So you’re gonna push her out when you know she can’t afford it and she undoubtedly get herself into crippling debt? 
Maybe you should all sit down as a family, speak to each other and teach your children to respect each other? It might be hard on you but you’re her mother, being a parent isn’t supposed to be easy!
You figure out a different way… DO NOT KICK YOUR OWN CHILD OUT.
Times are hard right now
Well being I hate my mom. She sounds just like u. I left at 17 have never been back. When u have kids they are for life. Not when they are 18 and throw them out. #1 mom goes to you.
This is sad. I have 3 kids but they are not grown so I havent had to experience this yet. But I do know that I will never kick my kids out. You are a parent, meaning that you are to guide them no matter what age. You were responsible for them until the age of 18. Look back on that please.
That’s your child… you raised her that way. You better keep her and help her …
With what the world is going through right now we all need unity not division , I would not let her go and double up on showing her how much you love her 
So because you didn’t prepare her for the real world you’re gonna kick her out?
Sounds like y’all lack communication.
The reasonable thing to do would be have a family meeting.
Maybe give her a few more responsibilities.
Have her help out with a bill? Or maybe she can be in charge of family dinner?
You don’t just kick your kid out…
Especially when you don’t think she’s mature enough to handle it. She’s gonna end up being used or taken advantage of.
It’s you’re job to mentally prepare her…
You will have to file to evict her. Maybe being served with the paperwork will be enough to get her to sit down and work out an agreement
My mum kicked me out when I was 17. Looking back I was acting out but I was acting out as I was in a bad place mentally and was really desperate for some help. Her home was my safe place, i will never ever forgive her for that. She turned her back on me when I needed her most. Im 21 now and have a little boy, I know that if he needed/ wanted to stay with me till the day I died that I wouldn’t ever kick him out😕
I’m seriously shocked by all the people who are treating this 18-year-old like a helpless child! I moved out of the house at 18 in 2004 for college and worked in order to maintain my own apartment and the accompanying bills. At 26 I had my son. At 30 I purchased my first house all by myself and it wasn’t some extravagant feat! I’m 34 now and frequently thank my mother for raising me the way she did because I see people in my age group and older who still can’t function as responsible adults! This young woman should have already been given the basics needed to survive on her own! If this is a situation where she’s one of those people who doesn’t listen and doesn’t want to learn how to do things for herself then she’ll just have to learn the hard way. But if that hasn’t been the case then there should be at least a year put into teaching her with a pending Move Out Date. As for her getting into verbal or physical altercations with her younger siblings, that would be a complete NO for me! I only have one child but I would not stand for one child inflicting emotional, mental, or physical harm on the others.
Can I get rid of all my kids now then? I mean they’re not 18 or anything but, they fight all the time 
Lady, you probably shouldn’t of had kids. Just because they turn 18 doesn’t mean that you’re done being a parent to them and or should kick them out because they annoy you. You need to seek help and parenting classes. Might be too late though
Well that’s not really been a family if you want to kick the other one out that’s just so unfair I reckon what else happens in the household surely all the fighting is not on her ? Surely there’s a better outcome for her get her own cabin for eg she is a teenager she will be needing her own space but that doesn’t mean you have to kick her out
Parent’s are not the same some want thier children to be with them until they old some doesn’t want thier child and teach them to be independent … but in this situation right now this is not the right timing to kick anyone out.
keep safe
virus is no joke
I mean I would try to find the root to all of the fighting. Is she maybe just super stressed with life being crazy? Maybe set some rules for her, and if she doesn’t follow them, let her know she can find her own place. When you are under your parents roof, you follow their rules.
I would definitely try talking to her. Remind her that she is an adult and needs to start acting like one. It’s totally ok to stress but it’s not ok to take your stress out on others.
Remember momma that she’s an adult now. Try not to be super overbearing and I notice some people act like this when their parents treat them like little kids. She isn’t a little kid anymore. She’s starting to have adult problems now and maybe just needs a shoulder to lean on
Fighting with siblings is normal! Just make it so that while she is there, her job needs to be full time or she needs to be going to school as well! It’s what my parents set up for me when I turned 18. Either full time job or school and part time job, if either wasnt happening they would have had to kick me out. While she’s there, encourage her to begin saving so she can become her own person. Remember you are still the adult who needs to teach her what the next and proper step is!
Some of these comments are ridiculous and sorry you have to read them!! 18 is not a young helpless CHILD.
I find this post absolutely disgraceful! You don’t kick your child out FULL STOP! I would stand by my daughter no matter what. She is a part of me! You don’t just give up on your kids!
I have 2 girls… My oldest daughter is 9 years older than my youngest… Similar situation… I let my older daughter go to a homeless shelter for a few days… Didn’t help but I was able to get her out… A toxic home is no longer an option… Time to sink or swim…
After 18 you owe them nothing!!!
She just graduated, give her time to get settled. Maybe take her out to dinner and talk to her as an adult and ask her if everything is okay since she does fight with her siblings. She might be stressed, she is adulting and trying to figure it all out
I’m in the unpopular category here. I LOVE my kids with all of my heart and soul. That being said if they are adults and living in my home they will have rules, expectations, chores etc. I will NOT tolerate ANY adult who is disrespectful or disruptive of my home. So, she either accepts the terms or can find somewhere else to live where she can set her own rules. Just because I gave birth to a child in no way means that I am obligated to put up with their 
and provide for them once they are an adult. She needs a serious dose of reality. JMO. Feel free to continue to allow her to run your house and your life but that’s not how I am wired. Both of my kids 28&21 now knew/know I am their best ally but in no way am I going to tolerate disrespectful behavior. My oldest lives on her own with her 3 year old and husband my youngest still lives at home but does not have or create any issues for us. The way it should be.
Honestly WHAT THE FUCK. I am not sorry to say you are a piece of shit, my kids will never have to worry about them being kicked out, you are a parent, start fucking acting like one. Being a parent doesn’t stop at 18 and it doesn’t stop until you yourself dies. I feel so bad for this CHILD who knows nothing about life or even where to start, maybe try to communicate with her and set boundaries and some sort or financial plan to help with bills. I can’t believe the nerve of some of you “parents”. It’s sickening.
Wow just wow how awful and sad is this post so glad I didn’t have mum so selfish and nasty like u 
Seriously? A home is suppose to be a safe place. If you kick her out watch her not come back
Sounds like you need doctor Phil. But she is. You’re daughter you need to help her don’t be that mom who kicks out her own child on the streets with no help . living in the streets are very scary. She is your child it’s your job as a mother to take care of her. I would never do that to my child .
Kinda harsh, Expecially without warning or a talk. She needs time to save up & it figure a plan out. I understand she’s now 18 & a adult. But u can’t just throw her out over night. Maybe give her a year. Charge her rent & at the end of the year give her the $ you charged her to help with a Aparment. Tell her if she argues she’s out. She is a adult to act like one, You also have to keep in mind she is a adult & even tho it’s her siblings they still should not talk to her a certain type of way. ( My brother 11 & me 26 argue and talk shit all the time, But sometimes my mom hears him say certain stuff to me or a certain tone and she says something to him since I’m a adult and he’s a child ) lol I get both sides but throwing her out with no warning can just cause her to make diffrent and or worse decision… meet someone who is no good . Drugs etc
Dang y’all calm down…I want my kid out just as bad. And guess what…that’s NOT a bad thing!!
Obviously she knows that kicking her out without a good job isn’t an option. She’s just trying to find ways to make her WANT to move out
Wow this is like someone who takes their old dog to the shelter because they got a new puppy… Just sad!
I lived with my mom until I got married at almost 19. Then we traveled for my husbands old job. But I ended up getting pregnant very early and I went back to live with my parents because I really struggled with pregnancy. We lived with them until the baby was 6 months old until we finally got our own place. Yes we paid rent and what not. But sometimes it’s nice to have an understanding parent who is there for you when you need it. I don’t plan on just throwing my child out as soon as she turns 18 into the streets all alone. I’ll be here for her when she needs me. I am her mother. 18 is hard to adjust for some people. Their whole life changes in a day! I’d be patient and loving with her
Find a safe cheap apartment, pay the bills up 2 or 3 months and move her there. If you’ve taught her money management and good self care than neccesity will breed opportunity.
easy, start charging rent but put that money back for a deposit on utilities and her own place
I would never… my child will always have a place to call home and I will receive him with open arms even when he’s older idc my doors will always be open
I was kicked out of home at 15, honestly looking back I was so much hard work for my mum who had 3 other children, one who is severely disabled and herself was ill with what we now know is lupus…i hated living there as much as they hated the way I was when I was there, they still fully supported me and I was with family, it was honestly the best thing that happened to me, I learnt how to provide for myself and how to manage bills ect by 16. All of it doesn’t make me love my mum any less. In fact our relationship is so much better now. I personally don’t think 18 is too young to move out at all. Maybe just sit down and have a talk with her about whether it’s something she feels she would like and if it is just let her know you will support her if she does. If she doesn’t want to I think you need to put down some strict house rules. I hope you manage to figure what’s best for you all x
When I was 17 I had a job went to school bought a car and made car payments. After graduating I paid my way thru Nursing school. I had a part time job at the same time. I graduated from Nursing school and worked and paid rent to my parents. Got engaged, picked up another job and found out that my Mom saved my rent money to pay for my wedding.
Tell her she needs to pay rent. I promise once she sees that she can be a little more self sufficient, she.may start to have some goals. She should start to feel better about herself. Praying things get better.
Charge her rent, and don’t let her get away with it. Don’t put up with this.
Id suggest getting her to go to college. She could stay in the dorms. Otherwise, you would br setting her up to fail. We all know 18 year olds are usually too big for their britches. But family is family. All your kids are going to fight! Its par for the course!
Set some boundaries. If she wasn’t 18 and out of high school, what would you do?
You’re the parent.
How about an adult conversation with your child about the issues?
Start charging her rent
I have a rule. If you live with me past age 18. You will either work or go to school. My 19 yr old works.
You are still her parent. Your hone your rules. Tell her that. If she bucks up to you. Knock her on her ass. You’re both adults now so it ain’t child abuse.
Tell her straight up. If you wanna be treated like an adult act like one. She can either get a job and pay boarding or she can get out and get her own place.
Do not do another thing for her. Do not prepare food or wash her clothes. That’s an adults job
Do not let her use your car or give her money for her gas.
Tough love
She may be 19 but she can still get an old fashioned ass whooping cause she old enough to know better her behavior can rub off on her younger siblings spare the rod spoil the child im not saying abuse her im saying an ass whooping might help🤷🏽
Start charging her rent, plus utilities. That will probably make her want to make more money, and be more responsible. She may even decide to move out, but it will be her decision.
Start charging her rent to get used to budgeting. Save the money for her in a savings account to use as a down payment for an apt and for furniture and stuff.
I would have her pay rent you can save it for her . I payed rent starting at 18 so I thought why not get my own place so I talked to my friends and the three of us went in on an apartment.
As a 19 year old mom, I still live with my dad. I sometimes wish he’d kind of stop giving me so much leeway. I think one reason that he keeps me at home is because he likes having the extra help around. So maybe try showing her things that she’ll have to do to live on her own (like picking up one or two of the bills every month) and she will either be grateful in the long run or she’ll throw it in your face. If she decides to throw it in your face, then just tell her she can leave and pay her own bills for her own house. But dont do it in a way that shes going to have to depend on a junkie friend or anything, because I depended on some bad friends and they lead me down a dark road.
You want to make your child an adult but can’t communicate with her? Maybe start there instead of asking strangers.
Help her find a place. Show her she could do it and be able too
So because u can’t be a damn adult and parent ur children ur gonna force ur oldest to move out? Dude i hope she can move away from u. Id resent my mother forever if she ever put my siblings before me.
I’m sorry, but I can’t image wanting an 18 almost 19yr old to move out.
Send her to Job Corps
Lol. Mother of the year. #ajeneb
Give her rules to follow if she chooses not to follow them she can move herself out.
Why are you looking to kick her out?? Sad.
It’s fine to feel like this. I have 4 grown children and I think they don’t appreciate what they have or grow up and mature until they’re forced!
Wow these comments. As a parent you should talk to your kids about their problems, not kick them out once they’re the legal age. You should help them slowly build up a life & money. They’re siblings they’re gonna fight. Unless you want your daughter hating you & her struggling then don’t kick her out. Also don’t charge them to live there. That’s sad & ridiculous. That’s their home & you chose to have them so be a parent & help them at all times no matter the age.
Wow… Really…She’s actually still a kid herself… so my advice is to suck it up and deal with YOUR child… You don’t get to throw her away because she’s miss behaving!!!
You are her mother try sitting down and talking to her her job may not pay much but at least it’s a job and she graduated high school most kids don’t do that tell her how proud of her you are but let her know that you support her and you want what’s best for her and the family.
I have a plan for when my kids are older if they plan to live at home still. I’m gonna have them pay a portion of rent, water, electric, ect. each month to help towards the bills. Teaches them money management, responsibility, and a portion of what adult life looks like.
But what they won’t know is I’ll really be putting that money into a savings account until there is enough for them to get into their own place and on their feet.
Start putting boundaries in place, charge rent, offer to help her find a place. If she’s creating a toxic or dangerous environment for the other children, it’s time she moves on. Offer to help, but unlike people here seem to think, she is an adult and is not entitled to being supported by you no matter what. You are allowed to set boundaries in your home.
Sounds like her paying rent isn’t the problem…honestly if she pays rent he going to think it gives her the right to be more aggressive…I say my house my rules
Fighting is normal for siblings hell me and my sister are 26 and 24 and we still fight thats not a reason to kick her out parenting doesn’t stop just because the child is 18. Makes me so thankful to have the loving mother I have.
These comments are so ridiculous and judgmental
Wow. Make her pay rent and then take that money and save it for her so when she wants to move out she has money to do so. Either that or explain how you feel and talk to her not just kick her out on her ass because you don’t want to deal with it. Grow up…
Wow. I am 34 years old and I am the oldest out of my siblings and I and we all still fight and argue but when my mom was alive, she never in her life kicked me or any of my other siblings out just because we fought and argued with each other. So, with that being said your daughter fighting with her younger siblings is no reason to kick her out. Be the mother and bigger person in the situation and try to figure out why she is fighting with her younger siblings.
She’s not a child anymore. I’m sure she reminds you of that during arguments… Tell her she will behave like a adult, like paying a utility bill, or a certain amount of rent per week. If she can’t go by your rules in your house, she will have to go… Btw, that’s what I did to my kids… They are much older now and are very responsible when taking care of business. For everyone saying wow you would kick out your child, she’s only 19… That is the exact reason we have so many younger people who are not responsible. You come down hard on her, she will change her ways, if not, well there’s the door. She will be back with a whole different attitude.
Communication obviously she didn’t wake yesterday to be a problematic person in the household. You need to communicate with her and from what you’ve said you know she isn’t able to move out both financially and maturity so get preparing her!. Start with board on a scale to her income etc ( if you want save the money and put it into homewares for when she is ready )
Wow mom of the year award
Wow…
I hate parents like you.
Theres no age limit on loving your damm child.
Shes only 18. Barley finished high school and you want to kick her out because shes fighting with siblings? All siblings fight.
In that state of mind you should kick all your kids out.
Only reason you cant is because its illegal.
I cannot stand parents that no longer care about their childs future or wellbeing after the age of 18.
Your kid turns 18 and youre no longer LEGALLY obligated to provide her with food and shelter so you throw her on the streets?
Youre a selfish evil bitch who should have never had children if youre only thought is to get rid of them as soon as possible after youre legally allowed.
Its not like she is 40 years old with no job mooching off you.
Shes 18. With a job. Who just finished high school.
What the fuck is wrong with you.
You could incentives moving out by having her pay rent while she lives with you. Along with paying rent you can have “renter expectations” which would allow you to set boundaries for her in regards to her siblings. If she can’t uphold the renter expectations she gets “evicted”. It would also allow you to see how her maturity does when her living situation is on the line.
This doesn’t work for every parent because it requires you to take on a certain level of objectivity in regards to your daughter. Just a suggestion if you think it could work for you.
How about helping her go to college or university instead?
You’re a real winner! Who’s job was it to raise this person into a decent member of society??? YOURS! If you didn’t do your job then that’s on YOU, not her! Get down off your high horse and see what you can do to help now that you obviously didn’t do when you should have or she’d already be gone and doing ok
Fyi. Kids arent disposable.
You dont get to just decide you dont like their personality anymore and throw them away like trash.
Maybe the reason she has an attitude is because you make it known that you dont care for her at all.
No mother in their right mind in this world that loves their child would force them to suddenly move out at 18 unless she was doing drugs in their house or physically harming someone.
Siblings fight.
Guaranteed they have been fighting with each other their entire damm lives.
And i bet youre the kind of shallow self obsessed woman to call the cops and get mad if she were to run away at 17 but at 18 you demand shes ready to leave on her own? Because you’re exactly the type of person that has kids just to be able to control someone. Not for love.
Youre her mother.
Be a fucking mother.
Its your job to teach her right from wrong and to love her.
Not pick and choose wich kids come first and wich ones have to go.
You just said yourself shes not mature enough to live on her own.
Thats your fault for not raising her to be ready.
You obviously know she needs more time.
And you know she cant afford it.
So what you’re saying and thinking is completely selfish and cruel.
You are setting her up to fail.
And the worst part is is that youre fully aware of it and dont fucking care.
Put her out.
Notice would be nice.
30 day notice. I had a teenager from hell too. Kick her out. Nothing is owed to her.
do not give her money
Why don’t you try rules and such at home, be stern make her responsible for herself and her actions.
My son is 17 and I’ve explained to him I would be doing him an injustice by NOT sending him off into the world to begin figuring out his own adulthood. I’ve told him I will be there to help as much as I can to help guide him to a path of success but it will be his journey to make. Our job as parents are to raise children that can exist independently. He and I regularly discuss his post h.s. graduation plans, possibilities, and goals. Explaing and discussing these kinds of things with her may help.
Have you had an actual conversation with her or tossed her off to the side? Because a whole pandemic has been going on for the last 6 months and I can almost guarantee she’s feeling some type of way about that. I understand the whole tough love act but honestly tossing her out like this will strain your relationship with her and she’ll end up in shitty situations in life. My mom and I used to fight all the time but she’s never decided to toss me out because I didn’t adapt well to my environment. I’m sure you’re stressed out and at your wits end but so is she. Have a conversation with her. Not a screaming match. Ask her where her head is at and if she’s ready for the real world. Ask her what you can do to help her prepare for the real world. Let her know you care and you love her even though she’s pissing you off.
Family members outside of the household.
Just because the law says she is an adult at 18 doesn’t mean anything. Some 18 year olds are not mature enough just to throw them out. She needs help to move on with her life after all she’s still a teenager. Fighting with siblings are normal.
Make her start paying you rent? Save said money, and when there is enough for first, last and deposit. Let her know it’s time to move out. Or give her a deadline, and have her save up for the move?
Trust me she’s still young. Just because she is 18 you shouldn’t have to kick her out. Wtf is wrong with you
Heres my problem kicking your child out when you know they don’t have the means to support themselves sets them up for failure.
You realize if you kick her out and she decides to go to college. She is now considered and independent student because she no longer lives at home. Which means you can no longer claim her as a dependent on taxes.
If your child is fighting and arguing with other siblings you should try to find out why and if it is a maturity thing then maybe you need to reevaluate how your are parenting.
My kids are leaving when they graduate. I will be shipping them off to college and I will gladly pay every penny for them to go just so I can finally have some peace. You can say whatever you want but I have 3 girls, ages 15, 13 and 8. I’ve been a Mom since I moved out on my own and I cannot wait to have an empty nest!! I love them dearly but I am ready!!
Start charging her rent power and stuff like that. That way she can learn things about having alot of responsibility but put the money she gives you away as a savings give her rules like she cooks she cleans type of thing to prepare her for what she will be doing when she moves out
Shes fucken 18 ! You raised her if she isnt “mature enough” who’s fault is that… lol. Wow
Get her to join army, they will take over where you left off.
She’s probably an unfit mom that fights with her daughter or nags all the time or is on her kids asses about everything and has no care in the world.
Yall are acting like being 18/19 is a child. I moved out and had my own place at 18! Along with many of my other friends. Some off yall are enablers which is why there are so many entitled children today. Smh.
Well if she can’t afford to live on her own then living with her is better then pushing her out onto the streets. Does she maybe have a friend she can rent a room from?
These replies mind 
… And this is why we have a generation of mollie coddled kids who don’t know how to deal with life. Bunch of bitches. This lady was asking for support, not judgment. If you can’t help her situation then don’t bother typing and let those that have kind, helpful words do the talking. Live and let live ffs!
My 6 year old fights all the time with my 3 year old twins, i think it is time for her to move out too 
Teach her responsibility instead, pay board, part bills. Remember siblings fight
Give her a time limit of when she needs to be out and on that date tell her she needs to leave. If she didn’t make proper arrangements thats on her.
Some of these comments are past horrible. Leave her alone you parent your way she parents hers. Get a life. But anyways, I’m 22, I’ve been out my moms house since I was 15. What made me leave, was I had to pay a portion of every bill, I had to pay my own phone bill, but my own food, I had to get my own car or ride the bus or find a ride (which I had to pay EVERY time). I felt that If I had to do all these I’d rather do it on my own instead of my parents benefiting from it.
Since we dont know the full history I would say get family therapy. There’s 2 sides to every story…
1 Start with Family therapy ( can help with following goals repairing damage in relationship)
2 be open to the possibility it could be a parenting style it may not be all the 18 year olds fault. Coping skills are learned at home.
3 set goals
A) get a job
B) pay rent
C) save money to move out
Seek professional help to deal with this situation to get better insight to this specific issue. Theres more to this relationship with your daughter than this post, its layered and all relationships are complicated.
Seek therapy and set goals. You love your kids and once the issues are resolved you want them to come back and have a loving relationship. 
You need to sit down and give her a goal to move by a date, stick to it even if it gets hard. I had to do this with one of my kids, it wad hard, here we are a few years later. Much better relationship, still lives on his own. I know it’s hard and you may even cry with the tough times, just stick it out. God bless you’re in my prayers.
You can’t right now it’s a pandemic all evictions are on hold . There is technically nothing legally you can do
All the negative comments and guarantee y’all the parents who get mad when your kids leave crumbs on the table or leave the light on and it’s so funny cuz it’s true at 18 if you can’t help your parent out be productive help provide and be responsible B you better get out of my house to ain’t no one raising kids to be dependent of their parents forever it’s called independence how else do you teach your kids to be independent if they take advantage of everything they can and are rude asf and toxic to the rest of the household that’s also teaching the other children they can do the same
I would never wana be your kid.
Shes grown. Have her pay some bills or she can get out. You arent obligated to keep her home when the house is tense and shes an adult.