No not unless things get resolved/talked about and worked on otherwise the resentment will grow.
If you already feel like a single mom then kick him to the curb, itâs so much easier when you remove the deadweight! Heâs essentially your fourth child, not a partner. I just went through this and hate myself for allowing him to disrespect me that much and in front of my babies.
I mean this in the most respectful way possible⌠Why do you want to stay with him?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How do you get over or move past resenting your partner? - Mamas Uncut
Slow down on popping out babies. That definitely doesnât help
find a new partner that will treat you better
CommunicationâŚ. Lots of open communication
Concentrate on the good he does!
Talk to him about these things. If you donât tell him, he probably does not know that you feel this way.
Why are you with him? If he isnât there or do anything you mite as well be a single mom.
Sounds like you have four children. Dump the dude. Heâs bringing you down.
So you have 4 children. One is in his adult infacy phase? You need to tell him exactly what you expect from the relationship. If he doesnât see the need to change then you need to be a single mom for real for a while and when the time is right find a life partner that wants the same goals as you do.
Babies donât keep a relationship. Maybe slow down on that for now and if you feel like a single mom maybe you should just be a single mom and either leave dude or kick him to the curb and work on you and taking care of them kids. Connect with family again go live your life and just do that for a while before going into a new relationship.
Ya for him to step up and stop giving you things to resent him for. This isnât your problem, itâs his.
You need to express to him that youâre unhappy. If he is willing to work together to save your relationship, then great ⌠if not, then you need to find your own happiness. It sounds like you are already doing it on your own anyway.
Heâs not a partner. 𤡠Find someone who will be.
Why are you there. Stop wasting your life shit ainât gonna change.
Why are you still living with him?
It honestly sounds like he is there for the meals and to get some hanky panky. 
. Your not a maid stop letting yourself be treated like one
Its time for him to go, trust me it doesnât get better.
Well I am kinda in the same boat. I have one daughter whoâs 2.5 and he slept through my labor, always has slept through the night, I work full time (he does too) but I do everything. We have been together almost 4.5 years so I have made it clear I need a bit more help and he has stepped up. Sometimes guys need to be told. If he refuses then at least you know where you stand and know where to go from.
And yet you had another baby
Kick him to the curb!!!
You didnât know that he was an immature selfish jerk before you started having kids with him?
This is the reason why these men act this way is because women allow this crap. The question shouldnât be about your resentment it should be about how you go about moving on and finding you someone else. Women need to take some of these responsibilities as well. If women wouldnât allow this then this wouldnât be a question
You have to tell him how you feel. He doesnât know unless u tell him.
Heâs acting like that because he thinks youâre stuck with him, because of the babies. I would leave him, youâll be happier in the long run.
Iâm on the same boat, soon youâll prob have enough and realize you donât need them and throw them out. They are more work for you than helping anyway, well, here, it is. Some like to fake it to make it. Move riiiiight away from that nonsense
Sot down and have a talk with him. Things dont get better unless you talk about whatâs bothering you. And coming up with a compromise.
Not going to change. Bye bye.
I left mine who was like that so 
You can try counseling but in my experience itâs better to just call it done.
The relationship is over. He doesnât respect you and he doesnât care about his kids.
Nope. Nope. Nope. If Iâm going to be a single mom, Iâm not taking care of a husband, too.
move on he wont change
Divorce worked for me 
Iâd leave. Youâre basically doing it alone anyway. You deserve love and happiness. 
Tell him to make an effort with all the kids and you
Yea go get a 3rd baby daddy!!
I donât think itâs possibly. I still resent my husband to this day. One sided relationships will fuck you up.
Kick his ass to the curb heâs giving you all kinds of red flags that he is worthless doesnât care about you or your children youâre worth more than that
Communicate, communicate, communicate. There are different love languages. Some people donât see gift giving, and things like that as their love language. Have you asked him for help around the house? Sit and have a serious conversation. If you canât come to terms then you may have to cut your ties for the state of your mental health.
Talk to him about it first.
Leave him. If he cared about you, you wouldnt have to ask for the help.
Unless he actively shows you that hes trying then your going to keep resenting him
By moving on and finding a real man that values and respects you as a woman and mother! You donât deserve to be treated that way!
Ya, itâs called divorce
Nope. If your concerns arenât addressed with him âŚit well only get worse.
Stop doing ANY & EVERYTHING you currently do, for him. Just stop. Treat him the way he treats you. Chin up & raise your babies, if he wonât help you now, he probably never will. Throw the whole man away.
Sit down and talk with him. Talk it out. Has he always been emotionally void and shut down? Does he have any children from a previous relationship at all? Could he be suffering from a form of depression that has made him just shut down? Have you noticed a change in him? Could it be a little bit of jealousy towards the children âtaking up your timeâ etc? Have a chat to his folks, was he an emotionally withdrawn child? Just as us Mamas can suffer with post natal depression, sometimes the men folk have different feelings of depression too. Was he a âclosed offâ man when you both got together? Is it a new thing? Iâm not saying any of these things are excuses. Far from it. But it could explain why heâs acting the way he is? Could you ask a trusted friend/family member to watch the kiddos for a few hours whilst you both take some time out to be yourselves and just sit down together without having to be âMom and Dadâ for a while and just talk? Sit and talk it all out. If at the end of it youâve come to the conclusion heâs just a twit, then maybe think about your options on what to do next. But at least try and talk together first Good luck 
Move on. Leave him.
It wonât get bettwr
Truthfully when them type of feeling take over its over.
If you havenât made him aware of this and the way it makes you feel then you need to. If you make him aware and he does nothing to change it then itâs time to move on.
No thereâs not leave
Yes itâs called leave his ass!!!
Why would you even have kids with someone that you have to mother? They dont just change when you have kids
Communication. If that goes nowhere, he a single Mama of 3 not 4 kids!
Yes replace replace man toss his ass out
Give him an ultimatum
Is he working? I guess it comes down to what is fair so to speak. If heâs working big hours and youâre at home with the kids I guess in some ways that is you both doing your shareâŚheâs doing financial youâre doing the home. BUT he should still help with the kids where he can. Some guys just donât do motherâs day or birthdays. Talk to him about it
Why are you staying with someone that doesnât appreciate you? Is he having an affair?
Get rid of the looserđĄ
Why have a second child by him? Clearly you felt this way before the second baby soâŚI guess Iâm gonna be the B word and say it first off stop having babies with him! Secondly if you donât already have your own income aquire some either a job or find something you can do at home to make money and thirdly get rid of the man child Iâd think you have already complained to him and have gotten little to no positive response which is why your coming here for advice, which usually means heâs not going to do anything to change.
Thereâs no way to let go of the resentment if the actions causing you to feel that way have not changed. You canât move on from something youâre experiencing.
No run donât look back, of course take your children!
Are we married to the same person?? My husband is the same way and Iâm to the point of Iâm done. If you wanna talk feel free to PM me.
Tell him whatâs important to you remind him of whatâs expected
Does he work and you are SAHM?? Cause if so thatâs your job and heâs doing his job? Did he celebrate bdays before yall had kids?? Some people donât celebrate bdays and stuff? Have you tried actually talking to him???
This is what is wrong with this country. Everyone so willing to say quit get rid of him. How about instead you Sit down with him and talk to him about your feelings and why you are resenting him. Go into with an open mind and really listen to what he has to say. You both might learn something about each other. I have been married for 27 years and have had many ups and downs Communication is the key
Nothing changes if nothing changes. If he sees no fault in his actions nothing will change. If heâs not home bc work is demanding, be happy you found one that provides. I also understand bc my husband puts 110% of himself into work and I feel like a single mom sometimes at home with a 4y/o autistic son and a 2 y/o daughter however when we talk about it and communicate he gets it and things change⌠but thatâs talking with him not when Iâm so irritated that I just come at him. That gets us nowhere. Idk. In the end it doesnât matter what anyone elseâs opinions are, you needs to do whatâs best for you and yours bc the tension and animosity can be felt by the children and effect them and their mental health also and thats not ok. You need to figure out whatâs best for you and your kids and whatâs going to bring you happiness which will in turn bring your kids happiness
You Have a right to feel the way you do, from outsider looking in you shouldnât have to get over your resentment!!!
3 kids under 3. I wouldnât have had the extra two yet alone the new born. You saw the signs before that 3rd child was born and ignored it. Gotta be accountable for the role you played also by letting him do nothing while doing everything.
Sounds like a he doesnât care about you. They are his kids. If my husband didnât stay through all my labor and delivery Iâd be so mad. No heâs not there for you not even a motherâs day card? My husband acknowledges me on every occasion. Find someone that loves you for you.
I mean technically I quit worrying about birthday gifts once I had children. My husband works 50+ a week and I stay home to take care of the kids and the house(work) yes on his days off he does things I canât do. Have you tried talking to him and letting him know what youâd like help doing?
The only way you can actually move past resentment is IF your partner is willing to fix it by helping more and taking time to show you he loves you and appreciates you.
If he doesnât it will only get worse.
The word in itself is prob not what most people think it is. Re is a prefix meaning repeat, rewind, again. The word sent is a Latin word meaning to feel. So somewhere along the way you have had the feeling of being super alone. When he is doing this you are refeeling this same fear over and over. I have a solution to this tho if you are willing you can take a personal inventory and I promise it will take it away if you would like to just pm me and I can send you the format. Unfortuntly this isnât going to make him step up however it will help rid you of the resitment. And maybe be able to see why he is not doing whatâs right.
Counseling, communication or. You can do bad all by yourself. You donât need his help for that. 
You let this get to this point. Why did you think things would change when you added a third kid to the equation ? & okay if you take care of everything what does he do ? Why donât you get a job & he watches the kids
Unfortunately you have 4 children not 3. If he canât be an active participant in your family why is he a part of it??
Kick him to the curb and find one that helps you with things.
Thatâs how.
Just get rid of him.
Tell him and if he doesnât I would say you might want to consider leaving, youâre already doing it all on your own pretty much and if he canât see that it hurts you and he needs to help out with the kids more well you canât beat a dead horse. Maybe try not celebrating his bday or Fatherâs day let him walk in your shoes a bit
Talk to him. Firmly. Not yelling but be firm. If heâs not willing to listen or work on anything maybe try marriage counseling. And if he still wonât change then it may be time to think about separation. Itâs not your fault heâs not helpful but men canât read minds. You have to tell them what you need.
Iâd feel the exact same as you but I wouldnât want to stay with someone like that tbh
Pray then counseling, he doesnât try or work at it you can do it on your own. I had too. He refused to help, to do with the kids. Or even small tasks. Eight hrs and laid the rest watching TV or sleeping. Donât wait til it breaks you. Good luck
Counseling for you. You sound like a martyr as well. Prayers
Iâve been through this.
For me, there was no moving past it.
He an I grew apart, I grew up. He didnât.
We ended up resenting eachother, an ultimately broke up.
10 years, and 3 kids later.
He off living his best life, while 3 years later, Iâm still picking up the pieces of mine.
Honestly mama, I wish I had advice to give you.
But truly, all I can tell you, follow your heart.
If you feel he isnât going to change, chances are, he isnât.
I never got over it - I was married 48 yrs and had 5 children - never ever helped me
Talk to him⌠If that doesnât help do couples counseling. If that doesnât work out either. Leave him home with all 3 kids and go do your errands𤡠I am having the same issue with my man.
Why wouldnât you resent it? Question is why would you have another baby with this man when you already knew from having your 1 year old what you could expect from him?
Nothing will change as long as you continue to do everything. You basically give him permission to do that because you arenât demanding anything different.
Getting over resentment will only happen if you require him to do more and do better. I suggest counseling to see if that can improve but if he doesnât start making small changes and growth ,effort with counseling, youâll need to ask yourself how long you want to live this way without change.
Nope, been there, it only gets worse with their actions
YesâŚleave him. Seriously, he shows no sign of change, remorse, love, n support, yr gonna need to numb it out n not show emotion to maintain yr sanity or leave. Good luck
I mean⌠is there a reason youâre actually with him? Cus from what youâve said it doesnât sound like heâs adding anything to your life other than giving you someone else to have to clean after. So seems like youâd be better off on your own with 1 less âchildâ to take care of
Dang, he needs to grow up. My ex got angry bc he was tired after my c section so I offered him the hospital bed to sleep to get him to stfu and stop arguing in front of my newborn, and he took it. I had to sit in a hard plastic chair for the rest of the night. I wish Iâd have had him kicked out.
I wouldnât waste my time. Your already doing everything in your own mine as well find someone thatâs actually going to value and appreciate you and what you do. I know itâs hard to leave but maybe thatâs just what you need to do.
I hate to ask this, hve you spoken to him about how you,feel??
Leave they will never grow up if they started that crap.
Hes a man child. It wonât get better. Move on.
Quit having babies with him! And then leave⌠smdh