You knew before you started dating. I’m sorry… you tried and change him.
If your done leave.
Not everyone is able to be with someone who has a drug addiction.
It’s just porn!!
When dealing with an addict you’ll always come second never first. If they won’t admit they have a problem and seek help your only other option is to walk away
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This is not a healthy place for you to be.
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Time to call it quits and stand your ground. Sounds like you’ve given him enough chances. He needs to seek out real professional help. Time for you to step away until he gets the help he needs. Or maybe he won’t get the help he needs and it’s just time for you to move on. Either way it’s time for you to start thinking about you.
Just leave, get your stuff and go. He sure as he’ll isn’t taking your feelings into consideration why should you. Do you really want to live this way. I’d have been gone like yesterday.
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You’re always 2nd with an addicts. Walk out, and see how long it takes for him to notice you’re gone.
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You’re not married yet…go get a better life…you owe him NOTHING!!
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Just leave and don’t look back it just gets worse.
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You need to put yourself first. Leave and stay gone. Cut all ties with him. You can move on. He’ll stay an addict.
Simple, you say " I am done with this and you, I deserve better!" Then never talk to him again!
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Girl just leave. It’s not healthy or safe. He needs to choose the real love…the one you two have or the drugs
You don’t tell him.
You show him.
Ha dear decision I’ve ever made in my life was to leave my kids dad. He was murdered by his drug dealer 3 months after our final break up 
But I don’t regret my decision. I am not a drug addict & did not want to raise my children around that environment. I had to do what I had to do because he was going to do whatever he wanted to do.
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One of you two needs to leave and not look back
Dump him fast. Tell him to give you a call after he goes to rehab and after he’s sober for three years.
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I went through something similar with my ex and he sadly overdosed in February. . It sounds like he needs rehab and I would talk to him and try to get him some help. But if he doesn’t want to get help then you should move on. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.
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You say nothing. Just leave.
You open your mouth and speak. Say “We’re through. Don’t contact me ever again.” And walk away.
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You don’t owe him a explanation you just go. You deserve better.
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Silently leave him . You need to be strong . Get an escape plan . Otherwise he’ll give you every excuse , you’ll be vulnerable and want to hear it because you care .
Change your info and social circle if you share friends or hangouts .
Drug addicts are toxic .
This is the best thing for you !
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Tell him I’ve done i
You open your mouth, say I’m done. Then do it.
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I don’t know why your asking you know what to do…leave.
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Just say “ I’m done with everything I want to move on I feel like we’re going down two different paths in our lives that I feel it’s time to end things” just be honest no matter his reaction. If he gets angry & blames you for everything brings up the past just ignore let it go. Because you’re moving on. Focus on you. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck & good for you for your better future!
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You say, “I’m done” and proceed to pack your shit and leave.
Say by by and leave or kick him out.
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You tell him.
And block him on everything.
You’re either going to do this for you or stay and enable him.
Your can’t do both.
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Dump him. That’s how 
Are you Serious ???
Hell I had a similar problem years ago but for me it was so bad I didn’t say I was leaving. I packed bags for my children and I and left when he was at a neighbors house. You do what you need to do for your health and sanity. You got this!!!
Just walk away not worth your time cos he’ll probaby ever get off the drugs
He on drugs just leave he not going to get off of them. I’ve been down that road.
Say , “ I’m done” . Walk away . If you don’t , you may end up as I did living with an addict and trust me - it does not get easier . Add kids to the mix and it gets even harder !
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Just pack your stuff up and leave. Or throw all his out and change the locks.
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Tell him you’re done.
Sounds like he is addicted to drugs and you are addicted to him. You both need help. Start with yourself first. Good luck.
Easy,tell him it’s over, he’s a druggy and just walk out never looking back……
Run as fast as you can away from him. You can’t save him. You have to save yourself. Run! He will only drag you down into his bullshit.
I feel like if you’re asking strangers on the internet if you should leave your fiancé then you already have your answer
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You don’t tell him… you just leave.
You’ve said enough. No need to keep repeating yourself.
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You say it clearly and leave and NEVER look back EVER!
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Not all drug addicts are a lost cause. My wonderful husband had his own battle with drugs and he came clean, he’s easily the best version of himself now. See the person, not the addiction. Obviously this isn’t the case for everyone, if he’s not willing to get clean he never will.
Tell him you’re done. Move out and cut all ties
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It over anyway just walk out
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I’ve dated addicts and I’ve been an addict, best thing you can do is just be brutally up front and tell him you deserve better and he needs to figure him out on his own. Addicts will use and drain you until there’s nothing left, not bc they’re a bad person but because that’s what us junkies do 
hang in there hun im sorry you’re going through this
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Tell him you’re done and take personal accountability for putting yourself thru all this bs
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Tell him you’re done, or just grab your stuff and leave(unless it’s your house then make him leave lol)
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Shish grown woman tell him you’re done and walk away.
I’d just be honest, hold your ground and move without looking back. This is for you and your happiness that you deserve
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How is it even normal to be more worried about porn than a drug addiction in a relationship? You both need help ASAP!
Tell him. Pack up and leave. Pack his shit and leave it on the porch. Change the locks. Block his phone number.
Get a good lawyer. Step away
Maybe you can talk to him about getting some type of help if it. Would make the relationship better I’ve been through it with my brother a long time ago and my boyfriend also
You muster up any shred of courage you can and you tell him that you are done. Figure out the steps you need to take in leaving, wether it’s you moving out or kicking him out etc. Youve decided you’re ready, now baby steps.
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Just leave there is no talking . You’ll get nothing but excuses
I am done… get the hell out of my life… bye
When I left my alcoholic ex I didn’t tell him where I was going just packed my stuff changed my number and never looked back.
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Just tell him. Then make him leave.
Just say it if you mean it
Tell him it’s over and leave and don’t look back
Know your worth and just walk away and tell him not to contact you again block him on everything delete his number and move on with your life best of luck
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Just tell then either pack your stuff or his and go
Just pack up and leave
Depending on who’s home it is, get a place and pack your stuff, or toss his shit on the lawn and change the locks. Hes also a narcissist. Their classic move is to turn their negative behavior onto the other person.
Make detailed plans. Then follow thru. You deserve a better life. Make a clean break do not share your plans. Delete his # and block him. Have no contact just go.
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You tell him your done. Addiction sucks. Porn is just a small piece of the crap. You are smart get to out. If he can’t stop on his own he needs treatment and he’s not ready yet. That could be 1 2 5 years. You can’t force it or make it happen. Then after you tell him you stay away from him. It will be one of the hardest things to do. You have to do it.
Your house? Pack his shit for him. He’s too high for it.
His home? Pack your bags and go.
Just leave. You can’t make someone change they have to want it themselve.
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Just like that. I’m done. And be done.
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Just pack your bags or his if it’s your place and tell him you’ve given him more than enough chances to get clean and that you’re done.
Why say anything? Just leave.
Speaking from experience he is going to mentally drain you!
If get it now while your sanity is still intact!
He will always choose those drugs over you because that’s who he is!
Just leave him !
I know it’s hard but you can do this!
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Tell him you need to show him outside the door and walk back in shit door lock walk away like a boss
R U KIDDING? you dont need to say anything pack you stuff n get out ASAP THERES A OLD SAYING---- dogs dont change there spots !!!
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You don’t have to tell him anything. You walk away.
I would leave. He is choosing drugs and porn over you. It’s not you. He has an addiction. Don’t let him bring you down. You have given him several chances. Time to go. I wouldn’t look back
REALLY??? What is wrong with you,??? He has a problem, & it’s a BIG problem, If you stay, you will have NOTHING.
Make sure that you are really done. Don’t let him snake his way back in 
Tell him you’re done and move out.
I left my son’s dad when my baby was 3 over his drug problem. He overdosed and died when my baby was 9. I’m so glad I didn’t stay for my son to witness that first hand. I’m sad it happened, and I’m sad that my son and his father will never have a relationship. But I’m thankful i spared my son the pain of living with an addict. You might as well go now before you bring marriage and kids into it.
You need help not him. He’s already to far gone. I can’t believe you have no respect for yourself. You owe him nothing, just leave before it to late. Ladies you need to learn to respect yourself before people will respect you. Life is to short to wait for people to change, besides don’t count on it, they usually get worse.?
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Just like that, I’m done. My ex husband was a heavy drug user and alcoholic and after 16 yrs of it I was done. I told him on a Thursday night I was done and wanted him out by the weekend then I walked away from him. It’s not easy but if it’s what you truly want then make it happen
I tried to tell a close ex that she needs to leave her drug addict boyfriend, but you can’t make people do things. She texted me one day after like 2 years about her drug addict boyfriend and such and I gave it to her straight. He’s already shown signs of being abusive, and he won’t change until he sees the need to. You staying with him only encourages the behavior because he thinks he can use that behavior as a leash for when you walk too far off he can say he’s “quitting” to pull you back. Unfortunately she had the perfect chance to leave and chose not to 
most I can do is be there for her when it happens and keep in touch in case things get really bad.
Move out, or give him a legal notice that he needs to move out within 30 days. Run girl, I’m telling you now as long as you stay this will never change.
Just go. You are worth so much more. Just. Go.
“I’m done” and just go!
You tell him you’re done and he needs to get out or you leave! It’s actually very simple . You’ve forgiven and returned before so he thinks he can get away with it and won’t take you seriously anymore. You should walk away and never go back to him so he knows he messed up and you should move on and find happiness elsewhere. You need to love yourself first! It’s probably easier said than done but trust you will be way better off without him.
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Um u should already have bags prepacked, bank accounts withdrawn , and place lined up then say I’m done . Also record all evidence . How is this a question ? Also get therapy . Once sure twice ok three times girl what you doing . You have been gaslighted way to long
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Narcissist and gas lighting… He has to hit bottom… LEAVE!
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Why would you date & then become a finance to someone YOU’VE KNOWN FROM THE START WAS A DRUG ADDICT? 
how stupid is that? Walk away or start getting high yourself, only two options here.
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Why are you with this guy? Find your worth child
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Say I’m done and leave. Until he truely gets the help he needs, nothing will change.
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You don’t have to tell him anything. Just disappear while he’s at work…or put his stuff in the porch and change the locks. Just take care of yourself.
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Pack his stuff, put it outside the door, change the locks.
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If its your place, pack up his stuff. Take the key and show him the door. But you need to learn how to stand up for yourself and tell him you are done. No one can do it but you 
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Don’t tell him. Just at pack his stuff and chuck them out you already told him. Or just leave xx
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This sounds exactly like my ex. Honestly, when we broke up, I didn’t know how I was going to get over it. I had put my heart and soul into trying to make him see the amazing things that life has to offer, without substances. It never worked and he ended up cheating on me with his married supervisor at work, after he finally had gotten a job after almost 2 years together. I look back now and realize that not only did he not appreciate me but he never loved me the way that I loved him and while it took me a while, I was thankful that he cheated because I don’t know if I would’ve been able to quit him without that.
I know first hand how hard this exact situation is. It’s in out nature as women to “nurture” and to want to fix something that’s broken but in the end, we usually end up being the thing that’s broken. After being on my own for the first time in my life, just shy of my 30th birthday, I met an amazing man. He also had a few demons to overcome (an alcohol dependency) but he showed true interest in wanting to get better and he’s been sober for the better part of 7 years and can now have a beer at a wedding without wanting to go on a 3 day bender. We have a 5 year old son together and they are my world.
So, after my long story, the point that I’m trying to make is that unless he shows true ambition to want to get and stay sober, he will never change. You’ll spend your life trying and no matter how hard you try, it will never work and you’ll be miserable and walking on eggshells forever. Do what’s best for you and pack your stuff and leave. You’ll feel so strong and empowered once the dust settles and you see what you can accomplish on your own.
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Stop getting back with him?
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Just leave. You’ve obviously expresssd your issues sounds like more than once. He hasn’t changed and keeps breaking the boundries set in your relationship. You don’t owe anyone a final explanation. It might be hard to walk away because hearts are fragile things but you know you don’t want that future so go make yourself a different one. Your heart will heal and one day you’ll probably appreciate the growth in yourself from that experience