Break up with your boyfriend and give yourself time, you shouldn’t jump right into another relationship
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Think you answered your own question here
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I did the same thing but my children’s father after ,6 yrs I left for almost a year dealt with someone else for part of that time and got back together with my kids father we had another child and it’s 18 yr now we have 14 & 7 yr boys and I honestly think I should had took a couple to a few yrs just to myself.i don’t mean that in a bad way I mean that in a way that I should have just focused on myself and found out who I am and get totally independent. I think everyone should take two to 3 yrs after a long relationship to just decompress and be able to evaluate vit from a clear mind.
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EVEN if you don’t end up with your children’s father, ending a decade relationship requires that you take at least a year to yourself, date yourself, treat yourself, sort out in your mind, heart and soul what you want out of a relationship, get to know yourself and be ok with being alone and getting comfortable with that before you enter into anything serious with anyone else. Therapy with the right therapist can be immensely helpful.
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Sounds like you need time to do just you time
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Do you know if the children’s father feels the same way about you? Do he have a new partner? You may feel that way and he may not.
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I personally don’t think it’s right to upset someone else’s life because you moved on to fast. If you chose to go back. Please make sure he’s available.
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People move in way to soon, Don’t be in such a hurry wait, give your self and your ex time to settle down with there emotions and grief that comes with a break up.
Let us know what you decide to do
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Bigger question, would he still want to be with you?
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But the question is dose children’s father still wanna be with you
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Your need to go to counseling for yourself
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Does he feel the same way? Sometimes we get lost just to find our way home. Good luck 
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I guess you have to ask . Why did you guys split ??
Are those issue/s handles, resolved??. Has he moved on ? Then you’d have to just talk . And I get you miss him but you have to think about the bigger picture. We’re you guys toxic together is it going to be the best thing for the children.
Don’t make any rash decisions until you truly take time to figure these things out including what’s going on in your head. Is it that you miss him or what you guys had … so many things to consider.
I do wish you the best hun
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When your posting about it Lol
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I think you should leave your current relationship and then focus on yourself. If you happen to rekindle with the ex down the road fine, but that was a long relationship and you may just be missing things from the relationship that you don’t have with the current partner. It may not be actually him that you miss.
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Your current bf really needs to leave you i be dang if i’d be with someone that has feelings for someone else… if you can’t put your all into me then i don’t want ya! He deserves to find someone that will love him and just him … smh!
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What does the dad want?
That’s a normal stage of breaking up. If he did something that made you leave before don’t go back. But if you feel you moved on too soon tell your bf that. Maybe you can tall in the future when your ready
Let your bf go it’s not fair to him whether or not your honest hanging on to him when u know u want to be with someone else is not fair. Then give yourself some time to be single and to have a friendship with your childrens father that way you don’t regret jumping back into Relationship.
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People are asking does your ex feel the same , does he have another partner etc… it doesn’t matter. You are with someone when you still have feelings for someone else.
Your bf should appreciate your honesty being upfront .
You definitely need to time to heal and just focus on you and the kids. I stayed Single 4 years after my fiance and I split. Best thing I ever did.
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Dies the children’s father want you ?
Do yourself a favor leave your current bf it’s not fair for him.
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Grief will keep you running back. End your current relationship… focus on yourself… give yourself time to grieve… then worry about relationships
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I am a firm believer that every person that has been in a long-term relationship needs to give themselves months to heal before even thinking about jumping into another one. Rebounds are not fun and only hurt all those involved
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We gonna always miss something about an ex but u can’t live in hopes off memories because the bad ones always come back to haunt u
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I would say you need to think about why you and the X split in the first place 
Before you split did you try and work on your relationship? Was it mutual or one sided … ? Maybe you did move on to quickly, maybe your bf is a rebound bcuz you do still have feeling for the father of your children. Another big question is does he still have feelings for you too 
It’s really not fair to your now bf if you still have feelings for your X and you should let him go
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Let him go. He doesn’t need you to be unsure of him when he’s sure of you
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I get paid over $ 125 per hour w0rking from home. I never thought l’d be able to do it but my colleague makes over $ 20850 a month doing this and she convinced me to try. The possibility with this is limitless.
M0re Info. https://formalhomejobs82.netlify.app/
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Concentrate on your children.
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Of course you love him. You were together for a long time and he is your child’s father. However after 10 years of y’all can’t get it right then breaking up was probably best. You probably did move on to fast but now you are where you are. Focus on what you are in and see if this guy could be good for you but also work on yourself. If you find that you don’t really want to be with him and it was just a rebound break up with him but don’t break up with him yo get back with your ex. Just stay single and figure out what you want and nurture yourself.
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You split up for a reason , think of those reasons and ask yourself has anything changed . Also does your ex feel the same way .
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Be honest and remember why it didn’t work out last time with your ex
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If it were me, I’d take a “break” from current. And see how YOU ACTUALLY feel. He’ll, I’d t
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A breaK from both. Just to see how you really feel.
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Does your kids father still feel the same way about you and you need to focus on your babies and the guy your with now and you may have moved on to fast
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This is why I always say, before leaving the one you have and especially the father of your children, go for counseling.
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Be honest with both of them
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The earlier the better
Have a conversation with him and be honest. Don’t rush back into a relationship you already left though. Figure out what you truly want and make sure it’s not a fleeting feeling. There will always be a connection because that’s the father of your children.
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Honesty is always the best policy, hopefully ex will take you back.
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It hurts them more when you stick around knowing you want someone else. Be honest and break it off so he can do what he needs to do and move on
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Has your kids father moved in and why does he deserve anything less than someone that has been 
him. People are so selfish & flaky
Please let your current boyfriend go. It’s not fair to him at all, your feelings matter but his do too. He deserves to be treated fairly and if you respect him enough you’ll let him go. Focus on you! 
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Time to be honest with yourself and your bf. Even if your baby daddy doesn’t wanna be with you, you don’t need to be with your current man
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Remember why you 2 split. Does he still love you? I would gently tell your current guy. Be honest. Then. Have a convo with your ex. Always be honest. ((Hugs))
Does he wanna still be with you?
The connection you feel is through the kids. He doesn’t feel that way about you
Just do you for a little while, see what happens x
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How do you know it's time to end a relationship?
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If you feel its not worth it. Then kick him out and leave him… but in the end it’s your choice
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Stop paying the bills. Stop making it easy for him to mooch. And serve him 30 days notice to vacate.
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Time to kick him to the curb and find a real man
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I wouldn’t put up with that he can get the f. Out
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Doesn’t sound to me like you’re in a 4 year relationship… sounds like you have a parasite
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Drop him. He’s using you.
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When you have to ask.
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If you’re paying the bills, he doesn’t help around the house, & there’s nothing medically preventing him from doing these things, I think you have your answer.
Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where they’re loved & appreciated, not taken advantage of.
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if you are wondering about this and questioning then you know the answer. the dude is a mooch and using you and you deserve better
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If you’re asking the question, you know the answer.
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If you’re asking. Think u know your answer.
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Please before you waste anymore of your time unhappy and with someone who could give two fucks less. Leave. Be happy. Be alone. But whatever you do run run as fast as you can
File for an eviction and get him out of your house!
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That’s a child not a man. Read your post… What would you tell someone else in the same situation? End that…
You deserve better. Just leave him
Kick his ass to the curb girl he doesn’t wanna grow with you he wants a mom figure to care for him and doesn’t wanna work. Nope drop that dead weight
Move out seems like you have more of a dependent child than a boyfriend
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Clearly you know the answer. Drop him. Useless & Using you.
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It is his choice to be homeless if you put him out. He will go find another woman to use anyways.
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Lawyers will give free consultations. I’d say evict him. Gather up all your valuable and meaningful assets first and hide them store them somewhere else with a trusted friend. Record conversations or text messages. And get all your paperwork in order. If you are paying for things like his cell phone his car insurance make sure you stop immediately. I would break up with him and see if he’ll go but if he won’t go make sure you understand how to go about the eviction process. But like I said make sure you have your ducks in a row before you do and you have your financials hidden from him and stored somewhere else as well as all important paperwork documents valuables anything like that. Sounds like you are a hard-working lovely person and I’m sure you will find somebody who will rise to meet you at your level. He is a user.
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Kick his ass to the curb
Toxic.
Leave
He will never change
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Talk to him. If he does not try to do anything to change and make you see things differently then leave him behind because he does not care.
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Yeah I would say leave him but don’t go homeless. Slowly extract yourself from the situation. Get yourself taken care of first before you leave him high and dry
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Kick him out. Sounds like he does nothing for u at all. So why have him there 
. If anything he is costing u money. Keep it moving hun and do YOU! I am sure u have enough furniture laying around in your home u dont need him taking up more space 
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Throw his bum mooching ass out
Your 1st mistake was putting his name on anything
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Well I think you know the answer.
sorry but i think you know whats wrong here and i dont think you need our help, i just think you are afraid to be alone and has nothing to do with the love you think you have for him, let him go you clearly dont need him and never did, hes usless
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When you had to make this post, that’s when.
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You got a bum, not a man. Toodles
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This is not fixable. You are doing everything yourself. Kick him out. Get a lawyer to get his name off the deed or whatever. He will not get better, only worse.
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I dated a moocher once……kicked his ass out. Of course he’s never been on a deed or lease with me.
Leave or kick him out. U don’t need him. It’s ok to be single and happy
Get an insurance policy on him first. I’m sure you’ll know what to do next, farm girl 
plenty of accidents can happen on a farm.
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You are the bread winner. Do not worry about a lump that cannot and will not help you. He clearly has free time to do stuff around the house while you work. You are taking care of a grown ass man child. Send him back to his momma so she can finish raising him. If this was a role reversal situation, people would be calling you out for not helping your bf. Do not let him get away with using you.
It’s time to cut that string and move in my dear. You are worth much more than the attention and respect he’s not giving you!
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There is zero reason to be with someone who doesn’t work with to build a life with you. There is nothing you can do to make him grow up and be a man, make decisions and love you as you should be loved. You did your best, it isn’t your fault he didn’t do his. If you think the breakup would get violent, change the locks when he leaves and set his things in the yard. The best advice I ever got from a therapist was “we can’t change peoples actions, only our reactions.” If he’s been this way for 4 years, you need to change your reaction.
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Say good good bye now ok move forwards
Don’t walk away, run! This guy is using you! Kick him out and start over. You will be so much better off!
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He’s literally just using you. He’s freeloading at the fact he doesn’t have to work because you’ll pay for everything, doesn’t have to help around the house, because you’ll do it. Doesn’t have to even have a relationship with you because it’s been allowed that he doesn’t have to. You deserve so much better and someone who is gonna RESPECT you!! Kick him out.
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Give notice to the landlord that you are moving. Move without him.
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File eviction notice on him you will not be homeless. If you have a feeling he is cheating trust that. If you providing then you will not be homeless
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it was time 4 years ago
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You need to talk to your landlord and start the process of removing him from the lease.
After that box his shit change the locks and wash your hands of this mess. He is a lazy unemployed asshole and I’m guessing deep down you know it.
do not let a boyfriend keep you from your husband
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God women will literally go the distance for some woman’s crusty ass son I swear, this whole post just REAKS, where do I bloody start? At the beginning I guess, the minute you have to ask “when do you think it’s time to end a relationship” when you ask that question, then you listed multiple other things that scream HUGE. RED. FLAG. What has everyone learnt here? That he doesn’t contribute 
he doesn’t put food on the table, infact the table isn’t even his he gets to live rent free and get fed for free probably gets laid whenever he likes and you feel he’s dipping into someone else’s goodie bag too?!! And you’re most likely right because women always are with our intuition. He’s nothing but a using bag of trash girl. You’re being useeeeddddd so bad! Are you kidding me? You pay the bills, you keep the roof over his head, you bring the food into the house, sounds like you have a child, not a man. Can’t believe you’ve lasted years with this loser wow.
Sounds like a loser and you have a big bucket of red flags…you deserve better but not till you see it… you know what to do you’re just codependent on his toxicity…
Don’t walk RUN!!! Don’t look back
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O M G. What has happened to the ladies that will put up with crap like this!!! Then write about it, you know what to do, but must not be strong enough to kick his spoiled butt to the curb.
This guy is using you. You should get to keep the place where you live now. Try to find a way to get him out. Get hold of legal aid and see what they can do. It will be hard since his name is also on the place, but if your finances are separate and you can show that you have paid for everything, you might have him over a barrel. You do all the work now. You don’t need him. If you don’t want the place, start putting money back. Make partial payments on the bills, telling creditors to get the rest of the money from him. Take the rest of the money and save it to get your own place. You’ll want to get an outside job as soon as you can. Just get away from that silly sucker. He’s not worth your time.