He sounds like he could be depressed
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Put together a nice basket w shampoo, conditioner, bodywash , deodorant, cologne& body body spray. Make it a nice little suprise…you don’t want to hurt His feelings
Ok lets just forget about the musty part…You peeked under the door…He was running water sitting not even getting in…
1# He Faked taken a shower
2# He than lie to your face about taking a shower
3# Water cost
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A grown man? With a teenage son? I wonder if he’s taught his son any hygiene… He should know at this point in his life how to clean himself. Him sitting in the bathroom with water running pretending to bathe himself is literally what my 10 year old nephew does, it’s what my brother did when he was 9-12. Him not properly cleaning himself could lead to you getting infections in certain areas, throw your ph way off, you need to tell him that his hygiene can directly effect you because of him.
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Girl you better tell his butt!! Ion care who you are wash your ass!!
Ohhhh…dear. lf this is the best he can do when you’re dating, what will the future hold?
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He really does sound depressed. Have you ever suffered with depression? If so, maybe use your own experience with depression to ease into the subject. When I’m depressed, I know I need a shower but have no motivation to do it and it depressed me more. It really is a vicious cycle and needs handling in a gentle manner. I wish you all the best of luck.
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So my question. Are you having sex with a man that doesn’t shower? And that there may be a gateway. Shower together before sex, invite him to shower after sex. Then compliment how he looks and smells after the shower. Get him a nice shirt, encourage him yo wear it, tell him you think a blah blah shirt would make his eye pop or look good with his complexion.
You run fast as f_ck lmao that’s what you do.
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He’s probably depressed. Talk openly with him about it. Then decide from there
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Sounds like he needs to see a therapist for depression issues.
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Do not beat around the bush. He finally needs someone to tell him exactly what he’s going wrong and what he should be doing instead. Tell him you can’t fake a shower - lol! If he is super against any real change or adjustment then BYYYYE let the next person deal with it.
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Suggest having shower s** and bathe each other off
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I would just be honest with him. Like “Hey I really like you but you STANK”
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Be honest. If you want this man and see a future, then tell him how you feel and be honest. If he doesn’t want to bathe and smell good for you and himself, then he’s not going to do it at anytime. If this is a deal breaker, then do not be romantic with him. Because it will only complicate things even further.
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I like to suck dick wayyyyyy too much to have a musty non hygienic man in my presence 
Suggest having one together,i couldnt handle someone who smells,good luck xx
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Idk why young people have such an issue with bathing. But if he don’t respect you enough to shower, you’re better off being alone.
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Why are you rewarding this type of behavior with human interaction?!
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Idk if he won’t do it and you can’t live like that leave.
But dont ever snoop on someone like that wtf is wrong with you
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Is he using the same washrag every time he actually does shower? That would be part of why he smells, but he’s def got something going on if he’s faking a shower. I would straight up ask him what’s going on
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That would gross me out! A grown man not taking care of himself. I’d leave I don’t need a large child
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Hygiene issues would be a deal breaker for me.
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He not a man he a kid a dirty kid lol. But be honest with him say honey you need to wash your hair it smells sweaty. Let’s go shopping for new clothes.
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Straight up tell him he stinks. Stop beating around the bush.
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Why are you with someone that you’ve known from the beginning that doesn’t have good hygiene???
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Axe body wash and the fact that he doesn’t understand hygiene tells me he may be a bit immature for a relationship!
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Find out if he’s depressed or just dirty.
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Shower with him and soap eachother up.
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Ok so pardon me for asking, but how are you having sex or kissing a man for 6 months that does not bathe? 
That would be a deal breaker to me for sure. Gotta wash them bits!
Nope. That would be a deal breaker for me. Thats gross
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I just tell my husband he smells like an onion and he knows the deal. Good luck!
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Maybe he is depressed? Alot of times even the simple things like bathing can be hard when depressed.
Also, don’t buy axe… it smells terrible
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Firstly it’s really weird that he’d just sit on the toilet and refuse to shower like that reminds me of a defiant child wetting the toothbrush but not brushing… just weird.
Either shower together and pick his outfit by grabbing something and telling him you’d love to see him in it or deal with it or leave… I mean you say he has an older child so he’s old enough to know how to bathe.
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Take the wash rag along with his clothes and throw them in the washer. Leave the body wash and maybe buy a bar of soap in the shower. You could always ask to shower with him and make sure he gets nice and clean! 
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Maybe he has a water phobia
Sounds like depression
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Sometimes the only way ppl hear stuff like that is by being blunt. Straight up tell him he needs to go shower. My friends ex was like that and he wanted to move in with us and we made a rule that everyone has to shower everyday after work and if you have the day off even if you stay in the house all day you have to shower.
Why date someone who doesn’t have the same hygiene standards?
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Offer to shower with him 
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Buy him an outfit for going out to dinner or movies hide his shampoo somewhere get him something that smells nice to you. Men don’t seem to smell themselves their oblivious to their own smells. I’ve been married for 32 years my hubby has good clothes in a drawer away from work clothes cause he’ll wear all of his clothes to work and ruin them if I don’t
Or just let him be him! You can’t change someone to make them better for you! If you’ve talked to
Him and he doesn’t see a problem. Let him be him. Someone will love him for the way he is
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You really can’t. 
People choose their hygiene routine or lack of it. This is who he is.
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Yea no way in h3ll would I stay with this dude. That’s just asking for recurrent yeast infections and PID.
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Idk how you can be intimate with someone who isn’t clean…
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Oh my god 
put off straight away for me sorry hun x
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Nope. They know they stank. They don’t care. They looking for a woman who don’t care that they stank.
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I don’t think people just don’t want to bath and keep up their hygiene especially if he sat on the toilet and just ran water… There is a reason and it’s his mental state and maybe you should talk to him about his mental state and stress cause he works two jobs!! Definitely mental thing going on here
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Lol omg I’m sorry this made me laugh.
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Leopard 
doesn’t change its spots
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A grown man with habits like that will never change
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Talk to him about it ask him why he doesn’t shower. You need to have a conversation about it with him and see how it goes and what he says
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You’re not his momma, boy byeee
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He sounds depressed. When you have depression sometimes taking a shower takes more energy then is available.sounds crazy but it is true.
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If he’s a pig, he’s always going to be a pig. You’re wasting your time if you think you’re going to get him to shower and use soap. Some people just want to be a pigpen.
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…how tf do you see a future with ole stankin ass??
Tell him bluntly, you need to take a shower today. If he doesn’t ask him why he doesn’t like to shower? I’m surprised he bartender and doesn’t shower and wears stained up clothes. He must work at a dive bar, not being mean I’m serious.
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I’d run, fast and far, I mean that seems like a teenager type behavior to run the shower and sit on the toilet.
But he would have a water related trauma, or sensory issues. 
My son is on the spectrum and doesn’t like showers/ baths but loves swimming.
Anyway. If you want to stay with him to start I’d try maybe a “sexy shower time” to get the stank off him, second when he’s sleeping wash all his clothing, change the bedding and wash that,
As far as addressing it. I’d be honest that’s always the best. I love ya but you stank wash your junk, scrub your hair and ass crack and change your clothing. You’re a grown man you should know how to shower and keel yourself clean. This would be a nonnegotiable part of a being with him, how can you be intimate with someone who doesn’t clean themselves
Get in the shower and ask him to get in with you. Thats a good starting point. The speak about it with him.
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That sounds like depression. Maybe you need to sit down and have a conversation. Get to the root of the problem.
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How low are your standards? “Must keep ass clean” seems important
6 months in, you have time to escape. Do it now. He will always be nasty and make you miserable forever.
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Why are you still with him?
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Honestly, “hey man i really like you but I cannot continue to be intimate in any fashion unless you get your hygiene together. Possibly also work on your mental health. These things are important if we are going to continue a relationship.” That’s just what I would do
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sadly you won’t change him,.
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If someone can’t shower daily I couldn’t deal with it no matter how much I liked him. I certainly wouldn’t get into bed with him.
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It sounds like depression.
Tell him to shower and he smells like shit
Girl!!! There are ALOT of men out there with major hygiene issues, and they dont get any better. Its nasty. Just leave. It will be easier if you just leave now. Next thing you know you will be married to a man that makes you want to throw up!!!
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I know this sounds mean but throw soap on him he will have to take it to off by getting wet 
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This guy is not real, I would be long, long gone!!!
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Dump him he’s not going to change. All I see is a future of yeast infections if you stay with him.
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Christian Creedy sounds like afew people we’ve met before 
Some of you all are horrible and mean, sitting here on the internet name calling and belittling people. Y’all’s kids are going to be the ones that grow up to be bullies. FFS learn empathy and compassion. Mental health battles can be HARD! If you have not suffered with them- then you really don’t have a clue. Let’s go back to kindergarten and learn a basic lesson- if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
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Sex w that guy would be uh a bigggg turnoff, think what that winkie down there smells like! Would not want wink wink inside of me ewww
I understand mental issues, because I suffer from my own issues. But it sounds like he NEVER showers. Like ever. That’s really sad honestly. You should sit down and talk to him about it. Just be honest and tell him he needs to shower more if he wants to continue the relationship. If he refuses to change that habit, then I’d leave.
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You deserve better! A clean body and a dirty body does not mix!
Unless you come right out and ask you really don’t know why he’s acting this way. A lot of people said it sounds like he’s lazy but it doesn’t really sound like it’s laziness because this is a man that is working two jobs and has children at least one you said he wore his son’s tiny football pants and a shirt with mustard stains on it maybe he’s exhausted from doing the laundry as well he is working two jobs caring for the kids possibly cooking cleaning the house and he’s also trying to carry on a relationship at the same time oh, it sounds like he could possibly even be financially strapped with children and working two jobs maybe he’s worried about the water bill and that’s why he’s not washing his own clothes or bathing as much in order to be able to afford to pay the bills for his children he’s probably exhausted and overwhelmed as well and could be financially in trouble also and this could all be causing depression to and he’s letting his hygiene fall by the wayside maybe it’s a person who has too much on his plate to handle putting in the efforts for a relationship at this time. Until you sit down and have a serious talk with him you just don’t know, maybe the issue is much larger than just his hygiene, perhaps he doesn’t even have the time or energy to invest in a relationship at all right now but it’s still trying to out of the desire to have an adult relationship outside of his children and work but that may not be good for you, him, where his children. Also while it does sound very juvenile that he sat there and pretended to take a shower, I also feel it was juvenile to be peeking under bathroom door, I think if I were either person on either end I would probably walk away from that situation with the other person honestly. You are both adults, you should both act like it, starting with you sitting down with him and having an honest open discussion as to why this is going on instead of speculating, spying, and asking others that are not involved in this situation, it is really only the two of you in this relationship so sit down and have a talk with him or walk away.
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Gross! No way could I be with him! How can you have sex with him. Yuck!
His mom failed to teach him proper hygiene.
At this point if you wanna stay with him. Help him out. Actually tell him he needs to shower/ clean up. Shower with him 
does he have other clothes to wear besides the outfits he’s always in? Take him shopping. Does he have a washer/dryer or does he have to go to a laundry mat? How often is he doing laundry? Help him make a chore schedule.
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Shut him down. When he starts asking what’s wrong with you tell him you stink! Take a shower with soap and shampoo,then we’ll see
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It sounds like he may suffer from depression.
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Ask him to shower with you.
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Wait… wait wait. I really hope you’re not letting that dirty man come anywhere near your Vagina… girl run. He sounds like he will give you B.V.
Offer him to take a shower with you? And offer to wash his back?
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I would have a conversation with him and see if hes depressed or what’s going on with him. I mean theres only so much you could do for this guy if he isnt keeping up with hygiene. It’s a big turnoff for many. Try to do what you can and if nothing’s changing then I would see about moving on.
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Get a mop bucket, fill it with water, soap, and purex and pour it on him. Do this 2 or 3 times until clean.
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I think it’s important to bring it up to him. Maybe discuss that you don’t want him to let himself go because he’s feeling comfortable and that you want him to still continue to try impressing you.
How old is this man? Old ppl don’t usually bath but once or twice a week. Also depression will keep a person to tired to shower.
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Why don’t you just be up front with him. When my husband is stinky, I flat out tell him! “Oh Baby! You’re stinky! What have you been doing today?” Imagine how nasty his sheets are if he doesn’t even use a clean wash cloth…
All I can picture is tons of body soil and tons of dust mites feeding and pooping all where he sleeps! No Thank you.
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Wouldn’t be my boyfriends. Nasty AF!
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First, buy a nice, manly loofah, replace the dirty wash rag, get soap on a rope, then, start a load of laundry for him, tell him you wanna shower with him(make it seggsy lol) sometimes people with mental health issues really do struggle with basic care, if you love or care for this man, try it, if it doesn’t work, sis, you’re gonna have to be straight up with him. Be kind in your words though. Sending 
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Just be honest with him. Tell him hygiene is important to you and have a real conversation about it. If he can’t handle that conversation, he’s not gonna be able to handle other issues that arise during the relationship.
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You just have to tell him… don’t shame him if you really like him he could honestly not smell himself… just be honest with him and don’t do it during an argument
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He knows he isn’t showering every day so no surprise he smells like his musty old flannel! Some people are just plain dirty. Depression? I think she would have metioned it.
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Damn maybe u should ask him if he wants to go to the swimming pool for yalls date!!! Lol I joke I joke 
but seriously it’s got chlorine in it!!! Nah I’m playing its nice that u still like him even tho he has poor hygiene most people would write them off on account of that but u might just have to tell him that he needs to bath!! Not everyone gets taught proper hygiene when they are growing up so it is probably normal to him!
Lmfao ew girl leave. For the love of god dont let him put that rank pp in you
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Omg. Why are you with him? That’s nasty. And you’re nasty if you stay… it’s just a boyfriend. Ewww
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Just tell him? And if he has a problem then maybe it’s best to just let go
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Why are you doing this to yourself? He’s NOT GOING TO CHANGE!
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