im almost 22 and i have one 2 year old. and i KNOW i don’t want any more kids. i always knew i wanted a baby, maybe 2, but after having this one. im done. pregnancy was horrible for me(yeah yeah, i know every pregnancy is different) i had morning/all day sickness for 7 months straight. i hated being pregnant. it made me 10x more self conscious about my body during and after having him. it’s just something i personally don’t want to go through again. and i get told by people it’s selfish to only have one. but unless they are carrying the baby and being pregnant, they have no say so on what i choose to do. also, i’m NOT a morning person, absolutely HATE being woken up, always have, and if i can prevent having to wake up every 3-4 hours through the night with a newborn, i absolutely will. we love going places, and tugging around a newborn in a carrier was horrible. i’m on birthcontrol, and if something were to happen and we would accidentally get pregnant again, then no biggie, i’ll suck it up and do it again. but to VOLUNTARILY have another one. nope. my child is 3 kids in one. i have horrible back problems, and being pregnant again will defienitly not help that. and the energy he has is outrageously crazy! i couldn’t imagine another one, especially close in age. and by the time he’s 5-6 and we don’t have an “accident” or plan to have another my boyfriend is getting 
. because that’s to big of an age gab to start all over again.
I had decided 2 was enough for me but my Dr would not do a tubal because I was only 22. I went on to have 2 more years later. Consider your age. Things may change if you are young.
You will know when the time is right
I have 4. I fucking wish I stopped at 3. But it is what it is. I got my tubes tied. Which I also regret bc I’ve had issues with my period ever since. But I absolutely wanted no more. So it’s okay.
I was sure I only wanted 1 but then since covid I changed my mind as I didn’t want my daughter to be on her own later in life. I now have 2 and glad I did change my mind.
I have 3. They have usual fights. But they love each other and pick at each other. I love it. 
We have 2. I always wanted to make sure I had 2 because one day we won’t be here and I want them to at least have each other
I never wanted kids. I wanted to go to college for photography and travel the world. I had my oldest in 2007. And was content. Wasn’t going to have anymore. In 2014 or 2015 I worked at a gas station. A customer put it to me this way. When you die. It’s just your baby here wandering this earth without you. So I had my baby in 2016. Because I couldn’t leave my oldest alone in the world. If they don’t speak after I’m gone that’s their choice. But I did my part to make sure they would have each other when I’m gone. I had surgery to prevent any further pregnancies.
My sister and I discussed it. We say everything is geared to a family of 4. We always find a promotion for 4. I had 2 kids and she had 4…so we were 4 and she was 6. She always had to add, while I got the 4-pack special. Just an observation…
You just know.
If you are struggling this hard then don’t have another.
Talk to your partner, see if they feel the same and explain that you don’t want another and let it be.
Always known I want 2 girls with one being named Tonya I got exactly what I wanted. I am so blessed.
You need to be able to afford and care for all your children and both parties want not just one or the other
I was blessed with 2 boys and didnt want to push my luck any further so I stopped and had my tubes tied. I loved being pregnant and had i been younger i probably would have had more
My other half and I have 5 total and I’m beyond grateful we do. If I had the chance id do it again in a heartbeat. all 5 have their ups and downs but in the end they are the greatest 5 kids I could have ever hoped for.
I always wanted 2 kids… my son was 5 when my daughter was born so there’s an age gap and I love it I got to spend a lot of one on one time with my son before my daughter was born and then I got to spend a lot of one on one time with her since he was in Kinder when she was born! So I’m glad I choose to have 2 kids!
My boyfriend and I have 4 all together. Blended house hold. I know all my friends with 1 child wish their child had someone to play with. They says they are constantly having to play, entertain, or keep their child busy in many activities. We have a park one house away from our and I love how our kids are constantly playing together and come up with creative games. Honestly 2 would have been ideal for me.
I’m 36 and have 4 children 9, 8, 6, and 2. I love them but man they can be a handful at times. Couldn’t imagine adding more to what I have.
If you can afford to care for them without being on Medicade, food stamps, wic, etc. Go for it. If you’re on any assistance, wait till you can afford it. Can you afford to stay home and not work? I don’t want to pay for other’s children. Those are my reasonings.
When my husband & I started talking about having children we agreed on no more than 3. When I got pregnant with our 3rd child I knew inside I was done. I just knew for myself that I didn’t want more. He on the other hand wasn’t so sure,at 6 months pregnant an ultrasound showed I had plecenta previa because of the issues that caused with me and our baby(she was born via emergency csection at 36 weeks) he also decided he was done. Honestly if you in your heart can’t say you’re done I suggest talking about it with your spouse/boyfriend and get on birth control! Use birth control until you know what you want for sure.
The world is a crazy place! I wouldnt want to bring anymore into this world.
I personally want more then one kid so when us parents pass they won’t be alone
I always knew i wanted at least 2, ideally 4. Rare blood type and very hard pregnancies put a stop to that. Took a big risk having baby number two and then had my tubes tied as we both almost died during birth.
I wanted 2 but got 4 and now I’m just adding fur baby editions to our family lol no more actual babies for this mama as I hemorrhaged pretty bad with my last 2
I have one. He’s 17. I had miscarriages before him. He came 3 & 1/2 months early. I almost lost him several times. I have lupus and Antiphospholipid syndrome. I was told that if I was to try to have another I could lose the baby, myself, or both. So I didn’t even try to have any other babies. He does still say he wishes he had a sibling. So I really do wish I could’ve. But I’m completely fixed because I was so scared of the what ifs.
I was 1 and done. Then God blessed me with 2 more. I know I am done, just because I am already exhausted with 3, and I know for my own sanity that 3 is enough for me.
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Stopped after 1 as I had 5 siblings and knew I didn’t want a large family. I do regret it now that he is 18, I wish I’d had one more.
I only have 1 and he is more than enough. 
I didn’t meet my Husband until later in life. I was in my midthirtes. When we got married we did not plan on having any kids. But then my sisters each had one so we thought okay let’s have one. He is the middle of 5 cousins. We sometimes think we should have had another but my age was concerning. We also feel we are able to give him things that would be more difficult if we had additional children.
I think you have to realistically look at your location in life. Are you set up financially to have more kids? Can you provide them with college or help financially if they need, can your house set up be okay with more kids or is your house full and therefore you need to move in order to have more kids. Is your relationship in a good place? Honestly I wanted 4, husband wanted 5 but I had some scares with each birth and we decided that for my health, it was best to be happy with what we have. Also another kiddo to our herd and I would have had to redo all of our bedrooms and try to redo our play space etc too. I have an 11, 8 and 6. I’m thrilled that they will all be in school this year and can get back to my work life without having a nanny or babysitter. It’s a question you have to open up about… make a pro cons list… I know a few people who are thrilled to welcome babies in their 40’s but I wanted to be done by 30, and I was. My kids will all be grown and in university by the time I’m 50…
Being a mom of 7 I wouldn’t change it. I have no idea what it’s like with just 1. But I do know growing up it was just me and my brother and I felt lonely. So it was a personal decision to have a big family
I thought for sure I was done after my first but then I met an amazing man and decided I would go for one more. I am sooo happy I did! My boys are 11 years old and 13 months.
I had 2 because I didn’t like the thought of my child not having a brother or sister. For those that say if you can afford it if one was to wait till they had everything for them to have children nobody would have had kids or gone pass the age where its easier conceive and more likely to have a child with problems. Once you have kids you change the way you spend money and realise you wasted a lot. It’s up to you and your partner but in the long run you want to make sure you have no regrets.
We based our decision at the time on affordability. Plus we had one of each. However, hindsight is always 20/20. If I was able to do it over I would go with 3 to 4. Here is why. We lost our oldest 5 years ago when he was 26 due to injuries from an auto accident. It has been hell on our little family. I think this way now more for our daughter. She struggles being alone and losing her best buddy. She is now married and pregnant with her first. She hates that her brother missed her wedding. She hates that her children will not have first cousins or a fav uncle on her side of the family.
We hate that she may have to deal with us as elderly. It sure made us get our stuff in order quick.
So for me…have more than 2…
You never regret the kids you have only the ones you don’t.
This world is to evil, for me to want or have anymore. It would not be far to the child. But that’s how I feel for my self.
I only have 1 whose 8… My husband and I both wanted a girl and that’s what we got… Kids are expensive so I always had the mentality of she can have what she wants and I can have what I want lol. No really kids are a blessing… I just wasn’t meant for more than 1.
I have always wanted 2 kids. I have one now that will be 12 in 6 months and one on the way. I went on bc after my first and it took 5 yrs to get pregnant again. Then had two rough miscarriages and now having ano
I have a 25.21.19.14 & 6
I never regret the kids.
Just the Big age gaps .
They last 2 would get upset siblings wouldn’t play or they couldn’t play because of the big age gaps.
Have them close together if anything.
I have two 17 months apart they use to be Best friends until their teen years a boy and girl hormones…lol
I struggled at 1 time. I had a 9 year old daughter and he had 2 sons when we met. He really wanted a child with me. My MIL told me one day as I struggled with decision to have another child. She said if you don’t have one you may one day regret not having one but if you do have one you will never regret bringing them into this world. So… we had another baby… she has been the best thing to happen to our family.
I have one that is almost a teen. We wanted more but not being able get the one places due to work helped out the decision. We were able to go on great vacations yearly and have great bdays and holidays. We were able to buy a larger house as the one before definitely was too small for more than one. With all the crap going on in the world I’m kind of glad I only have to worry about my one kid.
If you are healthy and can carry without complications and can afford it I would say have at least one more. One of the best things I did was give my kids siblings. They fight often but they have sweet moments where they get among also. I wanted them to have someone with them for the time when we get old and need help and pass. No one will understand like a sibling will.
We based our decision on affordability. We wanted to be sure that we could comfortably take care of our children and provide them with a good life
I had 2… I call them my first and my last. None of their births were straight forward also I was a terrible pregnant mum. Finances made a huge impact on the final decision to have a tubal ligation. I have never regretted that decision. Kids are now 24 and 22.
Have great neice/nephew who feel they can only afford one. I wanted a 2nd. Hubby not for it until someone very close to him, would have been all alone without a sibling. We did go through a phase where they hated each other and we wanted to run away from home ( ages 12 & 14). Hubby gone now and they pal around together ( ages 49 & 51) .
I misread that as 11 for some reason with the 1 & the I but mainly financially if I could afford to have more
I’m an only child and it was VERY lonely. I will definitely be having more than one. Of course I had all of the attention but there was never anyone to play board games with, video games or in general. I had friends and cousins but it’s not the same.
I think with what is going on in the world at the moment namely this covid madness, I would give it serious thought. We do not know how long covid will be with us and any child born will have a much different life style. I am elderly now but I certainly would not consider children being brought into this world at present. Wait and see how this virus end up. Workplaces are now saying no job unless you are vaccinated. This may be difficult for some. Not wanting this vaccine does not make you anti vaccination. Just this particular one has a lot of people genuinely concerned. A lot has to be taken into consideration before having a child at the moment. I wish you well.
My marriage was rocky and I knew I wouldn’t be able to afford more kids on my own. He thought we were going to keep having kids till we had a boy. I was having my second and I told him it didn’t matter this was my last girl or boy. I had my son. Then had my tubes tied.
If you don’t know that you want more children, maybe you shouldn’t have more. People should consider whether they can provide for children with their time and money.
I wanted more but it wasn’t in my cards when my second son was 8 months I found a lump in my right breast. Plus my last pregnancy really took a toll on my health and my body. So I was only able to have 2 sons. Because of health reasons. Pray about it our Lord will answer you.
My thought is that I don’t think youd would ever regret having a baby. But you may wake up older regretting that you can’t have anymore. That’s how I decided.
If you need to ask this question on social media, then you definitely do not need to have more kids at this time
Mama you will know when the time is right. If your having doubts don’t do it. Only you as a mom know what is best for you and your family.
As a parent watching her only child almost grow up alone . I think it’s fair to give them a sibling .
I had 2 kids. I decided to stop when I was pregnant with my second one because I found out that she was sick. The doctor told me if I had anymore they all would be sick. My daughter has 13q deletion syndrome and alot of other problems.
I’m an only child and my fiancé has 2 younger brothers and a sister and seeing how they are and how it was growing up compared to me it was super lonely and it’s super lonely now at 24 years old not having that someone to call and talk to… we have a 15 month old son and we are currently pregnant with another boy We are both done after this I’m just glad to have two because Atleast they will have each other
U should have ur child a sibling. I have two girls if I could have more without it killing me I would in a heart beat
If have ask maybe stick to one.
I wanted six - I had 3 late term miscarriage. TWO early birth 32 & 34 weekers - one full term rainbow baby !
Foster - plus extra children short term ’ when adulting too much for their bio -
Can afford them ?
Can mental - emotional take care of the needs -'?
Nothing wrong with homeschool mom of six -
Nothing wrong with one and done either !
I had 5 .
They’ll always have someone if we as their parents died.
Single child always miss out playmates.
I had my kids 5-7 years apart and worse age Gap.
Have one more if you only have 1 I know a lot of ppl that never had siblings and wished they did
I would talk it over with your significant other to decide.
I had 2 children and decided that I was done. 14 years later, I had my 3rd child.
The best thing I did for my son was give him a sister!
Right now I wouldn’t with all that’s going around. To much worrying
If my second had been my first, she’d’ve been my only!!! She cured me of wanting anymore 
If you can’t make your own decision, don’t have another unless and/or until you want one bad enough to not need to ask
How many can YOU afford
How many does your spouse wants
How many do you have time for
I have 3. and i will never ever carry another child. pregnancy literally breaks me down. Even my doctor told me i shouldn’t have more.
Can you afford them is the question??
We have 3 and i can’t handle anymore with my mental health
I have 3, that’s enough
If you are asking here. You should not.
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I have two. I wish I had had 1-2 more. Love love my babies.
go sit at the kiddie table
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My first and only is 19 months now. He is so high needs since the beginning, i always say he is equal to 3 kids. My birthing experience was traumatic and i had postpartum depression that turned into rage. I want to be all the way there for him. If i have another PTSD-inducing birth, that’s not fair to him, because who knows how long i won’t be myself?
I think i might go the adoption or foster route when he’s older.
So my reason for not having more of my own is my mental health.
We have 4. its an easy decision now, no more!
If you have 1, you already have all the reasons not to have another!
I have one i knew i only wanted one and i dont plan to have anymore…no reason in particular…i just feel like the emotional and financial responsibility plays a big part in having children and am comfortable with stopping at 1 child for myself…i think it depends on who u and ur partner r as a person and what u feel is best for urselves
Have this conversation with you other half.
For me I didn’t want my child to grow up without siblings so I made sure I had at least one more.
I was am only child growing up and still feel that loneliness at 40.
Then I went on to have 3 more and love our big family, wouldn’t trade it for the world, love watching the siblings play and look out for eachother.
We had pretty Decent gaps though so I feel having them spread out - it wasn’t as stressful.
They are now, 3,7,14,18 & 21 
Finances. Waking up every hour. Potty training. Diapers. When i look at this stuff, and how much I like money and sleep more, I realize I have enough kids and don’t wanna do everything all over again lol
We wanted 2 but I had a very difficult pregnancy and my son ended up coming 2 months early. All of that combined with the NICU and everything was difficult and traumatic, especially during Covid. We have decided we now only want the 1 but it’s also because our hearts and lives feel so full. We don’t feel like we’re missing anything. We’re so happy and content and love our life with our family of 3
This is something I have struggled with ever since I had my son, and he will be six soon. We finally made the solid decision that we will not be having any more children. The only good reason I have for wanting more children is so that my son has a sibling and isn’t alone later in life when his father and I pass. But he has a ton of family and cousins that he is extremely close with. (I know this isn’t the same as an actual sibling, but it’s as close as he is going to get)
I have PCOS so getting pregnant naturally isn’t an option for me. I had to do fertility treatments to get pregnant with my son, and I do not want to do that again. Also, I was very sick during my pregnancy and it was really rough on my body. I caught every cold anyone around me had, I was extremely nauseous my entire pregnancy (though I hardly ever threw up) I had pneumonia, and I also had gestational diabetes, I was kid of a wreck.
But my biggest reasoning for not wanting another child is that I know my limits. I suffered from postpartum depression and anxiety really bad. Having a child has increased the already high anxiety I had before ever having him, and if I’m being 100% truthful I don’t believe I could mentally and/or emotionally handle another child. I just don’t.
I didnt want my son to be a spoiled only child. I just found out I am pregnant with #2 and it will be my last
I want one very close to my 9 month old now, I was an only child and as much as it was great it was very lonely. My perspective is having a sibling teaches social skills, empathy and kindness from a young age.
Nobody has ever said they regretted a child. But lots and lots of people regret not having one more
I wanted to die when I was pregnant…hated it lol
I remember a little too vividly the way I felt from lack of sleep.
I suffered miserably with PPTSD
I have a beautiful, inquisitive and challenging little man that is fulfilling enough for me as a single mom.
I fear that I will lose too much sanity, sleep and self to go through another pregnancy. I would be willing to take on a motherly role to a future partner’s children but I am all good with one and done (I used to think having another one meant playing and enjoying siblings but there is no guarantee they will actually like each other )
Mine and my husband’s second baby is due any day. They will have each other for life which makes me so happy. Two boys and done. This world is too crazy to bring anymore in to it I think.
If you don’t know if the one you got, why would you think of another? babies are a blessing, they go through many phrases of life, some good, some very trying, but you never stop loving, are you ready to make that commitment? This is for you and your husband to decide, no one else.
I have three. Two girls and a boy. Me and my husband decided on three to start with then my dr told us it was best to stay at three for my health. So I got my tubes removed after my son.
I have a 13 year old and a 2 year old, wouldn’t have it any other way!!!
I have 2. I only wanted 2. A boy and a girl. That’s what I have. I have thought about having more kids but to be honest I just don’t have the patience. I’m tired. My body is going to give out on me and I don’t want to have young kids and not be able to do anything with them. That’s why I had my last one at 26.
Many factors figure into this decision. It is not to be done on a whim, or because of pressure either to, or not to. Only you can really decide this. I’m sure others will give various arguments for, or against. Good luck either way.
A child is a huge, lifelong commitment so no idea why you wanna let Facebook strangers decide whether you should have another one or not 
I have three boys and a girl. I felt content after having my daughter. Like I was ready to close that chapter of my life. Pregnancy was never easy for me either and I was 36 when I delivered her so my age made it way harder.
I had a really traumatic birth with my second and struggled alot with him, me and my partner both decided very quickly we didn’t want any more, my partner had a vasectomy shortly after and 3 years on we completely stand by our decision, i think you just know when you are done.
Honestly if you are on the fence, you are probably answering your own question. You may regret not having more to complete your family but you will never regret completing your family with more. That question quieted for me after my second child and I can honestly say I feel completed but everyone’s “timing” is different. Hope this helps
Me and my husband have had 3 sons. We lost our 2nd son. My 3rd was a high risk pregnancy for me and baby. Once we had our last son I said I wanted to try again. My husband said no, we were done. He knew I would want to keep going till we got a girl and he was convinced he could only produce boys. Lol! I was happy he made the decision for us. Now we have an 8.5 and 4 year old. I always said I didn’t want to have a baby once I hit 30 and I’ll be 32 this year. I’m just so good and done. Haha