Me and mine haven’t been active since 2019 . We are in our 30s . I’m about ready to leave .
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He has ed. to embarrassed to bring up
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My husband asked does he ever go to the bathroom at work? With other women? There are always ways around it. So ya no, not good !
He needs some viagra the blue pills 
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Given the fact he is almost in his 60s, he’s getting to the age where it probably doesn’t work anymore. It can also be the fact y’all are together 24/7 too. Make it fun and sexy. Find that flame y’all had and spark it up again. Like someone mentioned above it’s okay to do your own things separately. Y’all don’t have to be together 24/7.
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He may be embarrassed by some issues he’s having and in fear of not being able to finish what is started
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Low testosterone is a bigger problem these days. He should look into it. He’ll feel better too. You’re too young for this and you will become resentful.
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Handcuff him down while he’s sleeping and go to town gurl!
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Hormones is probably the biggest problem. Maybe even more serious underlying condition. Prostate or testosterone issues should be checked out by a Dr. Good luck.
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You are so much more patient than me!!
Same here but almost 6 plus years . But we’re both fine with it. But if it’s a problem then it’s time to see the Dr.
Best of luck
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Check into prostate cancer my x it wouldn’t get up
He can have his dr do labs and give him viagra
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He most probably run out of cut lol 
I mean, he’s at that age and probably very embarrassed. But he needs to get over it and get some help. Can he email his doctor? That may be less embarrassing for him. If it’s still important to you, as your partner, it should be important to him, as well, to make sure that your needs are met.
I went threw this with my hubby it was so sad it started i thought he was cheating then I thought it was me but he promised me it wasnt me we made love mayb 2 times a yr he didn’t wanna touch or look at me cause he new what it would lead to in my mind and he knew he couldnt perform so he avoided me like the plaque it took him 4 yrs b4 he swallowed his pride and agreed to let me go with him to the dr and ask for help they checked his testosterone and it was very low they put him on what I jokingly call the green pill it’s amazing we do our 4 play as it takes 40 mins to kick in then we can make love just like normal give him time to swallow his pride and be gentle my hubby explained it as feeling like a failure as a husband and he didnt wanna admit it so show him love and be intimate other ways hold hands and snuggle work into the convo easy if u love him its worth the slow working into it
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there can be dry spells due to aging; talk to doctor
Time to book an appt with the Dr and get some pills to help. It isn’t something that is shameful, it happens.
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You’re probably spending too much time together, between car rides to and from work, then work and home. That’s just too much togetherness.
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When I was a kid, I saw a license plate frame that said
“Sex after 60 is like shooting pool with rope”
Hearing that’s a lie
He’s almost 70… he’s probably embarrassed and feels like shit about it.
A lil Viagra snuck into his food and drinks won’t hurt him 
I’m totally joking 
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Didn’t read all comments but did he move into your house? Did he contribute $$$ in the relationship (was he broke?) Does he have any retirement $$$? Maybe he needed a woman to live off of and take care of him. It’s the only thing I can think of
His testosterone may be low……
Fan question is just me or are these posts kinda ridiculous how am I even in this group
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24 hours a day every day with your spouse is a lot. Give him a chance to miss you.
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If he’s on any antidepressants that can contribute to low sex drive or performance issues. It could also be low testosterone. I would just be open and honest with him, you have needs, ask him to help find a solution.
He needs to get his heart checked immediately. This is not a minor thing. A sudden change of this nature needs to be addressed.
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He might have low testosterone. Man-opause is a thing. Maybe some supplements or foods that encourage testosterone for him could be a start.
Any guy over 40 start to loose " it " . Females are then same. It is frustrating for both side. Don’t push him . Work with him. See help if he truly wants it. If not still be happy and get toys and have him participate. Worst thing to do is keep nagging about it as it could hurt your relationship., Maybe drink a little and then try to be sex for him … Good luck.
Given his age sexual dysfunction is likely the culprit. I think you should try to encourage him to go see the doctor and have his testosterone levels checked. I would tell him how much it would mean to you, and how much it hurts you that you two aren’t connecting physically right now. Hopefully he will be more motivated to go regardless of how much his pride is getting in the way.
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Aside from his age if he takes meds such as beta blockers and/or diuretics these definitely cause erectile dysfunction. Go see his primary dr with him and ask him to refer you to a urologist.
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For your husband…rip …
Viagra or a pill over the counter called rhino
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It could be medical. I was with a guy that it didn’t work and he refused to do anything about it…found out later he was emotionally involved with someone else.
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You guys are probably too much in each other’s space
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Maybe he has fallen out of love/attraction? I know that sounds harsh but it happens. If he doesn’t want to get medical help to fix a potential problem I think that’s a sign.
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I would say you need some time away from each other
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Too much togetherness. On the way to work , at work, on the way home. Probably he’s bored. I’d be bored. You gotta have a life outside each other to have something to talk about.
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Have you gained weight? Are you attractive? Viagra is great, but you still need physical attraction
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Even if “it” doesn’t work…he has fingers and a thumb, a mouth and there are other “things”…“toys”. Lol but I agree, let him miss you a bit. Lol
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I’m not surprised given his age
Its the male equivalent of menopause
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Stick a viagra pill in his food lol
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He just needs testosterone shots. Just have him go and tell the doc what’s going on. It’ll make him feel better AND make “it” work better. It’s a win-win-win
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Guys drop their sex drive and then it peaks and then it goes away it happens . But he could also say it doesn’t work because of other reasons, such as if he does everything in the bedroom that could’ve became a “chores“ by him doing everything now and no fun. That also makes the guy lose interest quite fast.
And one thing that I know that if you keep pressing for it , it just makes some repel more.
I say find the root of the problem by talking to him and then lay off of it for a while find more sexual pleasures with yourself in the bedroom with toys etc. that you could do yourself alone. Probably you know one night you could be having fun with yourself and he could hear you and then spark interest wanna come join. 
Make meapause. Low testosterone. Go to doc.
He is embarrassed about it 
poor fella, try getting some help for him? And talk about it!!
Can always use toys and such 
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He’s weiner ain’t workin’ and he’s ashamed to tell you… 
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Go out with your friends or let him go and you stay home. You’re to much up each other’s tale all the time
Maybe you guys need space? If you do everything together? Just a suggestion
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He could just be embarrassed about talking to a Dr about it.
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Please don’t put viagra in his food as stated above. It can be dangerous if he’s not being overseen by a physician, especially if he’s taking any other meds. You can encourage him to speak with his Doc about tx for low-T. That will help.
(Edited to add the word ”don’t” because I definitely didn’t intend to recommend drugging him without his knowledge!)
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It is best for one or both to move on.
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Might also be cause y’all are together 24/7. Take a mini vacation. Come back and show how much you missed him. But also have the conversation. Might be physical (medical)
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Look up Penile ultrasound therapy is otherwise known as penile shockwave therapy.
He might be experiencing prostate issues & needs to see urologist.
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Well as a man it is always a very touchy subject when we can do something as well as we used to be able to do it, so yes it sucks that that is where he is at I don’t know about your guys fore play life or what’s going on in his life but if it was me and I was in his position the best way to get me out of this rut and to want to do something about it is showing him what he is missing. If it doesn’t work and he doesn’t want to do anything about it then do it for yourself in front of him and show him what he is missing out on trust me no man is gonna let that go on for to long no matter how stubborn he is without doing something about it
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Nugenix testosterone booster?
Holy shit 3 years without sex that’s crazy
Well he is near 70 fgs
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It sounds like he might be embarrassed about it/feel shame and doesn’t want to say anything. Maybe try to approach it lightly with a conversation
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He told u it doesn’t work anymore but he could be pleasuring you . He should probably see a doctor
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He might be having a medical issue (ED) and be embarrassed. Or another condition leading to decreased libido. The best thing is to just talk to him and then, if necessary, to the doctor.
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Go talk honestly to a urologist. There are a dozen things they can do. After two years it work for me and I have diabetes and high blood pressure
Lordy he’s almost 70. How long is it supposed to stay??? Such pressure to perform.
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Even if it “doesn’t work”
He should still be trying to please you and get you off ….as it seems you have needs that need met
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So what? He can still please you orally…have you suggested that to him?
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He’s screwing someone else
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Don’t be together 24/7. People need alone time. Hes had enough of your presence (I swear I dont mean this in a harsh manner). People need alone time. Who knows, maybe it doesnt work.
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Slip him some Viagra in a sandwich or a drink
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Ask him if u can get another man to pleasure you since he will not… he may like to watch. Haha!! Seriously tell him that u need it and he needs to do something before you lay there and make him listen to you do it yourself.
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Make an appointment with a Urologist
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Get him to the dr for the blue pill it works.
My husband is diabetic and is on insulin. That is one of the side effects. He has to have testosterone shots. Viagra will not work in his case
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If u live near birmingham go to dr.hamrick
There’s some one else most likely involved. Check it out. Could be either male or female
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Take him to a doctor most men won’t talk about it check get his PSA levels checked and prostate exam also you never stated if he was currently in medication so try to convince him to see his GP
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He is almost 70… Go to a doctor. It’s natural that he isn’t getting from his body to do what you both want
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Maybe he’s just embarrassed and doesn’t know how to help himself. I’d start with a doctors appointment if he’s willing, or just sit down and try and talk it out.
I hope you can figure out a solution…
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Were both 70 n my husband stopped along time ago, he’s a heavy drinker n falls out as soon as he gets in bed .
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This excuse is used as just that… an excuse, when knowingly they do not have that issue normally… I understand age, yes, but people do not change over night. Actions and behaviors show other wise. Yes I understand again, age!! But given the factors and circumstances, you know more than the rest… but you ALSO know when something is different. Either it be physical or emotional… people do Not change over night. I’m sorry sweetie. 
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He probably has hormone imbalance issues. So “it” probably doesn’t work. 67 is getting up there lol. He would need to go see a doctor and have a complete Blood panel pulled along with hormone panel. All it takes is a little blue pill.
If his hormones are out of whack(at 67, they must definitely are) he may not feel the desire… it’s also hormone driven.
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Well personally I think you spend too much time together . Maybe he feels pressured. And maybe he really does have issues with erectile dysfunction. For better or worse right ?
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You’re together too much. Get time apart.
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This is common even for younger men unfortunately… my husband is nearly 50 and I just turned 40 and I was having the same kind of feelings you are… I knew he was not cheating on me… he adores me… he did finally contact a doctor… amazing these virtual telehealth appointments… they made my husband so much more comfortable discussing this issue… and it is no longer an issue… mind you… he did have to go in for blood work and testing… but all of that is very private of course and the initial conversation was so much easier in the privacy of our own home… good luck I hope everything works out for you!
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That’s A LOT of time spent together. Sometimes it’s refreshing to get to MISS your person a little, just my opinion… good luck
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His testosterone could be super low. My husbands was and we didn’t realize it. He takes medicine now and chases me almost daily around the house. He hasn’t done that in years.
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Yes it can be fixed.
I was going to say maybe he can’t perform anymore!
I would never, ever suggest an extra marital affair . (As I read a comment on here ? Threatening to sleep with another male/female is purely selfish , in my opinion). To each their own however , your husband may have some medical problems that are preventing him from being able to “perform” , he may be embarrassed and not know how to tell you, or his doctor . Some medications may cause E.D. Have your husband see his doctor and get a referral to see a urologist … He may just need a little help with some medication,(testosterone)be patient . I know it appears you have been. So many underlying health issues could be the case. Keep being supportive and I hope all works out for you both. Continue to stand by him and I am sure he will stand by you. God bless -
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Take no off your bedroom door
You spend way too much time together one of you get a new job or it won’t work
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He’s probably embarrassed. I’d talk him and make him feel comfortable about seeing a specialist.
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Time changes many things.
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Set him up a doctors appt to check him out a male doctor
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They have only been working together 6 weeks. That doesn’t explain the other 3 years… it definitely sounds like a hormone related problem but that may not be something he is even interested in changing. It could be embarrassment, as well, but it boils down to talking to him about it. If he doesn’t have the desire to change, begging or pushing him to speak with his doctor is going to have a negative effect. If he is embarrassed, try telehealth/zoom or a phone visit with a different clinic or provider. Sometimes it’s easier when it is someone you can choose not to see ever again. I strongly recommend not to make the appointment for him unless it is something he wants you to be directly involved in. Don’t force your way in and expect pleasant results. Good luck
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- one or other of you needs to get some time apart absence makes the heart grow fonder or wander not sure !
- talk to him
- both of you get individual lives
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It’s not your job to fix him, don’t waste another week with this. Start making plans that please you, LEAVING him sounds like the perfect plan. …
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He needs to get to the Dr and check his blood work, see if his labido and testosterone are in good levels
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