Try Ruby Love or Thinx- they have swimsuits that are specially made to wear during your period as well as underwear.
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Let her wear tampons. There’s nothing wrong with them if you teach her how to put them in and she changes them often. They even make organic ones that don’t contain all the harsh stuff. She can wear them while swimming then use her normal method when not swimming.
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My daughter was fourteen and involved in swimming and after an older girl told her about a certain tampon, she asked if I would get it for her. I did and she did have to practice using it, but once she got the hang of it, she felt more confident in the water. It was a couple of times a week that it was needed. I realize it could be everyday of your daughter’s vacation , but then once home again, it wouldn’t be very often
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Had a similar situation one summer. My daughter was was really stressing about it and decided she needed to figure out the tampon thing. It freaked her out before then. But once she figured it out she was mad at herself for waiting so long. I did a “demonstration” on a stuffed animal and she figured it out. Ever since it’s made her life so much easier.
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You have said yes but to all potential solutions except cancelling or asking your daughter what she would like. Women have been vacationing on their periods for decades. seems you ought to look at what messages you receivef about menstruationand consider whether you should pass them to your daughter…
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Teach her how to use a tampon. Most girls can handle it to swim. When she gets out of the water, she can go back to a pad. Give her the option. The bigger deal you make of it the more it becomes an issue.
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Hi there, I purchased the period underwear for my daughter and also the swimming version and they are amazing we tried them out in the shower first and they work great. Very expensive but well worth it xx good luck
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As a teen who
Hated pads and periods when my grandma finally talked me into trying a tampon it was life changing my period never stopped me from anything in life since then!
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My mother wouldn’t let me use tampons ( I’m old lol ) the first time I used one was on a camping trip with my brother. My period was early so I didnt have any pads. Just brought some of my sister’s just in case. So I had to use it. Was never taught how. It was painful since I didnt have it in correctly . Talk to her now, and give her the option. I let my daughter choose after the first few periods.
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Is her period always on time with the app, my step daughters is not predictable at all. She may not have it 
worse case teach her how to use the tampons just for being in the water…
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She might as well get used to living life anyway. Have her use tampons. She’ll have so much more freedom.
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I agree with not allowing my daughter to use tampons but in this situation I would allow her to use the teen ones… I would have her changing more often and be on top of her changing on a regular basis through the day to ensure she doesnt develop that toxic shock syndrome… but for a one time thing I think it would be ok…
Give her tampons ,ibuprofen, might as well not make a big deal about it,its gonna be around a few years.
She can swim with a tampon,sharks wont eat her geez.
Dont make it seem like it will ruin your time or it will.
Raise a warrior not a wimp.
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IMHO, tampons improve the whole period experience and I am forever grateful to my teenage friend who clued me in… my mother had issues like yours.
I informed my daughters and gave them their options from the beginning. Kotex used to make a ‘training pack’, but a friend told me they don’t make them anymore.
Make sure she understands she needs to change her tampons regularly, every few hours.
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As her parent, I think it is important to give your daughter information about all of the choices available to her regarding her menstrual cycle (pads, tampons, cups, magic underwear, etc.).
You can give her your opinion… but let her know it is your OPINION and that she has choices. Then help her with any questions, research or investigation she wishes to pursue on the subject.
Finally, support her decision.
I’m glad this subject is being discussed… over the last decade menstruation has come out of the ‘shame closet’… Hopefully discussion will continue regarding affordable or free quality menstruation products. The fact that something that is a biological necessity for HALF the population is so frickin’ expensive is a sin! I worked in a school district and a good amount of girls had to beg for sanitary napkins from the school nurse, because their family couldn’t afford it. That is shameful.
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I am in my 70’s. I wish someone taught me how to use a tampon. I never could feel comfortable with one.
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Teach her to use tampons.
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Tampons are okay, change them every 4-8 hours and as long as she removes them nightly she will be fine. I started when I was 8 and started using Tampons around 13 off and on because Toxic Shock Syndrome is real. So for 36 years I wore them. I am now 62. No problems at all.
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There’s a pill she can take that just delays it until you want it to start again. It begins with an ‘n’ can’t remember the name. Works really well for occasional use ie holidays. Not sure on the age restrictions though 
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What’s your problem with tampons? They work. Let her use them
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There are swim suits that are designed for periods or even period nickers that’s are equivalent to 4 tampons and then lighter ones equivalent to 3 tampons. My daughter started to use tampons around the age of 14 never looked back on pads again she is now 19
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Tampons saved my life as a teen. I could swim and do whatever I wanted. Stop responding for her what does she want?
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Well unless she wants to wear a pad and look like she is wearing a diaper coming out of the water…teach her to use tampons and where they go in (they dont take away virginity, they make smaller ones for teens)…just tell her she needs to change it every 4 hours, sooner if she has a heavy flow…Menstural cups are great, but she will have to reach up in her vagina and pull it out so tampons are much easier and a lot less traumatizing for a 13 yr old…
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I’ve tried the cup and wouldn’t suggest it for a teen or on vacation. I would only use it at home. Teach her to use tampons!
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I strongly recommend the cup. They are absolutely amazing, I don’t know how I survived without it. It’s safer and way more comfortable then tampons. If it’s put in correctly you don’t even know it’s there. Depending on your flow you can wear it for 8-12 hours.
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Theres nothing wrong with tampons it’s either that or stay out of pool and all water don’t ruin your daughters vacation because of your own stubbornness that’s not fair I bet if u were on your period you would be useing tampons so u could enjoy the pool
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Teach her how to properly wear a tampon. This is a lifelong issue she will have to deal with… why wait?
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I know you said not comfortable with her wearing tampons but I don’t see a way around it she’s old enough and most likely will want to try them anyhow. I say when she’s going to be in the water try the cup or tampons for that time only pads the remainder of the trip. She doesn’t have to use them always. I’d get her to try them before you trip a few times to make sure she is using them correctly and is comfortable with it though.
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Why would this question be on Facebook? Good heavens!
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Get over yourself. This is about her, not you. If you are so concerned about her having a good time, I would suggest allowing her to decide what she is comfortable with.
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My mom wasn’t comfortable with me wearing tampons, and unfortunately I always had accidents. I didn’t want to leave the house anymore. There isn’t anything shameful about your period. Practice using light tampons. I found as I got older and heavier periods tampons no longer worked. The cup is much better for me. Make this a holiday a good time to remember.
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No diffrence in cup or tampons. Teacher her correct way to use them. If you don’t one of her friends will.lol (been there).Most All young girls do now days. Retired School nurse.
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I would say just use the tampon for swimming or any water sports and let her use regular ones otherwise .For safety along with the regular pad let her put on a disposable pull ups diaper while walking around no one will know your name is not shown here it could be between u and her …I know this sounds laughable but in reality its quite comfortable and dose not show .it could be use with a pants too she would feel safe .
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We all had to miss out on stuff when we had our periods growing up. Even now if I get my period when my boyfriend visits me we are fine and can deal with it. People are so quick to try to make life easy for their kids that kids don’t have the concept of adapting to different situations.
I know they have shots to hold you period. A friend was getting married and she knew she was going to get her period. I don’t know how safe that is though. I suggest do some research on that to make sure it’s safe for your daughter. Good luck with that.
Omg my mom was like this and refused to let me wear tampons too. I was miserable. I finally went behind her back and figured it out myself. I love my mom but please don’t make her learn this stuff on her own. This process would be so much easier if you just opened up and explained how tampons work. You have the ability to not make this less stressful on her…so do it. Sorry but not sorry if this sounds harsh but it’s time to move forward she growing and changing. You need to make this an easy transition and not a miserable one. I am a mother of boys that aren’t even in their teens yet. They already know about periods, what girls go through and why. It’s our jobs to helps them understand life so someone else doesn’t the hard way.
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I am 71 and have had many periods on vacation. Yes its unfortunate the timing of vac is bad but def try the tampons. Used correctly they should work out.
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Why are you uncomfortable with her wearing tampons? She is probably uncomfortable wearing pads, especially on her heaviest days. They have the slender teen tamps that my girls used, one of them at age ten. Just teach her how to use them and to change them often enough. She will have a much better vacation and so will you. 
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We use Thinx between period underwear for daily use and modi bodi swim period bottoms for swimming. Never had a leak. My daughters 11 for reference. Good luck
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My 14-year-old will use a tampon if necessary, though she doesn’t like them, in order to be able to swim, whether on vacation or in a swim competition. There are teen specific sizes.
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The period underwear are working great for my granddaughter. Wish they would have had them years ago. She goes swimming all the time with them.
This literally happened to me when I was 12! Went to the beach and got my 3rd period ever while there. Obviously I had never used a tampon before but at the time that was basically the only thing available or just not get in the water. I’ve been using a tampon ever since and I wouldn’t change it!! The older I got the heavier my flow was and I was already used to tampons and only had to go up in size. Speaking from experience, my mom letting me use a tampon was the best thing that could have happened in that situation
Ny granddaughter is 12, and used a pad briefly, hated it, and then went to using tampons. She is fine with it and so is her mom. She does some sports, so this works out wel for her. Most girls, once they discover tampons, want nothing to do with pads.
I went through the same thing when I was 13. My friend explained it all and I started using tampons. If she is big enough to have heavy periods like a grown woman then let her try. I was happy to not sit on the side and make excuses to my friends. It’s okay Mama, let her try. She may say no but she will appreciate that you let her make the choice. This will help with your relationship if you allow her to have a say in a big girl event.
Kotex has a sports tampon. My girl uses these. For active women. If a tampon is placed right your girl could use a medium to heavy flow. Take her to an A Gyn and let them explain it and educate you both. I wouldnt allow her to wear them all the time. Not now any way. She will be fine.
Why not let your daughter in on the decision she may be content to sun bath or let her use the tampons. Nobody has died from them and they are not as inconvenient as thought. There are product fir heavy flow as well as light flow and she will learn a new method of hygiene!
I would say consult her Dr. If she feels uncomfortable talking about it go on internet with her and find something that would help her understand usage of each thing available and let her try ones that might be comfortable for her.
Please dont slam me for saying this because I honestly dont know if it is safe at all or an option to be considered especially at her young age … But what about birth control pills? They regulate the period and brides have been using the mehod for years?
I’ll probably get a lot of flack for my comment, but here it goes anyway… I know of women who have used birth control pills to “delay” their period. Some also use BCP to manage heavy periods. Check with her family doctor.
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They also have period panties that she can use as an additional barrier to prevent any embarrassing leakage that could occur. IMO, menstrual cups are amazing, but might be overwhelming for someone her age.
Try the new underwear that you wear without pads. My 13 year old grand daughter loves them. They even come in colors My granddaughter wore a pair of black ones as bottoms fir her two piece and no one knew the difference!!
I would suggest tampons. I taught my girls to practice putting them in when they weren’t on their period so that it wouldn’t be so messy as they learned and experimented and would feel more comfortable when they were on their period.
Why…??? Its her body. Let her have a choice. The cups work great tbh, you really need to adjust your view of periods before you ruin hers. Has to be said.
One daughter did tampons from the start. Didnt even know she started getting her periods till I saw the used tampons in the trash.
Other daughter now uses the cup, she loves it, but she is in her 30’s, dont know how a 13 year old would do with it.
Talk to gp she can her some pills that will stop her period then when u return she stops taking them and period will start
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The cups are gross. As a medical provider I have had to remove as they often stick. They are messy
My advice is the same as everyone else’s let her use a tampon, the only thing different I would say is to get her to try them out for a few days before hand to get the hang of them so she feels comfortable and isn’t worrying about whether it’s going to fall out or get stuck (real concerns for teenage first users)
Menstral Cups are internal. Same thing happened to me as a kid. When her period is a little lighter, she’s can swim with nothing because the flo stops
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I’m 63 and was wearing tampons at 13. We lived on a lake. I have a daughter who is 33. She started wearing them around that age also. Her choice. The cups don’t sound very appealing to me either. For the reasons you mentioned.
Let her use the tampon, it will not effect her virginity, and she will be much happier than with the bulky pads!
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I would not suggest the cup for her unless she is experienced with them.
Tampons are the way to go. There are so many choices for teens
My daughters used tampons by 13. They were involved in sports and it made them feel more at ease.
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The archaic reason for no tampons was that it would cause a girl to not be a virgin if her hymen broke. I would hope we aren’t stuck in the same stupid place my mom was 50+ years ago. She only let me use pads, which chafed and irritated terribly when I was riding/showing horses. My sister introduced me to tampons and I never looked back.
We asked our mom to let us try tampons when we were 13 & 14 (sample/travel box) and we haven’t gone back to pads since. When my daughter got her period at 12 (she’s 29 now), I instantly gave her tampons. I explained the sizes and made sure she had an ample supply of each size. It really is so freeing. I can tell you it does not take your virginity or make you sexually active earlier. It does, however, take away that conscious focus away from that bulk in your drawers.
When I was a teenager I had my best friend help me figure out wearing tampons. What a relief to have someone care. Maybe she has a girl friend her age that she can ask to help her. Relax mom and you can all enjoy your vacation.
Okay, I was a Lifeguard and a synchronized swimmer. Used tampons from 12 years old until the end of that part of my life. Tampons were necessary when we had swimming meets. No they have nothing to do with virginity. 
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Once in the water you period shuts off. You can use pads and swim shorts on too of the bottom. I live in Florida and have a daughter. We’ve gone to the water with our period. It isn’t a big deal just have back up pads and change once you’re out of the water
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Get her all of them. Pads, tampons, menstrual cups and period panties. Let her decide what she wants to use.
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I would be so embarrassed if my mother posted this. You could of checked her app before you made the vacation, figure it out and enjoy the time
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They make great tampons now.wished they were available when I was 13
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Tampons are a good route, and my daughter has used the cup. Her flow can be very heavy, she says they are super comfortable
I’d teach her to use a tampon. From experience, I had a period ruin a family trip because I couldn’t go in the water. The value of learning to use them is huge!
I’ve used the cup and I’ll tell you right now that even though I prefer it, tampons were a LOT easier to figure out. Just give her tampons. It’s not symbolic of being a more grown up if you use tampons instead of pads. This seems to be the only way to let her enjoy the vacation
I understand that most people were brought up with not wearing tampons because that was me. This is kind of embarrassing but when I was younger my mom wouldn’t allow me to wear tampons probably because she felt it was wrong but every time I was on my period I would dread it and r afraid of getting it all over my clothes. You see I would not only get bad cramps but I would have a heavy menstrual cycle. Lots of times I would get it all over my undies and pants. It was honestly the worst well eventually I did sneak wearing tampons and then let my mom know. It wasn’t for the pleasure at all I not only had to wear tampons but also a pad to make sure and now I’m 29 and it’s still heavy but still use this method. I think you should give the option and be very open. It would sick for your daughter not to be able to swim. Any ways hope you guys have an awesome vacation
Talk to the doctor they maybe able to give her noresthisterone, not sure on minimum age, but it delays your periods, take the tablets few days before your due on, then throughout holiday, then stop taking them the day you come.back and she should then come on couple days after. Period may be heavier and the next may be out of sync but worth asking GP x
We got teen ones to try first and it helped a lot it gets easier they are safe as long s you talk to her how long in and when to change
They have improved tampons so much. I have used them in the past and so had my daughter just for swimming. I had to show my daughter h hope to use them the very first time just for swimming and she learned very quickly on how to use them. Maybe is your daughter is lucky she will be a late starter.
Why not try period undies my 13 yr old wears them swimming just put on a fresh pair before getting in the water and then she is safe to get out no leaks
I’ve used menstrual cups for years and they are fantastic. Like yes you have to clean them, but that just means you dump them out in the toilet and the rinse them with warm water from the sync. That’s it. It’s not gross at all, and when I started using them, I gained a whole new relationship with my body, and it was really positive.
There is a common stigma that period blood is dirty, and that’s not true. It’s actually much less concentrated than the blood in our veins because it is also mixed with uterine lining and other such materials the body natural produces when we are on our periods. Too often young women are shamed for having their periods, and made to feel like they are gross. Which can be really harmful psychologically. Menstrual cups are a great way to ensure your daughter can still go swimming, and that she gains a healthy relationship with her body. Win win all around.
Ultimately too, would suggest giving her the information about the different products available, and letting her decide what is best for her.
I’ve seen some period bathing suit bottoms that are supposed to be great in the water… might be worth looking into and see if they offer Express shipping
My periods always are extremely heavy and I have to use super mega absorbent tampons and I’ve never had a problem being in the water or swimming . Never had a leak or anything . I just went to South Padre island in April and I was on my period the whole time I was there and I still got on the beach and went in the water and went swimming . It’s more of what she’s comfortable with I’d say
Honestly a app why use a app? That sounds so controlling to me. Yes I’m old school my mom tossed a box at me with a rose on it and a belt. That pad went from my belly button to my back done😂 that was in the 70’s . Talking. About being self conscious because the pad was thick and everyone could see the lining of it through my pants. A grocery store was going out of business and my dad bought all the tampons. Well with 4 daughters. We was so happy not to see that box with a rose on it again.
they have an app for that now wow anyway you may have to work around being in the water the entire time try to find other activities that may include water like some kind of sprinkler thing or other things
I use the diva cups and absolutely love them!!! It is alittle gross to empty and wash but even on a heavy period I get 10-12 hours of protection.
The menstrual cup is my go to. I wish I was exposed to one earlier. I’ve always had really heavy flows and I can go so much longer without changing a cup than a tampon. It has also reduced my flow, cramps, and number of days I have my period. Thirteen year old me would’ve loved this.
The doctors can prescribe some tablets she can take to stop her getting her period whilst on holiday. As soon as she gets home stop taking them and she will have her period as normal.
This makes me feel better… To see all the insites… My 12 year old just started her period… My mother said tampons where bad blah blah blah… Turns out im allergic to most pads unless its the obes made with real cotton amd its not joke i blister in the bends of my legs ect. And makes the whole cycle ams peeing for many fays to come very painful… I had to hide tampons from my mother until after i moved out… Years later when mom found out i used them she just thought it was the grossest awful thing in the world… Now im a mother and my 12 year old prefers tampons shes allergic to pads as well and ahes more like me she doesnt even like the pads she can wear. To each their own… Don’t make her feel odd for making the decision that works vest for her
Well explain to her about the choices Maybe she will be satisfied by just standing in the water. I really don’t want her to be wet and bloody. Too much.
Let her wear tampons. No harm just remind her to change it often. She will love tampons & wonder why she hasn’t used them before.
I don’t use them myself but have several friends who swear by the Spanx period panties that target sells for non swimming. And I hear tell there are swimsuits made the same way which younger girls are using when tampons are not an option. Apparently these things open the magical closet to Narnia and no blood ever leaks. The site someone gave me to put a starter kit together for my daughter is rubylove.com. I’m not sure if they have the swimwear but they might.
Go to your doctor and just get birth control for that month and have her miss a period or get the shot…
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Tampons are the way. Do not use menstrual cups. They are super messy to pull them out also if you don’t place them in the right she could leak and it’s uncomfortable. Maybe try the period underwear. They are a bit expensive but really nice. I’m not sure how they would work at a water park.
I am almost 40 years old and I would not use one of those menstrual cups, they seem really scary to me, I feel like it would be terrifying for a 13-year-old girl, please just let her use tampons
Let her use tampons. Teach her about the potential issues and she will be fine. This is not the worst thing that will happen to her in her life!
I can sympathize with her. I had extremely heavy periods for years!
I’m well beyond this issue, but I just was reading another thread this week that discussed the same subject. There are not period bathing suits and period underwear. In addition to on line the posts mentioned at least the underwear being available at Walmart and Victoria’s Secret.
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Drink good raspberry tea to postpone the period! Worked for me.
I couldn’t use tampons due to the fact that my hymen was unusually thick. So when I got my period I wore pads (a medium to large one) and dark shorts over my bathing suit and just changed pads as often as I could. This happened when I went to visit a friend to go swimming for the weekend . While obviously I would have rather not had to do that I managed. No one knew I was on my period (there where guys my same age joining us). I didn’t make a big deal or announce it and no one knew or suspected. I was 13 years old at the time. This is an uncomfortable situation. I have been there. I made the decision that I was going to have fun and not get hung up on the inconvenience.
Theres underwear designed specifically for swimming and general day to day wear…they are amazing! I have a 10yr old who is extremely uncomfortable about the whole situation but we have found these to be a god send.
My 13 year old uses tampons. There is no other way for her to enjoy water parks amd the beach without them. Just make sure amd remind her to take the last one out.
As someone who experienced Disney world and universal at 13 on her period, with brothers; it was awful not being allowed tampons. Just imagine how uncomfortable you would be in wet clothes, wet pads, in the humidity heat and worrying about bleeding through and shifting pads and being shy and having to communicate multiple bathroom trips to the whole family and chafing…
If you wouldn’t want to experience that yourself; teach her about tampons. Teach her about all the products and let her practice before the trip. With the cup, how is she supposed to empty that and clean it in a public restroom.