Speak to him like a friend
Tell him what you told us
Choose your moment. Be loving and direct
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Push him into a pool of Lysol
Be straight tell him he stinks
He has some sort of mental health disorder.
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you are peeking under the bathroom door to see if a grown ass man is taking a shower. ask yourself what you are doing.
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It seems like there is a mental aspect at play here. Is he depressed? Have ptsd of some sort
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Sounds like depression don’t give up on him
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Do you know if he suffers or has a history of suffering from depression? A key symptom is not keeping up with personal hygiene. Does he clean his house? He could have some underlying issues or could just generally be a dirty person who isn’t bothered by it 
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You don’t. He’s going to resent everything you try to do and stay that way. You will be embarrassed and not want to go out. Then you won’t want friends over because it won’t stop at hygeine. I just divorced a guy like that and it becomes abusive at some point
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So just tell him he needs a shower because he stinks
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Febreeze his ass, he may get the hint.
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If you’re at that point in the relationship, suggest taking a shower, or even a bath 
together. Make it fun. Sudsy him up. He may change his mind about liking showers.
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Why would you want someone that don’t bathe her could give you lice or crabs or both just nasty 
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Fuck that’s rank … hes got a son, but doesnt know how to wash himself yuk
My husband’s uncle is the same way, but he has some mental health issues. If he got offensive when you gave him the body wash, he knows he stinks. You have to decide to tell him it’s a deal breaker for you, or just leave.
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Do it like I did with my boy throw him in shower then dump whole bottle of soap in him an say u smell learn how to shower like a big boy
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I wouldn’t be able to be with someone who doesn’t bathe…
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Throw the whole man out !!
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oh HAYLE no! Offer to shower with him and if he declines … BOUNCE ON OUT OF THERE!!
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That’s gross, why would you want to be with someone that doesn’t bathe, much less you said you see a future with him! Are you crazy?
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he’s still in teenager mode! Yuk
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Easy lmao tell him your biggest turn on is doing it in the shower after you guys clean up
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You’re not here to rescue a grown ass man and if this is how he is it’s never going to change it made for a minute but it’s time to bail
Uhmmmm…? Are you going to be his mom the rest of his life?
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Ewwww he won’t change
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Is he depressed? Does he not have clothes? Could actually be a medical issue. I’d hate to just say lazy if it is.
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Just tell him to wash his nasty ass…Pronto!
forget it, they don’t change and can get worse.
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Tell him that his hygiene is important for your health as well. A dirty pecker can and will give you an infection. Good luck
Um no, if he’s a grown ass man and doesn’t feel the need to wash you’re not going to change him.
Omg that’s disgusting lol my husband is so anal about showering and cleaning himself. Can’t imagine what his D smells like😂
Dont listen to the people that are sayimg to leave him. They dont matter. Just try talking with him, let him know you are just concerned.
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Thats not right. Just not right!
I agree showering together is your best bet…if he says no, its time to go!
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I would bluntly but kindly tell him he stinks or smells musty and needs to bathe.
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How odd to be peeking under the bathroom door…honestly. He’s a guy…most guys are not clean. but like…im still trying to picture you on the floor…peeking under a door at him. very strange…quite concerning. 
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He pretended to shower? either talk to him like a grown up or break up with him
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The whole relationship dosnt sound great tbh
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He might have depression. Talk with him about it. And see if thats whats going on. He might need to go to the dr and get on medication to help!
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Sounds like you are dating my brother! 
he’s 26 and acts just like this. I let him move in with me for awhile and for the first few weeks I’d have to say “dude you probably don’t smell yourself but you need a shower” and he’d say “really? Okay” and he’d shower. After I said it a handful of times he admitted that he hated to change clothes because he hated doing laundry so I started doing his laundry for him, he was WAY happier to be clean. Doing your mans laundry is totally normal in a long term relationship, I don’t think my husband even knows where the washer and dryer are in our house. So just talk to him and be honest about it and offer to help any way that you can, that’s the only way things are gonna improve.
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Definitely take everyone’s advice about doing it in the shower if he doesn’t head out. Sorry but if he’s not showering that means his 
& 
are not clean and you can actually get an STD. My husband showers twice a day thankfully and we use the Cottonelle wipes every time after taking a 
.
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Bluntly but he’s a grown man and should already know this stuff
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Thats beyond disgusting
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Dont mean to be rude but if he pretends to shower he sounds more like a child than an adult
Um are you serious?!
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In the beginning, they’re supposed to be going out of their way to impress you: if he’s already comfortable being relaxed and stank in your presence l, there’s actually no hope and you need to invest in yourself to develop higher standards, take a dating sabbatical and then make yourself available AFTER YOU HEAL for a new relationship. Don’t pass go, don’t collect $200, just bounce!
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Wow thats gross if it’s already like this it’s not going to get any better. If you all continue to date and get serious 5 years in you will not be able to look the other way. Trust me
Warning 
, one of the first signs of mental issues is not bathing, and I would be especially concerned about the fact that he went through great lengths to make you think he did.
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Tell him you want to be with him but if he doesn’t know how to use soap and water and take a shower properly you’re done.
Give your possible future a bath from your own hands.
Sounds like my 11 year old 
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Yuck …either talk or walk
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That’s discusting there are clean men out there. He don’t want to wash. Find a new clean bf
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Time to drop a soap and shower hint 
good luck chuck.
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This gotta be a joke
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I would just call this one a loss and run the other way! Either he has some mental health issues or hes just gross and doesn’t care… either way hygiene is too important to ignore!
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Uuuummm. 
Tell him he needs to shower and take better care of himself. Deep clean EVERYTHING. I have been with my husband for nine years now, and I have NEVER EVER EVER smelled anything bad about him. He works a very hard job and has smelled like motor grease at the most. I’ve never smelled body odor and butt on him in my whole life. Like… 
oh girl. If he doesn’t change, leave him. I know that sounds awful but it’s unsanitary and you don’t want infections or anything like that from being in a serious relationship with a man like this. Explain to him it’s just nasty and you cannot see a future with him if he doesn’t make some changes with his hygiene. The way you described him, I wouldn’t recommend getting in the shower with him like some of these people have suggested. Have you ever farted in the shower and it be so bad you have to open the curtain even though it’s YOURS. That’s because it’s in such a small space and heat can make things smell worse. I imagine I’d puke every and pass out if I had to get in the shower with someone smelling like this. I’m getting physically sick just thinking about it. If he can’t be a cleaner person for the sake of yalls relationship, then he deserves someone who stinks just as bad as he does.
Fkn dumbass that’s disgusting 
Hope they aren’t intimate. . I’d say bye Felicia immediately. It doesn’t take much effort to stay clean.
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Just be upfront. Tell him personal hygiene is a must. It kills intimacy. It’s a dealbreaker
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Wth 
he must be afraid of water 
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I had a friend like this. Didn’t know about it til he stayed with us for a few weeks. I had to tell the guy to take a shower. We’re not friends anymore. That is gross and I wasn’t even dating the guy. If a man can’t be clean then stay away. It’s a battle you’d fight daily. Not worth it
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Get in the damn shower with him… lather him up and scrub a dub dub
If this was the other way round you’ll be saying “give her a chance” “ she might have mental health issues, support her” etc but because it’s a guy it’s all “ew” and “run”. He’s clearly going through something. Maybe talk to him. I don’t know, like a normal relationship?
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Shower with him…show him how a clean man is sexy. Show him how that new soap really turns you on by the smell.
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Don’t just leave hints. You come and and tell the man. Obviously in a sweet and understanding way. Let him know you don’t judge him but he needs to keep up his cleanliness if he wants to keep you around.
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Honey, there is no future with a man who can’t take care of himself. If he can’t take care of himself, how would he take care of you?
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Ewww I wanna know how you are getting intimate with that dusty attic smell? 
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He just might have a skin condition that when he uses soap on his skin, it irritates him, or his skin more, And if you are to buy him something, maybe something that doesn’t have a smell to it, like regular Dove soap, May the same with washing his clothes, like a fragrant free detergent. And i will agree with a lot of other comments…talk to him, Understand & really listen to what he has to say
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Girl you better Run 
First off dont be so cruel how would you feel if he was slagigng you off online. Secondly have you actually asked if hes okay. Depression is a real thing. Instead of judging ask if hes alright. 3rd I’ve been in the same situation a few years ago I lost someone close to me and it was a chore to even change into pyjamas.
If there is no reason other than his personal choice not to then fair enough leave. But try and help before judging online. If he saw this and was depressed it could turn worse.
Kindness costs nothing
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better move on he wont change or either tell him straight out what your feeling
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Ask kindly in a gentle tone if he’s okay. Let him know that you’ve noticed the hygiene issues, and that you see a future with him and want to make sure he’s doing okay. Express to him that hygiene is important to you, and is very important as far as his Heath is concerned
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Stop having sex with him or being intimate. Maybe he will shower then lol
Nope,hell no. Wash yo balls dude!! Whole grown ass man… no excuse
How do u see a future with that I mean he acted like he was taking a shower and had the water running is he 10 girl get out whole u can thats gross how do u have sex with him when u know he hasn’t showered
I’m sorry but gag 
Conserve water and shower together. Tell him u want to wash his back.
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I saw this same exact post last week
You approach it head on. You give that man a brand new clean washcloth with that 3 in 1 men’s stuff and tell his ass to get in the shower and scrub!!! If you don’t he’ll continue to be dirty and nasty and it won’t get better. And if you don’t do anything about it, then stop complaining about it. There’s no other way to approach it. He either listens or gets mad and if it’s only been 6 months then tell that boy bye
Oh wow. Just have a conversation. Tell him that he smells.
Leave. It will get worse not better. And do it dramatically. Offer felacieo and start gagging when his pants are down. Then leave saying he is gross and you can’t handle someone who can’t wash themselves anymore.
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So yall having sex, doing the nasty, I mean you let him kiss and lick on you and he wants you to do the same to him but he doesn’t shower! Girl bye you see a future with who?
Tell the man!!! Jesus fuckin Crisco.
He might not had a house hold growing up that actually taught him how to shower properly. Just shower with him, wash him the way you think is right. And have fun with it… eventually he will pick it up and start doing the same shower routine when your not in the shower with him…
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Well, don’t have sex with him…that’s for sure
Take him outside, get the waterhose and sxrub that dirty booty.
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Tell him its either the clean himself up or you’re out.
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Yeah thatd be a no from me
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Maybe buy him some clothes and take a shower together. Is he in his teens or early 20s? Could be a childhood issue with parenting or lack of it.
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I have oneee overwhelming question, Have you been intimate with him, and all his smell. Causeeee I can’t imagine🤭
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he might be depressed
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Wow these people telling you to ditch him are cold and heartless…Ask about his mental health if alls well maybe he just wasnt made to do that as a child parents can be negligent in these ways sometimes mine never inforced me to brush my teeth so I never got in the habit and had to force myself to later down the road another good idea would be to invite him to take one with you
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I attempted to help someone who was like this. Didn’t last long because man never wanted to shower. I shower like 2x a day and he was showering every other day at most
*editing this. I shower 2x because I work in the medical field. 2 if he was showering it was before he went to work. He worked as a cleaner for vents at restaurants. Sleeping in bed when he got home with his dirty work clothes, working clothes 3x before washing it. It’s one thing to wash every other day for an office job but for a job that handles grease/oil is disgusting. Regardless of what is recommended
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By leaving him lol ew
Yeah that would be and has been a deal breaker for me . Sounds like lifelong habits that will not be broken.
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Next time my son doesn’t bathe I’m going to tell him, “Get yo dusty attic smelling ass, running the water while in the toilet self in the shower!”…oh and you the nasty one.
Maybe it’s laundry that’s the issue too maybe he is using that same washcloth and doesn’t have anything clean to change into and using a dirty towel too. Figure out if he has a washer and dryer in his house if not he may not have $ or time to wash his clothes and maybe offer to do that for him while he is at work. Just be open and honest and tell him you aren’t trying to embarrass him but trying to help solve a problem between the 2 of you so you can continue the relationship. My nephew was 8 when he came to live with me and it took a while to teach him what a wash cloth was and that we use clean towels and change our clothes every day and don’t sleep in our dirty clothes etc all bc they didn’t have the ability to do laundry where he lived before so he had to dig a dirty towel out the pile never had a wash cloth so forgot what one was for and decided it was better to keep his clothes on when he slept instead of putting them in a dirty pile and having to put them back on. He is 12 now and still tries to revert back to not changing but he always gets a clean towel and wash cloth finally and I only have to remind him to take a shower and change ever so often and very rarely whereas before I had to remind him just as I had my younger kids and be after him to do things right. 4 years in and we have finally got steady results. This man may not have had anyone and ppl probably just leave and nit say anything and if this is normal life for him he may not want the change and you may have to do what’s best for you. You could also let him know women can’t play around like that bc he will give you infections and stuff we gotta be clean about intimacy.
Could also be depression he may need help for.
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You need to just straight up tell him.
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Hygiene or lack there of signals an underlying mental health issue. Please reconsider your choice.
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Try shower sex not to be funny or anything it’s a way to get him there at least