“Please don’t judge me be nice.” What a fucking clown
You and husband need a therapist to explore intimacy together. It isn’t always a sex issue but one of connection.
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Stop cheating. If ypu are not attracted to your husband breakbthe cycle and cheat. Other guys Ghost you because your not a loyal women and that is unattractive.
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So you married a man you aren’t attracted to? Well guess what that doesn’t give you a pass to sleep around. Marriage is a commitment forever not just when you feel like it. I’m assuming you are using you husband for either money or a fall back when your flavor of the week fizzles out. Let your husband go so he can find someone deserving of his time.
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You have a good husband and you’re out there cheating on him? He deserves better than you. That’s so sad.
They don’t like you, your just another girl in the streets. Now I hope your husband leaves you because you a snake 
girl you do not deserve a loving man like that let him go so you can be a hoe and give him to a real woman.
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You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Be lucky u have a good husband work on that. Maybe you have a higher libido. But men change as well. Remember that. Try talking to your husband. Tell him what ur problem is. Don’t go getting flirty with other ppl. Thats fishy stuff. How would u feel if you knew your husband was giving attention you wanted. Talk abt it. If you feel uncomfortable talking to him but comfortable talking flirtation with someone else. Maybe you don’t love your husband the way you think you do. Also marriage isn’t about screwing all the time. And if your doing sexual things with ppl other then ur husband you might as well hang up the wife uniform bc your fake as hell.
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Why go public that ur a cow…
Divorce…
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He needs to divorce you
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Smh…yeah your emotionally cheating on your husband. Get into therapy or let him go find a woman that loves him for who he is
You’re cheating. I read a lot of these anonymous posts and I have just one question…. Why arent y’all having honest and genuine conversations with your partners? It’s crazy to me. Talk to you partner, tell them how you’re feeling and be an adult about the situation. SMH.
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Attractive or not, that makes you trashy, and unattractive 
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Love isn’t about the chase. If you want to feel beautiful you may need to seek therapy. If you feel you need that attention after therapy ask your husband about an open relationship so you don’t break his heart
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It could be hormonal. You’re seeking a chemical reaction rush that, yes… a lot of people tend to enjoy with only 1 person or 2 I don’t judge anyone, but…. Obviously you feel like this is wrong but the pull is this strong. Maybe visit with an endocrinologist and yes, a sex addiction specialist (to rule out that area of behavior modification) and get it in check. 
You don’t do that to someone you love.
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Starting this with genuinely and lovely then admitting you’re cheating on your husband 
just stop. You’re a hoe. Just admit it. You’re poor husband.
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Perfect example on why I don’t even want to risk getting into a relationship. No one communicates and they’d much rather just cheat because they are afraid of losing their partner. Smh, I would call you trash but that would be an insult towards trash itself.
Those men don’t have any attention on staying with you. They get what they want from you cause you’re fast and easy and then ghost you.
You have a big ego, which is embarrassingly. Simmer down, have a talk with your husband.
You cheat on him emotionally and physically, you’re not a “genuine and lovely” wife.
You’re a easy fuck 
That feeling your getting is your intuition telling you something is wrong. And low an behold they ghost after they get them draws. Sorry but there are women who would love to have a great man and girls like you end up with them. Smh let that man go be a good man to a woman who wants to be a good woman for him🤷🏽♀️
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You need to be honest with your husband about how you’re feeling, and what you’ve been doing. If he’s willing to try to work to save your marriage you need counseling (both individually and as a couple), and if he’s not willing to work it out you both need to amicably go your separate ways. You’re obviously not 100% satisfied in your marriage, and he doesn’t deserve to have you lying and going behind his back.
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These other men ghost you because they’re done once they get what they want. Besides, NO ONE wants to think of a future with someone who cannot be trusted. You say you have everything you could want in a husband…that’s obviously a lie or you wouldn’t be sleeping around behind his back. Imagine how hurt your husband would be if he knew what you’re doing. Marriage is a commitment & love is a choice. Marriage gets hard & sometimes it might get boring; you choose to keep on loving your spouse & do everything you can to make things better. Doing everything you can NEVER includes cheating!! Your husband deserves so much better. You really want to break the cycle??? The best way to do that is come clean to your husband & leave him so he can find someone who truly loves and cares for him…it’s obvious you’re not that woman. What you’re doing is absolutely disgusting!!
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Sounds like you aren’t in love with your husband… if you were you wouldn’t be cheating on him like this.
I feel bad for him.
And honestly, it’s hard to “be nice” after reading that ….
When you’re truly in love and LOVE your partner you will find them the most attractive and want only them…
Your husband doesn’t deserve your dishonesty at all. It’s not fair to him and what you’re doing is so messed up…
How would you feel if he was doing all this to you??? It would make you feel like complete crap. Get some therapy and focus on your HUSBAND and your MARRIAGE. Pray to God and let him change you. Good luck
Sounds like your either addict to sex or are you or could you be bi-polar. With the bi-polar I’m not trying to be mean. Either way you got a good man at home so you say besides not being attracted to him. You need to seek help professionally. This is not ok.
Sorry but I AM judging. You have an amazing husband at home who loves you in every way and thinks you’re amazing and yet you still need to seek attention else where and betray your loyalty to him? How about you go tf home and talk to your man. He won’t know if you don’t tell him how you’re feeling.
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What in the ever living hell did I jus read?!? 
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He deserves someone who loves him the same way he loves.
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Therapy. There is no shame but you need it to become a better version of yourself
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Be single, you can’t find someone you’re attracted to while you’re married to someone else. Just let him go!
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I bet when your husband finds out (an he eventually will) and leaves you, you will suddenly find him more desirable. Sorry but “chemistry” is bullshit.
These stories have to be fake.
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Well, you have to start by telling your husband the truth then see what happens. Therapy is a good start.
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First and foremost, you haven’t stated if you’re in an ‘Open Relationship’ with your husband. Sounds like you’re are if you’re out scouting other bed partners.
Second, if you’re not, then set that husband of your free so you can experiment on your own and not crush him. It’s only fair to let him find someone who will rock his world.
Last but not least, while sex is not the only glue that holds a marriage together, it helps. You two are obviously not compatible physically and why would you want to take a chance and bring back ‘lord knows what’ to him by sleeping around, just because you like flirting and getting attention? Let your husband go and allow him to find someone who will worship him. You can then be free to find another lifelong partner and is also suggest perhaps some Counseling to help your along the way. Good luck.
Maybe he feels the same way. Yall need some communication.
Why are you married???
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Get a therapist !!!. think about how you would feel if the roles were reversed . Quit seeking attention when you’re a married women, that’s ridiculous … your husband deserves better …why would these men have respect for you ? You are showing them your true colors being a married woman and seeking attention elsewhere .
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Step 1 divorce
Step 2 go about ur business
HE deserves better then you.
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Not judging-get some help. Go to therapy.
YOU are a selfish woman! How can you do that to your HUSBAND just because that’s how you feel! He deserves so much better then your abnormal ways. Do him a favour and leave! Also they ghost you because your a cheap shag!
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First and foremost, you need to file for divorce. Your husband deserves someone who loves him, is faithful to him and actually takes their vows seriously. After that, I suggest you seek out a therapist to figure out why you’re incapable of anything other than meaningless sex. Yes, the adrenaline of the chase and build up is great but so is the emotional connection between two people who love, respect and care for each other. Until you’re able to figure out why you’re so emotionally unavailable, stay single and get yourself a vibrator.
You could always just do this online like normal people. 
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Valid advice: when someone compliments your looks, your dopamine levels go up, making you think about good things. This feeling is only TEMPORARY! Don’t let small gestures that create false happiness influence any decisions you make that could ruin your now relationship.
Also, we are in an age of instant gratification. That’s why it’s so quick for men (and women) to go out, get what they want and ghost someone because some other poor sap is waiting just right around the corner for their cute little pick up lines.
Lastly, complacency in a marriage isn’t a bad thing. Just means your have a found a way to cohabitate with each other. You found your niche with that person. If that person is willing to go to the worlds end with you, why would you risk that? Don’t divorce, just do better. Seek therapy for yourself. Explain to him what you need more of. If it’s validation, then let him know. Men are simple beings (
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Are you kidding me?!?! Before you cheated, you should have spoken to your man. Now you have jacked up your life over wanting some flirting. The audacity
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Pick up ur bible read
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Hey girl it’s gonna be okay. Those feelings are natural everyone has them. Its nice to know that you still have that charm to effect someone else. But just stop and think about what you already have in your old man and your kid and the one on his way it’s a battle yes but it’s worth it all. Family is all that matters. I Love you
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What in the fuck did i just read Nikki😳
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Do your husband a favor and divorce him. He deserves better, and you need to be single and utilize counseling as to why you need to find your self worth through sex.
Role play with your husband and stop cheating
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Totally get it .
Humans are not meant for Monogamy.
What I would do , because honesty is the most important part of a relationship is to talk to your spouse about your wants and needs and see if you can find common ground and “rules” you both agree on for your relationship.
Look into a open relationship or semi open relationship.
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You need to tell him that sexually its just not there … see what he does ? If its not enough for you , you have to go because youre hurting both of you …
You asking to make you feel better about cheating on your husband. Women are no different than a man cheating on his wife.
You want your cake and eat it to. Everyone wants that first few weeks of a new relationship again. But your married thru good and bad. Your hubby dont realize your the bad. Dont judge if it was a man these women would be flipping out. I would love to have that feeling again but im married i took a oath under God and myself. Yeah we cant have a man wooing us forever. Your being selfish just because you may be attractive don’t mean thats why your attracting men. Cuz your probably in your late 40’s. Its how a woman presents themselves so im guessing ur dressing like your in your 20’s and available. Anyway you look at it. Your self center pos. You want your hubby cuz he most likely pays everything to keep your queens butt available to sleep around on him. While he is out busting ass being a good husband. That many in here would appreciate and do anything to have a hubby like you have. Your aging and dont like it so your drawing mens attention to make you feel young. I know some women like you. Think your all that cuz hubby supports you. Call it what it is. Your self centered and hubby to busy working or his age is showing and thats why your not attracted.
Be fair to hubby and leave support yourself and go be a cougar on your own $ instead of his. Hope he finds out n dumps your ass. Finds a woman that loves him for him. EVERYTHING ISNT ABOUT YOU. Disguisting no different than a man cheating on his wife. Pos
Please don’t judge me even though I just told you all I sleep around to make myself feel good baby you need therapy tou obviously have no self value that’s the issue not sex
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Your husband deserves better.
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You are a terrible person. Cheating multiple times because they compliment your looks??? You’re acting like a teenage girl searching for affection because her daddy didn’t love her enough. You are a grown woman and need to stop. You need to divorce your husband you are not faithful and you are not worthy of someone that sounds amazing. A grown person would have talked about this with her husband before cheating. I just can’t with people like you.
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No relationship will ever have those feelings forever, so there is no issue in your relationship. You crave lust, and lust is only temporary. Its normal to enjoy that feeling, but you shouldnt act on it
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Is this serious? If so, sister you sound proud, selfish, and arrogant about this whole thing. Not once did you mention your poor husband. You haven’t even made the excuse that your husband drove you away by not loving you, abusing you, cheating etc. like so many have. You thought about yourself and your desires and you’re all that matters. Call me judgy-McJudgypants if you wish but madame you should feel ashamed for not giving a flying flutter flip about your husband and what would make him pleased and what would hurt him (especially when he obviously done NOTHING wrong). At least TRY to be selfless at some point - take it up with the Lord. Your hubs has grounds to divorce you and with your attitude, I wouldn’t blame him. BUT I certainly hope you have a change of heart, you ask him for forgiveness, you thaw your eyeballs out, and you two make it because both of you want to be committed to one another.
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You need therapy and please tell me you get checked out for HIV, STDs, etc. on a regular basis. Your Husband deserves the truth and you need to let him go.
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I’m confused as to why you married him when you said you’ve never really felt chemistry or sexual attract to him, and have also said that that is a really important factor for you?
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Why did you marry your husband if chemistry was lacking and it’s so important to you?
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Get a divorce. You clearly do not love your husband and he deserves someone better. Being attractive is an opinion. Clearly those other guys don’t think much of you beyond being “attractive”, so what does that say about you as a person?
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Quit being a hoe, it quite simple 
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So you’re a h⁰e & want a fb group to help you with your “hoish” ways. Gtfoh
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It sounds like you shouldn’t be married to him at all. It’s not fair to him that you are sleeping with other men. It’s time to get a divorce and figure yourself out. Maybe go to counseling and figure out what is really going on.
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What gets me is that you’re like oh it ends and then I feel worse… not because YOU CHEATED but because THEY GHOST !? Your only remorse is that it doesn’t continue? It sounds like you are in dire need of some help because your vanity is controlling your life. God speed
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You have some serious confidence issues. Go to a therapist to unpack that baggage. And be honest with your husband, give him a chance to find real love.
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This is literally the rudest group of people I’ve ever seen. It’s not even enjoyable. I thought this group was supposed to be an anonymous mamas group. Lord help your children if they’re being raised by such judgmental women. There are definitely more positive ways to write this without being an absolute witch. Grow up people. It’s disgusting.
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Young one you can not force love or attraction- you need to really think about what decision you’ve got to make. Right now you seriously are disrespecting your marriage and husband - if he finds out - you will break his heart but not as bad as if you communicate with him. It happens young one - people grow apart sometimes-
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Whose going to “be nice” to a women like you. That poor man of yours at home. LET HIM GO! He deserves better than a women out sleeping with the whole neighborhood. Like wtf. Did you think people would be ok with this post and give you “kind” advice. You’re trifling, you’re a cheater, probably a homewreckers because I doubt you drawl the line at “married men”. Good gracious this is just gross. Be single then you can be a ho3 and not bring your husband down with you.
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A relationship isn’t about sex. It’s about feeling secure, being loyal, sharing, making memories, growing together, being in agreement, loving each other. Talk to a therapist. We all make mistakes. Start repairing the damage and mend your mistakes. Prayers for you.
First off you book therapy for yourself, doctors appts for anything that’s been passed to you, you tell your husband what you’ve been doing so he can make the choice to stay or leave, and IF he stays you busy your ass in therapy to find out what’s going on with you Bc these were choices you made. And if he wants a divorce let him go. Become a good coparent and continue working on yourself so you can be a better partner in the future and a better role model to any kids you may have.
No ma’am. Your husband doesn’t deserve this one bit. Be honest and get a divorce so both of you can look for something you want. He wants someone to love and you want someone to lust over.
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Wow. Wow… u have this great man and ur here talking bout sexual attraction like some little child… stability should be the most important thing for u cuz sex can’t pay bills… u allow other men to repeatedly use u then u say u feel bad… I highly doubt that… sorry I can’t sympathize with u. Do ur husband a favor and walk away and let him get the love he deserves. Ur lust for other men will.just destroy him when he finds out and trust me he will… walk away
Are you two in an open marriage? Because if you’re not and he doesn’t know you always have a need to seek attention and lust elsewhere (and would be upset that you do this to him), you should seek counseling and/or leave him. You sound like you are addicted to lust. He deserves to know you act on this addiction and this is your chosen lifestyle and it really should be known by him. Even excessive flirting in person or DMs, IS cheating, doesn’t have to be just physical.
Your husband deserves his boundaries too, and I assume he is expecting you to be a faithful wife. Again, get yourself some professional help first and be honest with your spouse.
I think your husband deserves way better. You need to leave him.
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Cheating bitch drop off no one needs or wants a whore
I’m not sure how we’re supposed to read this without judging you 
and you want us to be nice
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Get a divorce and let that man be with someone who truly loves him and won’t cheat on him!! Also get some professional help to figure out why you can’t fully respect the man you are suppose to love.
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God people are so rude. Look in the mirror & if you aren’t perfect, you have no room to judge someone. ANYWAY. Have you guys tried sitting and talking about what you like/dislike? Tried toys in the bedroom, sexy lingerie, etc etc? That could help. But if the problem is that you aren’t attracted to him you can’t force that. So if I were in your shoes I would make a choice. It’s either keep this pattern going, or let him go so he can be happy. In reality he probably knows that there’s something going on… better to cut it off now rather than later on. Good luck.
Thats alot of words for dirty slut haha
She knows she is doing wrong and hurting her husband. She is looking for advise on how to fix it. And or she loves her husband but, doesn’t understand why she looks elsewhere for attention/ sex. She doesn’t need the negativity. you girls are so catty at times. You don’t know her whole background nor do you live her life. You never know what’s going on for sure. Maybe she is in love with the thrill of the chase. Then when she has him. The fire is gone. Not looking to argue. Reed what the mama needs. Not your hurtful,judgy
I feel bad for your “perfect” husband. You don’t deserve him.
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You need fuckin help!!!
You say ‘no judgement please be kind’ but you’re not offering that to your husband. You need to be honest with him and then leave. Get therapy. Work on yourself. And let him find someone who will truly love him, because your actions say that you don’t.
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Your hubby deserves way better. You need to let him go, so that he can be with someone deserving & worthy of all he can give.
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You need to go be single honey and let your husband go. He deserves faithfulness and you’re not giving that to him. You should have talked to him about what you were feeling before you cheated. He might have complied with you and found a way to keep you satisfied.
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Divorce your husband, or be upfront with your husband and tell him everything and allow him to make his decision. Therapy is the best thing you can do for yourself. If he stays then definitely do marriage counseling and go from there. If you have no intention of doing any of the above then you most definitely need to take the first option and divorce your husband. He deserves someone who will truly love him. You don’t love him if you are willingly going out and cheating on him. That’s not love it’s convenience, and it’s at your husbands expense.
They know your married and think your easy…once they kill its conquest complete…they don’t want you or even like you… they like the thrill of bagging a married woman…do yourself a favor and stop while your ahead and end up used up miserable and alone…no one wants a bike that everyone already rode…!
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Break the pattern by divorcing your husband so he can find someone who knows the meaning of commitment. Some girl put there is dying to meet a man like your husband because she’s been treated the way you’ve been treating him. I’m lucky to have a man like my husband and would never do that to him. Disgusting
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Don’t cheat on your husband. If you feel the need to cheat, leave. Get divorced, be single. You don’t love him.
Disgusting. You deserve nothing. Period.
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If you like the attention from other men, please stay single. Let another FAITHFUL woman treat your husband like a king. You need to be in the streets with your kind of attitude.
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Oh f this shit.
You are what’s wrong with this world.
Ppl dream of having a loving husband
Disgrace! You don’t understand the meaning of the word love. Let him go. Can’t believe you have the cheek to expect sympathy.
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Your cheating on your husband but you want advice on what to do ?
First off ,you are nasty. Cheating on anybody is disgusting whether you’ve been together for a few months or a few years… you nasty.
Secondly divorce your husband so he can find someone who actually wants to be with him and only him, that’s the least you can do.
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Start flirting with your husband. Build the tension there. Think out of the box. Sexy night wear, phone calls, arrange to ‘pick’ him up. Go to a motel with him. The list is endless, play the game with your husband. If you keep playing it with others you will eventually loose, everything…
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I cant. How can you cheat like that and still return home to your husband? Thank God you didnt mention having any kids. Poor guy. I feel so bad for your husband.
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You don’t deserve the privilege of calling yourself married or a wife. Let another woman treat that man how he deserves
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When I read this I wanted to give you meaningful advice. I read your post again, and then again.
My understanding is that you perhaps married for the wrong reasons and now you’re regretting it.
Everyone is faced with people outside their relationship flirting with them.
It’s a choice you make based on how you feel about your partner and their feelings.
When I commit I’m all in. That’s what I’m looking for and that’s what I expect from my partner.
Asking for assistance in how to stop this says to me that your at a crossroads in your life. Only you know what you need to do in your heart.
Life is too short to be unhappy. Be it you or your husband.
Just remember the grass is not always greener.
I hope you find peace and happiness within yourself
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I’m not going to be harsh. But girl, just get a divorce and let this man find someone who is faithful and will appreciate him. He deserves that if nothing else especially if you don’t seem to be attracted to him not to mention the cheating. This is why for so long I always said I would never get married cause no one takes is serious anymore obviously. This shit kills me. If you aren’t happy or in love or attracted to them, MOVE ON! They don’t deserve to suffer just because you want to play then have them as a safety net.