Deep in your heart you know it’s time to let go. There’s really nothing to lose from what I’m reading.
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If you have to ask, you know you have to leave.
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Girl cmon he knew his daddy was moving n he couldn’t freeload off him anymore so he took you a single mother and used it to his advantage so of course he’s using n don’t ever let this man discipline your children whatsoever that’s your area regardless of however long y’all been together. Give him a 30 day notice to vacate the premises and if he doesn’t within the 30 days then start eviction process on his freeloading ass
Talk to him about all of this
Girl get rid of this man.
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I think if you are asking this question in your heart you know it’s time to leave.
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You need to get rid of him he is using you
Girl, take them babies and run. You deserve better than that.
He only moved in because his dad moved in with his mum and you thought it was simpler. Done for all the wrong reasons 
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Pack his bags … toxic
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just talk to him and tell him how you really feel but him controlling your kids and all when it is not his!! If he continue to do so then maybe it time for you kick him out and just do you!!!
I’ll tell you this any time your mom tells you something she’s almost usually right I’d listen to her and talk to her about it she knows you guys best and actually sees what’s going on between you two
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If you have to ask you know
Get rid of him contact women’s refugee
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From personal experience put him on the road
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Your asking so it is time!
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If you have 3 kids that r not his. He doesnt want to be there. Maybe ? Dont lose yourself by any means
Send him on his way babe.
Leave? No. He needs to go.
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Kids come first. Boot him out. Sounds like he is using you.
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hit the ROAD JACK thats what you say hes a looser
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I’d say by by , sounds like you’re just a roof over his head, and I bet he’s saved some money back
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If your asking yourself thr question, you know the answer. You’re the only that knows what you go through and how much you can put up with. Life is short.
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People change maybe you both have grown in different directions and change is ok! Sometimes it just doesn’t work. Its time for the talk and the decision 
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Sorry. For your own sanity kick him to the kerb, and enjoy your life.
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Eww that sounds like a leech
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Kick him to the curb!!
Time to lose some heavy weight there. He’s controlling. Be safe and get out
You already have children. You don’t need another one. If you don’t set boundaries now, it will get worse. Been there, done that.
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Kick him to the curb! Your kids need to see you loved correctly
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Start by communicating with him. Find out what’s going on? Then make a decision❤
Sounds to me like he’s staying cause he can’t make it on his own or doesn’t want to. If you have kids involved I’d definitely kick him out. Anybody that doesn’t treat your kids like family after 3 years should leave.
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You already answered your own question. Just need to follow through. <3
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Yeah either you take your babies and leave or put him out. He’s a narcissist.
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Need to talk, change or leave.
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1st of all a man is supposed to want to provide and do things for you he’s just using you hun…
I have 3 kids my boyfriend is not their dad and he pays the rent and goes out of his way for us without having to ask I do smaller bills because that’s what couples do help each other
But your dude acts like a roommate with benefits
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When you have to ask this question it’s probably time .
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Get rid of him now he’s taking it to far with your kids time for him to move on if he only pays rent and nothing else get rid of him
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Start singing. A song.
Heat the. Road. Jack. And don’t come back.
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Communication Communication Communication! Sounds like none of that is going on
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Talk to him, he needs to Pay his share of all expenses, Sorry but it sounds like he moved in for convenience reasons and not because he really loved you. Personally if things don’t change it’s time to go your separate ways.
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I had my be of a year move in with me and my 16 and 18 yr. old children.He paid for a third of the bills. There were three of us and one of him and I didn’t feel it was fair to expect him to pay half. You could suggest that. Have you talked about financial pressures.
Talk to him. Be honest. Base your decision off of your discussion. You know.we what you want and need, do not settle.
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Boot his ass to the curb!!!
You have pointed out the obvious negative, what has kept you allowing this behavior to take place? What has kept you in this relationship? Talk to him, lay it all out, the good, the bad and the ugly. In the end you need to do what’s right for you and your children.
Sounds like he took over paying everything to make it sound like your smooching off him and hes got some dirty plans of kicking you out of your own place, very bad vibes by the sounds kick him out
Definitely need to talk to him about all these things
So he’s paying your rent for you your three kids and himself? And he pays that entirely? Idk about where you are but rent right now is ridiculous. Maybe he feels used? You pay for hygienic items, cleaning supplies etc. “Like all that” doesn’t balance out with a large rent payment… if he’s forking out hundreds to thousands and all your putting in is random stuff then I definitely see the issue. Rent compared to other bills is typically more…
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The internet thing is annoying but there have to be some form of punishment for unwarranted disrespect from teenagers. And since the telephone was invented being grounded from the phone has been the best way to punish a teen girl 
But if the amount of rent isn’t at least equal to the other bills then he needs to pitch in more.
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That is not how a relationship should be. Someone who loves you wouldnt do those things. Get out now and dont let some lil scrub talk ugly to your kids!!! Youre their mom, act like it!!
how does he control the internet if he doesn’t pay for it?? or any of the bills? I’d be pissed off if he took away my kids things that he didnt pay for. giving them a time out would be more appropriate. and why take him any where if he dont pay for anything and just stares off into space and dont talk to people when y’all over at their house? this relationship is over and you need to send him packing.
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Cut your losses’why do you let him treat you like dirt.
He is only paying his half of the rent not all of it. Then she pays all the bills, her half of rent plus food, hygiene products, take out food etc.
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He sounds mentally ill . Follows you around ? Won’t speak ? Not a simple hello or goodbye ? Not attentive (stares of ) Hmmm
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Well I do the same if my child back talks or disrespects me. You can’t let them get away with that. He should help with bills too not just rent. If you don’t want to communicate and work it out then tell him to go. At the same time you can’t let your kids be disrespectful and there be no consequences.
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He was living with his Dad before he moved in?
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Way toooo many red flags. Get away now.Thank god he is just your boyfriend.Don’t waste anymore of not only your time, but your children’s time. That’s sad
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Get the hell away from him. He wouldn’t act like that around my family. That’s showing no respect.
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Have an adult conversation about how you feel
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What is not convenient leaves.
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Rent is double household necessities that’s your home your rock your safe place. And lemme tell ya I dunno where you are but it is thru the roof 2 bedrooms around here is 700 + private 1200 + apartments 600+ and that’s just the 2 bedrooms
Sounds like he is controlling and disrespectful towards you and it’s time to part ways.
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Talk to him.
Stop paying for things you don’t want to pay for(such as the Starbucks and other such things. Can’t exactly let the utilities go if he digs his heels in.)
Write out set rules and consequences for the kids so they all know what to expect and so he is helping you guide them in a way your comfortable with
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They are either a blessing or lesson and it’s up to you to decide
So he was living with his parent
Either youre really young or that would be been the first red flag! Hes used to someone else paying for his basic needs. He needs to grow up.
Id say cut your losses now.
Say what you said to us, to him 
His response will let you know your next move…
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Girl, the love and passion isss gone, someone is out there waiting for you, get it
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U can see all the differences from then to now!! Time to end it!!! If yous can’t communicate to each other, let him go!!! Its not healthy for , your kids, etc.
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Get him out before things get worse especially for your kids they need to be #1 so many red flags 
that’s why your even asking
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Omgosh! First off he would have NO SAY IN DISCIPLINING MY KIDS!!!
I made it a rule and explained it upfront to any boyfriend I had!!!
Second, I agree with your mom! He sounds controlling…
No way would he be living at my place and not be paying 75% of the bills!!
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It’s time to show him the door in more ways than one because he not a man
Sounds pretty creepy and mentally abusive if you ask me. I’d cut your losses and ask him to move out.
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Don’t walk RUN GIRL RUN!
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It’s time to say good bye to him, u and your children will be much better off with out him …
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Its time to let that go.
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My ex partner was like this. He’s now living off some other poor woman who also fell for his shit.
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You are the meal ticket, nothing else. Get rid of him and take care of your children.
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If you were your child would you want him to treat you and your children like he does? Your home, your kids your rules.
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Follow your gut. I think you know exactly what to do. And disciplining your children is a definite NO.
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Time to cut bait
He isnt the guy for you or your children
You are/were a convenient means to an end
I wish you luck
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Bye boy you don’t need hurt or control period no women dose.
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So I have a blended family. It can be really tough to parent kids that arnt yours and honestly taking electronics sounds pretty reasonable. I don’t know how long he does it though. I think that you guys arnt communicating and that should be your first step. Bring up the changes. Tell him you are worried and you know it can be really hard for him. Being clear and compassionate could really help.
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Sounds like he’s just using you would get rid
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If he’s on the lease you’ll have to move if he doesn’t want to. Just talk to him tell him how you feel as calmly as possible cause I know that Part can be hard
I think it’s time for him to walk away. Or you could just give him the “BOOT”.
Time to let it go. You answered your own question. This isn’t love and you deserve better. Your kids deserve much better. Show them strength and find someone who loves you and them! Teach them to walk away from unhealthy relationships.
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Nope. Tell him bye. He sounds awful.
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I think you already know the answer to your question.
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Very definitely time for him to go. And as Beth suggested, have a (large, and/or male) friend there with you when you do it. And maybe a quick number you can speed-dial to have someone close to you call the police if needed. Maybe even an ahead-of-time call to a local women’s advocacy organization, for some crisis-aversion advice. You deserve better (as do your kids), and my paws are crossed for you!!! Get free, and stay safe!!! Oh, and change your locks as soon as he’s out.
Leave. Red flags boo. Get out while u can! Hes using u. Follow ur gut and throw his ass to the curb.
If you have to ask, its time.
Do NOT get trapped or tricked into marrying the schmuck! He’s a Narcissist.
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Honeymoon phase—over. True colors showing—not compatible. Communication—key. No change—“Bye”
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Time to leave him. First of all, questioning whether or not to leave someone usually means u should. I learnt that the hard way. And he isn’t benefiting you at all so what is the point ?
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Blended families have their difficulties, ups and downs. But, there should of been communication about the major things like disciplining the children and financial matters.
Honestly though; if you feel it needs to end, then I would follow your gut and protect your babies at all cost.
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When you have to ask
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Why is 1st thing almost everyone in this group always say time to call it quits? Whatever happened to talking or even counseling? Maybe something is really bugging him?
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Probably when you thinks it’s the time to ask this question.
He is stick in a mud, kick him out.
An honest conversation with him needs to happen. You both need to talk about what you’re feeling, and then decide what to do. Counselling? This can be very hard for some people to do but can really help those who can commit to it. Spending time together to reconnect - without the kids.
When you ask that question🤷🏻
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