U better grab that wooden cooking spoon & start spanking some ass. Ur the adult u need to show them who’s boss & they can’t disrespect u. They need to be disciplined!!!
Take everything out of their rooms except the necessities
Dont give up. My kids are 24 and 19 this year. They all think they know everything. Follow through with punishment. Keep telling them Whats right from wrong. One day they grow up…and you realize it was worth the continued nagging. They wake up and get it. Hold on.
Read the book called Bucket Fillers with them and learn from it. Start filling a family kindness jar with tokens and work together toward a positive family goal.
Change the wifi password
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If they were mine theyd be making a dentist appointment
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Call you names…oh no…
that needs to come to a screeching halt. Next they’ll be punching you. I absolutely don’t believe in abuse but I’m afraid a smack in the mouth may happen if my kid called me names…
. You need professional help now before this gets worse…and it will.
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My kids know I go from Mom to Madea real quick. Try putting your foot in their A$$ and I bet they get the picture real quick
When I was that age and doing the same things your teens are doing to you, my mum took all my things off me. My clothes, my electronics, my family time and school sports. She told me they were all privileges and if I wanted them back I had to work for it and listen, do my chores etc. And it worked. I liked having my freedom and having my own things
Since they wanna act grown make them pay for their necessities like their grown… their share of rent, their share of bills, their share of food… make them pay for WiFi lol I’m sure they’ll eventually come around
Just be the biggest asshole you can be back:rofl:
works for mine every time
Try out a belt! No 2nd warnings, just grab the belt. Ass whooping came as often as meals in my parents house and we were well fed. Obviously they don’t think they have to listen to you so what makes you think they will listen to anyone else/ follow the law when they get older. Discipline your kids before the state has to do it for you. They will thank you for it when they are older.
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Take and KEEP their stuff. Take it to your job and leave it so no matter what they can’t have it back. You see what is most valued to them and TAKE IT!
They are teenagers pushing their boundaries. Do not i repeat do not loose your cool. They win if you do. Cook as they need food but the rest is on them.
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Also… talk to them at their level. My mr 11 will not listen if i go all mum on him. If i ask him nicely, then remind him im not doing it , then i dont do it, he will eventually do it himself. Please remember you do your things in your own time frame. When you want,need it done. They don’t work on your time frame. Sounds very relaxed and not confrontational and it worked for me.
Actions come with consequences. Find a consequence they dislike enough to change their actions. Decreasing “free time” or screen time worked
With my kids.
The only problem with taking away all their things is then they have more time to bug the hell out of you
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Devise jail works a dream they can earn it back with listening to you and being kind
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I suggest getting a copy of this book. Gabor Mate also has videos on YouTube explaining things in this book. It has helped me reconnect with my teen and get to the root of the behaviour. I hope this helps. 
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Wallsits are my favorite form of discipline. They put themselves on the wall when they choose disrespect over respect, disobedience over obedience, laziness over pulling their weight and doing their part. Of course my husband backs me up, and they know if they don’t listen to me they answer to him. 3 minute maximum… and there’s always the accountability talk with it… Why are you on the wall? Who put you on the wall? Choices matter… if we don’t make good choices we are held accountable and face consequences for our choices. Accountability… when we hold ourselves accountable for our mistakes we learn from them… when we don’t hold ourselves accountable we repeat the mistakes… set the tone. BE THE EXAMPLE OF ACCOUNTABILITY.
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Take a breathe . They are teenagers . Literally , put on this earth to test your patience . Dont yell, dont scream , ground them forever to their room if u have to… but never show weakness .
Good luck 
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Take all their stuff out of their room and only leave a bed and a dresser for clothes. Take their door off the hinges. They wanna play, let them know who’s boss. If they want their stuff back, tell them they have to earn one thing at a time. They want their tv? Better do such and such but don’t give them the power cord. Make them go outside and run suicides (my kids hated that) or some other type of strenuous activity. Put on some safety jackets and take them to clean up the town while you sit in a chair and read a good book.
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I would recommend seeing a psychologist and maybe sitting down with your kids and figure out what’s up with them. Why are they acting like that. You can maybe set up even rules with them! Make them find the punishment for their actions. But please don’t listen to people who tell you to beat them up!! There is a tons of solution before using violence!! Showing then violence and raising them with violence will make them use violence cause they’ll find it normal! Go see specialist before listening to nonsense from people… please for the love of the children, teenagers, there are always better solutions then violence 
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Stop spoiling them.they act that way because your not in control.put your big girl panties on and be the adult.stop taking things from them and giving it back because they act a fool.
Whoop their ass 
some kids need their ass whooped to listen others talking works obviously talking and taking some things isn’t working so whoop them.
Also treat them like their in jail take everything out and only leave their bed, books and clothes, I’ve seen many post like that where it’s worked for kids.
There’s no reason you should be allowing your kids to walk all over you, you’re the parent not their friend.
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My kids are strong willed but we went through this recently cause they are the same age.
I actually took everything away. Their rooms were empty
Minus their beds. They had to get their outfits for school from me for the next day. They were made to go to their rooms immediately after school and could come out for dinner and then return back to the room. They were allowed to pick a book I approved of and read that. I’m telling you, one week later they def didnt wanna be in their rooms anymore. They still know to this day I’ll do it again if they treat me like shit
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HONEY SPANKING OR SWITCHING DIDN’T GO OUT OF STYLE, AND NOTHING WORKS AS WELL. BUT YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT IF NOTHING ELSE CONSISTENT. GOOD LUCK, BUT IT’S REALLY UP TO YOU. Only you can make them respect you .it’s not a overnight job but if nothing else be CONSISTENT.
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When the going gets tough go to the military style!
Take away EVERYTHING.
Whoop their ass.
Wall sits and belt time.
Too many people now are pansies when their children go out of control. Dont listen to all the Karen mom’s. Being Nice wont work, only taking away a phone wont work, psychology wont work. They are preteens rebelling. Show no weakness. It sounds like they know they can push you and walk all over you. Fix that now before they get any older because it just gets worse from here if not.
Disclaimer: my personal opinion. If being nice works for your kid, good for you, you have it easy. She asked my opinion so I gave it.
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Don’t beat your kids wtf is wrong with all of you?
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First-you cannot be their buddy, be a mom first! Second-keep the lines of communication open. Third- make your house the hangout with their friends. (Sometimes spending time with their friends can show you a lot!)Fourth- say what you mean, mean what you say! Don’t back down! You are in charge!fifth- always give them compliments for doing a good job! Be a positive roll model! Negativity breeds negativity!
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Whoop that ass!!! My 2yr gets his ass whooped,when told no multiple times. Won’t leave things alone,or told stuff repeatedly. Whoops that ass. Should’ve started earlier.
Smack 'em…because what the heckkk?? Who do they think they are?
Start’s when there small it’s called RULES AND RESPECT 
You should have started about 10 ago!
Great book called How to talk so teens will listen and how to listen so teens will talk! Raising teens is way different than kids. Its never too late to try to improve your parenting skills!!
Take phones, video games, and computer devices away for 2-3 weeks. Always works on mine. First week is awful. By 2nd week I have earned behavior back. 3rd week is great. Thats usually when she earns her phone back. Oh! And I delete all apps where she could pick up behaviors from. That punishment brings the tears out.
How did you lose control?
So I’m curious? Everyone suggesting spanking or “beating their asses”, if your spouse or parent or friend or neighbor disrespects you are you going to get the belt on them?
It’s disgusting how many people advocate unashamedly for child abuse on this post. Teach them consequences yes but beating and neglecting your childrens needs only teaches them to mistrust or have a skewed view of those who are supposed to set an example of how they are supposed to navigate the world. Not only is it poor parenting, its also illegal in most developed countries and grounds for having your parenting rights removed
Make them do hard labor. When my kids didn’t listen I always had a friend or family member that needed weeds pulled or a fence painted.
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If they want something make them work for it! They hungry? Dont do them any favours an 11 and 13 year old can make a sandwhich or a bowl of cereal, if they want you to go to more effort and cook them a meal maybe they need to start showing their respect, dont do their washing just wash your clothes, stick theirs in a laundry basket not your problem, they got a friends birthday coming up, not your problem dont buy them a present for them to give, unless they start helping , listening and respecting you. Maybe once all those things they just expect from you dont happen maybe they will realise all that you do for them. Tell them, unless they start listening and appreciating you dont expect any favours coz they dont do any favours for you.
A Peach tree switch will change that attitude of them! 8 of us and it talked for my mom,A hickery limb for my dad,our parents didnot play,we obeyed,and get those it taught us respect for them and we listened and obeyed,if not 2nd whipping was more and worse,we learned well,i am blessed for my raising on this,
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I had a daughter that was a hand full… (Still can be lol, age 23) however, I set up a your through the juvenile detention center and they “locked” her and her brother up in the building (including me, I was even scared) but they wouldn’t let her talk or anything… They made her walk through the building like a solder. It helped. I told her if she acted up she would be going there for the weekend.
- fat lip for both 2. talk softly with your needs/requests 3. constancy!! Cancel Data plans for their phones and change the house wifi password.
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Walk up, take their head in your hands and focus it on your face, not the TV or phone or game. Make your request, then leave. If you are just shouting your requests out, they may never hear you.
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Turn or disconnect WiFi. Take tablets and cells. Do old school punishment. Mow grass. Wash dishes. Vacuum house. Dust house. Clean windows. Clean bathrooms. Etc… make list of what needs done!!
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Get the belt out, and use it on their behind…
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No phone, no video, no tv, start doing their own laundry, etc you pay the bills they don’t.
My friends mum when I was a teen unhinged and hid her daughters bedroom door
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I always said I will remember that, which means the next time they want something like something from the store or a toy or to simply go outside , I would tell them I’m remembering that and say no. Did wonders with my kids
Don’t pay for phones, shut down wifi and give them rides no where. You have a short time to correct this. Eventually it will turn into something more serious. Good luck it will get worse before it gets better.
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Read Have a new Kid by Friday.
Whoop that ass. Worked when I was a kid
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Don’t Comply to their demands take away everything & don’t give it back
Sit them down one by one and go over consequences for each one of them for breaking specific rules. And tell them there are rewards for good behavior but you have to see their behavior at a best for a reward. Do not yell, speak calmly. Prove you are in charge and if they don’t do as asked their consequences will not be fun. Such as hard labor, or volunteer work.
I got an idea…paddle their cute little asses and tell’em there’s more where that came from.
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Say what you mean and mean what you say. You have to follow through, or they know your all talk
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Some kids are buttheads no matter what. Some kids can behave with just a “look”. Unfortunately, my 6 year old is a natural butthead. I wish I had advice for you, but I’m in the same boat. I too have tried everything (even counseling), and nothing works. You certainly have my sympathy. hugs
They don’t respect you, take them for a drive to CPS on
Pecos and Bonanza walk in. Tell them to come or they will come out and get you. Get out of the car go in the front door and go to the front desk/? Look out the front window an see if there squirming. If not then I would definitely talk to the security at the front. They can make a visit to the car, It worked for mine for a time. Don’t think there to big to beat there asses! Did that a few times. My children are my all, but to many disrespectful children out there take a hold know while you have the upper hand.
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I would be embarrassed to admit I can’t make my kids mind. Obviously you didn’t instill discipline at an early age. Call a cop and have them threatened with Foster care or kick their ass.
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This generally happens if discipline has been inconsistent, if there’s no benefit to behaving or if they just want attention.
Set the boundaries, be clear about the consequences (only make one’s that you can truly follow thru on), and don’t back down BUT also create a reward system so that they have incentive. Show lots of love, give all the compliments you can. Punish the behavior, not the person, if that makes sense
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You need to start when their 2.
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Take them to a family and marriage counselor and talk it out together. You can alienate your kids by being too heavy handed or not being stern enough. Let a trained professional help you learn to listen to them and vice versa. Wishing you a healed and healthy relationship with your kids.
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I think you need to figure out where all this is coming from first. Friends they have, peer pressure at school, video games, tv shows? If you don’t nip in bud early, it’s harder later on. No phone, computer or video games. Watch tv with them, homework at kitchen table. Chores, do dishes, sweep floor, etc. “Actions speak louder than words.”
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Idk what the laws are for your state but if all is not working… Whip that ass!!!
Weekend vacation at the juvenile detention center, community service, 1000 sentences a day. I can keep going.
My daughter is nine years old I have never had to whip her but she knows I mean business. You need to remind them of who is in charge.
Best of luck mama
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Thank god physical abuse of children is illegal in Ireland.
Ask yourself
How was I parented?
How have I been parenting?
What kind of role model am I?
Do I listen to them?
What quality time do I spend with them?
What are the houserules?Have the children been included in this discussion?
Have you completed a parenting course recently that’s age appropriate to your children?
What’s going on in the household? Has there been any grief or loss?
If you have a partner How is your relationship, how do ye communicate? Are ye on the same page parenting?
There are so many questions you need to ask yourself first there are so many other options before you ever get to your children’s “behaviour”. Also any professional help you seek for children is generally short term 1 hour per week What happens the other 167 hours? Start here… and remember you are only human and doing the best you can with what you know/have at the time. However, as parents we need to continually educate ourselves and reevaluate our relationships with our growing children. Also please don’t take the advice to beat your children as it’s proven to increase children’s anger/depression and self esteem issues (do some research if you don’t believe me). Anyone who beats anyone else does so out of their own unresolved anger and has lost all control which they are then putting on their own children and the cycle begins again. Yes I was beaten as a child and thank god Ireland recognises how abusive this is with life long detrimental effects.
Bust that ass
You may have waited a little late for that but it is what it is
Now you have to take control over your children I wish my children would call me names I my self would bust mines mouth and they can call cps , cops who ever but I bet you mine has 1 time and they all grown now to run that mouth at me and it be on so fast,
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Ok two suggestions I’ve used.
1). Talk it out, individually and privately. My kids hate when their siblings are witness to anything. It makes them rush through the convo and not “hear” you. Explain to them the basic “treat others how you would like to be treated”. If they continue to treat you poorly then they get suggestion #2. (YOU HAVE TO STICK TO THE NEXT TIP NO MATTER HOW PAINFUL IT IS HEARING THEM BITCH AND WHINE AND RANT)
2). Don’t “try taking their things and grounding them for punishment”. Strip their rooms of anything good (TVs, laptops, phones etc) and nobody goes anywhere but school and home. These items are luxuries and rewards for good behavior, not necessities to survive. They can be earned back. Going to school (or any other mandatory appts) ONLY. Free time at friends, the movies, mall etc. are also rewards. We have to hold them accountable! We’re preparing them for the real world and that behavior is not tolerated in normal day to day.
STAY STRONG! YOU GOT THIS!
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Imo, you started discipline too late. Discipline at a young age is necessary to avoid this behavior and other conflicts in the future. They may be set in their ways by this point. It will take a work from the lord to change their attitude and behavior towards you or any other authoritative figure. Best wishes to you. And don’t forget to pray without ceasing 
This is a very difficult age. Sometimes you can do all the right things and still be left wondering wtf have I done wrong.
I have 7 littles, ages are 20, 16, 14, 12, 10, 9 and an almost 2 yr old.
I can tell you now pre teen (tween) age can be just as challenging as the actual teen years.
You need to remember how hard it is being a tween in today’s world. The influence’s around them is massive and they all struggle to find where they fit into this world. The hormones are huge and there’s so much pressure.
I’m not saying that gives them the right to be disrespectful, but maybe try and tackle the situation with some empathy.
We have always been strict with respect, from a young age, showing respect towards others and themselves and we also need to show respect back. Once you find yourself getting angry in a situation you need to abort mission and go back when your no longer angry. It shows control, but also shows them how you want to be treated by them. I always follow discipline with a conversation on why. But if there’s anger, they won’t hear it. So follow it up once they aren’t angry.
If you give a punishment it’s important to be able to Follow through with it. Otherwise your sending mixed signals. Also give lots of love. They may tell you they don’t want it, but they need to be showed they are loved no matter what.
Good luck, this is not easy
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I have 2 boys a 9 year old and a 3 year old and they are the same way want listen for anything. I take things away,put them in time out and it comes down to spanking them and it is not child abuse it’s not like people who spank their kids is beating them I’d never do something like that. Its a part of disciplining them. It says in the Bible if you spare the rod you spoil the child. Me and my brother got spankings growing up and it never hurt us.Its not every day but when they really need it. We are a Christian family so I also tell them Jesus is watching them when they don’t listen
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Remove EVERYTHING but bed n clothes out of their room. No more money. Dont give in at all make them earn that stuff back. And the next time they start mouthing you a good hand to the mouth. Might make them understand. You are done with their poo. And if they want to threaten. To call cops go ahead and dial the # for them maybe they will see your done.
( going through the same with my 9 year old.)
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I whipped my kids butts when they needed it as a child and carried a wooden spoon in my back pocket or purse cause I wasn’t afraid to tap that ass when they got out of line, made them do wall squats when they were older, and push up position. Soap in the mouth for cursing, and to be honest a smack on the mouth when they don’t expect it works wonders. They are 24, 21, and 17 now. They will tell you they didn’t get out of line cause mamas got good aim even if you run.
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U are taking too much action
Whoop their butts. Plain and simple. It has been a part of parenting for decades…because it works.
Call u names?! So they disrespectful, mean, and rude?!
They need a good ass beating. It worked for me when i was young and my kids.
Whoopings. Make their life a living h-e double l.
I’d tell them to pack their shit up and try to do better for themselves on their own, I’d actually help them pack!!!
Throw everything they love in a trash bag and tell them it’s being donated to children who actually know how to respect their Mom. Don’t give it back right away or all at once. One item at a time cell phones being the last thing you give back. Also, put tracking devices like life 360
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Not what you want to hear but here goes:
The foundation for child rearing begins “early”. Babies may not understand much, but they know “ No…No”
And you add a little more. If you don’t teach your child when they are young, they will never have respect for you.
This post is not intended to make you feel like a failed parent
But we must do this to our children when they are small or we have done a disservice to them.
Praying you can get their respect back and they will obey and love like they should.
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Quit trying to be their friend. You can be their friend when they are grown. Be consistent and firm.
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Sorry to say you might be a little late on teaching your children respect and how to helpful family members. Maybe start by taking away things, like cell phones.
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Behavior modification is defined as “the alteration of behavioral patterns through the use of such learning techniques as biofeedback and positive or negative reinforcement.” This has had a high success rate with children of all ages. It has also had an exceptionally high success rate with children who are mentally and emotionally challenged including nonverbal autistic children and toddlers who don’t understand much language. If it was reach these kids I’m sure to can reach the average problem child.
You have to research Behavior Modification. Everyone who influences the child must be 100% consistent with the program always.
You probably started trying to discipline too late. You have to remember who the parent is and who the children are, and don’t settle for being their friends. What you allow is what will continue.
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Take everything away and lock it up and make them fend for themselves. They would have nothing other than school work and looking at 4 walls and going to bed.
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It started a long time ago. Children need to be taught respect and parents need to set limits
I love everyone’s comments it takes a village to raise at the age they are now you are going to have to stand like never before mean what you say and say what you mean it’s going to be difficult at first because you allowed some things to take place it will get worse before it gets better only if you set standards and stand on them
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You are only required to provide food and shelter. Take everything but a few sets of clothes and a mattress on the floor with sheets and blanket. No electronics period. Make them stay in their room except for going to school. Make them earn things back with good behavior
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For everyone telling her to spank them or wash their mouth out with soap, please remember these kids have been conditioned that this is considered “ABUSE”. DCFS will most definitely be called and you will be tortured by them making you feel like a sack of crap for parenting. Don’t get me wrong, I was spanked and I feel you need something to back up the “time outs” with, but I have also dealt with the DCFS located here and they have a sense of superiority, power and belief that they are “God”. If they do come to your home and request to come in, it is YOUR CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHT to tell them no (even if police are present) go get a warrant, but have your child come to the door for them to witness your child’s health. This is all based on my experience and knowledge of the legal system. But do remember that you have the legal right to take away their privileges and only supply their “needs”. This is legal and send a strong message.
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Too late for an old fashion spanking. Look at their ages. Have you ever taught them about God? Family counseling is needed. ASAP
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Love and Logic classes are not too late. Natural consequences for their actions. By the time a child is 5 years old, they have established how far they can push to get want they want. However, by having a sit down with them charting out your expectations and following through ALL the time, you may just be able to salvage your relationship with them, and their respect for you. Children need and want guidance even if they say they don’t. A parent with firm expectations for their children is not mean or bad, it is our heavy responsibility to bring up good people. If they disrespect you they will disrespect others as well. God Bless you in your endeavor to grow up good kiddos. Look up Love and Logic on line. It might help.
We were all spanked and glad for it now we all turned out pretty good I think
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Are you waiting on them hand and foot? Cooking them dinner?doing their laundry? Taking them to a friends house, the store? Stop explain that will only happen when you are respected.do you provide time for ther phones if they have them?you deserve respect .that is key.it 's a new day .i am not your door mat .my name is mom.you want favors and you disrespect me.i don’t have to bless you with free phone service, electronics, etc .you wanna act like a puke walk to the store.ccok your own dinner. Do your own wash.it’s tonight and if you dont do it , trash it.
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Parents have made a huge mistake with all these phones iPads electronics whenever they want! These kids see too much violence on them. What happened to go outside? I never see kids outside “playing” anymore. It’s so sad and how much they are missing. You are raising kids who feel entitled and very disrespectful. It will take consistency every day. Have dinner together no phones and talk. Pray together. How about a church youth group? How about grandparents taking and teaching them some old fashion work? We will pray for you and your children. You can do this!
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Set them down with you spouse and talk to them. Tell them their basic need will be met and until they can show you respect and be decent human beings that all they can expect. What mom and dad gave mom and dad can take away! Hopefully you have his support behind you.
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A nice tour/trip to juvenile hall may wake them up. My son is an officer and said many times when a parent gets their child a tour of what they are looking at in the future, it changes things.
Then teach them how to prepare their own food or for family with supervision. Positive feedback consistancy. Privilege is earned not given. Start by making them use phone or other devices in front of you. Make commits on how nice to their friends they are. Reiterate that you will have the respect you deserve. Time limits on phone, tv and toys.