This is a tough one, my advise would be tell him just the way it is! And go on from There!
Run! How can you be. with someone that is dirty? Doesn’t put you in a good light. Are you that desperate for a man? You can do better. If you won’t shower change clothes good bye and don’t look back and don’t answer phone or take him back. Keep on walking. Have some self respect.
Why don’t you shower with him and wash his body. I’m sure he will love it.
There’s nothing wrong with him is something wrong with you. Why is he your boyfriend? You type way too much information to be his boyfriend!
Unless he changes now he won’t.
No matter how much you fuss later it will not change.
I don’t have this issue but I know some guys that do.
deal breaker first date! He is ‘off’ on some level.
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Offer to take a shower with him. Wash him. Wash his hair. Offer to use your “pampering products” on him. Make him know you love the smell and feel of his clean hair and skin.
There are many reasons why he doesn’t shower…maybe he doesn’t have a sense of smell…and can’t smell himself…maybe he doesn’t think it’s important to bathe…what was his childhood like? many questions to be asked…I do not like to shower…I like a bathtub…cant’s stand water poring over my head…can’t breathe…am afraid of water…I almost drowned in the ocean when I was 5 years old. .I do like to be clean and smell good…I think he is hiding his fears or is embarrassed to talk about it…I was embarrassed to tell that I didn’t know how to swim…I wanted to learn but did not trust the water…to this day I am afraid of large waters…am 85…
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Take a break from him for a month. Then, when you come back, he should feel it’s necessary to spruce up a bit. You get a break, he may rethink his hygiene.
I am confused at “I see a future with him” you lost me there.
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Keep looking! Eventually, in my experience your gentle hints will eventually get through to him and he will be insulted. Or, he still won’t “freshen up”. Either way relationships are hard enough without petty disagreement s.
He is never going to change. except it or leave
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Get in the shower and invite him in with you. Surly having a talk about personal hygiene is something he can handle.
Mabey he got thrown in hot or cold shower as a child for discipline and now has fear or anxiety…mabey ease into a discussion about hygiene concerns 
Yuk, I’d be gone and yes, there is depression or other mental disorder going on.
My uncle is the same way!!! Is got to be a mental thing , long ago befor plumbing cars and momdern times ppl washed in the spring and that was it just get him some good Cologne so you can cover it up that’s all I got
Maybe you should stop cleaning yourself and see how he likes it.
How could you want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t shower and has poor hygiene? Sex is an important part of a relationship. How are you allowing a dirty penis inside you? 
You are peeping under doors to see if he really showered? This isn’t a 9 year old. This is a deal breaker.
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Be turthfull with him and just tell him if you are going to stay together he should appreciate your honest and truth
Lady he didn’t grow up, and it sounds like his momma didn’t do a thing to teach him about personal hygiene. Why are your standards so low.
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Not sure here, I’m no psychologist however this man has no doubt some kind of issue. I see this as a red flag. Unless you want to play parent to him, I would not only get out of this relationship, I would run out. My humble opinion. All the best to you.
Do not allow him in the bed unless he showers even if it means that you sleep on the sofa!.
He may be depressed. Working two jobs is hard. Lack of hygiene is a big red flag for depression. Maybe ask how He is and address emotional needs he may be harboring and maybe the physical aspect will improve. Pray for him.
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When i got married to my husband he was clean. After several years he got nasty. Showered once a week to go fishing. He and the bedroom stunk so bad i starting sleeping on the couch. He wouldn’t changed. I found out he was cheating too. I kicked him out. He is with a girl that smells just like him. That was 15 years ago. If your man ain’t gonna clean up get rid of him or live with the funk.
This looks like a female, gang attack on men/a man! Good luck with Prince Charming.
It says that he is holding down three jobs, the poor guy must be exhausted. I’m surprised he is even in a relationship.
It is a sign of depression. If he is depressed enough, he won’t give a damn if you leave and YOU CAN’T FIX it .
I’m just assuming here but if he was dressed like that and smelled like that when you met him why would you be in a relationship with somebody who for one dressed like that and for two smell that way, because I know if I’m meeting somebody new and he smells and he dresses terrible I would never speak to the person ever again. I don’t care how much of a nice guy this person is I don’t care how cute a person is if they don’t take care of themselves I wouldn’t want to be with them. I had a girlfriend whose boyfriend was a mechanic and she had three kids by him no when her youngest kid turned four I remember correctly he ended up giving her a severe staph infection down there because with him not showering and not washing his hands after using the bathroom and touching cars touching himself she ended up with a severe staph infection and ended up in the hospital. So if he’s being defiant against showering and lying to you about that then he obviously does not like to shower or change his clothes so if I were you I would just give him an ultimatum I would be blunt and be like look if you can’t shower and dress you sent then you and I cannot be together I can’t be with somebody who smells anywhere is the same dirty clothes everyday
You peeked under his bathroom door?
And come online to criticize and shame the man you supposedly see a future with?
You have been intimate with him right? Not gross then? I hope he finds the right woman for him that will motivate him to be better.
He should hang out with my hubby who has OCD and showers 3 times a day😁
If you really like him and see a future then you need to start with a conversation about his hygiene…if you can’t talk to him how will you stay in a relationship
My question is, did he possibly suffer sexual abuse surrounding water? Maybe in the shower? If not, he may just be a nasty person.
You have to ask yourself if you are willing to battle this forever, because that is exactly what you’re signing up for.
Please to save you heartache and problems in future, let him go and be with his unclean self.
Ask google and also look it up in the Bible, probably in the book of numbers.
He sounds like a slob and it will only get worse. You should never have to ask someone to be clean.
You don’t. Can’t change people like that.
RUN! These guys get worse, not better! One slob that lived near my husband, quit showering and cleaning his home at all after he retired. The Health department got involved!!
He has more problems than not bathing!..And so do you for wanting to be around someone like that.
My opinion. No one cannot change anyone. Dump him. You’ll find someone hygienic and squeaky clean already.
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Tell him he’s crud, and that he needs to bathe at least four times a week, if he wants you in his life and if he doesn’t then You need to run, he’ll only get worse if you marry him
Just stop and think for a moment, he my be dealing with Mental Health issues of something that has happened to him in the past in Regards to his hygiene. He may have bin bullied at some point for being a pretty boy and it’s affected him mentally some how. I no, because it’s happened to me, so I do understand what the girl friend is saying, but tread carefully. 
Aint going to change just get worse, lazy, no self respect, no need to respect u cause he gets away with it. Walk on find someone worth it.
I would tread lightly. There could be trauma behind why his habits are the way they are.
Sometimes there is an issue
He could have almost drowned as a child and has a fear of water
His family could have been poor and rarely bathed
He could have been teased in school when he showered
There must be something
I would ask
Give him a taste of his own medicine! Don’t bathe, brush your teeth or hair for a week or two.
That fact that you peeked under the door instead of addressing the matter in a respectful and loving way is childish. You said he works two jobs and has a teenage son…as far as the clothes go maybe he doesn’t have anything else, or anything that he feels is any better…as far as the hygiene, you need to address the issue, but in a respectful way. You never know what someone else has been threw
Take a shower with him and have some fun I had a guy like that I would wash his hair and soak and scrub his stinky feet and put stuff on for athletes feet
Run not walk away. That is just not normal.
If a full grown man is not showering on his own by now sounds more like an adoption then a relationship
Sitting on the toilet and letting the water run instead of just taking a shower is a major issue that needs addressed. Something is wrong.
no no no…hes a grown man there is no excuse for that i would have kicked him to the curb as soon as he faked a shower
This is really sad. Is he afraid to get water in his eyes?
How fast can you run in the opposite direction?
Step 1: Leave.
Step 2: Block his phone and email.
Step 3: What else you need to hear?
Why did I see this in another group
Unless you wanna live like that, leave him. He’s not gonna change his nasty habits for you or any one else! Move on, girlfriend🤨
How have you tolerated it this long? Demand he be ckean or leave him!
If I stunk I’d rather be told about it 
luckily I don’t like. Just be honest and say take a God dam shower ya smell.
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Run for the hills and don’t look back.
How in the hell do you see a future with him???
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If he has to be told to shower you’re wasting your time.
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Surely you are not that desperate to stay with a man who won’t clean himself, maby you need some help to get out of the relationship, seek help for yourself, love yourself first
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Is he autistic? Sensory issues?
What grown man pretends to shower?
Uhh find some one you like and quit trying to change people?
Too easy. Offer to shower with him. No brainer really
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Tell him why and leave if he cares he will do something about it, if not no hope. Or put up with it.
Stop dating him! If he’s unhygienic now, why would he change if you married him?
COMMUNICATION is key in this situation. You need to just tell him that you love him but you need him to start taking care of his hygiene. Talk to him and find out the reason why he doesn’t properly care for his hygiene, and be there for him when you come to a solution. Us men just want our ladies to be by our side no matter what. I Personally like when my wife tells me if my breath smells bc if she jerks her head away from me while I try or kiss her then I immediately just lose interest bc my feelings are hurt and I feel like she doesn’t want me. All that emotional damage can be avoided by just being completely honest with eachother, even if someone’s feelings get hurt, it’s better to just get it out of the way so you don’t have to bottle it up over time and be unhappy. He may have been molested in the bathroom and now while he bathes or showers, the trauma and emotional damage just replays in his head and it makes him scared to take a shower or bath bc he doesn’t want to relive that everytime he goes in a bathroom. You should offer to be by his side every step of the way and even offer to get in the shower with him so that way he has you to help talk him through moving on from his trauma if that’s the case. Most men would love to have their wives or gfs take showers with them all the time. He needs to know that no matter the reason that you won’t judge him for why he does what he does and that you’re there to support him and help him take his first steps into taking better care of himself. COMMUNICATION could literally fix a broken marriage as long as both parties are ready to admit their faults and are ready to help eachother move on with support from one another. Your man will probably start taking better care of himself as long as he knows that you’re not judging him when you’re being honest with him, he needs to know that the reason you’re telling him that he smells is bc you love him and you want to be with him but you have an issue with his hygiene, the subtle hints and buying him hygiene products probably just make him self conscious and will make him defensive when you talk to him, if he knows that you’re coming to him out of love and honesty and that you’re not being judgemental and that you are willing to be there by his side and help him through it, he will want to start doing better bc you’re there with him bc you love him. I hope everything works out for you. I will pray that you and him can take the first step together to be honest with eachother and help eachother through whatever issue arises. You have to start somewhere and that first step will be the hardest but after that it gets easier and the communication and honesty is what makes loving someone worth all that extra effort.
Shit on his chest while he is sleeping… that should be a hint.
Get naked and get into the shower invite him in wow that was easy
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Offer to take a shower with him.
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Just tell him he smells!!..just be honest! There’s nothing nicer when your Husband/Partner smells nice.
Ponle ambiental. Nomas 
. Si no tw sientes con la.libertad de decirle "te huele el mono a monito " ya valio eso.
You in the shower first.
Invite him in the shower with you.
Ask him to lather soap on you.
You do the same to him -
head to toe.
P.S. Don’t make dinner plans.
I’m gonna get a coffee before I read these comments haha
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After reading this, I took an hour long shower.
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That would be a deal breaker for me
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Take a romantic bath with him .
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I cant believe I am reading this what is wrong with you girl What are you doing with him
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Ugh. Run away. You need a full grown man, not a child to look after. Sounds cold, but honestly, whatever underlying issues he has will require him to take care of himself and seek help. You cant fix him. Trust me, I’ve been there and learned the hard way after years of codependent behavior and caretaking. Love yourself enough to know you deserve the best!
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Yea no if he can’t care to do basic hygiene it’s a deal breaker for me
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Shit u a real one just for still putting up with it. Straight up tell him, gheres nothing wrong with NOT cuddling a garbage bag…
Omg 
the shit yall put on here 
u don’t need any advice… if u have put up with it this long then well it is what it is…u have a choice stay or go…that’s just nasty
Depression makes even basic hygiene a chore
Be stinky too when you’re with him! Ijs. If that doesn’t work, kick him to the curb.
He b gone n a second Notbeing mean but how can u b around somebody that smells an not take a shower
I just want to know what bar he works at so I don’t go because this is NASTY!!! lmao
How did you get to 6 months? Are you guys having sexy time? 
Clearly, you are dating a zombie, be careful of those love nips.
think hard on your final decisions. Life long habits are hard to break
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No bath, no sex. None, no holding hands, no kisses. Nothing.
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Yikes. I’d ask him in the nicest way possible what the heck is going on.
Omg no… deal breaker… you want a future with a man that doesn’t wash himself 
Take a shower with him maybe that’s the motivation he needs 
Just tell him…if you want some of me? Then u need a good
Update…and no! I don’t mean update yr computer.
Just teach the man hygiene habits, tell him to keep clean or by by.
Take a showrr with him tell him your wash his back he can wash yours
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Offer to have fun and take a shower together let him wash you you wash him
If he isn’t showering now, it can only go downhill. Wake up.