Ask him to move. If he doesn’t, Change the locks and put his stuff outside. Done and done
Given all of the bad decisions for many years, it is unlikely that any advice would be followed. Amazing story (if true) of a life filled with bad choices leading to her current situation. Sad for all of these kids.
At this point in time he just pays rent to live there. You’re paying all the bills. You’re not legally married. Everything is in your name. Definitely see an attorney. If he’s not listening to you when you ask him to leave the. You have to do what you have to do. It definitely is not a great way to live with your children watching every move. And you deserve so much better. Sounds like you’re doing it all alone anyway so why bother with another body in the house that’s bringing you nothing but stress and pain? You’re better than me because if mine ever cheated he would be out and no second chances. That’s it. So do what’s best for you and your family. Good luck and take care of you. 
Look up the laws in your area for eviction. As long as you aren’t married, give him a written notice (make a copy and maybe even have it notorized) and give the minimum amount of time to move out according to your laws. If he doesn’t leave in that given time you’re legally allowed to change the locks and throw his shit outside.
I’m wondering why you married this man in the first place.
If it’s your house change the locks when he goes to work and get his stuff out on the lawn.
Reading this shows me how effed up women are… no wonder male suicide rate is so much higher than females lol. Life’s a game to you
Wow there are so many bitchy women here, if you kick him out by law you can’t as he has proof he’s contributing towards the mortgage so before you do anything go speak to your lawyer and see what they say don’t listen to half these clowns as you will leave yourself open to countless problems
Sell the house and everything and move your own self
You’re still calling him your “significant other”. You say that you bought the house with him but you want him to just leave his home because your name is on it but not his.
If you want him to leave his house with you then you need to buy him out. You can either sell the house or take out a loan and pay him half of the equity. You should really be paying more than half since you have another man’s three kids living there.
Tbh I’d get a restraining order , I hate useless people & cheaters. That would keep him away
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Evict him or sell your house and move yourself.
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I would kick that piece of shit to the curb a long time ago.
File for eviction you will have to give him 30 days but he will have to leave
Get a lawyer and Sell the home
Take your foot and boot him out
Easy if it’s ur place he leaves for work you change locks if you don’t want that then you leave problem solved
He would be riding off on that MF not still on couch.
Sell your house and move. He’s a lost cause and it will only end in drama.
Lawyer up and be done with him
I would love to hear his side of the story
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Get a lawyer and evict him.
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Stop supporting him, bump his butt out!
Be mean. Be very mean
Well if u know u are not together and he buys a bike. Wtf lady he bought it. U need to figure out ur own stuff sounds like u complain allot allot. Buhoo! And only since ur married for a short time he can’t take the house and u can’t take the house ether. So build another one on ur property. Or start bringing another man in the house see how that goes prob not to good. Sounds like u complain allot tho. No wander why he don’t give a f
Sell your house and move out.
This page is so stupid
NOTHING THERE For YOU😳
I mean you picked him… lol
Ashley Foran this sounds very familiar
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Serve him an eviction notice
U need to lawyer up.
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Talk to a lawyer,
he gets half you can’t just throw him out
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Get lawyer have him removed
Tell them , him/her/heshe/ she him /it they to move they ass outta you’re place
You own the house. Get eviction papers written up. Tada.
Go get some legal advice about where you stand because you’re married, yet the property is in your name. As he’s paid towards the mortgage he may have some rights over the property depending on where you live… You might have to go through divorce proceedings first before you can get him out of your house or you might just be able to serve him with eviction notice… Sounds like you’ve had enough, just need to stick to your guns now and not let him talk you out of whatever decisions you make
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Bring a new man over 
that usually works. Did for me. My kids father refused to leave my house too until I had a new man in my life 
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It amazes me how the person will not leave but you have already done all this stuff but will not leave.
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Tell him its time to start looking 
give him 30 days to find a place
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If he won’t leave voluntarily you’ll have to serve an eviction notice
get an eviction notice!
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1st off how is title held on the house? A Married Woman as Her Sole and Separate Property of so the you are Golden… second serve him with a 30 day notice to move BUT make sure you use a professional server.
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You’ll have to go to the courts and have him served a 30 day eviction notice. It’s the inlybway to do it legally.
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I was in the same boat with my ex husband. The house was is my name, my family had helped me get most of the furniture for it, and I was basically already raising the kids on my own. I did everything around the house and worked full time, and my family helped me watch the kids while I worked. He didn’t work or help around the house and half the time he was gone doing god knows what. Well one day he was out, and I found out through a friend that he was out cheating again, and that was the last straw. I packed all his shit and sat it on the porch. He was pissed, but he eventually left. He kept the car, but I kept the house. He honestly probably just needs a swift kick to get him out. Although, things seem more civil between you two so I wouldn’t suggest going the route I did unless you absolutely have to. But maybe you could just help him pack and help him find a place.
You’re stuck and you’re screwed. That house is his residence. You can’t kick him out. And it may also be considered marital property, regardless of whether it’s in your name alone or not. If he works and financially contributes towards it… He may have a leg to get a portion of it anyways. You have to see what the laws are in your state. The only way to get him out is to file for a divorce or a legal separation and have it put into a court order. But you have to have a reason for him to move out. If he doesn’t want to go, he doesn’t have to. Sorry… But you’re in a hell of a mess
Go through formal eviction process.
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It’s your house tell him to leave and if he doesn’t call the police and he will be removed.
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You can’t. He either moves on his own or you go through the courts. Doesn’t matter that it’s in your name.
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Give him your own type of eviction notice. Give him a set date for him to move out by and have him sign it. If he doesn’t leave on that date you can have a sherriff come and escort him out.
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Why are you still there? One of you needs to go. There are home and organization to help you.
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Move on! Do what you have to by law. Get rid of him. You will be happier and your kids. What a misserable life. You deserve better. Been there, got out!
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Pack his bags, change the locks and ignore the banging and screaming at the door.
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Consult an attorney. Be sure you know the laws and hiw they will affect you and your children. You especially need this information concerning custody, support, and property. Your attorney may suggest a legal eviction with restraining order in place. Or he may simply suggest you pack his things set them on the curb, and change the locks. You know this guy. Arm yourself with information so YOU can make a decision best for your family. You know this guy’s personality and what reaction/action he may take. Evidently a simple request to leave is not enough for him.
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Put the house up for sale.
When he is gone have his stuff outside and if you don’t trust him not breaking in then I would have a cop waiting somewhere hiding till he arrives.
Pack his stuff and throw it out on the front yard
Well…. Look up squatters rights where you live
Give him your own eviction notice, if he doesnt leave after that time frame, u can wait till he leaves the house put his things out front & change the locks. Good luck
A piece of Mind is Priceless .If He wanted Move ,You Move. You can get another House, Life is to short not to be Happy,
Why do you stay with him once a cheater always a cheater the trust is gone. Kick his ass to the curb.
Tell him he needs to arrange somewhere else to live by xx date, give it a month, and make an arrangement for money for the children. When that date comes and goes and he’s still not done anything, change the locks, pack all his stuff and leave it on the front. Send him a message to tell him what you’ve been forced to do because he’s clearly not taking this seriously, and arrange a van to take all his things
These posts are becoming ridiculous.
I would tell him he will be happy sleeping with his motorcycle
You have to serve him with a legal eviction notice then you’ll have to take him to court he’s basically tenet of the house his mail and shit is all there your not married or anything so you’ll be safe but you’ll definitely end up taking him to court
Move his shit outside then change the locks. Make sure you file for child support and have proof of his income prior to involving the courts. Men like to make money invisible when they owe it. If he shows up call the cops and have him removed. Done deal.
First I would have a nice talk to him make it very clear it is over and that you would like him to move out in the next 30 days in the meantime I would be talking to a lawyer make sure child support is set up and spousal if you’ve been married a certain amount of time it automatically taken out have the papers that show the house is in your name if he is not on there you might be able to call the police if he won’t leave I would give him a letter a copy stating that you are giving him 30 day notice I will definitely speak to a lawyer
Sounds like he is a playboy…motorcycle…don’t help with nothing…maybe he is on his way out into the sunset! But do your homework and get him out legally…You can still be friends but not live together…good luck!
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Boy does this sound familiar. I have a narcissist in my life too. I wish I could give advice, but I can’t. I’m guilty. Seeking my own advice so…following!
Legally Must give a 30 day eviction notice and have him served. Go to town hall and they will give you the paperwork you need. Is a VERY DIFFICULT SITUATION AS HE HAS RIGHTS… I went through this a few years ago and had to get DA involved. Luckily we did not have children together but his 3 girls were involved. Total mess!!
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If you really want him gone you can give him a big hint by packing up all his sh*t in bags and leave it outside the door in garage etc. and have all the locks changed by the time he gets home. Nothing says I want you gone or goodbye better than that.
You will have to serve him with an eviction notice.
Depending on the state your from it could be anywhere from 3 days to 30 days. The day he leaves make sure you call the police and make them aware of the eviction. Had a friend who who did this.
I suppose you cook, clean and do his laundry. You and your children deserve better. Kick him out and change the locks. If he tries to get in, call the police.
I have a big problem with having children with an SO, especially one who does not father the children you already have in a significant manner. There is no reason for an SO to feel he must father children from a previous marriage. He is not their father. He is not even your husband! You share a lot of responsibility here. But you need to get an attorney and get this matter handled before more damage is done to these children. Do this legally or you will have more problems on your hands.
If you have been together 11 years and he helps with the mortgage and bills it doesn’t matter if his name is on it. AND if you bought it together you need to be fair. Tell him you both need to sell the house. Split the profit and go your separate ways. He can’t stay in a house that is being sold.
As Kelley stated, At this point it sounds like he is just being a leech, You are paying for everything and he is clearly taking advantage of the fact. I Agree, enough is enough, time to get the Courts involved and have him Legally removed.
Either tell him you want to find a good counselor and work it out if that’s an option. Or tell him we’ve talked about this and nothing has changed. I can’t do this anymore you need to go.
Don’t pack his stuff, drop it off and change the locks! He’s not beneath you to be treated like that. Your obviously still friends and don’t forget the kids are watching and if you are disrespectful to him, it will hurt them. Have a face to face sit down talk to him, explain exactly what you said above. Give him a deadline and ask him to be out by that date. Please don’t be mean about it, peace at all costs.
Put the house up for sale and you and the kids move. And yes I know that’s not easy but sometimes you just have to take action.
File for divorce. You might as well have a roommate that pays rent than a self-obsessed husband
Be smart get a lawyer and apply for a divorce. Get an official eviction notice. Make sure he gets it. Pack his shit up and put it outside. He will get the message
Tell him to sell his bike if he doesn’t have any money and encouge him everyday to go and rent a house or flat
You should have left 10 years ago, but it’s never too late…
Its fairly simple…show your children that you are integral and congruent…mean what you say…do what you say…pack his belongings & put in storage. Change the locks. Give him the keys to his storage. Close the chapter and move on
A little extreme but if nothing else since the mortgage is in your name put the house for sell and you and the kids move then he have to leave
If he helps pay the mortgage then he could have legal rights with regard to part ownership.eviction Lawyer the best bet
He’s not going to leave …wht would he with you foing everything for him…get a lawyer…kick him to the curb…
what made you think it’s going to be different for you … it’s nice to go out with a woman without obligation …but no this is not what you had in mind …lol
How about maybe getting some expert advice , lots of organisations around , good luck,x
You better hold on to what you got. You’re getting older and have baggage. He probably only cheat on you while you were pregnant or not looking the greatest. Women nowadays just don’t appreciate men. Maybe you need to be more open minded in the bedroom. Also you said he pays the mortgage maybe you should be the one to move out.
You need to get restraint order to have him removed from the house.
When you realy want him gone, he’ll know, he’ll go. Stop feeding him.
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Kindly pack his shit leave it outside change the locks file for full custody & child support. Get a lawyer
Tell him to go sleep on his new motorcycle!
Just be the bigger person and find a place of your own
Second chance was one chance too many
Leave him, run don’t walk away. You can and will be better off without him.
Poly relationship, get two new men, the other will get the hint…
You know what a sawed off shot gun can do
Start dating and have your new boyfriend spend the night
Do the legal eviction and get a lawyer.