Throw that phone away get your own per paid one and get out its abuse why do you have to ask him to go anywhere without his permission stop allowing him to think he owns you
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Call your family and tell them what he is doing. By staying, your kind of allowing this to continue. Literally, set everything up when hes at work. Save as much money as you can and get out asap. This will only get worse. Anything material can be replaced. Contact a womens shelter and talk to them. Use the payphone on the street to call if u dont want to use your cell phone.
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Turn your location off and leave, even on foot if you have too. Once you are somewhere safe smash the shit out of that phone and NEVER look back.
You pack up your stuff and leave . I did it and move 2 states away .
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Take your child and walk away.
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Have your dad get you abs your kiddo tickets!!!
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Do they have a shelter in your town for abused moms and kids This is mental abuse. Just as damaging as physical Get out now .You ate teaching your children it’s ok to be abused. You only have one life.Leave now.
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Contact your family. Get a train or plane ticket and get out of there. Leave his phone and leave his car. Never look back. I will pray for you and your child.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Being in an abusive relationship is terrifying and it’s hard to see further in the future more than an hour or two at a time. I agree with the others that have suggested reaching out to your dad. Whatever the reason it is for not speaking to each other, this is bigger than that. If he tracks your phone and your texts, there’s a free app called ‘Text Free’ and you can get a random number and text and make phone calls using it and it’s not attached to your real phone number. Use that to text or call your dad and keep it simple but get the urgency across that you’re in trouble, you’re scared for you and your child and you need his help. Ask if you can meet while your boyfriend is at work. If for whatever reason your dad just flat out doesn’t respond, what is the relationship like with the people you babysit for? Is their a mom or a dad over there that you trust who you could talk to? Even if it’s just someone you can document things to in case you ever need someone to back you up in the courts, etc. or that may be a safe place for you to possibly meet with your dad with them there?
Reaching out for help in an abusive relationship is so hard but you and your baby deserve safety and stability away from him. Document everything, reach out to your family no matter how far away they are. I know if I called my family all the way across the country, they would rally around me to get me the help I needed…I pray yours will too. A burner phone is a good idea too, you can get them for $20 and use it to reach out to someone.
You can absolutely do this and get through this 
Go to police & they can get you to a domestic violence shelter. They have programs to help you recover emotionally & help you financially start on your own.
Take the car it doesn’t matter if it’s in his name you 2 are living together as a married COUPLE the cops will tell him it’s a civil matter. When my husband was heavily drinking he would take parts off of the car and the cops told me they can’t get involved because it wasn’t a crime.
Ate was a fat thumb mistake correct are.
Pack only what’s yours.
Leave everything of his behind. And contact your family. Regardless if you take a bus or a train or they meet you or you walk a bit. You need out now! LEAVE while you still can.
If its all his…grab the child an leave !!
You need to leave before he kills you and your child
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Write it all off and run. It’s material crap you can replace sooner or later. It will be rough for awhile but feeling safe is worth it.
You don’t own your child either, lady. Children aren’t possessions.
But just take the child and leave.
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All the worries about the cash, the phone, the paperwork, the things, and the feelings are excuses not to go and a way to hold you. All you need to take with you is your child and your life. Either to your family or a shelter… Go. And don’t look back or contact him for anything.
You guys aren’t married so that being said he doesn’t have custody of your baby. You just gotta leave all that you both built together that’s under his name and get out with your baby. Live a happy life with your baby
You are not a child You are not his property.You need to pack up two little suitcases and get on a bus to your family.You can call some shelter for women and get help.Do not be scared to leave.Just be smart about it.
Find a domestic violence program in your area or a hotline.
Call your dad when this monster is at work and have him come get you and your kid take as much as you can with you and any cash in the house back your phone up
To iCloud and wipe your phone clean and leave it behind then get a restraining order
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Call the non emergency police line and tell them your situation. They’ll help you get out and to a battered women’s shelter. After that it’s one day at a time. One moment at a time. Don’t forget to get emergency full custody of your child/children.
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This is mental abuse. Pack up and leave They have womans shelters available in most towns. Good luck.
Contact family from work from different phone. When he’s at work snag some money and leave with what U can get on a plane or train, and either go to shelter or home. Try to talk to your dad, he may be OK if you are getting you and baby safe. Just make sure you do it all at once. Your stuff is replaceable, your lives aren’t. Only tell the ones directly involved. inform your job later. Hugs and best wishes
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If I were you…i know it’s hard…but start gathering some solid evidence…eg copy of text messages, recording of phone calls or conversations etc save them somewhere safe …then make a run for it…either through your dad, or the police or on your own…get the little princess out of that hell…once u r out u will start wondering y u wasted so much time with him
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Leave your phone sitting on the table. Pack your necessities, and get on a bus/train/plane back to where you are safe. There are organizations that can help with travel. Do it and never look back.
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Speak to dad, and leave asap. It will not get better!!! Good luck and God bless <3
Thier are people who can help u.
Look into a womens shelter. And get out. Dont look back… That or go w family. Wipe the phone clean and leave it behind. You can get new stuff for you and your kid. Also go for emergency full custody of your child. Good luck!
Head to a shelter. And go from there if it’s that bad.
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File for child support and get a room for rent
Find a local womans shelter to domestic abuse center.
Here’s a number you can call
Domestic violence
1 (800) 799 – 7233
Women’s law email
https://hotline.womenslaw.org/
The WomensLaw online helpline provides basic legal information, referrals, and emotional support for victims of abuse.
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Sending so much love your way. You are a strong woman who is in charge of her own life, not him. Find a organization that will help you get away. What you want in life is what it manifests to be. That’s the gift of life. 
Go to a woman’s shelter and start over. Praying for you.
He’s a control freak and you are an enabler
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Book a plane ticket and leave, have a family member book the ticket for you. I was in an abusive situation just like yours except we have 4 kids and my family only lived 30 minutes away. I literally started packing everything I could super fast as soon as he left for work then I left and kept my phone off for 2 days so I couldn’t get manipulated to going back “home”. Dont wait just leave.
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I was you 6+ years ago, but with 2 kids. I had no car, no job, no nothing. I called a local dv hotline and they provided me services. They picked me up if need be, brought me to the courthouse to file a order of protection and he was removed from the house and the court ordered him to pay the bills for x amount of time. I thankfully had a family member buy me a very cheap car, got a job and started from the bottom. I worked my ass off but I got there. I now own a house and he is living in his sisters basement. You got his mama.
Weird question for the poster. Are you religious? Like go to church? Most churches will help as well. My good friend just got out of a really bad relationship. Her catholic church moved her over night
He is a narcissist, He doesnt own you get your own phone and number if he doesnt like it he can leave. But depending on where you live you can leave with your son and he has no rights to that child/ren and will have to go to court. There are shelters and places that will help.
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It sucks, I know, there are women and child recource centers and shelters you can go to, they will help you gain your independance.
Get help. I was in an abusive relationship . You and your child deserve better. Reach out to a local agency if there is one in your area that helps people in your situation. God bless. Im me if you need too.
Is there any “secret” women’s housing there anywhere? (Its kind of self explanatory, but, its a house for just women & their children who suffered abusive relationships and need a place to go without being found)… if it gets real serious you can call the cops while he’s gone one day and then they can escort you to such a place! I would suggest getting out of that relationship girl, you will need to be extremely secretive about it… because if he finds out, you dont know what he’s capable of
I’m sorry but you need to talk to your dad, tell him what is going on. Abuse only gets worse with time.
go to a dv shelter make sure u have all the important papers for u and ur child . if u call the police from home they can take u to the dv shelter
I’ll bet your family that is 28 hrs away would help come get you because they prob know your in a bad situation and are just praying you get out. When this happened with my mom our family from everywhere came together to help her move while he was at work.
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First of all I want you to know that I’ve been in your shoes. And I know how it feels. You feel like you can’t get out. You feel like you can’t make it on your own IF you do get out. You feel like it’s an impossible feat to just get up & go. He has you emotionally beaten down.
Now please listen to me carefully. And believe it because it’s 100% true.
You CAN leave. You CAN find a way to get help. You CAN - You CAN.
Get in touch with your Dad (unless he’s abusive too) and tell him you need help. Even if it’s just a ride to a woman’s shelter.
Call those friends you say you lost. I bet if you tell them you are leaving they will help you.
If you can’t get help from your dad or friends you need to make a phone call. From work or wherever!! A simple phone call to a CRISIS centre or Woman’s Shelter will change your life. They will help you! That is the hardest move, the first move. Everything after that will fall into place. And a crisis worker will show you the way to move forward.
ASK FOR HELP.
ACCEPT HELP.
DONT GO BACK.
MOVE FORWARD 
DONT GO BACK
KEEP MOVING FORWARD:fast_forward:
You GOT THIS
You CAN DO IT!
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Start tucking away some of that work money. Tell him you have to work some day that you don’t, ‘forget’ your phone at home and go get a prepaid phone in your own name. If you have friends in the area, even old friends who you haven’t seen for a long time, contact them and say you need help getting out of an abusive relationship. Maybe someone can host you and your baby for awhile.
If you are on good terms with your extended family, tell them the same thing. Let them know what is happening. Maybe they can help you organize a ‘visit’ for a week with you and your child, frame it as giving your boyfriend a break from parenting. Then when you get there, just don’t go back. Is he tracking your car with gps? Maybe go to a known location, find a nearby retail location that you can walk to, or a bus stop, and call a cab or take public transportation to get somewhere that you can arrange these things. Make sure you have cash on your person if you do this.
Cut your losses and don’t look back. Reach out to a family member even if they aren’t speaking to you. Chances are, they aren’t speaking to you because of that dude and would be happy to help you get away from him.
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Pack up ur clothes and kid and walk away. Go to women’s shelter. They will help u from there. Call non emergency for a ride?
When you have to go to work, park at work, leave your phone in your car. And walk to the closest police station. Tell them you and your child need help. Make a plan. Use someone else’s phone or a prepaid phone to contact your family from out of town. Go to your dads. Tell him. Tell him everything. Leave everything behind. While he’s at work even. Take you and your child and disappear. Without his phone. Buy a new one. File police reports.
Then you’re gonna get busted asking questions. Some of these sound so fabricated. 28 hours? So specific. 
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I agree with everyone’s advice. Just know YOU CAN DO IT! It may be hard but you and the baby will be better off. Don’t allow him to mess with your head any longer. You don’t deserve it, you can live without him, and you will be just fine. Have faith. Prayers for you.
Simple. When he leaves to work, grab enough stuff for you and your baby, mostly your baby and leave. Leave EVERYTHING. Start from scratch! All that stuff is replaceable. It’s only going to get worse.
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Call your local women helping women in your city. They will help you. I hope you’re able to safely leave before something happens to your baby or you! I’ll be praying for you and your baby. Keep us posted. Never ever let a man control you, you and your baby deserve better
It honestly really depends on the state. Yall have a child and live together. Call the copsm put a restraining order and get a domestic violence case worker asap. Youll be in that apt while hes out because technically youre in the middle of a domestic partnership. So when he leaves. Cause a restraining order… Hell be locked up and he has to find somewhere to go
Run!!! He’s a psychopath.
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How’d you manage to squeeze this in if he tracks everything??
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If you really want out there are options and assistance and help available and I wouldn’t let finances be the thing that kept me in a situation like that personally. It definitely won’t be easy, you’re going to struggle, a lot, you’ll probably feel like a failure at times even BUT in a year, or however long it takes to get on your feet and get yourself mentally and emotionally healthy again, when you look back on what it takes you to get yourself and your baby out of this shitty life you’ll realize it is worth it. Call your local jdfs, call DV shelters and organizations, FIND ANY HELP THAT EVEN REMOTELY PERTAINS TO YOUR SITUATION AND DON’T BE TOO PROUD TO TAKE THE HELP! What you’re describing is the exact reason these places exist and they will help you!
When he’s at work leave your phone at home so he can’t track it and take you and your baby to a shelter. Or call your family back home and see if someone can either buy you a plane or greyhound ticket and go home if you can.
Leaving is the hardest thing until you leave then it’s the easiest thing ever. I was with my ex for 8 years and I was scared to leave him because we had two kids together and guess what. Your life and quality of life is what matters more. Take your paycheck and buy a bus ticket or plane ticket and get out of there. The phone is replaceable. The clothes and whatever else is too. What’s not replaceable is your life and your kids’ lives. You can do it. Me, when I left I had a bag of my stuff and one for the kids stuff. What I lost was nothing compared to what I gained!!!
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Reach out to a neighbor. Leave your phone at home and go knock on a neighbors door with your child and beg them to help you or contact the police for you so they can help you.
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While your at one of your jobs get number of shelter…
He must work…while at work get few things together hide it somewhere easy to get to…while he’s away get child into a cab and get to shelter from there they will help you…or call family from one of the houses…if you explain to them or give them few dollars for call I’m sure they would allow you to use so no tracking done on your phone…stuff can be replaced…I know I left with hardly anything
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Shelter, police, get to the family 28 hours away, and maybe cut off contact…for a start.
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It blows my mind that some women can be so ignorant. Do you guys not realize women have what little bit of a life they have left ruined by abusive men when they leave regularly? That they’re scared they’ll be killed…because they are, regularly, along with their children? Or left disabled and disfigured and traumatized? That abusive men manipulate courts and get access to children all the time? She didn’t allow shit, she isn’t enabling shit, and now she is asking for advice on how to escape as safely as she can while she’s an emotional wreck in a poor mental state as a result of years of abuse from this man.
Run baby run… I know what you are in and i didn’t know how to get out but i some how did… I can’t tell you how but can tell you that you can… Its not easy but worth it… I have my life… And you can have yours… You are worth it… You can leave… Be safe and hugs…
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My advice is to get a hold of a family member, explain your situation and find a way to them, such as having them pick you up. Tell your family not to mention you and your child on social media at all, and leave no traces of your whereabouts on social media. Do not explain anything to him, be gone when he gets home one day. When you get to your destination, apply for assistance and put random information, that your child was abandoned by their father or that he is abusive and you’re running for you and your child’s safety when they seek child support.
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Go to a womens shelter with your baby and leave everything behind. They will help you til you get on your feet. Best of luck to you.
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Well. Throw away your phone and take your baby and hop on a bus and go to your familey.
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Been there and it’s scary… leave and don’t say anything to him because it might just make him mad and he might end up hurting you n baby. Can you borrow a neighbor’s phone so you can call someone to get you to a women’s shelter? It wouldn’t hurt to call non emergency to see if a police officer could be there while you leave from that location… I mean that’s what they’re there for…
Next step would be for u to get back home asap to where you’d have support though. Don’t wait around… it will only get worse. Believe me.
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reach out to your nearest police station the will put you in touch with domestic violence people who will help you in many ways including getting out x good luck
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A women’s shelter will pay for your bus ticket as long as you let them know you have a safe place to go to. Call the non emergency police line and ask for a ride or escort to the shelter.
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Call for help then get you and your child out. It is better mentally to have nothing then stay with him. It will escalate to physical harm if it hasn’t already. Just the fact that you have reached out for help here, says you are ready to leave and you are braver than you think. Go now, you deserve so much better. Good Luck.
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Call a dv help line from a ph box when u r safe enough to do so x
Pack your shit and hit and dont look back. You and your child will be better off
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Can’t you call someone while you are at work ?
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Get out,your life not his,start with save little money get your on phone an so on then one day leave while he’s at work
Oh and call your dad he will step up
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2 things he doesn’t and never will own you or your child. Because you work to nights a week gives you time to plan. Use your 2 nights a week to your advantage. anything you write down do not take home with you. When you are ready get to a shelter leaving the phone behind because he will track you on it. Play everything as normal any slight difference he will notice. Good luck and stay safe.
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Honey get out when he goes to work go to a neighbor’s house and call the police to a homeless shelter for you and your daughter call one of your friends up he is really clearly a bad guy for you don’t go to the homeless shelter in your town I surely wish you the best I feel so bad for you 
praying for you 
and your daughter
I would make a new start in a New Town no contact with anyone yet he will go to your dad’s and your family your friends baby just make a new start where no one knows good luck sweetie
Ring a dv help line and get a safe plan to leave don’t try to leave in your own that was the worse thing I did xx
It is now illegal to track your spouse or partner. It is classed as stalking. The fact that you state that you talked him into ‘letting’ you get a job shows that he is a control freak. Despite having nothing and it is hard, I’ve just been through this myself, you need to leave him. What got me through was that i am raising a little person who is going to follow in the parents footsteps. I hope it all goes okay for you xxx
Pack a bag when he isn’t home. With musts. Ss. Birth certificate. Couple of outfits. Baby needs. Diapers/wipes. Food. So take the car to walmart. Tell him its for diapers or something. Get a prepaid phone. Leave one in the car. Call the none emergency police. They have shelter they can help you get into. There are plenty shelters that help you get on your feet. Get a job. Etc. However you will need a new job. Also i’d file for fully custody asap. If you go to the court house there should be someone there to help you figure it out. Your man can threaten you all he wants but until there is court papers that state who gets the baby and all he cant take her. Cops can’t do anything until there is court order. If you are in a shelter. They will protect you and tell you what your rights are and what you need to do.
Make a plan and leave - it’s hard to do and to leave everything behind. But your sanity and wellbeing of you and the child comes first. It’s hard, but in life we can always start again! Ring your dad, explain what’s been going on and I’m sure he will take you and your child into his home and look after you until you are back on your feet. Just take what’s yours personally and the child’s and go! This will only get worse the longer you leave it. He doesn’t own you or your child - the rest he can keep and shove up his ass!
Run woman! Just run. Hes obviously controlling beyond belief… just go, I’m sure theres help out there! And theres good men too. A real man holds a woman up and supports her, we dont lock them down
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I walked out of mine after 21 years I had no money no car I had my 7 kids and out clothes but with God’s help I made it but we had peace of mind and were happy I went to my moms house and she took me and the kids in it was hard but we made it and we are very close I got not one penny in child support
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Take the kid and go. Starting over is hard when you have nothing, however it’s just so easy to stay where things are provided so you don’t have to struggle. Do the work get out. There are women’s shelters, income based housing (yes even if you have no job you can qualify), food stamps, tanf, wic, daycare assistance, help finding jobs, and so many more programs that are there to help you get where you need to be. And if you just gotta pack a small bag and leave with nothing so you can leave when he’s not around do it. Everything can be replaced.
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Look in to shelters for women and ask them to help you get back home
You need to leave everything behind, contact your family ask for help, take your kid get on a train and move back home with your family leave your phone your car and start a fresh.
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Do you have a transition house anywhere around where you live? You could take the car with you child and go there, even if he knows you’re there he will not be allowed to go
Get out!! You can get new stuff. He’s made it Almost impossible for you to leave. Just pack your clothes and go.
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Is your father not speaking to you because of him? I’ve been your dad. It’s hard to watch your child be with a person like your boyfriend. You eventually give up trying to help because they dont listen!
Call your dad. Swallow your pride and ask for help.
I don’t really know what advice to give other than maybe try googling to see if there’s any local shelters around where you’re at, and if so, call them and explain your situation and see if any of them would be able to get you and your child… And if so, set up a day with them to do it, and when he goes to work that day pack all the things needed for the two of you and get out of there ASAP! Anyway, I pray if my suggestion doesn’t work, that God finds another solution for you that does work!!
Run far. He did all that to control u so u couldn’t leave. Honestly cut ur losses and start over. Buy bus tickets to ur family
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Go to a womens shelter and then write this on your divorce papers so he can pay you alamony
Find a way out you can start over your young you will find once you leave there are people that will help you not while your with him your be suprise
You got your baby, that’s all you need. Grab essentials for you and baby, and go to the police station. They will do everything they can to help you get in a safe place.
Are there any mothers in your neighborhood with a car? You don’t need a friend to go to a police station and ask for help. Do NOT take your cell. Tell the woman you’re escaping a man who has taken everything to ensure you’re trapped and you need a ride to the police station. Then they will take you to a safe haven for abused women. Then go from there. Or call your dad. Or call your mom and tell her to send help to you. Desperate times call for desperate measures.
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