U have less sex harmones
Take sex hormones By injction is only solutions
Go see your OBGYN could be a hormonal imbalance. No shame in asking questions. Could be an easy fix
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I would look into a sex therapist and of course a hormone level/general health check with your doc. So many things can throw off your sex drive.
If it were me, I’d start with medical and move on to a therapist who specializes in helping people get back healthy sex drives.
I understand you aren’t in the mood to do it but he probably isn’t in the mood to take out the trash for you after a long day at work or to watch the baby to give you a break right after work. You have to do things you don’t want to to keep your partner happy. Definitely get checked out to make sure everything is normal with you but I think it’s selfish to deny sex to your partner simply because you never feel like it.
I also second the dr. I have a 3 year old and completely lost my sex drive with her dad. Almost immediately after I had her. I’m actually going thru the same thing and made an apt to the Dr myself.
go to therapy consider changing birth control.
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Hurry up and figure it out before he goes elsewhere lol
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See your Doctor and explain.
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Maybe you might have to pretend you are interested ? An layback an let him do his magic 
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Increase your estrogen levels.
Have a romance party 
I’m going to just say this now, it is not your FAULT that your sex drive isn’t as active as his. Clearly you care enough to make an effort to be more intimate and honestly the best course of action would be to see a doctor/therapist to rule out hormones and other stress related causes. Saying it is your FAULT is putting a negative connotation on a perfectly normal thing that isn’t in your control
Are you on any medication like antidepressants if so that can make you feel that way, go somewhere different go for a drive, go skinny dipping something spicy, because he’s a man that has needs as well,
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Get married and go on honeymoon. Will put you on the mood
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Just do it, with no sex drive. Have to please your man
Hormones or medication or contraception:thinking: go to your go they’ll be able to help you. There’s nothing wrong with you. Having a baby is a huge deal for a start. Be kind to yourself 
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I think you have a hormone imbalance
Or got an underlying problem like diabetes… thyroid
I’m sure it can be sorted out but you need go see doc.
Also maybe change your protection ie the pill. It can cause low sex drive.
Have you suffered depression coz that can have knock on effect
Talk to a doc but until then sometimes u just gotta take one for the team whether your in the mood or not
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Have your thyroid checked
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Ashwagandha tablets help! Also, create some fantasies on your mind! Maybe stimulate yourself. You probably need to feel sexy before being into intimacy… it’s normal after kids that our body changes and we don’t feel so comfortable.
Exercise! It releases hormones that will make you more into sex!
Use massages and create time to date. Push yourself even when your not so much in the mood, sometimes doing it will wake up ur mood! Hope it helps!
Totally normal! Talk to a therapist and if you’re open to medication… it definitely helped me! Having kids is super stressful and changes everything! Be patient and kind with yourself! It’ll get better!
If no medication, maybe begin finding any time you can to be ‘alone’ with yourself … focus on you to help back to normal.
Time 
heals everything.
Aso time and therapy 
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I have this same issue! After the hormones settled after my pregnancy I have had zero sex drive since!
I don’t just have zero drive. I also get zero pleasure. It’s always been this way. I’ve never had an orgasm. I don’t enjoy sex not even a little bit. I thought it would get better as I got older, but it hasn’t. I hate sex. But I still give my man’s his whenever he wants, because it’s not fair to him that IM broken!!! 
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How can I increase my sex drive? - Mamas Uncut
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I’m sorry but this is totally normal and ok. Go with your natural flow and try not to worry too much <3 I don’t think you need to see a “medical professional” about this. Look within and discover what at the root of this feeling. Perhaps this kind of thing just isn’t your cup of tea right now and that’s ok. Connection is key and that comes in many forms and often leads to deeper intimacy.
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They do make libido pills you can buy over the counter but honestly I would talk to your doctor to find out if there is an underlying issue. Many things can contribute to low sex drive.
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Low iron level can contribute to that among other things. I agree with others about doing some blood work.
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Are you taking any kind of medication? Check the side effects. BCP reduces sex drive. Hormonal changes with age as well.
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Hormones! A woman’s body is complex! Especially after having children, being a mom, wife, girlfriend, it can affect you in a health sense. Talk to your PCP!
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Could be many things. First talk to your doctor and make everything is fine. You probably low on something or hormone issues since giving birth. Could even be meds you are taking. If all is clear I would get a small vibrator and see if that gets you in the mood, talk about your fantasies, or read a romance novel just before bed, and he is the man in the book
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Have your hormones checked and if they are ok get some counseling together don’t beat yourself up that doesn’t help anything if you love this man and he loves you work on it together don’t be sad gets your groove back
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I would say go have a chat with your gp I know your hormone and thyroid levels can play a part in that good luck hun sorry I couldn’t be of more help
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Try getting away for a couple nights wo the kiddos see if that helps. It might just be uou are do tired from taking care of kids, him and house you are just tired
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Read some juicy novels that ignite things, or watch movies, shades of grey. Sometimes as a tired, stressed mumma you need to find you again. Your normal, dont stress. Work out what you need to feel sexy and allow it.
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Ok not your fault but seeking medical professional advice is needed, I hope you can figure it out, I’m so sorry.
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Get off from those contraceptives they affect many women… 2 you should find what realy attract you from your man. Hold on to that. Try not to stress much just always think positive find everything that makes you happy be it being around people who make you happy be watching programs on tv or listerning to music or just have a walk in the park… If you free your mind your body get relaxed… Lastly have a day in a week that you sleep more than 10hrs maybe you are overworking yourself and hasnt have enough sleep since you gave birth…
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Make an appointment to see your doctor. There could be many factors as to why this has happened. Good luck xx
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He should propose you to be your husband. You are tired because of your 2 years old AND insecure because of your longtime boyfriend who doesn’t marry you. He has no sex because he doesn’t deserve it from you. It’s not your fault lady!
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Buy some candles and 
wine,soak in a hot tubbie while drinking it. Hand him some baby oil and remember why you fell in love with him
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Go to the doctor I’m sure you are low on estrogen or something it’s probably an easy fix go to your doctor
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I was low on vitamin D . It helped when i started taking some… they have other stuff you can take too
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Depression can kill libido, but ironically, so can SOME antidepressants in SOME people. No need to go through life feeling this lack of sexual desire Seek out medical and/or mental health assistance.
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My wife was on a medication that made her have no sex drive… We figured it out and the doctor switched the medication… Shes starting to slowly come back to her old self… If you are worried about it talk to your primary and maybe try a counselor as there are many reasons why this happens.
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Could be low in testosterone, worth getting hormones checked.
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You can take damiana it’s natural and it increases your sex drive. I took it for sometime. They also sell olly lovin libido at Walmart which works good. The great thing about it also is it helps with mood and stuff as well. I like this supplement because you don’t have to take it forever and it’s natural, I take antidepressants and my sex drive was gone completely it was the worst. And this stuff really helped me.
Your not alone I’m exactly the same but I have 3 kids and after my last I’ve had 0 interest in being with my partner
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It might be hormone imbalance - that’s what it ended up being for me and Dr said not abnormal to have it happen - very easy to correct
My sex drive dropped and once I got help with my depression and me and him worked on building non physical intimacy, the physical part just picked right back up like it had never left.
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A 2 year old takes a lot out of you. Have a couple of glasses of wine or a couple of beers and get a nice buzz on. That should help.
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Tequila shots will do the trick 
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Maca root and little mj helps me I lost my edge after my boys
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Adrenalin, endorphins, serotonin all feel good hormones that are released after exercise will make you feel like you want it. But like all is saying here its definitely a hormonal imbalance speak to your Gynae they will recommend something like a libido booster or send for blood work for thyroid or iron. Let us know what worked.
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You are not the only one going thru this situation. I’ve been married for 32 years and I feel the same like you. I 've been experiencing this feeling for over 10 years and we are still together. We have two kids that are adults now. The Dr told me that I have menopause and that this is normal. Don’t feel bad about yourself
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fake it till you make it….just do it and make sure he knows your spots….you’ll climb back into the saddle…
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There are different things which can effect your life and body… first you have to look at your diet… there are good natural diet for increasing what you want… second thing is your Partner’s interaction with you… it also effect the intimate relationship… third is your mind, like if you have lots of going on your mind you can’t focus on anything… so start from your diet… like taking onion in day time extremely increase S drives, and many others things too
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In my opinion, I think you are tired. If your partner regularly helps you with your tasks, it goes a long way toward making sure you have enough energy left over to feel like being intimate. And intimacy is not just sex…it’s the little things. Like scrubbing each other’s backs…making a point to stop what you are doing to do that task. Can I wash my own back? Of course! But he enjoys it…
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Lost my drive after hysterectomy we have tried several things… Gyno dr and you should have an open talk…or with nurse… But open up with a dr. If they can not help they will send you in a direction…
Diet
Exercise
Suppliments
Are all factors as well as mental and little things could unknowingly be getting in the way. Sometimes it takes talking to a counselor to figure it all out. Good luck and inbox me if you ever want to talk !!!
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To be honest it’s the opposite with me I have the sex drive and he doesn’t due to his meds. It’s rough but he has to understand that. But if u truly want to have one then a medical professional is the option
Its totally normal. They habe oils and such to help with that but i would also say go talk to your female doc about it too
Sounds like low testostrone levels. Yes women have testosterone guys…go ahead and get jealous!
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I haven’t had a high sex drive before my husband and I had kids. Now my libido is in the dirt. We have sex maybe every 3 to 6 months lol. But for us that’s ok because we both agree we rather like spending time together and with our kids rather than between the sheets. But its not that simple for everyone. But change in sex drive is normal but If its concerning consult your doctor. 
good luck!!
Maybe have a date night… Dress up a little sexy drink a little wine
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Find yourself a doctor familiar with female hormones. It’s not just estrogen that changes, there is DHEA, Progesterone and testosterone. If they are out of balance you will be…out of balance with your body. Any practice that does women’s health, some diet practices also, because hormones affect weight.
You need a full hormone work up. If this is starting now and you don’t take care of it you will be menopause miserable very early. Good for you recognizing it now.
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Are you taking meds. For depression? Have you tried taking a multivitamin? Talk to your doctor. He/she can come up with some ideas.
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first make sure it’s not a medical or psychological thing (hormones, serotonin) or just plain being tired. Try scheduling a couple of days a week, like a date night, etc
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Fix your hormones. Try watching porn together. Talk fantasies. Spice it up. Next introduce toys if that’s new territory.
Nothing wrong…either you don’t care for sex from your partner or you don’t love him . Maybe you want to be with someone else. Do they have viagra for women. ?
It’s NOT your fault but it is your problem to fix. Make an appointment with a good gynecologist. Don’t feel guilty. It’s a chemical issue secondary to childbirth for some women and it’s fixable.
Start watching Outlander on STARZ or Netflix. Jamie & Claire will get your motor running!
you better read some good books or fanta size also caffienne can help
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Have your estrogen, testosterone levels checked.
I have 2 children and now I can’t feel anything which is causing a low sex drive. I really don’t know what’s wrong.
Are you on the depo shot or nexplanon for birth control? That could be why
Go to your doctor and have a discussion. They can test your hormone levels. Something may be out if whack.
What meds are you taking?? Look up side effects.
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I would consult the doctor and if you have extra money maybe a sex therapist
Just asking, was it great before the baby? Or have you always felt like this.
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You have had a baby and its totally taken it out on your hormones and your mental health.
Having a baby can be different in many ways for differant mothers.
They have been thru an ordeal that they wont forget and aretrying to be parents and good ones,with deaing wth feeds,sleepess nights…ALL this put ALL else to the back of your mind and is not important…
Thats what your telling your body.
IT IS…SO TRY TO MAKE TIME FOR YOU BOTH.
EVEN IF ITS JUST HOLDING HANDS ON THE SOFA
GETTING A MASSAGE ON YOUR ACHING BACK…GET HIM TO FILL BUBBLE BATH…WASH YOUR BACK…TILL YOU ARE RELAXED
THEN TAKE IF FROM THEIR…IT WILL RETUN BUR DONT RUSH IT
Go see your gynocologist… hormonal changes could a start.
See a physician to check your hormone levels
Best of luck. Ask doc. And date night. Maybe even re create first encounter together?
Get a hand held shower massage, and use on your private parts. This should stimulate your organ. Kids of ladies do this.
Not sure how old you are but see if you’re going through menopause
See your physician… explain the problem. This is a fixable issue
Maca root. Alkaline water. Cut back on sugars and starches. Make sure your getting ample vitamins and nutrients (raw foods, priority for produce and fruits)
Edit: and like someone else said maybe some “mj” and help loosen up in addition to a diet change. If you’re not physically getting wet and such it’s definitely gonna dial back to diet and hormones (affect by diet) but if there’s also a mental block from the insecurity, loosening up can help to be open to the foreplay that could help your libido.
Edit: also if you’re still breastfeeding or stopped not too long ago, that affects your libido as well.
Please why would you ask on Facebook. You nerd to see your gp… Who will be able to help no one on Facebook can… Fact
Trauma?
Fibroids?
Anemia?
Low libido?
could be something medical you are not alone
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See your doctor.
Don’t waste another day. Life is too short.
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go see your doctor- and take vitamin B complex- that will help with energy and mood.
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Talk to your Dr. It is a hormone thing. It is normal in some women, after the baby arrives.
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Think of someone, tom hardy or something… Over the years I’ve slept with em all
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Shake your head at me, I don’t care. For me, I smoke a bit of weed. Don’t know why but I get frisky feeling.
Defo try a weekend away without the baby x good luck
Im thinking diabetes but go to dr.
I had to get rid of my husband and BOOM it was back 
sorry!! Lol xx
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Thyroid can cause this also
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Try role playing at least he’ll be satisfied and appreciate the effort