How do you deal with toddler aggression?

I desperately need help. I'm a single mom to a boy who will be 3 in November. Over the past few months he has started biting, hitting, and kicking my mother and I (we live together). I have tried the Janet Lansbury/Big Little Feelings approach of calmly explaining that hands are not for hitting, redirecting, and have purchased books (Hands are not for hitting/teeth are not for biting/what to do when you feel like hitting) and nothing has worked. He bit me so hard one day that he broke the skin and made me bleed. It is absolutely terrible.

I know I’ll get heat for this but I got so frustrated recently that I smacked his bottom and he cried but it did nothing. What do I do?? He hasn’t done this with other kids but I fear this will be next. I feel like such a failure as a mother.

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I used to bite everyone like that, then after my mom had tried literally everything and was at her wits end, she bit me back. Hard enough for it to hurt, but not hard enough to do any damage. I didn’t do it after that. But it may take a few bites for him to get the point.

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My little one did this one and I bite him back and he never hit or bit again. Some say it’s rude and hurtful but he wouldn’t listen to to me at all so I had to.

Play therapy might help

This book helped me a lot

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Put him in time out. A minute for each year of his age. Explain to him what he has done is wrong. And it’s not exceptable. Have him apologize for doing what he has done. And then give him a hug.

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Take away the toys or things he love the most. Show him he doesnt get rewarded for bad behavior.

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Get a play yard and put him in it every time , tell him if he cant be nice and not hurt he has to stay in his play yard so he wint hurt people. Dont give in to fits of crying , start with short times but be consistent to do it every time till he learns . Put it where he is visible so he knows he is safe but just removed due to unsafe behavior. Dont yell just talk matter of fact to him .

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Swab his mouth with vinegar when he uses it incorrectly … biting, yelling, sassing.

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I’m gonna get smack for this comment but eh :woman_shrugging:t4:
Bite him back.
My eldest bit me once, I smacked him and told him it’s nasty and not to bite, done nothing. He bit me again, so I bit him back to show him how it feels. He has not done it since.
Same with my youngest, he bit me once and I bit him back, he hasn’t done it since either. :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Try the movie Inside out sit with him and watch it talk about the characters and use the words he can use like with my son we watched anger and I said oh no look he is getting frustrated and pretty soon he is going to be big mad and then we talked about what he could do not to get big mad we watched it a few times and then talked about using his words when he felt frustrated… so right after I had a 2yo that could say I’m getting very frustrated instead of just hitting whatever made him angry. We did little time outs for him to get control and and when he could calm down and talk about it we would sort through what made him angry. That’s how we got to that point of him saying that. Later on a few years and he would sit himself out until he could speak and when I would ask are you ready to talk about it sometimes he would say not yet and want to sit with it a min so I’d say ok you can bring yourself out when you are ready and come talk to me about it but the rule was we calm down and then we have to talk about it and sometimes he needed to apologize for the behavior if he had hit or thrown something but that got less and less as we worked through everything.
That movie saved my sanity and helped my sweet sweet boy who loves so deeply choose a kind way to be upset.
I loaned it to a friend and it helped her child as well!

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Honestly, redirect him to something he can bite, or he can kick, like a teething toy in the freezer, or a ball to kick.

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Spank his ass. Sorry not sorry.

Every behavior is communication for small children. If you can figure why he is getting so frustrated it would help a lot. In Montessori schools when children bite they look for the reason behind the biting which is usually frustration at not being able to communicate their feelings or needs. It was amazing to watch 1.5-2 year olds saying, “please give me space” instead of pushing kids out of the way.

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I have 4 boys 15 months apart use a time out chair or the points system for being good or both at the same time my middle son has odd and its the only way

Might sound silly (and yes i HAVE used this method, with great outcomes and results), but have you bitten him back yet?? That whole saying “How would you like it if I did it to you?” Now I’m not saying bite down hard - but just enough for him to realise that it hurts him and that he doesn’t like it!! I did the same thing with hair pulling too! As soon as my daughter pulled my hair, i would pull hers straight back - she would look at me and I would say “See? You don’t like Mummy pulling your hair do you? so don’t pull Mummy’s hair!”
When children feel and experience the same energy/attitude back as the one they portray - they suddenly learn how their own actions effect the people around them! A vital learning tool i believe, that has started to become forgotten…

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I will say this take it or leave it and feel free to mesg me I will always talk. My son went through an insane stage where he hit, bit, cussed, ect. I did discussions, books, spanking, biting back, and it ended up in therapy. NOTHING worked. Finally one night I hit by breaking point were i was legit ready to give up and say " screw it do what you want idc" I cuddled up with him that night because he demanded he wasn’t going to sleep in his bed. And I talked to him. By the end of our convo he confined he was scared of me dieing ( there had been 3 funerals in the family up to that point) and so many questions on death and what happens to him. Seriously just keep trying to talk to your little. Less than a year later and I have zero issues with son after talking and alot of positive affirmations when he is calming down appropriately.

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I had a very aggressive 3yr old biter. My son nicknamed her shark. She would bite him whose 3yrs older and her cousin every single day! We did everything, time out, removed her from the activity etc… one day she bit her br over a tshirt on his back so hard and made him bleed. Welp that was my husbands (their dad) last straw…. He grabbed and bit her back and she started screaming and crying and her dad asked hurts right?? From now on every time you bite I’m giving them permission to bite you back and you are going on timeout and cry in your corner. She never bit them again. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Hello, I am an early child educator and I would try the guidance approach. So when he does something, put him in a room and close the doors and let him in there for awhile to let him think about what he has done wrong and calm down. Then go in there and talk to him about it. Ask him why did he do it? Tell him it isn’t nice to do those things. What would happen if you bit him or someone hit him. How would he feel ? Show him different ways to express himself. Tell him if he gets upset, to walk away or take deep breaths, or give him a stuffed animal to crunch up and hide right to relieve his anger that way.

Look up the guidance approach. It helps! I have a toddler who will be 3 in September and he hits and lashes out and throws some really bad tantrums. So I been doing that and it’s helping him understand his behavior and how it affects others and learning to control his emotions.

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First find out why he does it. … Is he being abused when you aren’t around. No disrespect to your family .just wondering

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Also spanking is nothing to be upset about or ashamed of. It’s called discipline.

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When my son bit me, he only ever done it once, I gave him a smack on the hand and said “you do not bite mama that’s naughty”!!! In a very mad but strong loud voice, He never done it again after that. And by smack I mean a tap on the hand!!! So don’t come at me with all the negative comments!!!

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For both my kids if they bit pinched pulled hair or bit I did it back instantly to show them it hurts and both never did it again. Don’t feel bad as they have to learn it hurts in order to stop

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You are not a bad mom. We all feel that way when we don’t know what to do and feel lost.
It’s been so long since mine were little I’m thinking my daughter did the same and I bit her back. I didn’t break skin ,just scared her a little. Just putting my mouth on her arm was enough. I didn’t need to bite really. She never bit anyone again. Spanking never worked with my other daughter. I have 2. She hated timeouts. Even begged me to spank her and " get it over with". :joy:. She was hyper. Hated sitting still. Your daughter is angry. I think at grandma. Ask your mom if maybe she accidentally did something to hurt the baby’s feelings. Kids don’t understand emotions yet. Tell her you know she’s angry. Tell her she needs to talk about it so we don’t hurt others
" accidentally". Get her a toy drum or something she can hit. So she can take her aggression out on it and not people. God bless.

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When I was a child and say I bit my brother my mom would hold my arm and tell them to bite me back They never bit me hard back It was just the thought I would be bit also It broke my heart more than anything I learned how it felt and after a time or two I learned my lesson The same with hitting or spitting I spit I was spit back on by the sibling with my mom telling me I guess you’ll learn not too The same would happen if they did it to me You learn…fast Once I bite my mom…She barely bit me back …not even enough to hurt…I got the lesson…when we fussed and it got out of hand we had to take turns kissing each other’s cheeks It was yucky to us I guess it was all dread Now when we siblings get together we all laugh over it sometimes Including my mom We never really were hurt or abused But we did learn to respect others and ourselves

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Cut out anything with red food dye honestly try it a lot of kids have reactions to food dyes if I wasn’t one of those that has a reaction to red food dye I wouldn’t have believed it either, also if he’s in a biting mood get a switch game and make him lick it if he ever bites you

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I had the same problem! I tried other approaches and nothing worked, I had to bite my son back to show him it hurts (the thought it was cute.) I felt so bad about it but it worked. :cold_sweat:

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No idea. My three year old hurts her big sister daily.

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My baby sister was a biter. The only thing that got her to stop was my mother biting her (not hard) to show her how it feels. It works!

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My cousin used to bite and one day she bit her mom so hard that her mon bit her back hard but not enough to really hurt a child and my cousin never bit again. My aunt kept saying you bite me I’ll bite you back even harder. But every child is different

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My son would bite me and I would say to him ouch that hurt me and I would start to cry. I said to him please don’t hurt me and bite me because it really hurts honey. We have a cat and dog. We would tell him gentle no hitting be nice and pat the cat or dog be nice and gentle. See the cat loves that when you are gentle and nice.

Bite him back. He may not realize that it hurts.

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Bite him back…he will immediately get that it hurts and will stop.

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How are his communication skills? Does he talk? If not or very little it could be his way of communication. Biting could mean his mouth hurts or he is hungry.

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Listen people are going to get their pearls in a bunch of you spank your child. And people are going to put their beers down if you don’t. There is a BIG difference between spanking and abusing. That being said I can’t help you out because I have tried everything with my 2 year old. Form explaining that hurts, to timeouts, popping the diaper, I even tooken away toys that he used to hit me with. Just keep trying. All I can say.

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You are not a failure as a mother #1!

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I’m sure one smack won’t land him in therapy. The only thing that ever worked with mine was giving attention for good behaviour and ignoring bad behaviour. You explain that you don’t want to talk to them because they hurt you and then ignore them. Turn your back on them. You need to over-praise good behaviour. It’s pretty usual at this age. I’d also practice a “teacher” voice. Think about what you say when it happens. Are you calm and stern (like a good teacher is)? Teachers have training in how to control kids by voice and it makes a huge difference. Make sure you are saying No. This is not acceptable behaviour. Rather than pleading and asking them to stop.

I don’t recommend this but my first baby all of a sudden bit another child and wouldn’t let go I slapped his face because in the heat of the moment I couldn’t think of another way to make him let go but he never did it again

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Children do not change overnight. Something is wrong and he is trying to tell you about it. Does he go to day care? Perhaps something is wrong there. Smacking a child, biting them is not going to fix it. So many are so abusive, it is no wonder so much of the world views most Americans as barbaric and ugly.

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The only thing that has worked for us with my almost 3 year old little boy is when he’s getting aggressive, hitting or bitting etc. I say absolutely nothing. I pick him up and put him on the timeout spot. (Print and laminate a giant colorful spot so It can be taken with you anywhere.) He sees the spot and knows he did wrong. We sit him on the spot for 2 minutes (1 minute per year he’s been born) and we don’t talk, or make eye contact or anything. Sometimes he cries, and throws himself on the floor, I silently pick him up and put him back on his time out polka-dot. It may take a few times but he eventually will sit there. Watching the timer, and when it’s time to get up then we talk about what he did. I ask him if he knows why he went to the timeout spot. I tell him other things he can do when he feels like hitting etc. And when I feel he understands I give him hugs and kisses and we move on, not talking about what happened.

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I bit mine back after he almost bit my lip off. He never bit me again. Some kids have to know how it feels to learn.

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Never bite back. That’s literally abuse. Ask anyone who works for CPS. Try the time out polkadot that Vanna Stevenson mentioned.
You can’t teach someone to bite by biting them, not to hit by hitting them, that’s not only abuse, but also hypocritical. It does the opposite and shows that since mama or daddy is biting back (or hitting back), it’s a game and I can just keep doing it. They don’t typically do it without reason. They don’t know how to express emotions, so they do this. Be firm when he yells, tell him no and redirect him when he hits or bites, also say ouch when he does so and tell him that it hurts. Take him to a developmental specialist as well.

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Personally, I think you need to recognise what is triggering him to act like this. Every child this age has tantrums and big feelings that they don’t know how to deal with, try to focus less on what these big feelings are making him do and more on why he’s behaving this way.
There is no point taking advice on how to deal with outcome if you’re not going to address the reason why. If he is angry - start using the word angry to describe what he is feeling and tell him it’s ok to be angry, but it’s not ok to bite etc. If my son (2.5 years) is sad and crying and getting angry too, once I use the words sad & angry to describe the feeling and do some calm breathing and get down to his level to show I am there for him and to help him, he calms down.

Connect with him, work with him - not against him. He’s not doing it to be naughty, a 3 year old isn’t trying to be naughty, they just need guidance.

Connection before correction, and a gentle approach should hopefully help. (It’s not always easy, at all! But short term difficulty is surely better than a childhood of having big feelings and being smacked for having them!)

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Oh wow. The amount if women here saying its OK to hit/thump/bite a toddler is insane!! Please don’t do this, it’s showing that violence is OK by doing these things to a child, they don’t understand why mummy would hurt them.

I agree with the timeout spot. I’ve recently had a similar thing with my son (16m) and it’s because he can’t communicate his feelings yet, or doesn’t understand them. I was told to not react at all, just put him somewhere specific alone. He’s calmed down towards me already. I know it hurts and you’re upset please don’t resort to violence. You can do this

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When they go to bite you and your naturally trying to block/pull/smack them back instead use your finger or thumb with the quickness to roll their little lip over their own tooth … then they bite themselves and figure it out pretty quickly it’s not that fun when mommas got quick ninja like skills 🥷 :nail_care:

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About time you put your foot down. If talking dnt help than smack him,he should knw that it hurts when he hits you guys. Make him bite his own hands. He will knw how painful it is. He will stop it. I have done the same with all my kids. Now they are grown ups and well behaved

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Time out spot my boy is 2 had major tantrums literally tried everything he bite himself hits himself and others, also educating in feelings I explain my feelings throughout the day and why I ask my son to use his words happy sad etc and why, but uppity time out with my back turned he will even tell me when he’s finished now but they haven’t stopped just got easier to Manage the bite back never works made it worse in my case outdated approach hurt me I’ll hurt you never ends well xx

When he bites you, you bite him. Sorry not sorry, some “old” parenting things still work. He needs to know how much it hurts. You might even have to leave the room bc of him crying & you feeling bad. But I bet my right arm, do that a couple of times & he will stop. You won’t get any flack from me for busting his butt. You didn’t abuse him. You disciplined him.

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Bite him back! It sucks and hurts your mama heart but it really works!

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Bite back had a niece who’s parents would tell her bite so and so wrong when they told her to bite me I bit back never bit me again

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Bite him bk and as far as getting heat over spanking ur kid well then excuse this momma I used to get em and learned real quick right from wrong and I raise my kid the same way sorry but that’s what’s wrong now days is the stupid welfare tells kids ur parents spank u call the law on em well u need me daily the number. Anyways there is nothing wrong with u discipline ur kid but beating is TOTALLY DIFFERENT and take his fav toys stay firm with him and remind him way its taken when he cries for it. Every lil one has tantrums some are worse than other’s hang in there momma this shall pass ur doing great

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When toddlers go through this they don’t know how to express their emotions, they are usually trying to cope, due to the fact they can not express their anger, frustration, joy, ect. Sometimes they are overwhelmed, over tired, may need more play time, or may be on sensory overlaod. I would suggest monitoring what is happening when is he feel the need to bite. Try to reduce the tension and shift his focus. Be firm, without yelling, bit very firm, tell him NO, biting hurts. If needed, and it doesn’t resolve I would see a child development specialist that can help get to the root cause of the problem.

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Baba bit me once I bit his hand back lightly said see its not nice to bite he’s never done it again

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I use to thump my son in his teeth and it worked!!

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Try to catch this before it gets to that. Typically there is a pattern. That way you can navigate him.Time outs or take toys away if he hits, bites or is acting aggressive. Also if he is angry ask him to take a deep breath and count to 5. Then tell him to use his words to tell you what’s wrong. He needs to know it’s ok to have feelings but you cant use these things to express it. This is a hard age. They do not know how to control emotions

Talk to him with a caring heart and calm him down by taking away his best toy.

I did that same thing to my daughter she bite her grandma a few times which was sick with cancer I tried every thing I knew finally I bite her and it end just like that

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This is what helped me.

You know how puppies or the mothers YELP when they get hurt? It teaches puppies their strength. In the end they learn “don’t bite momma” or “wow I hurt sister/brother”.

Whenever your baby bites you or whatever you yell “OW” and start crying. It’ll show him that what he does hurts. I recommend not hitting because if you are yelling at him not to hit but you hit him… what does that teach?
And I’m not judging. I’ve found myself smacking my son’s hand when he punches me. But I’ve tried so hard to stop. Now I try to gently teach

I’m all for what works! This just worked well for me

You dramatically cry so he can see that he hurt you then walk away from him out of sight so he knows you will not stay and participate. Even staying to explain it is giving attention , it’s good if he knows you will not be a part of that behavior whatsoever

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Teach him the rule, do unto others as you want them to do to you. He bits you bite him back same with hitting etc that’s what I did it works.

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Also watch for any triggers…in sone cases food/environmental allergies can cause behavioral problems.

I had this issue with my daughters sibling that was staying with us over night. She bit my daughter on the back and left a nasty bite mark. So I told her how we don’t bite and asked her how she’d like it if I bit her. I raised her arm towards my face and that’s all it took, it scared her and we never had the issue again. It may seem drastic but… I wasn’t going to actually bite her and kids have to learn not to do that.

My oldest was a biter. The only think that stopped him was me biting him back. He is 16 and he says he doesn’t remember. As far as hitting or kicking, they really only fight each other. And we redirect that.

I would bite my kids back all of them and they learned how it felt and stopped here lately these time out kids are showing how bad this approach is they think they can do anything and no Consequences

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Here for the post because my 2 year old is so mean that he will hit me and I will smack his butt and he still hits me back he screams at me ect

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There’s nothing wrong w smacking a kid on the butt. Abuse is hitting w items, leaving bruises , starving, calling them names etc. And my mom told me that I was a biter and nothing worked till she bit me back. (not hard of course ) and said “that’s how that feels. Do you like it ?” I shook my head no and never did it again. May be dangerous advice since it’s for people w common sense and alot don’t have it. Obviously you won’t bite a kid hard enough to cause real pain or even leave a mark at all. But just enough to where they know that’s not comfortable. There’s a diff between abuse and discipline. And yes I’ll pop my child on her butt when needed but not for every little thing and never enough to leave a mark or cause pain. If chew off my own hand before harming my child .

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Well. I bit mine back. He tried again, and I nipped him again. Never bit anyone ever again.

As far as hitting, kicking? I put mine in time out. He has to stay there until he calms down. No toys. No books. On a wooden chair.

He gets off the chair? Goes right back. He will sit there and until he:
-calms down.
-says he’s sorry
-we have a calm talk about how hitting is a bad choice, and talk about good choices that he can do instead when he is frustrated (he is required to verbalize these back).

It works for us. He also counts with his 1yo brother for deep breaths when little bro gets mad or bites, then tells him that it’s ok to be upset but not to hurt other people :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl: so I guess it sunk in.

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3s are worse than 2s
They learn what pushes your buttons and whoever else cares for them

Try not to react every time
My rule in my daycare is if it will hurt themselves or anyone else I react ….
At this age timeout just gives them more time to let them think of what they will do next …. Lol
I try to give them positive and negative thinking
If you do this positive or do this negative let them choose
And follow through with their choice .

Bite him back and spank hit butt spanking has never killed a child as long as you don’t abuse

Well I know I’m a terrible person but my kids are now hard working well adjusted adults with kids of their own and they’ve never needed therapy.
They got one warning…then they got smacked. If they bit , hit or scratched…they got the same back. They need to learn the consequences of their actions . Bite him back so he knows it hurts because that’s what will happen if he bites another child

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I just want to say he’s your child you discipline him any way you want and bite him back people will get all pissy but here’s the thing kids need to learn either the easy way or the hard wether people like it or not none of us want our kids running around biting and hitting other people or there kids, it’s not like your gonna bite him and leave a mark or break skin you just want him to know how its not okay to do that

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I’m old school and get flack for this.

Common sense and years of working with children has taught me.

How does a toddler understand “hitting hurts” if he’s never been hit. If he doesn’t know what that sting feels like. So when he hits you hit him back in the same spot and just as hard and say "see… that hurts " then apologize and explain to him that our actions… the things we do . Effect those around us.

Then give him a pillow and say. When you’re angry and need to hit something. Hit this pillow.

Go ahead and give me flack over hitting a child but it’s common sense.

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Bite him back… We did it with one of our sons hard enough to hurt him…he never did it again.

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Don’t feel like a failure!!! Its honestly pretty typical of kids that age to act that way. When my kids did that I bit them back. Not hard but enough for them to realize that it hurt. And all 4 stopped after that. And when they would hit I would grab their little hands and say, “No hitting! Hitting hurts!!” And eventually they stopped.

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Apple cider vinegar dab a little on a paper towel my son bit and spit at me when he was little and every time he did it I rubbed his lips with apple cider vinegar he’d go to do it again and get a sour taste it broke him of it because he didn’t like the taste of vinegar every time he bit and spit. Also another method is to have them stand over the potty and tell them to spit if they want to spit at you they’ll get to do it there until they can’t spit anymore.

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Does he like stuffed animals? I highly suggest Slumberkins. They teach kids how to handle these big feelings and some kids talk to their stuffed animals or take aggression out on them and it’s really helpful. They have a hammer head shark that’s for anger/aggression. With each stuffed animal you buy, they come with an affirmation card and a book. Even if you don’t get one, there is a great resource group that parents come to for advice, to encourage, and share their stories with each other Slumberkins Social. I’ll include a picture of the stuffy that I think your son would love. Regardless I hope you can fine some help :kissing_heart:

He’s a toddler…it will get better. I promise, just breathe. I am a single mother of 4…take a minute. There are a million solutions out there… they all take time and patience.

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My son does the same and now he is scratching me and smacking me in my face while screaming if I don’t do something he wants me to do.

My youngest is 2. He used to hit me all the time. Every time he did, he went straight to the floor and I would not pick him back up or give him attention. When he used gentle hands, I would give him all the love and attention and take his hands and say, “good hands, gentle hands” and give them kisses.

Something like this might work. Every time he bites, get him off your lap and walk away. When he’s calmed down, go an try again. Reward good behavior.

Another thing to think about would be that he might have sensory needs that are not being met. Try getting him some of those chewy necklaces off of Amazon.

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There’s a lot to this.
First is he verbal? If he’s not very verbal that’s probably a big reason for him being aggressive.
And to that end, give him ways to communicate. We used “tiles” of things my youngest would frequently ask for…So he could grab them and show us.
It did help.

Second. Every child is different. What works for one won’t necessarily work for the next.
But I would say do not be afraid to give your child consequences. Consequences are actually a part of life.
A few options…
-I found getting up and walking away from them and ignoring them until they were calm to be pretty helpful. Then lots of praise for being gentle…even if they cry as long as they’re not aggressive. It didn’t work immediately. It took a little time but after a couple weeks…the aggression had pretty well stopped. My youngest will now come for cuddles when he’s angry or upset.
-if it’s over a toy or something take away the object for the rest of the day. Little kids sometimes need thier consequences to relate directly to what they did wrong.
-time out. Give one warning. Then if they do it again put them in time out 1 minute for every year of age. If they get up silently move them back but otherwise don’t talk to them or acknowledge them while they’re in time out. Then when time is up go over and remind them of why they were in time out and what they can do differently. Instead of hitting he can growl ECT.

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My 15 mnth old does this. Its so frustrati

My youngest can be very aggressive as well, thankfully she doesn’t bite anymore. The first time she bit me I smacked her, sat her in my bed and made her wait for an hour until I came back in and brought her out to play. We’re still working on hitting and things like that. So try talking to him, telling him no that’s not nice. Then sit him in a room for a while on his own. Come back and have another talk with him. Just explain to him that biting and hitting is not OK. Keep repeating the process, he’s not going to enjoy being alone in a room with nothing to do

When he bites do him back twice as hard… when he hits u hit him back harder… the kicking I won’t say to kick him back but to tie his legs together… let him know his legs are for walking and not kicking… we have to restrain our children from small before they go out in the world to embarass us… make him raise his hands for 15 mins… my son hates that… or to fold his arms and stand in a corner… he says I make him feel bad… these things are not abuse… it won’t kill him…

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Bite him back. Sometimes that’s what it takes.

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I think it’s a fase kids go thru… some kick… some hit… some bite, spit etc etc… yeah it sucks as a parent having to deal with it so being persistent in which ever discipline you use might work, but (hopefully) it’s just a fase and he will stop on his own… continue explaining that it’s wrong and for him to stop.
Reward good behavior and make sure his bad behavior is punished one-way or another. If spanking helps so be it… a smack on his hands might be more effective then his behind maybe?

I tried smacking my oldest when he was little… all i got from it was my hand hurt and he was still laughing, doing whatever he did. Sigh. I tried using a spoon after that and that didn’t do anything either, it’s a fase that will pass, just don’t feel bad, you’re not failing as a mother, ur child is in his terrible two’s…it’ll pass! Stay on top of it!! Good luck!!

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When my daughter was biting my son and my hubby he bit her to show her how it felt. She never did it again. The reason my hubby did that was my daughter was almost 5 and my son was 1.

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My daughter is now 34 but when she was 2-3 yrs old in daycare she got in trouble a few times for biting other kids really bad. When we got home I bit her on her arm so hard it left a mark but she never bit another child again.

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My son went through this and I honestly after trying everything bit him back. He never bit anyone again. Some kids just need to experience what it feels like to know it hurts they just dont get it because when they are biting and hitting people it isn’t hurting them.

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When mine hit the stage of biting, I bit back but harder. It only took once or twice and no biting again. Lots of people will get angry and hateful over this comment but it worked and they don’t remember it all when they are grown

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I only faced this once, with my oldest and he had only raised his hand threatening to strike me. Swift reaction on my part and I popped him and told him to NEVER raise his hands to me, he was three. He is 28, 6 foot 4 and is still respectful and has never had behavior issues ditto with my youngest. Both quickly learned to curb aggression

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He needs an outlet for his energy. Get him moving and out of the house. Make him so worn out he’s too tired to smack or bite.
When he bites use presure as he is biting you. You pinch him on the leg and hold the pinch increasing pressure on him as he increase his bite. It helps the same way biting back does.
I don’t like idea of biting a person. The human mouth is full of bacteria that can become infected.
Toddlers are a rowdy bunch. It will get better with more exercise and increasing sleep time.
I have raised 7 and currently taming my 8th, she almost 3.

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My daughter was like this. I don’t condone biting or hitting your child but to be completely honest it sometimes works. My daughter bit my son on the back so hard it bled. So my son in turn bit her in the back just as hard. Now neither bite.

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So glad I’m not the only one here to say bite him back! My son went thru this at 3ish also. One day I had enough! I bit him back. Hard. It worked! He never bit me again! :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Well, when I had my first daughter who’s been spoiled siense birth, when she was a baby she hit me a few times so I would hit her back. Oviously not hard, but yes hard enough for her to think about it next time. I would also take an “I don’t give a fu*k attitude.” Cause if you cry after you hit them, they’re gonna know you’re weak and will keep hitting you. My kid only did it like three times. After that, she’s never done it again and respects me.

I didn’t read the book you have " I had the book ’ DO IT TO ME YOU GET THE SAME BACK!" READ IT​:blush::blush:

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My daughter was biting so bad to the point where I finally bit her back and she stopped. She did try a couple other times but then I would ask her if she wanted me to bite her. She would say no and stop. I know it’s not the best way to handle the situation but I tried everything else and nothing worked. They don’t really understand what it feels like until you do it to them. Then they realize that it does hurt.

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