My stepdaughter (9) has obvious signs of puberty. She’s starting to get boobs, and when she was getting out of the tub, I noticed a little bit of pubic hair. I’m sure it will be no time before she starts her period, and I want her to be prepared. My problem is her mother, who is the custodial parent isn’t very attentive, and I don’t think she’s noticed these things. For example, my stepdaughter has two baby teeth that are rotten and almost gone, which her mom never noticed. I don’t want to overstep by talking to my stepdaughter about puberty and the changes her body is going through, and I’d like to get her a little puberty readiness bag, but I don’t want her mother to flip out.
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I’m assuming you talked to her father about it what did he say?
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Speak to her father and see what he says but the poor girl needs to be educated for heaven’s sake does her step Mom not love or care about her …seriously no man
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Her father needs to talk to her Bio Mom about it.
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I am going out on lime here. Are you not married to her father
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Talk to her dad and mother
I don’t think you would be overstepping your bounds by telling her bio mom that you feel like it would be a good time to talk about puberty with her, then ask if she wants to or if she’s comfortable with you talking to her.
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There’s a great book called “The Care and Keeping of You.” Think mom would be upset at a library or book gift? Tell your step daughter she should be able to talk to any of her parents if she has questions (unless her dad would be uncomfortable).
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If you get the okay, there’s a book called the period book. It’s great. If it wasn’t for my grandma and that book I would have been lost.
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Stop! You are just assuming things , you are putting her mom down (big mistake)we don’t why her mother is not fixing her baby teeth if they are almost gone why she would spend all the money ? Does she has insurance? How about asking her mom first. She has a mom, 
assuming things.
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I would just go to her and ask her if it would be ok to buy her some bras and some pads to keep on hand, and that you just wanted to make sure you weren’t stepping out of line. See where it goes from there, I would approach the public hair situation after talking to the stepdaughter about making sure she cleans really well down there and is wiping good. Basic hygiene about how her hormones are changing and when they do the body grows. I don’t see an issue but this would take maturity. Some women are possessive and controlling and it causes drama to care for the child. Personally been in this situation and have worked together. Talking with the mom is good because you dont know what she would do like waiting for her to shave until older. I have a 10yr old and 9 yrs old 1 menstrual one pre menstrual they both shave with the intuition razors because they are pretty safe for beginners, also acne is a big part deodorants, wearing clothes that are not too tight and washing properly. All very big deals. You sound like you have good in your heart and I hope it works out. Growing young ladies are not really a mans place to deal with, a son yes definitely but as women you and mom should be tackling puberty.
I’m very surprised by the number of women that involve the father when a female child is going through puberty. I never in a million years would have guessed it to talk about my daughters boobs and period with a Male. As a female child I would have been humiliated and embarrassed to have my dad in on those conversations 
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As a step mom and a bio mom… talk to bio mom about it.
Co-parenting is important 
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Id try to communicate with her mother that you think she’s ready for these kinds of talks, but she needs to have things like pads and underwear in both homes. She also needs a mother figure she’s comfortable talking to and seeking help with these things in both homes. I don’t think it’s overstepping at all for you to talk to her about it! Her mom can also have her own version of the talk with her. I’m not in a situation with my daughter having a step parent, but theoretically, if I was, I hope my child would have someone like you, who she would feel comfortable going to if she needed something like period products, and learning to use them.
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I would definitely talk to her dad about it. He could bring it to bio moms attention. You and dad could talk to her together.
How do you know the mom hasn’t spoken to her?
Do you really need Facebook to tell you to do these things ? Help this child out and be there for her if her mom is trash like you say , and take this child to the dentist she has a dad as well . Smh why are all 3 of you failing her
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It’s not over stepping the mark if her needs aren’t being met at home and inevitably she will need to come and ask for pads etc when she’s staying with you at some point. She needs to know, she needs to be prepared and she needs to know she has you there for support.
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My 8 year old daughter knows about these things and is very wise to the body’s natural cycle…due to her dad being a farmer. I think you definitely need to have a chat with her mum and it’s not overstepping the mark at all. I think the earlier you start to talk about it the less awkward and uncomfortable they feel xxx
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I’m a mommy to a 14 year old girl. I laid my facts out with step mom. I told her that she got together with my daughters daddy so all I asked was to respect my daughter. If naughty spank her if she feels my daughter needs a talking do it by all means but do it as if she your own daughter. I feel kind of lucky with my daughter step mom she hasn’t been to much trouble and if my daughter says she ungly or something I will pick up the phone ND phone her and asked what happened and sort it then and there. We as woman the real moms and step moms must realize the children come 1st before anything else so put your differences aside for the sake of our children. God bless and be safe
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The tooth decay is abuse.
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Her body has nothing to do with her Mother.
Please make sure that little girl has the knowledge she needs to navigate puberty in an informed and safe way.
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If it were my daughter and her stepfather came to me with that, I’d be asking why he’s looking at my daughter coming out of the shower. them I’d have a talk with her mother. But that’s just me.
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Talk to her dad. He’s the parent too and can take care of whatever she needs. He should have the conversation about periods and buy her pads. And he can take her to the dentist.
Pretty sure if you’re allowed to see the child bathing you’re allowed to educate her about her body…would be weird if they were ok with one and not the other 
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As a step-mom: just talk to your step-child. When she’s with her bio-mom she can talk to her as well. At least she will know she can talk to both of you & feel safe.
As for the teeth: whoever sees it first, please fix it! Whether her bio-mom or you & her dad, just do it if you care about her. Waiting for someone else to care enough to act will have kids feeling like NO-ONE cares.
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Firstly I say big ups to you for thinking of the mother and overstepping your mark even though she’s not very attentive…bring it up to her the next time you see her and if she’s all goods with it then I say have a talk with your stepdaughter. Or if the mother says she will talk to her then il just get the lil lady bag ready for her anyways and just check in with the stepdaughter if her mother’s had the talk…she needs the lil lady bag anyways, whether her mum talks to her or not. My daughter has 2ready for her. Always carries one with her wherever she goes. One for each school bag she has 
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Ok. Is the relationship between your husband and his ex or his ex and you so bad that you can’t talk to her about this? Feel out what she knows, and what they’ve already talked about.
Secondly, unless your husband goes months at a time without seeing her, you guys didn’t notice her rotten teeth either. You know any of you could consent for treatment at the dentist. Get that baby girls teeth fixed pronto. Preferably before they abscess and the infection spreads into the adult teeth below.
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I had to with my step daughter bc I asked her small things and her mom wasn’t telling her. And I talked to her mom and she acted like I was crazy so I just talked to her myself and answered any questions they know more than you think on their own.
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Talk to both parents. But I generally think whatever the parents say you still have the right to talk to the child about it as it’s not nice to have to go through that and not know nothing it can be a scary thing and she’s gonna think it’s werid or something unless she knows about it
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Letting the girls teeth rot is child abuse and neglect , I’d talk to someone because that’s terrible . What does her father say ? Honestly just do what you have to with dads help and if mom freaks out then tough , she’s lucky she still has her kid at all .
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If you noticed these changes in her body, then take it upon yourself to help her through it all with the help/permission of her father. Trust me, she will love your honesty to her. When she gets older, im sure she will brag about it. Don’t let her hang and suffer cause her biological mother. You be her mother then🙏.
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When she is in your house, she is your responsibility so I would say have a chat with her. Or ask her if her mum has had a chat with her yet. If she hasn’t then you do it. Its better she has 2 chats than none at all. Xx
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Let her mom and father handle it. As a mother it’s my privilege to handle the major mile stones.
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Her father needs to talk to her mother. It’s not your place. Talking to her about puberty is way overstepping your bounds. You need to leave this to her parents. If mom is truly uncomfortable dad can ask mom if it’s ok that you talk to her. JMHO
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I would talk to her dad about it and then talk to her. If you aren’t comfortable, there’s a great series of American girl books that dicuss puberty and all that goes with it. I got it for my daughter when she was younger and read it before giving it to her and when I did I said I would answer any questions she has…because she was always shy about things, this way worked for us.
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I would buy her a book and if she asks questions I would answer them. Also if you go shopping I’d ask I’d she thought she was ready for the bralettes yet. They will also go over it in school. Most do anyway
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Maybe try and include her??
Maybe she wasn’t educated as a young child and doesn’t know how to approach those things herself??
Just a thought 
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Do what is right by the child with your husbands involvement that way when the mom freaks out it doesn’t really matter. The child’s needs matter so just say that when the mom reacts bc you can’t control her only yourself
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There’s a great, easy to understand book out there called “Whats Happening to Me”. Breaks it all down. Let the girl read it, and then come to you with questions.
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There’s a couple of videos on you tube about body changes and periods … my daughter and I sat down and watched it… and then we discussed it and answered any questions she may of had .
I’d be upset if I found out the step mother of my daughter had the puberty talk with my kid and didn’t even care to ask me. You need to TALK TO THE MOTHER because regardless of your opinion of the mother, that’s still the mother at the end of the day.
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Can someone explain to me the big deal about the “puberty talk”?
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Id talk to the dad and he’s cool id just do it. I got my period at 8… and Ik that’s early but I wish my mom or even if they were split someone to help me along the way. Instead my first period happened at school.
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I don’t think that’s overstepping boundaries. I think normalizing it by talking to her even if she’s had the talk with her bio mom is very beneficial. Too much info from two women would be great for a young girl. She will know it happens to all women and give her confidence knowing she has many resources to go to. Reach out to dad to inquire with bio mom and start the convo with both you and dad and give her the option to have the convo with just you if she wants dad to leave, but she needs to know she can talk to all the adults
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Tell the mom you want to take her to have her teeth cleaned and go from there. You and dad can talk to her about these things. If mom has a problem then explain you were doing what’s right.
Honestly, everyone is saying its over stepping however , if the bio mom hasn’t done it then make sure the dad is on board and do it. If the bio mom gets upset then she needs to learn how to co parent. Yall have the best interest for the child and for you to want to step up is a round of applause.
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I’m just curious how do you know if the mother hasn’t already had this talk? My daughter has always came in the bathroom with me and kids always ask questions So, I’ve always been upfront with her so when she got older she would be prepared and not afraid. We even practiced how to put a pad on. I also told her we don’t discuss it when it happens with others except mom or dad so we could get the things she needs. So when my daughter hit a certain age, I got this bag she could carry around with some pads (large enough to fit her), another pair of underwear and a pair of black stretchy pants to last her until she got home. Did the child tell you she doesn’t know or if no one has talked to her about it or is it being assumed?
My daughter was 8 when she started. My husband (her step father) and I sat down to talk to her about puberty. I also got her the American Girl books, they really are a great resource for young girls to read about their changing bodies and how to care for themselves. It will be so much better for the child if there is at least some conversation before her first period. First period can be scary for a girl, especially that young. By my husband and myself talking with my daughter, it has opened doors for all of us in terms of communication. She feels comfortable talking to us about ANYTHING. That is the atmosphere we wanted to create in our home. Her dad and step mom were pretty clueless about her changing needs/body and don’t like to talk about these things. Now my daughter doesn’t like to tell them anything. All of this to say: I would talk to dad, tell him your thoughts and concerns. Ask him to mention to mom. Put a timeline on it. Say a week or two. And if the conversation hasn’t happened with mom, then you do it, with dad. Also, if mom does step up and have the convo, have a follow up conversation with daughter and open yourself up to her about any questions she may have and provide her some resources, like the American girl books. That way she knows you are there for her during this time (and always…)
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Personally going through this now with my daughter. I am the only coparent in this situation. I always make sure to contact dad about any and everything to with the kids, but I never recieved the same in return. I personally think its overstepping unless a conversation is had between dad and mom. Go to dad if you have concerns
Ask her father to be there with you to talk to her about it and have some start up pack. I understand there’s a possibility her mother won’t tell her, so I don’t see why both her father and you together give her a little talk as I’m sure he’ll be uncomfortable but because of his presence it’s a team effort to support her and keep her mother at bay in case she gets mad for whatever reason. And if the mother does get mad I honestly don’t see why she can’t try to extend her knowledge and still have a similar conversation with her own daughter and see if her daughter has any questions for her that way the daughter can feel supported by both sides. Maybe try and explain that to her mother before the talk but someone should have the talk.
As a parent, I’d be happy if someone cared enough to have a conversation with my child of this magnitude. Some of you moms need to put your pride and ego aside. The fact this stepmother is even questioning this shows how much she cares and is trying her best. It’s okay to have children be loved and taught by multiple people! Growing up in a blended family, it’s obvious parents will miss certain things and milestones because children are split up between homes. It’s on us parents to heal from that in order to coparent better. However, based on what the OP says…it sounds like the mother is high conflict, and coparenting with a high conflict person can be almost impossible. Therefore…
To the OP, you are not overstepping your boundaries. When your stepdaughter is in YOUR home, and with the father backing you, you can have whatever conversation you see fit. Bio mom cannot control what goes on in your home, just like you can’t control the neglect that goes on in her home.
Regarding the rotten teeth, she has a father as well…he needs to bring this up to the mother every single time during transition. If she is a high conflict person, I would formally communicate anything important (such as rotting teeth) through email so that it’s documented. If father has rights/shared custody, then honestly…he contributed to the rotting teeth as well. A dental visit, in most states, does not need the approval of both parents if they each have shared custody. So if that’s the case, see if he can make that dental appointment and take her in during his time with her.
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Why are you with her when she’s taking a bath though? She’s old enough to bathe by herself…
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I would most definitely have a talk with her mom. My daughter is 8, and I had to have the talk with her because their dad’s girlfriend told her what a tampon was for. I was quite furious about it. We had the whole talk though, from the period talk all the way through how babies are born, because she kept asking questions. My daughter isn’t showing any signs of puberty yet, so that was mainly why I was upset. I want my kids to enjoy their childhood, and not be anxious about what is to come. I feel in today‘s society, they’re rushed to grow up. We have a good coparenting relationship though, so after that little incident, we all now talk to each other if someone is noticing something, and go from there. So I would most definitely talk to the bio mom first, but just my opinion 
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Talk to the mom communication is key in co-parenting. Or have dad mention something to her. You guys wanna say mom has attended to her teeth… Well daddy hasn’t either. 
If she doesn’t say anything in the next week or so go ahead and say something IF it’s okay with dad.
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At child exchange or where ever you drop her off at all3 or 4 parent and child need to talk
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I would inform the Mom of the signs your seeing, and let her know you’re going to get her a ready bag at your house and then ask her if she would like one for her house. Also let her know that you won’t get the bag until at least a week after you tell her so you knew she would have time to talk to her 1st.
Give the Mom her respect, but also, your a parent figure so you still need to do your part. I understand how it can feel to feel like your words would land on deaf ears, but no matter what, you need to do your part. Which is be respectful, so talk with your husband, and then message her Mom, and then make your own household preparations. Good luck honey!
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My step mom let.me shave. Honestly it was the best thing. My.mom and her were back and forth about what was best for me. IDIOTS. STOP with the parent shit. Do what is best for the kid and move along. I will never understand why it is so hard
First things first- dad should definitely take baby girl to the dentist. It’s not just mom’s job. If you are not comfortable confronting the baby teeth issue, you don’t need to be having conversations with this little girl about more personal matters.
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Girl talk to your step daughter about it. If she starts her period at your home you are going to have to talk to her then anyways. Do not ask dad to be there, that can be embarrassing for the little girl. Don’t overthink it. I am a mom and stepmom. I’ve been through this on both sides.
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I started at 9 in the school bathroom on lunch I knew what it was but I didnt know and didnt know what to do, had to wait for a teacher to come in and ask them to go to the office to call my mom to bring me pants and underwear it was horrible, talk to the dad, get a bag ready and just tell him you dont want it to be traumatic for her by not being prepared . I bleed through my pants and my whole 5th grade class saw it was horrific.
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As a bio mom, and a Step mom, I think it would be a wonderful idea, tell bio mom that you want to take Step Daughter out (invite bio mom to go with) and get her a readiness bag, and take her to lunch to talk about it. Try you best to include bio mom. If that doesn’t work. And bio mom won’t, then just do it. Because I that young lady, needs a woman to teach her woman stuff.
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Get something together for her like pads and stuff and make her a goody bag of her favorite candy or snacks and just have it ready. She may come to you instead of her mother and you’ll be already prepared.
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There is a great book called Are you there god it’s me Margaret… I was given it and I passed it to my daughter. It’s a story about a young girl and her body changing. It’s a great story she may enjoy it.
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Have her father talk to her about it then.
Too bad more people aren’t co-parenting these days. Makes for better relationships all around
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I personally think you should do what you need to do to help her understand all of this. I’m in the same situation with my step daughter she lives with us 50% of the time, her mother is not very attentive and I’ve never even spoke to her despite the fact I’ve been helping raise her kids for the past 2 and a half years. So when it’s our time to have them I make sure they’re taken care of. I don’t care what she has to say.
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You are a parent, a step up parent, not a step parent. Do what’s best for the child. If you feel the respectful thing to do is to talk to the other mother then just give her a call and say you want to be supportive without crossing a line but anyone who puts the child first would understand if you asked the kid what they already know and if they’ve been talked to. To some extent when she’s in your care it is you responsibility to make sure she’s prepared so a ready bag is a great idea. Even if just left in the bathroom waiting for the day.
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Sounds like Dad is an equally awful parent. CPS can step in if both parents are refusing dental care.
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Ask your step daughter if her mother has talked to her about puberty. Then go from there. Most schools start teaching sex Ed pretty early. If she says no then I would just talk to her about it. You are helping raise this child, and if it seems her own mother isn’t going to teach her then you should.
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My mom was absent. My dad fidnt want to accept it. My step mom who was basically a mom didn’t know how to bring it up. I had major surgery at 8 that messed with my hormones an by 9 I already had mine. I got it the start og school one day an not a clue ehat to do as there was nothing in the bathrooms. But I managed til lunch an called step mom she sent grandma to get me (my grandma was 55 when I was 9) and she asked an I yold her and I was mortified with whay an how she educated me. I would have given anything tor my step mom yo do it even if my other parent would have been mad. Clearly mom doesnt pay attention so I wpuld just get a little bag together and reading material an tell step daughter of she has any questions an feels she can’t talk yo anyine else u are there for her. An if mom flips i be like well ur oblivious and I didn’t want her caught off guard but a little gentler maybe lol
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I would bring it up in casual conversation with the mom. Like, she’s growing up so fast, right!? Won’t be long before she starts her period. We should make a bag that she could carry with extra underwear and pants and go over how to use sanitary items so she’s ready. What do you think?
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Just talk to your stepdaughter. You are a positive adult role model and you are allowed to give advice and help with those things. If the mom wants to do the same or whatever she wants to do IN ADDITION that’s even better. Dont stress and overthink things like this.
I told BM my oldest sd was getting close to puberty and she literally told me to handle it cause she didn’t want to. ( She has been absent now since 2019) I went to local library and found books about puberty and changes of ur body. They are marked with ages and break stuff down for kids. I talked to my sd about her body and left out the sex talk for now. She just needed someone to explain what would happen to her and BM flat out refused. The next weekend my sd went to mom she came home crying talking about how horrible periods would be and she was terrified thanks to BM. I made her a bag for the car and she keeps a bag in her locker at school, it has wipes extra undies panty liners and pads and I explained how to use them and told her to make sure if she started at school that she needed to tell a female teacher and they could help or would get ahold of me. She is fine now that she has seen me every month and she is learning that every lady is different and periods suck no matter what and that not all girls have bad painful periods. You are helping to raise that kid and she needs someone to talk to her. You count, you are not a second class citizen just because you are a Step parent.
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Just talk to your husband. If he allows you to talk to his daughter about puberty, then do it. Someone needs to discuss this with her whether it’s her mom, your husband or you. Also take her to the dentist. Taking care of her needs falls on both of her parents, not just her mother.
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I would just talk to the daughter about it. I’m not much into tiptoeing around other adults feelings. Also please get that girl to the dentist.
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Get her a book on puberty
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First off why you even in the bathroom with her when she’s more than capable at 9 years old to take a bath or shower by herself anyways? You talk to the mother but be careful cause she’s going to assume you’re questioning her parenting which won’t go over well with her at all. Talk to the father too. Also if you and her father have noticed two of baby teeth are rotten and almost gone then y haven’t u guys taken her to a dentist n got her dental care? The father obviously has some type of rights if he gets visitation so. N her mother hasn’t probably the breast development and pubic hair cause she isn’t in the damn bathroom with the child!
My mom (step) she bought me this book and it talks about everything. But if her mom is willing to pay attention then be prepared for her. Make sure if shes going to school she has “extras” and all just be prepared sounds like mom don’t doesn’t care
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Ask yourself whose feeling you care more about… The bio mom or your child. Your child will remember this time with feelings of gratitude if she is properly prepared. If you care more about the feelings of her birth giver and just don’t want to rock the boat… Its understandable but know that your child will remember how horrible and embarrassing it is to be unprepared. Tell her please.
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Talk to her dad about it and he can approve of you talking to her
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My question is why are you in the bathroom with her to notice these things? You’re upset cuz biological mom hasn’t noticed but maybe mom let’s her have her privacy when showering and dressing? My kids have a stepmother and she doesn’t go in the bathroom with them and doesn’t be in the room when they are dressing. My daughter is 8 and I don’t invade her privacy while changing or showering
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I would just make and put it in her back pack if she doesn’t notice a rotten tooth she’s not gonna notice a little pouch in her backpack
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If it feels like a good conversation to have with her then do it. Its just words and she may welcome hearing them from you.
Someone has to.
Be that for her.
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Stepparents have the legal right to take on the role as parent so talk to her. Just talk to her. [Step parents have the legal right so long as they are actually married to the parent and not dating]
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Make that girl a dentist appointment and you and the dad take her … Give her the “talk” and let her know what’s up and what’s to come … If bio mom has anything to say then you express your feelings regarding the situation … Or you could call bio mom and ask if she wants to sit in on the “talk” … Make her aware and involved … The child is more important in this situation then the bio moms feelings
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I am a step parent to twin girls. I sat them down and explained what was coming. And that it was natural. Then I bought their pads. Good thing because 2 weeks later it started with them and their periods are about a week apart.
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talk. to. her. DAD.
You be the mom she deserves.
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I actually felt the same way about my stepdaughter and her mom so I chose to go the route of letting her mother assume responsibility with that to not step on toes. I regret it fully. My step daughter started her period at her mom’s house and all her mom said was congratulations. Didn’t tell her what to expect, how to properly handle it, or hygiene. It broke my heart. Talk to your stepdaughter… Don’t wait for someone else to do it. You are a part of that child’s life no matter what, her second mom. You have every right to prepare her for that kind of stuff.
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I would talk to your stepdaughter. She will look up to you, not only as your step mom but as your friend, when she gets older. She’ll know that you care for her and she’ll trust you. I don’t think you’re crossing a boundary with her bio mom. If her bio mom actually cared for her own daughter, then she would have noticed al these things.
Put it to the Mom nice. As in Oh look …isnt she growing sooo fast? Next thing you know etc etc
Check out the books;The Care and Keeping of you 1 and 2 by American girl, maybe read some with her, but she needs someone trustworthy she can talk to.
I did it. I met my stepdaughter when she was 10. Knew nothing other than what she was taught at school. She had started her period and never told anyone. When I moved in I noticed her underwear and asked dad about it. He said she never said anything so I asked her and she denied at first but I talked to her and went and got her everything. ( my daughter is the same age )
Her mom never did this stuff. I mean my step kids never have even been to the dentist til I came in picture.
When I mentioned it to the grandma she was in denial and said she would have told her…
I don’t even care what others think or say because in someone eyes I’m
Always going to be doing too much or not enough.
Since I raise all the kids , dad works all day and their mom only sees them
Once every few months… IF THAT… grandma always has something to say. I just do what I think it right now. It’s been 4 years and raising 5 kids now… his two. My two and our baby together … I’m gonna make executive decisions and do WhT I think is best for the kids
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As a step parent you will either be doing too much and stepping on toes or not enough so you don’t care 
Those are the Sad facts. Talk to her! Sometimes the step parent ends up being the Best parent. Just do it…Who cares who says what they always have something to say anyway. What matters is that child!
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And honestly sounds like you and the dad might need to revisit the custody situation. Because if Mom can’t notice two rotten teeth and her child’s mouth. Then she isn’t giving the child the adequate and proper attention in time that is needed. So don’t feel bad about stepping on bio moms toes. Do what you need to do to make sure that your stepdaughter is properly prepared.
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Talk to her mother! Just tell her you have noticed some things and just want yall to be United force on helping her through the struggle that is puberty! However just bc she is starting to get boobs and a little hair dosnt mean she is going to start her period my niece started getting those things at like 7 and is 10 now and still hasn’t started (she is vary open with me and talks to me about the changes her body is going through) I asked her when she started going through puberty if she wanted me to make her a period go bag for her back pack so if she starts at school she can clean herself up until her mom comes to get her and she said no bc iv pok see it they will make fun of her!! However her now being 10 she is getting one bc I wont have my baby being embalmed at school bc she started her period!! I pack feminine hygiene whips, clean underwear and leggings, and pads with a note and some instructions on how to use the pad if she forgets what me and her momma have taught her!
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Please please please step up and let your step daught know as much as puberty as you know
I could only dream of someone telling how it works in the women world and I had no clue
Until after becoming a women n a mother to understand more about being a women
If her mom doesn’t like it she could
Teach what she knows
Don’t let her go unknowing what’s happening to her body
Teach her showering
Cleaning down there. shaving everywhere ect
The more she knows the better
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