If you both work, share the household daily chores, and get a housekeeper 4 hours per week and assign the chores that will free up your weekends.
Thatās life, honey ! You will survive and thank God that you are able to keep up with the pace . You can rest when those children are grown and gone.
Sounds normal unless you want to hire a housekeeper. Just get used to it.
Your partner is not stepping-up to help.
I use my Cellphone Timer and alarms. To do the laundry part 1 load is 45 minutes,1-laundry pod. Larger loads uses 2 pods and is 55 minutes long. Tell your husband he can do laundry while playing with the kids. Put sex on hold until you get caught up. Itās worth the wait. The dishes use the alarm or timer how long will it take you to load the dishwasher in 25 minutes or less. Once the timer goes off. If you beat it, you can get time to yourself. You can make the rules as you go.
While at work make a chart on chours that can be printed out and make copies. Teach your 6 yr.old to pick-up his toys?
Teach your husband that he can help with laundry & dishes too! If he made the mess cleaning it up!
Marriage is 50/50 cleaning in there too!
My late parents my mom was a 1st grade teacher my father worked in an factory that assembled desks, steel lockers, metal cabinets. She would drive him to work at 4:00 A.M. and take us to school and get to herself work at 7:00 A.M. but leave her job to pick him up before 5:00 P.M. or he got a ride home from another co worker. I saw it work for them until we got a 2nd car. I grew up with 5 sisters. My grandfather and grandmother helped get us ready for school and helped us do the chours.
You can ask for help from each other. 4 loads can be cut in half. I just did all pants- all shirts on Thursday. Then Friday I did all sheets and Blankets. Monday will be just Towels. You will find a method to this madness. Timers do help manage the time.
Less toys. Paper plates & pizza nite once a week. Maid once a month, if u can. Dirty & clutered are not the same, its ok. Relax.
Tell me this man has the audacity to also help if they work similar hours 
Hire a housekeeper, well worth the cost
I learned with age that things will get better. Right now you are on overload. We all go through these times. Just learn to not worry about the small stuff. If house is clean, messy is no big deal. As time goes on the children will be taught to pickup after themselves and husband should step up to help. Enjoy life and just do the best you can. This too will pass.
Hire a cleaning lady. So wonderful to come home to a clean house.
Maybe let him and the kids go visit family and you stay home and clean up?? Or just do little bits at a time every night before bed 
I do
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Accept itās a phase in your life, itās hard. I hired someone to come help for 3 hours once a month 
Get a maid for a couple days for a couple of a week
Hire a cleaning lady one day a week
Some things go lacking because you are only one person!
Share the burdenā¦.delegate!!!
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Quit trying to be the mother Queen. Get a housekeeper & make your husband pay for it.
ITS NOT a REALISTIC goalā¦
Enjoy your children and, Life!
Thereās plenty of time for organizing your house, later. 
Your fine, no worries, keep on keeping on 
Well hubby can help before he plays softball
Get a house keeper every 2 weeks
Ur not alone! When you find the answer let me know please 
I think itās so sad that people get off watching somebody that sick
Because he is not helping
You arenāt doing anything wrong. You have too much on your plate. You need a cleaning lady once a week and your husband should be helping you keep the daily and personal
things handled. It would be a different story if you didnāt have a full time job but that is a lot to care for.
So I saw that you listed off all the chores you do when you come home from work, but what chores does your husband do? If the answer is none, then thatās a big part of your problem right there. Iām sure hes a great dad and provider, but you said yall work roughly the same amount of hours, no? Then if you can pick up a mop after work, so can he.
On the other hand if he does help out, then Iād say yall should try sacrificing one or two weekends a month with the family to spend getting your house in order and taking care of yourselves, or even maybe entertain the idea of paying a friend or family member with time on their hands to help out while you guys are at work.
Either way, it can be done, you just need to make some sacrifices, compromises and move some things around.
you wanted all that ā¦and now whatā¦
May i suggest get your oldedt involved thy.love to help let them hand u hangers, sweep ,my 1 year old grest grandson runs for the broom to help his mommy
Does your husband help with anything?ā¦
Just hire an illegal person to do the house keeping, all of Washington does it
Get a laundry basket and pick up and take stuff where it goes every night before you go to bedā¦maybe do a load of laundry every evening. No good to fuss.
Stay off the cell phone, how many hrs a day are yoi on the phone.
husband needs to take kids out for the day never mind soft ball .
Seriously hire a home cleaner. Once a week, twice a month.
U obviously need a full-time MAID.
Clean one shared room every night. Your child is old enough to dust/wipe down baseboards/pick up toys etc. If both you and your hubby commit to tidying a room every night it wonāt seem so overwhelming- and with all 3 of you pitching in it will get done faster. Keep an empty laundry basket in the room you are working on. Items that donāt belong in that room go into the basket. After the room is clean put away the stuff in the basket. That cuts down on running from room to room and saves a lot of time.
Hire someone to clean once a week.
Just get a cleaning girl ā¦.
So what is your husband doing ?
Just donāt have kids 
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You are doing just fine!
My late mother went through this yearās ago when I was 11 yearās old. She went to see a doctor because she actually had a mini breakdown. He asked her who she was trying to impress. Told her if someone comes to your house and makes a comment about the level of cleanliness hand them the broom and tell them to get busy. As long as itās not a complete pigpen or seriously unhealthy donāt sweat it. Decide what level of cleanliness you and your husband can live with and be happy. Spend time with your family. Someday your children will be grown up and leave home. Enjoy time with your family while you can. Donāt kill yourself trying to keep the house clean for visitors. You do what is best for you!
Cut down on going to visit family. Make your home more of a priority. Make it a habit of putting something away after you use it. Before bedtime make the kids pick all the toys. Be consistent with your expectations of the kids helping. Even the little one can pick up toys. Do the dishes immediately after your meal. Do these things long enough and they become a habit.I worked full time and was a single other of 2ā¦