go to College and graduate or until they can get a skilled trade under the belt than get a job where they can pay rent and utilities , car payment and the Insurance . At the age of 18 their not ready to be in their own to soon .They have to get their education first where they can make a living for their selfs . Around age 24 with 4 yrs., of College . Otherwise they will be right back at your door at the age of 18 they must have the skills first. Then they can make it in their own. Good Luck !
That’s so young. In no way is she to fight with anyone. Full time job full time school. She will pay for her bills and one of yours.You will not enable her .She is an adult make her feel like she’s helping you out. She will soon want to be on her own.
Mine are all still with me the oldest 24, 22,19,18,16. The ones that are finished with school work and pay rent. They have to learn responsibility and how it is in the real world. Mom n dad won’t be here forever.
I lived at home till I was 22 but started working as soon as I graduated. I could not imagine having to live on my own at 18. That would be cruel to kick her out. At that age they have no idea what the real world is like. Do not kick her out.
My oldest is 14 and they all know that when they are old enough to not need school then they are old enough to move out. If they want to go to college they can live at home the whole time, once they are done it’s time to be an adult. If they dont go to college then it’s time to be an adult
Tell her she can stay only if she pays rent. If she stays but the rent money aside to take the others out for treats for putting up with her. Set house rules. If she doesn’t follow them evict her. Make a contract which she must sign. It’s time she learned the ways of the world. Bullying others gets you kicked out.
My parents kicked me out when I was 17. I was homeless and living in a tent until I could afford a one bedroom apartment that I shared with 4 other people. I lived in poverty for the first 4 years. Have a serious talk with your daughter and let her know how you feel. Tell her if things don’t change, she’ll have to figure out another living situation. But also know, that your 18 year old will struggle and live in poverty. It will take her longer to reach milestones than others her age. I had to take semesters off of school so I could work and save enough money to get back to school. Think about where you were when you were 18 and how you would’ve faired if your parents kicked you out.
Unfortunately, it’s called tough love. Leave. You don’t want to abide by our rules, then go. Find out what it’s really like. Been there have done it, it
As a parent of a 17 year old I wouldn’t even think of kicking her out in the streets. Just because your daughter is over 18 doesn’t mean she is ready to live by herself if something was to happen to her because you pushed her to move out, it will be your fault and she probably still needs to mature more in order to feel comfortable to live on her own. And no matter how old she is she is going to need u to be there by her side. And it sounds horrible that as a parent you want her out of your house when you know this world is becoming worst
If you kick get out instead of finding out what is going on with her, you are setting her up for failure and a whole lot of pain.
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Well, first, if you are paying for her things… cell phone, car, money to go out, start by making her pay for her own stuff, charge her rent if she continues to fight with everyone. Second, set boundaries, if she fights with everyone tell her if she doesn’t change her attitude take her door off her room (teenagers hate that) your house, your rules. Tell her if she is living with you and she continues acting out, she has to to see someone, like a therapist or go to anger management. Kicking her out when it doesn’t sound like she is mature enough is setting her up for failure. If she continues to act like a child, threat her like child and if she doesn’t like it, then she will move out on her own. It sounds like maybe family counseling would be be a good idea. Best of luck!
I was 18 when I moved out and now have a 4 month old at 19. It takes a while different level of responsibility to have your own place. Why would you want to kick her out and risk ruining her credit if she can’t keep up with everything? My sister lived with my parents till she was 23. Everyone is different on when they are ready to start their own life and I can promise you that it will make her life go downhill if she isn’t ready. Why would you want to risk that on your daughter?
Both mine know from the time they were HS freshmen…if you go to college you can stay home…but will still have responsibilities. No college, no living at home. Neither wanted college…both started working at 16. Both moved out…now in their 40s and fantastic ppl. Mine is a little different…they knew from the start of HS the choice…fair enough
I would say to her she can keep living in this house but she needs to get her act together and start to respect the rest of the people in the houses. Tell her to start to save her money because if she does not follow the rules she will have to move out and be on her own. Hope things work out for you.
I’m not one to intrude anywhere but I want to thank all of the advice givers here who are encouraging boundaries, rent and so forth rather than setting the young girl up for failure. If you want to tarnish and ruin a relationship with your child, this is the biggest way to do it. I’m sure there are other ways but speaking as someone else who is fairly close to the daughter’s age? I’d never understand and hold a grudge against my parents if they just pushed me out with no foundation and an attitude to for me to figure it out. 