Its no ones business for all we know they could have a open relationship and are ok with it or she knows already and doesn’t give a flying fuck but if she doesn’t know and you tell her and when she confronts the husband and we all know he will deny it till no tom and tell her every lie that he can think of and in the end the wife believes her husband so before you open a can of worms be prepared for the backlash and that being said it being’family’ and after all these years why the fuck say something about it now obviously it didn’t bother you in the beginning and now all of a sudden it does really thats not only fucked up its messed up for real
I’d tell her but make sure you have plenty to back you up. After that it’s on her
You tell her gently then you show her hard evidence so there is no doubt in her mind of the betrayal… She in turn will then be free to make up her own mind about her life choices instead of having the wool pulled over her eyes
One day she’ll be thankful (maybe not staight away) but eventually she will and anyone who says otherwise needs to have a look at their morals
Let me guess he’s your daddy too
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Child please, this woman knows her husband is a cheater. Some women are fine with it as long as their husband is financially taking care of things at home. Hell for all you know, she has a dude on the side. Sometimes it’s best to mind your own damn business because some people will shoot the messenger. 
So you want really want to hurt your mom but why?
So you want really want to hurt your mom but why?
Oh wow. Id shame my own mother for being involved with a married man, setting bad examples for me. If i were in your position i would definitely speak gently to her with evidence to back it up. Im was once told that i was being cheated on with evidence and it was tough but i left that situation and im glad someone was there to tell me so i didnt have to continue looking like a fool any longer.
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Why would anyone feel they have a right to interfere with someone else relationship???
I personally don’t want to be the cause of someone else’s pain, if it’s happening, they will find out
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Tell her! Just tell her! We had to tell our friend that his wife was cheating on him. He was pissed at us at first then he realized it after a couple other people told him and he thanked us. Literally just tell her.
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You don’t. It is none of your business.
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A woman you don’t know? I wouldn’t. Not my husband, not my problem.
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After 25 years Im sure she knows. After that long what would be accomplished by saying anything??
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You dont tell her. You ask her if they have an open marriage and depending on that answer than at that point you provide the information needed
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The comments alone, are why I don’t trust other women 
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Why would Your mother keep messing with the same man who has no intention of going anywhere with her but back to his wife? That’s what I don’t get . I wouldn’t tell the other woman . It’s been this long, I’m sure she’s cheating too.
After 25 years, maybe she already knows 
some women know in their heart but for whatever reason they just let it be, Maybe your Mother should be the one to tell her, she is ok sleeping with someone’s husband, she should be ok with being the one to tell her.
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Lmao…these comments are wild
Honestly…who gives a fuck
First introduce yourself and tell her that you just inquired some information that you think that she should know because you would want someone to tell you if you were ever in this situation. Then go on to tell her that unfortunately you just found out that her husband has been cheating with your mother and you feel that she has the right to know as his wife.
After 25 years??? That woman either knows and she doesn’t care, or she doesn’t want to know! There is no in between on that. If he don’t have children with your mother, let it go. …But I do suggest you invite them over next Christmas, because after 25 years, it’s not cheating – they sister wives, and family don’t leave family out on the holidays.
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Like above comments after 25 years she has to know. I’ve been in a similar predicament and wish I would have said something. A woman deserves to know if her partner is being unfaithful…
Just be prepared to be the bad guy
These comments did not pass the vibe check 
would none of you want to know if your partner was cheating ? Tf
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You don’t… you mind The business that pays you
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If you don’t know her, then I guess you wouldn’t really know how to get in contact with her, but your best bet is to call her and maybe ask to meet with her. She’s most likely going to be angry at you and not believe you which is going to cause drama. Also be prepared for your mother to stop communication with you or also cause drama. Personally, I would stay out of it and let adults handle their own business
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Why is this hard? If you have solid 100% proof, you tell her. If there’s not solid proof to provide, then you mind your own business until you do.
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I would want to know!
The truth is hard. Just rip the band aid off. But I will also add… I only trust info from reliable sources, so have evidence or don’t say anything at all.
I would tell her. Find a way to get ahold of her and ask for her to meet you somewhere for coffee or something and then just tell her. I wish that someone, anyone, would have told me when my husband was cheating on me. It went on for over 4 years without me knowing and then I found out on my own and was so hurt. I was even more angry because so many people KNEW and didn’t say a word to me about it.
Tell ur hoe ass mom karma is a bitch
MYOB. She probably already knows and is ignoring it.
I would find a way to tell her. Either she doesn’t know or she does. that’s hard to hide for 25 years. Maybe they have an open relationship and she’s seeing another man as well 
I know it would be hard for me to tell someone even though I would want someone anyone really to tell me. Make an email and send her the proof.
I would want to know… I’d make sure you could prove it 100% beforehand tho.
If you have the proof, let her know. Like others have said, prepare for the backlash you may get from everyone involved.
I’m sure she already knows. 25 years come on that lady had her suspicions a long time ago
I will tell the husband to come clean. If not, I will tell his wife (with evidence, of course).
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25 years? She already knows.
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Please Say something!!! I would want someone to tell me, it’s just girl code as hard as it may be I would tell someone else as well.
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I would definitely want someone to tell me, I hate home wreckers that keep secrets.
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I was married for 10 years and most of these mind your business people are right, I knew, but I didn’t KNOW. Being from a Bible thumping, can’t get divorced unless he’s cheating, family and community, I couldn’t convince myself to just walk away. I would have been eternally thankful for someone to provide me the proof I thought I needed to walk away years earlier. Instead it took me walking away for different reasons and ignoring my family and community’s (church family) thoughts. Two months after I left his ‘brand new’ girlfriend was pregnant due in 4 months… bottom line, even though I knew, I would have definitely wanted someone who knew to let me in rather than let me look like the fool because they ASSUMED I knew.
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25 years… she knows… mind your own. She is staying for a reason.
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I personally wouldn’t want someone telling me especially if I don’t know them If it was a close friend who knew about it then I would be fine with them telling me
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What does your mom say?
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Nah. You tell her. She probably knows but maybe she doesn’t. The only way to tell is to talk to her. But make sure you have proof.
Tell the husband to come clean or you will period also take his hush money If he offers or even u make the offer and still rat his ass out ha bc the backlash u will take after it all u will need to treat yo self 
If he’s been cheating for 25 years then his wife knows! Just mind your business.
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Tell her not only to help her but to also clear your own conscience. If you have evidence tell her that if she wants it you will gladly give it. Some women will listen and some will chose to believe it’s not true. All you can do is give her the information and let her chose what she wants to do with it.
Why bring it up after 25 years tho, have you known it did you just find out.
I’d be more pissed you knowing and not telling me before hand. But she gotta know if it been that long.
I would NOT tell anyone about a husband cheating. No even my sister. She said going to know it. ( She knows it )
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What a beautiful example your mother is giving you ! I hope you learn from her NOT to do what she is doing.
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I don’t know if anyone has asked this…
What is your motive(s) for telling her now? To “help” her? After 25 years that seems to little to late. Is it because you want to hurt him and/or your mother? She (the wife) shouldn’t be collateral damage to hurt them. To clear your conscience? Revenge? Why now when there’s been 25 YEARS?
I ask because your motive is where the answer to your question is. If you don’t have honest intentions for telling her, then don’t. She may already know and can live with her choice, just because she stayed or hasn’t broadcast that he’s unfaithful isn’t a guarantee she’s unaware. If you’re needing to tell her for legitimate reasons then you better have irrefutable proof because most women I know will defend her man regardless of what you say. More so if there’s some bad history involved. Even if there’s an inkling that she does believe you she most likely won’t let you know that she does, since it’s not really a bonding type of conversation.
Think long and hard about what the end results of your choice will be. At the end of the day if you can live with the fallout, either way you decide, then do what’s right for you.
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You dont… Mind your own business. More than likely she already knows.
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If you have proof id just take it to her and show her. She deserves to know for sure.
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She already knows. 25 years?
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25yrs with your mother yet still with his wife 
your mothers an idoit
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You say. I’m sorry but your husband is cheating on you with my mother.
You don’t. It’s none of your business. Some how you will be the bad guy…it has happened to me.
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As long as you have proof be honest. As a woman I would like to know if I was being betrayed by my husband. I would even most likely sympathize with you considering it’s your mom and it is easy to tell you’re embarrassed by her behavior. Tell her sweet pea, it’s the right thing to do!
Going through the comments, y’all a bunch of liars. “Just don’t tell anyone” “they could be open, mind your business” okay first of all, mom made it her business because having a mom who sleeps around with married men is EMBARRASSING! It’s clear none of y’all have ever had a mom act like that so let me tell you from experience. Having a mom who was some mans side piece a bunch of times is EMBARRASSING! It’s embarrassing knowing your mom was someone’s side piece. She doesn’t have to live with that. Her mom needs to remember what she taught her daughter and thats not to be a liar and do foul shit like that to people. Y’all are gross if you find it acceptable to cheat on your wife and then tell someone they aren’t allowed to tell the person because it’ll cause drama. Well girls her momma should have thought of that before sleeping with someone’s husband!
Are you the result of his cheating is that why you want to tell what do you gain chances are she knows probably doesn’t sleep with him anymore 25 years is a long time to be married if he intended leaving her he would of a long time ago
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I would just rip the band aid off quick, send her a message on Facebook. If she believes you good, but if not whatever. Maybe show proof if you have it. That’s all you can do and she can do with the info as she pleases.
But if it’s been going on 25 years she might already know
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Ok I agree the woman needs to know but be careful. I’ve seen people get killed just for exposing affairs. When you corner a rat they lash out sometimes. I think I’d confront my mother for being a Ho. What I’d do is anonymously tell the woman. Leave proof (pics) and a detailed note. That way you let the cat out of the bag at a safe distance.
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I would want to know as a woman but as a daughter of the other woman I would mind my business because females always tend to blame the woman not the man and can cause a bunch of drama for your mother especially if she knows he is married
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25 years?
Trust me, she already knows and has known for a long time…
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on a positive note their affair coincided with whats the story morning glory, that has to be worth something
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So ur mam is having an affair for the past 25 years with a married man - wow some role model right there! You should probably have a word with ur mam about respect!!!
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It’s not up to you to tell her it’s her husband that should be telling it’s not your relationship
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You don’t. 25 years!!! I’d bet she already knows.
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Are u sure she doesn’t already know?
You definitely don’t!
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^^^ so y’all telling me if your husband was cheating you wouldn’t want someone to tell you?? Wowwww
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YOU DON’T. Not your business, if it bothers you so much then convince your mother to do it. That’s HER place, not yours.
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Don’t get involved in your mom’s business. It’s really not your place
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Wow there’s a lot of toxic women on this post
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Man that’s a sticky situation to be in. If you have proof I would definitely tell her because I would want to know if I was in that position.
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25 years??? She probably knows.
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Fuck all that. Your mom is a hoe, tell on her. You just flat out tell her what you think is going on and why (screenshots if you have them).
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Wow all you saying don’t do it so ya all wouldn’t want to know your SO is cheating on you??
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Talk to your mom. Its her business and will be her mess to clean up.
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The people who are saying don’t tell her probably got cheated on. 
yikes
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Send in the details and pictures/proof and just message her cause that’s really messed up
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Sorry, NO ONE goes 25 years w/o knowing. She knows… And if she doesn’t “know” … She’s probably screwing around as well.
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As someone who was cheated on by the same man for a decade with more than 40 other women and none of them “told me” and I found out about it the hard way–freaking tell her.
If I had been told it would have been so much easier.
I had to learn he was cheating on me by learning his cheating behavior. He’d always get really snappy and short with me when he was cheating because he couldn’t stand being around me because he knew what he was doing was wrong and being around me made him feel guilty.
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Tell on her without guilt, she knows it is wrong. Maybe the wife just hasn’t been able to prove it all these years. Help that woman get her alimony and leave that man for a better one already.
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After 25 years… she probably knows… it just works for some people that way… concentrate on looking after your mother how does she feel knowing she spent 25 years being the other woman? That’s got to be rough!
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Maybe they’re swingers:woman_shrugging:t2:
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first ask yourself why you want to hurt your mother
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You take her to coffee and tell her everything you know.
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You just do. If she knows no harm done, if she doesn’t she can make an informed decision.
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Get every shred of proof you can and ask her to meet you in a neutral public place and just lay the truth out to her and give her the proof. If it was my mother/father being a home wrecking slut I would throw them ass under that bus. I hate cheaters.
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25 years and I’d bet mom is sleeping with em both. Or wife knows.
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Tell her! If she already knows, it’s whatever. If more people would tell, maybe it could help stop some of the cheating! Js
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All yall saying you don’t tell do realize that cheating can pose serious consequences besides emotional right? If my husband was cheating id 100% want to know so I can be tested for STDs and so I can move on with my life instead of being a doormat.
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TELL HER. Ignore all the people saying to not tell her. She deserves to know(if she doesn’t already). Girls gotta stick up for each other. I would NEVER trust a girl who wouldn’t tell another girl they are being cheated on!!
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Tell her, politely and kindly, and have proof.
If I was the woman I would want to know.
Just tell her, her husbands d!ck is dirty, you sorry your mamma a hoe and you think she deserves better
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I would speak to your mother to see if there is more to this. If there isn’t I would speak to the husband and tell him that I know he is cheating and has a week or day to tell his wife or I will.
The ones who are saying don’t tell her are most likely cheaters themselves. You tell the girl! This shouldn’t even be a question.
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