Nothing you can really do just another bi*ch usin their child as a pawn.
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Dam!!! Never known any tattoo parlour to tattoo pregnant women…
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Mind your business unless the baby is in danger but the baby has to be out of the womb first
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Love your niece/nephew from your side of the street. You aren’t required to like their mom. But you may want to be nice so that you have a chance to be a part of the child’s life. If you see a problem once the baby is born, start the conversation from a place of love, not of a place of judgement. Good luck!
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Nothing! Not your business! Mind yourself and let him handle himself! He’s grown and can be in charge! Otherwise you create the problems! Just be the cool aunt and buy the baby stuff and provide love and respect! Otherwise zip it! 
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End of day she’s pregnant why you making something that is meant to be a nice time for them both into family drama you are already putting her down before she’s even started how about keep quiet and be nice and try and be there for them both instead of acting up ant fair on them both 100% ant fair on the baby she has every right to have whatever boundaries in place set for her and her kid respect them.
You should be happy for them not acting childish as she ant doing what you want her to do.
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Stay in your lane.This is her child.Unless you see her do harm to this child when the babies born,mind your own.
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Her life. And their baby
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The first time I need to comment on anything. It costs absolutely nothing madam, to mind your business.
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Stay out of it ! Unless she is abusing,neglecting or flay our a toxic mother then take steps .bur until then BUTT OUT!
I think if your brother has an issue with all of the rules she’s putting into place then he should grow a pair and speak his mind. That’s between HIM and HER. Sounds like you need to mind your business and remember you’re just the child’s aunt and you aren’t entitled to anything 
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Mind your business! If I were your sister in law and I saw this post I would RUN far away from you and your family🤦🏻♀️
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Sad… but there’s not a lot you can do. Be there for your brother. Be supportive. Be available… Good luck
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Maybe try be her friend.
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Lots of parents have lots of rules regarding what extended family can do in regards to their child, and that’s okay, it is their child. No visitors for at least 2 weeks after birth? That’s the rule and that’s that. Have to wash your hands and sanitize them as well? That’s that. No kissing the baby? Oh well. Parents get to make rules for their child and as long as the child is healthy, and safe that’s all that matters. You raised your children how you saw fit and I’m POSITIVE not every single person around you was on board with every single decision, I doubt anybody tried to do anything to keep your kids safe from you.
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Not your child, not your relationship, mind your own business, best bet is to try to make friends not enemies.
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Have you thought maybe she has those feeling about you too? Try getting along for the sake of that baby and your brother otherwise mind your business☺️
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Nothing. Let him figure it out on his own. He’s a big boy. It’s not your child so there’s nothing you can do unless she ever actually harms the baby…
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Wow you sound jealous imo. Find a hobby or something aside your brother and his love life to focus on… JS
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Just wait. She’ll implode. Then you make your move with the courts.
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Let her be a mother dont assume cos you know everything she knows nothing
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It’s up to your brother not you
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Good luck is all I can say! Dealing with it now and it doesn’t get any better!
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I’m surprised that the tattoo parlor even tattooed her!
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The baby isn’t even born yet and you’re asking how to “protect” baby from the woman carrying it? Its women like you who race in to snatch kids away from perfectly loving parents and just cause emotional harm to it instead. For what??? Because you dont like her being with your brother??? Seems like she made a good call already if she’s planning to limit your contact with baby.b
It’s none of your business
Stf out of it
She has every right to make what ever rules she wants when it comes to HER BABY
Here in Australia 90% of new mom’s
Won’t allow visitors to come to see her baby for at least a month after bubs is born
And insist you have your whooping cough vacine, no viral infections
Only touch their bubs if your hands are washed and sanitised, are only allowed to come at certain times
So basically back the fuck up
And let her be
You come across as a toxic aunty
And bubs isn’t here yet
I’m sure your not a perfect mother either
You have no right to interfere
Personally if I was her
I wouldn’t let you near the baby
You’re obnoxious and I wouldn’t want you around my kid either. She shouldn’t be getting tattoos while pregnant. But you can’t police her either.
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Until HE mans up there is NOTHING YOU can do!!!
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You just need to calm down and mind your own business. Your brother either needs to decide if he wants to be in this relationship and be a dad or not you don’t mention if they are even married. She hasn’t had the baby yet and may change her tune when she get knee deep in diapers.
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Mind your own business! Is your brother a child? Or adult?
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what can you do? well for starters start finding the things you do like about her because she is creating a life inside her that is your blood relative, supporting her and loving her instead of hating her and posting about her would be a great start. her kid her rules …
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Mind your own business. Obviously he stands with the rules for THEIR BABY. You keep breaking those rules and you’ll never see that baby again.
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This baby isn’t even born yet and you’re making assumptions about what kind of a mother she’ll be? Leave that poor woman alone,if the baby is born and she’s abusive or neglectful THEN stick your nose in. Maybe give being supportive a try cuz I garuntee you she’s scared sh*tless as a first time mom
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Unfortunately nothing. Do not try to step in unless you see abuse or neglect for the baby once it’s born. It’s his job to step up and demand his rights be equal not yours.
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You don’t have a dog in that fight. Its your brother’s problem. If you see abuse after the baby is born, you can report it then.
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Well it is HER child and she does have a right to set rules for anyone seeing HER child and If your brother doesn’t speak or give his input that’s on him!
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It’s her child not yours, if you don’t like the mom no need to be around the child 
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It is HER child not yours, so as much as that sucks you just have to try and respect her wishes and let her raise her child as she sees fit. If she is neglectful or abusive etc to the baby after bub arrives then you should talk to your brother and then the authorities about it but until then Its technically her body, her baby and theres nothing you can do.
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There is possibly more to this that has happened causing strained relationships, not enough background given. I do not agree to the tattoo while pregnant, however, your brother should be speaking with her about that. It could be right to be concerned for the baby, so I would think it smart to start documenting things like the tattoo while pregnant and any future concerns that occur just to have it at hand if things worsen. Other than doing that as a safeguard, things are between her and your brother as it is their child, it is not for someone else to interfere. It will just makes things worse and strain relationships and rules even more. Unless in future the child is in harms way, then you have the documentation.
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Sounds like he needs to get the courts involved as soon as his child is born
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Minding your business would be a great start 
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Nothing it’s none of your buisness
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I can understand you being concerned about your niece/nephew, but your brother needs to defend himself in this battle. This is HIS problem. And if she is abusive towards the baby, after he/she is born, then call the cops.
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Not much you can do. Respect her rules 
if he has a problem, he should address it NOT you.
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Have you tried minding your own business? You have zero rights to be mad about what rules someone wants to put in place for seeing their new born.
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Well, it’s in her belly, you can’t do jack Doo Doo…
You could offer to pay for a parenting class, maybe get her a few books, maybe go with her to a maternity course.
The best thing you could do to that baby is be on her good side and make sure she learns how to be a good mom. Get her some self care things like some slippers or a cozy robe, take her to get her nails done, plan her baby shower. If you’re so worried, make sure she goes to a parenting class, make sure she’s as healthy as can be and make sure she isn’t stressed.
Also, talk to your brother, he should go to those parenting classes too.
And you sound very invasive and controlling, like you want to make her do the right thing and then take their child so their kid is in good hands, but unless she is hurting her child (when it’s born) there’s nothing you can do. Might as well support their parenting journey unless they’re being dangerous.
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Mind your own business… It is HER child, don’t turn into a crazy relation… I’m sure that she didn’t set out to get an infection on purpose.
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It’s not your child. I am also surprised someone tattooed her while she was pregnant.
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How do you know what kind of mom she will be? She has every right to set boundaries & rules for HER child. I didnt see where you said your brother had any issues with what she is doing. If he does he needs to talk to her about it, not you. You sound like drama & control issues. Lucky if they let you around the baby period, I wouldn’t have someone around my child that is trying to break my family apart & tell me how I need to parent.
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you sound like the boy who cried wolf. U probably like to control and start trouble. U want to tell adults who u didn’t give birth to how to live 
your brother is probably terrified by u and let’s his girlfriend talk because they agreed on things.
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It is HER CHILD. You have absolutely NO say at all. Zilch! Nada!NOTHING!!!
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She set boundaries for her kid. Just like any other parent. Maybe take a look at yourself. The whole “he could do better”, that sounds so toxic. If he’s happy, let him be. You don’t get a say in his adult relationship.
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Firstly… thank you for being a caring sister and aunt. It’s amazing that your brother has that kind of support. With that said, this battle u feel coming, is one your brother has to endure. The best thing you can do is be there for him during it. Be a good aunt despite your differences of opinion with its mother, one sure way to disrupt a family is by disliking the person they love. A tattoo isn’t a bad thing to get while pregnant, I’d much rather someone do that than do drugs or drink. I don’t think she meant to get an infection, but this will be a learning curve for her now. As long as you educate an not belittle, communication goes a real long way, best of wishes hun!
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The first thing you can do is mind your buisness…that is your brother and HER child not yours.If hes not against her rules for their child who do you think you are by saying anything.You feel you need to protect her child from her…girl you are the problem.Learn how to stay all the way in your lane.And honestly if i were her and knew you were talking sh*t like this you most definitely wouldnt be around my child at all.
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Good effing luck with that…My daughter-inlaw…Basically an insecure control freak who drove a wedge between my son and I…laid down so many grand-child visiting rules…Moved them 1,270 miles away…small brained family soap opera drama…some love living it…Not Me…
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You can’t. Just back off or you won’t be allowed in the babies life at all. He’s a big boy and got himself Into this.
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State court papers now for paternity test !! She’s 99.9 percent not going to put him on the birth certificate because she doesn’t want him to have right get the test and request immediately 50/50 custody if you wait to long after baby is born it’s extremely difficult to get 50/50 and even harder if she breastfeeding
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Ps records of all of moms be text hospital stay child endangerment while pregnant you name it save it all try to do all Communication via text for court purpose
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It’s great that you care, I love my nieces and nephews too, and do everything I can for them. But like… What a serious overstep here? I do my best to stay cool with their moms so I can be around them 
generally it’s the best course of action with somebody else’s child. Right now you just sound like a nightmare “in law” lol
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By staying out of his business. Why do you feel that you have ownership over your brother?
Lastly, you are essentially breaking up THEIR home then will happily go back to yours? No ma’am!
Mind your business and have respect so that you can meet your niece or nephew.
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Mind your business and stay in your lane
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MIND YOUR OWN EFFING BUSINESS. It’s. Not. Your. Life.
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I feel like your hatred of your sister in law is clouding your judgment. Any parent has the right to set any rules in place for people to see their child or for their child in general.
There’s probably a good explanation for all of their rules. Maybe just ask them & keep an open mind. It’s fine if you don’t agree but you have no right to tell another parent what to do with their kid unless they’re hurting the child.
Nothing but be there for when things get really bad and provide a shoulder for your brother to cry on.
His balls need to drop on their own, you can’t help him with that.
The law is on the mother’s side.
She’d have to be endangering, abusing or severely neglecting the child before the law will even bother to look at a case of removing her child.
Until then it’s her child, her rules.
You’re overstepping and mad because she’s not going to allow you to overstep once the baby is born … get over yourself.
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Mind ur own business
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I wonder if this why she has rules already……because you already not agreeing on her rules trying to over step boundaries. Let her be a mom!!! The more you try to overstepped boundaries the more she will push u away. Also keep in mind with COVID it makes it more difficult to trust ppl around the baby too!
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They are a married couple and their business is not yours. Perhaps she feels the need to make rules because of how she’s treated by the family.
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It’s wonderful you care so deeply but if I were you, I’d just mind your business. If I was the SIL or brother and saw this post, I’d probably cut you out of my life for a long time. That’s just me. You’re doing too much.
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It’s her child. It’s her giving birth. I had these rules for all 3 of mine.
Also, it’s been proven safe to dye your hair and get a tattoo while pregnant. It doesn’t affect the baby.
Also, mind your business?
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Omgosh you’re one of those people. 
just remember the family you create comes before the family you came from.
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Drop low and when they wonder why no one’s supporting them…remind them u have rules too
Is this her first…his?
I love the first three steps off AA
we are powerless
Hoping a power greater than ourselves returns us to sanity
Turning our will and life over to this higher power
…u can spin ur wheels and mess up many of ur days over this but in many ways…we are powerless
Because it’s HER child… I swear some in laws needs to stay in their own lane!
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That’s her child, she makes the rules. You sound like you’re over stepping.
I have someone like you in my life and best believe they will likely not see my child until he’s grown because I refuse to deal with that shit, you’re likely going to get the same treatment.
What I will say is, your behaviour only hurts your brother, just stop, take the backseat, it’s where you should be.
Mind your own business
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Just stay out of it & mind your business wtf 
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Stay in your own lane… I love my nieces and nephews but they have mothers and that who has the say.
The best thing you can do for your brother is to mind your own buisness and leave her alone. The more you try to get in the middle of things the harder it’s going to be for him to see his child.
NOT your child. The tattoo thing was very irresponsible but you need to back off and realize you are NOT this baby’s mother and the best thing you can do is NOT add more stress than expecting mom.
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It’s not your baby to protect
Literally stay out of it. Your brother is a big ass boy and chose this women for a reason. he didn’t just get her pregnant… he was obviously seeing her for awhile. In fact I just reread the post… you call her your sister in law in one statement and the girl who got pregnant in another… respect her or don’t go crying when she cuts you out of the babies life.
Exactly why I am getting divorced. Forward sister inlaw. Please mind your own business.
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This is legit almost my same scenario. I don’t get along with my husbands sisters or his mother. They don’t like me but idc. Anyways I’ve been with him since I was 16, his mom tried to keep us apart but she failed bc I was always with him. Anyways we ran away, I got pregnant and we got married. And I don’t let them see my kids. My kids don’t even know who his mom is.
You need to mind your own business! That’s her baby!!
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She definitely didn’t just make these rules, we set rules usually for a reason. You sound nosey and she’s been pretty nice to you imo. Mind your business, if he ever wants to leave that’s his choice. I’m sure you have boundaries on certain things as well.
Try being kind, supportive and available to her and your brother. The people in these comments are correct it isn’t your baby. If you over step it will make it harder for them to trust you. Yea the tattoo thing was stupid but hopefully she learned from that mistake. It isn’t your job to “protect” the child from things you fear could happen in the future. It’s a bitter pill to swallow but it is the truth. It is the child’s parents job to protect it. If your brother isn’t happy with something the mother of his child is doing then it is his job to step up. We all raise our children differently, nobody is perfect, somebody will always disagree with how you parent even if you think you are doing the right thing. Again this best thing you can do is provide love and support. Let them live their lives and you live yours.
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Let the parents parent how they chose. It’s not your baby. Of course she has rules on HER baby. You have to respect that. What she chooses to do with her body is her choice. You don’t have to like it.
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People like you are EXACTLY why moms put up boundaries. Mind your business and leave them be.
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It’s understandable to have rules for a new born baby. I wouldn’t let anyone touch or even be in the same room with my daughter when she was born, but that was only if they were sick. If someone wasn’t sick, they had to wash their hands up to their elbows (just like I had to when I was in the hospital with her). She was premature and I was not having her go back to the nicu because people couldn’t keep away when sick. You gotta respect that. Especially if it’s her first baby. Nothing wrong with setting boundaries.
As for the tattoo while pregnant, the tattoo artist should’ve said no. The infection could’ve spread to her baby. But that also isn’t a reflection on how she will treat her baby when it arrives.
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Stay away from her and her child. The more you beg to be involved the less you will be.
Nothing, mind your business. You just say you don’t like her so you will find anything she does a problem maybe instead of being a problem try to be positive and work on just being supportive
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Stay out of their life.
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First of all try not to be so darn nosey. It’s not ur child and ur brother is a man, his not ur child either that you need to sort out his problems for him. Motherhood does funny things to a person. 9 outta 10, this mama will probably change once baby arrives. So stay in your lane.
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HER* CHILD. Let her and HIM figure it out and absolutely, STAY in your own lane before this mother takes this kid and runs. 
I get the concern, but you* cant do much unless shes an unfit mother. Getting a tattoo while pregnant, doesn’t make you such.
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Oh no … You need to mind your own business. You sound nuts.
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Who’s carrying the child ?
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Not your child. SHE has rules and boundaries set for HER BABY. She may not have those rules if she was respected.
Sounds like she’s a first time mom. Help her. Help your brother and respect and stay our of THEIR family.
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Your brother can handle his relationship himself. Mind your business, it’s not your place.
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I can see why she has to have rules! Who do you think you are?! Mind your own business. Stay in your own lane. If you don’t like her, what you want with her child?!
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First of all. The only red flag about this status isn’t your sister in law it’s you. You need some serious maturing and growing up. You can get tattoos while you’re pregnant is there a small possibility of infection, yes but it doesn’t happen to everyone. As for her making rules about what you guys can and can’t do if you’re this upset about it if I was her once my child is born I wouldn’t let you anywhere near, because clearly you have issues with respecting parents boundaries. It doesn’t matter if you don’t like her, your brother obviously does. You’re trash dude.