This is crazy the amount of people out here telling themselves that keeping their kids away from dads who want to see them is ok .
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Ooofffā¦ thatās a hard no. You donāt do that to that poor father and your son! Iām a nurse in a hospital and if anyone told me I couldnāt see my child I would flip! Thereās a lot of education needed working in the ER and Iām sure heās not an idiot even though he makes poor choices outside of work, Iām sure he wears proper PPE and knows whatās up.
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I donāt think its right. Be lucky your kids dad wants to see him. A lot of kids like my son are lucky to see his dad. I have a toddler daughter. I do not keep my son from his dad. This is not just your choice and you are being shitty not once did you ask how anyone felt but yourself and thatās NOT what a mother does.
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I guess look at like this if the tables were turned you would be pissed to if he kept your son from you. I would go to war if any one told me I cant see my child. And he works in the freaking ER do you know how many Per cautions they have to take? My god you just sound selfish
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Iām a nurse working in a clinic attached to our hospital and doing rotations through the respiratory area. I have been with my daughter everyday of this and could not imagine being away from her. We take precautions. We wash and sanitize our hands and everything else so many times a day. My daughter is also still going to her preschool and they havenāt ever had an issue with me bringing her or picking her up because of where I work.
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If it is potentially dangerous for your child, and your child is at riskā¦ then yes you can keep him with youā¦ idk where youāre from but where Iām fromā¦ if the other parent is potentially putting the child at risk or in danger of anything you do not have to send themā¦ besidesā¦ if the dad travels when he returns he has to self isolate for 14 daysā¦ no ?
My sister-in-law works in the hospital she sheās a nurse, has a procedure that she does she comes in the back door so the kids donāt see her she has stuff that she does like scrubbing down showing before kids even touch her hugs but couldnāt snuggle with her she wasnāt having that no kisses on the lips theyāre little so they didnāt fully understand why they couldnāt be all on mommy as much but some how people manage. Unless Grandpa lives with his father just tell him that he canāt take his kid to go see the grandpa thatās all, and if itās court ordered he could try and tell them youāre disobeying court order and get you in trouble so you might want be careful on that note, yes itās getting a little bit up but you got to look at it from his point of view if you had a parent working in the hospital would you want to be kept away from your son for a long time Iām assuming that would be no.
I personally would unless he is willinh to take every precaution before hand. Otherwise it shows he has no care for the childs health
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Honestly lady, his dad is probably better at managing hygiene and all the rest BECAUSE of his job. More likely to catch it off a gas pump or atm machient than someone who is educated and trained in protecting themselves from viruses
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I tried that at the beining of all this and my ex husband took me to court and apparently even though I have sole cisstody and desion making and I was pregnant and one my older 3 have breathing issues the court didnāt care.
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I work in a nursing home and my son has respiratory conditions, I donāt distance myself from him, heās to young to understand the pandemic, I just ensure that I wear a mask and gloves at all times In work and ensure I wash my hands often, the way I see it is heās in school and we go out to the shops and stuff and even tho he wears a mask heās at the same risk of getting it from there than he is my workplace or me x
If u work in the hospital would u keep ur child away from urself?
Iām pregnant I work at the hospital and have a toddler. I come home lysol the car, shoes, leave them in the garage, hand sanitize my hands, Spray my purse, go upstairs and shower.
I know other ppl who do this and ppl still got sick
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Iām sure his dad knows MUCH MORE about the covid 19 virus than you doā¦ Maybe HE should take the kid for a while ātill the numbers go downāā¦ Because he knows everything about itā¦ And he knows what to doā¦ Donāt you think so too?
LOLā¦ Some people are unbelievable!
I think my kids would be much safer around a person who works in a hospitalā¦ They know the risks, they know the precautionsā¦
I work in a nursing home and while Iām nervous I still am my babies mother and care for them everyday. I just take the precautions I should before seeing them. Iām not gonna not be their mother.
You are doing the right thing. He is being selfish. He works in the ER and sees these people coming in every day. He needs a check up from the neck up. Your child comes first no matter what.
I mean I understand where you are coming from and your concern but legally I donāt think you can keep his dad from him. Iām dealing with a similar situation. It sucks and itās hard but you just have to have faith everything will be ok.
Your sons father works at a hospitalā¦even if covid wasnāt around the father is still being exposed to other germs/illnesses. Iām sure that wasnāt your concern pre-covid especially when you bring up that he has respiratory problems.
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He can hold you in contempt cuz the courts made it clear covid does not interfere with visits! Thatās all Iāll say and Iām being nice !
What if you were living together? Would you have made dad move out? I highly doubt that. I think he should be able to see his child.
If he works in a hospital they will inform him if he has been in contact with a positive case and they get tested regularly
They are in no more danger then anyone elseā¦
He works there an knows the truth. You only know what the media an your goverment tells you an neother one works in a hospital
Nope un called for. He is part of his circle and should be able to see him regardless. I am a nurse heads would roll if I couldnāt see my kid
This is ridiculous, and honestly makes you look terrible. I canāt believe he hasnāt gotten a lawyer.
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As a Person that has worked in the healthcare field. I would continue with the drive ups and all that. IF dad canāt take it seriously and the fact that heās in the health field he should know better especially with a compromised son. Iād have my kid keep his distance. many nurses, Doctors and other health care workers have literally handed their children over to others so that their kids can stay safe. This should be no different.
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Yāall need to quit using covid to fit your agenda.
Itās not going away.
You canāt legally do this.
If yous were still together heād still be going to work and coming home to yous? So I donāt see the problem in him seeing his child?
You are saying that because I am a nurse I shouldnāt be allowed to see my kids.
To all the ladies here defending daddy and telling this lady sheās overreacting. If daddy was endangering his sons life if more obvious way like hitting him, leaving him home alone without care, getting drunk until he passes out or driving drunk with kid in the car - would you still be saying he has every right because heās a father?
Would you say something like that to a mother of a child who was abused? āWell heās a father so he has every right, not like kid going to die from itā.
If a parent knowingly exposes child to health risk (potentially death) he is neglectful (letās call a spade a spade). And first duty of every parent is to care and protect their child. Not to gamble with their health
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We need our loved onesā¦we xant hide from bacteria the notion itself is insane.
How would u act if u were still together ??? Cos I bet it would be 100% different
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I mean it is his son and as long as heās wearing the proper ppe and no symptoms you shouldnāt keep him from seeing him most places are taking the proper precautions and it seems like your ex is to good luck
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You are being controlling. With proper precautions and ppe, healthcare workers working with covid positive patients are no more likely to get covid or give it to family members than anybody else going about their daily lives.
I am a RN, directly working with hospitalized covid patients. No i did not distance myself from my kids. I wear proper ppe at work, change when i get home and shower right away. I also change shoes before leaving work. I work at a small hospital, it is not unusual for nurses to have assignments that involve covid positive and covid negatives. We are literally going from covid positive rooms, removing ppe, washing hands and going into covid negative rooms. imo there is no need to distance your child from his dad.
You canāt keep your child from his father. Especially if there is a custody/visitation agreement. Judges will tell you straight up you have zero control of what the other parent does when itās their time or how they live their life. If itās not causing physical harm to your child. And a hypothetical on getting sick wonāt cut it.
I think what youāre doing is terrible, not only is it terrible but itās despicable!
I work in the healthcare field 5 days a week, wear PPE, follow all recommendations AND I am raising five children, their father who travels sees them whenever he wants to because I understand that we can still follow recommended protocols and encourage a healthy, full/meaningful relationship with their father because that is their right and no matter what I donāt have the right to keep them from their father, for any reason, you sound like a bitter old hag who finally got a chance to keep that poor child from his father and youāre using a virus as an excuseā¦ letās call it what it isšš»
I have an immunodeficiency disease (get sick BAD) and there is zero chance Iād keep my daughter (2.5 yo) from seeing a family member who works in EMS or at a hospital.
My daughters dad (my fiancĆ©) actually works on an ambulance in the middle of all of the āsuper deadly virusā and has Covid positive patients all the time and he comes home to us everyday. Both myself, and our two year old, has been fine this whole time (heās worked in EMS longer than Covid has been around).
My FIL is a paramedic/firefighter and heās also around our daughter and myself all the time.
So long story short, in my opinion, youāre being severely dramatic. Kids donāt even get bad symptoms (if any at all).
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Correct me if Iām wrong but Covid is no reason to keep your son away from his father if there is no danger your son is not a pawn or an object thatās honestly quite sad
Yes I agree, keep him safe dad can zoom, or Skype or whatever unless hes going to take the proper steps to protect him. Itās not about him itās about your sons life.
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Iām a mum of 2 and heavily pregnant RN who works with covid 
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You r being redicoulous really isā¦
Alot of judgement coming from people on this thread. Girl, firstā¦you never stated if you have a custody agreement. Secondly, be more in depth of describing thingsā¦did he fly to NY for work related or parties etc? If there is NO custody agreement and you are the custodial parent and regarding the childās health you DO have a right to say where your child goes depending on the rules in your state you live. Now given if you do have a custody agreement this is breaking that agreement and you could get into trouble. I find it wrong that people are suddenly jumping to conclusions on here about that. Yes the father has a right to see his kidā¦but zoomed past the fact that the child is in a high risk group. Personally, I would try and have a talk with him and negotiate. Maybe see if he can see him solely if only everyone around him was wearing a mask and keeping distance besides the dad. There are ways to be grown up and negotiate. It is hard when you are worried about your kids health and trying to make a decision and also trying not to be THAT MOM. But you have to also remember that this is NOT just about you and your worries. My best advice would be to have you two do as I said before work on negotiations and you two get together and talk with your childās pediatrician and see if he would ok the exposure to other people.
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Itās ok to feel how you feel. Itās ok to be concerned about your child. Itās ok to be scared. However, this is a conversation you need to hash out with the childās father. Have you talked about your concerns with him? No matter his role in the ER, he has seen some traumatizing events. He knows better than most what this virus can do; do you think he would purposefully jeopardize his child?
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I donāt feel like many of you are comprehending what she wrote, because all Iām seeing are comments on dadās occupation. She said when COVID INITIALLY came out she isolated her child because no one knew enough. Her main issue CURRENTLY is his high risk behavior OUTSIDE of work because of the recent spikes. I feel like she has a valid concern and maybe her, dad, and the childās pediatrician or specialist should have a conference of some sort before making that decision
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I have to say Iām surprised hes not taking it serious working directly with covid patients. But that being said it is his child too and this virus can go on for who knows how long and if his dad would agree to wear a mask try to not hug and definitely no kisses then i would let mine go. You yourself can bring it back from the grocery store. What if you were still living in the same house hold? What would you do then? Iām a dental assistant with a 3 year old and I cover my hair wear n95 change my shoes and leave my scrubs at work. Be cautious but dont use the situation to keep him away
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Well I work in a hospital and am exposed to covid positive patients nearly daily and I still come home to my 2 young child. I would be beyond pissed off if my childrenās father kept them from me for that reason. We didnāt chose to go into the medical field during a pandemic so what do you expect, him to quit his job? Iām assuming heās working to support his child. It sucks, but we take extra and every precaution possible so unless you literally stay home and go no where and do nothing (which I highly doubt) I think you are pretty out of line with keep him from his child
Wow this is probably heartbreaking for his dad. I understand your concern but this is the new Normal. Covid is everywhere and its not leaving anytime soon. Iām a mom of 2 young kids and I work in Healthcareā¦in fact I even do Covid Tests on my patients. And guess what,after my shift I come home,shower and kick into mom gear. To not see my kids because of my profession wud be absurd. But hey,2 each their ownšš½
I think thatās wrong honestlyā¦ Like how would you feel roles reversed? And honestly in a legal custody agreement that wouldnāt hold
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From what i gathered if the court order has been amended it has to remain the same regardless of the covid situation unless you two can agree on ur own terms otherwise court order stands.
You are lucky. In the state of Florida you donāt have that choice. Itās a 50/50 time share state. And he would get him no matter what you said 50 percent of the time. We tried to keep my grandson home at first because his father had a rooming house and were unable to do it.
You are being rediculous yes virus is bad but that is his father and if there is a court order in place you can get in a lot of trouble for contemp of court and hopefully he contacts the courts
Hereās the thing, covid isnāt going to go away. The initial lock down was to make sure hospitals had the PPE and ventilators to treat people. Now hospitals have the equipment and are prepared to handle an outbreak. If the news reported every single flu case like they do covid cases youād be just as scared of the flu. Thatās your child father and Iād almost tell him that he needs to take you to court. Sorry not sorry. Side note, if you are still going to work, eating out, and wearing the same clothes you wear out & about in side of your home then you have no reason to be this over bearing. Youāre not nearly as protected as you think
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I donāt think youāre allowed to go against a court order. He could actually get you in trouble if he wanted to.
That is not just your child so you dont get to make those choices by yourself. Especially when the father wants to see his child. Iām not even sorry because i can tell you right now if it was the other way arpind and you worked in a hospital you wouldnt be saying the same thing.
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Well on one hand I do understand your concern but my husband works as a Respiratory Therapist and deals with Covid and the ER patients every shift. He only quarantines if he feels heās been exposed, but hospitals have protocols that employees are expected to follow or it could mean unemployment, at least for our hospital. My husband changes and showers downstairs before he has any real contact with us. I think if your ex wants to see his son, I think all you can do is ask him to keep his āworkā clothes or scrubs out of his reach. As for the travel as what everyone else has said itās irresponsible but it doesnāt really give you cause to keep him from seeing his son. Unfortunately, if he doesnāt become more conscious of what heās doing he will end up sick or passing to someone, hopefully with some basic precautions it wonāt be to you or to your son.
I would more compromise on what I feel comfortable with them doing then keep my kids away from their father during the entirety of a pandemic.
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I agree 
. My ggsons ,6&11 donāt even get to go in the store. They live with me and their mother works in a lab,and she doesnāt let them go anywhere. I try to make games outside,(weather permitting,) otherwise they are inside. I know it sounds harsh but itās better to be safe than sorry. The 6,yr old had respitory issues as well. Donāt let your ex intimidate you,!! Good luck 
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Well, if there is a court order, COVID cannot be used to as a reason to not follow the court order. You would have to get it changed in court or be ready to face contempt in court and worse case scenario, thrown in jail. Many parents work in hospitals, prisons, nursing homes etcā¦ who get to go home to their families every night. I would definitely provide plenty of hand sanitizer etc and voice my worries, but that is all you can do.
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My ex husband works in a retail store. When numbers started going up in the spring we talked and he agreed that our girls shouldnāt stay with him for awhile. He didnāt like it and they missed him, but he knew it was best for them. He would call almost every night and they would even see each other occasionally. They would all stay outside and far apart. All 3 hated not being able to hug each other, but it kept his kids and the rest of the family safe. He understood and fortunately my girls are old enough (11 and 14) to understand. A couple weeks after the mask mandate went into effect they started going back to his house again. It was hard, but you have to do what is best for the kids.
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My ex and I have week on week off custody. His wife works in healthcare and so do I. One tested positive for covid. Our court order states if we have any disagreements when it comes to medical decisions, we should go with her primary care drās recommendations. We didnāt run into any issues or anything we just wanted to confirm whos house she needed to quarantine at because she was going back and forth.
I work in a hospital and come home to my son every nightā¦ we follow protocols in the hospital to protect ourselves and this virus is literally everywhereā¦ frankly, i feel safer at work than the grocery storeā¦ imho keeping him from his dad is a bad move
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Depends on what your court order says. C19 doesnāt countermand your order. Consult your lawyer & childās pediatrician before withholding visitation.
I talked to the courts in my area they said it does not matter whatās going on with Covid we still are required to follow a court order.
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How have you handled flu season? Does he get to drive a vehicle with you child in it? Does he get to take them in public, around unknown TB, hepatitis cases?. How quickly people forget. Try having a child with a drug dealer that chases after married women if you think a doctor for a dad is "dangerous ".
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I work in a hospital, we take tons of precautions, and with this 2nd wave, we know more and have more PPE.
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I understand your concerns , but if the dad wants to see his kids you really shouldnāt stop it
Just be thankful he has a job and wants to see the kids
Itās not fair to keep him away because of his place of employment
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Also be glad your child has a father to even see SOME KIDS DONT ā¦
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In Canada you cannot keep a child from their other parent due to covid. I know your trying to do right by your kid but you do not have the overall say so in this matter. You need to talk to the father and have a very serious conversation on how you feel and why. Again, unless you have sole custody you DO NOT have the right to make these decisions unilaterally. Your childās father has every right to see their child that you do. If he is a responsible father he will put the needs of the kid over his own and keep his distance or at least stay home when he has the child. But unfortunately at the end of the day all you can do is voice your opinion and hope he takes it seriously 
good luck. But PLEASE unless you have sole custody of said child do not try to make all decisions on your own. It will bite you in the end. Dad has rights too!!
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Do what u have to to protect ur son.
Travelers from other states coming to New York have to quarantine for 2 weeks before being able to do anything in NY. So coming to NY for a weekend is a huge waste of time. Your ex sounds like he is part of the reason why numbers are going back up. SMFH. My kids havent gone anywhere since this crap started.
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You dont ā¦you let him see and spend time with his daddy and pray
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If its court ordered, u. An get introuble for keeping him from dae. N I hope u do get in trouble, pandemic or not they have a righ to see each other
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If you donāt trust that the father of your child is going to keep him safe and take the steps that are necessary to do so then thatās your issue. Donāt keep your kid from his dad because you are having trust issues with this virus. They need eachother and you should not get in the way of that. Period.
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to keep your child safe. If his dad had a lick of sense heād appreciate what youāre trying to do and work with you instead of using the old āyou just want controlā ball and chain.
Video chats were created for more than just showing ass and d****ā¦
Put a mask on him, and let him see his dad.
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Iām a nurse ON THE COVID UNIT and there is no way in hell anybody could keep me from my kids. I just head straight to the washer and shower when I get home
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You donāt have the right to do that.
First time around First lockdown Me&My sons dad both decided to keep him at home with me as hes father lives with hes dad who is vulnerable. so he stayed at home with me for a few months with phonecalls.( hes father idea i just agreed) However as soon as we both felt Comfortable He Continued Going back he went back for a good few days Now Its Every other weekend and some more days were and there depends on School etc. Point Being Is You canāt Keep them Away! As long as you Keep him clean and wash his hands etc I donāt see a problem? My son been Fine Going to dads etc Iām Sure ur Child would be fine to.
Sorry you cannot withhold your child from his father.
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That is his dad and you withholding your son from him because he chooses not to give into fear is childish and selfish. Not everyone is scared of this virus. He obviously knows the risk if he is in the medical field. And he is obviously wearing PPE in the hospital. You wouldnāt like it if he was keeping your child from you. And your child will grow to understand that you kept him away from his dad and could possibly resent you later.
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Not ok, your ex must be a very decent man to put up with you. Your son will always remember being able to go other places but not see his Dad and his Mom being the reason why that happened. Itās almost Christmas stop being a selfish Mom and let them see each other.
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All I can say is you better hope he doesnāt take you to court over this because almost every state has said COVID is not a reason to change custody or visitation agreements unless both parents are in agreement. So he can file contempt of court for withholding visitation and he will win pretty easily.
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I caught covid at work. My office is actually closed to the public and has been since March. I have 9 other people that work in my office. 5 of us got it. I say that to tell you that it doesnāt matter where you are there is always a risk. Let your child see his Dad. We are never promised tomorrow!!
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He needs to take this more seriously. Iām a 32 year old mother with covid right now. And let me tell you it is not a joke. Some doctors I know are not even living with there families right now caus of how serious this is. Please ask him how he would feel if he got your son sick. People act like this is the flu or a cold no itās not. Iāve never had breathing problems in my life and am a very active person and this mess has me on breathing treatments and all kinds of meds.
U can get in trouble for withholding the child. U do realize healthcare workers are tested almost every week right? My mother is a NP and if i lived closer i wld still allow her to see my kids
You are some fowl ass women. The poster needs to keep that baby away from him and to all the women against this I imagine your part of the Covid problem
How would you feel if your baby daddy was the one deciding when and how you can see your son?
Who gave you the right to make that call? Do you think you are entitled to decide this bc you are the mom? And he has to follow bc he is the dad?
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My husbands baby mom did this to us. She withheld our boys from us for two months when COVID first started. How would you feel if he decided you werenāt safe and kept your child from you? I bet you wouldnāt like it. Thereās a risk of catching something every single day you wake up. We arenāt promised tomorrow. Let your son see his dad. And if you donāt, I hope he takes you to court and gets his child.
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Your sonās dad is probably taking more safety precautions than you.
Iām sorry love. Iām never one to sugar coat anything. Although I completely understand your thought process, you can not let your personal anxiety prevent your son from having a healthy relationship with his father. In situations like this, you have to remove the āyouā from the situation. Your childās father doesnāt seem like heās out to harm your son. He doesnāt sound like a drug addict, or an abusive man. He sounds like an over worked dad who got the shit end of the stick when his ex took his child away from him because of the job he has. If he didnāt work he wouldnāt financially help you raise that boy. I personally think youāre going to have to get over yourself and let the man see his son.
I canāt believe the dad doesnāt understand.
I work in a hospital on a Covid ICU. I have 2 children that have medical issues. The first time I stayed away from them. We have more Covid now and they are both with me. I am careful at work. I wear my PPE and I change my scrubs so I donāt take it home. Working in the hospital doesnāt put us at greater risk. We are safer here than people are at the store.
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He can take you to court for what youāre doing. You donāt have the right to withhold his child from him unless it was deemed so by a judge.
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Covid does not affect parenting arrangements.
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My court system says Iām it allowed to control what/how my ex spends his parenting time with our daughter (she spends a lot of time with his mom when he has her and is mom cleans COVID rooms at the hospital, she also took my daughter to see Santa in a place where no one wears masks 
) and I just have to basically hope and pray they donāt get her sick or she isnāt a carrier and brings it home to me (I have no immune system and respiratory issues)
Personallyā¦Iām the healthcare worker in my situation. I live in my parents house with my husband and son and am currently pregnant. At first I tried isolating myself so that I wasnāt around my son, but that was worse than anything for both of us. I could have it and be asymptomatic 
my husband could get it from his job as well, itās not just caught in hospitals. If I have it, itās definitely been exposed to my husband and vice versa.
What weāre doing is accepting that we canāt 100% prevent it. Iāve been tested twice and both have been negative, but that doesnāt mean it wasnāt a mistake on the labs behalf. We just make sure to take precautions. I wonāt touch my son when I get home from work until Iāve changed and showered, or at least washed my hands (I work in the OR so my outdoor clothes donāt go into the department, and scrubs are taken out of a machine every morning and then put into a dispenser at the end of the day). Husband does the same. We donāt kiss his face, or hands either. We just do the best we can.
I COMPLETELY understand your reasoning, you are scared for your childās health and well being, and as a parent you should be concerned. But that being said, you unfortunately cannot keep your child away from his father even if it is scary right now. Especially if you have a court order, you still have to abide by it. I donāt know how old your son is, but if heās old enough to understand, Iād sit down and talk to him, make sure he knows to try to keep his distance from people, to wash his hands a lot and not touch his face. Iām sorry youāre in this situation, I hope you and his father can come to an agreement so that both parties feel comfortable and your child is kept safe.
Iām also sorry a lot of these comments show zero empathy towards your feelings on the situation. Youāre not wanting to keep your child away for no reason, itās for a health condition, youāre not a bad mother, youāre a concerned mother. Keep your head up momma, hopefully this is all be a story of the past soon!
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You are a control freak and need to stop using covid to justify your control issues.
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My husband works in an ER. I would never try and keep our daughter away from him. At the beginning, there werenāt many but now our cases are rising. He still gets to come home to our daughter, it helps them see a better picture. Keeping them away due to this, will probably put the other parent in a resentment and hatred towards you and becoming depressed.
Let him have his kid
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Iām not even 100% sure where to start with thisā¦
Just because heās not freaking out doesnāt mean heās not taking it seriously. My mom works in healthcare, herself and no one she works with are āfreaking outā over it. They take precautions but live thier lives as normally as possible. My mom has been tested twice a week for weeks.
Theyāre in full PPE (mask, visor, gown, gloves, booties) when working with anyone who is positive, has symptoms, or has been exposed (unless they as healthcare worker has already had it)
A good part of the reason hospitals are ābeing overrun because of covidā is because
- they must leave cleaning chemicals to sit for 20-30 minutes. So if housekeeping cant get to the room until 30 mins after one patient leavesā¦its another hour before another patient can be brought in.
- the capacity has been lowered. Where some places could take say 50 patients now they can only take 25.
Itās seriously important to keep this in mind when hearing about how hospitals are overrun.
Just my personal opinion but one of the reasons it has gotten so bad is that the CDC apparently recommended doctors not to prescribe supportive treatments. Which can be crucial to keeping patients symptoms from becoming so severe. My kids doctor works with many elderly, and she said sheās been ignoring that and prescribing supportive treatments and they have had extremely good results and limited mortality (usually these comes from hospice cases). Im my kids advocate. If my kids get sick-sick I already told her I want them treated like they have RSV. She said ok. So keep that in mind too because the fear mongering has to stop somewhere. My youngest kiddo is prone to getting sick. I have not kept him away from my mom (who tested positive) or myself whose likely to test positive. He has a runny nose and a cough but otherwise feels fine. Weāre giving benadryl (per doctor) as a preventative to any fluid in his ears (which is the big issue for him).
What youāre doing could very well be considered contempt of court. Covid-19 is not a valid reason to withhold visitation unless heās actually sick (and then youād only keep your son away for 10 days per cdc).
Itās not only contempt of court, but you are purposefully and willfully hurting your child and his bond with his father.
So let me ask you thisā¦
- If the shoe was on the other foot. If your ex was withholding your son and using covid as an excuseā¦if your ex was saying āno you cant see mommy so you dont get sickā and damaging the bond you have with your child through fearā¦how would you feel?
- Do you withhold your child during flu and RSV season? Because from what my kids doctor has said, in young children the flu and RSV are just as dangerous if not more dangerous.
- Have you been a 100% complete shut in since March? If not then youāre just being a hypocrite about exposure.
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There are MANY children whose parents work in the ER. What about the hundreds of nurses going home to their children? Itās honestly scary that you think you have the right to keep your kid from him. 
Again, if you all lived together as one big family, you would not be able to avoid these things. Children are not high risk for covid, period. This seems like an opportunity for you to control, not protect.
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