If he has shown no interest, I personally wouldn’t pursue it. Yes it takes two to make a baby but both parents made an irresponsible decision in my opinion. Every single time you lay down and open your legs for someone, you take the risk of getting pregnant.
As a woman, you have many choices - contraception before hand and afterward, being more careful during, and you still have the option to not go through with the pregnancy should you conceive … and you can make that permanent choice regardless of how the father feels. Even if he were to want the baby, he gets no say at all and you’d get to do whatever you wanted and walk away afterward with no further consequences. That choice needs to go both ways. If you decide to keep the baby and he doesn’t want to step up to the plate, he should have the right to make that choice. I don’t think child support is right - and I still sympathize with the situation because not having support fucking sucks.
At the same time though, these are conversations we need to have with ourselves before we lie down someone. What will I do in the event of a pregnancy? What if the man doesn’t want to accept this responsibility? What decisions can be made to prevent that situation from happening?
In addition, filing doesn’t mean you’ll get it. That’s a whole lot of potential animosity that you and therefore your child will have to deal with. Stress, anger, bitterness, etc.
I’m sorry you’re in this situation, but I’d seriously just cut your losses if I were you. Cherish that precious baby 
You understand putting him on the birth certificate means you’ll need him in order to make a lot of decisions in the future like moving and stuff. Just file for support and let the court take over
check your county website. my county has an online application. you submit that, a local office will contact you and help you start the process of getting a court order. if paternity needs to be confirmed they can help with that too (if dad denies paternity).
File for support with the local domestic relations office: they will establish paternity for you. If he is the father proceed with support. Nothing wrong with that
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You didnt make that baby alone and you shouldn’t have to support him alone, I dont care if all the father has is 2 dollars to give per month, he should support his child. Unless you just dont want to be bothered with him at all. If he didnt want a baby, he would have used a condom. All these women making excuses for men like they should be able to make babies and never have to support them, shame on those women. Its not just a womans job to be a parent or provide for the baby. If a man is irresponsible enough to not want a baby but refuse to provide after he makes a baby, they deserve whatever happens to them. Can we support them alone, of course but why do men get off scott free? And to the dummy saying just give him custody if you need child support, what makes them think if he didnt want the baby, that if you give it to him, he would take care of it? Or not have some crazy lady abusing your chid because he resents having it. Boy these posts get me hot. Contact the District attorney or child support office, open a claim, they will arrange the DNA if he refuses. They will serve him, if he doesn’t respond, they will order in your favor. You will have to go to court to add his name to the birth record once paternity is established. If he doesn’t pay, you wont get a dime anyway, and if he doesn’t pay after a while they will garnish his pay, take his taxes, whatever to make sure he pays. I personally refused support in the beginning because he was a rapist and child molester and they told me he would be allowed to see my child and know where we lived, but the law changed and they took money from him and kept him away from us. But dont listen to women who say if you need support you dont need custody because thats BS.
If he’s contesting that it’s not his, they will want a paternity test before they start a support case
Get child support. Don’t listen to those who are CLEARLY uninformed!
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Yes go file! If he don’t wanna be in the child’s life then go for it. 
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Listen… Your child deserves to be taken care of… not just by you! He shouldn’t be out livin’ his best life while he ain’t doin shit for his child! SO YES!!! Take the proper steps and get him on child support!!
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File for child support don’t let him off Scott free this is bout youte child and the responsibility falls on both parents
Ring child support they want to know his address
Even if you put him on child support don’t expect him to pay up dead beats will always find a way to be a dead beat 
but it’ll bite him later if he doesn’t take care of his responsibilities but when you file also file a parenting plan with out one he can come and go and take that baby when ever because paternity is establishing parental rights do it but make sure you cover your butt and hold record of everything you’ve paid for the baby and how much he’s helped with the baby you could have a civil case to get some of the money you put out on your own if he hasn’t helped. And keep track of when he does give you child support for your records.
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You can put anyone’s name on the birth certificate. You don’t need the father’s consent. There is absolutely nothing wrong with establishing paternity and moving ahead with child support. You do what you need to do for you and your child. (FYI: I paid [welfare]child support to the state for 18 years, because of an evil, child abusing, neglectful ex-girlfriend.)
If he doesn’t want to be involved, you can’t make him by putting him on the BC. Child Support can’t be forced unless court ordered and even then some choose not to pay. Just because you file for it doesn’t mean you’ll get it. Honestly just put your own last name on the kid and leave him off the birth certificate, you need to think wisely how you go forward.
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If I didn’t need the extra money I wouldn’t get him in the birth certificate or dna type stuff. He could stay out and I raise my baby with full rights.
I don’t know what your state in, but here’s what happened to me in FL 12 years ago. I filed for CS because he wasn’t helping, so we had to get a DNA test done. They automatically put him on there, without my knowledge, when paternity came back showing she was his; I only found out a few years later when I had to get a copy of her birth certificate. They didn’t go after him for 3 almost years…I filed in 2013, received 1 payment in 2014 and nothing again until 2016. It’s a long process. Deadbeats will always find a way to be deadbeats though. Good luck.
The child has the right to full proof of identification via birth cert for various things such as medical history family tree history cultural history ect ect child support or not thats your child’s legal documentation and I beleive it should be filled out to your true and accurate knowledge x
Get child support your entitled to it I would he can’t just get away without supporting the child thats not fair kids are expensive you will need it , get a lawyer and enforce a paternity test it’s expensive but the cost for it will actually fall on him not you if it comes back that he is the dad , he probably doesn’t want a bill so give him the option he does it at his own free or he’ll end up owing alot of money , he can’t go for custody to spite you look he hasn’t made an effort to see the child so how can he get custody yeah right he’d be dreaming plus baby needs mum this young, don’t let people make you feel stink it’s his responsibility aswell weather he wants to be involved or not…
Get that child support. Period
If he doesn’t want to be involved then so be it. Get that money and let it go. He doesn’t have to be on the bc, so there ya go.
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i’ve just been through this process - feel free to inbox me x
Call your local DHS office they will help you with filling for free
You wont get him on the birth certificate if he doesnt agree to it
You can go after it but that doesn’t mean he’ll pay it. Men/women find ways not to pay it. So keep that in mind. Just because its court ordered, doesn’t mean he’ll pay it.
He’s not on the BC. He can make you pay for the Paternity test, refuse it, etc. You just dont go up & get child support. It doesn’t work like that.
Now once he’s on Child support. Well, he can file for visitation.
Also. He can sign his rights away. By having a baby at 7 weeks & goinh after child support? That looks like money grabbing to the courts. Which can be used agents you.
Also with child support. You dont decide the amount. Its based off what he makes. Not off what you want.
You also can’t ask him for anything more! That means you can’t ask him for food, clothes, etc. Why? You have child support. He can then report you for breaking a court order. You can’t ask for birthday gifts, school stuff, anything of monetary value.
You dont need to have him on the childs birth cert to open up a csa claim
Yes to child support, no to trying to force him to be on the BC.
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Child support is his obligation
Check your state attorney general’s website. Don’t worry about anybody else. This us about your baby receiving sufficient care.
Do it. In most counties you can file online
I would leave it. Don’t give a miserable life to the baby. Trust us who went thru it
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My oldest looks exactly like my boys father but lighter skin tone. In the ultrasound he looked like him. I have him on it w 81$ a week I’ve never er seen as he owes 250,000 probably more and don’t pay shit let alone his gf had a job who is basically his mom he hasn’t worked in over 10-12 yrs and works under the table…so basically I’m saying I’m looking for water from dusty dry well that ain’t got shit…but rat shit!
My boys are 8 & 5 my 8 yr old has him on the bus but now I’m in the process to get him off cause I need his signature for a passport and if I die he’s next of kin they both go to him but the bitch ass locked up just like the rest of us for a whole yr w Covid not 1 call or showing up for 3 years now. He lives less then 5 miles from me I got the same # & address but he picks her cause I’m a threat having 2 of his 8 kids he been w her on & off since 04 idc or want him at all I don’t want never wanted the money I was in a shelter they had me do it.
Now I’m getting g him off if I die he gets em & my money/assets & if his bitch ass can’t be here for them now while they young & im alive never said to not see em…then he don’t need shit w em when in dead either! He fucked my older ones head up saying his gf was his sister and kissing all up on her laying on a couch cuddling (w his sister my son thinks) is just mind fucked up!
My kids don’t deserve that and my family got them!
Think about what he does…not what he says
Actions speak louder then words. Mine has shown me so good I can’t hear nomore.
Sorry…good luck don’t do for u…do for the kid
Yall need to stop saying if she files for child support that he’ll have rights and custody. Not true. Child support and custody are two separate issue
u put him on bc he can take u for custody later on when he decides to be a dad n ur being a bitter baby mom. so if u atick him on it be prepared for that lol not saying itll happen but it could
Just leave him alone. Let him sign his rights away. Then you won’t have to deal with his shit for a few bucks.
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you can " clearly see thats his mini? …are you not 100 percent sure ? it kind of sounds that way. if not get a test first.
I don’t think he HAS to be on birth certificate to establish child support, if that’s the reason u wanted him on it
You have to support that baby, do does the father. Should be 50/50 anyone that says that doesn’t have kids nor is a single mother…
Oh yeah, get him for every penny girl.
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Some of these comments are rude, wrong, judgmental and unhelpful
File a civil court order child support, not through social services. On your own.
Idk about where you’re at. But in my state, if the father isn’t there to sign the acknowledgment of paternity, you can’t just put a name down, the father has to be present to sign for himself saying yes I’m the biological father of this child per my own say, and waiving any DNA testing, and I’m aware I’m putting that out there for legal and child support purposes. If he isn’t there to sign that, then they tell you the baby will have to carry your name for the time being, and you can either go get it signed yourself and then just send it in yourself and apply for the baby’s birth certificate and social yourself or they point you towards the resources to file a motion in court to have the person in question tracked down and brought to court for a DNA and it goes from there. And even then the chances of that even being brought all the way through to a person actually seeing child support is spotty and if they do make it there, i’ve seen it take years because everyone dragged their feet. They can’t really force someone to come forward and claim a child. They can just enforce against someone who already has a judgement that hasn’t been paying. Again, this is just how it works in my home state. Yours could be similar or way different just check the local laws.
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All I can say is good luck with that child support. My ex is on child support for our 3 kids he now owes me 20k.and I’m sure he owes his other kid around 30k. If he wants to make the effort he will.
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If he doesn’t want to be part of the child’s life then do not put him on the birth cert. I would file for child support, raising a child is hard and expensive and he should have to pay his way to help you.
I don’t know what state you live in, but you can petition to establish paternity and get child support without his name on the birth certificate. You can’t make him be involved in your child’s life if he doesn’t want to be…but you can make him pay you support.
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My sons dad isnt on the birth certificate and he still pays child support. But then again I never had to fight him for it but I do know that has nothing to do with getting child support. Actually you cant technically make him be on the birth certificate if he doesn’t want to sign. That’s okay you don’t need him to sign for child support lol All you have to do is go to the child support office and apply and they will serve him court papers . Or your local MDHS department I think you can even do it online. Good luck momma
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Don’t add him if he isn’t wanting to see the kid. You can still get xhild support tho.
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In my state if you don’t pay child support when you have a judgment you actually go to jail if you get pulled over if you go to renew your drivers license for any time to get you there will be a warrant for you for support
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Do NOT beg or ask a father to be in a child’s LiFE…ever
If he really wanted to be part of his child’s life, he would’ve been there already
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Do not put him on the bc. That opens up other problems.
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You can file yourself with your local child support enforcement. I wouldn’t be asking or begging him - if he doesn’t want to be involved, begging him won’t make it any different. File for support and move on.
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Depending on the state you are in. Contact division of child support and start a case with them. You may be able to do so online. Just follow up on it. They will also do the paternity test since not on birth certificate.
As far as I see it , this is just my opinion… if a father doesn’t want to step up he won’t step up, putting a man on child support won’t do you any good especially if he doesn’t want to pay it, all a man has to do is get paid under the table in order not to pay it… even if you do establish paternity , what good is it really doing to put a man on child support who doesn’t want to support the child? That’s a lot of issues waiting to happen, if he doesn’t want to be apart of the child’s life don’t force it and just be the best mother you can be and just get help when you need it and provide for your child… men can elude child support and he may even give away his rights and then he can contest against the child support, putting a man on child support doesn’t solve anything.
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I would have him sign over his rights so he can’t come back later, protect the baby…
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If you need the money then go for child support. The way I look at it is that the dad can abandon his kid and it’s not even questioned. But if it were the other way around, the mom would be charged with child abandonment or neglect. Whatever it’s called.
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You can get child support without him being on the birth certificate. If you do that and that man would take your kid and run away with him you cant even get your child back. If he hasnt met him or whatever i wouldnt put him on the birth certificate. Just take him for support ans they will either tell him to acknowledge paternity or they will do a DNA test.
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Go for child support even if you put it away for when baby is older. You do not have to put him on birth certificate. Child support office will get a DNA test for you. If he wants rights to baby he has to legitimatize baby thru court. This is the state of Georgia, now baby is 17 to 23 percent of his income. Child support does not set up for visitation, he will do that thru court.
I feel that you are probably able to get more help as a single parent, then you are going to get from someone who isn’t interested in being involved. If you have to force it, it’s going to be a terrible relationship for the dad/child. Let him have 0 rights. If he is absent but on the birth certificate it will cause all kinds of complications, like you will need his ‘permission’ to ever go on vacation or go over the boarder at all
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If you our on State they will do it all for you.Other wise go to court and get child support
Us females, we have the option to get an abortion or give up the child with no consequences whatsoever. It’s ok for us to say I’m not ready to be a mom, but a man just miraculously has to be ready. But let a man say he wants nothing to do w a child, he’s seen as a deadbeat. Why isn’t a woman considered a deadbeat when she gives up the child or gets an abortion? Everyone is quick to say “if he’s man enough to have sex….”, we’ll, the same goes for a woman. If the woman is woman enough to have sex, she should be woman enough to raise a child too.
I wouldn’t pursue anything either. If he doesn’t want anything to do w the child, that’s on him.
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In my personal opinion, you SHOULD pursue child support if the father has nothing to do with the child. You didn’t make that baby on your own and you shouldn’t have to raise that baby on your own. If the father doesn’t want to step up and be a father, then let the state at least make him financially responsible! As far as the birth certificate, I wouldn’t list him on there. Especially if he doesn’t want anything to do with the child. I have 4 children. My oldest two have an amazing dad. My son, his dad hasn’t seen him in 8 years. He pays support but isn’t on the birth certificate. I don’t have to ask his permission for anything when it comes to my son. With my daughter, she hasn’t seen her father in 5 years. He is on her birth certificate, and I can’t do anything with her. She was having some issues and I tried putting her in therapy. They needed his consent. He wouldn’t even make a phone call to give consent. Now we’re looking at taking a trip that she would need a passport for and with her being under 16, I need his consent for that and can’t get it. Leave the birth certificate alone. You don’t need him on the birth certificate to have him on child support.
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You can go to the courts & file for a DNA test without seeking child support. He will be issued a summons & will be held in contempt if he doesn’t show up. If you want to prove he’s the dad & don’t need the money just go that route.
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It baffles me to hear young women saying I’m not gonna beg him to take care of my child, child support is not begging, it’s making the dad take responsibility for their child. Voluntary or involuntary, pick your choice. No way should a woman take care of a child alone, while dad living life. Child support is for the child, if you don’t want get it for your child, put in an account for them, use it when they need it. Dad shouldn’t get a pass
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People stop with the ignorant comments.
If you get state assistance he has to pay child support. If you don’t and sri have him pay child support then you better establish custody. It takes 2 to make a child. I would make him pay but that just me. He may come around later but do know you will have battles. Go to the court house file with the foc and get a lawyers or at least talk to one.
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Go to ur local DCF office & sign him up for child support.
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It’s pretty easy in my state, you just go down to the child support office give their information. They give you both a mediation date where they ask if he wants paternity test or can acknowledge there if he’s the father. Then take both incomes, ask who has baby when. They do the math and tell them what they’ll pay then and that’s it. In my state you can request he give up his rights but he’ll still pay child support. Other than that it’s a 50/50 state custody wise. Selfish wise, no. In my opinion people assume child support is for the mother when in reality when used correctly it’s a small drop in the bucket that that goes towards what children cost. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks and do what’s best for your babe.
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I think you should at the very least establish paternity via the child support office. Then, set up a visitation/custody hearing. At this stage, it doesn’t sound like he wants anything to do with baby. But, if he doesn’t show, you basically get custody of the child and child support. It is far easier to establish this right now, because in the event he changes his mind somewhere down the road, he has to jump through hoops to even gain access to baby. You also would then have a record of his previous behavior, ie not ever showing up for visits and/or paying the child support that’s due etc, to help your case.
I think it’s wrong for someone to not ask for child support in order to keep baby to themselves. THAT is selfish. Baby deserves two parents. If he decides he doesn’t want anything to do with him, that’s his choice. But at least you gave him that option and your hands are clean down the road. Things could happen. He could change his mind once he matures and his perspective shifts. If it does, then you’ll know he’s in it for the right reasons, but you can’t force him to be a father. Prepare yourself to do this completely in your own. That way if he steps up somewhere along the line, it’s a happy surprise. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment thinking if you go for child support he will magically want to be a father.
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My daughter will be 5 in August and I haven’t recieved anything from her dad and he hasn’t seen her since she was 2 months old, so if I can do it without him so can you
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Yes, go do it now. Don’t wait.
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I’d leave him out completely.
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Why do you want him on birth certificate? You can establish paternity and get child support. No need to be on birth certificate
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Stop being bitter and nasty. Leave the child support thing alone. Message him again and see what he says, if he still says no then WOMAN UP and raise your baby with out his ass. Clearly he doesn’t want to be involved therefore making him pay child support will only make it harder for him to be involved when he’s ready.
If you live in IL you won’t see a dime in child support. My sperm donor is ON my daughters birth certificate. And his new baby momma tells the police trying to serve him all the time that he no longer lives there and works out of state, even though his ass will be standing in the kitchen. I literally gave child support services the map and key, and they hit me with that bullshit. So… Good luck, with him not even on the birth certificate.
As a M/B Nurse, he doesn’t have to put his name on the birth cert, That’s up to him, As for the DNA, I would have a judge order it, so you can get child support, As for him visiting or seeing his son, that would be up to him, also. Since he hasn’t yet, chances are, he most likely doesn’t care, So it might not happen. You also could have given your son his last name on the birth cert, when you were filling it out, even if the father didn’t want his name on it, Doing it now, it would require, going to court to change it. Also a little FYI, if all this is done & it is proving he is the father via DNA, if he dies before your son is 18, you can collect SSI for your son
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What i don’t understand is us women knows that guys loves their sex,why is that the women don’t take birth controls or other methodes to prevent pregnancy so they wouldn’t have this problem with those men.Come on girls smarten up and grow up too.
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I would go looking for him to sign his rights over, forget the child support . Like you don’t want nothing to do with the baby alright don’t choose later when he is all grown 
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It would be selfish of you and dad not to have him provide child support just because the dad isn’t interested in being a part of this child’s life. Child support isn’t payment for visitation. It is to provide your child with the needs money can buy. Your baby deserves to have the best life you and dad’s income can provide.
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You can definitely go and get paternity established and ask for child support however if he has nothing to do with the child and wants nothing to do with the child. He also has the right to waive his parental rights away which would mean he can’t see the child ever and he won’t have to pay child support either. So it’s your life and the child’s life you do what you need to do for you guy’s but know that he could potentially turn around and waive his rights and you won’t get anything from him. But if you need help as a single mom the job and family services will help you get healthcare and other stuff. W.I.C can help with formula. There’s resources out there . Good luck hun
I was able to get child support for my child without his name in the certificate or a dna test. I was in SC and this was 23 years ago… don’t know if anything’s changed. And it’s not “getting him for child support”… it’s providing for the child you both made.
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I don’t want my child’s father to pay support I just wanted him to leave me alone! He was very abusive and him getting a paternity test meant the kid was his! Which the kid isn’t his just because I don’t want to go through abuse my entire life!
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100% go for support! He helped make the baby so he can help support the baby. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for needing that help.
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Just go start paternity they will contact him to have the test done once it’s established they will start a child support up at the office then set up visitation and such …your not wrong at all u didn’t make that baby alone
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Yes take him to court he helped make the child he should help support it too
It doesn’t matter whether you want or just need support it matters if that father is responsible for that baby even if he doesn’t want to see him
Taking him to court doesn’t mean that he will pay the child support anyways
Take your baby and move on. He apparently didn’t want the child in the first place. If he did he would have been there from day one . Now you want to basically push this child into his life. That’s bad all of the way around. The baby does not need his bio dads last name. Your last name will be just fine.
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Just remember he has rights of you choose to receive support. If he’s not willingly having a relationship with this child, and you’re not together, he’s not a man worthy of influencing your child. I raised 2 boys on my own dime. It was rough but less aggravation from the unknown. Who will this man have your child around, what habits does he have that may be toxic? Best wishes.
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Go for the child support but pushing the baby at him may even make him resentful towards baby. Go for full custody though to
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Establish paternity and get the child support. When two people lay down and make a baby they are both responsible
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My daughter went thru this same thing. Her boyfriend moved 1900 miles away and left her before the baby was born. You deserve child support!
So getting child support will not force him to be involved and you don’t want to do that. You don’t want to try and force him into your kids life if he doesn’t want to be in it. Now if you feel that you want support from him go for it but there is no saying he will pay it. It will also open up the possibility of him trying for visitation or custody. He could do it just to spite you. Not cause he actually wants it. Of course he could try that anyway but he would have to establish paternity through the courts first and possibly get put on child support if he does it on his own. I’m just giving possibly scenarios here. But you gotta do what you feel is right. So if that’s going for child support then do it.
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Girl just go and get that baby what He deserves. Screw what the father thinks. There is a difference between a man and a boy. What you found was a boy. One who doesn’t want to step up and take responsibility for having having sex.
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It takes two to make a baby. Open a child support case to establish paternity and get child support to help you raise your little one. Just don’t use the child as a weapon. Keep the door open to him stepping up and being a father. Maybe one day he will step up and you won’t need the child support because you will be co-parenting and you will both be providing for the child’s needs. Good luck chicka!
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Your child definitely deserves the child support.
People who say “if you want child support you don’t need the child” are enablers. He’s just as responsible for the child’s existence as you are. Why shouldn’t he have responsibility? If you want or need child support go for it. I’ll tell you though as a mother who’s done it both ways it’s easier not to get child support & not have him listed as father. Hear me out. Yes we all know it’s best for the child to have both parents involved. Filing for CS & even having him on the BC doesn’t mean he’ll be involved. If he is involved it doesn’t mean he’ll be consistent which can mess the baby up more his non-existence. It doesn’t mean he’ll treat the baby right or love the baby. Going for a CS order doesn’t even mean you’ll get CS. He has already shown you he doesn’t care about the child. 7 weeks & hasn’t even met his own child? He’s not going to be in the child’s life. He will lie to get a low order & not pay it. He will however use your child to control you. He’ll refuse to see him unless you do things he wants. He won’t return him unless he gets way. If he’s the legal father he can keep you from moving & going on vacation but he’ll have the right to go anywhere without telling you. He can fight you on medical care, education even religion. You’re not selfish for wanting him to take responsibility. He’s selfish for not taking responsibility on his own! But do you want the stress? Really think about it. Keep in mind your baby is almost 2 mos old. If he wanted to be a father a quick trip to family court would’ve given the right be in his life. It’s not your job to help him obtain legal rights & a relationship with your child. You have enough on your plate. He can do this little bit for his child.
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There’s a lot of misunderstandings surrounding child support vs rights. If you were not married to this man, he is not a legal father. Determining paternity does not give him rights to the child but it does make him responsible for support. You’re not selfish. And if he does legitimize the child, he still can have visitation even if he doesn’t pay child support. A lot of people don’t realize that child support is an entirely separate thing from visitation/having rights to a child.
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Go file for child support, they will contact him to go get the paternity test. When it comes back his child they will start the process to get you the child support. I will tell you though that even though you establish paternity that doesn’t grant him visitation nor legitimize him or add him to the birth certificate. Those are all separate things that he will have to go to court to do.
I have been in your shoes and I wanted all the things you wanted but I learned its best not to push what you want. File the child support get that going and what he does after will show you what he is interested in with your child. You dont want to force him and him not want it and him treat your child badly when in his care
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Did he want you to keep the baby when you found out you was pregnant…
If so then yes…
if not then no
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Whatever you do please don’t start using your baby as a pawn. Once you go down that road both of you will start doing 
to piss each other off and the baby will be caught in the middle. To be totally honest I would be trying to see how I could terminate his rights and move on. He’s obviously not interested in being a parent to your baby. Once you establish paternity and get him on the birth certificate he will have rights and may try to exercise those rights. Not because he wants to parent but just to get up under your skin. 