Tell your mom what happened
Please tell so that you can heal,
Tell them itās the only way to recover
FUCK NO. Tell your Mother. Fuck that asshole.
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Whatever you do, Do Not Contact Hm!
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Just come out and tell them.
No definitely not!! Tell your mom! She may be shocked and disturbed at firstā¦ but mostly she will feel horrible that she unknowingly put you in that situation. It will take a lot of open honest conversation but in the end it will only draw your family closer!! And it will help you heal from the trauma!!! Good luck! My prayers are with you!
I do not understand this sweep it under the rug nonsense.
So many great things could have happened to this young woman without having this to deal with.
My condolences to your childhood youth and your mental.
If you hadnāt told your husband yet, please let him know so that he can give you support when you do decide to tell your family.
Or, you can set up a session for therapy and invite your family.
However you feel comfortable telling them, have your support in your corner.
I suggest that you seek professional help to deal with your PTSD and get your therapist to help you make the family decisions. So sorry about your experience. Wish you well .
tell the family they will believe or they wont, i believe you, i spoke up to have peace and you know what it was the right thing to do, its different nowā¦ it will make you literally sick if you dont, good luck 
If you canāt talk to your family seek some counseling. There is no need or purpose for you to have any contact with this predator. It helps to have someone to talk to thatās impartial. Flashbacks are terrible and affect your everyday life. I pray you find peace.
That was so kind of you to give good advice to someone who has basically gone through much the same thing. I hope that helping others will help those ghosts finally go away. Good for you honey!!!
You are experiencing PTSD
from those experiences. You need to contact your Primary care Doctor about some kind of counseling that you can afford. Itās time to take care of YOU!!!-
I agree with Karen Otte, it you get counseling, you can figure out the best way to handle this. It will not go away by itself. Please seek professional counseling, for your sake, and for your familyās sake.
This will continue to hurt you if you do not tell someone.I would go see a therapist because it is still silent.You need to get it out in the open,so you can feel some relief of the pain you are holding on to.
Itās a heavy burden to carry. Such a long time. I think ultimately you want to tell them I think itās your way forward to try & find closure. If there can ever be closure. Itās true family donāt always believe & certainly do take sides & itās not always best for you. If they donāt believe you it opens up a whole world of hurt & betrayal.
Are u close to your dad? Maybe tell him first and he can help u talk to your mom. Definitely talk with therapist. Iāve been through a similar situation so I understand that fear and anxiety.
TELL them. Get some trauma Therapy. I waited until I was in my 30ās to tell anyone about a very violent assault when I was an 18 year old Virgin. ( by my sisters Boyfriend no less). I spent 8 years āon the couchā. My parents just thought I chose to use drugs because it was āfunā. I wishh I had told them sooner. ! am 39 years clean but the ghost of my past still appears now and again.
You need to be prepared for them to be shocked. Also some misplaced anger as they may blame themselvesā¦ have your support group with youā¦ I was given courage by a friendā¦ I told mum as I knew I would not be able to handle dads hurt in his eyes. So choose your parent or bothā¦ many years later my dad asked me some questions but I donāt think I went into full details with either my mum or dadā¦ part of abuse situations is silencing your voiceā¦ feeling like your voice doesnāt matterā¦ this can go on and effect many parts of your lifeā¦ you will also be surprised by some peopleās reactionsā¦ my brother (younger than me) when he found out wanted to punch him outā¦ the abuser wanted to come to my wedding (was never going to get an invite!!) and quite a few were quite vocal about if he was to show upā¦ take care.
Although it wonāt be easy our secrets make us sick and as long as you keep it he has the power. Although Iāve never been through this I truly believe it will bring you freedom to Put it out there but be prepared sometimes people believe what they want to not necessarily the truth
Noā¦you donāt forget it!
It happened and your the victim.
I too was in your shoes,I donāt care if they believe or not,
I AM THE VICTIM OF SEXUAL ABUSE!
You donāt have to talk about it anymore to any of THEM!
Be proud, stand tall! act as a survivor because you are a survivor.
Be proud of that!
Sweetie you need therapyā¦ā¦ and the last thing you need is to write to him. I hope, when you are able to tell your family, that they will be supportive of you. You never know until you try.
Get it off your shoulders, but donāt expect them to take sides and feel the same way you do, because that causes a whole other set of issuesā¦get it off your chest and let them digest the info the best way for themselves
Tell your mother and rest of family shout it out and do confront him even if itās by mail. This will help you so much. Trust me been there done that
You can tell her you have reasons not to care or take part. And leave it at that.please seek counseling
Come out about it if you wish to for yourself. If you dont, thatās your right too. You need to tell your family, But if you do or if you dont, regardless you dont have to write him or send him anything. If you wish to keep what happened to yourself, the only response you have to give when asked to communicate with him is no. When asked why. Just respond that you dont agree with his choices in life and you have no desire to be close with him. Its your story to keep or tell when ever or if ever you get ready to, but nothing is obligating you to keep in touch with him just because he is related to you.
Females need to stop hiding maleās bad behavior. In addition, do not send photos of you or your daughter into jail.
Go on the Steve Wilkos show. Take that lie detector test and prove to your family that youāre speaking of truths so they can begin to understand what you went through. Itās going to haunt you the rest of your life. And no itās not going to change anything but he can help you get some closure and possibly add to the guys sentence and he can get you help to deal with it.
Always share. Always share. Let is out. Find a way. Write it in a letter to yourself or your family. Or burn it. Write a book to help others. You do whatever you need to do to express this and move on with your life. And while Iām writing you, I need to take my own advice. Hope you can find freedom in your heart
Would it help to write your uncle a letter and tell him how this has affected your life and how he should tell your parents what he has done?
Tell them. Do not worry about anyones feelings but your own. Time to take care of you.
My father abused me but went to prison for 3 other girls 2 were 13 and had his kids my mom never believed me but I never confronted the problem of saying out loud in front of everyone and I was angry and didnāt realize how scared I was that he would get out and try to hurt my daughterās but the day I knew he died it felt like the world came off my shoulders and I was free and no longer angry at the world
Your mother does love her brother of course. But no love trump that love of a child. I hope you can find peace with whichever decision you make. Either one will be hard.
Tell it! It will help you heal. They need to know!
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Please tell your Mom. She may accept or she may not. Thatās her problem. Just get it out for yourself.
You need to tell your family. They deserve to know and you need peace.
Tell your Mother. Secrets fester and you will be hurt the most if you keep it all to yourself.
You should tell anybody when that happen a teacher Dr orsomebody you really trust specially you mother
Talk to someone! A therapist, priest, or someone you trust.
Tell your
Mother, the truth, and set yourself free.
You need to see a counselor.
No tell your mom and dad tell your husband , I know what it can do to you , just do it be calm.
Tell them the truth. If they do not believe or accept it, that is on them, NOT you. You are free from it! Take care
Talk to your mom about it and I would write him about it with no return address .
Nah! Tell the truth. It will set you free.
Please tell your family itās the only way you will move forward
write him a letter telling him how much he hurt you and how you really feel
I think you should tell somebody get it off your shoulders
No get some help and tell the truth
Canāt help go to your pastor of a church or to Mhmr they can help. Or I can try my name is James.
My uncle molested me from the age of 4 to 12 the only reason it stopped was because we moved out of state. The first person I told EVER was my husband and he āforcedā me to tell my dad. It was good for me to finally be able to tell him. I will say some family was upset that it came out but they were more upset that I had not come to them sooner. I say it did help and sometimes I say it didnāt. I still carry my shame of it but atleast now I really do understand it was not my fault. You can do this and after or before go to therapy but find a therapist that works for you
You are worried about hurting your family when you are the one whoās hurting the most. You must free yourself by letting your family know even if you have to have a family group therapy session. Your freedom matters. Your mental health matters. Yes, your Uncle is in prison for life. You donāt have to be incarcerated in the mind because of the secret hurt and pain you are carrying on the inside because of his transgressions against you. #ReleaseItā¦your future depends on it. It was not ok. You may not be his only victimššæ.
If you can tell us you can tell your family
You need to say some thing it will help you I know
Forgive him. Heāll have to square with it one day. The forgiveness truly is FOR YOU. Why not tell your mom? You didnāt do antrhing wrong, he did. Your mom will not be destroyed. We moms are pretty tough. You could also go visit him. Let him know you remember, you forgive him & move on. Counseling might also help you. I learned a long time ago, holding it is is only eating at you & is truly, physically & mentally not good. The truth really will set you free.
I think you should sit your family down with a therapist and tell them. You need to get it off your chest.
Rid your self of this pain. Itās not yours to carry anymore, you are not responsible for how any of your family takes this. You deserve the freedom of torment from this. Iām so sorry you have carried it this long. I too am a victim I know this feeling all to well. Good luck sweetie, let it go!
Youāve had any long enough tell I did they know anyway for real they just want to pretend like they donāt
Dont ever write. If they ask, Tell everyone, especially your Mom. You will feel a little better, but the hurt and shame will never go away. What he did was not natural and there will always be a little girl inside your head screaming for someone to save her. Trust me, I have my own little girl inside my head. You are not alone.
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They need to know, tell them truth , pray before you tell them, letting go and telling them will set you free and give them peace , are go through a theripist and then the both of you can tell them, you should not have to live your life with this awful pain ā¦
Stop worrying about there feelings and start doing damage control and working on fixing your feelings. The only way you can do that is empowering them and the truth.
Show this post to your family. He need to have another life sentence since he subject you to that.
Bring it out into the open.
No, youāll never come to terms,
Do not write or especially send any pictures.
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