How can I get my toddler to sleep through the night?

Routine :100:
I myself have a 2 yr old and putting him to sleep everyday same time has helped sooo much he goes to sleep around 9pm. I also have a routine when he eats and I make sure he has a full tummy and a bottle of milk to sleep. No naps during the day too! His dad goes to sleep around that time and I throw him in there with him and he sees his dad is sleeping already so he knows he needs to as well lol

I’m a big fan of melatonin gummies. My daughter is super restless and would be up for days if we didn’t have those.

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Try not to let him nap during the day and make a set routine like reading to him in his bed every night at the same time if possible. He needs to fall asleep alone or that’s what helped my son

I have two boys and they sleep on their own room since they turn 1 yr and 11 months… Before i put them to bed, i make sure they had a good dinner, they take their bottle with them, i have a night light by their beds, rooms temperature around 70 *, we pray and they sleeps all night…

Let him cry. After a few nights of screaming he will get the hint, and stop. He needs to learn how to self sooth, and not have you to do it for him.

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Following my 2 year never sleeps. Hes a wild child acting like machine gun kelly wild boy

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My 3year old still doesn’t sleep through… Pretty normal

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Try a weighted blanket. Worked for my friend’s child.

first of all,i feel that pain :pleading_face: my soon to be 9 year old didn’t sleep through the night for FOUR YEARS!!! i truly wonder how i made it out alive!!! (i have 2 older children so sleeping during the day was not an option!) i look back now and honestly feel so guilty bc he’d wake up and scream. i’m started to wonder if he had night terrors all those years and i had no clue (or any information on such a thing!) it still makes me feel guilty to this day. but he was bold! and always screamed and cried. so i assumed it was him being him! talk to your dr! see if there’s something they can suggest! maybe a test to run!!! good luck :heart::heart::heart: sending you love

At his age , he has lots of energy to burn. Take him to the playground through the day, plan activities, he needs activities to burn that energy There is a Toy out called Star Belly its a night light that puts stars on the ceiling . Has auto shutoff it helps kids fall asleep faster not to mention he can cuddle it. For extra security.

sometimes kidd just don’t sleep my 4 yr old is actually prescribed by a real MD his pedi doc benedryl AND melatonin n this kid I swear just thinks hes gonna miss sumthin!! I had a sibling (don’t remember if it was a brother or sister sorry :joy:) who was like this n tht was the late 80’s early 90’s so he/she got a lot harder scripts than benedryl n melatonin but i was too lazy t I read thru the comments sorry I’m sure you’ve tried these but the warm baths till it runs cold sleepy time tea (even sleepy time EXTRA has a tea now) n have the babe run a fee laps b4 his bath but to be honest (i’m preggo with my 3rd but 4th cuz of my step daughter) I believe its a phase cuz sum kids just don’t sleep

We did cold Turkey with my six year old son when he was about 4 1/2 or 5. He had literally slept in our bed next to me almost every single night since he was born. It was ROUGH the first few nights getting him to sleep in his own room. I would do a night time routine with him and then after that when he would get up I would just pack his butt back in there and put him back tonight and say “good night, love you bubbee” and go back to my room and lay down. Eventually he started falling asleep in his bed without me, and then started sleeping thru the night too because I would do the same thing when he would wake up in the middle of the night and come into my room. If he just woke up crying I would go in and tell him that everything was fine and give him a kiss and tell him to get some sleep and we would see each other in the morning after we finished our sweet sleeps. It worked great but the first probably week was rough.

Girl don’t feel bad for rocking him - my 20 month old still gets rocked to sleep, then we lay him down & he normally sleeps until about 4 am. Some nights he wakes up & needs to be rocked again, some nights he wakes up & then goes back to sleep on his own. :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Same here mama, he’s 2! Send help everyone!

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Let him sleeps with you, sleeping with child is better then no sleeping

ive used lavender baths about 8 at night also gave melatonin still do and she is 9 when she was younger i got no sleep until she started preschool and the melatonin i also had to go backwards i got no sleep went to work on no sleep if got sleep it was an hr and still went to work. bath was 8 bed was 9 never fell asleep till had to get up aroun 730 am. then later finally asleep 11pm till we got till 9pm and getting up still between 6 and 7

Put a queen bed in his room and climb in with him if he wakes up :woman_shrugging:t3: that’s what I do! Some nights he sleeps all night, others I end up in his bed - sometimes I fall straight back to sleep and find myself in his bed in the morning - other times I go back to my own bed after an hour or so. He usually falls back to sleep within minutes once I’m there!

My 2 yr old still wakes at night asking for me and wanting milk, it’s a git and miss. Yours will get there. We just put her back to bed and tell her it’s bed time and she goes back. It just the matter of finding your method. Like ours is we cut out naps and bed at 8, I’d so sooner but hubby don’t get out of work till later. Look up the Dr. Ferber methods. They worked for us to get her to say in her room unless she needed something

Bath, book, and a song. Haha struggled with this but now that my son understands that I’m putting him to bed . I can leave the room while he is still awake. If you’re there when they fall asleep they expect you there when they wake up. Good luck!

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My daughter didn’t sleep through the night until she was 4 years old and we moved to a house where her room was right across the hall from ours. :woman_shrugging:t2: she’s 19 now and most days we have a hard time getting her out of the bed. They will eventually sleep. We took naps away, ran her hard and many other tricks to no avail.

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We moved when our little was just two. She was just learning to put herself to sleep in her big girl bed. Well after we moved, we had to start the process all over again. Yes that starter with rocking to sleep and trying to transfer. Then rocking to almost asleep to where she knew she was getting put in her bed. And shortly after I could just have her walk to her bed and tuck her in and all is good. It does take time but it will get easier. Consistency is the key.

See Isla Grace Sleeps on ig. She has great resources!

You’re doing everything right, you being his support and comfort in these tender years will be great in the long run. Hang in there mama :heart:

You are doing everything right by being his support and comfort. Sleep is developmental Momma and he will get there eventually :heart:
Someday you will miss those night time snuggles and him needing you.
I also recommend you check out The Beyond Sleep Training Project.
It’s nice to have be surrounded by others who are going through the same thing and can offer advice and support.

do you still do naps? if so dont and tire him out before he gets ready for bed and try a bath right before bed

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I have a 6-year old and 3-year old. Both boys. They share a room. They refused to sleep in the bedroom and always slept on the couch. Said the bedroom was “too dark.” The living room was darker😂 we ended up taking the bunk bed apart that we had for them. We ended up doing a theme that they love for each of them in the bedroom, decorating it all, and added a lot of night light. They’ve slept in the bedroom since! Never wakes up!

I use melatonin gummies. You can buy some for your toddler anywhere they’re in a purple container or chewable from the same people starts with Z. It’s all natural ingredients

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My daughter did this . He dr prescribed a very tiny dose of melatonin to help her be able to relax not knock her out and it did wonders ! She actually slept better and woke up being happy .

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This happened to me too. I took her into her ped, and they recommended melatonin. Do not do this unless ok by your ped. She’s no longer taking it every night and sleeps all night.

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Cut out naps and get black out curtains.

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Honestly, melatonin! My kids Dr’s have recommended it for both of them. Sometimes kids just get stressed or restless and can’t shut their brain off. Do a 1mg or 3mg to start and see how you both feel😁

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Cut our naps and ask the pediatrician if melatonin would be ok. Zarbys was a life saver

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I cut out naps
Stuck to a strict routine
Use same bed time music for relaxation

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Good dinner, hot bath, Melatonin, no light orDistraction

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Aside from making sure she’s not drinking and eating before bed… no sugar for certain… a warm bath with some calm down time reading a book together in the bed followed by some low meditation sounds for deep sleep to fall asleep to in their room. Keeping TVs low for adult time and creating a peaceful environment. This always worked with my high strung boys… Every night♥️

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I had the same problem and our pediatrician recommended melatonin 2.5 mg. It worked great but he would sometimes get nightmares with it.

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I feel your struggle. My son woke at 7am, napped from 11am-1pm, and went to bed at 8pm as a toddler. Yet well past the age of 4 he woke at midnight and 4am to potty and drink more milk before he went back to sleep. Sometimes he would want a snack too so i would give him blueberries or strawberries.

He was nearly a kindergartner before he slept solid from 8:30pm - 7am. Even after he stopped napping he still woke up. Its hard having your sleep interrupted. Hang in there. They eventually do sleep.

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My son takes
Hydroxyzine by a dr hes 2 has a hard time sleeping

Cut out naps that worked with mine

Im 37 and still don’t sleep through the night. U can’t expect a 2 year old to sleep through the night

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Try giving her some things she can do by herself in her bedroom if are wakes up in the night. If she plays with some quiet toys for a while she’ll probably go back to sleep after a bit. Toddlers waking in the night is pretty normal, especially if they take day naps. It’s she naps, try reducing her nap time to only one or or less. That might help.

Talking from experience eventually melatonin will quit working and you will be right back where you started at I’m going thru the same thing with my 3 year old and she is super freaking clingy with me right I’m thinking it is because I’m about to have her baby brother but she will sleep for maybe 4 hours and be up all night till 7 am and cutting naps out probably won’t do it at least with my daughter it didn’t I’m thinkin she is feeling her little mini snooze at night is her nap and then she is wide awake for another 5 hours. So it’s a pain in the ass but I’m just hoping this is a damn phase and we will get this under control soon just like you and other mamas struggling with this shit

My kid is like this. If he falls asleep before 1030 pm he is awake at 2am and up all day. We let him go to sleep at 11pm and he will sleep all night and until like 1030am.

If all there teeth haven’t grown in rub a little scotch or whiskey on their gums

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Keep all lights and TV’s off. If she needs to lay next to you… Fine. Do not get up or coddle her during late hours. She will eventually fall asleep again.

Can you child-proof her room and make her stay in there?

Cool some boiled banana peel juice and give it to her at bed time

Is she on a schedule? Dose she wake up at a decent time in the morning? Dose she nap? If so don’t let her nap long or passed 4pm

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It’s more than likely diet related. I went thru this. No sugary drinks, snacks, or juices after 4pm helped emmensly.

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Take away day naps. Don’t force a bedtime just cruise with her routine lol my son has never had a bedtime and sleeps when hes tired . He sleeps through the night every night- some nights he’s asleep by 7, 8 or 9 sometimes he’s asleep at 10- I just don’t let it worry me. He’s nearly 3

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Magnesium is helpful to stay asleep. Most ppl are lacking. You can try Epsom salt bath.

No TV or electronics 1 hr before bedtime. Take that he to cuddle & read books to them. When they are old enough to read on their own they will continue with this routine. They have their own families now & continue with this routine, still works well for them. Good luck Mama

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Honestly, my son developed insomnia at about 2 and I was told to give him melatonin. A baby dose. Just til he established a good sleep habit. He had his “strawberry” milk before bed

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We give my almost 6 year melatonin because he is an extremely restless sleeper.

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This is common. Happened a bit after my not turned 2. Talked with his doctors and we got the melatonin chewable in the baby section at target (I cut them all in half) and I’d give him half of one about 20 min before bed and I’d lay him down at 9:30 and he’d be out by 10. Slept till 9-10am the next day if I let him. Kept at it for a couple months and now he’s back to sleeping without it! Even on nights where he fights going to bed, once he does he’s out. It’s nice to finally sleep.

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I was told the same thing about the melatonin

If she has a nap in the day maybe skip it and depending on when she goes to sleep maybe push it back by a hour or 2 ? X

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My 2 year old can be the same,however we started using a weighted blanket on her and that seems t have helped things

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My two year old is the same way, we spoke with his doctors and he’s not eating enough meats and drinking to much milk. His doctor prescribed a prescription to get him to sleep better we’ve been using it for about two weeks and there is big progress making. He also skips naps now. Good luck mama.

Maybe she’s just not ready for that much separation from you. My kid is almost 5 and still sleeps on a mattress on the floor next to my bed on occasion. She usually sleeps in her own room, but she still needs lots of cuddles and connection before bedtime, and a couple check ins before she finally falls asleep.

Bedtimes with kids are so hard, but just experiment a little and try to find something that works for everyone involved. And don’t forget to have tons of empathy for your little one, because bedtimes are so hard for them as it’s the biggest separation from you, and the most time they have to spend alone. It can be downright scary and intimidating for them. :heart:

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Would like to know details of the bedtime routine / sleep patterns and or naps so we had a better idea but… My 2 year old will still wake up randomly, I can usually get him back to bed now fairly quickly.
He sleeps in my room and it’s a huge help for my own sleep. You do what you gotta do lol
A few things you can try, if you haven’t yet…
Remove any Naps left in the day. Only sleeping is done at night. My son can’t even fall asleep in the car or he will never be sleepy enough.
Have her go to bed later, closer to the same time you would head to bed so if she does get up it’s later in the night and hopefully you got some extra sleep time in… when you reach a point where your quality of life is being affected I say throw that early bedtime out the window for your own sanity. :joy:
Try not to make her fit into a schedule that maybe is not working for her, be flexible and again your sanity and level of functioning is top priority lol

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Skip her daily nap, if she takes one

Get used to it, that’s my 2 cents. My own daughter is 10 and still sleeping with me and keeping me up :rofl::nail_care:

Our kid is 4 and has never slept through the night… oh, maybe actually 3 times, only in recent months.
She goes to bed with a melatonin, puts her to sleep quick, but always wakes between 1030 and 2. Then ends up in our bed. No matter what we try or do. If we try the cry it out to make her stay in her bed she spews.

Following my two year old has recently started doing this

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I think all kids just go through stages. They go back to waking up all hours of the night and then they go back to sleeping. Sometimes my kids sleep in sometimes they get up at 5 am. :woman_shrugging:t2:

Unfortunately this is a thing with some kids… We loose a ton of sleep as parents, not really much to do honestly bit deal with it. My son is almost 15 and was the most amazing sleeper, self soothed, slept through the night from like 6 months old. My 3 year old however, I can probably count on one hand how many times she’s slept through the night. She’s never self soothed, I spend an hour or 2 each night getting her to sleep, then she wakes up a couple hours later and I’m stuck sleeping in her bed to get her back down. I spend most nights sleeping with her in her bed. I don’t like co-sleeping so I continue to put her in her bed and unfortunately have to deal with the 2 of is in her single… Their all different we deal

Charlotte Lewsley in case it doesn’t improve one day lol

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Have you tried a strict schedule? And nice relaxing things before bed. A bubble bath with bedtime bath or other calming scents.

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sleep oils, certain alarm clocks where the picture goes from sleeping to awake to show what u should be doing, lavender bath times, try putting your shirt down with her? (my kids sometimes have nights where they cant sleep so they snuggle up to my jersey i wore that day and helps them drift off cause it smells like theyr getting cuddles from mum. is it fully dark in the room - may possibly be waking up from light?? Does she wake happily or unsettled etc? Could also be diet related. Honestly hun there are sooo many possibilities and potential solutions. I hope you find something to help. My sons adhd and eventually i just gave up and put him in with me when he was young and that helped him sleep through the night.

Two is ROUGH. So many developmental changes and sleep gets thrown off like crazy. Hang in there, Mama. This too shall pass!

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My daughter did this and she ended up having sleep apnea and needed her tonsils and adenoids removed. No sleep problems since!

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A pure lavender oil diffused. Young Living has other oils that help with sleep and even have a children’s blend that you can apply. Back of neck, end of big toe.

My doctor told me & my daughter to take melatonin because we both have problems sleeping. It’s safe for me and her to take because it’s natural and helps the body produce more melatonin to fall asleep & stay asleep :+1:t3:

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My Son would wake up and cry - I would walk in quietly ( don’t put a light on) gently scoop him up and rock him slowly back & forth in my arms - in about 5-10 minutes he would relax and I gently put him back in his crib :woman_shrugging:it always worked on those few nights he woke up - mind you he slept through the night from the day I brought him home from the hospital- I nursed and when they brought him to me for the 2 & 4 or 5 o’clock am feeding I would NOT wake him up if he fell asleep nursing- the nurses told me to tap the bottom of his feet to wake him when he did that but I never would - my thought was if the poor baby was tired LET HIM SLEEP - they had to wind up having to bring him in to me around 7 am for a feeding because he wasn’t on THEIR schedule- oh well it worked out great for Mom & Son :+1::+1::+1:

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Don’t turn the lights on. Sit in a chair (dont lay w her) (shell like it and want to enjoy ur lovenz everynight) shhhh her anytime she talks. Explain its sleepy time n shhhh not here to play or talk.

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I would only give water at these hours and rock them back to sleep at this age. Stary your night time routine ab hour later :slight_smile:

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I swear by kids melatonin. Their dr approved it. They take kids pure z and they wake up refreshed and sleep thru the night. Tbh I just called my Dr and asked no reason for a visit unless your dr wants you to come in. But just try calling and asking might save you a visit.

Kids sleep patterns continue to change periodically, mine never slept through until preschool, maybe up your childs activity level during the day, a big play in the afternoon then wind down for dinner bath book and bed, not too much tv time, calming the atmosphere after dinner helps, when she gets up put her back to bed, have a really soft glow night light, all i can say is try it dont give up, because at the moment you are allowing her to stay up when she wakes, so she thinks she can, reverse it and take her back to bed, each time and tell her its bedtime and sleep time, it works, you will get through this, shes just feeling out what she can and cant do

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Sleep regression is a natural thing as they develop more and become aware of not being with you. I used to give my kids my pj too from the previous night to snuggle with mums smell helps. No orange juice or orange cordial after 5pm makes them need to toilet more this could be waking her. Less daytime naps try 2 shorter ones 30mins max. Keep her room darker and no talking or fun stuff. Also a clock with a wake up time helped my kids similar to a dementia clock with day and night on it. It’s rough but when she wakes keep quiet clean a wet nappy or use the toilet / potty if trained. Lay her back in bed redo your usual night routine favourite story or song. Then leave the room. We had to do the increased time between entering. Wait five minutes go back in kiss cuddle and lay back down calm her and repeat increased intervals each time going up in five minutes. By the time you get to half hour they usually are asleep. If she is overly crying or your worried of course go in sooner if badly distressed. My youngest had asthma so always a struggle between attention and chest problems. Mine are now 10 15 and 18 all love quiet bed time routine and a cuddle and story or favourite tv show with mum for an hour before bed when ever possible.
Last tip trust yourself it’s your baby and you know best hope you get there soon. Best of luck keep going mama xxx

Perhaps a weighted blanket or quilt her size… (denim and quilt material works for homemade)… it’s helped my kiddo…

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No advice but my daughter is the SAME EXACT WAY. Shes don’t it her whole life (she’s only 20mo) but we have spurts where she goes to sleep fine and wakes up at 10-12 and is up for hourrrrs. I’ve brought it up to the doctor and they really have nothing to say about it so interested to here some responses. Hugs mama i know it’s so tough

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Try to minimize caffeine and sugar intake. My son had similar sleeping issues and we now have a diagnosis for Autism and a developmental delay. Try the melatonin lotion and bubble bath. If that doesn’t work, contact your pediatrician.

And my toddler wouldn’t sleep the night she had toys in a quiet place she knew she could play quietly until she was tired again if she left her room or made noise she would have to go into bed and stay there

I suggest that you give her a night time snack ,that’s what I did for my they never slept good on an empty stomach . You can also try a small cup of warm mike . Good luck and Bless you

The normal… limit sugar and caffeine. No tv after bath. Bath one hour before bed time…look for soap with lavender. They make it for babies. Play low volume classical music. Light classical… music, no singing.

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I have no kids but I do help but my neice and nephews to bed and what helped was have them nap maybe once or twice in the day and have them be very active through out the day and taking them a bath at night. But toddlers arent all the same some just have trouble sleeping through out the night just try to be constent with and try to nap when they nap to get more sleep in

Do you sleep with her till she falls asleep?
If so that could be it.
A routine is crucial as well .
A favorite blanket or toy helps or a small nite light.

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Shorten her afternoon nap. Watch sugar intake. Try not to get her excited when see wakes up. Might try classical music on low when she go to bed, leave it on all night. Listen to the music with her and have her close her eyes while she listens. and ask if she see and hears a story in the music. Choose short easy works. Peter and the wolf. Cinderella. Stemulate her . imagination and the wonder of music.

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Check with her doctor about allergies. We discovered he had the same allergies I have (dust/mold). We put on on Zyrtec and the difference was amazing!

My daughter has nights were she doesn’t sleep very well and is 2. Is ur little one just wake or crying? Little one hungry, thirsty, want mommy, need a butt change,or just has energy? Answer those questions then go from there. I personally wouldn’t give my child melatonin to go to bed but that’s me. Usually when mine get up in middle of night it’s because her 2 yr molars are bothering her. I give her Tylenol and a cold drink to help. Read her a extra story book rub her face and talk soothingly to her. And tell her it’s ni ni time and put her bk to bed no lights.

I had this twice aswell with my daughter who is 2. She had huge growth spurt and it settled after 2.5 weeks, exhausting!
A lot of kids stop to have their afternoon sleep with 2 years, so that would be another option to look into

Does she sleep a lot during the day. If so try to keep her awake and busy. She will be more tired and hopefully sleep more. My daughter was told by the pediatrician to give her 2 boys Melatonin. Might want ask her doctor about it. Does she cry or want to play. If she is playing I would make sure she is safe and let her play, have baby monitor on just in case she needs something , you can hear her. Good luck.

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My 2 year old sleeps through the night with a fan. Second it turns off he’s up.

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No naps before 2. Get her super tired during the day. Keep her up till about 9 pm for the first couple nights and up at 6 am. But make sure she has a nap during the day. Before 2. Do like at 12 then have her sleep until 2. It takes a little while. I went through this and this routine is what helped me keep my sanity. It was hard at first cause she was super duper cranky. But it works and stays that way for a while. Then you can star dropping it down to about 8 and up at 7. But the key is the nap. Anything after 2 or no nap keeps them up at night. Or they’ll take a nap at night and sleep a couple hours then be up ready to play. Good luck!

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Children’s melatonin approved by her pediatrician

I’m 65 and I have the same problem :sleeping::sleeping::sleeping:

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