My youngest is 13. I’m a single mom, so phones are a requirement since I work full time. Yesterday it came to light she and her friends have been sexting with supposed teens. Turns out one particular who was going by Sam, is a married man in Alabama!! How do I make her understand people are evil? What’s the scared straight tactic for teens who just seek attention for social acceptance?
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Put parental restrictions on her phone or get her a jitterbug.
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Report that married man to police please, he’s obviously a predator and she isn’t his first victim
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Get her a a basic phone so she cant.
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Turn off texting and block her access to contact anyone she doesn’t know
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Make her watch the first 48
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Start by reporting the man she had been sexting. Show her a film called megan is missing. It’s a true story and itll scare her right.
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Get a flip phone with no texting
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Show her some stories of girls her age doing the same but having worse outcome. Not like graphic…but like discovery i.d. channel. They’re like documentaries
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What my dad did with us girls was take us to the cops and let them explain what could happen with all the sex trafficking
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Wow she’s sexting at such a young age😨.
Scary thought but be strict and don’t allow texting
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It is so hard now. I would get a monitoring app for her phone. Can you have a friend pretend to be a teen to show her how easy it is to be fake?
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Google and you can find some teen girls have actually been charged in the past with distributing child pornograohy for sending nude pics of themselves. They’re under 18 so it’s illegal regardless of if she sends them herself (same for boys!) of course laws vary by state
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Make sure she also knows that she can be expsosed in whichever light they see fit. At anytime they can release photos if sent and also private conversations.
It is a scary world for young girls (and boys) and sometimes you have to let them know exactly what can happen.
Teens are usually private and dont want to be exposed. Just tell her all the dangers… Over and over.
Find some videos of teens that have been exploited. They talk about what happened and how. They warn and educate young ones…
Good luck
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Have her watch investigation discovery there is a show called web of lies. It’s about people who have been murdered while talking to people online.
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Ask your local police station if you can bring her in so they can explain to her she will take them more serious as teens don’t always listen to parents.
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I’d be getting her the little watch phone for kids. She can only call 4 people you put on it and no texting.
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Birth control and a flip phone until she can learn. Or take the phone away as punishment for a bit.
Woop her ass and do t let her see any of her friends tell her friends parent what happened take her phone away tell the police about the man…
I would call his wife
She is 13 not 18. Restrict what she has access too. She wants to put big girl panties on then show her the real world. Research and make her watch and look at dead women, teenage girls. Talk to families and parents who have lost young girls to this type of behavior.
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Also you can take her phone to the sheriff office/pd and report it. Or tell her if she does it again you will report it to the police.
My sister in law was doing this when she was young so my MIL called the cops & one came out & took her phone away to get the evidence off since she was sexting grown men. The police officer was pretty straight foward & stern & told her all the potential danger she was putting herself in & made her promise to him she wouldn’t do it again. He told her if she did, he would find out lol. It scared her straight 
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And tell the other girls parents.
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Contact your local PD. Make a report and ask them if an officer would be willing to talk to her. Not reporting sexting of a minor could get you a felony charge. The phone is in your name. I’m also old school so she would have a flip phone for emergencies no texting ability and locked down internet… And a serious ass whoopin’
Housephones are necessary. Cell phones that can send pictures, are not.
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Take her to a counselor asap.
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I say if she thinks she’s grown enough to do this crap, she’s grown enough to see the graphic, factual images of what happens to young victims of predators. Police department might can help you out with that!
Report the adults ASAP!!
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I really hope you reported him to the cops.
I would totally report that … even if she doesnt it do it again. I’m sure this creep will be looking for another little girl to creep on.
Then get her one those phones or watches that can only call certain numbers that are programmed. A 13 year old can do without the smart phones.
Seriously talk with her. But not every person is evil. Tell her the dangers. Show her stories and videos of girls who fell victim to thise specific types of people. And tell her that you will be monitoring her phone from now on
Tell her about all the CHILDREN going missing everyday in Alabama. It’s so sad, most of them never make it home…
I live here and we have had FIVE missing children (youngest were months old and now there’s a 13 year old missing as of yesterday.) And all these kids are within an hour of where I live. They just found a three year old baby in a dumpster in a landfill who they kidnapped from a freaking birthday party. 
There are SICK AND TWISTED people in the world, unfortunately hardly anyone cares for the children’s wellbeing anymore. I’m so sorry you’re going through this mama… Just have a heart to heart with her and tell her what could really happen. 
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House phone, contact his wife and police unless she was lying about her age
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Do u guys watch criminal minds? I suggest it especially the episode where a 13 yr old gets taken
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If you an her have android phones or both have iPhone there a app that you can put on both phones called family link basicly it allows you to control her phone you can shut off all Inter access gaming you name it an you can turn it off so she cant talk to anyone but you I have it for my 12 yr old an on top of that I see her text an call log right off of my phone so if I notice she doing things she shouldn’t I cut it off an she gets pissed because i have to put a code on phone to unlock an lock her phone good luck
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Have her watch the movie thirteen
I would get ahold of your local police about that man and I know-it-all may seem silly but my mom made me watch SVU growing up to shower what’s out there and it really scared me to see all what all sick people can do and I was very cautious growing up because of it
Show her videos from Team Loyalty Makes You Family and Dirty South Justice
Have one of your male friends she don’t know say he’s the guy she’s been texting and corner her at a store or something while you watch, see what she does and punish her if she don’t make the right choice. Scare tactic
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Get her a flip phone. Thats what my parents did when i was younger. I, admittedly, was not the best with a phone and got grounded. And in turn, i got a crappy phone with no camera and was only used for texting or calling my parents, the house phone, my school or 911. Do that.
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Show her the Carly Ryan story from Adelaide Australia this 13 year old girl did this and very sadly never made it home 
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Help her visualize. Movies about it. Lovely Bones is a good one. Not exactly same situation, but it goes to show you never really know someone. Make it a “fun” night. Get some chocolate, cookies, I’ve cream, stuff like that. Make a girl’s movie night. Look for another movie or two with similar story lines.
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I’m 16. I’d say take her phone, ban access to her current friends, get her a babysitter. I didn’t get my phone until age 15 (first year of high school) and I’m doing just fine. Put a parental block on her phone or something. This is not okay. Also, report that man.
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Take her to the police/ medical examiners office and let her see dead body
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Oh poor kids these days, when I was 13 I was playing outside with my friends til dark
Id simply take off the Data and only have 5 contacts she can call and/or text. And if it’s just for communication so you can get ahold if her it’s in your hands when everyone is home. We have a 7 month of son and we’ve both swore that hell never have electronics until he can get a job and pay for them himself. Good luck 
Hire someone to kidnap her, that should scare the shit out of her enough to make her stop but seriously. Downgrade her phone if she can’t handle the responsibility, teach her the importance of respecting her body enough to not send nudes, tell her it doesn’t make her cool. Start sending nudes, kids never wanna do what their parents are doing 
I saw one lady say take her to talk to victims and I definitely agree
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A smart phone is a privilege mom…let me say it louder, it’s a privilege!!! Get her a flip phone for communication, you cant get the smart phone back again until I trust your ass again 
I would say firstly have a talk with her and explain to her what can happen. Secondly I would take away the phone she has now and replace it with a phone that can only call and text you. You can find them online.
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Hire someone you trust to try to get her to meet up with them. Someone she doesn’t know. When/if she meets with them, have them act out what COULD happen. Should scare her straight without actually putting her in danger
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Let her watch the ted bundy movie on Netflix.
Or the silence of the lambs movie
Contact your community officer at your local PD and see if he or she is willing to come speak to them and their parents with you and your daughter.
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you don’t. You get her a phone that can only contact you, and 911. Nobody else. They make them. They even have programs to block everything a kid could get into. Use one
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Show her videos of girls kidnapped and killed like documentaries. The ID channel has a bunch of different kinds of shows where victims tell their story 🤷🤷🤷 Idk honestly it’s a bit drastic but could get your point across
Be honest with her and take her to talk to victims. Show her why it is a concern rathwr than just using scare tactics. The scare tactics probably wont work and kids are sneaky and will find ways around rules they dont want to follow which will put them in greater danger.
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Take that phone. A house phone for emergencies works. We survived without them.
My minor child has an iPhone but the plan we have allows us to pre program numbers that can call and text with her. I’d recommend that.
A phone may be a necessity but you can block her access to data and even her ability to text or call anyone who isn’t family. She obviously needs restrictions before she finds herself in real trouble
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Get her a kids like google watch phone where you choose who the contacts are
Umm contact the police…have him charged
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Id have police set her down then if that dont work you could stage a kidnapping. I did it to my son scared his ass straight
One I would buy her a flip phone that just makes phone calls. I believe they still exist
Two I would find a way to have this married man from Alabama get charged for endangerment of a minor or whatever this crime is classified as
How to get kids to grasp the dangers is a tricky thing
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Id be more concerned of the reality at the age of 13. She is sexting! WHAT? Take the phone. You’re the parent. Step up, take a stand. Set the rules. SMH! Much peace and love ☆
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Google the murder of Kaycie Woody and tell her about it. Or listen to the Crime Junkie podcast that covers her story. They say in the beginning that it is pre-teen friendly. I just listened to it yesterday and would agree that it is appropriate for a child around that age to listen to.
Nuts and bolts of the story: in 2002 she was a young girl in Arkansas who started chatting online with boys. She thought it was safe because she ‘met’ them in a Christian chat room. Eventually she started talking on the phone with a couple of them. One was supposedly a 17-18 year old from California, and the other was a 14 year old from Georgia. Turns out the 17 yr old was actually an adult male, and he ended up abducting her from her bedroom and murdering her not far away at all.
Edit: her father was a police officer, and he had actually discovered that she was talking to these people and tried to stop her. She also got in an argument with a friend about the dangers of this situation that landed them in the guidance counselor’s office. The guidance counselor tried to speak with her about it, and the girl lied. By all accounts she was a ‘good girl’. She got into a bad situation by being trusting and by being a typical teenager.
If you aren’t willing to go full restrictions to get her attention on this, maybe just turn off her data so she can only text/call and start doing random checks of her phone. Compare what’s on her phone to the bill so you can tell if she is deleting messages. If she is, restrict further and further. Safety is more important than this type of privacy at that age.
A predator has already violated her safety. Have him charged if you can. It’s no joke.
I made my daughter watch Jerry Springer & Maury Povich to explain just how stupid people are! The realization is those shows are faked, but the idea is there.
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Children never seem to learn this lesson. Last night we were heading home from work and found a child under the tree in our yard shivering in shorts and a tee shirt. We have kiddos ourselves, so we couldn’t just ignore it and go inside of our warm home to make dinner and eat knowing a child was out there freezing. Long story short, it was a teenager who ran away from home. A teenager with special needs to beat all. Of course we talked to him, brought him in to warm up and eat a meal. We called law enforcement, he was reported missing by his grandmother. When they arrived, the child was terrified to go back home. We felt so badly for the child. We couldn’t help but to think about the what ifs… I mean let’s face it, not everyone in this world has good intentions. What if that child stumbled upon the wrong people who were not worried about what was best for the child? Children do not seem to grasp the concept that there are terrible people in this world just laying in wait for what they consider to be prey. The child got the hel0 he needed, the police and child services are investigating what lead up to his running away. At least the child is safe, and somewhere warm. But still… the child didn’t comprehend the danger he was in being on the streets alone. Talk with your children, take the time to hear them out even when you disagree with their decisions. If they feel unable to come to you about little stuff, they will go to strangers for big stuff and that is where the truest danger lies.
Make her watch crime watch daily videos on YouTube of teens who have gone missing or been a victim of foul play. This is sad and it can happen to anyone. Make it be know that not all people are kinda and caring.
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You call the police and let them tell her about the cases they have investigated
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There needs to be a serious talk about sex trafficking, people who are intrested in young girls and intrested in hurting them for their own sadistic needs. She also so needs to be scared straight and start looking at all of these kids and adults who just disappear and are never seen again. Also a discussion about even if she is sexting SHE could also get charged and have to then register as a sex offender for the rest of her life!
There is an app u can put on her and your phone that allows u to control everything she dose on her phone u will see everything from text to who calls her at what time u can set it to turn off and on at a certain time but during that time she will olnt be able to call u and will be the olny one that can call her i have it on my 13 year old daughters phone and that right is the reason its on there cause she was texting a boy that was 17 and she was 12 at the time after i found out that was the end of her freedom on her phone
Theres an app called family link where you can set all permissions on phones. They have to have approval before downloading games, apps, etc.
She doesn’t need to have a phone, there is still house phones, or get her a basic cell phone.
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The book “gift of fear”
Turn his ass in! Start with that!
I would also talk to your daughters friends parents and let them know whats been going on! Also report this sicko she was talking to the police. Get her a flip phone that only makes calls. Dont let her hang out with those girls anymore
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You need to download Google’s Family link app and use it. You can block and control what she does, who she talks to, what apps are used and her location.
In a worst case scenario situation of her not understanding, catfish her. That’s how we scared my friends little sister straight.
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Its called MMGuardian
This world is full of sick people out, but then again some girls let this wierdos believe they’re over age glad this mom is on it !!!
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I understand your wanting her to have a phone since it is your only way to contact her. I would invest in a tracking app and educate her on sex trafficking and one and done murder/rape cases. Hulu and Netflix have a lot of documentaries. ID Discovery channel has a lot of shows that cover this as well. Have a cop speak to her and her friends. We also had our two take a forensics class in high school. My daughter taught me how to be safe and I thought I was after she took this class. My son wouldn’t talk about it at all.
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Get her a small tablet with data only. You control the contact lists and also the apps she can download. You have to approve them.
I’d say there are evil people in this world and while your brain is still developing, my job as a mother is to keep you safe.
I wouldn’t go into to much detail because that may make her paranoid and trigger mental illness.
My sons 8 and I’ve done all this. He can only text via internet through an email I created for him and I control it. If he goes to download an app I have to approve it.
My advice is to get tech savvy and stay one step ahead
Hire a friend she doesnt know to pick her up and scare the shit out of her…
Cody love-johnson the family link one olny works till they turn 12 the one i got can go as long as needed its 1.99 a month but worth it when it comes to the safty of your child
Lock her phone up. I would get her a flip phone with no data for a month. Then when she earned back her smart device I would put locks on it.
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Umm be a parent for one and find out why your 13 year old AND her friends are even sexting to begin with!!! Second download an app to keep track of her and her activity!!! That’s ridiculous!!! My son is 13 and last year we caught him not necessarily talking nasty but for a child yes and he lost everything for a year (he was 12 then) we have iPhones and I check his phone daily and he can delete anything he wants but it all goes through our iCloud and I can see it either way!
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Mmguardian dose all the stuff family link dose and more
there’s also an app called life 360 that tells you what they’re doing even tells you their battery percentage
Maybe take her Down to the police station and have a cop explain it to her🤔
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Hope you filed a police report with all the crazy people out in the world.
Talk and text only phone, no wifi
Give her information about “THORN” . It’s a foundation to help find sex trafficked children. Aston Kutcher is the founder.
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Good luck. My exs kid was monitored on everything and still found a way around the apps and other various things. Friends phones at school, computers, siblings tablets, new accounts etc.
With the one i have u can read text and if someone trys to text or call her that u have not aporved it will go to your phone as a alert to let u know someone is trying to get a hold of het and u can see everything she dose on the internet as well u can see it all there is no hideing aneything from u
Maybe go to your police station and ask for the sex offender list, a list of human trafficking statistics, the girls her age that have gone missing in the area over the past few years. You have to do something because some teenagers just dont have a lot of sense when it comes to these thing. Most make it out alive but some don’t. Theres many times in my teen years that I could have become a victim but am somehow still here. And honestly if shes talking to strangers, put your foot down. It’s important not to let your emotions overtake and get too angry and emotional towards her because then she wont want to talk about it. Who wants to talk when they’re being yelled at or scolded or even embarrassed, you know? But she needs to know of these very common and real dangers that seem to be increasing daily.
She doesn’t need her phone at home. Only when away from home. Take the phone
Get a landline where it’s only a phone and no Internet for her to do that on. I know u can’t keep her offline forever but u can give her a reality check. I go through my daughters phone who is also 13 all the time. And she knows it. There is also things u can download to keep track of what she’s doing. Luckily I haven’t went through anything like that and pray I never do. I also tell her horror stories from the news so she is aware and reminded of all the creeps in this world.
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Prepaid flip phone with no internet. And report “sam” to authorities. Then make her watch Strangeland.
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File a police report!
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Phone but not a smartphone
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